Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for August 16

What is your experience with blindfolds, gags, earplugs or similar items?

Wendel: We tried having the spankee blindfolded and wearing noise canceling headphones playing “Dance of the Sugar Plum Fairies”. The Misses cried out much louder each time the paddle whacked her fanny. She said it seem more intense because the music relaxed her and then the surprise whack of the paddle produced endorphins, adrenalin or whatever chemicals the body makes to increase pleasure. When it was my turn I did not want her to stop. My bottom hurt so bad after that I could barely get my pants back on but the pleasure was well worth the pain.
Restraints? Bought a pair, tried it once and never used it again. We just did not like it. 

Barrel: We tried a blindfold and I didn’t care for it as I like to see what is coming before I feel it. Never used ear plugs, and won’t as I like to hear the “whurp” of the cane before it is administered. We do use a perforated ball gag occasionally to heighten the aura and when the caning will be extended or severe. Restraints are commonly used when we do a session. 

Roz: We have used restraints and blindfolds in the past. For me it definitely added to the experience and my other senses were on overdrive. We have never used earplugs or headphones.

Rosco: Blindfolds, gags and light bondage are usual components of our repertoire these days.

Irene will pull a (sometimes clean, sometimes not) pair of panties or a panty girdle over my head, the tie satin scarves over my eyes and mouth. She’ll tell me she’s tired of my sass and doesn’t want to hear a word from me.

She might strap me down on our massage table for a sound thrashing. Then she’ll put me down for a nap on my back with my wrists handcuffed to my thighs (being too enthusiastic with bondage has caused neck, back and shoulder pain).

Sometimes I’ll be required to give Irene an extended foot massage while blindfolded and gagged.

Oddly, I’ll drift off into an erotic slumber for half an hour or so then patiently wait to hear her footsteps when she returns to give me more attention. Irene will administer another thrashing, always with a lecture, before indulging in more traditional intimate activities.

Dan: We've never tried any kind of sensory restriction, and I doubt we would. As the recipient, I already have a very narrow focus on a single sensation during a spanking -- the sensation of the brush or paddle slamming into my butt. I think my wife gets more out of the other sensory inputs, particularly sounds. She has said she loves the sound of that paddle or strap striking.

CEM: Nope on all three...never would. 

Prefectdt: I have tried blindfolds and gags whilst on the receiving end. Always at the request of the person handing out the whups, not asked for by me. A blindfold and someone who knows how to direct the mind play are a combination that has often added positively to my experience. Gags, on the other hand, especially ball gags, have been for the benefit of the spanker, I just don't mind them. I am happy to be gagged, in the spirit of compromise, but it is more for the benefit of the other party in the interaction. Ear plugs and headphones do not appeal to me, at all, and I would take some convincing to try them out.

Bonnie: Sensory restriction can be either good or bad, depending upon the context. In a playful scene, blindfold spanking games, like guess the implement, can be fun. I have a problem with noise cancelling headphones because they can make a scene too intense for me. Likewise, I don’t like any gag that restricts my breathing. That’s a hard limit.

But if he wants to tie me up or tie me down, I’m all in for that spanking.

Red: Interesting ideas, but we have not ever tried any of these. The idea of guess the implement when blindfolded would possibly add another element of fun to the activity. Not hearing the stroke, and not knowing when it would happen, could be very intense. Another reason to buy noise cancelling headphones for travel on airplanes. 

Hermione: We have used restraints in the past, but after reading Gerald's Game, I'm not too eager for them. I wouldn't mind being blindfolded, but a ball gag is too creepy, even in photos. Headphones might be a possibility if I bought wireless ones.

      

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #656

Welcome one and all to another weekend spanko brunch. We all live in different countries around the world, so we can't meet in the same physical location to eat and chat, but we can still have fun together here on this blog. No travel required!

For my husband and me, spanking involves many of our senses. Besides the feel of the paddle - either in his hand or on my bottom - there is the sight of him standing there, ready for action. Then there are sounds, lots of them: my squeals, his laughter, the swish and crack of the implement. The scent of a leather paddle or belt is always a turn-on for me. I wouldn't want to be deprived of the whole experience. But what about you?

What do you think about using blindfolds, gags, earplugs or headphones during a spanking? Do these restrictions enhance the experience or take away from it?

Leave your response as a comment, and once everyone has spoken I will publish a summary of our discussion.

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for August 9

What do you do if your spanking partner is away?

Bonnie: We’ve been fortunate to not have that problem, at least not for an extended time. Even when Randy was sick, he could still swing a light implement.

Robert: Recently, my wife was away for a "Girl's Weekend," including the day I usually receive my maintenance spanking. She isn't interested in me spanking myself, but she did have some "maintenance" tasks to remind me she's in charge even when away.
For example, I have one pair of nylon panties that are two sizes too small, usually worn on days when I'm to be spanked later. However, in this case, the first full day she was away, I was to wear those panties...uncomfortable all day, but a nice remind.
Other days, I was assigned corner time. It's odd standing in the house all by myself, pants and panties at my ankles for ten minutes, but it's what you do when your wife tells you to do so.
She made up for lost time when she got home and I went to bed with a VERY red bottom.

Wendel: Luckily the Misses has a job that is fully remote. If I leave for a project she will tag along. If I am only going only for a day or two and she does not join I will paddle or whip her bottom good so she has something to remember me by. 

When the Misses goes on a girls' night out excursion she is usually back the follow evening. Before leaving the Misses will give me a rather sound paddling to ensure I behave while she is away.

CEM: I just put everything for the future into the...spank bank. 😁
Sorry, couldn't resist. 😬

Roz: We have had occasions back in the day where we have been apart for a period of time. Regular communication which includes phrases like "you will" or "I want you to" help alongside regular checking in. In regards to spanking alternatives, things like chores, corner time (bleah lol), set bedtime. Of course these can be used whether together or apart.

Ronnie: P hasn’t been away for a long period so not had that problem. 

Rosco: We’re in the midst of a bit of a drought right now. Neither of us is away, but there are numerous distractions and anomalies in our schedules.

When Irene was away and I was missing the attention, I got into bed, pulled a pair of her panties over my face and listened to a Missjenndavis podcast as I drifted off into a nap.

Irene will be eager to reengage when we have an opportunity but that might not be for another 10 days - unless we find time this afternoon. Absence does my the heart grow fonder!

Red: Fortunately, we have almost never had extended periods apart from each other. More than 50 years of seeing each other almost every day. No wonder I need to be spanked at times. 

Prefectdt: My partner is never here, because I do not have one. However, there are often times when I cannot get spanked. During these times, self spanking, with various implements, does help me keep my rear end in condition, but is not at all satisfying. There is an EMS/TENS unit that I have found can give me a half hour electronic spanking, and that helps to keep me in mental balance.   

Hermione: Like others, we are together every day, and neither of us is away overnight, so there is no need to go without spankings.

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #655

Welcome to our weekly spanko brunch. Today's topic was inspired by a message from a regular reader. Their question is one that many of us have struggled with from time to time, and they would like some suggestions from you on how to handle it.

How do you cope when your partner is away for extended periods? What substitutes for spanking do you use? How do you keep up domestic discipline, if that is part of your lifestyle?

Leave your reply as a comment and I will publish your suggestions once everyone has had a chance to contribute.

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for August 2

What is the longest time you have been without spanking?

Bonnie: Randy didn’t want to spank me when I was pregnant. He was worried for the safety of our baby. I got that concern, but I was less certain. There were zero spankings for many months. I can’t remember a time when I needed it more.

Even after our daughter was born, I had to convince him that beating my bottom would not affect my breast milk. In any case, the baby was fine and she now has her own college-age daughter.

Jack: I had messed up at a visit to a friend, we got home late, I knew what was to come, but my wife/mommy said nothing. The next morning I got up after she did, and took a shower. As I was stepping out of the shower she stood there, pointed to the front room, I had dried off and naked went to the front room. I was told to stand, and wait. It was a half hour and finally she took me over her lap and the bath brush was applied hard and fast. This is the longest time I can recall.  

Wendel: We both got the flu that lasted a week and 3 more days before we really felt good again. It was the longest we ever went without spanking each other. 

Donn: Well, so far I think I hold the record for longest period:

Discontinuation: Junior High School football coach was last person to swing a paddle for many years. That was back in 1972.

Resumption: My current wife was the next person, with one of her rubber straps. That was back in 2004.

I think that makes 32 years! (That's a "record" I never again want to come anywhere meeting!)  

Why so long?

Basically, I don't thing I'm really a "spanko." I don't have a spanking "kink" or "fetish."

I do, most certainly, have an empowered female fetish. I've know that for many years since roughly Junior High School. However, it was always felt and express in non-spanking ways.

Back in roughly 2002 I discovered the Disciplinary Wives Club website, which supercharged my  empowered female urges, and linked them to reality, with "Good Old-Fashioned Discipline" and all the accoutrements (mostly spanking and butt thrashing); so easy -- so natural - SO REAL!  

Roz: When we had a dd dynamic back in the day we used to have weekly maintenance so there was that anticipation every week. There were also a few occasions a spanking was 'due' but Rick was away so there may have been a wait of just over a week.

Prefectdt: It was back in the 90s, I gave up for nearly four years. The reason? I mistakenly thought that I could choose to be or not to be a spanko, and it was time to stop this childish thing. I was wrong. It was upon some heavily dropped hints from a psychologist that I ended up seeing on a regular basis, I took up getting spanked again and all became better.

  

A.J.: Twenty (20!) years? From the time I first knew spanking fascinated me as a young lad to the time my GF tricked me into spanking her. Does that count?

(Why? Because I believed that anyone who took pleasure in 'hitting' a woman was a perversion worthy of prison.)

Reversing laps...a year?

 

Dan: It's probably the period I'm in right now, in which it's been over three months; probably more like four at this point. It was the result of an injury that's going to take a while to heal. We had another period, two years ago, in which we went about three months. That too was medically related.

 

Red: Never really kept track of time between spankings. Spankings in the past usually went in spurts of two or three weeks without and then maybe three in the space of a week. We are now doing more often regularly, and if I feel stressed, I ask to be spanked. We are about to try twice a week to see how that works out. 

 

I am spanked while on vacation, and we do not worry of how thin the cabin walls on a cruise ship, nor in a hotel or airbnb. We will never meet the people again that are the opposite side of the wall. However, we do put music on to muffle the sound a bit, but our love-making creating an orgasm is much louder, and we do not muffle them. Neighbors can choose which they like best! 

 

Rosco: Irene has been spanking me consistently since 1980. The longest break during that time has probably been 3 weeks or so due to travel, houseguests etc. when the kids were growing up I came home for lunch, spankings and more.

Before 1980, the only successful spanking was in 1969 which I administered just prior to my first French kiss.

 

Fondles: I think we're down to maybe a handful of spankings a year now. It's hard when there are people in the house! Those waffles looked delicious! (It's the other thing I'm weak for besides scones!)      

Hermione: The longest we have gone without spanking is 18 months. We adopted a rescue dog who hadn't been crated in years and objected to being incarcerated while we were still obviously in the house and he was missing all the fun. He made such a fuss that we eliminated spanking from our bedroom activities until Ron got access to an apartment after a family member had vacated it. We enjoyed spanking for three Sundays in a row, realized how much we had missed it, then resolved to either put up with the dog's fuss or rent a motel room. By then the dog was used to being crated and didn't make a peep.

More recently, Ron had minor health issues that put spanking on the back burner for three weeks. 

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #654

I hope everyone's hungry, because the waffles are hot and ready! No waiting for them to cook. And speaking of waiting, that brings us to today's topic.

What is the longest period of time you have waited between spankings? What was the reason for the long delay?

Leave your response as a comment and I will publish a summary of our discussion once everyone has had a chance to speak.

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Our Friend is Back

Our good friend and blogger Jean Marie is back with a new blog on Substack. Do you call it a blog if it's on Substack? No matter, she's back with many stories about spanking and life.

I hope you will drop in and wish her well. You won't be disappointed. 

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