What characteristics do you look for in a spanker or spankee?
Barrel: I don't have to look for a spanker, I am married to one, thank goodness.
Traits
I admire in her are resolve and commitment. When we plan a session, I
tend to get cold feet as the time approaches. She takes me through the
apprehension with sensitivity, but focused on delivering the thrashing
we have planned. She ensures our restraints are secure and I am
comfortable before she begins. As our sessions are intense, she is
resolved to deliver either the quantity of strokes or obtain the desired
color and markings with passion. Often she senses I have had enough,
but she will continue to her satisfaction.
It has taken us 30 years
to get to the point where she likes the actual act of spanking the
most. I feel blessed to be where we are.
Roz: As a spankee the traits I like a spanker who is confident, has a plan for the spanking (knows what they want out of the spanking for both of us), and who is good at reading the spankee and is able to adjust based on the spankee's reaction.
Rosco: For me,
watching a spanking video without a lecture is usually boring. And a
lecture adds to the fun of getting a spanking. It doesn’t have to be
super serious and can even be lighthearted but it’s part of the
experience for me.
There’s a wide variety of intensities that can
be compelling but some videos are too little and some definitely too
much. I do have a double standard in that seeing a man delivering a hard
spanking is far more likely to be a turn off than if a woman is doing
it.
Irene has four implements she favors, and often switches
between them when she thrashes me. There’s a pause and I don’t know
exactly when the next one is coming or what “flavor” it will have. I try
to hold still and whine softly with appreciation, but I’ll kick my legs
and make more noise when it’s truly hard.
Prefectdt: What
characteristics do I look for in a spanker? Firstly she must be honest
and aware of her level of knowledge, where administering corporal
punishment is concerned. I like a spanker who is an individual and has
or is developing her own style in both physical administration and
managing a spanking scenario. Lastly, it is the cherry on the cake, if
she is genuinely enjoying punishing my old rear end and other body
parts.
How would I describe my ideal spanker? Confident, skilled,
harsh, fun and having her own way of doing things. Whilst respecting my
hard limits and limits, of course.
Jack: My wife/mommy as far as I’m concerned is the ideal spanker. She can be my wonderful wife, but when I’m naughty that look is a Mommy look and that is not good.
Wendel: My answers
for this one are regarding videos or pictures. In the real world the
Misses is the perfect spanker and looks extremely sexy taking a
spanking.
For a spanker: I always envision the spanker to be an
older woman maybe fifty plus with a stern look in her face. I am not big
into lectures. Less talking more spanking.
For a spankee: The woman
needs to bare her bottom and take the spanking. That is it. She does
not need to be naked. I just like watching the bare bottom being
spanked.
Bonnie: I wrote an article on this very subject almost ten years ago. My tastes haven't changed much.
FL: Someone who has a strict demeanour, able to deliver a good scolding, is resolute in the face of my pleading, and is just a bit intimidating. Not loud or shrill, but absolutely in control. Physically I have a preference for mature women, with solid figures and laps that accommodate a man. Not fat but not skinny either.
KDPierre: For me it's
definitely a sincere belief in their role and in the efficacy of
spanking. A spanker who is not play-acting but truly sees their role as
logical, sensible, natural, and deserved will usually then have
confidence, determination, and all the other aspects of a loving
disciplinarian. If you have a person like this in a consensual
relationship with someone who sees themselves as in need of such an
influence in their life, the resulting punishments will be powerful even
if not necessarily severe.
For me personally, I feel very
appreciative afterwards if a spanker can have me feeling genuine remorse
and even a desperation to make amends and please. I have pride and a
spanker that can effectively challenge that pride and coax a good bit of
sincere humility out of me through a combination of scolding and
application of paddle will earn my admiration and respect.
Hermione: I like a man who surprises me with a spanking when I least expect it. I also like variety: different rooms, different positions, different implements. I like a spanker who teases and jokes about the proceedings, although sometimes sternness is very appealing. Ron pretty much ticks all the boxes on this list.
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