This is a repost of a brunch we had exactly ten years ago. I thought you'd enjoy revisiting it.
Welcome one and all to our regular weekend discussion. Today I'd like to
share a question I received in an email. The writer is currently
unattached, but is looking for a permanent relationship with a person
also interested in spanking.
When is it appropriate to bring up
the subject of spanking? Should you wait, or introduce it early in the
dating period? How do you suggest this be done?
Leave your reply as a comment and I will publish your suggestions once everyone has had an opportunity to speak.
I hope the writer of that email has finally found someone who shares their interest in spanking, but we may never know.
Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine
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2 comments:
As soon as possible - right away. If it's an important aspect of your life, and you don't intend to live without it, there is no point in pursuing a relationship with someone if there is no mutual interest. It's just wasting both peoples time.
For us, it would have been impossible for me to bring it up during the dating process, as I didn't develop an interest in spanking until we were almost a decade into our marriage. But, if I were starting a new relationship today, it wouldn't be at the outset, but it wouldn't be months and months into it either. I think I would be looking for the sweet spot where you know this is a relationship you want to be in long-term, but without waiting so long that it might seem like you were trying to keep it a secret.
Of course, my response is colored by the fact that, were I to be in a relationship with someone who wasn't interested in spankings, or at least DD-style spankings, I could go on without them. They aren't my entire sexual identity in the way they might be for someone with a deeply-rooted and long-established spanking fetish. If that were the case for me, I'd probably bring it up sooner, before either of us had a substantial investment in the relationship, since not having that need fulfilled going forward might be a dealbreaker.
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