What did you have to say about punishment spankings? Read on:
Dan: Hi Hermione. No "I'll get back at you" or residual anger here, and all
our spankings are for punishment. It would be poor form indeed for me
to be angry or resentful, since I asked for this both in terms of the
disciplinary relationship and with the behavior that led to the
abby: No residue or anger, just lots of hugs and assurances that it is
forgotten, forgiven and in the past. Much better than a silent
treatment that lasts for days.
A wife: Although there is no residual anger I will confess I truly expect some sort of improvement or we go right back to punishment room!
Roz: No residual anger here either, just lots of cuddles and assurance that
the issue is behind us. However, there has been the odd occasion,
because of the nature of the issue that there has been further
discussion and resolution after the spanking.
Fondles: I'm not sure I can contribute here, cos we don't have punishment
spankings, but we WERE just talking about it this morning and the
difference between that and "reset" spankings that we DO have.
think even with resets, tho, whatever the thing was that was bothering
me (and making me bratty/ snarky towards BIKSS and the people around me
in general) is usually left completely behind, and puts me in a better
mindset to deal with whatever was bugging me. BIKSS describes it as
having taken care of the initial work, like baking a cake - the talking
and spanking is like mixing up the ingredients, and when we're done it's
like putting it in the oven and waiting for it to rise. (But he still
keeps a close eye on me to see that I'm "rising" properly.)
Wilma: Well I guess I am the odd 'man' out here. My punishment spankings are
often very long and always painful, which I know is the point. That
being said, often right after there is residual anger from me at least.
Some days it is just the adrenaline still coursing through me which has
helped me deal with the 'trauma' to my body and I need a few minutes to
allow that to drop. Other days I am genuinely angry with Barney
because of the situation. Perhaps I feel it isn't fair, or perhaps that
day I feel he 'put' us in the situation.
For the most part I
am already forgiven by my husband before I am punished. I don't ever
feel any residual anger from him after. I most certainly feel it however
during at times, especially if I am being stubborn, or we are having a
All that being said, there is never the thought of "
I'll get back at you". I agreed to this relationship and sometimes
'unfair' comes with the territory. I am just being honest that with our
relationship, for me some days hearts and roses are not guaranteed
immediately after an intense spanking.
Anon 1: No hard feelings here either. Even though I consider myself to have
gotten off easy if having to sit on a stack of pillows for several days
is the worse of it.
However, everybody's situation is different as to how they may accept punishment.
my case, as I've mentioned in previous posts, I voluntarily entered
into a FLR that soon turned into her also becoming the HOH. Thus,
through my willingness to subjugate myself to her authority, I find it
impossible to hold any ill-will towards her regardless of the severity
of the CP she chooses to dish out.
And, yes, sadly to say, there
have been a few occasions over the years where sitting has been
literally impossible for a considerable length of time after she was
finished with me.
Ronnie: A spanking totally clear the air so no "I'll get back at you" or residual anger just hugs and cuddles.
Anon 2: I did give punishment spankings (M/F); but there were resentments.
After going back/fourth for months we both decided it was hurting (pun
intended) rather than helping. Now strictly for our mutual pleasure (an
occasional maintenance one - but with a safe-word that would stop it; if
This was years ago and I think we got hung up on blogs
and the way it's supposed to be; rather than what we wanted. We are
about 95% M/F with an occasional switch; and it's worked out very well.
Since there no punishments, there is no room for the spanking
Others obviously will have a different view.
Hermione: We don't do punishment spankings, but sometimes I think they would be a good way to clear the air.
What I like best about these brunches is the wide variety of opinions I always receive. We are all different, and that's a very good thing!