Friday, December 9, 2022

Friday FUN

For those of you who liked the old version of Windows photo in my last post, remember Clippie?

If that was before your time, he was a little helper at the bottom of the screen that you clicked on if you needed some assistance.

In later versions, there were more office assistants to choose from.

Windows was much more fun back then. It's too bad there wasn't a paddle to inspire you to work harder and stop playing with Clippie and company. I usually chose the dog. Which one would you choose?

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From Hermione's Heart

Wednesday, December 7, 2022

Truer words...

...were never spoken

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Monday, December 5, 2022

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for December 4

Scheduled or impromptu spankings?

Bonnie: I'll choose the regular schedule as long as the time between appointments is short.

Jack: I wish I could choose, showed this to my wife, she laughed. 

Jean Marie: This is SUCH a GREAT question! I've been thinking about it for several hours, as I ran errands, and I'm still not totally sure of my answer.

Generally, I gravitate toward order and routine, so the regularly scheduled spankings sounded best. I like the proviso that Bonnie stipulated, that it not be too long between them, for my taste about once every two days or so, at least.

But then I began thinking about the spontaneous nature of my love-life, and that key detail "in unexpected locations." I sometimes LOVE a spanking while I'm still sore and marked from the last one. I LOVE it when others may be suspecting what we're up to. Most of all, I LOVE to think that it could be happening somewhere exotic or especially romantic. Could that unexpected location also be beyond the confines of the lower portion of my bottom? (My bottom can take it hard, but other places really enjoy lighter attention.) There is just too much wonderfully uncharted territory in the second option to pass it up. I have to choose Door # 2.

KDPierre: I can't see any reason not to enjoy both. LOL

But if pressed, I like the idea of being able to mentally prepare myself for what's coming with something scheduled. Surprises can just as easily come at the 'wrong time' mentally as the 'right time'. Too chancy. 

Graham: I prefer having a regular schedule but with occasional "surprises" thrown in. No need to choose between the two. 

Roz: I vote for both lol. Regular spankings but some surprises brings spontaneity:)

Prefectdt: In the fantasy world, in my head, the surprise spanking wins, hands down. In real life, taking into consideration getting mentally and physically prepared, the regular planned spanking gets my vote. When the pants come down, I like to be presenting a clean and nice smelling bottom, and that takes preparation :)

Wendel: Yes to both. We love the excitement of the spontaneous spanking with no time to get ready and also the excitement that builds as it gets closer to the spanking we know is coming.

Barrel: I vote for regular spankings as long as the interval was short and we stuck to the routine. That way she would spank me more than she does. And I agree with previous comments about getting mentally prepared. That’s a big one for me. Throw in an unplanned surprise and it can’t get any better than that.

Mark: I'm also in the both camps! I'd worry that the random would be too seldom for me. Being in the right frame of mind is nice, but I find it pretty awesome when I'm not but am spanked anyway.

Ronnie: Both for me. Regular with plenty surprise spankings in betweenπŸ™‚

Hermione: Routine works best for us in all things, including spanking. Mental preparation is all-important to me, so I prefer keeping to our schedule.

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From Hermione's Heart

Sunday, December 4, 2022

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #464

The holiday season is well under way, as you can tell from the endless repetition of seasonal music in every mall and store. Oh well, earplugs do the job. I promise this brunch will be soundless.

Given the choice, would you rather have a regularly scheduled spanking or a random surprise otk spanking in an unexpected location?

Please leave your response as a comment, and I will publish an edited summary of our discussion early next week.

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From Hermione's Heart

Friday, December 2, 2022

Speaking of Bottoms

This week I was treated to not one but two startles. 

The first was a television program I happened to try. I came in at the end of My Strange Addiction, when the two story lines were resolving. The first was a woman addicted to drinking paint.

After seeing a therapist she decided to give up her habit for the sake of her children, since she wanted to live long enough to see them into adulthood and her addiction was shortening her life. 

The second addiction was pony play. I couldn't see how that was harmful in any way, although it is no longer my thing. (Confession: I did play horses often as a small child, but never wore tack or a fake tail.) The woman involved agreed with me, and had no intention of abandoning her fetish.

Then the next episode began, and the first addiction was to getting a bigger butt.

The woman in this segment really wanted a big, bigger, biggest butt, so she was "addicted" to having silicone injections. Alas, the silicone used was industrial grade. Where did she find someone to use that on her posterior? I didn't watch the rest as I had errands to run.

The second startle arrived in my inbox. It was from my favourite clothing store, and the subject line read: 

Take 30% Off Adult Bottoms

Off the top? 15% off each side? What would you use to take off parts of a bottom? A nice cane? The lady on the addiction show would have called this email spam.


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From Hermione's Heart

Wednesday, November 30, 2022

Black Friday Bargains

It isn't Friday, but the Black Friday sales seem to last for days, if not weeks. For that hard-to-buy-for person on your gift list, soap is always a safe bet. Who doesn't wash? (If you don't, I don't want to know.)

Be sure to read the fine print.

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Monday, November 28, 2022

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for November 27

Here are your thoughts on humiliation.

Roz: Humiliation is something I struggle with at times so it's not something I really desire as such. However Rick does enjoy adding a little humiliation at times. 

Jean Marie: Of all the many spankings happening around my home, most of them are playful, or as the prelude to frolic. But, when Robert thinks I'm in need of "being brought down a peg" and/or punished, humiliation usually has a part. I've found I like having to grovel a bit, it puts me in my sub space all the quicker. But I MUCH prefer the spankings to be joyous, exuberant, sexy instead!

sore is more: Chiming in my 2 cents. The last few months I spent an unhealthy amount of time reading spanking blogs DD, D/s, M/s, and anything in between, so the discussion about the humility and humiliation definitely rings a bell. 

An excellent article on the now defunct Vivian's blog, and one more here.

From what I see throughout the blogosphere, humiliation is a quintessential part of the punishment spanking. Many rituals, such as undressing not for the purpose of sex, fetching the implement, assuming the position, especially the more humiliating positions are specifically designed for that purpose - taking down a peg.

Shameless plug, I posted my first spanking fiction, May I have another

Jack: In this family that is part of the punishment, not always, but when I have gone too far. My wife will ensure I feel like a naughty little boy.  It is when the spankings take place in the front room, no matter time of day, I'm told to undress, fold the clothes but leave the underpants on. I will face the wall, knowing what is coming. When she pulls the chair to the middle of the room and then she leave the room, I know the bath brush is what she is getting. I must stand before her, she scolds me, then slowly pulls down my underpants, told to step out of them and place them with the rest of the clothes. Once the spanking is over, back to the corner, does not matter if anyone drops in. I have leaved that her friends could care less that I'm naked facing the wall, they enjoy seeing my very well spanked bottoms and make comments. My wife also points out that I'm just like any naughty little boy getting a spanking from 'Mommy'.

Rosco: Absolutely. The lecture is essential. I’m often also dressed in frilly panties, put in the corner or tied up. Irene will often threaten to pants me and spank me in front of “all the girls” (just pretending). She make me drink tea made from her worn panties. She’ll make me confess. The physical spanking itself is important but only a part for me and for us.

Prefectdt: Not really, although some of the play situations that I take part in might be seen as humiliating, CFNM play for example, which I seem to be involved in a lot of times, in my mind I just see it as a test of my mental endurance and part of the ceremony of the spanking play. Brushing these, supposed humiliations off and not letting them get to me, makes me feel a bit proud of myself, not humiliated.

Anon: It's not something I'm particularly fond of. But yes humiliation is an essential part of my spankings which are all punishment, no play. I have to stand naked in front of HOH wife's desk on Thurs. evenings for my weekly behavioral review while she reads off the infractions I have incurred in the prior week and passes down my sentence that will be carried out on Sat. I'm always squirming through the entire event and hoping no will be visiting Sat. when I'll be marched naked from upstairs bedroom to basement. Extremely humbling but pain without humiliation just is not effective for us.

Barrel: Yes, as in the form of submissiveness. Ours begins with asking for a spanking, supported then with a reason. If she agrees, I am put in panties or thigh hi’s. Depending on the length and severity of the spanking, I may be asked to explain what implement I think should be used and why. If a session is planned, I must set up the restraints on the bench. Last evening, I had to deliver the black riding crop to my wife and then ask her to whip me. Definitely humiliating. 

Alan: I dislike the word humiliation because contextually, it implies malicious, demeaning, and destructive attacks on someone's sense of themself and self-esteem. But “humbling “means the discipline of the ego and acceptance of another person's disciplinary authority and is often necessary for disciplinary spanking. What humbles one person may humiliate another, so nuance is essential for any disciplinarian to consider. For some, getting a disciplinary spanking is probably enough to bring about the necessary humbling. But others probably require more such as being required to ask for it or verbalizing their behavior, Everyone is different, but some humbling is perhaps necessary for anyone to get the most benefit from a disciplinary spanking.

A.J.: Never been humiliated when otk; and never tried to humiliate my GF’s who let me take them otk. On the receiving end I can be pushed and come back at them; on the giving side of the lap, that’s just not me. I want it all to be fun and sexy play!

Hermione: I never actively seek to be humiliated, but the very act of baring one's bottom and bending over is inherently humiliating, and a vital part of the whole spanking experience.

KDPierre: I agree with Alan as far as semantics go. In fact. it's quite common to hear someone who bristles at the negative implication of "humiliation" assert their punishments lack this aspect, and then go on to say the things they DO do.....which ironically fall right into that category. So better just to say "humbling" and more folks would likely feel more comfortable. (Of course, hardcore humiliation folks have no problem with other terms. LOL)

As for us? Well, sure! Heck, what about a punishment spanking ISN'T humbling?! Being open here has certainly added an even more humbling aspect, since Rosa has no problem openly threatening a spanking if I'm acting in a way she disapproves of. My in-the-know neighbors are particularly 'treated' to such amusement at my expense with Marta often joining in with such 'warnings'.

In the past, if I had a punishment coming, particularly for something that affected someone in the household, I had a handmade sign I would wear (like the old "thief" signs worn as punishment during the Civil War), that said: "Spank me, I've been a bad boy."

Another effective practice for post-punishment embarrassment was/is the use of me wearing these open-seated chaps type jeans along with thong underwear. Instead of idle corner time, I could then be made to do chores or attend to Rosa's wishes while my reddened cheeks would be on display to anyone who happened by......including said neighbors who have seen me in that state more than once! 

Enzo: Sorry I missed this brunch, Hermione. In particular, since humiliation is a topic I have spent plenty of time contemplating and discussing with others. To me, it is an essential ingredient. Maybe I should answer your brunch topic via a dedicated post on my blog.

Enzo - please do! Thank you all for a lively discussion. See you soon!

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