Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for March 2

How do you feel about spanking parties? Most of your comments were flagged as spam by Blogger. I guess B*D*S*M triggers the spam filter, but don't worry. I recovered them, and here they are:

Bonnie: That's not really our vibe. While I am intrigued by the idea, Randy prefers to handle our spankings at home and in private.

Dan: I haven't attended one. For me, I think it would depend to a huge extent on the composition of the party. A general spanking party doesn't have much appeal for me, but mostly because my spanking interest is so focused on disciplinary spankings. If there were a "party" for Domestic Discipline couples, and preferably a small group (probably no more than 4-6 couples), I could be into it.

Wendel: A spanking party does not really spark interest. We like to keep it with us. 

Barrel: We have never been to one. It would take some open and candid discussion about the rules, limits, do's and don'ts, but maybe. It would also depend on where it was (far away from home is better), size of the group (smaller is better) and maybe others sharing how it might work. Hmmm???? 

Donn: My perspective is very similar to Dan's: If it was a small group of wife-led DD couples, who were together simply to socialize, or to trade information and techniques, or one husband had incurred penance with several wives (who wanted witnesses), I would certainly attend.

Somewhat similar, there are periodic "trade shows" of vendors of spanking (and other BDSM) equipment, where there are often "equipment demonstration suites" in a nearby hotel. Not exactly "parties," but there is often a group of people engaged in various "test and demonstration" spankings. I'd be up to visit and learn more.

Roz: We went to a BDSM event years ago out of curiosity. It was interesting seeing the people there, the goings on etc. There wasn't much spanking though. It was a one off. I don't think a spanking party would hold much appeal.

Norse Cavalier: I find the concept interesting, but there are none in Norway, and I don't like the thought of having to leave the country. There's BDSM parties, and I've attended a few, but it's not the same. But yeah, if time and money were no object, maybe.

Graham: OK, I'll be the outlier going against the grain. When I was younger and single, I went to several and they were all great fun. Once I took a girlfriend who also enjoyed it very much. There was ZERO pressure to do anything. The people were very friendly. It might have been even nicer if we had known some of the people beforehand. There were of course toys and things for sale, but only on the first night. While there were some public events, almost all the real action occurred behind closed doors from what I could tell. What I've related here was over 30 years ago, so I can't comment on the current climate. 

Rosco: I don’t think so, but I do have fantasies about being spanked by the whole sorority or, better yet, the women’s tennis team in their locker room.

Prefectdt: No I have never been to a spanking party. I would like to, but not alone. If I could find a Top who wanted to go with me, I would, but being a single, male spankee at a party, unaccompanied, no thanks.

cleveland_Tom: Gone to 2 SCONY, (Spanking Club of New York), weekends in the Poconos, joined a Spanko interest group that held events at a local/amateur dungeon that meets for about a year, a group spun off from that Cleveland Tanners Society that held in home events for a few year, mostly couples, (which I wasn't at the time), kind of Pot Lucks with spanking. All were interesting, mostly great people. Fun.

Ronnie: I am intrigued by the idea, and would be interested in attending one, but only as a spectator. 

Hermione: I am currently reading 18 Months in the Spanking Scene by Anna J Skye, and in it she describes spanking parties, although she never attends one. The parties she was told about seem very structured, and always end with a round of caning all the females present. That type of party would not appeal to me at all! I might like to be a fly on the wall at a party, but have no desire to be spanked in public.

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #632

Welcome back once more, dear friends, to another spanko brunch. February is nearly over and that means Spring is just around the corner for those of us in the northern hemisphere. Canada geese are flying overhead in V formation as I type this. 

This might be a quiet weekend for many of us, but for others there is indoor fun to be had. That brings us to today's discussion topic.

Have you ever been to a spanking party? If so, what were your impressions? If not, and if time and money were no object, would you consider attending one?

Leave your response as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion on Monday.

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for February 22

This week we discussed BDSM and autism. Here's what you said:

Norse Cavalier: My local BDSM group has a LOT of autistic people in it - I'm one of them.

You can also talk about the overlap between BDSMers, autistic people, and board game players. At one point, autistic Doms were a majority of the board of my local board game group (though this was not widely known to the board game players). We make sure the board game group and the BDSM group never have events on the same weekends, due to the massive overlap.

Rosco: Hmm interesting. I’m nerdy and socially awkward, but I don’t think I’m on the spectrum.

Prefectdt: I got tested, for a lot of stuff, on the advice of a professional psychologist, that I was seeing at the time, in the 1990s. Autism was one of those things and I came up negative. So, just because you are into an aspect of BDSM, does not automatically mean that you are Autistic. I wonder if it is worth some Boffin's time to do a study to find out the percentages of Autistic and non-Autistic people in the community.

Roz: Very interesting. I guess it may make sense that the structure of BDSM would work for those on the spectrum.

Nana: I was tested for autism 4 years ago, did not have it, did get diagnosed with ADHD tho and there is a huge overlap in people with ADHD and people that are into BDSM as well, makes a lot of sense to me, as a good spanking is one of the few things that can shut up my brain.

Hermione: That was such an interesting discussion. I had no idea ofthe association, but it makes perfect sense. Thank you, Boru!

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #631

Welcome, everyone, to a very special weekend spanko brunch. Our good friend Boru alerted me to an interesting correlation between people interested in spanking and those on the autistic spectrum. He said, "I saw the meme on an autism group and the resultant posts, there were lots of them, agreed this to be true about spankos. One person even suggested that it may not be mere correlation." I did a search and here's the AI summary: 

Studies suggest a higher prevalence of BDSM interest among autistic individuals compared to the general population

, with research indicating that BDSM's structured, explicit communication and sensory-focused nature align with common autistic traits. Key research highlights that kink environments can provide a safe space for autistic individuals to navigate social interaction and sensory exploration. 

So what do you think? Leave your response as a comment and once everyone has had a chance to reply, I will publish a summary of your thoughts. If you are interested in checking yourself, here's a quick self-test. 

 

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Going Out to Eat

We're going out for a belated Valentine's Day lunch, so I found some food-related signs for your enjoyment.

 

Bon appetit!

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for February 15

This week we discussed lopsided spankings, and here's what you said:

Bonnie: I really dislike an unbalanced spanking, so much so that I've asked Randy to even me up. He is delighted to grant such requests.

Graham: No interest here, fortunately.

Kiki: I'm with Bonnie. I can't stand when the spanking is unbalanced either.

Wendel: We did try paddling just one cheek. It was not satisfying giving or receiving so it has not happened since. 

Roz: I too much prefer an even spanking. It does happen on the odd occasion though.

Norse Cavalier: I've wanted to try that with a young lady - deliberately spank only one of her cheeks, then go out to eat. She can squirm in her chair at the restaurant, trying to get comfortable. Once we're done, we go back home so that the other cheek can get some attention.

I've noticed that I tend to spank the right cheek more than the left. The best way to avoid it is to give some extra attention to the left cheek, to even it out, and to rely on feedback from the naughty young lady. If one of her cheeks hurts more than the other, she's not shy in telling me.

Ronnie: I don't like when a spanking is more one sided but it has happened on occasion. 

Prefectdt: I hate being “Lop” spanked. Just watching a video of it happening to someone else is annoying. Where this seems to happen the most in an OTK situation, where the further buttock is easier to reach than the nearer buttock. It is often something that inexperienced spankers need to be warned about. Spankers, please learn to take a physical hint. When the Spankee is lifting one buttock higher than the other, that means that the buttock being lifted high needs more attention.

Rosco: I think this happened more often initially. With paddles, straps and even riding crops it’s pretty to provide an egalitarian spanking. A bit harder with whips, unless the dominant partner is truly ambidextrous.

It’s been awhile, but when we’ve used switches I get wonderful welts, albeit only on the right buttock.

Barrel: Neither of us like lopsided color and marks. That's why she carefully inspects the results before we stop spankings and sessions. Before our recent sessions to prevent strokes landing in unintended areas, we mark the limits on my bottom with a pen. Then she is free to land any of the implements within the target, and usually balances the color, texture and markings evenly.

A.J.: I have NEVER spanked one of my lovely spanking GFs like that! It is always left-right-left-right. (Or the reverse.)

On the receiving end, though, it did happen. My first spanking GF, after a month or two of my spanking her so deliciously, out of the blue announced "Your turn!" And I had to go OTK for my first ever otk spanking.

And guess what she did? Yup.

I finally turned back and yelled at her : "Hey!! I have TWO cheeks!"

She paused, noticed, laughed, apologized. and then balanced her work out. Funny then. 

Hermione: It happens sometimes with longer implements, such as the long wooden shoehorn. The impact lands on the left cheek more, and the right cheek gets only a whisper of a stroke.

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #630

Welcome, fellow brunchers, to our weekly get-together. It's Valentine's Day, and the shops are decked out in various shades of pink and red.  Today's topic, suggested by an anonymous reader, explores the subject of those differing shades of redness.

Do you ever deliver or receive a lop-sided spanking, when one cheek receives far more attention than the other? Spankers, do you do it intentionally? If not, how can you avoid it? Spankees, does it bother you or do you accept it as part of the overall experience?

Leave your response as a comment and once everyone has had a chance to reply, I will publish a summary of our discussion.

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