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Do you ever put off doing something that you know has to be done? Our dear friend Bonnie experienced just such an affliction, but she was lucky. Her husband Randy helped her to overcome it. Read on:
The Price of Procrastination
I'm good about getting things done. My career as a journalist/writer taught me respect for deadlines. Finishing on time is the right thing to do for many good reasons. This belief lies at the very core of my being.
But some tasks I avoid. A while back, I mentioned to my ever vigilant husband, Randy, that I needed to make an appointment to see a certain grumpy doctor. He's a specialist who I visit periodically. At least I should, but I know I won't die if I put it off. But I could get a spanking.
Recently, Randy asked me whether I had made my appointment with Doctor Grumpy. "No, not yet," I replied. I was surprised he recalled my offhand comment from weeks before. But he told me that my health is very important. I suddenly realized that the health of my butt was rapidly dropping in importance.
So I got spanked with the paddle for procrastination. I told him that he wouldn't like this doctor either, but that didn't seem to help my case. He grabbed a solid hardwood paddle with an oval shaped head, sat in the center of the couch, and directed me down over his lap. I was face down and bottom up, positioned for a traditional corporal punishment. That's a tradition we uphold.
He raised my skirt and lifted the paddle. "Bon, you must learn not to procrastinate." He lectured a while longer, but my attention by then was on more immediate concerns.
The smooth blade of paddle impacted against my exposed skin. It hurt. It always hurts. I cringed in expectation of a follow-up swat. But he paused. For what seemed like an eternity. Am I still getting a spanking? I wondered.
I got a confusing answer when Randy reached over and grabbed the TV remote. As I awaited my inevitable destiny, he surfed through channels (as men do) until landing on a sports program. Satisfied with his choice, I smacked me again.
"Ow!" I exclaimed. I wasn't ready. I thought we were beginning in earnest. But no. He halted once more and just rubbed the wooden surface across my cheeks. He seemed to be paying more attention to his show than my scarcely blushed posterior.
After a third delayed swat, I recognized that he was teaching me a lesson about procrastination. This lesson was more way annoying than it was painful. I'd had enough.
"Are you going to spank me or what?" I can tell you his response was everything but "Or what." He whacked me good. Then he whacked me bad, pausing every so often to drive home his point. By the time he finished, my home fires were definitely alight.
After my punishment concluded, Randy surprised me again. He pulled a marker from his pocket and handed it to me along with the paddle. At his instruction, I wrote these words on the face of the paddle – "On [date] I was spanked for procrastination." Then I signed it. He displayed the paddle on the wall. He said it’s a better reminder than just a sore seat because it lasts longer.
I made the appointment the next day and I will see Doctor Grumpy on Tuesday. Fortunately, he won't be examining my bottom.
So did I learn anything? Yes, I did. I learned that my queries about getting spanked are always answered forcefully in the affirmative.
Thank you, Bonnie, for sharing that painful lesson with us.
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Have there been times when you just didn't feel like engaging in spanking? Do you postpone?
Wendel: Spankings are postponed when one or both of us are sick.
Bonnie: Yes, sometimes that occurs for any one of many reasons. We postpone, but the spanking always happens eventually.
Mija: Yes, and I could totally have done that - safe words are real and absolutel. However, what I've realized over the years that because this is about giving up control, the after effect of being spanked when I *don't* feel like it, of giving that control of telling my partner that I don't want to be spanked, that I'm scared, and his going ahead anyway is mind blowingly powerful. Not to be cliche, but there's something about not wanting it, but needing it/getting it anyway that goes somewhere really deep. Sorry for being so vague, but I've really written about this before.
Roz: Yes there have been times I have not wanted a spanking in the moment. Rick was very good at knowing whether it is a minor protest, in which case the spanking would happen or if there was more to it, in which case the spanking wouldn't happen.
Mary: My wife gives me a spanking once a month (First Friday after dinner). I suggested we try spanking once and she made it a permanent part of our now FLR relationship. I hate it but I know that she sends me up to our room at the appointed time and I do. I have asked her if this is permanent and she just answers "We'll see". Right now it is 36 hours later and my bottom is still sensitive.
Rosco: Generally
Irene and I know each other well enough to tell if it’s a good time
without asking, so it’s rare that a spanking wouldn’t take place when
suggested.
But we do have a code. If she asks if I need a
spanking and I say I don’t, that I don’t deserve one and I’ve been
obedient, it means please spank me. The more I protest the harder and
longer the spanking.
If I ask if she can do it later, it means now is not a good time. But that’s only happened a handful of times in 46 years.
Ronnie: Yes we have postponed spankings. It happens.
Graham: Of course. Very rare, but sometimes there may be other pressing matters unrelated to spanking that take precedence.
Prefectdt: There are times when a spanking does not sound so good to me. But I have the advantage, over most that come to chat here, in that I just do not go to be spanked. The exception to this is when a pay to play has been arranged sometime in advance and then on the day the mood is just not there. On these occasions I keep it to myself and go and play anyway. Just don't want to get a reputation as a last minute no show.
Hermione: We postpone when there's work to be done - snow shovelling or lawn mowing - that will leave one or both of us just too tired. If it's just that I'm not in the mood, we carry on regardless since, as Mija said, it's all about submission.
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Our good friend Jean Marie was inspired by a recent brunch to compose a song parody. She gave me permission to share it with you, and here it is:
The Sounds Opposite of Silence
By Jean Marie
Hello bedspread, my old friend
I’ve come to stare at you again
Because my new boyfriend wants me OTK
He’s going to make me rue this day
With a spankin’ that my butt will ne’er forget
It’ll still remain
After the bruises have faded
In restless dreams I stand alone
As skirt goes up and pants come down
“Neath the halo of a bedside lamp
My pussy grows both sticky and damp
Then my butt is pained with the flash of his spanking hand
More than I could stand
Man, I’ll be bruised forever
And in that naked light I saw
Ten thousand spankos, maybe more
People spanking with a sense of fun
Bottoms hoping it’ll ne’er be done
Kinksters writing poems in their lover’s flesh
Eloquent
Bruises on butts unfaded
“Ouch” cried I, “That hurts so much
Spankings get so hot to the touch
Hear my pleas that you might back-off
Read my signs, you brutish jack-off!”
But I feared my words like silent teardrops fell
Unheeded like my bruises
But then this Top, he stopped and prayed
To the altar that he claimed my pert butt had made
He worshipfully deified
The derriere he almost crucified
The Top prayed, “This butt is near perfect
It just needs some color, some heat…”
“Proceed,” I said, my other cheeks blushing
And the night was filled with the sounds opposite of silence
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Do you and your partner discuss spanking?
Bonnie: A casual
observer might think Randy and I should have long ago said everything
there is to be said on this subject. But we're still talking all the
time. Sometimes the subject is serious, but sometimes funny. Sometimes
it's logistical. Occasionally, it's just a sly aside slipped into an
otherwise vanilla topic. Or a joke.
The conversation can also be
non-verbal. A paddle strategically placed on the bed. A random swat
on my butt. A fashion choice meant to intrigue.
So, yes, our answer is yes.
Roz: Rick and I have always been able to talk about any subject. We share our thoughts and feelings on issues and our desires. That includes spanking. Sometimes a serious conversation, sometimes designed to titillate or just fun. Importantly I think, we have been able to discuss what works and doesn't work for each of us spanking wise. When we had an active dynamic the topic would come up fairly frequently and would be raised by either of us.
Wendel: Spanking comes up pretty much every day. It is just a fun thing we like doing and talking about.
Barrel: Yes, we talk about the subject regularly and openly. As we are using spanking to support behavioral change, she brings up the subject weekly or so. We are both desiring for the frequency and duration to increase, and we have agreed either of us are encouraged to bring the subject up.
Rosco: Yes. I’ll
distinguish between talking about spanking during our role play, usually
sexual, encounters, and when we’re talking about those times. During
those sessions I’ll complain and beg not to be spanked which is our code
for more spanking.
Outside of those times, Irene will tell me
I’m due for a spanking and I’ll joke about it. If I ever say I don’t
need one, again it’s code that I do want one. If I say “later”, it’s
serious - now is not the right time.
We do talk about implements
and severity. I bought her a vicious wooden paddle to make it easier on
the arthritis in her hands - but it’s often too intense for my bottom. I
like it to hurt, as does she, but only to a point. I’ve also brought
home switches that leave welts which don’t bother me but they do bother
her.
Recently she got carried away and whacked my testicles with
the tip of a whip that took me, and thus her, out of our blissful zone.
She felt bad about it, but I reminded her that subs get over these
things quickly but, as I’ve read, sometimes they never get over these things
quickly, such as the wrong kind of verbal insult.
Prefectdt: I don't think that this particular is for me. I am, genuinely, looking forward to reading other peoples comments about this.
At least your comment wasn't identified as spam by Blogger this time :)
Dan: We talk about it fairly often. Not all the time, but probably once every two or three weeks. I initiate most of those discussions, but not all.
Hermione: Not serious discussions, but once in a while Ron will make a joking reference to it.
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