Monday, August 29, 2022

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for August 29

Is there an implement you really want to experience but haven't yet?

Bonnie: Is it possible that my implement bucket list is empty? I can't think of anything that we haven't already tried, but I will be watching this post for new ideas!

Midwest Reader: The martinet - a reasonable sized traditional one such as from London Tanners. 

Jean Marie: I'd like to "authenticate" my experiences. By that I mean I heard that an English spanking with a plimsoll shoe, what they call a slippering, really hurt. I had a boyfriend use a Keds tennis shoe on my bottom, but I don't know if they're identical. I'd love to travel to England and have someone who knows administer this implement for me to find out.

With that in mind, I might as well become a corporal punishment world traveler. There was a news report about a man who littered in Singapore being sentenced to a caning. I don't want to break the rules and be sentenced to the real thing, but I would love to travel there, have an official who really carries out this punishment show me the implement they actually use, give me one or two tastes (instead of the twelve or twenty lashes a culprit might expect).

Finally, a past boyfriend read an Ian Fleming short story where the story involved a wealthy man giving his impertinent wife lashes with a stingray's tail. I'd like to find out if this is an actual thing, and experience a bit of it for myself.

Another good question! I look forward to seeing other answers (as always).

Loki_Darksong: Well Hermione I must say that I am both flattered and honored that you decided to use my question for one of your brunches.

The implement of my curiosity happens to be the Louisiana Prison Strap. A 4-in wide 42 inch long, including handle, implement of serious attention. Recently I came across a series of spanking videos in which it was used rather effectively.

The last time I saw one up front and personal was while attending an all male spanking party (you don't have to be gay to attend them and I have no issues with topping or bottoming men) a few years ago.

It was a very impressive, somewhat intimidating implement. I kept weighing the pros and cons of giving in the shot for so long that the party was over. Although if the man who owned it had approached me for a scene I more than likely at the time would not have turned him down.

Buying one of the straps is on my shopping list. Perhaps one day after all this pandemic mess is over and done with, and that party returns, I might get a chance to experience that implement.

But for now, I do regret not giving it a shot back then.

Roz: Well, I must be a wimp because I can't think of an implement I would like to experience lol. A number of years ago I would have said riding crop and flogger, however we have since tried these, although they were more joke type implements rather than the real thing.

Prefectdt: I am always up for trying a new toy. Top of the list, at the moment, is a Sjambok. Although it looks very intense and mostly I want to find out if I can handle a Sjambok funishment.

Simon: I've been into spanking for over 40 years and in that time I've pretty much had every implement I can think of used on my long suffering bottom. Some like canes, straps, carpet beaters and leather (rather than wooden) paddles I go back to again and again. Others like whips and floggers, birches and extremely long and heavy paddles are experienced less often. Weirdly my least favourite implements are relatively innocuous like wooden spoons and plimsolls/slippers.

And for the benefit of Spankedhortic, I have been beaten with a proper sjambok and I don't recommend it. It is an incredibly severe implement and unless used by someone who knows what they are doing and who is very careful it will rip your bottom to shreds. It is the only implement used on me in the last 10 years where I have had to ask the lady thrashing me to stop before she reached the set number of strokes, which in this case was only 12, I chickened out after 5.

Anon 1: Nope, as life-long spanko can't think of any thing to put on bucket list. Pretty much done it all including 50+ years ago having my bare butt wind up on the receiving end of a strap in a rural county jail. Not an experience for faint of heart; 2 weeks before I sat without feeling it.

Wendy: Funny you should ask. A lexan otk paddle was at the top of my list, but I did finally acquire one. I think it’s my new favorite! Now, the only thing I can think of that my butt hasn’t been beat with that perhaps it should some time is a switch. The experience would be even better (?) it I had to cut it myself.

A.J.: Wow! Sjamboks, whips, floggers, lexan paddles, prison straps, "extremely long" paddles...? Yikes. I'm an amateur in this group.

For me, nothing. I prefer her hand and then, maybe, a light leather strap - if her hand starts to hurt. With her on the other side of the lap - the same.

But now, come to think for a moment - fur. Not something fur covered; fur, as in a coat. "I'm sorry, dear. I deserve a good furring. Here..."

That would be neat. And what happens after, too!

Rosco: It’s not an actual implement, but I’d like to try a spanking bench. It looks comfortable and is designed so you can be tightly bound (I like that). I like to rest my head, but my nose is often in the way if it’s straight down.

I also like to be spanked, then left for a time on my own, then spanked again. But it depends on being reasonably comfortable.

As far as actual implements, I’m intrigued by the cane. “Six of the best” etc., though it may be too much in reality. But Irene wouldn’t do it - too severe.

Anon 2: I would like to experience the cane on my bare bottom. I think 12 of the best would be enough. I would like to have lines on my butt for a week and have trouble sitting afterwards.

Ronnie: We have used a lot of different implements over the years so I can't think of anything that I'd want to try.

Mark: Cool question. When it was first posted I had a blank thinking that I had been spanked with every implement that I wanted. However reading through everyone's comments, please put me down for a carpet beater and a proper birching - one with lots and lots of twigs pulled straight from the brine.
I've been told that twigs from the hazelnut tree work very well so I think that I'll arrange for the latter after they sprout this year. 

Barrel: A single tail whip. Researching them, I have learned that there are many lengths, thicknesses, handles, stiffnesses, and ends or “tails”. To complicate this implement further, there are at least four and certainly more methods to express this whip. I am 67 and desiring to experience what is out there while we have the passion and health. So, I bought one. Yet to be expressed or experienced. We’ll see.

Tom: Well since a lot of severity scales list the tawse at 10.5, I've been curious what being under one would be like, two or three tails, regular and/or heavy. I got a taste of a razor strap at a SCONY event once, it had me seeing stars! Bursts of light in my visual space.

Mark: Yes, I agree Tom. It would be wonderful to be able to get a few strokes from each without having to source and buy one.

Hermione: In the past I would have said a flogger, but kind Ron has already thought of that and bought me one as a gift a few years ago. We don't have sororities at our universities here so I never had the pleasure of being on the receiving end of a sorority paddle. I don't think it would be a pleasant experience but I would like to try it, just once.

Having read all the responses above, there are quite a few other implements to add to my bucket list. Amazon, here I come.

Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Sunday, August 28, 2022

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #450

Our locally-grown, luscious peaches are in season, and I'm going to do some serious baking. But before I begin, let's discuss a topic suggested by long-time reader and blogger Loki_Darksong.

Can you think of an implement that you would like to experience in your lifetime? 

Please leave your response as a comment, anonymously if you wish. Once everyone has had a chance to join in, I will publish an edited summary of our conversation.

Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Thursday, August 25, 2022

So Spankable

A stroll through the produce aisles left me itching to paddle a few...potatoes?


The harvesters must have had a good laugh at these.

Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Monday, August 22, 2022

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for August 21

We compared notes on the longest time damage from a spanking remained evident.

Fred Bloggs: Earlier this year I took a 100 stroke cane beating. I just wondered what it was like, as you do! Painful, interesting, ticked off the bucket list. However, it took six weeks to heal, and even then I did get a comment from a friend that my bottom was still showing very faint marks. I am nearly 70 years old and old skin does not heal like young(er) skin. There are pictures on my blog if you're interested.

Bonnie: I've had marks that lasted a week and a residual ouch that persisted for a few days. I associate these events with big wooden paddles.

Wendy: Every once in a while, my husband accidentally leaves bruises. They tend to last for a couple of weeks. I don’t think I’ve ever had marks (or pain) that went beyond that.

Jean Marie: When I was young and inexperienced (college-aged), I got a caning that I'll never forget. I'd only received six moderate strokes up until this time, but this unfamiliar Top gave me a baker's dozen really hard stripes (a few broke the skin). Then he was stingy with the aftercare! To add insult to injury, in the morning he spanked where he'd welted me. God that hurt! The welts and bruises lasted over a week.
I've also experienced the heavy long wooden paddle (fraternity style), that left those oval reddened bruises on my sit spots (along with surrounding bruises). Those seemed to stay there and make me stiff and sore for a week.
I try my best to avoid BOTH of those implements. I've found my bottom isn't as resilient, it takes longer to heal as I've gotten older.

Rosco: The few bruises and welts from spankings have been pretty minor.

But I’ve had extended problems with my back, neck and shoulders from bondage. Sometimes when you're excited, you can’t tell what’s hurting you.

Roz: It's been so long since I've had a spanking like this I can't remember, though we have just started dipping our toes in again :)

We have a leather paddle and a wooden spoon, which is more like a paddle and I have had bruises and marks from that in the past which lasted probably 4-5 days then a little bit of residual marks after that.

Ronnie: In the past I’ve had a few bruises when our wooden paddle was used and they lasted a week or so and I could feel soreness for a couple of days.

Alan: My probably all-time worst was administered by a former girlfriend who was seriously angry with me and intended a serious punishment although maybe not as severe as it was. She started with her heavy sauna brush (which was a lot like a short-handled bath brush). But for the main part of the spanking she used her sorority paddle made of oak and probably half an inch or more thick. I made it worse by disobeying her a couple of times during the spanking and even standing up once. I remember the aftermath because I had to travel the next two weeks and I saw those bruises every day. They had not completely healed by the time I got back home and she made me show them to her. The odd thing about it is that I remember that spanking and many details about it but I have no idea why I was punished and at the time it was very serious.

Anon: Thin whippy switch had my bare backside welted raw from waist to knees few times more than few, growing up in the South. Sitting out of question for a week, and feels like you sat on a hornets' nest for couple weeks after that.

Max: Haven't been spanked before, unfortunately (fortunately?). But I like the red flowers inducing the tomatoes' ripeness/redness idea. Just like a pair of red underwear goading a spanker to paint a bottom's bottom with their shade of red. :) 

Prefectdt:  think that the marks that lasted the longest were from my very first adult spanking in 1984. It was a hand spanking followed by a tawsing. It was a real tawse and not a tawse-like split strap. For a first timer it made an impression and the marks did not totally fade until about five weeks later. That was mostly due to it being my first time, I think. The impacts that I have felt the longest came from a caning with bamboo, in the late 1990s. Although the marks had gone before two weeks had elapsed, I could still feel my heart beating, through a few of the impact stripes, nearly three months later, when I sat on a hard surface for more than a few minutes.

Barrel: By far my worst damage was inflicted by our thin, delrin cane. It is really whippy. I was restrained over the end of the footboard of our bed on a pile of pillows. It was my 60th birthday and I think she gave me a total of 60 strokes, first with the thick delrin cane. She finished with the thin one, probably delivering over 30 strokes with maximum effort. I wore welts for almost a week and the deep red scars for over two weeks. The marks itched for a week and the discomfort slightly longer.

Great question as this allow us to share the outer fringe of our most intense spankings. Thanks.

All the thanks go to Rich Person for coming up with this question.

A.J.: I/we don't do punishment spankings, so all of ours are bare-bottom otk with just the hand. To mix it up we will use (carefully!) a belt or light strap. Just to add a bit of color and excitement.

That said, there were two instances....!

The first was when I was on the west coast and working. It involved daily 12-16 hour days 7 days a week, for a couple weeks. Then return to east coast for two days of catch-up, and then right back to the west coast and start all over again. This went on for almost 3 1/2 months.

One day she called to talk and I let out all my frustrations on her, to the point where an office friend made a warning comment!

Two weeks later, Saturday AM, my plane arrives home and I'm told by her to not go home, but come see her right away because she "missed me so much...!"

I'm going to get laid!!!

I arrive at her place and she looks sexy as heck, then, pout/smiles, and tells me I have been "bad" and to go to the bedroom and wait for her. I'm going to get laid!!!

She comes in, announces a bad-boy spanking, takes me otk and does so. The usual fun spanking. I'm going to get laid!!!

When I'm a nice pink and ready for what I think is the next 'treat', she puts her right leg over the both of mine, grips me fully and firmly around my waist, picks up a wood paddle she had hidden under the a blanket - and lets fly! In a FURY!!! Imagine full-force, teeth-gritting furious swats!

I didn't scream when the first one landed because I was still inhaling when the second one landed! Followed by more. If anyone outside walked by they would have heard me yell and KNOW what was happening.

I didn't last long; may 5 or 6 seconds, but I guess she got in 8-10 bottom-burners before I could get free of her grip. And I'm pissed!!!! Kneeling in front of her and rubbing my on-fire butt, "What the hell was that?????????"

First thing she tell me "You're not thinking about that damn job, are you? And I said no.

Her: The rest is because you were a royal shit to me and deserved it.

She was right. I was. And that cleared the air. And I got laid!!

The pain went away late that night. There were some light bruises, but that's all I remembered.
(And I never took my problems out on her ever again!)
(How mad was she at me? We didn't have a paddle! So I pissed her off enough that she went out and got one! It was never used again.)

The second was with a new spanking switch friend who was so damned cute! Again, otk, bare-bottom only hand. Sad note: she had a hand like steel! Perfect and firm smacks and her hand never got sore (like mine often does.)

It wasn't too, too, hard (but hard enough) and I could have stopped at any time, but she was so damn cute and so much fun. I was probably over her knee gettin' it! for about 40 minutes. When it was over I gave her my phone to take a pic so I could better see the damage.

Oh, boy! Not the usual pink, but BRIGHT red all over. I got spanked!!! There was some tenderness/uncomfortable moments but no real pain, all of which went away by the next morning.

And then the bruises appeared. Not that much, but enough that if anyone had seen my tush would have  KNOWN what had happened!

The scary part?

That was on a Thursday afternoon. On the following Monday afternoon I had a "must not miss" doctor's appointment. And if those marks were not gone, he would see and maybe ask!!!! So from Thursday afternoon until noon Monday I massaged and lotioned every couple of hours. The marks mostly went away, but not all of them. If he noticed, he didn't say anything. 

Wendel: The Misses has a wooden paddle with air holes. It is reserved for when she feels I really need a good spanking. My backend will be sore for about 2 days and the marks will last about week to 10 days. I whipped the Misses with the belt once and I guess I got carried away. She was complaining about being sore for days and the very sexy strap marks lingered for about 2 weeks.

Hermione: When we first started spanking seriously, I bruised much more easily. I visited a homeopathic shop and bought arnica creme to apply to the bruises which, as I recall, lasted about a week. They were made by the dressage whip, which wraps unpleasantly.

Thank you all for sharing your distress!


Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Sunday, August 21, 2022

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #449

It's been a fine weekend here so far. The bunnies have moved away so my marigolds are flourishing among the tomatoes. I hope the flowers induce the tomatoes to ripen soon.

Now on to today's topic that I will present to you in Rich Person's own words.

What is the longest the damage has lasted from a spanking? How long were you sore for and how long did the physical evidence remain on the target? Which implement caused the damage?

I know you will have some exciting stories to tell, so let's hear them. Leave your response as a comment below. I'll publish an edited summary of our discussion on Monday.

Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Friday, August 19, 2022

Friday FAIL

Did you ever go shopping for something tasty, only to be disappointed when you arrived home and opened the package?

Where's the broccoli?


A can of...air?

The box did say blueberry waffle, not blueberries waffle.

How am I supposed to eat this? With a dish and spoon?

One giant Cheeto. None for you, then.

Quality control staff, line up for six of the best.

Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Wednesday, August 17, 2022

Here it is!

At a recent brunch, I said that my least favourite implement was a switch that Ron had made. Our good friend A.J. asked me to share a picture of it. Well folks, here it is:

It's about a metre (three feet) in length so a close-up was not possible. You can see the clever use of zip ties for hanging, and it hangs on the same nail as the dressage whip which is its more exotic twin. My prediction is that it will break soon. Maybe if I help it along...

Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Monday, August 15, 2022

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for August 14

What characteristics do you look for in someone a possible spanking partner?
Anon: Interesting question. Since I never engage in play with anyone I do not like, they must appear friendly, personable, and happy even ahead of physical characteristics. Must have a good personality.

As for physical traits: I am just 5'10' and prefer shorter spankees, truly favor 5'5' or less, as I want my spankee fully off the ground during otk. So, for physical characteristics, I actually prefer short legged women and of course nice round, not overly large behinds. From my perspective, short legs with kicking feet during otk, and of course, a bottom getting more jiggly under my hand or hairbrush is a perfect site. Especially on top of spankee verbal reaction sounds.
Bonnie: I don't really have a satisfying answer this time because I never look any farther than the guy beside me.

Speaking in the abstract, attributes I find attractive in men include a strong jaw, broad shoulders, muscular arms, and a confident smile.
CK: Whenever I see a tall, curvy, beautiful woman - 6 foot, 180+ pounds, athletic - I must admit I get a little weak in the knees, and my fantasies turn to her dominating, punishing and spanking me. Like Maria Sharapova, or Rebecca Romjin, to pull a couple names out of the air. I think I always felt this way but only recently linked it to my punishment fantasies.
Roz: What a great question. I have never really thought about spanking as such when looking to start relationships. To me a strong, confident personality would be top of the list, along with muscular arms.
Prefectdt: If a woman is of a shorter stature, that helps, that has nothing to do with preference of looks but more that I have found that shorter women are less shy about whupping you harder, when I am in the mood for that. Other than that, square shoulders, long fingers and tidy hair, tend to get my attention. How a woman moves is also a great indicator of how naturally coordinated they are and therefore, more likely to be an accurate striker. And there is the glasses thing, can't forget about that. :)
Rosco: Hmm, a good question.

I’ll start with piercing eyes that look right at you, either sternly or with a smile - but she seems to know what I’ve been up to.

Leather boots maybe. But I also find sweaty women who’ve been working out very sexy. Maybe they’d like to culminate their exercise session by whacking my naughty bottom as much as it needs.

I don’t much like makeup but lipstick can give a woman an air of authority.

Clothing can be tight or loose, “sexy” or not, but dull colors and scratchy wool fabrics turn me off. Shaved pubic hair would turn me off as well - if things went that direction.

I love a stern lecture, but also when a woman teases me and laughs - and when she’s sexually demanding.
A.J.: That an interesting question, but also a difficult to answer question.

"What do you notice about a person that immediately prompts you to want to participate in spanking with them?"

"Immediately" is what makes this one hard. Like the first responder, a friend, someone I have know, someone I like with a whole lot of mischief in her. Willing to take and give as fun, not punishment. (I don't do punishment.) That takes a lot of time so "immediately" takes on a new definition.

"What are the physical characteristics, attire, mannerisms, or anything else that creates a connection?"

As above, someone I like with a whole lot of mischief in her.

Physical characteristics? Not a lot, esp. if she is willing to go otk bare bottom - who cares?

My favorite response to questions like this: "If she has a great tush - I want to spank it! If she has great stems - I want to be over them!"

Attire? Completely nude is always nice. And - an attitude! Whether she is the spankee or the determined spanker.

But my favorite sexy attire for a spankee (or any woman) is - wearing my shirt!
And nothing else. (Sexy panties can also work. For a while.)

Only acceptable accessories are "glasses" for the naughty librarian look, fuck-me-heels, and maybe small pearls (No, I don't know why.)

This is where "attitude" comes in. That outfit with the right attitude on her part, is the submissive who is going to be spanked and then f**ked; or the seductive spanker going to spank me and then demand I f**k her!
Wolfman7446: I like for her to be feminine in character; soft and gentle, with girly gestures such as upturned eyes, which indicate her desire to submit and be led. Attire is important, a pretty dress or skirt is always preferable to pants. Finally, she needs to display her intelligence, which is the most sexy thing about a girl, add in some innocent mischief, and you have a dynamite package!!

I forgot to add one more important item; she conveys her strong desire for me to be her dominant.
Spanky53: For me it isn't anything physical...It's attitude. Playfulness, confidence and a willingness to engage. Everything else is just icing on the cake. And I would say it's the same for anyone who plays with me, because lord knows I am the least attractive person in any room. But then again I do have great hands and a firm lap.
Jean Marie: We've been discussing this question all day as we've traveled. Initially, there was joking about my round bottom and his strong arms & large hands. But it's much more than anything physical for us (& I think most people in the final analysis). I brought up the concept of chemistry, and Robert improved upon it by suggesting alchemy. It's something that is un-understandable, ethereal qualities that blend together to make something golden. That's as close as we could get to an answer.
Rich Person: I think these are great answers. I agree that intelligence, playfulness, and ease with interacting are very attractive.

As for physical qualities, I like enough curves to suggest real femininity. I enjoy dressing my girl and taking her out where she can be seen.

But the thing I find most attractive is intelligence. It suggests that the physical part of the relationship can be very satisfying.

Thanks for posting the question, Hermione.
Hermione: I would look for a telltale gleam in his eye.

Wow! That was fun!

Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Sunday, August 14, 2022

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #448

It's nice to see you all here today. Let's give a big round of applause to Rich Person, who will introduce the topic he suggested for today's brunch.

What do you notice about a person that immediately prompts you to want to participate in spanking with them? That is, for doms and dommes, what would attract you to want to spank or discipline them? For subs, what would attract you to want a spanking or discipline from them? What are the physical characteristics, attire, mannerisms, or anything else that creates a connection?

Please leave your response as a comment. I'll give you plenty of time to think about this one, then I'll publish an edited summary of our discussion.

Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Monday, August 8, 2022

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for August 7

Tell us about your least-favourite implement.

Anon 1: I hate belts, everything about them when it comes to spanking.

Jean Marie: The pain of two different paddles gets through to me most intensely.
I hate the Lexan paddle and I hate the big, fraternity-type wood paddles! They rate as worst on my list, especially if they have holes drilled through them!
I hate it when I'm left with those oval, raw spank spots exactly where I sit, and the skin is left ashy and abraded, as well.
Just thinking about getting it with these makes me shiver.

Barrel: I have never been fond of the heavy wooden paddles as they are too thuddy and can bruise my hip and pelvis bones. But I truly fear our Fetish Fantasy rubber paddle. It is hard and delivers the most intense sensation. I can deal with the white hot brand from our canes, but for some reason, the rubber paddle is more extreme. Maybe the surface area it covers is just bigger? I do fear that paddle when directed to bring it to my wife.

Bonnie: I dislike whippy implements that can wrap around my hips and/or break the skin. We tend to avoid those.

Jack: My mother-in-law gave her daughter a bath brush. My wife mentioned that the hairbrush was not getting the results she wanted. My wife within a week was applying it to my bare bottom, I never felt such a sting, it hurt, I was kicking, squirming, pleading. The spanking dance I did afterwards let my wife know the bath brush got my attention. I have begged her not to use it, the hairbrush hurts enough. 

Wendel: We are not fond of the cane or whip. It will sound silly, but they lack the playfulness that paddles and the belt we use offers. Spankings for us need to be fun. 

Roz: I dislike any implement that can wrap around. Canes I also have a love/hate relationship with, depending on how it is being used.

Prefectdt: I am put off by anything metal. Spatulas, swords, metal rods or anything like that. Although I suspect that my aversion to metal is more psychological than anything else. I was, reluctantly, talked into being spanked with a small, shallow frying pan, a few years ago and as soon as I stopped thinking about it being made of metal and started concentrating on the sensation, that it gave, I enjoyed being spanked with it.

sissy terri: I try to avoid belts by just being on my best behavior. It doesn't always work. If She has Her mind set on a belt, then it's going to be the belt. If She's wearing it, then seeing Her go through the motions of taking it off and all that scene entails can be very arousing. The other implement I try to avoid if there are other people who know about our lifestyle around is the wooden spoon. Primarily because after the discipline, She will often make me stand or kneel in the corner to show off my reddened bottom with the spoon's handle stuck between my cheeks. Very humbling!

A.J.: I'm a mild spanker/spankee so I only use/get the hand applied to bare bottom.
If my or her hand starts to hurt, then it is OK to use a small strap or belt, and maybe a SMALL, LIGHT, wood paddle.
The "moment," to me, is what is important, not the damage that can be done.

Many, many years ago I was with a spanking pal in Calif., and after spanking her otk, she took me otk to return the favor. Then:

Her: Have you ever tried the cane?"

Me: "Not interested!! Too brutal and too ritualistic. Why?"

Her: "I love the cane! It hurts with each stroke, but the heat from it after is amazing."

Me: "Yeah; well I love you. But not interested."

Her: "Don't you want to at least try it???"

Me: "Not really."

Her: "Please! For me? Just one stroke; so you can see what it's like. You may like it."

Me: "OK. One stroke. And not too hard. And to keep you honest, after you give me one, I get to give you one!"


I bend over a table, upper half of my body fully on the table top. She approaches. Takes her time.
Waiting...taps...taps...waiting..aims, then (Swish!)"Thwack!""

And I stood up!!! OK! Lesson learned, I didn't like it. At all, after-glow or not.

Her: "But that was just a light-medium stroke!!"

Me: "Yikes!! It was? You convinced me! Now I KNOW I don't like it."

My one and only time with a cane.

Other no-no's:
Belts and light straps are fine - if carefully applied - but NO WHIPS!
Nothing metal.
No Lexan. 

Ronnie: Wood isn’t my favourite and I don’t like anything that can wrap around. 

Mark: For me any heavy wooden paddle applied hard can rapidly get too much. I also don't like the grey spots that appear even if the paddle has been spread around on the bottom.
Never been spanked with metal or lexan... and don't wish to start now :-).

Hermione: Ron likes to make walking sticks from the fallen branches in our garden. He chooses a straight one, trims it, coats it with plastic sealant, and stores it in a basket in the hall, ready for our next walk. Recently he made a variation of the walking stick. It was a very slender branch, about one metre long, that he trimmed, sealed, and added a loop at the top for hanging. He proudly presented the switch to me, then proceeded to thrash me with it. My word, it stings! It goes to the top of my list of least-liked implements, along with the dressage whip. I hate anything thin and whippy. Lucky for me, the switch does not wrap, so that's a plus.

Anon 2: Usually it is always her hand followed by hairbrush and then the leather strap, very uncomfortable and lot’s of pain but my behaviour improves immediately.

If I have been very naughty she gets a twig and boy does that deliver a message.
Bent over the couch I have to lift and present my bottom to her and ask her politely to punish me for being a very naughty boy.
Anything between 6 and 24 strokes will follow and trust me, 12 or higher makes it really impossible for me to sit or sleep on my back for several days!

Very humiliating and painful, but to be honest, it is always well deserved! 

Rosco: I bought a carpet beater once. It felt like iron when Irene whacked me with it.

Wooden spoons don’t provide much of the satisfying thwack that a paddle does, though they can hurt plenty.

We have mostly leather. The (teskey) quirt and the round handled two-tailed tawse are both deliciously wonderful, but initial strokes on a cold bottom can be a bit much. And the quirt is a whippy little thing that’s hard to control and sometimes Irene will inadvertently strike my balls sending waves of pain through my body (measured strokes on my balls with a riding crop are intense but stimulating- go figure).

It’s been more that 40 years. My bottom has taken a lot but always bounced right back. But I’ve tweaked my back, neck and shoulders a few times - far more serious than a bruised bottom.


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Sunday, August 7, 2022

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #447

Last week we talked about our favourite implements, and I have to admit I was impressed! This week let's discuss the other end of the spectrum.

What implement do you really, really dislike being used on your bottom, or using on someone else's? What steps, if any, have you taken to avoid it?

Please leave your response as a comment below. Once everyone has had a chance to join in, I will publish an edited summary of our discussion.

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Thursday, August 4, 2022

Out of Order

Did you ever feel the need for a snack or a coffee, but were frustrated by a sign that made it obvious you weren't going to get your much-needed refresment?



Never mind. I'll go home and make a cup of tea instead.

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From Hermione's Heart

Monday, August 1, 2022

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for July 31

Tell us about your favourite implement of ass destruction.

Jean Marie: My all-time favorite is the hand. It conveys an intimacy like nothing else.
But I think the question is about other implements beside this. For me, that would be a razor strap made by London Tanners. When used to give me moderate swats, it warms with a radiance like nothing else in this world. It gives a sting that builds but is bearable, but that heat ignites me, consumes me, melts me down. When used to give me hard cracks, it curls my toes, it brings me right to the brink of what I can take. This strap has a metal clip on the end, which has two functions. First, it rattles when swung, so I know to anticipate a lick a second before it lands. Second, I proudly have this favored implement hung up on the wall in a private room. Guests/visitors don't see it, but I know it's there, at the ready.

Bonnie: Our implement preferences shift with the winds. If I get to pick (I don't), my current favorite is a firm, roundish, leather paddle. It's the perfect size for OTK use. This paddle creates a nice warm sting.

Roz: We have never had a large array of implements. My favourite would be our leather paddle.

Mark: I have a homemade leather strap that is about 20" long & 3" wide. It is three layers of thin leather sewn together for a total thickness of 5-6mm. It was sewn with heavy thread on a commercial machine and is beautifully polished.
Being strapped very hard with it is bearable (nice?) and a whole body experience. After a number of strokes it gets nicely harder to take.
I really like the thump, pain, and then blinding white after-pain of a hard cane stroke, but find that I am stiff for a day or two afterwards so don't volunteer for this very often. 

Rosco: Irene uses leather almost exclusively. We have a leather ping pong paddle, a two tailed tawse (importantly with a round handle for her small hand), a riding crop and a quirt. She’ll switch them up so I don’t know what’s coming next.

We haven’t cut any good switches for a few years. We did buy a birch a few years ago which was very fun but it dried out and crumbled eventually.

I think of spanking toys as having unique flavors, and I crave the deliciousness of each when properly applied. Honestly not all blows are equal in satisfaction.

Leather whippy things are most likely to wrap around to the far hipbone, causing decidedly unsexy pain. And once in a while they catch the testicles which can be excruciating. (Though I do enjoy lighter blows on my balls with a riding crop, something I never would have guessed.) But I still like leather, in spite of the occasional errant painful stroke.

Paddles deliver more of a thwack. They’re less like to land wrong but a blow on the tailbone doesn’t go away quickly.

I do love the welts raised by a switch or a birch. They burn deliciously for awhile.

Most important is sufficient duration, intense but not severe.

Rich Person: I like to use the Lexan paddle. It seems to have just the right effect: future obedience. I also like to use a birch switch or a single switch. The birch switch can create a good erotic effect if used without too much force. I would say a hand is a great "implement" because of the physical closeness, especially with the subject OTK.

Generally, I think the term spanking should be reserved for hitting with the hand. So, if there is an actual implement involved, that would be a paddling or a whipping (or caning). I think this helps to convey the level of intensity. So "spanking implement" seems like an oxymoron to me!

Prefectdt: Rattan canes are always my favourite. I think that as a solid implement, that can flex, they can achieve that "even strike across both buttocks" effect, in the most wonderful way. When in the hands of a competent Top or Dom(me) that is. They also come in such a range of sizes and flexibility that gives each one a unique sensation to be experienced.

Ronnie: Rarely do I get to choose an implement, when I do I always go for the leather rose paddle. It covers the bottom nicely and leaves a lovely warm sting.

Jack: I can only respond to this question with what My wife prefers. A gift from her mother, a bath brush, on it, it says, 'Are you Listening?'

Wendy: For general use, I think my favorite is our 1/2” thick cherry wood hairbrush style (but slightly bigger) paddle. It has plenty of sting and a substantial feel without being too much.

Lately, I am also loving a large shiny black acrylic paddle acquired through Etsy, called the “Obsidian.” For being large and thuddy, it also has a nice sting. The after-feel seems to last longer than wood, yet it bruises less.

My husband’s favorite to use on me (which I love to hate) is a plastic pink bath brush. It STINGS!!!

Great question!

A.J.: I'm with Jean Marie - the hand. And for the same reason, it's intimacy with the bare bottom.

I do admit that my personal drawback with the hand is that I/she can wind up with a sore hand and bollix up the moment. (I once spanked a GF who barely reacted to my spanking her, so I kept picking up the pace and intensity! Her? Nothing. Me? My hand hurt so much I had to stop! Told her to get off my lap and find something in her apt. that I could use to spank her.

She did! Came back with a flat wood kitchen tool and a hairbrush from her bathroom! That was on a Tuesday night. By Friday the fleshy part of my hand was black/blue and I made up a story in case someone asked me about it!)

Unlike Jean Marie, not the razor strap but a soft leather belt, whether giving or receiving.

Now, let me change the subject for a moment. I wrote last week's question about wondering what you looked like giving or taking a spanking. I was out for the weekend so I didn't get a chance to respond.

The background is that some years ago I was going through boxes of "stuff" in my house, a couple of them - photographs that went back decades. And in those boxes were nude/topless photos of girls I had dated who let me take them; nothing explicit, just while we were on a deserted beach, skinny dipping, or at home. Fun stuff.*

Years later I was with a switch spanking friend and mentioned those photos, and then thought I didn't have a single photo that included otk spanking; me spanking her or vice versa. And I wondered what I look like while otk and being spanked? Do I wriggle around, kick, twist, take it passively (Ugh...) - what the heck do I look like? On the other side, what did I look like as the spanker. What's my technique? Her reaction? Am I any good? Provide a nice even coverage?

If we were at her place we might have asked her (Wild!) roommate to take a video with my iPhone so I could find out, but she was out. We tried to set up my iPhone where it could record a couple minutes, but could never get the phone to stay in place more than a few seconds. (When I got back to my place it hit me! In my glove compartment was a cell phone holder with a suction cup to be put on the window when using Waze! It would have worked!! Too late, though. So I still do not know what I look like.)**

* Note: I DESTROYED every one of those photos. (I imagined getting hit by a bus and the horror of my family/heirs finding them!) And if I could find those past GF's, I contacted them to let them know they were destroyed. (A couple said thanks; one or two didn't care! Go figure.)

** If we had made a video I would have DELETED IT in a day or two; off my photos file, and off the "Deleted" file, and off the cloud! All THREE places!

Anon: By far, it is my thick, large wooden hairbrush. I love the reactions it brings, the marks it often leaves, the sounds it makes, plus the way it flattens rapidly the area spanked.

I like starting by hand but handing the spankee the brush to keep by her on the floor in eyes' view, and, of course, at the right time, telling her to hand Sir the hairbrush.

Loki_Darksong: My favorite implement is The Cane.

I have always had a fascination with them since reading various scenes in Victorian erotica in my teenage years well as the various caning scenes you would come across in mainstream films.

I love the fact that something so small and flimsy looking is capable of causing the most intense responses in people and leave very beautiful markings afterwards. I still recall the marks I had after caning I got for my 21st birthday!

It is a joy for me to give a good caning and receive one as well for all these reasons.

Anon 2: Wife only has razor strop and it provides plenty of pain with no play.

Hermione: I'll take leather any day, rather than any of the "hard" (wood, lexan, plastic) implements. My favourite is a short, wide leather strap. It has a handle for the spanker's convenience, and a cord attached for hanging it up. The surface is suede, and it's supple but stingy. If I have a choice, I'll pick this one over  any of our leather toys.

Barrel: Certainly my hand made leather strap which I repurposed from a shoulder strap from a carry on suiter. Doubled over itself, added weight in the slapper portion, coaxial cable in the handle, stitched together with heavy thread. My wife can whip both fore and back hand with perfect aim. The leather is starting to split where the handle meets the business end due to extensive use. 

Sub hub: There are two. Both small leather paddles, both the same size and shape. One is a solid leather design, and the other is two fingered.

There you have it! Next week, we'll take this discussion in the opposite direction.

Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart