Tuesday, June 9, 2026

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for June 9

We talked about the length of time spankings take.

Jack: I have no say in how long the spanking is. My wife/mommy does not even know how long the spanking is. It depends on what I did and how I react while being spanked. 

Wendel: There are times I will set the timer for 5 plus minutes when I give the Misses a hand spanking. Once it starts it does not stop. She squirms a lot and will have tears in her eyes but It does not end until the timer goes off and every inch of her bottom is bright red.
The Misses can drag a paddling out for a long time if I am bent over the end of the bed. She will give me a dozen whacks and then go do something else in the room. It can be several minutes before I get more whacks. The wait is exhilarating. Just as I get over the sting and pain she returns and beats my bottom some more. This can go on for 30 minutes or more and I cannot get up until she says so.
 

Rosco: On average, I get 3 spankings 20 or 30 minutes apart - each with maybe 20 whacks lasting 3 minutes or so. Just a guess, I’ve never counted or timed it. Often I’m tied up.

Norse Cavalier: The longest spanking I've ever given was three hours - not very hard, mostly hand, some paddle. Quite enjoyable for us both. Most spankings last about an hour, I think, but that's mostly fun spankings; punishment spankings are shorter and a lot harder.

Luvinhub: I don't believe my wife ever timed my spankings but I would guess around 30 minutes. In the moment it was usually long enough but in reality I believe she should have spanked me much longer.

Prefectdt: My spankings usually last between an hour and an hour and a half. Sometimes half an hour. An hour and a bit is often ideal, as I do like a certain level of severity and longer spankings would be hard to bear. I have been spanked for longer periods, but there are typically long breaks during the time of this type of play, it is not continuous.

KDPierre: Oddly, Rosa and I don't go by time but rather number, with a target number sort of decreed with the understanding that number might be exceeded a bit or perhaps, though less frequently, lessened as the spanking progresses.

High numbers are not unusual here, (1000+) and often very high numbers are divided up into a series of more manageable instalments, which can be a mixed blessing and curse. The more typical spankings are in the "quick 50" to solid 250-300 range.

Bonnie: Duration is Randy’s decision and he’s all over the map. Time is just one factor in deciding the severity of a spanking. Just a minute or two with a wooden bath brush at top speed and full intensity is far more painful, both during and after, than a steady 30 minute spanking with the leather paddle.

While I don’t get a choice, I do have preferences and they vary over time as well. Sometimes, I just want to take my position and get it over. In other cases, I like the detailed choreography, the build up, and the slow reveal of an inescapable punishment.

As for the longest spanking I’ve received, that depends upon one’s definition of a spanking. He has spanked me several times during a day where each session began where the last one left off (I totally deserved it). It seemed like one spanking to me and if you accept that premise, I guess my longest could span seven or eight hours.

A.J.: Obviously, I'm an amateur here, but I go by color, not time. When she's a nice pink I stop and proceed with the TLC+. When it's me on the receiving end I'm pretty sure it's the same.

In general it's about time time it take to deliver about (guessing) 250-300 hand spanks.
At top speed (where it hurts a bit more) 300 = 2 1/2 minutes.
At sensual speed 300 = 5 minutes + pauses for TLC.
At "Ain't this fun?" speed = 30 minutes?
       

Dan: I think length does matter, and there are times that, when a spanking is done, I feel like it wasn't quite long enough to leave me feeling like the issue that earned me the trip over her lap was fully dealt with. But numbness puts a hard limit on most of my spankings. Somewhere around 5 - 6 minutes, my butt starts going numb and, after that, continuing to spank seems pointless. I have come to appreciate, however, the role longer spankings play in leaving soreness that lasts for days. Five to six minutes is probably our average, but the time element is probably less relevant than the number of swats Most of my spankings are with a combination of the bath brush and a heavy ebony hairbrush, with a heavy emphasis on the bath brush. The typical number of swats/strikes per session are around 200 - 300. 

Graham: Best guess is usually 45 minutes or more, but obviously not continuously.

Roz: It does vary quite a bit depending on the circumstances, mood etc. I would say on average 20 minutes.

Hermione: Ron aims for a finish time, so length of time doesn't enter into it for him. He watches the clock, and when it reaches the three quarter hour, he stops. The spanking might start on the half hour, or five minutes later, but it doesn't matter. He stops at 4:45 pm. 

Like Dan, I get numb after about five minutes, so long spankings don't do anything for me. 

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From Hermione's Heart

Sunday, June 7, 2026

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #646

Welcome to our first spanko brunch for June. Today we will be pondering that age-old question: does length really matter? The length of a spanking, that is.

How long do your spankings usually last? Would you prefer them to be longer or shorter, or are they just right? What is the longest spanking you have ever participated in?

Leave your response as a comment and I will publish your thoughts once everyone has had a chance to speak.



Slava Ukraini
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From Hermione's Heart

Monday, June 1, 2026

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for May 31

We talked about spanking for punishment. Was there a time when you should have been spanked, but weren't?

Rosco: When Irene is truly annoyed with me, she ignores me. I don’t think it’s intentional punishment, but it feels that way.

Spankings are generally for imaginary infractions like being distracted by schoolgirls or maybe not doing my homework (ageplay, they call it). Occasionally she’ll threaten a spanking for not doing something around the house, but I don’t think it ever happens.

I fantasize about real discipline, but I don’t think I’m interested.

Roz: There have been a few occasions when I thought a spanking was forthcoming but it didn't happen.

Jack: If I think I will not be spanked and got away with it, I know I'm kidding myself. My wife/mommy has told me she needs to 'cool' off and just calm down.

KDPierre: I think this happens to just about everyone (in a disciplinary relationship) over time. It's just how life works. Things pop up, get in the way, and then the moment is lost and you either try to revisit it another time or just move on. Living this type of lifestyle is complicated, especially over the long haul, so I think it's best to focus on the positives and let go of the occasional, and inevitable, "what could have beens". 

Prefectdt: The problem is for me that, although I pretend to see spankings as punishment, really I see them as a reward. So yes, there have been lots of times when I have achieved hard to do or difficult things, when I feel that I have truly earned a “well done” spanking, but there is no one around to give me one. Just life, I suppose.     

Barrel: We don't really use spanking as punishment, although our sessions do take on a stern and reprimanding tone. There have definitely been times when I deserved discipline and didn't get it right away. We tend to work things out but remember to reinforce the outcome at the end of her cane when we schedule a session.

TTWD: My experience is similar to KDPierre's. Many (most) of my spankings are disciplinary, but sometimes we just continue doing what we are doing, and by the next day, although I might remember why (or not), Cindy has forgotten. Cindy's spankings have become really effective and strong, similar to what you used to describe for your spankings. At that time, Cindy felt they were too strong, but if she would read them now, she would realize they are the appropriate level needed, and what she gives me, or ours are even stronger. 

Graham: Absolutely! But not everything in life is perfect. And spankings are hardly the only important thing in our lives. 

Bonnie: Yes, definitely. But I usually get that spanking eventually.

A.J.: Did you ever feel you really deserved a spanking, but didn't get one?

No. But did really WANT a spanking, but didn't get one?
Yes.
Give a spanking, but didn't get to?
Also yes.

Was there an alternative punishment, or did the issue get resolved in another way?

I don't believe in punishment spanking unless it is part of playing so, not a good question for me.

Ronnie: Yes, definitely. But things get in the way and the spanking doesn’t happen.

Hermione: For us, spankings are a reward, not a punishment.  If Ron is mad at me, he will postpone our spanking until he's in a better mood.

Slava Ukraini
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From Hermione's Heart

Sunday, May 31, 2026

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #645


Welcome to another weekend spanko brunch. Grab a sandwich, pour yourself a cup of coffee, and take a seat on one of the padded chairs.

We all spank for different reasons, and not everyone engages in them for punishment. However, there are times when only a spanking will do.

Did you ever feel you really deserved a spanking, but didn't get one? Was there an alternative punishment, or did the issue get resolved in another way?

Leave your reply as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish a summary of our discussion.



Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Monday, May 25, 2026

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for May 24

What can you tell us about self-spanking? This proved to be a popular topic and we have several new friends who joined us this week. 

MrBill: I self spank, flagellate, etc. frequently. I just don't get enough from my wife despite my requests and encouragement over the years. I don't masturbate anymore, but when she is away I whip, flog, cane myself. Sometimes bent over on the butt, sometimes inner thighs. Usually with implements including leather strap, belt, flogger, crop, cane, wooden paddle.

Rosco: Yes. For me it was underwhelming. I tried a riding crop. Yes I was by myself.

Any spanking without a lecture is unfulfilling.

Obviously we’re all different.

Bonnie: Yes, at Randy’s direction, but it wasn’t as satisfying as the real thing. I recall making the comment, “Do I have to do everything?”

Roz: I have tried it on the odd occasion when I've been alone. Definitely not as fulfilling as the real thing for me either.

TTWD: I tried a couple of times long ago, but definitely unsatisfying! I need to be spanked, not self spanked.

Wendel: Spanking for us is all about fun and intimacy. Without someone to be part of the experience a spanking is not satisfying.
We put a couple of spins on it by self-spanking when the other was present. For the first we each took turns while the other stood outside the bedroom listening. The second was self-spanking while the other was in the room. I did enjoy watching her whack her bottom and being critiqued by the Misses was a turn on. If a good enough job was not done then a proper spanking followed which happened to be every time.
   

Ronnie: Only to tease P.

Prefectdt: Yes I have self-spanked a lot, although I do not get much joy out of it. There can be a long break between spankings and self-spanking helps to keep my butt in order and helps me to keep a decent pain tolerance; it is not done for fun.

I have used plenty of things to self-spank, but the best seems to be a 2 foot (60 cm), peeled, German style rattan cane. By learning to use a flick of the wrist, rather than an arm swing, you can get a respectably stinging stroke. Also, it is not too noisy, so the radio does not need turning up too loud. Usually I am leaning forward over my dining table, supporting myself with my left hand, when this happens.

For a mentally satisfying self-spank, a medical EMS/TENS unit is often attached to my buttocks and set on a half hour pre-program, with the strength of pulse set way too high for normal medical use. This is not as good as a real spanking, but it does help me keep in mental trim, when real spankings are thin on the ground. I can just lie on my front on the bed and mentally absorb the pain, without having to do something myself, as the procedure is endured.

A.J.: Have you ever tried self-spanking?
Yes. And it appears - I'm not the only one!

If so, under what circumstances?
I was bored, felt like I needed it, and no spank buddy was handy.

Were you alone or with another person?
WHAT?? No! More proof I'm the impressionable virgin in this group.

Did you use an implement?
Hand. When that proved to be Meh..., my belt.

What position did you find most effective?
In bed and 'perched' over a BIG stack of pillows to get the more-perfect angle for the job.

Reading the comments it appears the answer is "Yes," but it is unfulfilling.

I got a smile from Wendel's comments. I wish I told my spanking GF that, before I took her OTK, that she go into her bedroom alone, go over a stack of pillows, and spank her bare bottom to warm her tush up before the OTK fun. And adding, "Leave the door open! Make sure I hear it!"

I need to get out more.
     

Graham: Several times when alone. Better than nothing, but that's a pretty low bar!

Kiki: I never self spanked before but I decided to try it a few minutes ago. I barely felt it and didn't enjoy it.   

Hermione: Nope, never done it. Well, I might have tried it once, but it isn't easy and it hurts



Slava Ukraini
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From Hermione's Heart

Sunday, May 24, 2026

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #644

The coffee is hot and the snacks are on the table, so find a comfy seat and let's get started with this week's spanko brunch discussion.

Have you ever tried self-spanking? If so, under what circumstances? Were you alone or with another person? Did you use an implement? What position did you find most effective? If you haven't tried it, would you consider it?

Leave your response as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to speak I will publish a summary of our discussion.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

From Hermione's Heart

Monday, May 18, 2026

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for May 17

Tears during a spanking? Here's what you said:

Rosco: I’d love to cry from spanking, but it’s never happened. (I do cry on emotional occasions more than most people.)

Like others, I’ve had a few super hard or errant blows that were over the top. The intense bliss of ongoing seemingly endless hard spanks puts me in a zone like nothing else.

A few days ago, Irene played the strict teacher role as never before - inspired by that short Marcy film (thanks for telling us about it). It was really great, but I was closer to laughing than crying.

CEM: If tears happen, they happen. Some women are geared that way, others are not. I would never however, try to make that a goal or a result of punishment, as that would be abusive. 

Roz: Tears were seldom here, though I often wanted to be able to cry from a spanking. On the occasions it did happen we were practising dd and the tears were more a result of the emotions behind the spanking.   

FL: Tears during a spanking have remained elusive my whole life. There was one occasion where I came very close and it had more to do with the role play and emotions than the actual spanking. Been chasing that high ever since.

Jack: My wife/mommy insures I'm crying, the bath brush insures that. The spanking is supposed to teach a lesson. I have a wife who loves me, but knows that she must be the Mommy at times and Mommy will insure that I'm crying, saying I'm sorry by the time she is done.

Prefectdt: I have never cried tears (I have cried out loud :) ) from a spanking. In theory, I would like to. Perhaps I will find out in reality one day. I have cried when put in a corner and the spanker has walked away, part way through a spanking. I think that it is the feeling of being abandoned that really gets to me.

Wendel: The Misses will let the tears fly once in a while for a bit. It is not necessary for us to enjoy the spankings. 

Bonnie: Tears are rare, at least when Randy spanks me. I’m not sure why, but that’s just not part of my usual reaction.

Now let the dog die in a kids movie and I’m a blubbering mess.

Dan: Movies and TV shows can make me cry. Same with movies and books. Yet, I've never really cried from a spanking, even though it's something I've been fascinated by since I discovered adult disciplinary spankings.

Hermione: Like Bonnie, if you want to see me cry, just let a dog (or a cartoon lion) die in a movie. But spankings never make me want to cry.  I always wonder about the stories I read in which spanking doesn't stop until there are tears. Mine would last for hours until the spanker's arm gave out.

A.J.: Tears come from EMOTION; not the spanking itself, nor the pain.
There can even be tears and crying even before the spankee goes OTK.
British sailors, VICIOUSLY flogged at sea, did not shed tears - they screamed. 

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From Hermione's Heart