Wednesday, November 24, 2021


Be careful when you order online. 


Nike must be flattered to see so many different knock-offs

Not quite

Naughty Mickey

Swoosh sandals


Which dwarf was the clever one?


Happy shopping!
From Hermione's Heart

Monday, November 22, 2021

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for November 21

Now that the party is over, here are your thoughts and feedback on Love our Lifestyle Day.

KDPierre: I definitely liked this year's emphasis and will be devoting an upcoming post to this year's LOL Day in detail very soon.

For brevity here and now? I would contend that LOL Day is far more effective at calling attention to undiscovered blogs between bloggers than prompting responses from lurkers. I don't think anything can draw lurkers out in any great number nor do I think that even IF drawn out for that one day, that a lurker by nature will suddenly become a regular participant.

However, each year I find new places and new people find me.....but like I said...they all tend to be fellow bloggers....and there's nothing wrong with THAT! ;-)

Bonnie: I would participate either way because it's a community event, so I think the change was fine.

Roz: I enjoyed the change in focus this year from drawing out silent readers to reading about what the lifestyle means and how it works for each blogger.

Rosco: I’d like to get into writing stories, but haven’t found the time to do it well.

And I need to get an anonymous email. Don’t want to embarrass anybody, especially my kids.

That's easily done with Gmail (make sure you log out of Google first), Yahoo, GMX, and many others. I recommend using a different browser than the one you regularly use, for your stories and non-vanilla communications.

Barrel: While I’m good and will participate either way, I prefer Love Our Lifestyle. It feels like a step forward, or maybe a step out. It is good to see new Lurkers saying hello once a year, but with a broader embrace of our lifestyle, I hope they will come to know our lifestyle is healthy and quite common. It’s just being shared more openly through these blogs.

As for suggestions, I’m hoping this question will reveal several possibilities. Let’s see!

Terpsichore: I will participate each year because I love connecting with the community, especially since life has taken me away from visiting as frequently as I once did. With regards to the name change, there is something about the new name I really like, but it did not change for me the number of comments, what I wrote, or my participation. I will participate either way. I do like how Love our lifestyle speaks to everyone and embraces who we are. Thanks again, for a wonderful celebration! :-) 

Fondles: I think I've missed a few, but from what I could find on old posts, the first year I participated (2012) I had a huge number of comments from bloggers and lurkers. (And side note, I saw a comment from Bas and it brought back fond memories of him and Lisa.)

The last few I've taken part in have seen around the same number of comments.

I do like this new focus as it really gives everyone a chance to say what's on their mind re our lifestyle, instead of (as KD mentioned) trying to get lurkers to delurk, cos 1) they're probably NOT going to if they're shy, and 2) at best they'll leave a comment on LoL day and then disappear again.

It's nice to have found / visited new blogs!

Thanks again for organising this! 

Ronnie: I had more comments this year than last, mostly from fellow bloggers. I like the name change and with the change, I hope new readers will comment more as we are all like minded when it comes to our lifestyle. Can't think of any suggestions for next year but will have a think.

Hermione, thanks for hosting.

Prefectdt: I was very happy with the comments that I received, but I have not compared the numbers with previous years.

The Love Our Lifestyle thing gave a nice fresh feel to things. For future years, I just hope that this event keeps going. It is enjoyable to have something special once a year

Red: Liked the emphasis on loving our lifestyle, as opposed to our lurkers. I think that ship had sailed on getting new comments, from people. However, like minds can comment for each other.

Enzo: My involvement stayed the same. This was the most comments I’ve received in all previous LOL days, but these were all but one from fellow bloggers (different than previous years). I liked the positive reception to the name change. 

I just wish that more non-bloggers (from the occasional commentator to the full lurker) would join in; but the answer as to why they don’t, that remains the elusive million dollar prize.

Hermione: I was delighted by the quality and creativity of my fellow bloggers' posts. They were much more personal and revealing than in former years, I thought. Personally, I didn't visit more blogs, but the comments I left were more specific to the content of each post. Most of the comments I received were from other bloggers, and I received fewer comments from anonymous readers or ones I did not know.

With such positive feedback, rest assured that I will continue to host an annual community event!

From Hermione's Heart

Sunday, November 21, 2021

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #410

Well, that was quite a celebration we had yesterday, and what's a party without cake? While you're eating, let's discuss the restructuring and rebranding of Love our Lurkers as Love our Lifestyle.

Did the change prompt you to become more involved, less involved, or did your involvement stay the same, as a blogger or as a reader? As a blogger, what kind of comments did you receive, and did you receive more or fewer than previous years? Is there something that you specifically liked or disliked? Can you make any suggestions for next year's celebration?

I'm really looking forward to hearing your thoughts and suggestions. All constructive criticism gratefully received! Leave a comment or email me, and I will publish an edited summary of our discussion once everyone has had a chance to think.

From Hermione's Heart

Friday, November 19, 2021

We Love our Lifestyle

Who doesn't love a spanking? There's nothing to be ashamed of if you like the feeling of a firm hand on a warm bottom. Today we celebrate our lifestyle. We didn't choose it; it chose us, and we embrace it wholeheartedly.

The bloggers listed below are helping us celebrate, so please visit them and show them your appreciation for all their hard work. You might find a few surprises along the way. But don't stop there. Visit the blogs you read regularly and say "hello" there too. All bloggers love comments, and yours would mean so much to them.

A Place to Share 

Caning and Spanking Stories

Collected Submissions 

Consensual Spanking second edition

Disciplined Hubbies

Erica Scott: Life, Love and Spanking

Everyday Spankings

Fondlers Anonymous

Heart and Soul 

Incessantly Spanked 

James Stephenson's Blog

Ludwig's Rohrstock-Palast

My Bottom Smarts

New Beginnings

Our True Bottom Warming Experiences

Spankedhortic II

The Continued Journey

When the Storm Whispers to the Wind


If I've left anyone out, please let me know.

From Hermione's Heart

Tuesday, November 16, 2021

In three days...

...we will celebrate our enjoyment of all things spanking on Love our Lifestyle Day. How? By uniting as a community and checking in with all the bloggers who enjoy or have an interest in spanking. Think of it as a blogger roll call.

Whether you engage in corporal punishment on a regular basis, rarely, or never, whether you give or receive, or if you are just curious, you are very welcome to join in the fun.

The details are: 

What is it? Love our Lifestyle Day is a chance for us all to show our appreciation to the bloggers who have chosen to reveal their lifestyle in words and pictures. If you enjoy spanking blogs, let the authors know.

Where is it? It's everywhere in the spanko blogiverse, but right here on this blog, I will put up a post and record the links to all bloggers who are participating in LoL Day. If you want to see who has joined in the fun, drop by here and you will see the list. But it isn't limited to those blogs. Please visit all the blogs you enjoy and say hello.

When is it? Friday November 19. 

Who can join? All bloggers and readers are invited to participate.  If you are joining in as a blogger, please leave a comment here so that I can include you. 

What do I have to do? 

If you are a blogger, publish a post on November 19, thanking your readers for their support and encouraging them to tell you about themselves. "Love our Lifestyle" in the title will be helpful but not compulsory. Please remember to allow anonymous comments, even if only for a day or two. 

If you are a reader, visit the blogs on my list, but also drop in to the blogs on your favourite blogrolls, or the blogs you regularly read. There's no time limit. All bloggers love hearing from their readers any time, not just on one day.

Our good friend Enzo at Everyday Spankings has provided this image that you are welcome to use on your LoL post, if you choose.

Love our Lifestyle Day is safe, sane, consensual, and open to everyone!

From Hermione's Heart

Monday, November 15, 2021

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for November 14

What sparked your interest in spanking and why do you love it?

Jeanie: When I was in my 20's modeling in Los Angeles, I entered therapy for a variety of reasons. The psychologist thought that, because I'd lost a parent when I was very young, it scarred me & that's why I was fixated on spanking. I don't know about that, and frankly, I no longer care.

I do know that I fantasized about being spanked from an early age (around 4, just about when that parent died), that I wasn't spanked as a child, that my best friend would receive a belt whipping from her father whenever she misbehaved (which was often) and that this fueled my fantasies. I was SO relieved to get my first adult spanking in college to realize that my fantasies were equaled by the reality. From then on, I would question prospective lovers on their thoughts about spanking, tease, misbehave, cajole, anything to ascertain his interest in it. I've had many long-term relationships, and many of a shorter duration, but in every one, it had to focus on spanking as an integral feature. In my most recent relationship, the longest of my life, he ended it so as to be able to date younger women. This coincided with the corona virus lockdown. I've been exploring my bisexual-curiosity during this time, but again, spanking must figure prominently. But with women, I've played around with the idea of switching to play both the Top and bottom roles.
Spanking is inexorably linked to my sexuality. I prefer spanking to any other form of foreplay. During the past year and a half, I've been exploring my sexuality with a lot of self-spanking and masturbation. I'd rather be by myself than have to make too many compromises with a lover. But a non-negotiable is having spanking as a tenet in the relationship. That therapist a decade ago seemed silently judgmental of my spanking orientation, but now I'm still a very sexual person, when many of my (non-spanko) peers have turned-off to sex in general. I think my warmed, reddened bottom is my secret to staying hot and fully alive!

Rhbischof: I was born in 1943 but lost my mother in 46. Since all kids in those days were spanked I received my share of spanking but only from my dad. Since he never remarried (!) there was never a woman around to spank me. I can't count of it but right now my wife spanks me every two weeks and I finally get to feel the heat applied by a woman.

Hooray! It finally happened!

Bonnie: The first question is difficult for me to answer. I cannot remember a time when I wasn't interested in spanking or pinpoint a moment when I acquired this interest.

I've been answering the second question for sixteen years in my blog and in various forums before that. Here's something I wrote in 2011:

A good spanking with all the trimmings leaves both us of feeling very connected. It strengthens and renews the bond between us as nothing else can.

Rosco: Don't know but remember the roots from age 5 if not before.

One very powerful experience at age 13 - summer thing at the beach never saw her again.

A few failures, some embarrassing, over the next 11 years. Looking back, many could've, would've & should'ves, but I was clueless in so many ways.

Met soulmate Irene at age 24. Spanking was new to her, but it was a relatively easy conversation. As long as I was eager to lick her pussy on demand, she was prepared to take charge in a million ways ... and counting. 

Roz: I have always had a fascination with spanking from a young age. I'm not sure why. For me it's about the connection it brings and I also find it highly erotic.

Doug: My interest in spanking is directly linked to my desire to receive spankings from my wife. That desire traces back to my early childhood when I discovered that I craved spankings from my mother - previously not liking them. I have no idea why this switch occurred. It just did. My wife spanks me twice a week now.

Wendel: Spanking has fascinated me for as long as I can remember. Mom and Dad spanked often and always bare bottom. I often peeked on my sister getting spankings until the day Mom caught me. Mom paddled me right after and said it was only fair that my sister gets to watch. The summer after I turned twelve I got in trouble and Mom took me to my room for a whipping. I bent over the end of the bed with my pants down and Mom whipped me with the belt. When it was it was done she stormed out of the room slamming the door behind her. I got up and was going to check the damage in the mirror when I noticed the girl next door changing into a bikini through the side of the window shade. Watching her get naked while my bottom was throbbing was very arousing and I have been hooked ever since. It might sound strange but I always feel relaxed and at ease after the Misses spanks me. The bottom is my favorite part of a woman and I love watching the Misses’ bottom turning red as I spank her. 

Rich Person: Like others, I don't remember when the first moment hit, but I remember in grade school thinking about spanking girls in my neighborhood. I had no idea of sex or how it worked, but I liked the feeling of intimacy that I got from fantasizing about the nakedness of the girl and having her submit to me.

I still love the closeness of the physical contact. What I really enjoy is remembering the extreme turn-on it caused my partners over the years. Knowing I'm the proximate cause of those experiences is very rewarding.

Simon: I don't really remember exactly when it started but I do recall seeing two girls being bent over the gym horse by the P.E. teacher (female) and given 6 strokes with a plimsoll each. They were wearing those tight shorts/knickers girls wore for games in the late 60s and early 70s and I realised that I had become aroused watching the punishment. For a while I was ashamed of this reaction and it wasn't until a few years later that I accepted it as part of my sexual make-up.

Morningstar: I honestly have no idea what sparked my interest - I wasn't spanked as a child.. I do know that I used to daydream (from a young age) of being in a boarding school and disciplined by spankings.

Over the years I have come to recognize and own up to the fact I am a masochist - though I need a strong bond with whomever is spanking. I find a spanking session increases the trust/bond between us.

Prefectdt: I have been a Spanko since from before I can remember. There was never a moment of realization. One thing that I like about getting spanked, that I don't say very often, is that it does help to keep me mentally and emotionally balanced. 

Barrel: My first recollection of spanking was in college. I had a little too much beer one night and the girl I was with told me I should be spanked. Being clueless, I failed to accept her offer. One of those moments that I’d like to have back. Thereafter, with fraternity paddles available, I used their presence as an enticement to be paddled.

I feel a real calmness and serenity after a long session. We use whipping as a stress relief for me. Now my wife seems to enjoy it more so the frequency is picking up, which is fine with me. 

Dan: I seem to be one of the few who is very interested in spanking now but wasn't at an early age. The first time I recall having any interest at all was in my later 30s. I was watching an HBO series called Real Sex, which had a segment on adult spanking. I found it it surprisingly stimulating. It didn't rise above a relatively mild interest in that kink, but it was enough to get me looking on-line a bit for spanking content. In doing that, I stumbled on a website called The Disciplinary Wives Club, which was devoted to "domestic discipline" style spankings. Something about it hit me really hard, but I honestly don't know exactly what I found so compelling. Other than those incidents in my last 30s, I don't think I ever had any preexisting spanking interest.

Baxter: I wasn't spanked as a child, but that doesn't mean I didn't deserve to be spanked; my parents just didn't. I remember a girl in my class, maybe third or fourth grade, rub her bottom and mention the spanking she had gotten a couple of days prior and the heat coming off her bottom. I felt a bit left out of that experience. As most kids, I would look in the dictionary at spanking-type words and find some stuff in the encyclopedia as well. Around early teens, I discovered porn at the newsstand and enjoyed pictures of bare bottoms and the stories of spanking. When first married, I asked my wife to spank me and she said no, that it was perverted. It took about 20 or so years into our marriage and she asked to read one of my spanking fiction books, one by Fiona Locke. She read a few and then told me to pull my pants down and bend over the bed and she gave me a paddling. From that point on, she told me that if I wanted a spanking, all I have to do is ask and I have many, many times. She jokes now about something I do and tells me I should be spanked and I tell her, yes I agree. 

Anon: I have always been into spanking, even at an early age spankings always gave me a thrill. I was not really spanked growing up, not that I did not deserve one. I just never got caught. I remember being young and smacking girls on their bottoms all the time. I spanked every girl I every dated. I still think about spanking every day, it is the one constant I have in my life. My wife is very vanilla and for the most part ignores this aspect of me which makes me sad. I now like to make spanking paddles which I give to other spankos. 

A.J.: "What sparked your interest in spanking? Why do you love it so much?"

I haven't the slightest idea!

Which puts me in the same category as many of today's brunchers.

I got spanked ONE TIME as a kid, age 6 1/2. And I didn't like it at all. Sometime later if I heard or read about a spanking, I'd get dry in the mouth with my heart pounding and maybe begin to sweat. By the time puberty came on like a battle cruiser - those damn erections! Were they linked? Yes! Sure they were! But why?

Of course I noticed. And came to the conclusion - 'You like to spank women (back then girls) - you are a pervert worthy of PRISON!' So I buried it deep inside and never even attempted to spank a girl I was dating, even jokingly.

Until I was in my mid-20's and dating a beautiful woman who - VERY nervously - admitted to me she like to be spanked. Because it turned her on. We had fun! A few months later she announced, "Your turn!" And otk I went for my first adult spanking. And it was still fun! And here I am a few decades later...

In a side note I have a spanking pen-pal. In looking up something for her I found a white paper on spanking. The author lays the interest/desire in spanking to a "Transformative Event," some event in your past that triggered your interest in spanking, no matter on which side of the lap you ended. I can't think of mine; it certainly wasn't that damn spanking I got at 6 1/2 years old.

Second side note:

I came across an article about the spanking of children by Evangelicals and the extreme Religious Right. Ministers and pastors who have written books on how to "properly" beat the child (and by 'child' I mean as young as 1-year olds) into abject submission; for Jesus. Because He loves you. The author was stunned by the horror stories the now-adult boys and girls told her.

Hermione: My interest in spanking began at around age four, when my aunt, uncle and cousins came to visit. I watched my aunt put her son, also age four, ever her lap for a spanking. During the same visit, I saw my male cousin pee standing up, and saw for the first time how boys were different from girls. I was caught watching (the bathroom door was open) and the adults went into overdrive. Those two events started me off as a spanko.

Why do I love it? It relaxes me and allows me to give up control and submit.

This issuch a great way to lead into the Love our Lifestyle celebration later this week.

From Hermione's Heart

Sunday, November 14, 2021

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #409

Welcome one and all to our weekly brunch. Our good friend Wendel supplied this week's "what and why" questions, and they made me stop and think.

What sparked your interest in spanking? Why do you love it so much?

Simple questions, but the answers may not be so simple. Record your response as a comment, and I will publish an edited summary of our discussion once everyone has had a chance to think about it.

From Hermione's Heart