KDPierre's Favourite Implement

 

This is a photo of our homemade lucite paddle resting against the very lovely feet of my Honey, Rosa. The paddle was made by using different types of saws to cut the shape seen from a piece of thick, clear, acrylic plastic, and then ground and sanded so that its edges were smooth. I have a typically smallish "boy-butt" and this paddle was custom designed to allow Rosa to spank it very efficiently whether bent over a bed or table, or over her lap. The paddle is rigid and hefty which means it imparts admirable sting with even a mere wrist flick, but is durable enough to be employed forcefully if Rosa chooses.....which she often does. 

We have other implements, but this one is probably used at least 90% of the time if not more. It's easy to use, concealable for transport, can be used in a variety of positions and for various situations from play to punishment, and can deliver anything from a crisp sting all the way to a blistering whack.

Thank you, KDPierre. I've had many responses, so watch for more favourites in the weeks to come.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

What's Your Favourite Implement?

At last week's brunch, Sage Blum suggested that readers tell us about their favourite implements. Our good friend Barrel then reminded me that he had made that same suggestion some time ago, with an added enhancement. Barrel, I apologize for the delay, and Sage, thank you for the idea.

Do you have a favourite implement that you would like to tell everyone about? If so, please send me a picture of the implement, along with a description of why you love it, how and when it is used, or whatever details you wish to share. My email address is on the right sidebar of this post (without the spaces). Do use an anonymous email, if you can, or specify what pseudonym you would like me to use.

Here's my favourite implement, the dogging bat. It's leather, which I love, and makes a lovely loud smack. It isn't severe at all, but is great for a warmup before the main event.

I'm looking forward to hearing from you, and I'll post your replies as they come in.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for April 21

Are any implements a hard "No" for you?

Anon: I always refuse to use any implement which may crack skin. Redness rocks, bruising and handprints or brush prints are fine. Breaking through the skin level is a hard will not do.

Mark: We don't have discussed hard limits but we had a heavy rubber paddle that bruised me badly and I quietly disposed of it...

Rosco: Sure.

Irene likes the satisfaction of being able to deliver a good whack. Nice I bought a carpet beater but it was too stiff and hurt way too much. Once in a while I cut switches - they’re delicious but you gotta get em right.

Intense but not severe.

She’s overdone it a few times, but only a few - and sometimes she misses the sweet spot and whacks my testicles hard or a whip wraps around to the far hipbone. I like it to hurt but there are limits.

Sage: I retired the lexan paddle we had, and probably will retire the cane. Everything else we've tried seems good by me. I really don't like serious pain. And like sting rather than thud. Have returned things just because they were thuddy. We use wooden implements less often than leather ones, since I like leather better on most days. And since my vanilla partner would have a cow if he left marks on me, he doesn't. I am pink or red after a spanking, but if a mark looks like it's starting to appear, he adjusts his use of the implement so that doesn't happen.

Roz: We haven't really discussed hard limits when it comes to implements, but are on the same page that we wouldn't anything extreme, such as whips etc. I would like to add canes.

Dan: Rubber straps. All of our spankings are disciplinary and meant to hurt a lot, but those showed me that, even within our spanking niche, there is such a thing as too much. They also had a tendency to break skin, which was a big issue for my wife. Also, one of them smelled like an old tire. So, the rubber straps all ended up in the dumpster.

KDPierre: Over time we've just sort of mutually gravitated to what works best for us, with some implements being eventually retired, others kept for special times, and still others given hallowed status, but I can't recall anything that was a "hard limit".

A.J.: Pretty much "hands on." Maybe a small strap/belt if the hand starts to hurt.

I'm romantic that way.....

Prefectdt: Just saying “Delrin” seems to sum it up for me. I have a delrin cane, that has not cut the air for nearly 2 decades now, and that languishes at the bottom of the toy box. It just gives the wrong type of pain and I cannot process it, mentally. I hope one day to find someone who likes delrin and I can donate it to them. It seems such a sad waste to throw away a perfectly good toy.

Graham: Nothing that could cause real damage. We do like canes, which can certainly draw a little blood on occasion which is a sign to stop very soon! 

Wendel: We are not fond of canes or whips that can wrap around the hips. Paddles, straps and belts are favorites.

Barrel: We do not have any limits and have continued to dial our sessions up, both in duration and intensity. My wife likes the feeling she gets when she puts me into compromised territory because she knows it is what I want, and most often, what I need. We both get the endorphin rush from a serious thrashing. She really tries hard to not let our thin delrin cane wrap onto the sides of my thighs, and has grown quite proficient with it. However, in the heat of the moment, it will and deliver a deep wale. I am fine with it and wear them as a badge of honor, with fond memories.

Marie: My personal hard limits (with anyone) are anything with holes (like a paddle or strap with holes), anything rubber, lexan, synthetic canes like delrin, frat style paddles that cross both cheeks, and typically anything plastic other than the Mason Pearson hairbrush I have.

I tend to gravitate towards thud and especially enjoy leather.

Ronnie: We know what works for us. We don't do hard limit implements though some would say the cane was:), but not for me.

FL: Not so much a hard limit as being perfectly happy with the classics; hand, hairbrush, belt, and (rarely) cane. Both for their physical effects and their compatibility with domestic discipline role play.

Hermione: One of the early episodes of "Doc Martin" comes to mind. A man with a variety of injuries was a frequent visitor to the surgery. When Doc Martin went to their house on an emergency call, he found the man wearing leather and stuck in an apparatus that belonged in a dungeon. The couple were inexperienced and a little too enthusiastic in their BDSM explorations, and the result was a myriad of sprains, lacerations and dislocations. 

As for us, I submit to anything Ron cares to use, because I know he won't cause me any real harm. I'm not a fan of the dressage whip, and there is a delrin paddle that has never been used. 

On the flip side, Ron once bought a lovely red leather strap for me on Valentine's Day. After one use, he was disappointed that it didn't produce much of an impact. He's only used it once since, when I had hidden all our implements due to a family visit, and hadn't put them out again, so he had to use what he could find.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #536

For those of you in the US, tax time has come and gone. We in Canada have another week and a half before our deadline, so Ron and I will be busy getting our forms together and hoping our tax software will cooperate. 

Our good friend Bonnie suggested this week's topic, which might provide some incentive for not procrastinating with those taxes.

Do you or your partner have hard limits in terms of spanking implements?  Are there some that are too extreme to be used?

Please leave your response as a comment below. Once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish an edited summary of our conversation.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for April 14

This week we discussed inaccurate assumptions made about ourselves or others.

Anon 1: Of course, initial assumptions are pretty much always 99% of time wrong.

Anon 2: My longest term spankee had me alarmed by first picture she sent me. It was from the front and her wrists looked so tiny, I incorrectly assumed her bottom would be insufficient to take my spankings. I was delighted to find myself wrong when we met.

Graham: Indeed. Some folks will draw conclusions from seemingly anything. Our current tendency to communicate by emails and texts is a poor substitute for talking in person, and that also applies to business and other important communications. Of course, in person communications on sensitive issues like spanking and sexual preferences is not practical in many, if not most, instances. As they say, it is what it is.

Dan: I think that people who aren't in F/m relationships sometimes assume that because I am in a relationship in which I receive disciplinary spankings from my wife, I must be submissive or meek in other parts of my life. Far from it.

With respect to whether I have been in error in assumptions about someone else, I'm sure it's happened more frequently than I think. The specific example I can think of is that when we first started with F/m disciplinary spankings, I assumed that most of the men who were seeking it were dominant personalities in their daily lives and that they were attracted to being on the receiving end of a F/m discipline/spanking relationship because they want to give up some of the control that went along with their dominant/Alpha personalities. I now believe that belief was based on a small data set (a limited number of guys I had interacted with on-line), and also a fair amount of psychological projection on my part, i.e. I assumed that because I fit that profile, others did as well. 

Sage: When I first started reading spanking blogs, just a few months ago, I thought every spanko except me was into punishment. Because that seems to be what most of the writing is about. Was glad to find out I'm not alone being into erotic spanking and stress release spanking.

Communication is difficult among humans in general. So we shouldn't be surprised when sometimes it isn't clear. It's super easy to misunderstand one another.

“The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” ― George Bernard Shaw

Bonnie: Yes, definitely, many times. I describe who I am on my blog, but guys (it's always men) want to write to me without even reading the summary.

I'm a happily married and monogamous spanko grandmother. I'm not a top. I don't play with anyone but my husband. I'm not a young girl nor have I been one for a very long time. I don't sell my panties. I don't know anyone who will play with you in a town 2000 miles from here. I don't do 1:1s. I don't sell photos of my butt or spanking videos. No, you can't come over. I may be submissive, but I'm not your submissive. I don't want to FaceTime. And I really, really don't need to see your revealing selfie.

I am willing to exchange email with just about anyone, especially if it's about our favorite subject, but please show a little courtesy.

Wendel: Amen Bonnie. I fully agree--except that part about being a grandmother, a girl and the whole panties thing for erm, you know, obvious reasons. I did ask the Misses once if I could sell her panties and I did not sit for a week.
Seriously, This is the only spot where I post anything. If I did post or if the Misses posted we would not care what anyone thinks. We do our thing and enjoy it. 

Prefectdt: Yes, but it is mostly a historic problem for me, pre-internet days, when meeting someone face to face was often the first time that you got to know anything about them. It is worse when I am suited and booted, but has happened at other times too. Some people would presume that I was a disciplinarian rather than a submissive. Just something about my appearance, I suppose.

KDPierre: The worst experiences I have had, which were frequent enough to indicate that this is a trend among folks locked into a power dynamic mindset, and not a fluke, are the assumptions that one's role equates to the validity of their opinion or their knowledge, with Tops of both genders being treated by the subs of the opposing gender as though anything they say is like genius advice written in golden script while opinions of subs are dismissed as irrelevant. This is pure nonsense and it is demeaning and infuriating to have subs turn on other subs just so they can appear to kowtow to the resident dominants. Being a dominant doesn't make you right, being a sub doesn't mean you should just shut up, and being in a power dynamic relationship with one person doesn't mean one is submissive to anyone and everyone who feels like calling themselves a Top.

On my end, I have made assumptions on whether people are who they say they are, that may or may not have been true. Online no one will ever know, although in a couple of instances later slip-ups and revelations have confirmed my assumptions. These assumptions are based on a gut feeling that arises when reading certain things that just don't sound like something a person of that gender would say. But again, unless some instance later reveals the truth, we often will never know, and as I admitted, it is quite possible that I have been wrong about some people. 

Sage: I think that one thing that makes communication about sex or romance so difficult is that sex is infantile. I don't mean for kinky people. I mean for everyone. Who truly understands anyone else's infantile fantasies that their sex & romantic life is about? Who of us truly understands our own ways of feeling cared for and secure when treated in certain ways that don't necessarily make other people feel cared for or secure? 

Roz: I would say undoubtedly yes. Online communication rather than face to face always has its limitations and we have a tendency to only share snippets, especially with such a intimate topic.

Hermione: Within the last group of people I worked with, I would have been considered a domme rather than a sub. They would have been amazed to know I was a submissive spanko. 

A.J.: "...has anyone ever made inaccurate assumptions about you, or treated you differently, based on the role you told them you were in?"

Actually, no. But I'd have to think about who I ever told of my "activities" outside TTWD, if they too were not into it in some form. I'm too private about that, and so were my partners (in fact, more private than me.)

More surprising to me was my thinking THEY were weird or obsessed about it, bordering on perversion (Who LIKES to "hit" people?), and my finding - they were all very nice people! Who simply happened to like spanking from either side of the lap.

And Sage, "...every spanko except me was into punishment"?

Nope! Not me, and not any of the women that played with me. We were all interested in the erotic fantasy of it, most of the time leading something sexual, or wanted a stress release spanking.

I do remember the first time my GF, feeling a lot of stress from work, one day asked for a spanking, but this one was to be HARD. A REAL spanking so her mind might get focused elsewhere.

I told her, "No." I can't do it and wouldn't like doing it.
She asked again. And again. And I relented.

I quit about a minute into it. She felt it!!! And I saw it. And I saw her bright red bottom! I asked her what her feelings were, and it was, "Well, I'm not thinking about work anymore!" while furiously rubbing her tush.

That was on a Sunday afternoon. The next day she was at work and nothing had changed. A spanking was not going to change the reality at her place of work.

We stuck to fantasy/erotic spankings. Welcome to the club!

Things are seldom what they seem,
Skim milk masquerades as cream. - Buttercup

 

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #535

Greetings to all my readers. We are currently experiencing a spell of wet weather over the next several days, so it's the perfect time to stay indoors and chat with like-minded friends. Our good friend KDPierre sent me this topic, which is certain to provoke some lively discussion.

When discussing your interest in spanking, either online or in person, has anyone ever made inaccurate assumptions about you, or treated you differently, based on the role you told them you were in? Conversely, have you ever made incorrect assumptions about someone else?

Please leave your response as a comment below. Once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish an edited summary of our conversation.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

If the Cap Fits

Wear your pain proudly!

Boru found this so-appropriate cap here.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for April 7

Do you think it's necessary for spankings to feel deserved, that the spankee earned the punishment?

Bonnie: My answer is no, but the experience is more meaningful when I feel I am being spanked for a reason. Even when that reason is contrived, it still promotes a corporal punishment headspace that I find beneficial.

Sage: The question of whether my spankings are deserved is a question of whether I've been good enough to deserve them. Because I'm not into a punishment head space, but I love spankings. My partner thinks I'm good enough to deserve the pleasure of them. So I'm glad of that.

I am curious as to what is beneficial about a corporal punishment headspace, for those of you for whom it is so good that you create reasons why you deserve punishment. So if anyone wants to tell me, I'd love to hear your answer.

B: Our spankings are recreational, but always have a "reason." The reason is often determined during the spanking itself. I'll hold out as long as I can and then admit my misdeeds. The spanking proceeds, of course, until I'm properly punished.

Graham: It just depends on the parties' mood and what scenario they want. We often spank just for fun, to enhance our pleasure or as part of game such as Scrabble, Trivial Pursuit, gin, ping pong, pool, etc.

That said, I find that receiving "disciplinary" spankings to be quite rewarding even though the "reason" may be somewhat contrived as noted above. Even so, no one is perfect, so it's not that hard to find a good "reason" for the spanking.

Finally, "I just want to give you a spanking" is a fine enough excuse!

Roz: Our spankings happen for discipline or punishment, to affirm our roles in our dynamic or for fun so no, for me I don't have to feel I have 'deserved' a spanking for it to be effective. In fact, often the fun spankings can be the most intense.

Norse Cavalier: Most of the spankings I give are for fun, so "deserved" doesn't really factor into it. Maybe you could make an argument that she doesn't 'deserve' to have so much fun, but I'm willing to spank her anyway - I'm very charitable like that.

As for punishment spankings, I'm not sure that I could give a punishment spanking if the young lady didn't agree that she deserved it. Consent is key, even for punishments. Maybe if it was a case of her going, "I don't agree that I deserve a punishment spanking for this, but I have complete faith in your judgment, so I'll submit anyway," but nothing like that has happened to me yet.

Luvinhub: When we entered into a Wife led Marriage with DD I gave my consent for my wife to spank me any time, any where, for any reason. So with that a spanking did not have to be deserved. Eventually we incorporated maintenance spankings to ensure I knew to behave and be obedient, to know my place, and a reminder that my wife was in charge. So, again no.

Since stepping out of our WLM she has spanked me once or twice from my asking. For me, agreeing with Bonnie above, spanking had more meaning with a reason whether that reason was deserved punishment or for general maintenance. 

Prefectdt: That definitely would not work for me. Once I am over the initial “OMG! That hurts, why do I do this?” it is only very seldom that I do not enjoy a spanking. So spankings as a punishment is not for me. Spankings as a reward, however, might get the desired effect.

Rosco: For Irene and me, it’s all a fun, roleplay sex game. When she spanks me, she usually makes up some story that I was caught peeking into the women’s locker room or any of a million similar themes. Occasionally, it’s because I didn’t do a chore or two at home but it’s a tiny part of our game.

The story is important for both of us. A spanking without cause is like a hot dog without mustard.

But if she were really annoyed with me for some reason, she’d never spank me. She might ignore me, however.

KDPierre: For me personally, I find it essential that a punishment spanking feel deserved. In fact, submissive or not, if I feel the declared punishment is undeserved, I will not submit to it until we hash it out. Often during this process Rosa will explain things in a way that help me see her point and once I am clear on things, I will then submit. Other times she sees my point and we resolve the issue without a punishment. I think if a couple is doing discipline for real life offenses, submitting to a spanking that feels undeserved might make for great submissive fantasy, but in reality, is only going to breed resentment over time. This is not to say that this policy is a free pass to avoid a spanking "I don't want". "Wanting" is not part of the DD equation, and in fact, NOT wanting it is probably a good sign the punishment is going to be effective. I'm only talking about objecting to something where there is ambiguity, which is rare, but does occasionally happen.

We do other types of spankings though, and for them, we usually have a 'reason' which is similar to those others have already mentioned. Even if the reason, is "just because". LOL I can even handle getting spanked for something utterly unfair if the atmosphere around it clearly recognizes that. I have even been a spanking proxy (taking punishment spankings in place of the actual guilty party) several times and have no problem with that, since the spanker recognizes that I am a proxy and not directly guilty of the offense.

I guess you could say that all the spankers in my life know that I will cooperate and go along with just about anything, as long as the reasons are clear and accurate.

Anon: While my spankings are few and far between because they are certainly something nobody would want on a regular basis they are not only deserved but well earned.

Sage: Fascinating stuff. Thanks for everyone who's sharing experiences. One spanking blogger I read, thought that the domestic discipline arrangement was cooked up by spankees for the purpose of insuring that they would be spanked regularly.
Spanking me is foreplay for my vanilla partner, so he's happy to do it. But as we grow older, if he can't have sex any more, maybe I'll need some excuse for him to spank me. Though, given my unpleasant experiences with punishment during childhood, I'll probably think up some excuse that will be more enjoyable to me personally than punishment.
Spanking blogs are so interesting. One writer said she was never punished as a child and thought parents who punished their kids must really care about them, so punishment scenarios made her feel cared about. 

Wendel: We are not into punishment spankings. Obviously there is some reason as to why we get spanked but the reasons are only for fun. Quite often the reason is just that we want to give or be spanked. The Misses says she loves to have a sore bottom. Same goes for me as well. 

Sore is More: The punishment spanking fantasy is definitely the most potent aphrodisiac for me and get the proverbial juices flowing in no time. But that's where the reality and fantasy do not collide. Will I ever be able to truly submit to one, the time will tell. As for now, I enjoy immensely writing them.

Sage Blum, my most heartfelt thanks to you for all the kind words and for reminding me how much I loved Izzie and Nick story. I'm back to writing it. The story I'm working on right now as part of A to Z challenge is in fact Izzie's backstory. Kind of a dead-dove variety but I promise, things will get better, as Aldous is Izzie's now ex-husband. Plenty of punishments there...

Hermione, sorry for the shameless plug but I miss you all, my dear fellow bloggers, and I'm glad to be blogging again daily!! I suggest to start with letter A.

Marie: Not at all! While I do think there is room for me personally for actual punishment, it's rare and self-driven vs imposed externally by someone else. I *enjoy* being spanked - in lots of different ways. Sometimes, "enjoy" is complicated and what I want and/or need is something that I don't actually like or enjoy in the moment but it's good for me. Discipline is a lot like this for me. It has nothing to do with having "earned" the spanking in the traditional sense of it being *reactionary*, but rather that discipline is good for me, makes me feel good, and is a way of intimately connecting with another person. I deserve that, 100% - but it's not reactionary in a "you deserve to be spanked because you've been naughty" kind of way, if that makes sense. I don't enjoy making up silly or "funishment" reasons for spanking either - I understand the drive and where it comes from, it just doesn't work for me.

KDPierre: To Sage: you said: "One spanking blogger I read, thought that the domestic discipline arrangement was cooked up by spankees for the purpose of insuring that they would be spanked regularly."

I'm sure that given the diversity of participants in this very broad, and personally motivated lifestyle, that may be true for some folks somewhere, but making it a blanket assumption, or asserting this is the sole reason, only serves to illustrate the author's lack of experience...and perhaps their personal prejudices as well.

FL: Spanking and role play, for me, go hand in hand. Or hand to cheek, as it may be. So yes, being spanked as punishment is a huge part of it. The reasons were contrived, the roles were assumed for the duration only, but the spankings were very real.
I have, on occasion, acted in a manner to provoke a spanking but it never really worked; it was more annoyance than provocation and more likely to lead to a row than a spanking. So fantasy role play was what worked best.

Hermione: We don't spank for punishment, so deserving isn't part of our equation.

Jack: Having a marriage based on FLR, my spankings are always for punishment. I may think I don't deserve a spanking, but my wife/mommy decides.

Is anyone planning a spanking during the total (or partial, depending on where you live) eclipse? 

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #534

Welcome, one and all, to our weekly discussion. I think you'll enjoy this week's topic, suggested by our dear friend Bonnie.

Do you think it's necessary for spankings to feel deserved, that the spankee earned the punishment?

Please leave your response as a comment below. Once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish an edited summary of our conversation.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for March 31

What one change would make your spankings better?

Rosco: Hmmm ….

Comfortable support for my head and neck. I try to use pillows so I don’t have to turn my head to the side.

Or, If I weren’t in a very happy monogamous marriage, I’d liked to be spanked by the entire women’s volleyball team.

Bonnie: Maybe if we didn't have to spend our days working, we'd have more time for fun.

Maybe if we could be 40 years younger, we could do it all again, but differently this time.

Maybe if we had a fully equipped and soundproofed spanking dungeon, we could have elaborate ceremonies.

But even without these unlikely wishes, our spankings are still pretty good.

Roz: More time and less life getting in the way. Oh, and yes, a soundproof room.

Barrel: Consistency and frequency. We let too much of life’s distractions get in the way of our spankings. I know many of you have a weekly date and time for your activities. We have tried, even putting appointments on our joint calendar. But my wife’s low libido and interests allow social and grandkid activities to trump spanking. So, maybe I am convincing myself what we miss is commitment to spank? I’m interested to see what else is shared.

Wendel: Distance from the neighbors would be nice. The neighbors around our US home are pretty close. There are times when we worry about the sounds. I like the idea of a sound proof room but I think it would limit the activity. Bottoms are not immune from spankings, paddlings or whippings in any room of the house which adds to the already enjoyable activity.
We have a home in Ireland as well and the nearest neighbor is more than a quarter mile away. No sound proofing needed so the spankings can take place in any room in the house with no worry. 

Sage: Late last year, my life suddenly became perfect through the addition of spankings, so I don't need anything else right now. Looking back, it seems amazing I waited so long to ask my partner for them.

Jack: I asked my wife/mommy to address this question. My spankings are punishment, our marriage is strong because she wears the pants. Her answer would be to make me wait longer, having me stand with pants and underpants around my ankles, longer scolding, sometimes a person to witness the spanking, especially my mother-in-law. She added that the one thing that was missing was the bath brush and once she started using that, the results improved the spanking. Just another view on the subject.

KDPierre: That's an easy one! Being 20 to 30 years younger!

Prefectdt: Simple answer, more spankings, more often and not having to travel so much, to get spanked.

Hermione: I would like to hear the words that start my juices flowing, like "You've been a naughty girl, and you need a good spanking". Ron's the strong, silent type and lets his hand do the talking.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #533

Welcome, dear friends, to our weekly celebration of all things spanking. Today's topic was suggested by our good friend and fellow blogger Bonnie.

What one change could make your spankings better?

Please leave your response as a comment below. Once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish an edited summary of our conversation.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for March 24

Do hand spankings work for you?

Bonnie: I love receiving hand spankings from my husband. It's just so intimate. Unfortunately, this doesn't happen very often. Randy has endured a series of hand and wrist problems over the years that limit his capacity for delivering spankings. We think spankings may have played a role so we are very careful. Spankings are supposed to hurt, but not that way.

Fortunately, his ability to swing a paddle is mostly unaffected.

Anon: They can be very effective. I find it easier to target the sit spots by hand. I also like the moment later on when the spankee reveals she spotted the hand print which occasionally occurs.

Like any other form of spanking, the keys IMO are covering every speck, with absolute firmness. Any good spanker understands well when the spankees reactions are showing effectiveness.

Wendel: A good old fashioned hand spanking is wonderful. Hard to beat (pun) the feel of the bare hand smacking the bare bottom. After countless spankings with the paddle and belt a hand spanking really does not cause much pain for us. The butt turns red and stings a little but the intimacy from the smacks is far more enjoyable than the actual spanking. 

Sage: I love hand spankings but they hurt my partner's hand after a while. So I bought this leather hand protector called a spanking buddy, from Cane-iac. It's fantastic. It stings more than his hand does. In fact, if he whacked me harder, it could be a punishment spanking, if we did that, but we don't. He can spank me a long time with it, without his hand hurting at all. Not sure why it's so effective, but it is. It spanks great for foreplay for him, and foreplay and stress release for me.

Can-iac is such a marvelous place. I can't believe they're going out of business. All the stuff I've gotten from them has been top quality, though I love the horse brush and the leather stuff the most. 

Sadly, people outside the US are unable to access their website.

Graham: For M/F hand spankings can work fine. For F/M, I find them OK for a warm-up, but I need considerably more than just the hand for the rest of the session.

Wolfman7446: I have always enjoyed giving hand spankings, My hand was very calloused due to work and I never felt any discomfort in administering them. However, if the girl had been appropriately naughty, a hairbrush would have been in order.

Roz: I love the intimacy and connection of a hand spanking and yes, it can be very effective!

Norse Cavalier: I love giving OTK hand-spankings; they are by far my favourite type! As for "effective", that depends on what you mean by the word. When I deliver a punishment spanking (which is rare), I prefer to end it with my clothes brush to make the spankee feel truly sorry for what she's done. But I always start with the hand, regardless of whether it's a fun spanking or punishment.

The longest hand-spanking I've ever given was about two hours, I think. There will be some slight stinging in my hand, but not much. At one party I was at, I gave a hard hand-spanking for about twenty or thirty minutes, and a guy that was watching (and is new to the scene) was concerned and asked whether my hand was OK. Interestingly, he did not ask whether the young lady's bottom was OK.

Prefectdt: I find that the answer to this question tends to vary, depending on how seasoned the hand of the person giving the spanking is. The problem with hand spankings is that butts spank back and anyone with a hand that is not experienced and tempered will not give an effective spanking before it becomes too painful for them. Other people can give very effective hand spankings. I experienced one professional who used to make me sigh with relief, as she reached for her hairbrush, when I was over her knee.

Jack: My first spanking as an adult was a hand spanking, an older woman I was seeing. Nothing sexual, she had enough of my attitude and decided a spanking was needed. Oh I was given a choice end the relationship or take the spanking. I took the spanking, a bare bottom hand spanking that had me squirming, kicking, pleading and trouble sitting. My wife/mommy will sometimes do a hand spanking, but mostly it is the bath brush.

KDPierre: As a guy spanking a female (at those times when I switched) I found hand spankings to be effective. However, as a male spankee, getting one from a female? Never--not once--have they ever been even the least bit effective, even when I was just starting out. 

A.J.: "Why do you think hand spankings work or don't work for you? "

I only give/get hand spankings that are not hard or punishment, and for the reason so many have already mentioned - the intimacy. I just love her warmth when otk, love baring her bottom and hearing her little squeak when her panties are pulled down, the pre-spanking feel and caresses of her tush. On the flip side, when it's me otk - the same! (Without the squeak, though.)

It's just fun. An implement takes that fun away (to me.)

"Do you find hand spankings to be effective?"

For me and her - yes. Because the goal is a nice pink tush leading to further intimacy if-you-know-what-I-mean-and-I-think-you-do.

Quick story #1.

I had a wonderful woman, an Asian-American and a spanko, over my knee for our first time spanking, using only my hand.
Her reaction?
"Yawn..."
So I pumped up the intensity!
"Yawn..."
Really pumped it up!!! Spanking almost has hard as I could!!!! A fer'-real spanking!
"Yawn..."

So we paused and I asked her why. She said, "Asian butt. We have butts like leather."

I didn't know if that was true and told her I'd have to do more "research," and she would have to supply me with some Asian-American girl bottoms for testing! Yeah; that didn't happen.

She wanted more and my hand really hurt, so I made her go get me something in her apartment that I could use to take care of her - properly! She got off my lap and started to pull her panties up and..."No! Panties stay were they are!"

The highlight of the evening!!!

The sight of her bare bottom as she walked away in little steps, hobbled by those panties at her ankles; and that same view as she came back with a small paddle - priceless!!! Still makes me smile. Come to think of it, she was smiling, too.

My hand hurt all the way home. By morning I noticed it was swollen; later it started to turn black and blue at the thick part of my palm. This woman was one of the very few I played with where a hand spanking was just not going to work, so that little paddle was used.

Quick story #2.

On a grueling road trip and needed a massage. Found one, and in a "What the hell" moment asked if she would also spank me. By hand, of course.
Her: "You want that? For me to spank you? Really?"

"Yes."

As so she did. OTK she pinked me up pretty good with about 150 gentle-to-mild with her bare hand. And it was over. And fun.

But then I had to be the damn fool, I asked her for a bit more. "Just" 100 more, all bare hand on bare bottom but, this time, HARD and FAST! A real spanking. I told her I wanted what I called The Angry Girlfriend" spanking.

Her, carefully: "Are you sure...?"

Yes. Simple. Just 100.

Big mistake!

And I knew it from the first smack. With the next two in rapid succession I inhaled all the air in the room, grit my teeth, and held on, hoping not to yell! And since I ASKED for this, well, big boy, you gotta' take it!

It lasted all of 20-25 seemingly endless seconds. My butt was on fire.

I was on a flight home the next day - and I could still feel it! Forty hours later and getting into bed - I could still feel it.

Lesson: Be careful what you ask for. Especially from someone who uses their strong hands and arms to make a living.

Did I "find (that) hand spanking to be effective?"

Oh God, yes!

It's funny,now; at the moment less so!

Rosco: Irene, my darling wife, cannot spank my bottom nearly hard enough with her hand to feel even the slightest sting. 30 years ago maybe, but not now.

But she can slap my balls or penis and get my attention for sure.

Ronnie: I love hand spankings. I find them very intimate and yes they can be very effective.

FL: Absolutely they can be effective, as well as incredibly intimate. Of course there are many variables but unless the goal is maximum pain, a hand spanking can produce whatever effect is desired, when delivered with some skill and connection between parties.

Hermione: OTK hand spankings are my absolute favourite in stories; in real life, not so much. I find the position uncomfortable. Whenever Ron uses his hand, it's only for a few brief smacks. They never hurt very much, but the closeness, as others have said, is what counts. For good effect, leather implements do the job.

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #532

Just when I thought spring was here, it snowed again! But my motto is, when life hands you snow, make snow cones :)

Let's stay in where it's warm and consider this week's topic for discussion.

Do you find hand spankings to be effective? Why do you think they work or don't work for you? 

Please leave your response as a comment below. Once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish an edited summary of our conversation. Thank you, KDPierre, for this interesting topic.

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You're a Winner!

We get plenty of spam telephone calls, from Ashley at Amazon Prime, Lisa at Home Comfort, and the always annoying Paul from Microsoft tech support. But yesterday's call was somewhat different. I answered the phone, and after a short period of silence (always the sign of a spam call), the conversation went something like this.

Voice: Hello, is this Mrs. _______?

Me: Yes.

Voice: How are you today?

Me: Good. (Get on with it, what do you want)

Voice: I'm calling from Mega Millions to let you know you have won 8.5 million dollars.

Me: Oh. (I never buy lottery tickets)

Voice: Is this the first time you're hearing about this?

Me: Yes.

Voice: Let me tell you how to claim your prize.

Me: No thanks. I have plenty of money.

Click

If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is. I told Ron, who said the next step would have been for me to give my bank details so they could supposedly credit my account with the millions of dollars, but more likely clean out my account. He then consulted Mr Google, and it seems that Mega Millions is only in the USA, so I would never have been able to buy a ticket.

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for March 17

Our topic was trying to get out of being spanked, and here's what you said.

Dan: Since all our spankings are disciplinary, oh yes, I've tried to get out of many of them. They say "justice delayed is justice denied," and delay is my go-to move for trying to get out of one.

 Sage: I am always trying to get into a spanking, not out of one. But then my spankings cause me pleasure & no serious pain. I am grateful though that my vanilla partner is willing to spank me twice a week, for between 30 minutes & an hour, interspersed with vanilla stuff. He's stopped asking me "Have you had enough?" because he knows by now I'll always say "No, I'm insatiable. Stop when you are tired." 

Bonnie: I would say very seldom, and never without a good reason. We generally agree to postpone the spanking until a better time, but I don't get out of it.

Graham: Nope! Never had a spanking that wasn't well deserved -- or at least pretty well deserved! 

Wendel: I would have to agree with Sage Blum. The Misses and I are happy to get spanked.

Roz: I may have protested verbally on the odd occasion but the spanking always happened. There have also been times where Rick has decided not to spank and I have said "I thought you would spank". A dodgy move perhaps lol, 

Jack: No way, tried everything, not going to happen, my wife/mommy isn't going to change her mind.

FL: Was role playing with a new partner, I pleaded a little too enthusiastically not to be punished and she let me off the hook. Then the penny dropped and boy, did she make up for it!

Prefectdt: I'll say a big fat no to that question :)

Barrel: Our spankings are consensual so either of us can opt out…for a while. We use spanking as a prelude to intimacy and if there is a better or more desirable offering at the time, either of us can pick a better option. Spankings are also used for disciplinary, educational and stress relief reasons, and while not always implemented at the time of the triggering event, we always get to the thrashing, but not until both of us feel the time is right.

A.J.: Nope!!! Good Lord, why? Too much fun! 

Allow me nominate poster “FL” for providing us the “Comment of the day!” That one made me laugh.

Hermione: Like many of you, I would never try to avoid a spanking. Bring it on, I say!

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #531

Top of the morning to you all! On this St. Paddy's Day weekend we have an interesting topic to explore.

Do you or your partner ever try to get out of being spanked?  If so, what techniques are used and do they work?

Please leave your response as a comment below. Once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish an edited summary of our conversation. Thank you, Bonnie, for yet another great topic.

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The Perils of Persnickety, Part 4

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Thank you, KDPierre, for a fun romp through Persnickety.

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The Perils of Persnickety, Part 3

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The Perils of Persnickety, Part 2

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