Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for June 14

Broken implements? Read on!

Bonnie: I still love this question. My dear Randy has become more selective when choosing the implements he uses to spank me. I get fewer opportunities to gloat over spanking contest victories. There are several items in our toy box that outlast my bottom every single time.

But it happens. While decluttering our basement, he found a wooden wall hanging that used to be in his mother’s family room. His twisted mind immediately concluded it needed to be a paddle. And so it was, for about ten hard swats. When I heard it split, I burst into giggles. So much for that punishment session and any semblance of seriousness.

I still got spanked after he found a more reliable paddle, but his best efforts did little to mute my amusement.

Roz: I love this question too! We had a novel flogger years ago that slowly deteriorated so we discarded it, along with a novelty crop.

There was an occasion Rick was using a cane for a serious spanking and was giving quite the lecture during when I heard snap. That was it, we were both in fits of laughter. He did recover enough to continue, but, as Bonnie said, the spanking lost any seriousness at that point.

Barrel: Nope, despite thorough use over 30 years. The only evidence of deterioration our toys show are fraying leather at the end of a strap and two riding crops.

CEM: I've broken wood spoons/spatulas, paddles, canes, switches, knocked the tip off a riding crop, so, yes. But, being "dedicated" as I am, I just grabbed some other implement, and carried on.

Wendel: We bought a Mickey Mouse hand spatula in a gift shop when we visited Disney World a few years ago. I gave the Misses a few whacks with it in the hotel room and it broke. We did not have the nerve to bring it back for a refund.
The real implements designed for beating butts have held the test of time. 

Red: We had a leather metal studded paddle that had a heart shaped hole in the middle. It sort of came apart after many years of using, and the spanking ended. We loved that paddle, as Cindy liked using it in the same spot to make a white heart on my red bottom.   

Rosco: Several times, and yes the spanking continued each time. A couple of riding crops have fallen apart, a leather ping pong paddle.

And several hand cut switches of course - they’re not meant to last.

Ronnie: Ha, yes we have had a couple of implements break. Not serious ones. One was a thin paddle (don’t think it was made of wood) that broke in half that made us both laugh. The spanking didn’t carry on.

Prefectdt: More toys have met their end, coming up against my buttocks, than I care to remember. Mostly it has been pervertables. The last one was a spatula, but my bottom is the legendary graveyard of hairbrushes; they seldom stay the course, once the game is on. Several rattan canes have lost their tips encountering my spanked zone, and one shattered once, but it was over 20 years old (I purchased it in the 1980s). I usually laugh when this happens and yes, the spanking always continues, sometimes because I laughed.     

A.J.: “Had an implement break?”

That would be my hand, so no. (Or her hand if laps are flipped.

We avoid using implements preferring the more intimate hand. On rare occasions a LIGHT strap might be used if my/her hand starts to hurt, a strap picked more for its “slap” sound than anything else.

Yes. Boring. Need to get out more.

Graham: A paddle from a curiosity shop broke. Switches wear out, as mentioned above. Nothing else that I can recall. 

KDPierre: Yes, a lucite paddle we had thought was indestructible broke off at the neck. The spanking continued with another, but not without a good laugh in between. Rosa also took a picture of the broken paddle lying on my beaten butt for posterior posterity. Naturally I made her a new one (with an improved design) and that one has been in faithful service ever since.   

Hermione: We have broken several implements, but the funniest time was when Ron used a wooden spoon on my bare bottom. Afterward, we were in the middle of some erotic activity when we heard a loud "Crack". Ron had left the spoon on the bed and he had lain on it and broken it. He said there were plenty more in the kitchen, and we carried on, giggling.

He has also split a hairbrush and broken a rattan carpet beater while spanking me. The spankings didn't stop; he merely switched to a different implement.  

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #647

Welcome, one and all, to our weekly spanko brunch. You're just in time for what I hope will be a lively discussion. Today's topic is one I found down in the vault where the archives of My Bottom Smarts are stored. I dusted it off and it is just as timely today as it was in 2007.

Have you or your partner ever had an implement break during a spanking? If so, how did it happen? What were your reactions? Did the spanking continue?

Leave your reply as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to respond, I will publish a summary of our discussion.

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You've Gotta Read This

Our good friend Sore has written a novel that's a tribute to our late friend and mentor Devlin O'Neill. Uncle Ar the Disciplinarian is a must-read! I hope you will check it out and leave a comment.Writing a novel of this magnitude takes a lot of time and effort. Links to Amazon for non-US readers are here.

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for June 9

We talked about the length of time spankings take.

Jack: I have no say in how long the spanking is. My wife/mommy does not even know how long the spanking is. It depends on what I did and how I react while being spanked. 

Wendel: There are times I will set the timer for 5 plus minutes when I give the Misses a hand spanking. Once it starts it does not stop. She squirms a lot and will have tears in her eyes but It does not end until the timer goes off and every inch of her bottom is bright red.
The Misses can drag a paddling out for a long time if I am bent over the end of the bed. She will give me a dozen whacks and then go do something else in the room. It can be several minutes before I get more whacks. The wait is exhilarating. Just as I get over the sting and pain she returns and beats my bottom some more. This can go on for 30 minutes or more and I cannot get up until she says so. 

Rosco: On average, I get 3 spankings 20 or 30 minutes apart - each with maybe 20 whacks lasting 3 minutes or so. Just a guess, I’ve never counted or timed it. Often I’m tied up.

Norse Cavalier: The longest spanking I've ever given was three hours - not very hard, mostly hand, some paddle. Quite enjoyable for us both. Most spankings last about an hour, I think, but that's mostly fun spankings; punishment spankings are shorter and a lot harder.

Luvinhub: I don't believe my wife ever timed my spankings but I would guess around 30 minutes. In the moment it was usually long enough but in reality I believe she should have spanked me much longer.

Prefectdt: My spankings usually last between an hour and an hour and a half. Sometimes half an hour. An hour and a bit is often ideal, as I do like a certain level of severity and longer spankings would be hard to bear. I have been spanked for longer periods, but there are typically long breaks during the time of this type of play, it is not continuous.

KDPierre: Oddly, Rosa and I don't go by time but rather number, with a target number sort of decreed with the understanding that number might be exceeded a bit or perhaps, though less frequently, lessened as the spanking progresses.

High numbers are not unusual here, (1000+) and often very high numbers are divided up into a series of more manageable instalments, which can be a mixed blessing and curse. The more typical spankings are in the "quick 50" to solid 250-300 range.

Bonnie: Duration is Randy’s decision and he’s all over the map. Time is just one factor in deciding the severity of a spanking. Just a minute or two with a wooden bath brush at top speed and full intensity is far more painful, both during and after, than a steady 30 minute spanking with the leather paddle.

While I don’t get a choice, I do have preferences and they vary over time as well. Sometimes, I just want to take my position and get it over. In other cases, I like the detailed choreography, the build up, and the slow reveal of an inescapable punishment.

As for the longest spanking I’ve received, that depends upon one’s definition of a spanking. He has spanked me several times during a day where each session began where the last one left off (I totally deserved it). It seemed like one spanking to me and if you accept that premise, I guess my longest could span seven or eight hours.

A.J.: Obviously, I'm an amateur here, but I go by color, not time. When she's a nice pink I stop and proceed with the TLC+. When it's me on the receiving end I'm pretty sure it's the same.

In general it's about time time it take to deliver about (guessing) 250-300 hand spanks.
At top speed (where it hurts a bit more) 300 = 2 1/2 minutes.
At sensual speed 300 = 5 minutes + pauses for TLC.
At "Ain't this fun?" speed = 30 minutes?       

Dan: I think length does matter, and there are times that, when a spanking is done, I feel like it wasn't quite long enough to leave me feeling like the issue that earned me the trip over her lap was fully dealt with. But numbness puts a hard limit on most of my spankings. Somewhere around 5 - 6 minutes, my butt starts going numb and, after that, continuing to spank seems pointless. I have come to appreciate, however, the role longer spankings play in leaving soreness that lasts for days. Five to six minutes is probably our average, but the time element is probably less relevant than the number of swats Most of my spankings are with a combination of the bath brush and a heavy ebony hairbrush, with a heavy emphasis on the bath brush. The typical number of swats/strikes per session are around 200 - 300. 

Graham: Best guess is usually 45 minutes or more, but obviously not continuously.

Roz: It does vary quite a bit depending on the circumstances, mood etc. I would say on average 20 minutes.

Hermione: Ron aims for a finish time, so length of time doesn't enter into it for him. He watches the clock, and when it reaches the three quarter hour, he stops. The spanking might start on the half hour, or five minutes later, but it doesn't matter. He stops at 4:45 pm. 

Like Dan, I get numb after about five minutes, so long spankings don't do anything for me. 

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #646

Welcome to our first spanko brunch for June. Today we will be pondering that age-old question: does length really matter? The length of a spanking, that is.

How long do your spankings usually last? Would you prefer them to be longer or shorter, or are they just right? What is the longest spanking you have ever participated in?

Leave your response as a comment and I will publish your thoughts once everyone has had a chance to speak.

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for May 31

We talked about spanking for punishment. Was there a time when you should have been spanked, but weren't?

Rosco: When Irene is truly annoyed with me, she ignores me. I don’t think it’s intentional punishment, but it feels that way.

Spankings are generally for imaginary infractions like being distracted by schoolgirls or maybe not doing my homework (ageplay, they call it). Occasionally she’ll threaten a spanking for not doing something around the house, but I don’t think it ever happens.

I fantasize about real discipline, but I don’t think I’m interested.

Roz: There have been a few occasions when I thought a spanking was forthcoming but it didn't happen.

Jack: If I think I will not be spanked and got away with it, I know I'm kidding myself. My wife/mommy has told me she needs to 'cool' off and just calm down.

KDPierre: I think this happens to just about everyone (in a disciplinary relationship) over time. It's just how life works. Things pop up, get in the way, and then the moment is lost and you either try to revisit it another time or just move on. Living this type of lifestyle is complicated, especially over the long haul, so I think it's best to focus on the positives and let go of the occasional, and inevitable, "what could have beens". 

Prefectdt: The problem is for me that, although I pretend to see spankings as punishment, really I see them as a reward. So yes, there have been lots of times when I have achieved hard to do or difficult things, when I feel that I have truly earned a “well done” spanking, but there is no one around to give me one. Just life, I suppose.     

Barrel: We don't really use spanking as punishment, although our sessions do take on a stern and reprimanding tone. There have definitely been times when I deserved discipline and didn't get it right away. We tend to work things out but remember to reinforce the outcome at the end of her cane when we schedule a session.

TTWD: My experience is similar to KDPierre's. Many (most) of my spankings are disciplinary, but sometimes we just continue doing what we are doing, and by the next day, although I might remember why (or not), Cindy has forgotten. Cindy's spankings have become really effective and strong, similar to what you used to describe for your spankings. At that time, Cindy felt they were too strong, but if she would read them now, she would realize they are the appropriate level needed, and what she gives me, or ours are even stronger. 

Graham: Absolutely! But not everything in life is perfect. And spankings are hardly the only important thing in our lives. 

Bonnie: Yes, definitely. But I usually get that spanking eventually.

A.J.: Did you ever feel you really deserved a spanking, but didn't get one?

No. But did really WANT a spanking, but didn't get one?
Yes.
Give a spanking, but didn't get to?
Also yes.

Was there an alternative punishment, or did the issue get resolved in another way?

I don't believe in punishment spanking unless it is part of playing so, not a good question for me.

Ronnie: Yes, definitely. But things get in the way and the spanking doesn’t happen.

Hermione: For us, spankings are a reward, not a punishment.  If Ron is mad at me, he will postpone our spanking until he's in a better mood.

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #645

Welcome to another weekend spanko brunch. Grab a sandwich, pour yourself a cup of coffee, and take a seat on one of the padded chairs.

We all spank for different reasons, and not everyone engages in them for punishment. However, there are times when only a spanking will do.

Did you ever feel you really deserved a spanking, but didn't get one? Was there an alternative punishment, or did the issue get resolved in another way?

Leave your reply as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish a summary of our discussion.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine