Are punishment spankings a turn-on for you?
Jack: Not in this home. My wife/mommy finds punishment spankings are just that. Not going to guess when it comes to the female, a male has no clue.
Bonnie: Yep. I said it. Punishment spankings are definitely a huge turn-on for me. Always.
Barrel: Yes! I relish the planning and mental build up to a punishment spanking. Ours are whippings with the crop, strap and tawse or our two delrin canes. I do admit to growing increasingly hesitant up to the day before, and reluctant the day of, while being strapped onto the bench. However, the emotional connection to my wife and cleansed mental state as I am peeled off the bench are worth every stroke. In fact, we are planning one now ;<)
Luvinhub: At this time we are no longer in a WLM. However, when we were, punishment spankings were for sure a turn on for me. Not during the spanking but before and after it was definitely a turn on. While my wife never said it was a turn on there was one thing that seemed to say it turned her on.
Graham: The antipation and preparation are huge turn ons. The actual spanking is, of course, not a turn on. My erection always disappears. The after care, which almost inevitably follows, speaks for itself!
Roz: For me the turn-on was usually after the spanking. The dominance from Rick, the intimacy, the sore red bottom and greater feeling of closeness.
Rosco: An interesting question that strikes right a the heart of our obsession with TTWD.
I’m
not exactly sure of the definition of “punishment spanking”. But I’ll
say that if Irene is really angry with me for something, she’s likely to
ignore me if she’s not ready to discuss the problem. She wouldn’t see
spanking as a solution.
That said, Irene does like to make it
hurt. She uses a variety of mostly leather whips, straps and paddles -
usually delivering 3 or so sessions over the course of an hour.
Sometimes it’s all I can do to endure the spanking without saying it’s
too much. (We don’t really use a safe word, but if I beg her not to
spank me, it means I want more. If I ask if we can do it later, it means
now is not a good time.)
So every session is pretty intense.
When the sting subsides, the powerful eroticism returns. The role play
is all about “punishment”. Irene will use one of many personas for
herself and tell me what rules I’ve broken and why I must be
disciplined, taught a lesson - punished. But it’s all role play. Not
what most people describe as “punishment” spankings.
Good question.
Prefectdt: Punishment spankings just don't work for me. I can pretend to be getting punished, but it always turns onto a fun event, between my ears. So, can't say that I have ever really experienced something that felt like punishment, in a consensual adult context.
S: I agree with Bonnie punishments are hot or should I say funishments are hot. I love taking a supposedly naughty woman over my knee and telling her how I hate to have to punish her, but it is the only way she will learn. I get a thrill telling her that when I am done spanking her fanny, she will not be able to sit for a week. I enjoy watching her go stand in the corner afterwards to think about why she was spanked. I truly love everything about funishments.
Ronnie: Most of the time for me the turn on is after the spanking has happened. The dominance of P and the emotional connection with him.
KDPierre: I agree with others that it's a before and after, but not during, kind
of thing. And even the before and after is more about the turn-on of
being in such a situation than the mechanics of it. But punishments are
punishments because they are FOR something and if it's something worthy
of a punishment, odds are it's not something anyone is looking at with
fun or sexiness. It's going to be an atmosphere of hurt feelings,
disappointment, possible anger, guilt, and a whole panoply of feelings
not generally associated with feelings of being 'turned-on'.
Switch that to something more playful and the spanking itself becomes fun and a turn-on.
A.J.: I saw that line in Bonnie's comments. It caught my eye and that's why I did a, "Hey, Hermione!"
As KD wrote: "But punishments are punishments because they are FOR something," so if you look forward to it, is it punishment?
I
only spank or get spanked (mild vs. wild, a nice pink vs. a scorching
RED bottom) for the sexy fun of it, so it surprised me that one could
actually LOOK FORWARD to a fierce spanking with implements. (I
associate punishment spanking with implements.) I also imagined me after
delivering a punishment-level spanking to my GF, and winding up with a
crying, blubbering, face full of tears and running mascara woman caring
then only about her tush!! And not me? Who wants to make love to that?
But - some people look forward to punishment spankings! Whodathought? Learn something every day...!
Hermione: Our spankings are foreplay and never for actual punishment, but punishment is what is going on in my mind. The thought of being punished is the only thing that turns me on, so that's what I pretend is happening. Once the spanking is over, I am thoroughly aroused and ready for what comes next.
Different strokes for different folks, amiright?
Slava Ukraini
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