Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for March 24

Do hand spankings work for you?

Bonnie: I love receiving hand spankings from my husband. It's just so intimate. Unfortunately, this doesn't happen very often. Randy has endured a series of hand and wrist problems over the years that limit his capacity for delivering spankings. We think spankings may have played a role so we are very careful. Spankings are supposed to hurt, but not that way.

Fortunately, his ability to swing a paddle is mostly unaffected.

Anon: They can be very effective. I find it easier to target the sit spots by hand. I also like the moment later on when the spankee reveals she spotted the hand print which occasionally occurs.

Like any other form of spanking, the keys IMO are covering every speck, with absolute firmness. Any good spanker understands well when the spankees reactions are showing effectiveness.

Wendel: A good old fashioned hand spanking is wonderful. Hard to beat (pun) the feel of the bare hand smacking the bare bottom. After countless spankings with the paddle and belt a hand spanking really does not cause much pain for us. The butt turns red and stings a little but the intimacy from the smacks is far more enjoyable than the actual spanking. 

Sage: I love hand spankings but they hurt my partner's hand after a while. So I bought this leather hand protector called a spanking buddy, from Cane-iac. It's fantastic. It stings more than his hand does. In fact, if he whacked me harder, it could be a punishment spanking, if we did that, but we don't. He can spank me a long time with it, without his hand hurting at all. Not sure why it's so effective, but it is. It spanks great for foreplay for him, and foreplay and stress release for me.

Can-iac is such a marvelous place. I can't believe they're going out of business. All the stuff I've gotten from them has been top quality, though I love the horse brush and the leather stuff the most. 

Sadly, people outside the US are unable to access their website.

Graham: For M/F hand spankings can work fine. For F/M, I find them OK for a warm-up, but I need considerably more than just the hand for the rest of the session.

Wolfman7446: I have always enjoyed giving hand spankings, My hand was very calloused due to work and I never felt any discomfort in administering them. However, if the girl had been appropriately naughty, a hairbrush would have been in order.

Roz: I love the intimacy and connection of a hand spanking and yes, it can be very effective!

Norse Cavalier: I love giving OTK hand-spankings; they are by far my favourite type! As for "effective", that depends on what you mean by the word. When I deliver a punishment spanking (which is rare), I prefer to end it with my clothes brush to make the spankee feel truly sorry for what she's done. But I always start with the hand, regardless of whether it's a fun spanking or punishment.

The longest hand-spanking I've ever given was about two hours, I think. There will be some slight stinging in my hand, but not much. At one party I was at, I gave a hard hand-spanking for about twenty or thirty minutes, and a guy that was watching (and is new to the scene) was concerned and asked whether my hand was OK. Interestingly, he did not ask whether the young lady's bottom was OK.

Prefectdt: I find that the answer to this question tends to vary, depending on how seasoned the hand of the person giving the spanking is. The problem with hand spankings is that butts spank back and anyone with a hand that is not experienced and tempered will not give an effective spanking before it becomes too painful for them. Other people can give very effective hand spankings. I experienced one professional who used to make me sigh with relief, as she reached for her hairbrush, when I was over her knee.

Jack: My first spanking as an adult was a hand spanking, an older woman I was seeing. Nothing sexual, she had enough of my attitude and decided a spanking was needed. Oh I was given a choice end the relationship or take the spanking. I took the spanking, a bare bottom hand spanking that had me squirming, kicking, pleading and trouble sitting. My wife/mommy will sometimes do a hand spanking, but mostly it is the bath brush.

KDPierre: As a guy spanking a female (at those times when I switched) I found hand spankings to be effective. However, as a male spankee, getting one from a female? Never--not once--have they ever been even the least bit effective, even when I was just starting out. 

A.J.: "Why do you think hand spankings work or don't work for you? "

I only give/get hand spankings that are not hard or punishment, and for the reason so many have already mentioned - the intimacy. I just love her warmth when otk, love baring her bottom and hearing her little squeak when her panties are pulled down, the pre-spanking feel and caresses of her tush. On the flip side, when it's me otk - the same! (Without the squeak, though.)

It's just fun. An implement takes that fun away (to me.)

"Do you find hand spankings to be effective?"

For me and her - yes. Because the goal is a nice pink tush leading to further intimacy if-you-know-what-I-mean-and-I-think-you-do.

Quick story #1.

I had a wonderful woman, an Asian-American and a spanko, over my knee for our first time spanking, using only my hand.
Her reaction?
"Yawn..."
So I pumped up the intensity!
"Yawn..."
Really pumped it up!!! Spanking almost has hard as I could!!!! A fer'-real spanking!
"Yawn..."

So we paused and I asked her why. She said, "Asian butt. We have butts like leather."

I didn't know if that was true and told her I'd have to do more "research," and she would have to supply me with some Asian-American girl bottoms for testing! Yeah; that didn't happen.

She wanted more and my hand really hurt, so I made her go get me something in her apartment that I could use to take care of her - properly! She got off my lap and started to pull her panties up and..."No! Panties stay were they are!"

The highlight of the evening!!!

The sight of her bare bottom as she walked away in little steps, hobbled by those panties at her ankles; and that same view as she came back with a small paddle - priceless!!! Still makes me smile. Come to think of it, she was smiling, too.

My hand hurt all the way home. By morning I noticed it was swollen; later it started to turn black and blue at the thick part of my palm. This woman was one of the very few I played with where a hand spanking was just not going to work, so that little paddle was used.

Quick story #2.

On a grueling road trip and needed a massage. Found one, and in a "What the hell" moment asked if she would also spank me. By hand, of course.
Her: "You want that? For me to spank you? Really?"

"Yes."

As so she did. OTK she pinked me up pretty good with about 150 gentle-to-mild with her bare hand. And it was over. And fun.

But then I had to be the damn fool, I asked her for a bit more. "Just" 100 more, all bare hand on bare bottom but, this time, HARD and FAST! A real spanking. I told her I wanted what I called The Angry Girlfriend" spanking.

Her, carefully: "Are you sure...?"

Yes. Simple. Just 100.

Big mistake!

And I knew it from the first smack. With the next two in rapid succession I inhaled all the air in the room, grit my teeth, and held on, hoping not to yell! And since I ASKED for this, well, big boy, you gotta' take it!

It lasted all of 20-25 seemingly endless seconds. My butt was on fire.

I was on a flight home the next day - and I could still feel it! Forty hours later and getting into bed - I could still feel it.

Lesson: Be careful what you ask for. Especially from someone who uses their strong hands and arms to make a living.

Did I "find (that) hand spanking to be effective?"

Oh God, yes!

It's funny,now; at the moment less so!

Rosco: Irene, my darling wife, cannot spank my bottom nearly hard enough with her hand to feel even the slightest sting. 30 years ago maybe, but not now.

But she can slap my balls or penis and get my attention for sure.

Ronnie: I love hand spankings. I find them very intimate and yes they can be very effective.

FL: Absolutely they can be effective, as well as incredibly intimate. Of course there are many variables but unless the goal is maximum pain, a hand spanking can produce whatever effect is desired, when delivered with some skill and connection between parties.

Hermione: OTK hand spankings are my absolute favourite in stories; in real life, not so much. I find the position uncomfortable. Whenever Ron uses his hand, it's only for a few brief smacks. They never hurt very much, but the closeness, as others have said, is what counts. For good effect, leather implements do the job.

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