tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4178998232488314107.post5897100008800112170..comments2024-03-25T17:49:20.811-04:00Comments on Hermione's Heart: Your Thoughts on TherapistsHermionehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15395671806340391253noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4178998232488314107.post-43906021510139574492008-10-20T03:11:00.000-04:002008-10-20T03:11:00.000-04:00I broached the subject with my massage therapist. ...I broached the subject with my massage therapist. I was not bruised at the time, but wanted to plan a time to get a massage after a hike with my guy - and I knew I would either have marks or avoid the fun I was craving. So I just kind of stated, "Do you mind if I discuss something of a personal nature?" "sure" "so, the only problem with planning my massage for next sat after the hike, is my guy gets in friday and I kind of have kink - we enjoy spanking and my bottom will Hopefully have a few bruises. I don't want to subject you to them if it will make you uncomfortable." Next came the professional questions concerning such activity being consentual and if any bleeding/injury that would preclude massage was a conern. Our play isn't that severe so she said she was just fine with it and arranged for us to have our side by side massage with a therapist of like mind that would be comfortable seeing the marks. It was tough, but it actually went really well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4178998232488314107.post-17529683722026104402008-10-05T19:56:00.000-04:002008-10-05T19:56:00.000-04:00We're a little late here... but do think this is a...We're a little late here... but do think this is a great topic. We know a few spanko friends that see therapists of some sort, and some are open about their spanko side and some are not. Know for a fact that there are some 'kink friendly' therapists out there... and we really think they'd be worth finding for any spanko that wants professional help. Doesn't make sense to hide such a core part of your wiring.<BR/><BR/>Really like your Tony Soprano analogy. Hiding what he did really slowed his progress down. When it comes to spanking... where frankly it seems that many do use if as a form of therapy (stress relief, guilt relief... and way to communicate in a relationship)... it's even more relevant than being a mobster.<BR/><BR/>:)<BR/>Todd and SuzyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4178998232488314107.post-55238348990816586182008-10-05T19:37:00.000-04:002008-10-05T19:37:00.000-04:00Dear Hermione,Very interesting discussion. I have...Dear Hermione,<BR/>Very interesting discussion. I have been to counselors, therapists, psychologists, and psychiatrists in my life and received actual benefit from exactly one of them. I think this issue is not professional-specific. Discuss your kink with somebody you trust who has a record of being supportive and helpful to you. Don't discuss it with someone who hasn't or isn't. <BR/><BR/>I would be disappointed if I found a therapist I trusted and then found myself referred out because of my kink, but oh well. Everybody has boundaries and therapists are entitled to have theirs.<BR/><BR/>Oh! The one time I got actual help in discussing a sexual issue, it was with my minister! Surprised? I was. And he didn't charge me. I thought I'd be embarrassed the next Sunday, but I wasn't. Now, I am not advocating that everybody just open the yellow pages and find a minister and go discuss your kink. This relationship met my earlier criteria.<BR/>MaryannAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4178998232488314107.post-71492235453589743142008-10-05T13:30:00.000-04:002008-10-05T13:30:00.000-04:00Very interesting topic Hermione. I've never discus...Very interesting topic Hermione. I've never discussed kinky stuff with my therapist before. Most of them have a hard enough time wrapping themselves around the mysticism that I practice, so talking about stress buster spankings, hasn't been high on my list of things to share.<BR/><BR/>However, there are kink friendly professionals of all sorts. You just need to check out social networks like fet life and others which list therapists who will discuss this and many other topics about sexuality and recovery/life issues. Its not always easy to find someone in your area, but I truly believe that a good therapist finds a way to land on common ground with a patient. If they can't do that, then they try to find a referral for the patient with someone who can help.Greenwomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09595575183652183234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4178998232488314107.post-49709749349440391682008-10-04T17:39:00.000-04:002008-10-04T17:39:00.000-04:00I wish that I'd slipped into here when you first p...I wish that I'd slipped into here when you first posted it, and didn't have to respond late.<BR/><BR/>I agree that a therapist who feels that they cannot reliably help an individual because of their own experiences or beliefs should point those people elsewhere. It would be no different than if the therapist was asked to treat someone with any number of other lifestyles that the therapist didn't subscribe to, like homosexuality or ageplay. True, their reason for turning the person away may be more for prejudice than for seeing that they get the best help, but it's still the best thing in the long run.<BR/><BR/>As for Em's question, my Joyce recently had an annoying blood pocket on her bottom that appeared after an intense session and kept bursting during following sessions. She was reluctant to express the problem to her doctor, since it would mean outing herself. In the end, she had to spill the beans, and it turns out that the doctor took it all in stride. It turns out that she had a Staph infection that wasn't clearing up. She was prescribed some antibiotics, and the pocket eventually faded away.ThomasIIIhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12862053277273781609noreply@blogger.com