Wednesday, September 20, 2023

Go girls!

Kink Popularity

Here's an interesting chart, found on the subReddit r/redscarepod (thank you, Bonnie!) that shows the relative interest in 500 kinks based on age and gender. The data was taken from Fetlife, so there are some pretty out-there kinks, but what it shows is the majority of spanking-related kinks are favoured by older females. They enjoy riding crops, whips, paddling, bare-bottom spanking, flogging, and more!

Hairbrush spankings and otk spankings are equally enjoyed by older males and females alike, but older males are also into belt whipping, single tail whips, and whipping (do you detect a pattern here?)

To see the chart properly and find out what the 500 kinks are, click on it then zoom in to enlarge it. Or go to the original source here.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Monday, September 18, 2023

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for September 17

Slow and steady or rapid-fire - how do you like your spankings?

Graham: Depends on the scenario but generally slow at the start and faster at the end. 

Bonnie: Each has its place. A fast and syncopated spanking makes me feel a loss of control. I know I'm really in for it this time.

But the slow and measured approach can be even more intimidating. When he is completely under control and concentrating on systematically delivering a hard punishment, I know my butt is going to hurt.

Jean Marie: Bonnie answered this question with an eloquence that I cannot approach; she said it all perfectly.

Still, I have to be playful with some of the ideas suggested... I "prefer" a pace that is so slow one can hardly call it a spanking, more love-pats than swats, full of caresses and butt-busses. Most often, this will not suffice; wrongs must be righted, consequences faced (even though I'm face down and with ass upturned). I benefit from spankings that are measured not in minutes of length but in moments of barely contained electrical excitement, breathtaking in the spanking's duration and shocking in its severity. ("Surely he's wrapping this up, it'll all be over soon!" I tell myself, only to have it go on and on...) This brat needs her well-upholstered bottom blistered with frequency. I need to be marked, be brought to tears, to be brought low and humbled. 

I love that word the question used, "unrestrained." Sometimes I need to fear that I won't be left able to sit comfortably for a week, to be worn-out. "Safe, sane, and consensual" go out the window at such times. I need a maniac, a loving monster to thrash me, reset my internal gyroscope and set me on the straight and true path with a righteous butt-whupping!

I'm writing this with tears in my eyes because there is no one special in my life at present to give me what I want and need. Is a spanko worthy of the label if one is reduced to spanking one's own ass for stimulation/satisfaction? If you have a special someone in your life, count your blessings as they make you count the strokes out loud. 

Norse Cavalier: I spank hard and fast, but that's partly for practical reasons; the sub I play with has a really high pain threshold, so it usually takes an hour before she's had enough. I've given her three-hour-spankings in the past, but we rarely have time for that, so hard and fast it is.

It's also very fun to watch her squirm and moan as I strike her sit spots.

Roz: For me each has its place, depending on the situation. My preference though is slow and steady to start building up from there.

Rosco: Definitely slow and measured. I like it intense, but I like to be able to savor it and breathe between strokes.

Honestly while I appreciate her enthusiasm, when Irene goes too hard and fast with the whip, crop or switch it just hurts too much to appreciate.

Mary: The point of a spanking is for my wife to assert her authority. So it is not so much the pace of the spanking itself as the length of the spanking. So there is generally period of reflection in the corner during the spanking. Often there is a flurry of spanks, time in the corner, and then a stern lecture with me over her knee with each point accentuated with very hard methodical smacks with her paddle. By the end, I am very aware of her expectations in the future.

Jack: Who gets to choose? Not me. My wife/mommy depending on what I did, will start off slow sometimes, just to get my attention. Most of the time it is fast, rapid spanking, I'm soon kicking, squirming, which tells her she is getting through to me. When I start pleading, begging for her to stop, she applies the bath brush harder. The results she wants is a very red spanked bare bottom, a spanking dance, and seeing me facing the wall so she can enjoy her work. Bottom line, no pun, Mommy decides.

KDPierre: Slow and measured for sure. Too fast and my heart races and I can't catch my breath, which is scary and not the point of a spanking. Sore buns are the goal, not a coronary. LOL I wonder if fast is 'a thing' when the spanker uses their hand? I could see that being effective and have even administered spankings like that to others. But with a sturdy paddle? No way. I think it's just too much pain to process if delivered rapidly. 

Barrel: I think it depends on the implement, the more intense, the slower the pace. With a hand spanking, brisk is appropriate. Our hard plastic paddle and hairbrush are delivered at slightly slower pace. The riding crops require a more deliberate offering in order to be precise and intense, as is the tawse. When whipping with the single tail, patience highlights each stroke. Finally, our two canes are the most intense toys we have. Her pace with each stroke includes a measured pause, allowing the burning fire to sink in just long enough time to realize there is another one coming.

A.J.: OK; but before I put in my $.02; Jean Marie - What are "butt-busses?" (Do I have to get out more often?)

"What spanking pace do you prefer, slow and measured or fast and unrestrained? Why?

Which brings up another question: Is that question for the spankee - or spanker?
Cuz' I get a kick out of being on either side of the lap.

I'm going to assume spankee.

Since I only accept sensuous, hand-only, loving spankings, "slow and measured." To again quote Jean Marie, at "a pace that is so slow one can hardly call it a spanking, more love-pats than swats, full of caresses and butt-busses (What are they???)"

Start out like that, easy with loving caresses, then up the game to firm but not too hard swats, at a 2-per-second pace until a nice hot pink (not bright red) is achieved. A pause. Caresses. And then I properly thank her!! Whoo-Hoo!

Option - IF I WANT IT, and sometimes I do - is to end with a REAL spanking!

Years ago, after a WONDERFUL woman I was with thought we were done (and she had done a good job) I asked to go otk one more time, but this time - a real spanking. I asked her to imagine I was her BF and I had royally pissed her off. Told her to give me The Angry Girlfriend spanking.

She was "Really? You want that???" Maybe she really knew me.

Told her yes. I had never been spanked for real and want to try it.
"Give me the Grande Finale! So I could experience it.

She, a bit reluctantly, agreed. But then said she would cap it at 50.
Back otk, she put her left arm around me to hold me in place, and then let fly!!

After 50 she stopped, I got off her lap and on my knees in front of her, while rapidly rubbing my burning tush. And then she asked me, "Well...?"

Told her, "Wow!" Then, after we talked a bit, I asked, "One more time."

I got another 50 and then she said that was it. No more. And I agreed. Boy, did I agree!

Her opinion on why I took the first 50 so well was because of the 300-some moderate smacks prior to the Grande Finale!, I was, in sports terms, warmed up.

So, I got SPANKED! Capitals with an exclamation mark. I got to see what it was like.

I think what made it so wonderful was, on my multi-hour drive home, it was all I could think of! My tush still tingling, and all I could think of was HER!
How wonderful she was, and what a great spanking experience I had!

I was glad my bottom still tingled by the time I went to bed that night, soon lying on my stomach, imagining I was back over her knees. By morning that tingling was all gone. Shucks.

PS: We still keep in touch!!!

Wendel: Depends the implement. Whippings with the belt are slow and measured. The slower pace gives time for the pain to kick in after the initial smack. 

The paddlings can go either way but I typically spank the Misses at a fast pace. I love to see her squirm as her bottom rapidly turns red. Fast spankings also leads to tears. I love to wipe the tears away as I console her after the paddling.

When the Misses paddles me it will vary based on why I am getting spanked. She also likes to see the tears so I will get some very fast and hard spankings. I try very hard not to but once in a while the rapid-fire paddling breaks me down and I will let the tears flow. 

Hermione: I prefer slow, measured swats so I can savour each one. But as Barrel said, it also depends on the implement. Ron flicks the dogging bat very quickly from cheek to cheek, and that's a fun sensation.

Loki_Darksong: For spankings where I use either my hand, or a brush, I favor a mid pace. Fast enough to be effective but slow enough to not make me tired too quick.

For when I use implement such as a strap or a paddle or a cane, etc, I do favor a slow pace with varying strengths depending on the situation. With the option of speeding up that pace as necessity dictates

Slow or fast, spank on!

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Sunday, September 17, 2023

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #505

It's the weekend, and that means it's time for another spanking-themed brunch. I always welcome topic suggestions from my readers, and our dear friend Bonnie has come up with several or me to choose from. Here's one that I especially like:

What spanking pace do you prefer, slow and measured or fast and unrestrained?  Why?

Please leave your response as a comment, and I will publish an edited summary of our discussion once everyone has had an opportunity to respond.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Wednesday, September 13, 2023

Ask Reddit

I confess, I'm a Redditor - a user and big fan of Reddit - and drop in daily to read a few of my favourite subReddits. I hadn't heard of r/AskReddit but Bonnie sent me a link to a fun topic. The question was "What really sucked as a kid, but is fucking awesome as an adult. Guess what? "Getting spanked" got 8.4k votes. Right on!

There were a few other mentions of spanking here and there, and this was the best one:

This was way back, but I saw Steve Allen as a guest on the Tonight Show with Johnny Carson hosting and they were just a couple of dirty old men joking around:

Johnny: "I'm guessing you were the class clown back in your school?"

Steve: "Yes, but the problem was that I went to a Catholic school, and when you're a boy, being spanked by nuns every day isn't fun.

Johnny: "Yeah, but now you'd pay a lot of money for that."

Read the whole post here.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Monday, September 11, 2023

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for September 10

What vanilla services could have spankings associated with them?

Sir RC: I would like spanking vicars (female), someone you can turn to when feeling guilty, depressed or just downhearted, perhaps in need of motivation.

Roz: I wouldn't mind train staff spanking unruly passengers. Perhaps an incentive to be better behaved as it would be public. 

Anon 1: Had a female primary care doc many years ago that I'm sure would have loved to have talk with me outside of office.

Wendel: Cashiers at the grocery store should be allowed to paddle customers that have more than 15 items in the express check out or unruly customers. “Clean up isle 9, Paddling isle 6”.

Bonnie: For me, the spanking would need to be a reward. Otherwise, I would be inclined to sabotage the effort just to get the spanking. I can picture myself happily bending over for punishment at the weight loss center after a week on the ice cream diet. Nope. Wouldn't work.

Anon 2: Little humor Hofbrauhaus in Vegas they got no qualms about paddling naughty big boys and girls if you ask.

S: Thank you for using my question this week. I am really interested in what everyone will write as their answers.  

For me since I workout at home, I would love to have an attractive female personal trainer make random visits to my house while I am working out to correct my form and provide additional motivation with a paddle. Also it would be great to get feedback on my diet in the way of additional whacks with her paddle.

It would also be nice if when getting a massage they asked if you would like a spanking with it.

Finally, I would love it if my female therapist finally said I am tired of your whining, what you need is a good spanking on your bare bottom and I am going to give it to you!

There are so many possibilities.

Barrel: I have a fantasy that my wife’s hairdresser is equally as kinky as we are. My wife shares how she spanks me. During a haircut, my wife tells the hairdresser how my behavior the last week deserves a spanking. The hairdresser tells my wife to call me and have me report to the salon. Upon my arrival, I am told I am to be strictly punished by my wife and then the hairdresser. The thought of all those hairbrushes makes me cringe.

Jean Marie: I've flown a lot recently and airline passengers are getting more & more unruly. I'd like to see stewardesses be able to discipline obnoxious passengers. It ought to be be public, like bent over the trolley cart used for the drink service used as a punishment horse. It ought to be harsh, like with implements, from paddles to straps to canes, and it ought to be on the bare bottom.

Conversely, some airline staff can develop sour attitudes, whether at the counter, the departure gate, or in the air. I'd love to see certain stewardesses taken over the pilot's knee for a brisk, bare bottomed tune-up. And there ought to be a rule that if you get spanked, you have to go bottomless the rest of the flight, to give everyone a good look at the damage.

Rosco: I once was driving across Utah and stopped at an empty gas station minimart to get a snack. Somehow I messed up how some drinks in the refrigerator were lined up. There were two young attractive albeit overweight women at the register. When I apologized one said I needed a spanking.

Sadly my wife and kids were in the car, so I treated the comment like a joke and went on my way.

Ronnie: Like Jean-Marie - air passengers who are out of order during the flight (they really annoy me) and airline staff as some are so unfriendly.

For me, a riding instructor. Me bent over a bay of hay and disciplined for not tending my horse properly.

Hermione: Like Ronnie said (and I didn't see hers first), a riding instructor who wields the crop mercilessly on a rider's behind if they fail to put their horse's comfort ahead of their own. There are also many politicians who need a good thrashing - televised, of course - for being idiots.

A.J.: Sorry I was late to this brunch conversation. I was going to skip this week but then caught correspondent "S" writing:

"It would also be nice if, when getting a massage, they asked if you would like a spanking with it."

Whoo-hoo! I actually did that!!! Only I did the asking!

On a business trip, a trade show. It was endless hours, little to eat, and exhausting. Headaches, back pain and neck pain, feet and legs in agony. Everything hurt. Hard to even walk.

The last day, conference over and my flight out the next day, I really needed a massage and the hotel had an on-site masseuse. Unfortunately, booked up. Not to worry, the hotel clerk pulled out a list of nearby masseuses who could provide.

Saw a woman's name, it wasn't too far...I called and booked an hour. In her suite she asked what ailed and I told he about the trade show agony.

"Got it!"

Then, what the heck; all she can do is say no. Or get out.

"Is there any chance you could...spank me first?"
"You want that? A spanking?"
"Yeah! Over the knee."

OTK I went and got SPANKED!!

Warning: I capitalized "spanked," for a reason. You ask someone who uses their arms and upper body every day, they have a lot of upper body strength. That goes from their strong right arm, to their strong right hand, and right to your bare bottom! She gave me one helluva spanking!

When it was over she laughed. And so did I! Then then massage, a hot shower, a hug, and I was out the door completely refreshed and cheerful - and still tingling back "there."

Never forgot it.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Sunday, September 10, 2023

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #504

Welcome to our weekly spanko brunch. It seems that fall is finally coming to our part of the world; the temperature here has dropped to a more tolerable level.

Our good friend and regular correspondent S sent me this musing.

"I am sure there are a lot of potential vanilla services that could be enhanced with the threat of a good old fashioned spanking. For example, a doctor who would spank you if you did not follow their advice. Or a personal trainer who would paddle you if you did not show enough effort when working out. Or even a golf instructor who would smack your bottom if you did not follow their instructions." 

So let's see what you think.

What vanilla services would you like to have spankings associated with them? 

As always, you may remain anonymous. Please leave your response as a comment, and I will publish an edited summary of our discussion once everyone has had an opportunity to respond.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Thursday, September 7, 2023

Cartoon Time

It's time for some cartoons that will make you think as well as smile.


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Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart