Window Shopping

If you were strolling along the sidewalk in a shopping district and saw these panties in a store window, what would your reaction be? A smile at least, or maybe you might step inside to check out the other wares for sale. If you are a resident or a tourist in Virginia Beach, this sight may no longer be available.

The Virginia Beach council voted last week to prohibit display of "vulgar" or "indecent" clothing in the shop windows along the popular Atlantic Avenue boardwalk. The reason is that the lewd messages are spoiling the area's "wholesome" image and may keep people away from the hotels, restaurants and bars in the area. I don't know about you, but I would be more likely to visit the boardwalk if the shop windows were this entertaining. Read the full story, including pictures, here.

Thank you Rosco for finding this gem. 

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for August 24

What characteristics do you look for in a spanker or spankee?

Barrel: I don't have to look for a spanker, I am married to one, thank goodness.

Traits I admire in her are resolve and commitment. When we plan a session, I tend to get cold feet as the time approaches. She takes me through the apprehension with sensitivity, but focused on delivering the thrashing we have planned. She ensures our restraints are secure and I am comfortable before she begins. As our sessions are intense, she is resolved to deliver either the quantity of strokes or obtain the desired color and markings with passion. Often she senses I have had enough, but she will continue to her satisfaction.
It has taken us 30 years to get to the point where she likes the actual act of spanking the most. I feel blessed to be where we are.

Roz: As a spankee the traits I like a spanker who is confident, has a plan for the spanking (knows what they want out of the spanking for both of us), and who is good at reading the spankee and is able to adjust based on the spankee's reaction.

Rosco: For me, watching a spanking video without a lecture is usually boring. And a lecture adds to the fun of getting a spanking. It doesn’t have to be super serious and can even be lighthearted but it’s part of the experience for me.

There’s a wide variety of intensities that can be compelling but some videos are too little and some definitely too much. I do have a double standard in that seeing a man delivering a hard spanking is far more likely to be a turn off than if a woman is doing it.

Irene has four implements she favors, and often switches between them when she thrashes me. There’s a pause and I don’t know exactly when the next one is coming or what “flavor” it will have. I try to hold still and whine softly with appreciation, but I’ll kick my legs and make more noise when it’s truly hard.

Prefectdt: What characteristics do I look for in a spanker? Firstly she must be honest and aware of her level of knowledge, where administering corporal punishment is concerned. I like a spanker who is an individual and has or is developing her own style in both physical administration and managing a spanking scenario. Lastly, it is the cherry on the cake, if she is genuinely enjoying punishing my old rear end and other body parts.

How would I describe my ideal spanker? Confident, skilled, harsh, fun and having her own way of doing things. Whilst respecting my hard limits and limits, of course.

Jack: My wife/mommy as far as I’m concerned is the ideal spanker. She can be my wonderful wife, but when I’m naughty that look is a Mommy look and that is not good.

Wendel: My answers for this one are regarding videos or pictures. In the real world the Misses is the perfect spanker and looks extremely sexy taking a spanking.
For a spanker: I always envision the spanker to be an older woman maybe fifty plus with a stern look in her face. I am not big into lectures. Less talking more spanking.
For a spankee: The woman needs to bare her bottom and take the spanking. That is it. She does not need to be naked. I just like watching the bare bottom being spanked. 

Bonnie: I wrote an article on this very subject almost ten years ago. My tastes haven't changed much.

FL: Someone who has a strict demeanour, able to deliver a good scolding, is resolute in the face of my pleading, and is just a bit intimidating. Not loud or shrill, but absolutely in control. Physically I have a preference for mature women, with solid figures and laps that accommodate a man. Not fat but not skinny either.

KDPierre: For me it's definitely a sincere belief in their role and in the efficacy of spanking. A spanker who is not play-acting but truly sees their role as logical, sensible, natural, and deserved will usually then have confidence, determination, and all the other aspects of a loving disciplinarian. If you have a person like this in a consensual relationship with someone who sees themselves as in need of such an influence in their life, the resulting punishments will be powerful even if not necessarily severe.

For me personally, I feel very appreciative afterwards if a spanker can have me feeling genuine remorse and even a desperation to make amends and please. I have pride and a spanker that can effectively challenge that pride and coax a good bit of sincere humility out of me through a combination of scolding and application of paddle will earn my admiration and respect.

Hermione: I like a man who surprises me with a spanking when I least expect it. I also like variety: different rooms, different positions, different implements. I like a spanker who teases and jokes about the proceedings, although sometimes sternness is very appealing. Ron pretty much ticks all the boxes on this list.          

I am always on the lookout for new discussion topics. If you have a question or suggestion that interests you, it's very likely that others share that interest. Please email me or leave a comment with any topic you'd like to be featured here. 

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #605

This week we went on a road trip to a cheese factory in the country, where we purchased bags of squeaky curd and some blocks of aged cheddar. At one time the shop also sold cheeses made elsewhere, like Danish blue and Wisconsin flavoured cheeses, but that was in the before times. Now they only sell their own cheese, plus some baked goods, jams and butter made locally.

Our topic for today came to me as I was watching a not-so-good spanking video. I thought Ron could do a much better job than the person wielding the hairbrush, and I was sure I could have wiggled and protested much more convincingly than the subject of the implement's attention.

Depending on your point of view, what characteristics do you look for in a spanker or a spankee? How would you describe your ideal spanker or spankee?

Please leave your response as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will post a summary of our conversation. 

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Glory to Ukraine

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for August 17

We discussed the overpowering urge to be spanked, and here is what you said:

Wendel: We were at a ComicCon last week checking out the art as well as the costumes. I especially enjoy the ladies' costumes. If the Misses caught me staring, she would smile, smack me in the shoulder and say how that one needs to be spanked. On the ride home I thought about her spanking comments and figure she really meant that I needed it. Once we got to the house, I told her I was sorry for staring and that if anyone needed a spanking it was me. I took the paddle from the pantry closet and gave it to her. The Misses told me to drop my pants and proceeded to paddle my butt until I could not sit. It was wonderful. 

Roz: I'm not sure I get to that point. If a spanking doesn't eventuate, then it doesn't. Having said that, if I'm feeling the need I often use physical signals, a bit of cheeky banter etc. I have also just simply lent over Rick's knee if we have been cozy together on the couch.

Rosco: I get spanked roughly twice a week, one of which is simply discipline and one of which is the prelude to sexual activity. If I’m itching for a spanking, all I have to do is complain or whine about something trivial, and Irene will tend to threaten me with a spanking. I’ll tell her I don’t need a spanking, which is our code for asking for one. (Our code for not spanking now is “later”. Later means later.)

These days I’ve learned to savor a spanking at bedtime or before a nap. Irene and I are pretty much in sync.

Prefectdt: How long does it take for the urge to be spanked to grow to where it is ever-present and powerful?As soon as I have physically recovered from my last spanking :) . I do not have a long term partner, so it is impossible for my feelings to be shared intimately.

Dan: The clarifying question for me would be "How long after what?" The most recent spanking? For me, that's not really relevant. I don't feel a need to be spanked simply because some time has passed since my last one. For me, it's really about whether there has been some bad behavior that I feel a need to be held accountable for. For me, it's only after something like that has happened that I feel a compelling need for a spanking. Once that's occurred, there's a fairly narrow window--three to four days, maybe a week for serious misconduct--in which that need is pretty strong. Longer than that, and the perceived need for consequences starts to taper off.

Barrel: My urge starts in about 7 to 10 days. It builds to quite a bit around two weeks, thus my email to Hermione as a prompt for this week's topic.

This time, I didn't need to say anything to my wife, my behavior did. With family staying with us, there was nothing we could do. But after they left, I got the hairbrush along with a lecture. So while I feel better, she left the hairbrush on the living room table, either as a reminder to shape up OR for easy and quick access for the next one.

A.J.: How long does it take for the urge to be spanked to grow to where it is ever-present and powerful?

No definite time. Usually, it comes with stress. Just the everyday "stuff" of life that builds and builds until you "need" something to cleanse the mind. And sometimes that 'thing' is some time spent OTK.

I remember a bad case of it a few years ago and thought that was a solution (It's not. But what the heck.) My mind said I really need one. Time and place said it's not going to happen. A month later the world was back in place.

Sad.

Hermione: At one time I used to feel the urge at least twice a week. I'd get annoyed that Ron seemed not to notice my signals. But then he would, and took matters into his own hands expertly. Nowadays, due to age and hormones or lack thereof, I don't usually have a desperate need to be spanked. If it happens, it happens, and if not, there's always tomorrow. The timing is up to Ron.  

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #604

Is it hot where you are? Come on in and cool off. Our good friend Barrel sent me an email in which he complained that it's been a while since he had a good spanking. I know the feeling; we've had to postpone several times because of the heat. How about you?

How long does it take for the urge to be spanked to grow to where it is ever-present and powerful? What do you do to share your feelings with your partner? 

Please leave your reply as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion at the end of the weekend. 

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Glory to Ukraine

OTK Anyone?

Our good friend S alerted me to a site that specialized in all things related to my favourite position.

The logo is discrete but meaningful to those in the know.

 

S asked if I would wear a hat like this:

Or carry this bag

Would you?
 

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Glory to Ukraine

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for August 10

Spanking to music? 

Norse Cavalier: In order to make sure my neighbours heard nothing, I often put on the combined works of Sabaton while entertaining a spankee who used to visit me. Not sure whether it was necessary, as the walls are quite thick, but decided not to take the chance. We also both enjoy Sabaton's music anyway.

Can't say that the music reminds me of her, though.

Barrel: I distinctly recall the back ground music from Aunt Kay's DWC website. Mesmerizing! I found a link to it a few years back but can't find it. It would be the perfect music for a seriously intense session. Might any of you know where I can find it?

A.J.: If the music is “Flight of the Bumblebee” - Run!!!

Roz: Great question Hermione! I love it.

I remember years ago posting a list of spanky songs on my blog.

We may have had music in the background during a spanking, but it would have been more incidental than deliberate. We have however had music accompany other activities on occasion 😊    

Luvinhub: Nothing necessarily during a spanking but I do have as an alarm setting John Mellencamp's song "Hurts So Good".

KDPierre: We love music here, but not for spanking. Most are punishments anyway and music hardly seems appropriate for something like that. Fun ones have their own 'music and beat'. ;-)

Prefectdt: Yes, there have been plenty of times that music has been played. Mostly to spare the blushes of those in neighbouring houses or apartments. I would like to say that classical music did the job, but I would be lying to you if I told you that, as classical music tends to have too many quiet periods. Strong Rock or Heavy Metal tends to work best for noise covering, Motorhead is highly recommended. There is also one song, that is very rarely played in real life, but nearly always gets played in my head, when I am trying to get through the pure pain part of spanking, early on before the magic starts. That is "Be My Enemy" by The Waterboys.

Wendel: Nothing really. There might be something on at the time but it is not by design. 

A.J.: No music. But I have had the TV on a bit louder than normal if the spanking is in a hotel room. But that doesn't count.

In my mind I have 3 classes of spanking.
Class 1 - A 'nice' spanking, both are enjoying. Nice pink bottoms and smiles.
Class 2 - 'A good hard spanking!' This is a spanking!! But not vicious. Bottom has moved past pink and will wind up almost-bright red. It's a 'let's clear the air, or 'maintenance', or whatever spanking.
Class 3 - You don't want a class 3!!!

Back to today's question - it's about the pace.
Class 1 - One smack per second, 60 or fewer per minute, interspersed with caresses and 'searching' (if-you-know-what-I-mean-and-I-think-you-do!)
Class 2 - It a REAL spanking so the pace is picked up! It's DOUBLED! Two smacks per second or 120 smacks a minute. And because it is faster, it is also a bit HARDER.
120 beats per minute is a marching cadence. Think - soldiers marching.
Also think - College fight songs!!

"You're due, honey! Get OTK and let's sing your alma mater's fight song!"
On Wisconsin, on Wisconsin!
Plunge right through that line
(Whack, whack, whack, whack! ....)

Works with every college fight song I can think of. Even military songs!
Anchors Aweigh, my boys,
Anchors Aweigh.
(Whack, whack, whack, whack! ....)

Fun part: The smile on the face of the spanker! And (spoiler), at 120-whacks per minute, the spanking is probably over in under 4 minutes. YMMV.

I mentioned this to a girl who didn't mind the occasional and loving otk spanking. She was a U. of Michigan alum. The thought of her otk getting spanked to that song made her laugh.  Here it is. 

This is CONSIDERABLY fasted than 120 per minutes; this is 180 per minute! The most recognized part of the fight song kicks in at the 0:52 mark.

(Note: Class 3, is double Class 2! Three to four per second or 180-240 a minute!!! My nickname for it is "The Angry Girlfriend!" Another time you might use it is at the conclusion of a Class 1 or Class 2 spanking with about 50 whacks in what I nicknamed "The Grande Finale!"  

Donn: Hi Barrel:

Yes, some of Aunt Kay's soundtracks (over the years) were very interesting.

The two most commonly used background music were:

"haveyouever1DWC.mid"; and

"DWCff3cells3.mid" (most common).

They are both available on the Internet Archive at:

web.archive.org/web/2007/www.disciplinarywivesclub.com/sounds/haveyouever1DWC.mid

web.archive.org/web/2007/www.disciplinarywivesclub.com/sounds/DWCff3cells3.mid

There is also a "library" of other music that Aunt Kay experimented with at various times, here:

web.archive.org/web/2007/www.disciplinarywivesclub.com/sounds/

Enjoy,

-- Glad to Help!

Hermione: We just leave on whatever music is playing on the laptop. However, I'm going to check out the links Donn supplied above. I'm very intrigued.

 

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