Sunday, April 30, 2023

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #485

It's the weekend, and that means it's time for another spanko brunch. So get comfortable (if you can) and we'll start.

What is the most expensive item used for spanking that you have ever purchased? It might be an implement, an article of clothing, a piece of furniture, or something else. What prompted the purchase?

Please leave your response as a comment. Once everyone has had a chance to join in, I will publish an edited summary of our discussion.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Wednesday, April 26, 2023

Mixed Messages

Signs, signs, everywhere a sign. If you're old enough to remember that song by the Five Man Electrical Band--or even if you're not--you'll enjoy these signs.

Happy hump day!

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Monday, April 24, 2023

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for April 23

What are your thoughts on going au natural for spankings, or in daily life?

Wendel: All of our spankings are on the bare bottom. It is about even for pants down or naked spankings. Almost always if the Misses sends me to the bedroom I will have to strip and await the spanking. When the Misses has a girl's night out evening, she will give me a paddling to ensure I stay out of trouble while she is out. I have to wait naked in the bedroom while she showers. When she comes out she will drop her towel and paddle my bottom until it glows in the dark. I do love a naked Misses going across my lap and then paddling her while she squirms.

Rosco: I’m the spankee, and often naked. Sometimes Irene will put me in girly panties or make me take a nap in a pink nightie between spanking.

I would never wear socks. Never.

Irene is normally dressed, and will sometimes change clothes a few times during on of our “dates”. She’ll wear skirts and dresses that you might see on the street or at a casual party or maybe costume stuff like a dirndl or tennis player or a Mexican thing. If she’s wearing panties, they’ll come off for cunnilingus followed by intercourse but almost always she’ll leave the skirt or dress on.

Rich Person: We've been to a number of clothing-optional events over the years. Many of them were either spanking parties or regular (public) dungeons. We are pretty casual about nakedness.

We've also been to clothing-optional places (like Lupin), and we went to the nude beach cleanup once or twice. We've also been to nude beaches. And we went to Lifestyles, which is pretty clothing optional, of course.

Roz: Nudity has played a part in spanking for us over the years to varying degrees. Semi to full nudity. At one point we used maintenance spankings which included naked kneeling beforehand.

I have never been that comfortable being naked so hated the naked kneeling. I have got a lot more comfortable over the years though.

Prefectdt: I have no problem with getting nude in a private situation. Which is lucky, as in Belgium, mainstream BDSM is far more common than Spanko culture and a lot of women that I play with, both professionals and fellow amateurs, seem to like the CFNM (Clothed Female, Naked Male) power dynamic. I don't think that this has anything to do with a desire to see me naked, as I ain't young and pretty no more :) If nudity is required of me, as part of a fantasy play scene, again I have no problem with that, in private.

As for the Top getting naked with me, this has happened. With some professionals, it was sometimes a practical thing. Not wanting to get clothes sweaty on a hot day. I did use to have one amateur play partner who liked to get naked to spank me, I never worked out why, as no sexual interaction was ever asked for or offered by either of us. She just seemed more comfortable about playing that way and it never bothered me, as long as she was happy with the situation.

I do like to wear a man thong, when allowed to, but have no problem doing without this, if ordered to be totally Au Natural.

Bonnie: At our house, spankings are delivered on my bare bottom. It may start over clothes sometimes, but those are shed along the way. We also enjoy nude spankings (just me far more often than both of us). Being deprived of clothing changes the punishment dynamic.

I don't mind being nude around Randy, especially for the purpose of spanking/lovemaking but that's as far as it goes.

Fondles: I don't mind being naked if not for feeling cold all the time. But I've always had a problem with standing up naked and being looked over. That just feels terrible to me. Being naked for anything else is fine.

(Also, I'm adding a small note to say that I've unpublished my blog for a few days until Blogger can calm the F down, cos it's flagging all my old posts one by one and I'm getting email spam for adult content. I've put up the sensitive content warning but it's still going on... so I'll pop back online in about a week maybe. Sorry for hijacking this comment thread.)

I'm sorry you are having such problems with Blogger. Looking forward to having you back online soon.

A.J.: "What role does nudity your day to day activities?"

Day to day nudity? Why, Hermione! What ever do you mean?

As for the Q:
If I'm spanking her, it is her bra and panties then nude.

If she is spanking me, I am in boxers while wearing a t-shirt, quickly leading to bare bottom.
The t-shirt is because the room is too hot, or it's more comfortable. If she wants the 'full Monty," fine with me. What is she wearing when spanking me? Her choice; as long as a SHORT skirt is involved.

One more! Roscoe's comment: "I would never wear socks. Never."

That made me laugh!

Some years ago I found the British comedy "Coupling." (Think: a British version of "Friends," with a lot more.) In one of the episodes Jeff, who sees the male-female relationship with remarkable insight, tells the the two other male leads about the danger of "The Sock Gap!" during foreplay.

Jeff: "I mean, where exactly do you take your socks off? My advice is to take them off right after your shoes, and before your trousers. That's the sock gap. Miss it, and suddenly you're a naked man in socks. No self-respecting woman will ever let a naked man in socks do the squelchy with her."

My then GF, watching the show with me and hearing that line, exploded in laughter! And said, "That's so true!"

Barrel: Nudity from my spanker never happens. She is almost always in a full corset and stockings. Me, it depends on what she wants. But that ranges from pantyhose, thigh high’s to panties to nada. She usually likes my behind clear of any obstruction, not that pantyhose does much. With the addition of her new single-tail whip, I am looking for a padded male thong for protection. Any suggestions?

I enjoy nudity…think “Failure To Launch” with Terry Bradshaw’s naked room. While on vacation, I will sit naked on the balcony or terrace enjoying an adult beverage. My wife tolerates that but won’t go that far with me.

Loved this week’s topic. Thanks

JJ Rose: For myself, I'm not super-comfortable with my own nudity unless I'm in a romantic/sexual relationship with someone. I will, however, take my pants down to receive a spanking.

For bottoms I spank, I always like spanking on the bare bottom, but the bottom can negotiate how much they want to wear in terms of clothing and I will always respect that. With my romantic partners it's almost always bare bottom when we're in private.

Hermione: For spankings, a bare bottom is essential, but I prefer to leave everything on above the waist. Socks? I leave them on because mine are all beautifully patterned and colourful, which Ron pretends to hate, so they give him an incentive to spank harder. 

For intimate activities we are both nude, but other than that I am not comfortable going without clothing. There are too many saggy bits that should not be put on display.

Thanks, everyone, for baring your souls today.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Sunday, April 23, 2023

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #484

Welcome back, everyone. I see we have some newcomers with us today. Please don't hesitate to join in the conversation, although today's topic might be a bit "revealing".

What role does nudity play in your spanking relationship, or in your day to day activities? Is nudity something you are very, sometimes, seldom, or never comfortable with?

Please leave your response as a comment. Once everyone has voiced their opinion, I will publish an edited summary of our discussion.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Friday, April 21, 2023

Friday FUN

Let's travel to Montreal, Quebec and enjoy a butt-related gag on some unsuspecting passers-by.


Happy Friday!

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Wednesday, April 19, 2023

Say What?

There used to be a website called Mondegreen; a repository of misheard song lyrics. It was named for the misunderstood line in a folk song, "And laid him on the green." The author misinterpreted this line as "And Lady Mondegreen." Nowadays, the lyrics of any song can be Googled in an instant, but that wasn't always the case.

My mother once had a notebook filled with the carefully written lyrics of all her favourite 50's songs. One song was "That's Amore", and the line that puzzled me appeared in the notebook as "When the stars make you drool just like parsnip arool". What the heck was parsnip arool? Not a dish she had ever cooked. It wasn't until years later that I listened carefully and realized it was her interpretation of "pasta fazool". Fair enough. Italian food was not something anyone in my childhood home had ever heard of, let alone eaten.

The last line of the jingle announcing a popular 60's comedy "Car 54, Where Are You", about cops in New York City, had me stumped. For as long as the show ran, I heard, "Khrushchev's due at Idlewild" as "Khrushchev's due and I go wild". The penny finally dropped when I found out what and where Idlewild airport was.

So now there's a subreddit called r/boneappletea (bon appetit) for common words and phrases that some folks get wrong. Here are just a few:



Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Monday, April 17, 2023

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for April 16

What is your advice for a first-time spankee?

Bonnie: Many thoughts come to mind for this question:
You want this spanking, so just let it happen
Take your place willingly and eagerly
Forget about being in charge
Remember to breathe
Praise and reward your spanker
Demonstrate your gratitude afterward
Embrace the moment and remember how this feels
Try to hold still and not shriek
But a cute wiggle will earn you more
Open yourself to the full experience
Try not to tense or clench
Resolve to make this the first of many

Bob: I am a spanker, but second Bonnie' comments. I'd add communicate in detail first. It's important not to assume anything. I am always willing to answer questions regarding typical quantity, implements, etc, and would expect any spanker you meet to be forthright about it also. Make sure to go through all the rules your spanker will be implementing, to make sure you are comfortable with them. This should include the level of disrobing to be done.

The more you know about each other before your first trip over their knee, the better off both of you will be.

It's like any other relationship. Trust should be given, and earned also, by the behavior of each party.

Wendel: My recommendation is that the first spanking is firm but not severe. Be sure to enjoy the first and the build from there. Also, talk to each other before and after. 

Roz: Some great advice above. I would add try to relax and don't have too many expectations for a first spanking. It more than likely won't be as you imagine it will be. Even with an experienced spanker it can take time to gel, to learn each other's likes/dislikes etc. Also lots of communication both before and after.

Prefectdt: The first thing that I have to say about this is, be prepared to be in for a bit of a shock. Most new spankees, these days, will, hopefully, have never been spanked growing up. When you get your first genuine spanking (that is, excluding introductory pity pat spankings), you will find that it is far more painful than you imagined and totally different from any attempts at self spanking, that you may have tried. Do not be put off by this. If you are a true spanko, the rewards that you will get from enduring the pain will far outweigh the discomfort.

Secondly, I agree with Bonnie, concentrate on your breathing. The strikes and strokes will interfere with your breathing pattern, but try and get over that, as much as possible, and try to inhale and exhale deeply and slowly. You will find that once you have reached the right headspace, this is how you will be breathing naturally anyway. I find that trying to breathe like this from the start both helps me get to that headspace quicker and helps me get through the "O my God that hurts. Why do I do this?" phase of the spanking, by giving me something to divert my attention, a little, from the pain.

And finally, although many people might not like the idea of this, I would recommend finding a good, well known, professional disciplinarian, with an established reputation, for your first time. This will not be cheap, but will be worth the expense. I wish that this option had been available for me, when I started out. I got lucky with my first spanking experiences, but found out later in life that I could have just so easily have been unlucky and I think that would have been psychologically damaging, if that had occurred. Try to save up for a longer session, as well. You need at least an hour, for your very first spanking, if you can afford it try to get a one and a half or even a two-hour session. And be honest from the start, with the disciplinarian. Tell them that it is your first time, that you have no idea what your pain tolerance is, and be open to ideas and suggestions from them. Like any adult instructor, in any field, from work training to learning how to sail, a good professional will be able to walk you through how things work and give you a positive introduction, into the world of real adult spanking, while building your confidence.

Jack: In my case, I opened up about my desire, as a male, as mentioned before was a turn off to many I dated. When it was accepted the woman I was seeing had only one rule, her way. To want such a spanking, one must experience it fully and with her it must be for a reason, not just to do it. So to those first timers, let yourself go, if you wish a truly punishment spanking do something that would prompt such a spanking. You will not know until you do it.

Rosco: Enjoy it. Don’t expect perfection.
Communicate, before and after, during if necessary.
Protect your far hipbone with some implements and your balls if you’re a man.
Try it with a little bondage blindfolds and a stern lecture.

Irene and I do 100% roleplay. If and when I protest, it means I want and need more. If I ask if she can can spank me later, it means now isn’t the best time. 

All this advice is thoughtful and sound. Irene has been spanking me almost 45 years. We talk from time to time about it but during the sessions it’s all roleplay.

Before Irene and when I thought I might be a top at least part of the time, I initiated two impromptu spankings. For the second of these, I simply pulled Tammy across my lap, lifted her skirt and gave her several sharp slaps. Then I paused. “I don’t think I like that” she said.

The first was mor successful. We were thirteen, playfully wrestling on the beach at night when Martha kicked me between the legs. I spanked her, she kicked again, I spanked her again etc. Then we settled down for some passionate making out - my first such experience and, I suspect, hers as well. Vacation was over the next day and I never saw her again. 

Barrel: Wow. All wonderful insight here. So much so that I can’t add much. I agree that breathing is super important. Steady, deep even breaths as the spanking develops. As previously shared, that gets me into the right headspace so I can let the pain in.

In 35 years of being spanked, I do not think I have ever had one that perfectly met what I was envisioning, so be prepared to manage your expectations. But practising can be fun too.

Bob: Perfectdt, great points. My longest term gf/spankee had been with 4 spankers who thought she wanted pretend otk. She had told me she could handle anything with ease. When I provided the real thing on day one, she was taken aback by her own reactions, including temporary losses of composure plus the usual wild squirming. I paused off and on day one, first trip otk with me, recognizing this was indeed her first true spanking.

She did well during it, but I slowed the pace of it down the first time, to let her soak it in in her own timeframe. And yes, I admired my handiwork during the pauses.

A.J.: Rule 1: Expect to be disappointed.
It may be what you always thought it would be, but then again it may also may not.
And that's OK!

Rule 2: It's OK to NOT like it. Maybe you won't. And maybe you'll love it.
So find out. Get spanked, communicate afterwards.
Wait a couple of weeks, then come back and go otk one more time.

(I say this because I remember a woman who desperately wanted to go otk of another woman and found a caring woman who would spank her. Started easy over skirt, leading to a bit harder and then on her bare bottom. "STOP!!" It stopped. She didn't like it at all and had a bit of a red and tingling bottom. She got her clothes back in order and TALKED with her spanker who let her know it's all right. It happens; it's not for everyone. After 15 minutes and with her bottom having a bit of tingle, she went to the door to leave. Door opened, she paused, turned back to her spanker, "Could... uh... would it be all try it again?" Sure. Back otk she went for a bit more. And this time it was different. Those 15 minutes after first going otk, and talking with her spanker - something happened to her!! That "tingle" was nice. She felt comforted. Maybe she should try it again. I don't know if she ever came back for more in the days/weeks after, but I'm guessing she did.)

Rule 3: It's YOUR spanking!! YOU can stop it at any time.

Rule 4: After, when you are alone, maybe in your car and heading home, feeling the tingle on your tush - laugh. Imagine what you looked like otk and getting spanked. And laugh.

Rule 5: "Pick me!!! Pick me to spank you!!!"

Really good comments on this post! Enjoyed reading all of them.
What was in common - the care for the spankee.

Hermione: I was always afraid it would hurt, and I would be embarrassed. When it finally happened, it was just what I always wished for. Sure it hurt, but in a very good way. I was surprised, but just relaxed and let it happen.

appleTom: Hmm, I never had a relationship with a spanker that went beyond a "sampling stage" and turned from "funishment" into a long term "you'll get it whenever you need it, or even if I just feel like giving it to you" type of women. I always kind of wanted to try that sort of thing.

Not that I didn't get some intense spankings on occasions at spanko gatherings, a couple of SCONY weekends, some action at the local dungeon, (BDSM isn't really what I was looking for), but because of the infrequency, I was just riding on the high of scratching my itch. So I was in a space where the pain was either held at bay by the sheer novelty of the situation, (still remember a encounter with a razor strop from a pro that gave me white stars in my visual field, literally!), or an encounter with a leather covered Lexan paddle that was very intense but led me to a technique of just accepting and giving space to the pain that got me though it. But the later was just among a collection of spanko friends, and wasn't delivered more than a few minutes, and not by someone who had the real intent to to deliver a long and severe punishment.


Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Sunday, April 16, 2023

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #483

Last week we discussed how to help a first-time spanker. Now let's turn the tables and assist someone who longs to find themselves draped over the lap of a stern yet kind disciplinarian.

What advice would you give to a first-time spankee?

Please leave your response as a comment. Once everyone has had a chance to respond, I will publish an edited summary of our conversation.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Wednesday, April 12, 2023

Ominous Signs

It's a fine day for a drive in the country, but each small village we pass has an ominous sign that warns us to keep moving.


I'm happy to tell you that we arrived home safely. Next time we'll plan a different route.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Monday, April 10, 2023

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for April 9

What is your advice for a first-time spanker?

Loki_Darksong: If this may seem a bit disjointed it's because I'm doing this from the top of my head rather than write this offline and then post it.

The first thing that comes to mind in giving advice to a new Spanker is to not base all of your expectations of a scene from what you may have watched in a video online. Whether it is a professionally made video or one that is an amateur production, these videos are done by people who at the very least know each other intimately when it comes to a spanking scene and in some cases beyond.

Attempting to emulate what you see onscreen runs a great chance of ending up in disaster, especially if the person you're spanking is also new to the scene. There's going to be plenty of mistakes made down the road but this is one that can be avoided with common sense.

Of course you can be inspired by these productions. While in this current time some within The Spanking Community are reluctant to admit that their inspirations came from the various scenes that were prevalent in both movies and TV series of a bygone era, such information have led many to being across one's lap bare bottomed if applicable. Certainly there are probably plenty of Sheldon / Amy Cooper reenactments going on ever since that famous scene was broadcast.

This is where communication comes in. While it may not appear to be part of a spanking scene, knowing the basic ins and out of the person you are going to be spanking does happen through speaking with said person prior to the spanking itself. This occurs even in those banking videos You see online. You can find such communication within the behind the scenes part of a video.

Speaking to your future spankee is not only informative. It is fun and demonstrates the most important thing of all between a spanker and a spankee.

Respect. You do not spank what you do not respect. And that number one respect comes in the form of knowing what you cannot do when it comes to the person you're about to spank. Respect of what they like and dislike. Respect of whether or not they wish to be dressed or undressed. Even respect of not wanting to do a spanking with you. Respect is a key tenant of the spanking scene. And having that in your first spanking goes a long way to future ones.

There was probably a whole lot more but the moment I'm kind of tapped out and tired. I hope these words do help though.

Roz: If you are spanking someone for the first time or are new to spanking I think communication is the key, finding out what the spankee likes/dislikes etc. Also particularly for a first time seking feedback during and after could be beneficial.

I would also say don't try and jump in boots and all trying various implements etc, build up implement use and intensity over time. You don't want to cause any damage due to inexperience. Some implements take some time to master.

Bonnie: Here's my tutorial on this topic. Make it a positive experience to remember!

Wendel: Make the first spanking fun and then develop from there. 

Rich Person: If the person you spank appreciates the spanking, they will want to do it again. If you want to have this wonderful experience again, look for ways to make sure they appreciate what happened.

On the practical side, I highly recommend Jay Wiseman's book "SM 101". There are so many different modes within the spanking community, that knowing the options is important. As others said here, don't make assumptions. Even if you don't think of what you're doing as kinky, perverted, or SM, there are many tips in his book that can save your bacon.

One thing I've done with a new partner is give them a chance for live feedback. After each smack, they say "harder" or "softer". No middle ground. If they want the spanking to continue, they need to pick one. This allows you to experiment with different levels of intensity.

Happy spankings!

Brett: Practice, practice, practice...

And listen. You should, above your own desire, want to satisfy your partner. 

Prefectdt: 1/ Pre spanking negotiation/Munch is essential, never just go for it, with someone that you have only just met.

2/ Respect all safewords and hard limits, including those on your own list of hard limits. A spanker has just as much right to having a great big NO! as a spankee does. Consent goes both ways, that is important.

3/ Be prepared to learn. There is a lot to learn, but it is not difficult. Start with safe strike zones and how they vary from implement to implement and take it from there. There is a lot of information available on the internet, interact with experienced people to find out which is the good information and which is the bad. And be prepared to keep learning. I have been getting spanked, as an adult, for 39 years now and I know there are still a lot of areas where my knowledge is incomplete.

4/ Double check anything a spankee tells you, even if it is me. People make mistakes, or give incomplete information, or are in a headspace where they are no longer thinking clearly. This is especially important for new female spankers entering the F/m world. Remember that there are not enough women in this field of spanking and there are some guys out there that will tell you any rubbish, especially to make you feel good about yourself, just to get you to spank them. What they tell you might be totally false. Always look for information from multiple sources.

I will stop there, or this comment could go on for some time. I might start a series of posts based on this subject. I think that it would be good if a few bloggers did that too. So that views from different perspectives can be seen.

Jack: That is hard to answer, since it being the first time not knowing how hard to spank, what reaction from the one being spanked. I would have a safe word. I would also say use the hand, no hairbrush, paddle, and as to being bare, well that is up to both parties. In my case, my girlfriend at the time, now my wife, told me I may want a spanking, but she said I needed a spanking, and we talked about it. The spanking was going to be her way, I agreed. I never knew a spanking could hurt so much, and never knew a female could spank so hard. No safe word, I was a mess once off her lap. So it really depends on both parties.

Let me add this, you have reached a part of the relationship where both parties have agreed to a spanking. The best advise after thinking about it, do not hold back, it is best to find out once and for all if your capable of giving a spanking and if the person receiving it can handle it.

Rosco: Honest communication beforehand and after. During, if needed.

If you cause a little unexpected bruising, you’ll be forgiven, but definitely don’t go crazy. The wrong words could stick longer or even ruin a relationship.

Don’t worry if you don’t get it exactly right the first time.

Ronnie: Can't really add much to what others have said. Communication beforehand. listen to your partner, make it a time when you are both ready, relaxed, don't rush. straight into it. Feedback.

Hermione: I can't add anything to what has already been said. I agree with Wendel: make the first one fun. 

Happy Easter, everyone!

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Sunday, April 9, 2023

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #482

Welcome, one and all, to our special holiday brunch. We encourage newcomers and regular readers alike to participate. We are all friends here. There may be some of you here today who would dearly like to experience what it is like to have a plump, eager bottom over your lap, waiting for the first smack, but have never had the opportunity.

What advice would you give to a first-time spanker?

Please leave your response as a comment. Once everyone has had a chance to respond, I will publish an edited summary of our conversation.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Monday, April 3, 2023

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for April 2

We talked about spankings that send a message, and here's what you said:

Bonnie: Yes, absolutely. There are lots of messages. Examples include "I want you to listen to what I'm telling you" or "I'm going to be in charge now" or "You need some guidance" or "I'm going to resolve this problem right now."

He delivers his message through spankings. He forcefully strikes my bare bottom many times with a paddle. It hurts and I get his point. 

Wendel: Pretty much like Bonnie said. The paddle and the belt does all the talking.

Rosco: Pretty much that she wants her pussy licked. Sometimes Irene means to spank longer and harder but can’t wait. She orders me to turn over and smothers me with her ample bottom and precious pussy.

Roz: Oh yes, there is often a message behind the spanking. Either addressing an issue, or it could be making it plain that the spanking is for fun. The message is delivered through the words Rick uses, his general demeanour during the spanking and how he spanks, how hard, whether there are pauses to rub etc.

Rich Person: Yes. As the spanker, the message I'm sending usually, "Don't do that again".

The subtext is, "You are submitting to me." Sometimes that's the text, but usually it's the subtext.

Obviously, there's another message, too. "Your bottom is lovely!" (Especially with this nice red color.) 

Prefectdt: I have never been in that kind of relationship, but I am interested in reading everyone else's answers.

Jack: My spankings are for being a naughty little boy even though I'm the husband. It depends on what I did, for it is not just the spanking but afterwards. Just the normal would be facing the wall with bare bottom on display.

KDPierre: I don't think we've ever done a spanking without SOME sort of message. Naturally on the behavioral end, the message is usually one to behave in the future and to be currently contrite for whatever already happened. And Rosa has also done preventive warning spankings where the message is kind of "Your sore butt will help remind you to behave while we're out."

I'm very big on understanding what a spanking is for. Even a requested spanking is asked for with a reason. I can't imagine enduring the pain of a spanking without knowing why, even if the message is one of play or fun. In whatever case the message is conveyed verbally for clarity, and then punctuated with smacks for reinforcement. 

Barrel: Absolutely! When a session is spawned by bad behavior or disrespect, my wife uses the opportunity to send a message. Spanking is usually a prelude to her use of the strap, tawse and two delrin canes. She uses each to deliver a different lesson, often times asking if I “understand” her message, after which she tells me she doubts that I do and I get a long volley of what ever she has in her hand. I have to say when she is using the thin cane, it is eye watering. After years of these thrashings, I do believe her messages are opportunities for me to learn and improve. Great question this week. Thank you.

A.: All my spanking, giving or receiving, is for the sheer fun of it, and always leading to amorous activities! I don’t think that qualifies as “sending a message” (or does it?), so I’m going to say no.

Ronnie: Pretty much as Bonnie says. P delivers his message through the spankings, Bad behaviour, not listening to him, fun. 

Hermione: I'm in the minority here, along with A. Our spankings are purely foreplay, and there is no message other than looking forward to what comes next.

Thank you all for sharing. See you next time!

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Sunday, April 2, 2023

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #481

Greetings! I've been busy baking, and the last batch of rolls is ready to come out of the oven. Grab one -- careful, they're hot! -- and let's get on with today's discussion.

Does the spanker in your relationship sometimes spank to send a message? If so, how is that accomplished?

Please leave your response as a comment. Once everyone has had a chance to respond, I will publish an edited summary of our conversation.

Thank you, Bonnie, for suggesting the topic.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart