Monday, December 15, 2025

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for December 14

How many smacks are in an average spanking?

Wendel: That is a great question. The only set number of spanks we have is for birthdays.
I asked the Misses if she would be up for a little research on the subject. She agreed and we set out for the storage shed, our equivalent to the woodshed. We keep a strap hanging on the wall and a padded mat to go over bins. The recipient bends over the bins while the other administers the whipping.
The results are in: Wendel – 72, The Misses – 64.
When we are able to put pants back on and sit, I am going to treat her to a nice dinner out. 

Roz: That is a great question. We don't keep count but for me it depends on various factors such as the implements being used and intensity. Sometimes I wish it would end before it does and others I wish it would go on longer.

Barrel: It depends on the implement. If I am spanked with the hairbrush or plastic paddle, I usually get three or four sets of 10, sometimes 12. When my wife whips me with the strap or riding crop, usually two or three batches of 20 strokes. Caning is different. We have worked together and agreed a caning is administered in sets of 6 strokes due to the intensity. When we do a session which is a longer and more intense caning, I usually get two sets of six with the thicker cane. She likes to finish with the thin cane given its ability to lay down weals, and I usually get three sets of 6. I know I have received up to 48 strokes, possibly a few more as I lost count trying to breathe and let it in.
Agree. A great question this week.

A.J.: I'm with Barrel and Roz. "It depends on the implement." And the situation.

Being the wuss of this group, my spankings - when on either side of the lap - are firm but not HARD. And all with the bare hand (although there have been times...!) The objective being a nice pink, tingling tush rather than a RED and really SORE one.

My answer: Given OTK and hand, my experiences is at least 250.
350 is not out of the question, and often achieved.

"The situation" determines the pace; the pace determines the intensity.
A "nice" spanking is one smack per second. 250-350 seconds takes 2-3 minutes+. The "+" being the TLC during the event!

A "you need (deserve?) a good spanking" that the penitent agrees to, the pace is upped to 2 per second. This - is a spanking!!!
At a faster 2 per second the impact force is naturally harder. It just is, you can't spank fast AND easy. THIS will be felt! In both tush - and hand. The objective is a bit of fun - but, dammit - you deserve it! "A damn good spanking!"

Of course, at 2 per second and 250-350 smacks, it's all over in half the time; 1-minute to 90-seconds. (Breaks for both are allowed. Set by the owner of the "lap of justice," of course.

3-4 per second? You don't want that hand (paddle/strap) coming at you at 3-4 per second!!! Or at least of lot of them.
   

Graham: As we all agree, it certainly depends. Some have been as short as 6 of the best with the cane. Other, longer, more sensuous ones are several hundred with a nice, long warm-up!

Prefectdt: “How many smacks do you like to receive during a spanking? How many can you actually endure?” Answer - About the same number as a piece of string is long. I will admit to being a moody spankee. On some days the number is small and on other the number can never be high enough. There are a lot of other variables in play as well. This is a hard question to answer. I am away to the UK now and will be back at the brunches after Christmas. So I wish you a Merry Christmas, Hermione.

Hermione: At one time, Ron spanked by the clock, so the number varied greatly. Now, he has a set routine, and as I had never bothered to count before, yesterday was an opportunity to do so. He uses four different implements, and does three rounds with each. The dogging bat is used in a brisk back and forth motion - too hard to count - but a few single smacks as well, so let's say 10. Next the black leather hand, 11. Following that, the leather fly swatter with metal studs (which I hate) only 9. Those two average at 10. Finally the rose paddle with another 10. The second and third rounds were also 10 each. The grand total then was 120, and since Ron is a creature of habit, I suspect it's the same count each time So now I know :)

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Sunday, December 14, 2025

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #621

Let's get comfortable and enjoy good food and good company at our weekly spanko brunch, happening right here, right now. No reservations required. Everyone is welcome.

Ten years ago today I posed this question: how's your math? 

How many smacks do you like to receive during a spanking?  How many can you actually endure? 

Leave your reply as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to participate, I will publish a summary of our discussion.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Wednesday, December 10, 2025

Still More Mondegreens

I've got a million of them! Well, not a million, but plenty more.







And here are even more, thanks to sharp-eyed Fondles, who found these "Eggcorns".

 

The comments are pretty good too.

 

 

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Monday, December 8, 2025

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for December 7

What are your thoughts on floggers?

Bonnie: We've owned a few floggers and there is one in our toy box now, but it's not often used. It's fine, but Randy is a creature of habit and tends to grab one of his favorites at spanking time.

A.J.: Do you ever incorporate a flogger in your play?

No.

…is this something you might consider?

Again, no.
I’m really boring. Need to get out more…

Wendel: The Misses is the owner and user of the flogger. She does not use it much. 

Roz: We had a flogger years ago, which was more of a toy and it broke so not a lot of experience. 

Norse Cavalier: I've tried a flogger once or twice, at a spankee's request, but it's not my thing. I find it too insubstantial - and using my hand is of course much nicer.

Prefectdt: I love getting flogged, both across my shoulders but especially on my buttocks. The big problem with inexperienced Tops using a flogger is the danger of wrapping. Which can cause problems with the end of the strike effecting the nipples or genitalia. The answer to this is to have the person on the receiving end lying on a very low bench or even on the floor, with their legs tight together, to protect the genitalia. The person performing the flogging should stand astride the submissive, either below the armpits or above the shoulders, depending on the height of the Top and the length of the flogger, looking backwards towards the bottom of the recipient. Then flog each buttock alternatively. Any overreach should just land on the upper thighs. In this position, the Top or Dom(me) can work on their accuracy and intensity without hurting the subs front side. Having said that is great for beginners with a flogger, this is still my favourite position to be in when getting my bum flogged :)

Rosco: We’ve had one or two, but they’ve never been quite right. Generally they don’t deliver the intensity that a decent whipping warrants.

The idea of several stinging lashes at a time however is appealing. At one point we had a nice birch that we’d bought from Cane-iac that created numerous tiny delicious welts.

Barrel: We do not have one. I am interested to see the answers as we would be interested in using one if it delivered the desired results. Generally, we strive for a more intense whipping or caning. But if readers show a flogger can be employed with some intensity, why not try one?

FL: Have a rather good quality one, bought it many years ago. It's not much good for spanking and I'm not really into being flogged on the back and shoulders, but it's quite effective when used (lightly!) on my erection. A fun addition to a toy box and great when the mood strikes.

Hermione: Ron bought one as a surprise for me. It turned out to be too long to control properly, and wrapped a lot. I cut about 6 inches off each tail, and it was more controllable, but still rather awkward. I think if Ron had gone to Youtube for advice on technique he might have had more success. It's just an ornament now.

Thank you, Prefectdt, for the precise instructions. A.J., I'm pleased to see your comments are coming through now, after last week's problem.          



Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Sunday, December 7, 2025

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #620

Welcome, one and all, to our weekly discussion time. Since we've been talking about the correct use of implements lately, I thought this would be a good time to get your input on another often used but sometimes misunderstood toy.

Do you ever incorporate a flogger in your play? If so, what advice can you give about its correct use? If you don't have or use one, is this something you might consider?

Please leave your response as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish a summary of your responses. 

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Thursday, December 4, 2025

More Mondegreens

I once worked with a woman who called dachshunds "Datsuns" and another woman who talked about a "human cry" (hue and cry).







I would unfriend that person too!


Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Monday, December 1, 2025

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for November 30

Tell us about your most memorable spanking.

Jack: It would be a bad experience, we were visiting my mother-in-law, not long after we were married. My wife/mommy had spank me prior to and after our marriage, her mother was the one who encouraged it, Well it was a couple of days into the visit and the one night it was not good. My mother-in-law was getting on my nerves, I said somethings and left it at that. My wife/mommy said nothing as we went to bed. The next morning I awoke late, the norm, and stepping out of the shower my wife was standing there. She smiled and started stroking my erection, saying nothing until I came. She cleaned me off, help me finish drying off and told me to get to the bedroom. The look in her eye was not good. I walked into the bedroom to see my mother-in-law sitting on a chair, a hairbrush in her hand. I tried to cover myself, she said hands at side and stand before her. I stood, saying nothing, she reminded me there was no in-law in this family and so being a naughty little boy, Mother needs to give her little boy a spanking. Over her lap, that hairbrush landed hard, fast and covered every inch of my bottom. She finally secured my legs and pinned my arm to my back and could care less of my pleads, she said Mother will decide. When I got off her lap, not allowed to rub and taken to the kitchen where my wife/mommy was drinking coffee and told to face the wall. Nice work Mother my wife said and then asked if I was going to be a good little boy, Yes Mommy I replied. When I finally allowed to leave the wall, I got dressed, and was informed I was going to bed early and getting a spanking. I said nothing and I did go to bed early and my Mommy applied the hairbrush soundly.

Rosco: I’ve received so many wonderful spankings, but delivered only a handful.

The most memorable was the first, late one night on the beach - the summer when Neil Armstrong landed on the moon. There were a handful of us, but Martha and I had wandered away from the others. I hadn’t even made out.

Martha and I were horsing around - play wrestling. She was wearing a flimsy onesie with loose shorts. She kicked me. I retaliated by rolling her on her back, bending her legs and spanking her several times. I would have gone on longer, but I thought she might realize how into it I was and embarrass me, or maybe the others who were not so far away might hear.

I let her up. She kicked me again. I turned her on her back and spanked her again - a little harder. The shorts of her onesie were riding up nicely. Wow, what a thrill.

She kicked again and I delivered a third, slightly longer and yet harder, spanking.

Then we started making out. She assertively guided my hand to third base.

That was the only sustained and successful spanking I ever delivered. I saw her best friend years later in the news, but have no idea what happened to Martha.

When I confessed my obsession to Irene, she said she’d be fine to give it a shot, but she’d be doing all the spanking - and indeed she has.

Roz: My most memorable spanking would be years ago when we were practising DD. Rick was away that weekend and I visited my parents who lived roughly 45 minutes away. The drive involved having to drive over a notorious small mountain pass. Rick was always worried about me doing that drive. I was also required to keep in regular contact with him when he was away. Well, I ended up staying for dinner and left late and the weather wasn't the best. For some reason I didn't contact Rick when I got home to let him know I was home. He was so worried. As it happened, there was a serious accident on that road that night.

The spanking was memorable more because of the emotions behind it and how bad I felt about making him worry that much. He lectured and told me how he had felt that night and just how worried he had been. I think it was the first time he used the belt also. There were a few implements used.
 

Prefectdt: It was not the best spanking that I ever got, but it is one that sticks in my mind more than any other. It was my first pay to play. It took place back in the 1990s, before I and most people were on the internet, so it was difficult to get up-to-date information on how things worked. I was in a bad way at the time with multiple problems, especially the inability to get a decent batch of sleep and other anxieties. And I was taking a list of medications, including a very mind-altering one whose name ended in “pam”. I had been seeing a psychologist for some time and inevitably, the subject of consensual adult spanking came up, after many sessions. At this point I had given up getting spanked for about four years and told the psychologist this, and expected a tick and a smiley face for having given up that sort of nonsense. 

Wrong, she could not give me a direct instruction, supposedly due to professional practices, it must be presumed. But she dropped hints that made a sledgehammer look lightweight, and I left with the knowledge that I should get spanked. But how? I had cut all connections with the amateur spanking world. I no longer had any contacts, or was known to any groups, I was alone. So I went to Antwerp's Red-Light district, which I had walked through before, and noticed that some of the occupants of the windows displayed BDSM equipment. On my first visit, I chickened out. A second visit was made a little over a week later and, with nervousness, approached a window. I discovered two things, how expensive a pay to play is and that sex did not have to be involved (phew). Over the next few months I got several more painful sessions, with several professional administrators. After four months, I had stopped all happy pills and was sleeping like a happy kitten. It was this that made me except that being a Spanko is who I am, not something that I chose to be.

FL: She had an after-work affair to attend and didn't come home until almost midnight. She came into the bedroom, woke me up, and said, "Fetch the hairbrush and meet me downstairs." Thinking she was playing, I mumbled a protest about the hour and waiting until the next day. 

"Fetch the hairbrush. Now." was all she said. And all she needed to say.

I met her in that family room, brush in hand. I handed it to her and she pulled down my pyjama bottoms, put me over her knee, and gave me a long, hard spanking. If I had been sleepy before, I was wide awake now.

It ended, after what seemed forever, and she told me to stand up. I did, rubbing my flaming bottom, and said, "You're mean." We never really role played, so she surprised me when she said, "I'll show you mean." then reached up, grabbed my ear, pulled be back over knee and gave me an even longer and harder spanking than the first.

I went to bed very sore, somewhat teary, and extremely happy.

Bonnie: I've published my most memorable spankings, but I can share a more recent session.

Did you know that a spelling bee can sting? I do now. Randy thought it would be beneficial and fun (?) to test my spelling skills. He said I depend too much on spellcheck and autocorrect and AI. I said that may be true, but so what, as long as I get it right?

He decided I needed to be able to spell without technology. And he didn't like my attitude.

He wanted to check my independent spelling capabilities. I was tested while lying face down over his lap on the couch. He held a list of spelling words in his left hand and a sturdy wooden paddle in his right. He raised the back of my skirt to my waist exposing bare posterior.

He began reading the words. As he did so, he rubbed the smooth wooden surface of the implement against my skin. No need to be nervous, he suggested helpfully. After all, it's just spelling.

Just spanking was more like it. I don't know where he got those words. Nor did I know how to spell them. Each feeble guess resulted in a set of hard swats. The more he punished me, the more difficult it became to concentrate on the assigned task.

I flunked. That spelling bee stung me right where I sit.

Wendel: The spanking that always comes to mind was late at night in Ireland. We were at the top of large hill. I sat down on a big rock out in a clearing. The rock over looked the valley so anyone looking could see. The Misses took down her pants and got across my knees. I gave her a good spanking. After the spanking I took her from behind. It was wonderful and I was more than happy to take the whipping she gave me when we got home. 

Hermione: I'll always remember the first spanking Ron gave me. The topic of spanking had not gone over well with my ex, so I was reluctant to confess my preference to Ron. One night when we were making love, he started to spank me, and didn't stop until I had reached orgasm. Wow! It had been completely his idea, not mind, so I knew I had found my soulmate at last.   

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Sunday, November 30, 2025

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #619

I hope all my American readers had a fine Thanksgiving celebration. I've been gifted with some leftovers, so help yourself. 

Today I invite you to think back to one particular spanking.

Tell us about your most memorable spanking. good or bad, success or failure. 

Please leave your response as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish a summary of your responses. 



Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Wednesday, November 26, 2025

A Bad, Bad Boy

This song by Paul Jones really got my imagination going. Can't you just picture this angelic-looking chap over someone's knee?




Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Monday, November 24, 2025

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for November 23

How do you feel about going to a professional to learn proper caning technique?

Bonnie: We've always explored new spanking techniques and new implements together. I trust Randy to proceed slowly until we are both comfortable, or stop if necessary. I know he won't inflict any severe physical or emotional damage.

Dan: I would. I have a fascination with caning, but for some reason, it's just never worked well with Anne wielding the cane. We've tried several times, including after she's read various "how to" resources. It just doesn't hurt very much, and it's clearly never going to be an instrument she has any enthusiasm for. But, I do have enough curiosity about how a truly effective caning would feel, I would be very open to experiencing it with a pro. And, that's really the only context I can think of in which I would have any interest in going to a pro. In other scenarios, it has no appeal.

Wendel: We would not seek out a Pro. Spankings are for us by us. If the Misses wants to experience it I would give it a go but it is not an implement we have much interest in.

Graham: I think that with practice and patience, anyone who can use a paddle or strap can also learn to use the cane. The question of wanting to is different. As a switch that mostly bottoms, I often visited pros in my younger life and all of them were very skilled.

Rosco: If Irene wanted to escort me, I probably would. It’s intriguing, but I’d worry about injury at least a little.

But I’d rather be tested with prolonged and repeated spankings.

Mija: Under those circumstances I'd take *us* to a pro. I've known a number of people who've gone to pros with their partner to be taught/learn safe ways to use specific implements or rope or whatever. If there was something my partner wanted to experience and, after trying and getting instruction I wasn't able, a pro would be a great option. Especially if I got to watch. 

Barrel: Yes, I would if she asked for that support. Why not? If it is something between us that we both want, it makes sense. But we seem to do rather well anyway.

FL: Spanking for me is 100% sexual and part of a trusting, loving relationship. I would not want to involve a third party, any more than I would want one involved for any other sexual act one of us might not wish to participate in. Respecting each others' hard limits is crucial, in any aspect of the relationship. 

Prefectdt: Finding someone more competent than myself, for spanko style caning (as opposed to more mainstream BDSM cane use), would mean travelling. Probably to the UK, but at least as far as the Netherlands. But I would be up for a weekend away for that. Also, I would be interested if a play partner wanted to see me caned. Having a consenting audience is a bit of a fantasy of mine. In both cases, though, the idea of doing this would have to be suggested by the other party involved. I would not propose doing either, for fear of feeling that I am pressuring someone into doing something that they might not really want to do.

Roz: I don't think we would seek a professional. Spanking is between and for us. 

Hermione: In theory, it would be very interesting to have instruction from a pro. In reality, neither of us would be comfortable in such a situation. Caning doesn't hold much of an attraction for us.           



Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Sunday, November 23, 2025

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #618

Our brunch on caning has generated some interesting spin-offs. Today's topic was suggested by our good friend A.J.

If your partner wants to feel the cane, and you don't want to do it and, quoting Ronnie: "No-one should receive a hard caning from someone who doesn't know what they're doing," would you take him/her to a pro who does? On the reverse: if you were offered that, would you accept that offer and go?

Please leave your response as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish a summary of your responses.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Thursday, November 20, 2025

Some Mondegreens for your Enjoyment

A mondegreen is a misunderstood or misinterpreted word or phrase resulting from a mishearing of the lyrics of a song. Let's stretch that definition to include words or phrases other than songs, and here's what happens.

 




And some that are not mondegreens, just misused words, but they're funny anyway.



Happy Thursday!



Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Tuesday, November 18, 2025

Naughty Boy

Last week I posted a spanking song I had discovered accidentally. Well, it seems there are plenty more out there.

Our good friend Rosco reported that Christina Aguilera asks for a spanking in her “Nasty Naughty Boy”, among other things. The sound quality is inferior in this live version, but the video is fun.

 


Oh my! And there are more songs to come, so stay tuned.

 

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Monday, November 17, 2025

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for November 16

Do you have any tips for spanking sensitive areas?

Rosco: I never would have predicted it, but Irene spanks my balls and I like it. Obviously a little discretion on the implement and intensity is necessary. Once in a while she’s a little too enthusiastic but there've been no lasting physical or emotional scars. 

Roz: What comes to mind when it comes to sensitive areas is be careful and deliberate with your aim and watch the intensity.

Barrel: We do, which prompted the question. There is an area just above the crease at the bottom of the buttocks and on either side of the vertical separation between the cheeks. Extending out 2" (5cm for those of you using metric) from that intersection, we call the golden triangle. I find it the most sensitive area my wife spanks. We have a small, blue slapper that works well in those tight quarters. But when I am bent over and restrained, my wife likes to try to land the tips of the xh tawse in the golden triangle. I wear a protective cup for obvious reasons. When she is successful, I find it...memorable.

I just bought an 18" (45cm) cane that is 1/4" (6.35mm) in diameter for use when we travel, as we have a cruise planned next year. It fits in our carry-on roller bags and is relatively quiet when applied. While she is still practising with it, she finds it easy to land in intimate areas.

FL: The classic "sit spots" do it for me. I've also had my hands tawsed and my erection flogged, both of which I quite enjoyed but wouldn't classify as spanking.

Wendel: The sit spot for us. 

Bonnie: When my husband smacks me with a serious implement, it's all sensitive. Striking my bits is an absolute hard limit. We're not into torture. There's plenty of available skin back there for him to punish.

His favorite spots to spank are the under curves of my bottom. He wants to make sure that it hurts every time I sit. Believe me. It hurts. He often works over the tops of my thighs in back for the same reason. I have less padding there which makes this technique worse than swats on my butt.

He has one cruel practice that I dread. My bottom is pretty tough thanks to our regular sessions with the paddle. But there are places where he can lay down vivid marks and bruises with relatively little effort. When he decides I am a particularly bad girl, my love spreads my cheeks and beats my inner surfaces repeatedly using the solid wooden hairbrush. This kind of punishment stays with me long after the spanking is over.

Prefectdt: I once was an uptight, bottom, thighs only spanko. But after many years of compromising, with more mainstream BDSMers, I have some limited experience with CBT. I can only recommend that the fleshier part of the thigh and not the actual knee is used when “putting the knee in”. And that kicking only happens with the middle part of the foot and not the toe.      

Rosco: Weighing in for the second time, I haven’t delivered a spanking since the Carter Administration. My wife Irene is all to happy to do the spanking in our relationship. It’s worked out wonderfully.

I did deliver 3 spankings, a few minutes apart one evening at a time when I had never even made out with a girl (we did so afterwards). We were on the beach at night and had wandered away from the others.

We began to wrestle playfully. At one point I turned her over in what we call the diaper position (to keep her face out of the sand) and slapped her bottom a few times. I stopped only because I didn’t want to be accused of being weird.

But she seemed to like it, and a few minutes later I did it again. The third time, I slapped either cheek several times then went for a spot in-between and little lower down. I didn’t smack hard, but she was wearing a onesie with loose short pants that had ridden up so the whole thing was quite a thrill for me - and I think for her as well.

Making out ensued, as well as third base at her behest.

A.J.: God, I'm such a wimp.

I read Ronnie's treatise on caning. And what hit me (Was that a pun???) was understanding what a caning is, the types of canes, the length of canes, practising on objects before you dare use one, the tip speed, warnings on the target areas. Whew! That's a lot of work! That I don't want to do. And Mark's line: "instant clarity of pain," pretty much said "No" to me.

Side note: Many years ago I met this woman for the first time for some strictly OTK fun. Talked to her for almost two hours she was so fascinating! Took me on a tour of her place before the main event. Along a wall were hung many of her "tools of the trade." And at the end - a bullwhip! A fer-real bullwhip!
"You use that?"
"It's rare, but yes. I charge a lot more. And need a couple weeks to prepare."
"Why?"
"Because I use it so rarely and the damage it can deal out is so great I have to practice for hours over several days in advance, before the appointment."

I passed.

And I'm still not interested in caning.

Hermione: Just the sit spots for us. I'm not interested in being hurt in any other areas.   

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Sunday, November 16, 2025

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #617

We've all come through another busy week and now it's time to relax. Last week we discussed helpful tips on wielding a cane.  

Do you have similar tips, perhaps more “impactful”, on how and where to spank the most sensitive areas?  Are these reserved for special spankings?

Please leave your response as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish a summary of your helpful hints. Thank you, Barrel, for suggesting this follow-up topic.



Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Friday, November 14, 2025

More Advice on Caning

Our very dear friend Ronnie has published a post with a wealth of information on caning. She should know what she's talking about, as she sells a variety of canes and has had much first-hand experience being on the receiving end. 

Here is her advice. While you are visiting her blog, please do take the opportunity to order a cane or  two. 



Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Wednesday, November 12, 2025

Thunder Clap Them Cheeks

Each evening while I am preparing dinner, Ron goes to the laptop on our dining room table and chooses a stream of music from Youtube. Last night it was a compilation of folk tunes. We listened to the familiar songs by our favourite performers - Gordon Lightfoot, Neil Young, Ian and Sylvia, Colleen Peterson. (See what I did there? All Canadian superstars.)

Then a song came on that was unfamiliar, and not folk at all. Jazz, perhaps? But the lyrics were unmistakably spanko. It's a rather naughty song, and I think you'll enjoy it as much as I did.

 

That sound, oh baby, that sound.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Monday, November 10, 2025

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for November 9

Need advice on caning technique? Read on!

Bonnie: For me, a punishment with the cane is intense to be sure, but it's not the worst implement. I reserve that distinction for a solid wooden bath brush. It feels like a hairbrush, but it burns much hotter. Spankings with this long handled brush leave vivid marks on my bottom and next day soreness.

As far as advice, I'd say remember to breathe. If skin damage is a problem, wear a pair of cotton panties or some leggings. Moisturizing lotion can help afterward. For the spankers, please take care to avoid our hips and back.

Anon: The cane is a very exotic and erotic implement with one of the longest traditions. Three pieces of advice that I'm sure others would share. First, start with a manageable size. You needn't start with the senior cane -- work your way up to it if desired.

Second, the spanker should definitely practice on a pillow long enough to gain confidence of control and accuracy before going to work on a human! If you're worried, then cover the lower back and the thighs. Also, practice not wrapping, as that can be painful and leave unwanted marks.

Third, position is everything for both parties. It may work best with the victim over a pile of pillows to start before graduating to the bent over position. In the latter position, it usually works best for the caner to be slightly ahead of the recipient's bottom to effectively cover both cheeks without wrapping.

Back to point 1, a lighter, shorter cane is not likely to do so much damage with a mishit, so definitely a good place to start.

Enjoy...the cane is my favorite to receive and hope you learn to appreciate it.

Mark: I'd agree with Bonnie, I find wooden paddles much worse. They don't however have the instant clarity of pain that you get with a cane, and not the welts either. I think that it is important that the cane is applied with a very full swing - arm taken right back and wrist cranked back further - then brought down on the bottom as hard as the caner can achieve. Particularly so with women caning men, strike as hard as you can and with the tip lined up to hit the far cheek firmly but not wrap past it.

Do this and the recipient will hear the stroke but not feel anything for a few milliseconds and then there will be a blinding pain. Give them time to process this before applying the next in the same fashion.

The cane you use needs to have a bit of weight too; 10 - 13mm diameter works well. There will be significant bruising at the 13mm diameter on a new cane.

Done well, six strokes are plenty. Over 12 and there will definitely be good bruising and the chance of breaking the skin increases.

Roz: Some great advice above. We haven't used a cane that often so I don't have much in the way of advice to share except that aim is so important. For me I find it a very intense implement.

Barrel: I bought our delrin canes from Aunt Kay at DWC so we have had them a long time. They came with a short VHS tape and several pages of examples how to use the canes effectively. That said, my wife still has mis-hits. 

I agree that practising on a pillow can help. Practise standing further away from the target as the caner’s arm will always extend further than expected, resulting the tip of the cane to wrap, most often around to the sides of the hips, which is really unpleasant. 

Know that thin canes (3/16”) will leave deep welts and may break the skin slightly. Thicker canes leave welts but also a deeper soreness, so give some thought to the desired end result.

My wife and I will usually have a short discussion after she canes me, reviewing the marks and my input on the intensity of her caning. If either of us doesn’t feel the caning was what either of us expected, we will have a topping off to achieve the spacing, color and depth of the welts. Those strokes are always as hard as she can swing and when applied on top of an already marked and welted skin, are memorable.

I find the cane the most intense implement she employs. I dislike the deep bruising and soreness, preferring welts and blood blisters, which I wear as a badge of honor. I do believe that regular canings are fun and needed.

Prefectdt: For this, I am talking about rattan canes and nothing else.

Most canes have a natural bend to them; if you can, just before playing, flex the cane and increase the bend as much as possible. Then, when aiming, place the cane so that the bend goes away from the buttocks at the far end. Then plan the strike so that the cane lands on the nearest buttock first, and the natural flexibility of the rattan should make an even contact across the buttocks. For the recipient, this will give the effect of evenly laid out pain along the stripe of impact.

When coming from a side on swing, like in a bent over the desk situation, always aim the stroke to land short, just at the start of the second buttock. In these situations, the stroke always lands further on than is planned. And the line should now end up fully across both sides of the bottom without wrapping around to the hip bones.

A caner should take their time. Wait between each stroke until the red line of the last stroke laid on appears. This should take between 15 and 30 seconds. The caner can then assess the stroke and compensate for any inaccuracies for the next stroke.

If you are on the receiving end, be prepared for the first stroke of a caning to be a shock to the system. It always is, even for those of us with a lot of experience with canes.
      

Rosco: We’ve never used a cane. Irene doesn’t like to plan. She’s fairly whimsical and unlikely to want to count out six of the best or take the necessary care to whack the exact right spot.

A.J.: Interesting comments. Very.

But thanks, anyway. Still not interested in caning, giving or receiving. (Am I boring…?)

Hermione: Thank you for all the excellent advice -- no doubt from first-hand experience. Some years ago I posted a dissertation on the cane, which you may find helpful.

Ronnie: Here is my advice

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Sunday, November 9, 2025

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #616

Last week, we had several readers explain that they either hadn't used a cane and wanted to, or that using one wasn't comfortable yet. Our good friend Barrel suggested this follow-up.

For those of you that do use a cane regularly and effectively, what advice or experience might you share to help others experience this most intense toy?

Please leave your response as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish a summary of your helpful hints.



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Wednesday, November 5, 2025

Awkward!








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