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This week we discussed quiet spankings and this is what you said:
Wendel: No quiet spanking here. The sound of the bottom being smacked is wonderful and I love to hear the Misses cry out after each whack.
Roz: No need for quiet spankings but I am always paranoid about what neighbours might hear.
Glenmore: When the kids were home we would schedule a lunchtime meeting for lunch and spanking.
With the nest empty we just have to make sure the windows aren't open!
We
had a noisy one in a hotel room. Once and got some amused looks in the
elevator the next morning.We didn't know them so didn't really care.
Fondles: Tappity taps with the cane... it's the quietest option we have.
Prefectdt: There are quiet toys, rope floggers, for example. But realistically, having to keep it hushed is one condition too far. Better to find a place where noise is not an issue.
Bonnie: No. Our nest is empty now.
Hermione: There's no need for us to be quiet, but we put the television on for the dogs and give them stuffed Kongs to enjoy so the noise won't bother them.
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Does the spankee say "thank you"?
Graham: Absolutely! I not only thank her verbally, but she almost always receives a well-deserved oral orgasm usually followed by penetrative sex. Lots of fun!
Roz: I don't usually thank Rick for a spanking and it's not generally expected however I have on the odd occasion.
Fondles: I don't, usually, but I *have* said thank you when we have a Dd/lg session of playing (and spanking) - which I only mention here specifically cos sometimes the dynamic is less obvious.
Prefectdt: After a spanking I always offer a full formal, thank you. Usually in at least one full sentence. This is accompanied by a small bow. I never offer or seek a hug after this, but I often do get a hug from the other party, A hug is most welcome, but only if it is genuinely meant. I would not like it if I felt that the other party felt they had to hug me.
FL: Often, sometimes immediately following as part of roleplay, sometimes a while afterward, thanking her for enthusiastically indulging me. It's just good manners.
Jack: When my wife/mommy is done with the spanking I must say I will be a good little boy Mommy and sorry for being naughty.
Rosco: I’ll often
apologize for the behavior that led up to the spanking - that I’m sorry
for being such a recalcitrant naughty disrespectful pouty boy and that I
need to learn to follow all her rules. Then I might thank her for
spanking me because I know I needed it.
She’ll agree and usually say she needs to spank me more often.
A
few times Irene has demanded that I thank her as she’s spanking me.
I’ll refuse at first just to be a little annoying then comply.
Barrel: Yes, I do thank my wife after any spanking. After a long session, when I am totally drained, I give her a deep hug and thank her for taking me into that realm where I feel a total release of any stress. I absolutely love those moments.
A.J.: "Do you thank your spanker after a spanking?"
No. Not really. Does telling her "Oh. That was a good one!" count?
Has she ever thanked me for rendering the "honors?"
No! (That bitch!!! Kidding.)
"As a spanker, do you expect or demand such a courtesy?"
No. Never.
And that seems to me like a ritual or formality, one that I don't care for.
We thank each other in "other" ways, if-you-know-what-I-mean- and-I-think-you-do.
Wendel: The Misses has never thanked me for spanking her and I do not look for it. Consoling with kisses and sex is all that is needed.
Hermione: I agree with Wendel. No thanks are required, just some intimacy.
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Welcome back, friends and visitors alike. Our dear friend Erica Scott has posted again, so please visit her and say hello. She shared her interviews on the Spanko! Podcast; the links are here to part one and part two. It was a pleasant surprise to me because I had never heard of the Spanko! Podcast, but I'll be returning often.
Now on to today's discussion, kindly supplied to us by our good friend Barrel.
As a spankee, do you thank your spanker after a spanking? As a spanker, do you expect or demand such a courtesy?
Please leave your response as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion after everyone has had a chance to weigh in.
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Sting or thud? It was no contest.
Bonnie: Ideally, I
prefer a spanking that provides a bit of each. A moderate size wooden
paddle, not too thick, dispenses both sets of sensations when applied
firmly. Each immediate strike delivers a sharp shock to my exposed
skin. This is how corporal punishment feels.
After my spanking
is over, the burning sensation is gradually subsumed by a deep ache that
I had not fully appreciated previously. This throbbing sort of pain is
also part of the experience of getting a serious paddling. It serves
as a relentless reminder, every time I stand, sit, walk, or bend.
If I got to choose, and I don't, I would want both sting and thud.
Roz: I think I would prefer a bit of both too. The more stingy spankings can be very intense in the moment and the more thuddy implements leave more of a reminder which I love.
Prefectdt: Following on with the general vibe, so far, in this subject. It is nice to have a mix of both, delivered by several, different implements. There are so many more stingy than thuddy toys in the world that it is hard to get a perfect balance between the two.
Ronnie: A mix of both. I love (and hate) the sting of a cane but a thuddy implement like the paddle does leave a lovely reminder.
Graham: Another vote for a mix, but I do love the sting of the cane!
Rosco: Such a complicated question.
The
riding crop, the whip and the switch are generally stingy. They’re all
delicious, and can be used on areas other than the sweet spot of the
buttocks albeit generally with less force. Also, the impact of a whip,
for example, catching a bit of the tailbone is not ideal but generally
tolerable and won’t disturb the flow.
Paddles deliver a
wonderfully satisfying resounding thwack, especially when delivered just
right. They’re also easier to control - not that I have any experience
doing so. Errant blows, however, result in pain - not the good kind.
I’ve
bought numerous implements over the years the years, mostly some sort
of lever and recently with comfortable round handles to fit nicely in
Irene’s hands. These days, I usually get both the two tailed leather
strap and either the leather ping pong paddle or the harsher wooden
paddle. My face is down and I’m often blindfolded so I don’t know what’s
coming until I feel than sting or thwack (don’t much like “thud”).
The after effects of the paddle do tend to last longer.
Variety is the spice of life.
Wendel: Like everyone we like both.
Hermione: I'll have to be the lone dissenter here. I much prefer thuddy implements. When Ron gets out the stingy wooden shoehorn I cringe. He hand-fashioned a switch out of a long branch from a tree in our back yard, and even attached a loop on the end for hanging. He's proud of his work, but I try to keep it hidden because the sting is unpleasant to me.
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Welcome, one and all! Spring is finally here in the often-frozen North. Crocuses are in their full purple glory, the daffodil buds are colouring, and there is a lone hyacinth that self-seeded near the foundation of our house, and has produced three flower stalks. The dogs have enjoyed a muddy frisk together in the sunshine, and Ron has smoked his first cigar of the season on the patio.
Now down to more important matters. This week we have another of Barrel's topic suggestions.
Do you prefer "stingy" or "thuddy" spankings? Describe your best and worst of each.
Please leave your response as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion after everyone has had a chance to speak.
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