Monday, June 27, 2022

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for June 26

How soon after a spanking do you feel the need for another one?

Bonnie: I'd prefer not to invoke my usual answer, but in this instance, I must: It depends. It depends upon Randy's plans, how complete and satisfying the previous spanking was, our energy levels, what else is going on in our lives, and the phase of moon. Not a definitive response, but it's true.

Roz: Great question Hermione. It depends on a number of factors as the others have said. What else is going on in our lives, energy levels, time, what the last spanking was like etc. Also the nature of the previous spanking. If it was a lighter, play spanking for example, I am more likely to want a repeat sooner than a harder spanking.

Graham: I'll give both a practical answer and a fantasy answer. As a practical matter, it's usually weeks between spankings. On a fantasy level, I'm often ready in a day or two...and sometimes I'm lucky! 

Fred Bloggs: It depends, but mostly quite soon. Spanking is addictive.

Ronnie: Straight away:) It depends on P and what we have going on and what the last spanking was like but I always hope I get spanked again very soon after.

Anon 1: By the next day, I am usually craving another spanking.

A.J.: "...how long is it before you want another spanking?"

Actually, 3-4 months. There are times I CRAVE it, get it, and that seems to hold me for a while.

On the other (spanking) hand, if you had asked:

"...how long is it before you want to give her another spanking?"

That would get a completely different response! It would be days, or a week or two.

Prefectdt: It depends on the severity of the spanking that I have just received. For a very light spanking, it could be as little as 5 minutes. But these days I know that I am not going to get spanked that often, so I try to get a proper whupping, when I can and so it would be about a week before the deep muscle trauma and other effects have worn off before I would be fit for another spanking. Then I want a spanking, but usually have to wait much more than a week until I get my next bottom warming.

Wendy: TBH, I always *want* a spanking. I guess I would want to be spanked as soon as the effects of the previous one wore off. 

Rosco: 4-5 days usually. Mostly it’s once a week and a powerful wonderful experience followed by pussy licking and intercourse.

Sadly, Irene, is recovering from “minor” surgery and it’s been almost 2 months. I’ve been getting a few lectures but it’s not quite the same.

Anon 2: After my wife spanks me, I am always ready in a few days for the next one.

Hermione: I wouldn't want one right away. I prefer to have an interval of several days, in order to allow the anticipation and dread to build. Looking forward to a spanking is part of the total experience.

Enjoy your week, and feel free to drop by any time.

Glory to Ukraine


From Hermione's Heart

Sunday, June 26, 2022

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #441

Welcome, everyone. I hope you are all keeping well and staying out of mischief. Are you ready for today's discussion topic, submitted by one of my regular readers?

After you play how long is it before you want another spanking? 

Please leave your response as a comment, and I will publish an edited summary of our discussion on Monday.



Glory to Ukraine


From Hermione's Heart

Wednesday, June 22, 2022

Spam? Are You Sure?

Last week I received three emails from Google. Each one warned me that a Blogger post had been unpublished because I had violated the Google terms of service. Specifically, the posts were spam. Now, the offending posts weren't in this blog. They were published on a very old test blog that I had created 10 years ago in order to experiment with the then-new dynamic template. The three ancient posts were:

test post april 15 #1

test post april 25 #1

test

Each of them contained only one word: "test".

How was that spam? How did these offensive posts fly under the radar for so long, only to be unearthed at last by an industrious bot?

The funny thing is, on the same day as those posts, I published these subsequent posts.

test post april 15 #2 with content "retest"

test post april 15 #3 with content "test again"

test post april 25 #2 with content "test 2"

test post april 25 #3 with content "test 3"

Obviously the bot was offended by the word "test" appearing by itself. Or did the bot think it had done enough work for one day and knocked off early?

By the way, I have the opportunity to appeal these unfair decisions and ask for a human to review my case and reconsider, but I think I'll leave it for now.


Glory to Ukraine


From Hermione's Heart

Monday, June 20, 2022

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for June 19

How do you feel about public displays of attention to your buttocks?

Jack: My wife does, sometimes to remind me of the spanking I just got and still feel, other times a way of showing who runs the household (she said women know ). One winter day at the mall, my wife reached under my coat, put her hand inside my pants and we walked as her hand rested on my bare bottom. It was a cold day and I still had a very warm bottom from the spanking I got prior to going to the mall. 

Mark: Mine doesn't. I would like it if she did though.

SPM: I pat my wife's butt in public but she does not touch mine. I wish she would.

Bonnie: My reaction depends upon the setting. If we're alone or mostly alone, I'm fine with it. If we're in a more populated place, I'm less fond, but generally not inclined to make an issue. If we are with friends, I feel obligated to display faux indigence.

Wendel: We do but in a private setting. It is not for others to see. 

Anon: My partner, when we are with friends and/or family, will give me a light pat on my butt whenever I do something she does not like me to whilst saying: no problem darling, I will deal with you later and everybody knows what that means….

Roz: Yes, on occasion Rick might quickly pat my butt while out in public. It's usually subtle and probably looks more like we are just fooling around.

Mary: My wife pats my butt whenever she feels like it. Not often but whenever she wants to. If we are alone, I will turn around and give her a kiss. In public, I pretend it did not happen but I know my face turns red.

Ronnie: Yes P will often give me a quick swat while out in public and I do enjoy it. Never does it if we are in the company of friends.

Rosco: Irene and I are affectionate but discreet.

There was one time, however, when she deviated. We were in a large shared kitchen at a vacation place cooking with several friends. Irene came up behind me and whacked my bottom several times with some sort of a wooden paddle she found. I was pretty surprised, and it smarted plenty.

I don’t know if others noticed. There have been a few occasions when our lifestyle may have been “outed”. My sister-in-law found a riding crop when she spent the night and smirked a bit. And one of Irene’s friends and a neighbor commented about how noisy we are sometimes. So people may know.

Bernie: I get the very occasional, in-public pat on the ass from my wife. It doesn't bother me anymore. I've noticed younger people smile. Maybe they thought the old people are cute.

A.J.: "Does your partner ever give you public displays of affection such as pats, pinches or spanks on the bottom?"

Give HER pats on her tush? Yes. Affectionately. Subtly.
Give her pinches or spanks? No!

Her give ME pats? Damn rare. More like the back of the hand tap with, "OK. Time to go!"
Her give ME pinches or spanks? No!

Maybe it goes back to never even touching a woman without her OK. And that would be rare.

(I had to take dancing lessons, social etiquette, etc. starting in the 4th grade - with every one of my M/F classmates. A class with maybe 60-100 9 and 10-year olds. First up - manners. And the boys were told to never touch a girl, even to shake her hand. It was OK to shake her hand - if SHE offered hers. She had to make the first move and only if she did that was it socially acceptable. To this day I am still reluctant of offer my hand to a woman. Pat her tush???? Are you kidding????)

Wendy: No PDA, of any kind, for us. I do think it would be a bit thrilling if he touched my butt when people were around, but not looking. But we reserve that sort of thing for truly private moment.

Barrel: I get pats and pinches. Never any spanks in public. I enjoy them, knowing they are an intimate connection between us. Could it be more, maybe, but not with close friends close by.

Hermione: It would never happen, although I really wouldn't mind if it did. Ron isn't one for displays of affection in public. Even hand-holding is out of bounds for him.

That's all, folks!

Glory to Ukraine


From Hermione's Heart

Sunday, June 19, 2022

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #440

It's the weekend, and that means it's time for our weekly discussion.

Does your partner ever give you public displays of affection such as pats, pinches or spanks on the bottom? If so, is it something you invite and enjoy, or do you cringe?

Please leave a comment with your response. Once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish an edited summary of our discussion.

Glory to Ukraine


From Hermione's Heart

Thursday, June 16, 2022

Pre-fails

Just before the moment of impact.











x

Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Monday, June 13, 2022

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for June 12

Do Millennials have a different perspective on spanking than people from the previous generation?

Jean Marie: Wow, great question, one that I've never thought about before!
I recall Eve Howard discussing in her newsletter the younger models in her company's spanking tapes, how this one was "one of us" (as in being a true spanko) as opposed to that model who was just "a thrill-seeker." I never put two and two together correctly to see that this related to their age and their upbringing.
So now I'm wondering if there is a new fetish centered on being put in time out. LOL. If there is, all I can say is that they're missing out!

Alan: I don't know and will be interested to read what others say. Overall it does seem there is a lot of interest in spanking these days or at least talking about it. Your question really goes to the issue of how influential childhood spanking is on our interest as adults. MY guess is that spanking interest is a lot more complicated than just being spanked as a kid or not. But hope to hear others views.

Anon 1: I am inclined to agree with Alan. I am now of retirement age and have had this interest all my life - but never experienced or had any significant exposure to parental spankings. So I think the urge has much more psychological roots.

Rosco: I don’t know, but Millennials have had far more and easier access to all kinds of sexual material through the internet. I remember the days of sneaking into adult bookstores hoping no one would see me then also worrying about what the clerk thought.

I wasn’t spanked as a kid, and the ones I remember being around were mostly pretty violent and scary (including an uncle who could get drunk and belligerent).

So I have no idea where my interest came from, but the roots were before 5 years of age.

Fred Bloggs: I am in my late 60s. For many years just after puberty when my sexual thoughts were all about spanking I thought I was the only one thinking that way. It was well into the 1970s, maybe the early 1980s that I discovered the "scene" and finally realized that I was not alone. To have had a searh engine and been able to type 'spanking' would have been marvellous.

Roz: Interesting question, and one I haven't thought about before. I wasn't spanked as a kid either but have been interested in spanking from a young age. Perhaps it may hold even more appeal to those who weren't spanked? I don't know.

Millennials do have a greater access to content. I think they may well have a different view on the topic than us older folk, such as its acceptability, even among consenting adults etc, mainly due to the influence of societal 'norms' nowdays.

Bonnie: My thought when I conceived this question was that Boomers were flooded with spanking images, stories, and scenes in the media throughout our early years. These were the foundation upon which countless fantasies were constructed. By the time Millennials came along, most spanking references had been scrubbed from mainstream television, films, and books. Those few that remained were aimed at adults and played for humor. One might conclude that this younger group starts from a very different frame of reference.

As I think more about the differences, I consider Rosco's point about the internet to be central to this discussion. Some Boomers sexualized the spanking content they encountered, but probably not immediately. Millennials, if they encountered spanking content on the internet, it was likely already sexualized, thus cementing this relationship from the beginning.

It seems that there are still plenty of young spankos finding their way. We should welcome them into our community and offer to share what we can.

Brett: Growing up with the reality of spanking as punishment, the actual experience of or threat of, is clearly a different perspective than not living it. Unless you've felt the fear, anxiety, helplessness, shame, embarrassment and possible other emotions, then it's a fantasy perspective. But those emotions, and the elements of power, dominance and submission, justice, nurturing authority, vulnerability, humiliation, erotic sensation, the butt, are attractive to some human beings regardless of their background. The Internet has just opened the gates to knowledge, acceptability and community. I grew up clueless and feeling like something was wrong with me. Today, young people can type 'spanking' into a search engine and identify their thoughts and feelings as a widely shared kink.

Prefectdt: My main source of how different experiences of spanking, in the media and fictional sources, between my generation and millennials, comes from following the Vlog of Jillian Keenan. From which I get the impression that the lack of spanking related content in earlier life of millennials is more than compensated for by the overload of spanking material, that is available to them on the internet, once they pluck up the "courage" to put the word SPANKING into a search engine. This was not available to many of us, once we hit 18. From this, I conclude that they are a lot more confident about starting to play for real than the older generations.

Jack: This generation from what I've read doesn't want to be like their parents. They don't want to commit to a full-time job, driving a car is not on the top of their list. The question is the best so far, and so tend to lean that they will not have this spanking desire and in time it will be a thing of the past. 

Barrel: Good question. My bad answer is I really don’t know because I have a hard time understanding what Millennials think. They are so different from my Boomer generation. I do think they have been influenced by more sex and violence on TV and in movies way more than I was. Through weekly participation by our regulars at brunch, we seem to be more Boomers. But I really liked Bonnie's conclusion that we should welcome Millennials, and for that matter, all generations as we can all learn from each other in this safe and consensual exchange.

Dan: I don't have an answer on spanking as a whole, but I do think there are generational differences when it comes to F/m spankings and with the related "Female Led Relationship" kink. I have a younger friend who is a "top" in an FLR relationship. She's told me she feels like several of her female friends are "in charge" in their marriages and serious relationships, though to what extent they are in some kind of formalized power exchange varies. I think for the Boomers and probably Gen X (I'm officially Gen X, though just barely), traditional gender roles were much less flexible than is the case for Millennials and younger generations. I suspect that females in those younger generations are more likely to be comfortable being the "top" in their relationships, including when it comes to spanking and corporal punishment.

Wendel: The Misses is a Millennial and got enough exposure to enjoy me spanking her. That is all I need to know.

Hermione: I really have no idea of their perspective, but spanking still seems to be very popular. I believe the interest is timeless.

Thank you all for your opinions on this thought-provoking question.

Glory to Ukraine


From Hermione's Heart

Sunday, June 12, 2022

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #439

My garden is coming along nicely, and I have a few beet seedlings popping up. They will be turned into a tasty pot of borscht soup once they are mature.

Now on to today's discussion. Thank you, Bonnie, for suggesting the topic.

Do you think that Millennial spankos have a different perspective because they encountered far less spanking content as children than their elders did?

Please leave your response as a comment below. I'll publish an edited summary of our conversation once everyone has had a chance to contribute.



Glory to Ukraine


From Hermione's Heart

Friday, June 10, 2022

Blogger Woes

Yesterday's post was inspired by some trouble I was having with leaving comments on Blogger blogs. Since I am the resident techie, it's up to me to solve my own problems. I'm the help desk.

It was PK who first noticed the problem a few months ago and asked me for help. She told me she couldn't leave a comment on any Blogger blog as "PK", even though she was logged on to Google. I'm afraid I wasn't much help to her.

Then yesterday, after leaving a comment on Morningstar's blog, I noticed that my comment was by "Anonymous" and not "Hermione". Ronnie's comment was also left by "Anonymous" so something was definitely up. I tried again, and was told I wasn't signed in to Google, even though I knew I was. I clicked the Sign In choice but still couldn't connect. 

What to do? We techies have a saying: when in doubt, read the manual. There was no manual, but there was a Learn More link in my failed sign in attempt. So I clicked it and learned that the problem was caused because my browser did not allow third-party cookies. That was news to me.

Then I remembered that I had updated Firefox recently. I checked the settings and lo and behold, my browser was protecting me from all invading third-party cookies. I unchecked the offending box and that resolved the problem.

If anyone else is having the same problem, check your browser settings, or try a different browser. Good luck!



Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Thursday, June 9, 2022

Technology

Ron and I work well together as a team. He has his chores and responsibilities and I have mine. But sometimes I wonder what he would do if I wasn't around. Take the television for example. The remote mystifies him. 

He'll call, "I can't find CNN on this tv". 

"It's on our list of favourites. What list are you using?" 

"List? I don't know what list it is. CNN is gone." 

"Okay, I'll get it back." I set the remote to display only the channels on our favourites list (again!) and voila! CNN has reappeared.

Then there's the computer. "I can't do anything. The computer is too slow." 

"It's probably the antivirus doing something in the background. Go read a book for 15 minutes."

Or "The mouse is gone. I can't see the arrow."

"Turn the machine off and on. Read a book while you wait."

Or "There's a message on the computer."

"What does the message say?"

"I don't know."

"Well, is it a warning, or... Never mind, I'm coming."














Glory to Ukraine


From Hermione's Heart

Monday, June 6, 2022

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for June 5

How often do you think about spanking, and does it interfere with getting things done?

Penelope: Haha, too often and yes, of course, thoughts are always getting in the way. I must not be getting enough.

Mark: I think about it 2 or 3 times per day. Doesn't really stop me doing stuff but certainly helps with procrastination. The one instance that it is a problem is if its been a while since I was spanked and I start thinking about it in the middle of the night... never gonna finish that sleeping task then.
Never happened but would be wonderful if my wife sat up and said that she is sick of my squirming so get over her lap now!

Graham: Many, many times! If I tried to count, I'd be wasting even more time! :-) 

Roz: Yep, guilty. I think about spanking daily, but it doesn't tend to get in the way of getting things done.

Prefectdt: I have to go and read the question again, I lost track, thinking about the spanking I had a week ago. Well, sometimes I must think about it (shall I buy that cane I saw on that website?) several times a minute. And other times (that sample clip was very good, perhaps I'll get a membership for a month), sorry where was I? Other times I can go for hours without (O I could do with a spanking right now) thinking about it. :)

Anon 1: Yes constantly thinking about or making reference to spanking. Doesn't get in way of accomplishing things except when the actual spanking takes priority over whatever task was being done.

Barrel: Daily, yes. Multiple times a day, yes. When shopping or walking through almost any retail store, constantly. I think antique stores are the worst.

These thoughts do not hinder checking off my To Do list items except when we have a session planned. Our sessions involve several days of build up that triggers a heightened mental state in me. During that time, I do find it difficult to think about anything else, 24/7 so much so that it impacts my sleep.

Great question. Thank you and Cheers!

Anon 2: Since I am a life long spanko married to a vanilla woman, I think about spanking constantly. Sometimes I fantasize about a woman I see spanking me or me spanking her. Sometimes it is hard to get anything accomplished. Lately I have been wasting even more time listening to spanking podcasts. Great question.

Wendy: I think about it quit a bit. I go through stretches where I have trouble focusing on anything else. I had a particularly intense one that lasted for months about a year ago. I am in my early 50s, and it felt like I was in my mid-30s again.

Jean Marie: In the past, when I was in relationships, I thought about spankings a lot and received spankings a lot.
I'm not in a couple at present. During the school year, I think about spankings as I go about my busy job as a teacher. Now that it's summertime, I think about spankings even more. I'm LOVING exploring this on my blog daily!
Spankings and thinking about spankings fuel my sexuality. It's high octane fuel. Vroom, vroom!

A.J.: "How often do you think about spanking in the course of an average day?"
Once a day, but it could be less. Almost always in the AM between the time
I wake up and the time I actually get out of bed.

"Do you ever feel that you can't give 100% of your attention to a task because thoughts of spanking interfere?"
Nope. Never. (Unless the task involves my spanking a cute female bottom, 'cuz....you know.)

Rosco: Thoughts of spanking do often interfere with my daily routine. I can be tempted when I’m working at my computer and a little bored. It’s easier to get distracted now that I’m the only one in my office. But at my old places of work, there were fleshy distractions.

I do find that thinking about spanking relaxes me, as does thinking about burying my face between Irene’s legs. It’s how I go to sleep, or how I go back to sleep.

Red: Daily for certain! When walking in stores my mind wanders to what would be a good spanking implement, specially in an antique shop! Walking in the woods make me think of switches. I think it truly helps keep the libido alive. The thought has me rise to the occasion, but as Cindy spanks much more effectively and I age, this happens less frequently.

Ronnie: I think about spanking most days but never does it get in the way of getting jobs done.

Hermione: When we first started, I thought about it almost constantly. I was afraid to speak up in meetings at work in case I blurted out something that would out me. At home, I was always longing to feel Ron's hand on my butt and thinking about how it would feel. 

As the years passed, spanking became more natural for us, and a routine developed. They are now no longer a novelty and my craving has subsided. I don't often think about it unless the time for a spanking is near.

That discussion was very thought-provoking!

Glory to Ukraine


From Hermione's Heart

Sunday, June 5, 2022

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #438

It's Platinum Jubilee weekend, so I'm glad you took time from the virtual and live festivities to join us. Today's topic was inspired by an email exchange I had with a reader this week.

How often do you think about spanking in the course of an average day? Do you ever feel that you can't give 100% of your attention to a task because thoughts of spanking interfere?

Please leave your response as a comment below. I'll publish an edited summary of our conversation once everyone has had a chance to contribute.



Glory to Ukraine


From Hermione's Heart

Thursday, June 2, 2022

Long Live our Noble Queen

Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth II celebrates 70 years on the throne. I am proud to have her as our monarch.

My all-time favourite anthem, Handel's Corontion Anthem, was performed at her coronation. Please enjoy it with me.


God Save the Queen!


Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Wednesday, June 1, 2022

Let's go hiking!

Now that the provincial and state parks are open, it's time for some fresh air and exercise. But be sure to follow the rules for everyone's safety.




 
 






Stay safe!

Glory to Ukraine


From Hermione's Heart

Monday, May 30, 2022

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for May 29

 

Eyes open or closed?

Fred Bloggs: Eyes wide open! I am a very visual person. Recently I have taken to setting up a camera that I can view on a tablet, so that I can watch my bottom being spanked. But mostly I am looking at the carpet.

Jack: Eyes are open and when able to turn and look at my wife/Mommy, hoping she sees I'm sorry and will stop. She does not, smiles and says nice try and spanks harder until I'm pleading, begging and sometimes crying. 

Roz: My eyes are often open at the beginning of a spanking but as the spanking goes on I tend to end up with them squeezed shut. 

Bonnie: I agree with Roz - mostly open, but shut when he bears down toward the end of the festivities.

Jean Marie: Roz And Bonnie stated my perspective. Wincing tends to shut the eyes, or maybe it's like I'm praying for it to end.

Wendel: We try to keep our eyes open but depending how hard and fast the spanks are given the eyes start to close. 

Anon: My partner puts a mirror on the floor and whilst over her knees, she spanks me with the hairbrush until I cry.
She wants to see my reactions during her (very strict and very painful) spanking so I have to look in the mirror where I can see her face too, and her angry look tells me what is coming.
She insist watching me starting to cry and see my tears fall on the mirror, that is usually the start of a grand finale of 50 swats or more.

Ronnie: Open to start then closed when the spanking really starts.

A.J.: Eyes open for the duration. And "Oh, look! This carpet need cleaning!"

If well-bent over her knees I may check out her calves. I'm a "leg" man after all.
And that's about it! Not much else to look at.

I was at a trade show a few years ago and on my feet for HOURS every day. Back, legs, feet all hurt.

When it was over I tried to get a massage from the hotel, but no luck. They recommended a couple of local women who do massages so I booked one of them, a nice woman in her early/mid-30's.

And...what the heck, I asked her if she would mind starting off by giving me a spanking...?

Sure! She did. After a few fun minutes she said she was done and said my tush was a nice pink (I 'pink up' really fast.)

Since the spanking she gave me was not too hard, and I THOUGHT having a little 'tingle back there' on the flight back the next day might be nice...

"OK. But give me 50 more smacks, but make them as hard and fast as you can give them."
Her: "You want that???"
Me: "Yes. I want the 'angry girlfriend' spanking."

Big mistake. She did! 50 of them HARD and fast. Took her all of 15-20 SECONDS!
From the second smack I knew I was in BIG trouble, but since I asked for it - it had to go on!

First 2-3 seconds my eyes were WIDE OPEN! In shock!
For the rest, my eyes were closed while I gritted my teeth and held on, unable to breathe!

Moral: Be careful what you ask for. (Esp. from someone who has strong hands and arms from the way she makes her living.)

That's the only time I can recall eyes closed.  

Wendy: Always closed, I think.

Hermione: Always closed for me. I take my glasses off so there's not much to see anyway except the bedspread close up.

As always, thank you for sharing.

Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Sunday, May 29, 2022

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #437

My heart is heavy today, thinking of the latest day of carnage in the US. I think this headline says it best: “‘No Way To Prevent This,’ Says Only Nation Where This Regularly Happens”. That headline was written for The Onion (an online satirical news outlet) in 2014 after a stabbing and shooting rampage that left six people dead and more than a dozen others wounded in Isla Vista, California. It has appeared in The Onion 21 times since, after each mass murder.

Now on to more pleasant conversation.

During a spanking, are your eyes open or closed? If the former, what do you look at?

While this question is aimed at spankees, those of you who are spankers are encouraged to respond too! Once everyone has commented I will publish an edited summary of our discussion.

Glory to Ukraine


From Hermione's Heart

Wednesday, May 25, 2022

Still Staying Safe

Even though official restrictions have been removed and things are pretty much back to normal, Covid has NOT gone away here. We still have new cases reported each week, and sadly, a few deaths. So Walmart shoppers are taking no risks as they hunt for bargains.


















Stay safe!

Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart