Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for February 8

Have there been times when you just didn't feel like engaging in spanking? Do you postpone?

Wendel: Spankings are postponed when one or both of us are sick.

Bonnie: Yes, sometimes that occurs for any one of many reasons. We postpone, but the spanking always happens eventually.

Mija: Yes, and I could totally have done that - safe words are real and absolutel. However, what I've realized over the years that because this is about giving up control, the after effect of being spanked when I *don't* feel like it, of giving that control of telling my partner that I don't want to be spanked, that I'm scared, and his going ahead anyway is mind blowingly powerful. Not to be cliche, but there's something about not wanting it, but needing it/getting it anyway that goes somewhere really deep. Sorry for being so vague, but I've really written about this before.

Roz: Yes there have been times I have not wanted a spanking in the moment. Rick was very good at knowing whether it is a minor protest, in which case the spanking would happen or if there was more to it, in which case the spanking wouldn't happen.    

Mary: My wife gives me a spanking once a month (First Friday after dinner). I suggested we try spanking once and she made it a permanent part of our now FLR relationship. I hate it but I know that she sends me up to our room at the appointed time and I do. I have asked her if this is permanent and she just answers "We'll see". Right now it is 36 hours later and my bottom is still sensitive.

Rosco: Generally Irene and I know each other well enough to tell if it’s a good time without asking, so it’s rare that a spanking wouldn’t take place when suggested.

But we do have a code. If she asks if I need a spanking and I say I don’t, that I don’t deserve one and I’ve been obedient, it means please spank me. The more I protest the harder and longer the spanking.

If I ask if she can do it later, it means now is not a good time. But that’s only happened a handful of times in 46 years.

Ronnie: Yes we have postponed spankings. It happens. 

Graham: Of course. Very rare, but sometimes there may be other pressing matters unrelated to spanking that take precedence.

Prefectdt: There are times when a spanking does not sound so good to me. But I have the advantage, over most that come to chat here, in that I just do not go to be spanked. The exception to this is when a pay to play has been arranged sometime in advance and then on the day the mood is just not there. On these occasions I keep it to myself and go and play anyway. Just don't want to get a reputation as a last minute no show.

Hermione: We postpone when there's work to be done - snow shovelling or lawn mowing - that will leave one or both of us just too tired. If it's just that I'm not in the mood, we carry on regardless since, as Mija said, it's all about submission.

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #629

Good day all! It's a fine day today, regardless of the weather, because we are all together again to talk about spanking. We are all enthusiasts in one way or another, but sometimes our enthusiasm isn't quite up to its usual level.

Has there ever been a time when you just didn't feel like participating in a spanking? Did you make your feelings known to your partner? If so, did the spanking happen anyway, or was it postponed?

Leave your reply as a comment and I will publish a summary of our discussion when the weekend is over.

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The Sounds Opposite of Silence

Our good friend Jean Marie was inspired by a recent brunch to compose a song parody. She gave me permission to share it with you, and here it is:

The Sounds Opposite of Silence
By Jean Marie

Hello bedspread, my old friend
I’ve come to stare at you again
Because my new boyfriend wants me OTK
He’s going to make me rue this day
With a spankin’ that my butt will ne’er forget
It’ll still remain
After the bruises have faded

In restless dreams I stand alone
As skirt goes up and pants come down
“Neath the halo of a bedside lamp
My pussy grows both sticky and damp
Then my butt is pained with the flash of his spanking hand
More than I could stand
Man, I’ll be bruised forever

And in that naked light I saw
Ten thousand spankos, maybe more
People spanking with a sense of fun
Bottoms hoping it’ll ne’er be done
Kinksters writing poems in their lover’s flesh
Eloquent
Bruises on butts unfaded

“Ouch” cried I, “That hurts so much
Spankings get so hot to the touch
Hear my pleas that you might back-off
Read my signs, you brutish jack-off!”
But I feared my words like silent teardrops fell
Unheeded like my bruises

But then this Top, he stopped and prayed
To the altar that he claimed my pert butt had made
He worshipfully deified 
The derriere he almost crucified

The Top prayed, “This butt is near perfect
It just needs some color, some heat…”
“Proceed,” I said, my other cheeks blushing 
And the night was filled with the sounds opposite of silence

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for February 1

Do you and your partner discuss spanking?

Bonnie: A casual observer might think Randy and I should have long ago said everything there is to be said on this subject. But we're still talking all the time. Sometimes the subject is serious, but sometimes funny. Sometimes it's logistical. Occasionally, it's just a sly aside slipped into an otherwise vanilla topic. Or a joke.

The conversation can also be non-verbal. A paddle strategically placed on the bed. A random swat on my butt. A fashion choice meant to intrigue.

So, yes, our answer is yes.

Roz: Rick and I have always been able to talk about any subject. We share our thoughts and feelings on issues and our desires. That includes spanking. Sometimes a serious conversation, sometimes designed to titillate or just fun. Importantly I think, we have been able to discuss what works and doesn't work for each of us spanking wise. When we had an active dynamic the topic would come up fairly frequently and would be raised by either of us.

Wendel: Spanking comes up pretty much every day. It is just a fun thing we like doing and talking about. 

Barrel: Yes, we talk about the subject regularly and openly. As we are using spanking to support behavioral change, she brings up the subject weekly or so. We are both desiring for the frequency and duration to increase, and we have agreed either of us are encouraged to bring the subject up.

Rosco: Yes. I’ll distinguish between talking about spanking during our role play, usually sexual, encounters, and when we’re talking about those times. During those sessions I’ll complain and beg not to be spanked which is our code for more spanking.

Outside of those times, Irene will tell me I’m due for a spanking and I’ll joke about it. If I ever say I don’t need one, again it’s code that I do want one. If I say “later”, it’s serious - now is not the right time.

We do talk about implements and severity. I bought her a vicious wooden paddle to make it easier on the arthritis in her hands - but it’s often too intense for my bottom. I like it to hurt, as does she, but only to a point. I’ve also brought home switches that leave welts which don’t bother me but they do bother her.

Recently she got carried away and whacked my testicles with the tip of a whip that took me, and thus her, out of our blissful zone. She felt bad about it, but I reminded her that subs get over these things quickly but, as I’ve read, sometimes they never get over these things quickly, such as the wrong kind of verbal insult.   

Prefectdt: I don't think that this particular is for me. I am, genuinely, looking forward to reading other peoples comments about this.

At least your comment wasn't identified as spam by Blogger this time :)

Dan: We talk about it fairly often. Not all the time, but probably once every two or three weeks. I initiate most of those discussions, but not all.

Hermione: Not serious discussions, but once in a while Ron will make a joking reference to it. 

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #628

Welcome back to another weekend of eating, enjoying each other's company, and discussing spanking. One of the things I like best about our brunches is that it gives people who don't have a blog a chance to participate and speak their minds. And speaking happens to be our topic for today.

Do you find it easy to talk to your partner about spanking? How often do you discuss the subject: often, seldom, or never? Who usually initiates the conversation?

Leave your response as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to speak I will publish a summary of our discussion.

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Movies Then and Now

After we talked about our favourite spanking movies last week, our good friend A.J. asked me how today's list compared with the one readers contributed to ten years ago. Here are my readers' favourite movies back then:

McLintock

Secretary

Of Freaks and Men

Ups and Downs of a Handyman 

Les Memoirs de Monsieur Leon - Maitre Fesseur

The Father of the Bride

9 1/2 Weeks

Love Camp #7

Community

Meet Me in St. Louis

Spencer's Mountain

Tank    

As you can see, there are a few movies that are all-time favourites!

 

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for January 25

Are your eyes closed or open during a spanking?

Roz: I tend to fluctuate between eyes open and closed. I think I tend to close them as the spanking intensifies.

Prefectdt: I have never thought about this one before. But as I have a great memory file, in my head, of floorings and carpets, that I was looking at whilst being spanked, It can only be concluded that the eyes were always open.

Jean Marie: All of my senses are heightened/sharpened during a good spanking. I never feel more sexual than when I'm getting a really good, hard spanking, not even when I share sexual intercourse. So I try to keep my eyes open to register everything, along with that exquisite percussive sound, and the many smells, chief among them my aroused scent, contrasting with my cotton-dry mouth. I love having my vision prismed with a kaliadescope of rainbow colors as my eyes fill with tears. I can vividly remember closing my eyes with an alarmed blink when the pain grows to be too much, as when a heavy wooden paddle is utilize on my sensitized tushy, and then closing them tight as the paddling reaches its crescendo, and fireworks go off behind my closed eyes.

All of those sense memories are now a thing of the past. I don't think I'll ever have my bottom punished properly again, due to a series of unfortunate events.  

Welcome back, Jean Marie!

A.J.: "...my vision prismed with a kaliadescope of rainbow colors as my eyes fill with tears"

That's a great line!

When you are being spanked, are your eyes open or closed?
Open. (Now ask if I'm smiling, gritting my teeth, or pursing my lips.)

Have you tried the opposite?
Hmmmmm. Opposite of what?

If you are a spanker, what have you observed in your partner?
Well, from her position OTK, not her eyes. Besides, there is this wonderful bare bottom inches away that I need to pink up.

Barrel: I always keep my eyes open. If the spanking is for maintenance or a prelude to intimacy, my wife usually dresses in lingerie or hosiery. As I am normally OTK and face down, I look at her feet. If we are having an extended session, I place all the implements she wants on a table in front of the bench where I am restrained. I do that so I can see what implement she starts with and know what she is using next when she makes a change. Although I can almost always tell what she is using, discerning between the two delrin canes is difficult.

Rosco: Closed mostly. Usually these days I’m kneeling on a pouf and lying over the edge of the bed with a pillow supporting my chin and neck looking straight down so I can savor the experience. I like to know when the next swat is coming but sometimes I have to guess a bit.

Sometimes I’ll peek, either directly or via the mirror but I really prefer to lie still and feel the sensation while absorbing whatever concurrent lecture Irene may be delivering.

Sometimes Irene will blindfold me (and maybe tie me up) so my eyes are effectively closed anyway.

Part of our routine is that she’ll spank and lecture me, put me down for a nap (sometimes tied up blindfolded) then return for more discipline an hour later before other conjugal activities ensue. 

Jack: My wife/mommy will during the spanking have me looked at her, she will ask me why I was a naughty little boy, I have looked at her and pleaded for her to stop I'll be a good little boy. Doesn't do any good. At the times that my mother-in-law is present, I will close my eyes and turn my head away, those spankings are the worse because of being seen by someone and my kicking, squirming and pleading, I'm reminded that is how naughty little boys react to being spanked. 

Hermione: I would have thought closed was preferable, but I realized that I keep my eyes open, although there's nothing much to look at other than the pattern on the bedspread.    

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