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This week we discussed BDSM and autism. Here's what you said:
Norse Cavalier: My local BDSM group has a LOT of autistic people in it - I'm one of them.
You
can also talk about the overlap between BDSMers, autistic people, and
board game players. At one point, autistic Doms were a majority of the
board of my local board game group (though this was not widely known to
the board game players). We make sure the board game group and the BDSM
group never have events on the same weekends, due to the massive
overlap.
Rosco: Hmm interesting. I’m nerdy and socially awkward, but I don’t think I’m on the spectrum.
Prefectdt: I got tested, for a lot of stuff, on the advice of a professional psychologist, that I was seeing at the time, in the 1990s. Autism was one of those things and I came up negative. So, just because you are into an aspect of BDSM, does not automatically mean that you are Autistic. I wonder if it is worth some Boffin's time to do a study to find out the percentages of Autistic and non-Autistic people in the community.
Roz: Very interesting. I guess it may make sense that the structure of BDSM would work for those on the spectrum.
Nana: I was tested for autism 4 years ago, did not have it, did get diagnosed with ADHD tho and there is a huge overlap in people with ADHD and people that are into BDSM as well, makes a lot of sense to me, as a good spanking is one of the few things that can shut up my brain.
Hermione: That was such an interesting discussion. I had no idea ofthe association, but it makes perfect sense. Thank you, Boru!
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We're going out for a belated Valentine's Day lunch, so I found some food-related signs for your enjoyment.
Bon appetit!
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This week we discussed lopsided spankings, and here's what you said:
Bonnie: I really dislike an unbalanced spanking, so much so that I've asked Randy to even me up. He is delighted to grant such requests.
Graham: No interest here, fortunately.
Kiki: I'm with Bonnie. I can't stand when the spanking is unbalanced either.
Wendel: We did try paddling just one cheek. It was not satisfying giving or receiving so it has not happened since.
Roz: I too much prefer an even spanking. It does happen on the odd occasion though.
Norse Cavalier: I've wanted
to try that with a young lady - deliberately spank only one of her
cheeks, then go out to eat. She can squirm in her chair at the
restaurant, trying to get comfortable. Once we're done, we go back home
so that the other cheek can get some attention.
I've noticed that
I tend to spank the right cheek more than the left. The best way to
avoid it is to give some extra attention to the left cheek, to even it
out, and to rely on feedback from the naughty young lady. If one of her
cheeks hurts more than the other, she's not shy in telling me.
Ronnie: I don't like when a spanking is more one sided but it has happened on occasion.
Prefectdt: I hate being “Lop” spanked. Just watching a video of it happening to someone else is annoying. Where this seems to happen the most in an OTK situation, where the further buttock is easier to reach than the nearer buttock. It is often something that inexperienced spankers need to be warned about. Spankers, please learn to take a physical hint. When the Spankee is lifting one buttock higher than the other, that means that the buttock being lifted high needs more attention.
Rosco: I think this
happened more often initially. With paddles, straps and even riding
crops it’s pretty to provide an egalitarian spanking. A bit harder with
whips, unless the dominant partner is truly ambidextrous.
It’s been awhile, but when we’ve used switches I get wonderful welts, albeit only on the right buttock.
Barrel: Neither of us like lopsided color and marks. That's why she carefully inspects the results before we stop spankings and sessions. Before our recent sessions to prevent strokes landing in unintended areas, we mark the limits on my bottom with a pen. Then she is free to land any of the implements within the target, and usually balances the color, texture and markings evenly.
A.J.: I have NEVER spanked one of my lovely spanking GFs like that! It is always left-right-left-right. (Or the reverse.)
On
the receiving end, though, it did happen. My first spanking GF, after
a month or two of my spanking her so deliciously, out of the blue
announced "Your turn!" And I had to go OTK for my first ever otk
spanking.
And guess what she did? Yup.
I finally turned back and yelled at her : "Hey!! I have TWO cheeks!"
She paused, noticed, laughed, apologized. and then balanced her work out. Funny then.
Hermione: It happens sometimes with longer implements, such as the long wooden shoehorn. The impact lands on the left cheek more, and the right cheek gets only a whisper of a stroke.
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Do you ever put off doing something that you know has to be done? Our dear friend Bonnie experienced just such an affliction, but she was lucky. Her husband Randy helped her to overcome it. Read on:
The Price of Procrastination
I'm good about getting things done. My career as a journalist/writer taught me respect for deadlines. Finishing on time is the right thing to do for many good reasons. This belief lies at the very core of my being.
But some tasks I avoid. A while back, I mentioned to my ever vigilant husband, Randy, that I needed to make an appointment to see a certain grumpy doctor. He's a specialist who I visit periodically. At least I should, but I know I won't die if I put it off. But I could get a spanking.
Recently, Randy asked me whether I had made my appointment with Doctor Grumpy. "No, not yet," I replied. I was surprised he recalled my offhand comment from weeks before. But he told me that my health is very important. I suddenly realized that the health of my butt was rapidly dropping in importance.
So I got spanked with the paddle for procrastination. I told him that he wouldn't like this doctor either, but that didn't seem to help my case. He grabbed a solid hardwood paddle with an oval shaped head, sat in the center of the couch, and directed me down over his lap. I was face down and bottom up, positioned for a traditional corporal punishment. That's a tradition we uphold.
He raised my skirt and lifted the paddle. "Bon, you must learn not to procrastinate." He lectured a while longer, but my attention by then was on more immediate concerns.
The smooth blade of paddle impacted against my exposed skin. It hurt. It always hurts. I cringed in expectation of a follow-up swat. But he paused. For what seemed like an eternity. Am I still getting a spanking? I wondered.
I got a confusing answer when Randy reached over and grabbed the TV remote. As I awaited my inevitable destiny, he surfed through channels (as men do) until landing on a sports program. Satisfied with his choice, I smacked me again.
"Ow!" I exclaimed. I wasn't ready. I thought we were beginning in earnest. But no. He halted once more and just rubbed the wooden surface across my cheeks. He seemed to be paying more attention to his show than my scarcely blushed posterior.
After a third delayed swat, I recognized that he was teaching me a lesson about procrastination. This lesson was more way annoying than it was painful. I'd had enough.
"Are you going to spank me or what?" I can tell you his response was everything but "Or what." He whacked me good. Then he whacked me bad, pausing every so often to drive home his point. By the time he finished, my home fires were definitely alight.
After my punishment concluded, Randy surprised me again. He pulled a marker from his pocket and handed it to me along with the paddle. At his instruction, I wrote these words on the face of the paddle – "On [date] I was spanked for procrastination." Then I signed it. He displayed the paddle on the wall. He said it’s a better reminder than just a sore seat because it lasts longer.
I made the appointment the next day and I will see Doctor Grumpy on Tuesday. Fortunately, he won't be examining my bottom.
So did I learn anything? Yes, I did. I learned that my queries about getting spanked are always answered forcefully in the affirmative.
Thank you, Bonnie, for sharing that painful lesson with us.
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