How does a spankee ask for a spanking? Here is how you responded to the question:
missy: Hello Hermione - Happy New Year. In our relationship I can and will ask for a spanking. Sometimes I will feel that I need one as a sort of reset so I will tell my Sir, submissively of course, that I think I am in need. Sometimes he will know from my actions. Lying naked on my stomach with my bum slightly raised can usually arouse the desired outcome. Most times it is Sir who decides where and when though. We use spanking mostly for erotic pleasure or to reset or reinforce our D/s dynamic and mindsets.
abby: I have occasionally asked. I get spanked regularly, so it does not happen often. My requests have so far always been granted—sometimes with more of a spanking than I was looking for—but that is always His choice.
Roz: I have asked on occasion but mostly it's through actions. A little naughtiness or sassiness can go a long way :)
Sir Wendel: I think the misses has only asked once for a spanking. Usually she will act up in ways that will make me want to spank her.
arched one: I get spanked about 3 times a week and if I'm lucky 4. All usually of
the erotic play type. If I'm upset or stressed about something I'll ask
for a spanking and it will usually happen within 10 minutes and she
knows when I ask I need a hard spanking and it's always delivered.
Bogey: After 20 years, we finally figured out that openly asking for what we
want works best for us. She may also get a little sassy or put on
particular panties to serve notice that she needs attention. But more of
the time, it's meet me in the bedroom with my paddle.
If the spanking is not working out for her for any reason, we are both comfortable with stopping it.
Spankings are always given with mutual consent.
Anon: As a male deeply into spankings, my wife accepts and understands. Most
of the time I need not ask, she comes up with a reason. Other times I
provoke her, walk into the kitchen naked, erect, (rule one she said
never come to the kitchen naked) works every time, make a rude comment in
front of one of her friends, there are ways. My bottom is hurting I
admit, but my desire outweights the pain.
Baxter: My wife typically spanks me on the weekends typically as a lead up to
sex. However, I have asked for spankings on a regular basis. The other
night we went into the lower back bedroom and I handed her the paddle
and bent over the bed. She said it is too early for the 'weigh in'
spanking (we both need to lose weight and I get spanked for the total
number of pounds we need to lose). I responded by saying this is a
random spanking and she said OK and got into position and let that
paddle do its work. She is very happy to meet my spanking needs and for
that, I am a happy guy. I remember once a few years ago we were sitting
at the table in the kitchen and I looked at her and said 'would you give
me a spanking?' She said yes, without hesitation, and gave me a very
warm sore bottom. I guess if you have good communications between both,
you love each other, you have a good relationship, you can ask for
things like this and the other person is there for you. It works for us.
Yorkie: I always have to ask for my spankings and after 8 years I still find it
awkward to talk about the subject so sometimes I can go for a while
without one. Although, living with family makes it hard as well so most
times these days the OTK ever-ready rattan cane is the only implement we
can use with virtually no noise.
Not to mention that sometimes
my dear wife is sometimes thinking about my needs and will suggest
making use of the rare alone time we can get (no one else in the house)
like she did a few weeks ago, even though she hates doing it. I really
love that woman.
Ronnie: A little naughtiness helps. Putting on a particular pair of knickers is a
sign I need a spanking. Sometimes I'll leave an implement out on the
bed and sometimes I'll just ask for one.
Hermione: When and where we spank is always up to Ron. I can ask, but I might not get the answer I want. So I leave it up to him, and he has yet to make me feel deprived.
Thank you, everyone, for answering this week's question. There will be another one next week.