Monday, March 11, 2024

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for March 10

How have your spankings changed over time?

Wendel: The Misses has been naked the last few paddlings in the woods, so I guess we have gotten a bit braver. Other than that, spanking at home have remained the same.

Sage: It hasn't been that long for me, but I've bought all these new implements from Cane-iac, Etsy and Amazon. We keep experimenting to see how they work. They all feel different. We're trying implements in different positions, although mostly OTK. Some toys feel a lot different in wheelbarrow, or when I'm bending over a chair, than OTK. Just a lot of exploring and then staying more with those positions & toys that work well for both of us for erotic spanking.

Roz: I'm not sure the spankings themselves have really changed, but what does change is the reason behind them due to the ebb and flow and changes in our dynamic and the feelings, emotions behind them. Punishment, play, role affirmation etc.

Mary: The spankings themselves have not changed at all. Once a month, after dinner on the first Friday, I clean up the kitchen and go up to our bedroom and wait for my wife. After reviewing my behavior the past month, I go over her knee. How hard I am spanked and for how long is determined by her assessment of my behavior.

What has changed is my behavior and my attitude. I am much better at taking care of the house, I respect my wife's authority and I am eager to please her in bed.

Most importantly, she looks at me lovingly as her helpmate.

Jack: In the beginning my wife used her hairbrush, her mother said the bath brush does a better job, trust me it does. She decided also that when I need a spanking, which has always been over her lap, never changed.
Early bed time really happened quickly.
Spanked in front of others, my mother-in-law happened really at the first, along with the fact my mother-in-law at her home did the spankings.
Others, well a couple of her best friends now see the spanking, or me facing the wall afterwards.
The latest is the worst. I face not the wall, but her or who ever else is present. I can be naked, or just having my pants and underpants around my ankles, all on display, and that tells me I have really crossed the line and been a very naughty little boy.

Barrel: Ours have changed on two fronts. First, the emotional connection. We have morphed from purely foreplay, to tension relief for both of us. As a dominant in my former business life, a long thrashing is a dam breaker for me emotionally and a port for my wife to release tension I have reluctantly gifted her. Finally, we have changed from just, OK…OTK to a planned build up, orchestrated teasing, use of other toys that culminate with bondage necessary for a long and intense thrashing.

It will be interesting to hear from others how theirs have changed.

Bonnie: I think our spankings have evolved a lot as we've moved through life. They tend to be less intense physically, but more intense psychologically. Randy has learned how to get inside my head and feed my kinks. By the time he's finished, I feel thoroughly punished.

Rosco: Well, it’s been over 40 years. Almost from the beginning, it’s been spanking followed by cunnilingus then intercourse.

Irene paddled me hard with a hairbrush on our honeymoon in 1982, but we stopped using one soon after. I remember being very nervous buying a riding crop at a western store before you could buy such at a thing at a sex shop or over the internet.

From 1985 til 2005 or so, our sessions would often be nooners when the kids were at daycare or school. Intense, wonderful and satisfying - but often a bit hurried.

When our youngest went off to college, we started to take our time. Lots of foreplay. Irene would spank me, leave, then return 20 minutes later and start all over. She’ll dress up - yesterday she was a southern belle. I buy Irene low cost dresses on the Internet - fun stuff that’s not her normal personality but not the usual sex outfits. At some point we started getting into bondage - it works for us but she’s not altogether competent in strapping me down. We’ve experimented with many other activities on the kinkier side - some things we do once or twice then move on - like her peeing on me. Other things we incorporate from time to time like ice cubes in my bottom.

These days, Irene uses a two tailed leather strap, a leather paddle and a riding crop. She’s learned not to strike the far hipbone and is usually a tad gentler when she whips me between the legs.

We’re almost 70 and have these passionate encounters about once a week. We take our time. In the old days it was almost daily but done much more quickly.

Hermione: I think that what's really changed for me is my need for spanking. When we first got into it, I was almost desperate for it to happen. Over time, I have come to realize that I will always be spanked regularly, so no need to fret about it. Now I pretty much take it for granted, although there is still a feeling of anxious anticipation as the time approaches.


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From Hermione's Heart

1 comment:

Sage Blum said...

Thanks for the summary, Hermione. I am in the stage of trying to get over being desperate that you mention having gone through in the past. I am lucky that, though my partner is vanilla, he is quite open minded and will do anything I want for foreplay. It's funny. I went for so long being afraid and embarrassed to say anything about this need, that it's almost shocking for me to realize that it turned out to be no big deal to him. He's fine with spanking me twice every week now and trying out all the implements I buy.