We've all come through another busy week and now it's time to relax. Last week we discussed helpful tips on wielding a cane.
Do you have similar tips, perhaps more “impactful”, on how and where to spank the most sensitive areas? Are these reserved for special spankings?
Please leave your response as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish a summary of your helpful hints. Thank you, Barrel, for suggesting this follow-up topic.
Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine
Our very dear friend Ronnie has published a post with a wealth of information on caning. She should know what she's talking about, as she sells a variety of canes and has had much first-hand experience being on the receiving end.
Here is her advice. While you are visiting her blog, please do take the opportunity to order a cane or two.
Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine
Each evening while I am preparing dinner, Ron goes to the laptop on our dining room table and chooses a stream of music from Youtube. Last night it was a compilation of folk tunes. We listened to the familiar songs by our favourite performers - Gordon Lightfoot, Neil Young, Ian and Sylvia, Colleen Peterson. (See what I did there? All Canadian superstars.)
Then a song came on that was unfamiliar, and not folk at all. Jazz, perhaps? But the lyrics were unmistakably spanko. It's a rather naughty song, and I think you'll enjoy it as much as I did.
Oh, baby, that sound.
Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine
Need advice on caning technique? Read on!
Bonnie: For me, a
punishment with the cane is intense to be sure, but it's not the worst
implement. I reserve that distinction for a solid wooden bath brush.
It feels like a hairbrush, but it burns much hotter. Spankings with
this long handled brush leave vivid marks on my bottom and next day
soreness.
As far as advice, I'd say remember to breathe. If skin
damage is a problem, wear a pair of cotton panties or some leggings.
Moisturizing lotion can help afterward. For the spankers, please take
care to avoid our hips and back.
Anon: The cane is a
very exotic and erotic implement with one of the longest traditions.
Three pieces of advice that I'm sure others would share. First, start
with a manageable size. You needn't start with the senior cane -- work
your way up to it if desired.
Second, the spanker should
definitely practice on a pillow long enough to gain confidence of
control and accuracy before going to work on a human! If you're
worried, then cover the lower back and the thighs. Also, practice not
wrapping, as that can be painful and leave unwanted marks.
Third,
position is everything for both parties. It may work best with the
victim over a pile of pillows to start before graduating to the bent
over position. In the latter position, it usually works best for the
caner to be slightly ahead of the recipient's bottom to effectively
cover both cheeks without wrapping.
Back to point 1, a lighter, shorter cane is not likely to do so much damage with a mishit, so definitely a good place to start.
Enjoy...the cane is my favorite to receive and hope you learn to appreciate it.
Mark: I'd agree with Bonnie, I find wooden paddles much worse. They don't however have the instant clarity of pain that you get with a cane, and not the welts either. I think that it is important that the cane is applied with a very full swing - arm taken right back and wrist cranked back further - then brought down on the bottom as hard as the caner can achieve. Particularly so with women caning men, strike as hard as you can and with the tip lined up to hit the far cheek firmly but not wrap past it.
Do this and the recipient will hear the stroke but not feel anything for a few milliseconds and then there will be a blinding pain. Give them time to process this before applying the next in the same fashion.
The cane you use needs to have a bit of weight too; 10 - 13mm diameter works well. There will be significant bruising at the 13mm diameter on a new cane.
Done well, six strokes are plenty. Over 12 and there will definitely be good bruising and the chance of breaking the skin increases.
Roz: Some great advice above. We haven't used a cane that often so I don't have much in the way of advice to share except that aim is so important. For me I find it a very intense implement.
Barrel: I bought our delrin canes from Aunt Kay at DWC so we have had them a long time. They came with a short VHS tape and several pages of examples how to use the canes effectively. That said, my wife still has mis-hits.
I agree that practising on a pillow can help. Practise standing further away from the target as the caner’s arm will always extend further than expected, resulting the tip of the cane to wrap, most often around to the sides of the hips, which is really unpleasant.
Know that thin canes (3/16”) will leave deep welts and may break the skin slightly. Thicker canes leave welts but also a deeper soreness, so give some thought to the desired end result.
My wife and I will usually have a short discussion after she canes me, reviewing the marks and my input on the intensity of her caning. If either of us doesn’t feel the caning was what either of us expected, we will have a topping off to achieve the spacing, color and depth of the welts. Those strokes are always as hard as she can swing and when applied on top of an already marked and welted skin, are memorable.
I find the cane the most intense implement she employs. I dislike the deep bruising and soreness, preferring welts and blood blisters, which I wear as a badge of honor. I do believe that regular canings are fun and needed.
Prefectdt: For this, I am talking about rattan canes and nothing else.
Most
canes have a natural bend to them; if you can, just before playing, flex
the cane and increase the bend as much as possible. Then, when aiming,
place the cane so that the bend goes away from the buttocks at the far
end. Then plan the strike so that the cane lands on the nearest buttock
first, and the natural flexibility of the rattan should make an even
contact across the buttocks. For the recipient, this will give the
effect of evenly laid out pain along the stripe of impact.
When
coming from a side on swing, like in a bent over the desk situation,
always aim the stroke to land short, just at the start of the second
buttock. In these situations, the stroke always lands further on than is
planned. And the line should now end up fully across both sides of the
bottom without wrapping around to the hip bones.
A caner should
take their time. Wait between each stroke until the red line of the last
stroke laid on appears. This should take between 15 and 30 seconds. The
caner can then assess the stroke and compensate for any inaccuracies
for the next stroke.
If you are on the receiving end, be prepared
for the first stroke of a caning to be a shock to the system. It always
is, even for those of us with a lot of experience with canes.
Rosco: We’ve never used a cane. Irene doesn’t like to plan. She’s fairly whimsical and unlikely to want to count out six of the best or take the necessary care to whack the exact right spot.
A.J.: Interesting comments. Very.
But thanks, anyway. Still not interested in caning, giving or receiving. (Am I boring…?)
Hermione: Thank you for all the excellent advice -- no doubt from first-hand experience. Some years ago I posted a dissertation on the cane, which you may find helpful.
Ronnie: Here is my advice.
Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine
Last week, we had several readers explain that they either hadn't used a cane and wanted to, or that using one wasn't comfortable yet. Our good friend Barrel suggested this follow-up.
For those of you that do use a cane regularly and effectively, what advice or experience might you share to help others experience this most intense toy?
Please leave your response as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish a summary of your helpful hints.
Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine
Is there an implement you haven't figured out, or have never tried but would like to?
Dan: For me, it's the cane. It is such an iconic instrument that I feel like it should be part of my wife's "go to" arsenal. But, we've tried it several times, and for some reason my wife really struggles to use it effectively. She's read materials about how to cane effectively and watched videos showing how to use, but somehow it just doesn't work.
Rosco: Irene has
arthritis in her hands, so we’ve been focusing on implements with round
handles for awhile. Most recently I bought a small wooden paddle that
has quite an impact and wrapped the handle with a spongy sort of medical
tape. It works very well, and I’m surprised there’s been no bruising
because it certainly feels like it.
And when we’re out hiking I’m
always looking for a good switch. They’re hard to find in our area. The
best have been shoots at the base of wild plum trees in the spring.
Maybe we’ll find something new next year.
Wendel: The one implement we do not have is a cane. It is something we have talked about buying and trying out one day. On hikes we will look for the ideal stick to whip each other’s bottom like a cane, but we never keep them.
Roz: I'm afraid my answer is a boring one. I can't think of anything in particular at the moment.
Luvinhub: Similar to the others the cane and a switch are two that my ass has yet to feel. The cane is a curiosity and scary. The switch, I have fantasized and even written stories for my wife of being on one of our bike rides when I do something wrong and a few steps from the trail she uses a switch to discipline me.
Jack: My wife/mommy has tried several items, when she first used the bathbrush and saw my reaction she used it and still look for something more effective, she could not find one.
Prefectdt: Several years ago I made a chamois leather flogger. It has to be used wet as it is stiff and brittle when dry. It got swung once, at a very weak practice stroke, inside a tiled bathroom. It produced so much spray that even in that situation, it was deemed not to be any good for indoor play. So it sits in the toy box, stiff and brittle waiting to be soaked and used properly. I so want to know what it is like being wet flogged with that toy, but will probably never experience it as it was meant to be used.
Barrel: I bought a
single tail whip several months ago. It is about 36" long including the
tail at the end which is called a popper. The popper can be changed
from a soft chamois leather strip to twin 6" heavy leather tails. It
currently sports the heavy leather tails. Despite watching videos and
practising on a pillow, my wife is still learning how to administer a
whipping with it.
Standing back to extend the full length, while
trying to land just the tips, it varies from sensual to intense. When
she holds it at mid length, she can land it wherever she wishes, from my
back to my thighs.
When we finish a session with it, she always
tells me she really liked it. Thus the fascination knowing as she
improves in using it, I will need to learn to like it as well.
Bonnie: You stumped me! I can't think of any interesting implement type we haven't already tried.
Hermione: I've always been curious to find out what it would be like to receive a proper caning with a school cane. We have a short wooden cane, suitable for otk, but it just feels like being whacked with a wooden dowel.
I have also been intrigued by the thought of being birched. Many of the stories in The Pearl feature vigorous birchings, but I suspect the experience would not be at all pleasant.
Ronnie: No, can’t think of anything I’d want to try.
Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine
Welcome! I hope you all had an uneventful Hallowe'en. Our street was blocked off for four hours so that kids could rampage over the neighbourhood without fear of being run over. However, steady rain and near-freezing temperatures caused the event to be packed up by 7:30. Thank goodness!
Thanks to our good friend Barrel, we have a topic that I've never considered before.
Is there an implement that you haven’t quite figured out or perfected its use, that fascinates you? Or one you don’t have yet that intrigues you, and why?
Please leave your response as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish a summary of our discussion.
Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine
Do your spankings include warm-ups?
Norse Cavalier: All of the spankings I give include warm-up. The spankee can take a far harder spanking with a good warm-up first. For new spankees, it will make their first spanking far less scary. And for punishment spankings, it lets me pull out the heavier implements.
Roz: I would say a warm-up is included in all spankings as they tend to start less intense and slowly build up from there. The intensity often also varies during the spanking, to keep me guessing and on my toes.
Rosco: Well, yes
and no. Irene is whimsical, not methodical. She likes to make it hurt
(she confesses), but only to a certain degree. I’ve explained that the
bottom absorbs spankings differently after a warm up and she understands
that in her head but doesn’t fully get it.
So some spankings
begin with decided enthusiasm, I.e. no warm up. But she’ll back off when
I react with extreme kicking of the legs - I try not to yell.
As
spankees know, it’s especially intense when one’s bottom is cold - e.g.
if you’ve been out on a winter’s day before said spanking. Those whacks
just hurt - it’s harder to savor the experience.
Glenmore: Nope! She gets right down to business.
Jack: If you mean getting a spanking then having to stand in the corner, knowing the spanking is not over, that could be a warm up.
Bonnie: Sometimes I
get a warm-up. Other times, Randy prefers full power from the first
swat. As shocking as the latter approach is, I can accept a longer,
harder spanking if it is preceded by a warm-up. He knows this, so that
warm-up is not necessarily a kindness.
A fast and furious start
feels like corporal punishment and puts me in that familiar headspace. I
love to be the bad girl across his lap receiving correction for my most
recent transgression.
A more gradual build up feels more like
play, even if it doesn't conclude that way. In this case, I am well
aware that spankings are supposed to hurt and they always do. But I get
to wonder what's next.
Wendel: No warm-up here. It is a good spanking from start to finish.
Barrel: It depends.
If we are using a spanking as a prelude to intimacy, most often she
starts slower and with a smaller count, pauses and then the next sets
are more intense and with a higher quantity. I usually get two to four
sets with whatever implement she wants to use.
If we have a planned
session, there is no warm-up, other than some caressing of my white,
unblemished skin...a blank canvas, she likes to say. Then the
implements come into play and we are off. As everyone knows, a hard
thrashing right from the beginning is nasty, and a cold caning is the
worst, but if that is what she has planned, I can only endure.
Predfectdt: It depends on what you define as a warm-up. With most things I can go straight into proper play now, unlike when I was younger. But with harsher toys, like a rattan cane, for example, It is better if they are not the first thing out of the box. So it can be supposed that the other spanking toys used before that are a sort of a warm-up for the hard stuff. A cold caning is hard to take. Other than that, if the other participant is a first time or inexperienced spanker, then I might encourage them to start easy and work on their accuracy first and their intensity of stroke, once they have mastered a good aim. So that kind of play can have a sort of calmer start to it.
Dan: No, Anne is pretty binary in her spanking approach. From the first swat, it's hard and at a deliberate, fairly fast pace.
Anon: Always!!! When on either side of the lap.
I
don’t give/believe in punishment spankings, and certainly would not
accept one (although, at certain times the Grande Finale! has been a
little “vigorous”, if you know what I mean. Often “ memorable”.)
All is a prelude to ‘intimacy.’
Hermione: Not an actual warm-up. but Ron always starts off with a pretty mild implement, then moves on to the more severe ones.
Graham: Usually. However, if it's disciplinary and time is limited, it's likely to be short and hard from the start!
Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine
Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine
Last week I wrote about a baking mishap involving butter tart squares. Donn asked if I would post the recipe, so here it is.
Butter Tart Squares
½ cup butter
2 tablespoons confectioners' sugar
1 ¼ cups all-purpose flour
1 ½ cups packed brown sugar
¼ cup butter, melted
2 eggs, beaten
1 tablespoon distilled white vinegar
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
1 cup raisins
Preheat oven to 350ºF (180ºC). Lightly grease and line an 8” x 8” (2L) baking dish with parchment paper*, letting paper hang slightly over two sides of pan to use as handles for easy removal of squares.
To Make Base: In a small mixer bowl, cream together 1/2 cup butter or margarine and confectioners' sugar. Blend in flour. Pat into pan. Bake in preheated oven for 5 minutes.
To Make Filling: In a large bowl combine brown sugar, melted butter or margarine, beaten eggs, vinegar, vanilla, and raisins. Pour over base and bake in preheated oven for 35 to 40 minutes, until set.
* A tip I learned from Jamie Oliver: Take the sheet of parchment paper and crumple it into a ball. Then smooth it out and line the pan with it. The crumpling will make the paper press into the corners easily.
Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine
What happens when you are interrupted?
Barrel: So far, we have never been interrupted, thank goodness. We have been delayed due to stuff, which is frustrating, but always made up for when the coast is clear. Being retired, we have lots of time to plan and schedule what sounds good at the time.
Jack: My wife/mommy does not care if someone drops in, normally her mother, or one of her friends. If I’m get a spanking it continues and does not matter if I’m naked or not, the spanking continues.
Wendel: When we have
family over for dinner I will paddle the Misses just before they
arrive. It is fun to watch her cautiously move about due to the sore
bottom. There has been the occasion when a family member arrives a
little early and the paddling has to stop.
Luckily there has never been an interruption when we spank each other outdoors.
Roz: There has been a knock on the door either just before we were about to start or during on the rare occasion. We dealt with the interruption. I can't remember now whether we were then put off continuing or not but I suspect we probably were. Or at least I would have been.
Glenmore: We had a couple of occasions when someone interrupted a spanking , both because we neglected to lock the front or bedroom door.
The first one was our 4 year old who came into our bedroom as I was bent over the bed awaiting the paddle which we quickly aborted.
The second one was when our friend and neighbour came in the house while we were in the bedroom in the middle of a hairbrush spanking. When we heard her we quickly stopped and my wife went to talk to her while I got dressed and I'm sure my face was as red as my butt when I joined them. Our friend didn't say anything but she had a wry smile on her face so she heard enough to know what was happening.
We have also had telephone calls in the middle of a spanking and one my wife did pick up as she knew it was her Mom calling to make sure we got home safely during a storm. It was pretty humiliating lying over her lap with a red butt while they chatted for a few minutes and then she picked up where she left off!
There were a couple of times where the doorbell rang but the door was locked so we just ignored it.
Prefectdt: In all of the years of playing I can only recall three interruptions. The first was during a pay to play, when someone came hammering at the door of the location. The caning, that I was getting at the time, stopped and we both just stayed, silently, where we were until the person went away and then play resumed.
The second time happened with another amateur enthusiast, who had an apartment in a converted house, where she thought that all of her neighbours would be at work in the day time. One was not and came to see what the noise was about. The lights got turned off and we pretended not to be there for about 90 minutes. Until it was deemed safe for me to leave, quickly and quietly.
The last time was in another pay to play, in the red light district of Antwerp. I was on the receiving end of a very pleasant, multiple toy whooping, when there was a tapping at the curtained window. The other person present went to see what was up. It turned out that at the end of her day there, she would always walk home with another window occupant, who had turned up a little earlier than she expected. I was asked if I minded if she came in and waited whilst my session was finished. I was away with the fairies by then and did not care at all about anything, and so gave my permission. The third person present seemed totally unaffected by what was being done to me and just sat on a stool, facing away from us, concentrating on her phone.
Anon: I think you overlooked an option. Once upon a time a short while ago, it was determined that I'd been naughty and needed punishment. My then-boyfriend (now husband) began by putting me over his knee for a bare-bottomed hand spanking. Then he bent me over the kitchen table for a session with his leather belt. About ten lashes into it, my cat jumped up on the table and got in the way. I had to get up and lock Kitty in the bathroom. When I re-assumed my position, my love resumed my leather lesson, but was unhappy that my bottom had cooled off and wasn't as bright red. He lit into me harder and faster than before, really brought me to a fevered pitch. It felt like he belt-whipped me twice as hard and three times as fast compared with before. This was a unique situation, and it got us both super excited. So, to quote Hermione, "nudge, nudge, wink, wink." You all know what ensued right away afterward...
FL: Not interrupted exactly but on one occasion I was over her knee on the bed getting a good spanking when the phone rang. She stopped what she was doing and answered it calmly, while I remained laying across her lap. She chatted with her friend for a couple of minutes, then handed me the phone, to answer a question the friend had regarding a computer issue. It was incredibly awkward and a massive turn-on at the same time.
Ronnie: Yes there have been a few interruptions over the years. Some we have ignored and then carried on. One time a knock at the door became persistent, we stopped and I wentdown stairs. It was our neighbour (said she thought we must be in as our car was on the drive) she needed help so P went to help. Needless to say we didn’t resume my spanking that day.
Hermione: We have had an interruption just before beginning. A neighbour came by to give us a small gift for taking in their mail while they were away. We did carry on after, but without a "happy ending" as the disturbance put us off.
Ron always deactivates our landline so no phone calls will interrupt us, and puts on the television for the dogs. On a couple of occasions a dog has stopped us by wailing that it was time for us to get him out of his crate, and that put an end to any spanking.
Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine
The weather is turning cooler here in Canada, but it's warm and toasty here at our weekly brunch, so let's get started on this week's topic. Here's a repost of the brunch we enjoyed 11 years ago.
Sometimes our spankings don't always go exactly as planned. Don't you
hate it when that happens?
Are your spankings sometimes interrupted by external events? If so, what do you do?
Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine
The taste is the same, but I skip the trouble of rolling out pastry, and make then in a cake pan with a sweet crumb base and a topping of butter, sugar, flour and raisins. So the squares were made, baked and sampled the day before. Yummy!
But the next morning, while Ron was preparing to make scrambled eggs in the microwave, he opened the door to the appliance and found a measuring cup full of congealed butter. Oops! I had measured out the butter (1 1/2 sticks) and put it in the microwave to melt, then had completely forgotten about it. It hadn't mattered to the flavour and we had not noticed anything wrong with the sweets the day before.
Our guests enjoyed the goodies and we didn't mention the omission, but now Ron refers to them as 'tart squares' because there is no butter in them :)
Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine
Happy Thanksgiving to all my Canadian readers. Do the seasons affect your spanking activities, and if so, how?
Bonnie: As winter approaches, we use our spanking bench less frequently. It's located in the basement and it's cold down there.
Wendel: Outdoor
spanking is always affected by the weather. Getting paddled in the
pouring rain is fun and the sting of the paddle on a wet bottom is
incredible. As for the cold, the whack of a paddle or belt hurts like
hell and the marks come quickly and last a lot longer.
When we spank inside the temperature outside does not really matter thanks to air conditioning and heaters.
Roz: I always get more paranoid about being heard during the summer with neighbours being outside more and having doors and windows open.
Rosco: Well, we turned the furnace on before our “date” yesterday.
It’s
been awhile since our last endeavor outside. Occasionally we would find
a switch walking in the woods, but we were always pretty careful to
make sure no one was around. We did once have a memorable time on a raft
at the bottom of the Grand Canyon after letting the rest of our group
float well downstream.
Prefectdt: Often, when playing with a fellow amateur enthusiast, neither of us can play at our own residencies. Which means that we have to find a noise friendly place to rent. This is hard to do, outside of the tourist season. So winter usually means pay to play encounters only.
Barrel: Yes, as it gets cooler, sessions in the unheated garage, while immobilized on the suspension rack require slight adjustments. I am cold while being secured but warm up quickly as the thrashing begins. My wife may not dress for the occasion and remain fully dressed to stay warm. We do have restraint capabilities in-doors, so we find ways to have our sessions.
Anon: In general, I prefer summer over other seasons. I like wearing few clothes, if any, around the house. After we first got married, my husband decided that I shouldn't wear a thong bikini in public any longer. My bottom was not to be tanned by the sun, only by him. I preferred to be spanked in the summer, too. But a couple years ago we took several drives to see the fall colors change in the trees. We went north to Michigan at its peak transition; white birches with canopies vivid reds, oranges, and yellows. I coaxed hubby to get out of the car and spank my bared bum over the bumper; white buttocks turning vivid red. Of course, we had to make love right there afterward. So turned on, so afraid of being discovered! Needless to say, now autumn is my favorite time of year. We have another car trip north planned soon.
FL: I've always regarded spanking as an "indoor sport" and with central heat and air, the seasons matter little.
Hermione: I'm with FL on this one. We do not spank outdoors, so the weather has little to do with when or how we do it. The furnace is on now, and it's toasty warm.
Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine
Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine
I can't believe it! My little blog has finally reaches five million views. It's all thanks to you, my dear readers, who return each week for brunch, and drop by during the week to see what's new.
Thank you all.
Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine
How much force does the spanker use?
Bonnie: When Randy spanks me, he's all over the map in terms of force exerted. He'll lull me into complacency with a rhythmic tap tap tap, and then light me up with fierce syncopated paddle smacks randomly distributed across my bottom. The worst, though, is when he strikes hard and fast. I can't tolerate that level of immediate punishment pain that for long. Fortunately for me, he usually changes tactics after a while.
wolfman7446: I use a moderate force over a longer period of time. This ensures the lesson is being learned without running the risk of damaging her. If I did anything close to the force I am capable of, I can guarantee that injury would result. Since I love her, this would be the last thing I desire.
Marie: It can really vary. It shouldn't take much force, but I like being spanked hard (and firmly) so that requires a certain amount of effort be put into it. I don't really enjoy being spanked lightly so I don't seek that out - I find it irritating. My husband typically spanks me pretty hard but there's variation even within that and I will tease him a bit if it feels like he's slowing down - usually that's when we move to implements.
Jack: My wife/mommy applies the bath brush soundly, it lands hard and switches from cheek to cheek. Once I start to squirm and kick my legs she stops, secure my legs and the bath brush lands hard and fast.
Anon: Full force? I can't imagine anyone ever using "full" force. Hard, yes. Very hard, also yes. Probably 80% or so of "full" force. But, then again, my wife is very athletic. Maybe small, weaker women would use closer to full force. Full force would be hard to control and maintain accuracy.
Roz: The intensity varies during the spanking, but I know Rick always has more in reserve 😊
Rosco: I asked this
question because Irene’s preferred implement recently changed, from a
long leather strap to a small wooden paddle. A short pop with the paddle
stings as much as a full swing with the strap, albeit the sensations
are a different.
I thought she would miss taking that full swing, but that doesn’t seem to be the case.
A.J.: Giving or receiving - Never "full force."
We only do fantasy and fun "play," so that would be out of bounds.
Prefectdt: That can vary a lot depending on 2 factors. 1/ Who is the spanker? 2/ What kind of mood am I in?
KDPierre: Rosa's default is upper moderate. Nothing is ever lighter than seriously solid and crisp. No wimpy whacks here! LOL Depending on the circumstances the force can go up from there, all the way to what feels like full force. However, I would say her force level is not as widely variable as quantity. So usually it's always good solid forceful swats and the situation then determines how many of those I'm going to get. But this is an averaged out kind of answer. Reality plays out with exceptions on different occasions.
Hermione: Ron uses a moderate amount of force, which is what I require. For two of the ouchiest implements, I know he's not using any more than mild exertion, but it still feels like a lot more.
Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine
It's great to see you all again this week. Last week I promised you more topics submitted by my readers, and our good friend Rosco's suggestion is up next.
How much energy does the spanker in your sessions exert? Does the spanker like to take a full swing or use full force when they’re administering a spanking? Or do they prefer not to work hard so long as the spankee gets what they need and deserve?
Please leave your reply as a comment, and once everyone has spoken I will publish a summary of our discussion.
Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine
We discussed intense spanking sessions this week, and here's what you had to say.
Rosco: Irene is not
much a planner, except to the extent that we’ll decide to have a “date”
on a certain day- usually late afternoon. Whether she decides to go
especially hard or long is mostly a whim. Usually a date includes 2-3
spankings, 30 minutes or so apart before more traditional intimacy
ensues.
Usually I’ll go with the flow. If I want more, I’ll whine
and beg her to stop (that’s code for more that we developed long ago;
“enough” is our safe word,that’s never been used and “later” is our code
word for later).
On a few occasions, I’ve written a letter -
ostensibly from another woman or girl whom I’ve offended. Usually I was
trying to peek up her skirt or maybe peeping into the female locker
room. She’s written Irene who is some sort of authority figure,
sometimes a teacher or librarian but usually undefined. The letter will
suggest rather intense punishment and Irene will take the hint and give
me what I want/need/deserve.
Anon: Wow, Rosco, that last paragraph gives me all sorts of ideas...thanks!
Roz: Spankings for us now are purely for fun so are usually in the moment and not pre-planned.
Prefectdt: I do not have a solo spanking partner, and so am not sure if this question is relevant to myself. I do, very often, arrange with a spanking partner a code for, "You can bring it on harder", during play. This usually takes the form of me thanking the spanker for being so lenient and considerate in dealing with me. This can often lead to a more intense session. So the answer to your question would be, yes, but only when I am feeling like it and the frequency of these sessions tends to be random.
Bonnie: We plan for
spankings on Friday evenings. These are more involved, more
choreographed, and generally more severe than what we do at other times
of the week.
Randy likes to come up with something unique for
holidays and special occasions. Today, as it happens, is one of those
days. My confidential sources suggest he is going to paddle me.
Happy birthday, Bonnie! I hope Randy came through in grand style!
Wendel: All of our
spanking activity is meant for fun and pleasure. We do not get too
rough. Not much planning is needed for a spanking. When it is time, it
is time.
Our house in Ireland has a large shed in the back yard
that we refer to as “The Woodshed”. It is mostly for storage, but we do
have a bench in the middle just right for bending over. If one is sent
to the woodshed, a rather severe whipping with the strap will be given. I
guess it is a bit harder than most spankings.
Graham: Fun spankings are just that and continue without much plot until we are ready to move on to other things. Disciplinary spankings are more involved, and she may have a definite plan. They almost always involve some intense most-orgasm caning, which clearly separates the fun from the serious!
KDPierre: Since we do
both punishment and fun spankings, in the spirit of what I believe is
the gist of this week's question, I would like to make a distinction
between intense and elaborate. Some punishments can be very intense, but
not necessarily elaborate and requiring lots of planning or time, but
some fun ones can be.
Probably our most elaborate fun spanking
sessions are our "pool tournaments". We have a pool table and every few
months Rosa and I will play a best 2 out of 3 tournament of 8-ball.
There are elaborate rules which I've written into a little poster that
we put out so we can refer to it, all involving spanking penalties.
To
make it fun, the rules are absurdly slanted in her favor, so in
practical terms, no matter how well I play, by evening's end I am likely
to have received literally hundreds of swats spread out over the course
of the tournament, leaving my butt red and swollen and residually sore
for days.
Hermione: Our planned spanking is Saturday afternoon, but I can't say it's severe or intense. It's only for fun, and is a prelude to wink, wink, nudge, nudge, know what I mean?
Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine
Welcome! Come on in and help yourself to an appetizer. Suggestions for brunch topics have been flooding in. Thank you! Our good friend Barrel's suggestion arrived first, so here it is. I hope you will enjoy responding to it.
Do you and your spanking partner ever have a more intense spanking session? If you do, how often are these intense sessions? How far in advance does the planning begin? And what does the planning include?
Please leave your reply as a comment, and once everyone has contributed I will publish a summary of our discussion.
Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine
Today I'm roasting sweet red peppers from our garden. For many years I was unable to let the green peppers mature and turn red because the slugs would snack on them before they were ripe. We haven't had slugs for several years now -- I don't know why they suddenly disappeared -- so I can let the peppers ripen. I freeze the roasted peppers for use during the year in various recipes.
Speaking of recipes, do any of you remember the good old days when gelatin salads were a staple at family gatherings? Jell-o was used in a variety of ways back then. My grandmother often served Jell-o and cream as a dessert. If you were as really good cook, you would follow these guidelines:
Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine
Posts
All Comments
