Monday, March 27, 2023

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for March 26

Do you ever engage in self-spanking?

Mark: I have a number of times. In each case I hadn't been spanked for a while. How did it go - variable! I find it is difficult to spank hard enough and that finding the right implement is important. I've used wood paddles which are ok, and I have a new short leather paddle that may work.
Definitely prefer to be spanked by someone else.

Dan: I have, mostly just to see whether it would be at all effective. The results were odd. Based on the markings it left, I apparently was able to generate force similar to a real spanking from my wife. Yet, it somehow didn't hurt nearly as much. And, emotionally it met none of the needs that a real spanking apparently meets.

Roz: I have tried it a couple of times. I found it difficult to get much force behind it so it was less effective and less satisfying. No emotional connection to a spanker leaves a big piece of the spanking experience missing also.

Bonnie: Yes, but it was not satisfying. How can I possibly let go when I am supposed to be in charge? I like to keep the roles separate and I know which one is mine.

Rosco: I tried it. Didn’t work. Physics not there, no lecture of course.

Fortunately I have a wonderfully willing strict wife. - for an hour or so a day.

Prefectdt: I do self spank, a lot sometimes, but I never enjoy it, not impact spanking anyway. I sometimes cane myself as a disciplinary method, usually when I am trying to lose weight. That is effective, just because I don't enjoy it and it is just painful and annoying and I do not want it to happen again next week, when the numbers are totted up. The other times that I self spank is when I will have a long time between real spankings. This is not for fun, but just to keep my butt in shape and not to lose pain tolerance. I don't want to turn up for a real spanking with a butt that cannot handle the fun. I do have a TENS device, with which a sort of electro spanking can be administered. It is not as good as a real spanking, but does give me a small Spanko high and helps me keep my mind on track during long dry spells.

Jack: Tried several times, even looking at F/m pictures, nothing. My wife, while dating once she knew I wanted to be spanked, ask if I had try spanking myself, I told her I did, and told her it was a waste of time.

Wendel: The Misses and myself both tried it. It lacks the emotional connection and angles and self preservation prevents from getting a really good one.
We did put a spin on it a couple of times by self spanking when the other was present. For the first we each took a turn while the other stood outside the bedroom listening. It was arousing hearing the smacks on the Misses’ bottom and for my turn, knowing she was just outside the door giggling.
The second was self spanking while the other was in the room. I did enjoy watching her whack her bottom and being critiqued by The Misses while I spanked myself was a turn on.
Still nothing beats a sound paddling from the one you love.

A.J.: "Have you ever self-spanked?

Yes, but only a couple of times, 'couple' as in three of four times.

"How did it go?"

Meh! I'm with Roz in that is difficult to do it properly, and totally missing the connection to a real, live spanker.

What got you to do it?

Bored. Had not been spanked in a LONG time and wanted to try it and find out what it was like. The last time I attempted it - 15-years ago...?

PS: Loved Wendel's comment about his wife outside the bedroom door and giggling as he self-administered. That had to be a funny moment!

Ronnie: Tried it a couple of times a while back and found it hard to do. Couldn't get much force behind it. 

JJ Rose: I have done quite a bit of self-spanking over the years, although I haven't done it since... 2013? The reason I did it was simple: I wanted to get spanked, and it was difficult to make that happen.

How did it go? Fine, I guess. The best self-spanking scenes I ever did were when I was on the phone or on video chat and I "had no choice" but to do what I was told.

KDPierre: I've done it a lot, especially when I was fairly young. I think the first times were when I was in 5th or 6th grade, and the last being a few years ago as the result of a blog dare.

When I was more flexible, I found it very effective and if I wanted to feel like the spanking was 'out of my control' I used to use all sorts of chance items, like dice or cards, to determine the amount. After I was married I only did it once for a video for my ex who was away. Later still, when my marriage was rapidly deteriorating, I resumed the activity, only then at the request or instruction of people online.

Once I was physically engaged with real people again, the desire or need to do it alone again waned.

Yes, spanking is always better with another person, even self-spanking, but in the absence of another, I did find it a worthy substitute and still found the activity restorative and calming. 

Hermione: I might do it the odd time to test the effectiveness of a new toy, but nothing beats the real thing (pun intended).

Thanks, everyone, for sharing!

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

6 comments:

Sore is more said...

Ah, a bit late for the Sunday party. The short answer is yes.
Mister Hairbrush is quite a dull gentleman though, has to be told what to do, and directed in general. He tends to hit the same spot and doesn't provide aftercare. Doesn't talk, doesn't scold, not even dirty looks. Any chance for another date with him? Who knows, maybe will give him another chance.

Anonymous said...

A bit late on the self-spanking but, yes, I've done it a few times. Most of those were test the feel/impact of different instruments for future adventures. Graham

Rich Person said...

Thank you for all the comments on this topic.

Like a lot of respondents, I generally don't find self-spanking all that fulfilling. It's hard to make the smacks hard enough, and it can be a very lonely activity.

I liked Wendel's idea of doing it with a partner, especially where you can hear it but not see it. Lets the imagination run wild! It's a bit like watching your partner masturbate.

Like JJ Rose, I think it worked best with my LDR partner, where it was disciplinary. In that case, the receiving partner can't hold back to the same extent.

Like Prefectdt, I've used it for disciplinary measures. In that case, a switch seemed to offer the best results. I don't know how you'd use a TENS unit to get an effect similar to spanking.

I think Spanking Theatre (https://spankingtheatre.tumblr.com/) has some suggestions on making self-spankings better. (Look under the Naughtiness menu.)

Thanks, Hermione, for posting this question!

Anonymous said...

Self spanking means you wish to be spanked and that leads me to this topic: Do females who self spank will they tease a male for a real spanking? and how hard of a spanking do they want. As for males will the same hold true and try to get a woman to spank them and how hard? Self spanking is it mostly for sexual pleasure or for punishment. Would a safe word be used? In my case as I have shared my wife applies a very sound spanking, no matter how much I plead, she will stop when she feels my bare bottom has been properly spanked. Jack

Prefectdt said...

I did a post about it on September 19th 2022, Rich person.

https://spankedhortic.wordpress.com/2022/09/19/sanity-saving-electric-spanker/

Prefectdt

Rich Person said...

Thanks, Prefectdt. I looked at the post, which was helpful for understanding this.

I found the GIFs entertaining, although pretty intense. Apparently, one was too intense for Tumblr!