Monday, May 30, 2022

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for May 29


Eyes open or closed?

Fred Bloggs: Eyes wide open! I am a very visual person. Recently I have taken to setting up a camera that I can view on a tablet, so that I can watch my bottom being spanked. But mostly I am looking at the carpet.

Jack: Eyes are open and when able to turn and look at my wife/Mommy, hoping she sees I'm sorry and will stop. She does not, smiles and says nice try and spanks harder until I'm pleading, begging and sometimes crying. 

Roz: My eyes are often open at the beginning of a spanking but as the spanking goes on I tend to end up with them squeezed shut. 

Bonnie: I agree with Roz - mostly open, but shut when he bears down toward the end of the festivities.

Jean Marie: Roz And Bonnie stated my perspective. Wincing tends to shut the eyes, or maybe it's like I'm praying for it to end.

Wendel: We try to keep our eyes open but depending how hard and fast the spanks are given the eyes start to close. 

Anon: My partner puts a mirror on the floor and whilst over her knees, she spanks me with the hairbrush until I cry.
She wants to see my reactions during her (very strict and very painful) spanking so I have to look in the mirror where I can see her face too, and her angry look tells me what is coming.
She insist watching me starting to cry and see my tears fall on the mirror, that is usually the start of a grand finale of 50 swats or more.

Ronnie: Open to start then closed when the spanking really starts.

A.J.: Eyes open for the duration. And "Oh, look! This carpet need cleaning!"

If well-bent over her knees I may check out her calves. I'm a "leg" man after all.
And that's about it! Not much else to look at.

I was at a trade show a few years ago and on my feet for HOURS every day. Back, legs, feet all hurt.

When it was over I tried to get a massage from the hotel, but no luck. They recommended a couple of local women who do massages so I booked one of them, a nice woman in her early/mid-30's.

And...what the heck, I asked her if she would mind starting off by giving me a spanking...?

Sure! She did. After a few fun minutes she said she was done and said my tush was a nice pink (I 'pink up' really fast.)

Since the spanking she gave me was not too hard, and I THOUGHT having a little 'tingle back there' on the flight back the next day might be nice...

"OK. But give me 50 more smacks, but make them as hard and fast as you can give them."
Her: "You want that???"
Me: "Yes. I want the 'angry girlfriend' spanking."

Big mistake. She did! 50 of them HARD and fast. Took her all of 15-20 SECONDS!
From the second smack I knew I was in BIG trouble, but since I asked for it - it had to go on!

First 2-3 seconds my eyes were WIDE OPEN! In shock!
For the rest, my eyes were closed while I gritted my teeth and held on, unable to breathe!

Moral: Be careful what you ask for. (Esp. from someone who has strong hands and arms from the way she makes her living.)

That's the only time I can recall eyes closed.  

Wendy: Always closed, I think.

Hermione: Always closed for me. I take my glasses off so there's not much to see anyway except the bedspread close up.

As always, thank you for sharing.

Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Sunday, May 29, 2022

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #437

My heart is heavy today, thinking of the latest day of carnage in the US. I think this headline says it best: “‘No Way To Prevent This,’ Says Only Nation Where This Regularly Happens”. That headline was written for The Onion (an online satirical news outlet) in 2014 after a stabbing and shooting rampage that left six people dead and more than a dozen others wounded in Isla Vista, California. It has appeared in The Onion 21 times since, after each mass murder.

Now on to more pleasant conversation.

During a spanking, are your eyes open or closed? If the former, what do you look at?

While this question is aimed at spankees, those of you who are spankers are encouraged to respond too! Once everyone has commented I will publish an edited summary of our discussion.

Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Wednesday, May 25, 2022

Still Staying Safe

Even though official restrictions have been removed and things are pretty much back to normal, Covid has NOT gone away here. We still have new cases reported each week, and sadly, a few deaths. So Walmart shoppers are taking no risks as they hunt for bargains.

Stay safe!

Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Monday, May 23, 2022

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for May 22

When did things not go according to plan, or an opportunity was missed?

 Penelope: When I first tried to get hubby to do some spanking... oh, my gosh, you want to talk about awkward! I couldn't say it out loud, of course. So I blabbed out a bunch of nonsense in a letter, spent a week (at least) avoiding eye contact and when we eventually did get around to trying, I spent the whole time trying to shush him (didn't want the whole house to hear and it sounded like thunder in my ears), he didn't want to overdo it, so it was barely up to porn level spanking and the whole thing just ended in a fit of giggles. It was YEARS before I tried again.

I also have a missed opportunity. I met this great guy once, he was renting a room in my father's house. When I stayed to house sit for a couple years while my dad was living with his aging parents, I came to know this guy pretty well. He was great with my only child at the time. He drove me to the hospital when I went into labor with my second child. He was new to Canada from Egypt, and would always as me what the proper way to say something was. Like, "You have nice thighs," was actually meant to be, "You have a nice ass." So we just had a lot of fun together.
Anyway... we, uh, ended up at a hotel with my brother and his girlfriend on Valentine's day. I remember hiding in the bathroom calling my brother's room cuz I was nervous as a cat on a hot tin roof and was hurrying them along so we could go to dinner. This guy seemed more interested in having me for dinner! No, I wasn't scared, I wasn't in any danger or anything like that, but he was probably more man than I was ready to handle. I think I was about 26 at the time. After dinner, we all made our way back to our rooms... As we got off the elevator, he scooped me up, literally threw me over his shoulder, and I gotta say, it was probably one of the best nights (sexually) that I've EVER had. The following weekend, I was head over heels in love with my hubby and though me and the other guy stayed pretty good friends for awhile, we eventually drifted. I just wonder what would have happened if I'd realized at the time what his feelings were for me. I thought we were just having some fun.

Wendel: One of the awkward moments for me was when I first started working. We had a woman in our department who always talked about the crazy sex stuff she did with her husband. One was that she had to buy wrist straps with quick release buckles to get free when the husband fell asleep after sex. Another morning she came in walking crooked. She explained that her husband whipped her butt before sending her to work. The woman was not shy about showing marks and hiked up her skirt so we could see the damage. I can say that he did a good job.
I do not remember exactly what I said to convince the Misses to take the first spanking. Fate would have it that the Misses enjoys it as much I do. 

Doug: When I first requested that my vanilla wife spank me, it was not well received. She did not like me spanking her, even gently, and thought it should be mutual. It was not. Finally, I revealed to her that I went from “spanking-adverse” to “spanking-attracted” as a young child. I found it surprising, but true. I thought there was something wrong with me psychologically, and I certainly did not want anyone to know about it. (There was no Internet then to calibrate my understanding.) I was afraid I would lose her respect, but I underestimated her; I did not. Eventually, we worked out an arrangement in which she would paddle me on a regular basis – hard enough to generate genuine pain, to satisfy my perceived need for such. She only does it “because she loves me,” and I love her for it.

Roz: In our case we were fortunate in that we both had an interest in spanking so talking about it happened fairly easily. The most awkward moment was the first discipline spanking after we decided we wanted to extend spanking beyond play and incorporate DD. Neither of us were quite sure how to go about it lol.

Dan: This probably isn't squarely on point, but for us, the "it didn't go well" part really applies only to erotic spankings. I don't really recall exactly how I proposed experimenting with spanking, but it definitely was me who introduced it. She initially was game for it. From the beginning, it had a "disciplinary" component, but it was just playacting. She would pretend to be in control and would give me "play" spankings, with a flimsy leather paddle, for real offenses. We were both pretty young at the time, and I had some maturity issues. The way it played out was she got wise to the fact that she was basically doing something I wanted, i.e erotic spankings, as a response to real offenses. In other words, she was reinforcing bad behavior. She put an end to those spankings.

A few months later, I stumbled on the Disciplinary Wives Club website. That was the first time I'd even heard of using spankings for actual adult discipline. For some reason, bringing that form of spanking up to her was way, way more awkward than suggesting we play around with erotic spankings. I think it was probably about the fact that the latter didn't involve any real power exchange or rearrangement of any kind of hierarchy, while the former was a real change in the relationship dynamics. I really thought she might be turned off by the whole thing. I still remember in vivid detail how awkward it was talking to her about it. Surprisingly, she was again game to try it, and this time it did go well.

Other than that, there have been no "didn't go well" or missed opportunities around spanking. I was one of those odd instances of someone who didn't discover my spanking interest until pretty late, in my mid-30s. Until then, I had no inkling that adult spanking was even a thing.

Anon: I have a couple missed opportunities from early in my career. When I first started working there was a beautiful girl with an amazing body my age who worked in another department. We used to flirt with each other a lot in the hallways, but we were both seeing other people. One day I need to make a photo copy and the machine was in its own room. When I got to the hallway in front of the door she was coming out. We said hello and then I went in only to find a sign that said the machine was out of order. I went back out and she was in the hallway giggling. As I approached her, I asked why she didn't save me the trip. She just stood there smiling but her hands were on her bottom like she was protecting it. I figured what the hell and walked up to her and told her she was a bad girl and pretended to spank her. She just giggled even more. Soon after I got a new job and I never did get a chance to give her a proper spanking.

At another job I had my first opportunity to be a supervisor, I had this young woman named Jane working for me who prided herself on never making any mistakes. I had her do as series of calculations for me that were very complicated. When I reviewed them one did not make any sense until I went back and redid it. When I showed Jane that she made a simple calculating mistake, not at all a big deal, she looked at me and said "I am sorry, you can spank me if you want to"
I must admit I did not handle the opportunity like they do in the spanking stories but got all flustered and told her that would not be necessary.

My third story of missed opportunity was when I was starting another job and filling out the paperwork. I was about 30 at the time but looked about 20 years old. The secretary in the HR department must have thought I was just starting out when in reality I was going to be head of a department. There were tons of forms that basically asked for the same information over and over and I was getting tired of the process and needed to get to a meeting with my new boss. I asked the secretary if I signed the forms if she would fill them out for me as I was in a hurry. She looked at me and said that was not her job and if I did not fill them out correctly she was going to spank me. I said okay and finished them up myself. I then decided to brat her a little and she threaten to spank me a couple more times before I was finished. When I was all done I gave her the completed paperwork and she told me I was a good boy and she was happy she did not have to carry out her threats. I smiled and left. Later I saw her and she came up to me all white and said she did not realize I was the new vice president and she hoped she had not offended me. I told her I thought it was all in good fun and she did what she needed to do to get me to do the paperwork and for her not to give it a second thought. I still wonder to this day if I should have pushed her a little more?

A.J.: "...tried to interest a partner in spanking, but it didn’t go well."

I always thought my interest in spanking girls was worthy of PRISON! So evil and deranged I buried it internally and never spanked any girl, even in jest. Eventually I dated a beautiful woman who tricked me into spanking her. She later told me she never brought up spanking because she was afraid I would think she was a pervert. And then I told her I never mentioned it because I was afraid she would think the same of me!! Life got very good.

But bringing it up is as DELICATE an act as you can get.
The next woman I merely HINTED it to gave me a look and said she could never do that.
Another, again with the tiniest of HINTS, reacted strong and loud that spanking as sex play was PERVERTED!
OK. Message sent!

A 3rd wasn't a "Yes!", but wasn't a "No!" either. It was a timid and reluctant, "Well...OK. If it's not hard." I spanked her otk and lightly, and she was OK with it. Later I asked her to spank me - and she did! We spanked each other after that, but for every one I gave her, she gave me 2-3. All were fun (I don't do or take punishment-level spanking) and always led to sexy-time.

As for "...stories where an opportunity was missed with thoughts of what might have been."

I was seeing this terrific girl and KNEW she was wild and adventurous. One day (while sunbathing nude on the deck of my beach house) she asked what turned me on and I said spanking and, "Would you be willing to spank me?"


And she did! And then let me spank her.

After some sexy-time she asked me what other top-fantasy I would love to have. One where the woman I'm with is upset because I was sexually "inattentive," and take me to her favorite disciplinarian to correct that. Where I get spanked in front of her. Followed by the disciplinarian ordering me to "do" the girlfriend right there and then, while she "supervises" with a strap in her hand for "encouragement."

In a dry-mouthed husky voice I never heard outside of a Hollywood horror movie, she stares right at me and said, "I would so do that."

I was stunned.

She then got on her iPhone, opened up her photos, and began looking at her friends trying to find one she thought could be the disciplinarian. With me looking on and commenting with her! Talk about a day!!!

The bad part? Timing, logistics, schedules all got in the way and it never happened. And you asked ...what might have been!" (Sigh.....)

Prefectdt: Tried it with two vanilla partners, long ago. Same result from both. Immediate end to any relations, emotional and physical.

Midwest Reader: About a million years ago in college I had my first real girlfriend and playtime partner. We were very attracted to each other but didn't get along very well. One night during playtime she was annoyed at me and gave me a few spanks. She sensed pretty quickly that I was not opposed to her doing so. A bit later on another night in similar circumstances she said, "one of these days I am going to give you a real spanking", to which I was so flustered I could only reply "that would be interesting". Unfortunately we parted ways shortly after that and her promise was never carried out :-(

(In retrospect with greater understanding I realize that I was the cause of much of the not getting along, and that my remembrance of that is part of my subconscious desire to be taken in hand. What would have happened if I had recognized that at the time I can't say, but I don't think I had the concepts to understand at the age of 20.)

Rosco: I am honored again that Hermione is inspired by my suggestion.

My first (not awkward) experience came about by accident. A girl and I were play wrestling/flirting and she kicked me between the legs. Not hard, but hard enough. We were on the beach (it was night), so I bent her into diaper position and gave her semi-protected bottom (she was wearing short shorts) several sharp slaps. I would have done it longer but thought she might freak out or others nearby would hear. But she kicked me again, so I spanked her again - a bit longer. Then we repeated a third time. This all led to my first make out session and then to third base. But sadly, I never saw her after that night.

A couple of years later I had my first real girlfriend. She bragged she was adventurous, so I asked her if she would spank me. She turned me down in a way that set me back for years.

Eight years later, I had a girlfriend with a wonderfully chubby bottom. On a whim one day, I pulled up her skirt and spanked her. Her response was "I don't think I like that", but she said it nicely. She must have told one of her friends, because a bit later the friend threatened to spank me with a hockey stick (I sadly failed to respond appropriately).

One year after that I met the woman who I would marry. She had no interest in being spanked but would be happy to try to spank me. It took a few times for her to understand I wanted a serious spanking. Now, forty years later, I think she likes dishing it our more than I like getting it.

Hermione: My first boyfriend and I were talking to a mutual friend, and I forget the subject, but the friend came out and said, "Maybe you should spank her" to my boyfriend. I practically went into shock. Later, I tried to bring up the subject but wasn't very articulate about it and it never happened.

Thank you all for revealing those encounters.

Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Sunday, May 22, 2022

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #436

Welcome! Is everyone following the new "No mow in May" trend? Our street has a series of lawns decked with nodding yellow dandelions nearly obscuring the green grass. I hope everyone has access to heavy duty mowers and balers come June. Ron is far too obsessive to allow the grass on our lawn to grow more than two inches in height to forgo mowing. Luckily for the bees, we have plenty of naturalized areas for them to feed on.

Let's discuss a topic that Rosco, one of our most faithful brunch attendees, suggested. I'll let him present it in his own words. 

I’m always interested in hearing the often awkward stories of how someone tried to interest a partner in spanking, but it didn’t go well. Also stories where an opportunity was missed with thoughts of what might have been.

Please leave your response as a comment, and I will publish an edited summary of our discussion once everyone has had a chance to speak.

Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Wednesday, May 18, 2022

Who's Your Daddy?

A.J., our intrepid hunter of all things spanking, has found yet another funny clip from an episode of Two and a Half Men. (Gee, I wish I had watched that show!) This one is from the episode "The Immortal Mr. Billy Joel".

To set it up for you:
Charlie is out of town,
Alan has managed to break his bed and wants to take a nap.
So he decides to use Charlie's bed.
Once in Charlie's bed he notices...!

Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Monday, May 16, 2022

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for May 15

When a spankee requests a spanking, does it tend to be more severe than when it is the spanker's idea?

Bonnie: I suggested this question because it's definitely true for us. Randy is delighted when I ask him to spank me or bring him an implement. But in such cases, he makes absolutely certain that such needs won't arise again for a good while. Since I asked, I can't really complain that it hurts. But it always hurts!

Anon 1: Top from bottom? I'll be black and blue for a week when it's over!

Jean Marie: From my submissive perspective, I'm ASKING for it! I'm in need. I'd expect a blistering, nothing less.
If I were lucky enough to have a girlfriend approach me with this request to Top her, I'd see it as an opportunity for fluent self-expression. Her bottom would be my blank canvas; I'd paint it with a Masterful masterpiece. She should expect to get it very hard indeed.

Brett: It depends on what the spankee is asking for. In a discipline relationship where spanking is used for that purpose, where the spankee doesn't want a severe spanking, severe is not asked for. A more severe spanking tends to happen when bad behavior is what brought about the trouble. In the case of a confession, punishment can be moderated to some degree because of the honesty and owning up to the failure. Spanking may be used for other purposes, like for wish fulfillment, whatever the spankee is asking for. That is an entirely different and nice situation.

Roz: I rarely asked for a spanking. In our case I wouldn't say the resulting spanking was harsher than usual. From memory it tended to be more of a fun spanking, though it definitely counted!

Wendel: Whenever the Misses asks for a spanking, she wants it harder than normal. She will present me with the paddle, bare her bottom and get across my lap. I will paddle every inch of her bottom until she cannot sit comfortably for at least a day. The Misses spanks me enough that I do not need to ask but on the rare occasion when I do, she will whip my bottom with the belt hard enough that I am sore for the next two days.
Great question. I think I will go ask for a spanking right now. 

Rosco: I never “ask”. Generally I get it anyway. But if I want a spanking, or an extended or harder spanking, I simply complain. I sass. I pout. I resist. The more I do things, the more I’ll be punished.

Our safe word is “later”. If one of us is not in the mood, we’ll ask if we can do it later.

Our spankings are pretty much 100% roleplay where I am punished for something. So I never ask. But once in a while “someone” will deliver a note to Irene which delineates my naughty behavior and need for discipline.

Doug: By prior arrangements, I am paddled on Tuesday and Friday nights before bedtime, hard enough and long enough to meet my needs - painful but something I enjoy. My wife would be unhappy if I were to request a (third) spanking - something I will not do. She is comfortable with our present arrangement and so am I. I always thank her for spanking me - not because I have to, but because I genuinely appreciate what she has done for me. And we kiss. 

Prefectdt: Can't say that I have ever noticed much difference, really. I think that the difference will be noticed more by people who have one main spanker. It would be interesting if some spankers respond to this subject. Just to see if being asked for a spanking, by a Sub, fires them up more than when they initiate the play.

Ronnie: When I've asked P or a spanking, he makes sure I know I've had one:)

Barrel: For us, it’s probably the opposite. When I asked to be spanked, or leave a paddle on her dresser, I always get spanked but not nearly as hard as when it is her idea. And never as hard or long as when we plan a session. I try not to ask for spanking too often as I want my wife to be an active participant in the idea, but she welcomes my outreach and always responds.

Anon 2: Great topic. My wife spanks me whenever she feels that I need it. One day she told me that she tired of my laziness and that I needed a really "good" spanking. She said that her mother had volunteered to do it. To say the least I was shocked, I knew her mother knew about our lifestyle, but to actually have her participate wow.

She told me that I had to go MIL's house and politely ask her to spank me hard and long.
I went over and when she answered the door I asked hot spank me.
She took me inside, sat on a chair and made me stand in front of her as she took my pants and panties down, put me over knee and used a wooden paddle on me. It was the most severe spanking n my whole life. So the answer is yes, asking for a spanking will earn you a real bottom blistering.

Hermione:  Our weekly spankings are a prelude to intimate activities, so they tend to be not as long as I would prefer. If I were to ask for a spanking at any other time, the purpose would be solely spanking, so Ron would carry on for a much longer period of time.   

Graham: It depends. Usually, I'm asking for a stress-relief spanking, which would tend to be hard but sexy. If I'm asking because I did something wrong that she doesn't know about, then I'm probably going to have no say in how hard it will be and it will likely be on the severe side!

Stay safe, everyone!               

Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Sunday, May 15, 2022

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #435

Hi there! I'm so glad you could join us in our weekly discussion. Our good friend Bonnie presented me with a treasure trove of topics, so I closed my eyes and picked this one. 

When a spankee requests a spanking, does it tend to be more severe than when it is the spanker's idea?

Please leave your response as a comment, and I will publish an edited summary of our discussion once everyone has weighed in.

Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Friday, May 13, 2022

KDPierre has left the building

Another blogger has silently departed the blogosphere. KDPierre, a regular brunch guest and prolific blogger, has closed his blog, Collected Submissions

I'm very sorry to see him go. KDPierre's blog posts were thought-provoking, and he encouraged lively dialogue which, I'm afraid, didn't happen as much as he would have hoped. He often expressed frustration at this, which might be the reason for his departure.

But all is not lost. You can still enjoy KDPierre's stories at the Library of Spanking Fiction.

Farewell, my friend.

Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Thursday, May 12, 2022

Do those letters mean what I think they mean?

For entertainment I like to visit Bored Panda.  Every so often I get an email full of links to fun articles on the site. At the end of each article, there is a short bio of the staff member who put it together. I don't often bother to read the bio's, but here's what I saw on one of them.
... has master's degree in Economics he got long time ago in a city far, far away. [He] also worked as a university teacher, sports writer and a BDSM* specialist for several IT companies.
Wait, what? A BDSM consultant for IT companies? What does BDSM have to do with IT? Then I noticed the asterisk after BDSM. I had to click the "read more" to expand the bio, where I found this:
* Business Development, Social Media Marketing
That explains it. Disappointing, though.

Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Monday, May 9, 2022

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for May 8

What is your least favourite position for spanking?

Bonnie: I'd call it a toss up between the diaper and the ankle grab positions, for the same reason. Both stretch the spankee's bottom in a way that it makes each swat hurt a lot more. 

Jack: My wife always spanks me across her lap; she ensures my legs don't kick and that my arm is pinned to my back. 

Wendel: Not a fan of being bent over the edge of the table. It is not very comfortable. 

Roz: Love the pic Hermione lol and thank you so much for the shout out. I wonder how many spanko brunches I have attended?

We don't tend to use a lot of positions. I think my least favorite would be on all fours on the floor, or kneeling in front of Rick paying him some attention while he swats. Potentially dangerous for him too lol. I think we may have only used the diaper position once or twice otherwise that would top the list.

Rick: I enjoy putting a girl over my knee (lap). It is intimate, can be romantic, and stimulates the senses of domination and submission. You can secure her firmly, observe the changing condition of her bottom, and ensure she is not being harmed, nor in danger of harming herself. Other methods such as over the bed, chair, table, etc. are too impersonal. The latter seem more like a vindictive beatdown than a corrective action for a naughty girl.

Barrel: I agree these brunches are gaining in popularity, and a big THANKS to our hostess for inviting us all every week with enticing and thought provoking food for thought. That is what makes this my favorite blog. I encourage more to join in as I learn from all of you each week.

I dislike kneeling on the bench and bending forward to our bed. That’s probably because it stretches the skin on my rear and I usually get the hairbrush or heavy plastic paddle, both of which are nasty.

Anon 1: Diaper position definitely the absolute worse.

Blilen: My Motto: OTK - THE ONLY WAY!!

Jean Marie: Because I wasn't spanked as a child, I fantasized about being put over a knee and spanked since I was about four years of age, and oh-happy-day, found reality even surpassed fantasy when I got my first OTK adult spanking.
I HATE the diapering position! Besides, as Bonnie stated, the fact that the target is made more vulnerable, I find that I'm more psychologically vulnerable in that position. Being face-up, I see my Top's facial expression as he punishes me (at least until I must scrunch my eyes shut or they are too tear-filled), whereas when OTK, I see only the floor before my nose, and my imagination is engaged.

Rosco: I’m more than twice Irene’s size, so OTK has never been an option. As others note, spanking hurt more when one is bent over and, of course, when there has been no warm up.

But most uncomfortable for me is if my neck is in an uncomfortable position. I like to do my best to relax and breathe as normally as possible - not knowing how hard the next smack will be.

Anon 1: I love over the knee spankings, both giving and receiving. All other positions come in second. 

Dale: Pretty much any position where I have a damp bottom from a recent shower or dip in the pool. 

Prefectdt: For my least favourite position, it is a coin toss between Diaper and lunge. Diaper is annoying and uncomfortable from the start. Lunge is hard to maintain and becomes harder the longer the spanking lasts. Both positions share the disadvantage of making my mind concentrate more on the position and not enough on the spanking.

A.J.: Well, I have tried the diaper position, but she found it too difficult to hold the position without help, I found it difficult to help and swat away, and thought a miss might be too damn painful. Me in that position? Same thing. So we went back to OTK, over the arm of a couch, or over a bolster.

But that may not be the worst position for me or the GF.
More than the diaper position - being tied down or restrained to some piece of equipment.

Windy: I actually found the position that Roz mentions, hubby spanking her while she gives him some attention, kind of sexy! Storm did that once and it was a major surprise to me, to say the least! Just don't grind your teeth during that, Roz! lmao

Hate the diaper position...feel like an idiot. We don't use it past the 1 time where he was experimenting.

My fav for comfort is bending over the yoga ball. Works good for those of us with bad knees and bad backs. Comfy on the tummy. OTK is intimate, but uncomfortable.

Lastly, I find the grabbing by the ankles kinky even though we have never done it!

Hermione: I would never be able to grab my ankles; I'm just not that flexible. I hope Ron never asks me to assume that position! Sadly, OTK is uncomfortable for me, although it is my go-to position for erotic fantasies.

Have a great week!

Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Sunday, May 8, 2022

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #434

Our brunches are becoming more popular, and I see we have some new guests here today. Don't be shy! Introduce yourself, or just grab a plate and find a comfy chair to relax in. Ever-faithful commenter and one-time blogger Roz inspired today's discussion topic.

What is your all-time least favourite spanking position? If by chance you like them all, tell us what your favourite position is.

Please leave your response as a comment, and I will publish an edited summary of our discussion once everyone has weighed in.

Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Thursday, May 5, 2022

Tax Time

Our tax returns were due on April 30. We got them done a week earlier, thanks to Ron's urging and my previous preparation. For the last few years we have used free software to prepare our returns, and I had already downloaded the latest version for us. It's pretty simple to use, but Ron always has trouble, and I was on standby for an hour or two while he struggled to enter his figures. He's just not technically-minded, and I often wonder what he would do if I wasn't around to supply technical support.

Here are some examples of the problems that tech support gurus encounter.

The client spilled coffee on his keyboard so he put it in the oven to dry out

A major bee infestation

Why doesn't my power bar work?

Disk fragmentation - 15%

Lost the charger, but wait! There's a backup

My computer is frozen :(

Update on our taxes: About ten minutes after I had submitted our returns electronically, we each got an email from the Canada Revenue Agency saying our returns had been received, evaluated, and here's what we owe. Such efficiency!

Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Monday, May 2, 2022

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for May 1

How do you feel about marks?

Dan: I don't mark nearly as much as I did the first few years after we got into spankings. There is something I miss about it, though I'm not sure why. I think my wife also gets a little disappointed when she gives me a very hard spanking yet there are no visible marks the next day.

Wendel: We love the marks. It is quite the turn on to see the Misses’ pretty little bottom turning red from a spanking and the red stripes appearing during a whipping. 

Brett: The marks that last at least a few days before they fade away are important. They are the tangible evidence that a punishment was received and how it was administered. It's a huge embarrassment if anyone sees them, but that anxiety is part of the dramatic experience.

Bonnie: Yes, we like marks that persist for a while. It's frustrating to absorb what I thought was a hard spanking only to have no visible evidence an hour later.

The only exception is before a gynecologist appointment. I think I could explain those marks, but I really don't want to have to do that.

Anon 1: Leaving marks is important; leaving distinct handprints even better IMO.

Barrel: We both love the marks. As the bearer, I cherish them. I believe marks are a badge of honor and the longer I have them, the better.

To wear them for more than a few days, the session must be quite intense. We haven’t had one of those for some time, so we have begun daily practice with two delrin canes, working on her standing position, her aiming points, where the safe zone is, extending her reach without wrapping, etc… We even put pen marks on my butt to help better define the top/bottom of the preferred landing zone. These practice strokes are at a 3 or 4 of an intensity level of 1 -10, so daily practice is tolerable. My wife said after our last practice, she can’t wait to be comfortable delivering 10’s consistently with the thin cane over an extended session, which will undoubtedly leave extensive marks. Anticipation is a great emotion…until it comes to the time for the actual receipt…but I will be ready and welcoming.

Great repeat discussion! Thanks for the encore.

Anon 2: My partner punishes me when I have really misbehaved and boy does she know how.
A spanking session (both with her hand and various implements) gets me right on track again and it is yes ma'am, no ma'am for many days!
She feels that, other then “recreational spankings” which we do also, a punishment session should be painful and humiliating.

Well, I cry during the session, I am unable to sit or sleep on my back for days and I truly feel like the little naughty boy that I am.
One of the humiliating thing she does is to have me strip naked in front of her mother, sisters and her best friend and tell them that I have been naughty, punished and may I please show them the marks from my spanking….to which they always agree!

And what a coincidence they all drop by (separately) within the 48 hours after the spanking…..

Fred Bloggs: I love marks, and I favour implements that leave marks that persist for several days. As I get older I find I mark more easily and they take longer to heal. 

Roz: I love having marks. Evidence and a reminder of the spanking. It's like a badge of honour.

Simon: I love the marks I get and wear them with pride. Since I'm especially fond of the cane I can often be found with the lines showing. Another implement I enjoy is the carpet beater which leaves lovely patterns on the bottom of the receiver. I have sometimes forgotten I've got very visible evidence of a thrashing on my bottom and either had to explain them to a doctor or be very careful when getting changed in public changing rooms. It's not that I'm ashamed of them but I can't be bothered with the explanations and the questions that follow. 

Rich Person: It's been a bit, but I liked seeing them and felt a special connection with my partner when she was bearing them. It's very intimate.

Anon 3: I believe welts and bruises should be an accepted fact of a spanko's life. I love them and display them with pride. As I've mentioned in previous posts we are totally open with family and friends about our spanking lifestyle and many have seen the damage done from one of wife's razor strappings. Fortunately I've never had to explain them in a public setting, doctor or gym.

Anon 4: Like many I love it when I have visible marks. She is titillated when she finds me in front of the mirror looking over my shoulder to admire them. To me they reinforce my internal feeling of being a sissy submissive. I think people who know us know that there is something different about our relationship dynamic. I really wish my marks would be more visible so they could see them. But I’ve never had marks that last for several days. 

Penelope: I love, love, love marks! With hubby away from home for 4 days of the week, it's a nice reminder that he was here and not just a figment of my overactive imagination.

Jean Marie: LOVE this topic, LOVE the community-feeling these brunches inspire!
I, too, LOVE to be marked from discipline! If they are really vivid, I call them universes and galaxies of color across my backside. They can be addictive; I have been known to ask for more punishment while still marked and bruised from the last session so as to make them more intense. I recall that it was not always so, however. I remember the first time I got up in the morning after a really thorough paddling to see marks on my butt in the mirror and I FREAKED OUT. I wondered what it said about me that I craved discipline and that this was the by-product. Then I reconciled myself to the fact that it proclaimed I was a spanko!

Jack: My wife does not want to leave marks, she prefers to ensure I have a very red, sore, bottom.

Prefectdt: I love having marks and can sometimes mark up pretty good during a spanking, but they fade so fast and most are gone in less than an hour. Not like when I first started getting spanked as an adult, the marks could last for weeks, back then. Sometimes a really heavy caning can leave some stripes that last a day or two, but that has to be very severe, to achieve that.

Rosco: It’s definitely fun to have something to show for an intense spanking. The color from Irene’s paddle or strap tends to fade pretty quickly, though she often requires I look at my hot red bottom in the mirror.

The riding crop, the quirt (ouch) and especially switches more often leave marks. I cherish them. Once in a while an arrant blow will wrap around to the far hipbone and all sense of fun evaporates for a moment.

I take blood thinner medication so I bruise easily but that’s never been a problem with TTWD, thankfully.

I’ve an appointment for a spanking in about 4 hours - will see if Irene marks me up a bit.

A.J.: "How do you feel about marks?"

Marks? Bruises? Welts? Not my thing; giving or receiving.

A bright pink tush (hers/mine) is enough.

(Damn! Given the responses from others I may be the odd one out here.)

Loki_Darksong: I love and enjoy marks. Both giving and receiving them.

When giving them I always make it as artistic as possible and not haphazardly over the place.

When I receive them it is a reminder of the scene I've been in. One that can be revisited as the marks fade. Due to my skin color it is rather difficult to get say cane welts on my backside which can be disappointing at times. The last time I had any decent markings was after my 21st birthday at Paddles.

Hermione: I seldom mark any more, but Ron used to enjoy telling me how red my bottom was the day after a spanking. Like most of you, I love them.

Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Sunday, May 1, 2022

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #433

Welcome one and all to our weekly discussion time. Today's topic is one we have discussed before, but it will be fun to tackle it again.

How do you feel about marks? Do you love/like them, or dislike/hate them?

As always, please leave your response as a comment. Once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish an edited summary of our conversation.


Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart