Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for February 1

Do you and your partner discuss spanking?

Bonnie: A casual observer might think Randy and I should have long ago said everything there is to be said on this subject. But we're still talking all the time. Sometimes the subject is serious, but sometimes funny. Sometimes it's logistical. Occasionally, it's just a sly aside slipped into an otherwise vanilla topic. Or a joke.

The conversation can also be non-verbal. A paddle strategically placed on the bed. A random swat on my butt. A fashion choice meant to intrigue.

So, yes, our answer is yes.

Roz: Rick and I have always been able to talk about any subject. We share our thoughts and feelings on issues and our desires. That includes spanking. Sometimes a serious conversation, sometimes designed to titillate or just fun. Importantly I think, we have been able to discuss what works and doesn't work for each of us spanking wise. When we had an active dynamic the topic would come up fairly frequently and would be raised by either of us.

Wendel: Spanking comes up pretty much every day. It is just a fun thing we like doing and talking about. 

Barrel: Yes, we talk about the subject regularly and openly. As we are using spanking to support behavioral change, she brings up the subject weekly or so. We are both desiring for the frequency and duration to increase, and we have agreed either of us are encouraged to bring the subject up.

Rosco: Yes. I’ll distinguish between talking about spanking during our role play, usually sexual, encounters, and when we’re talking about those times. During those sessions I’ll complain and beg not to be spanked which is our code for more spanking.

Outside of those times, Irene will tell me I’m due for a spanking and I’ll joke about it. If I ever say I don’t need one, again it’s code that I do want one. If I say “later”, it’s serious - now is not the right time.

We do talk about implements and severity. I bought her a vicious wooden paddle to make it easier on the arthritis in her hands - but it’s often too intense for my bottom. I like it to hurt, as does she, but only to a point. I’ve also brought home switches that leave welts which don’t bother me but they do bother her.

Recently she got carried away and whacked my testicles with the tip of a whip that took me, and thus her, out of our blissful zone. She felt bad about it, but I reminded her that subs get over these things quickly but, as I’ve read, sometimes they never get over these things quickly, such as the wrong kind of verbal insult.   

Prefectdt: I don't think that this particular is for me. I am, genuinely, looking forward to reading other peoples comments about this.

At least your comment wasn't identified as spam by Blogger this time :)

Dan: We talk about it fairly often. Not all the time, but probably once every two or three weeks. I initiate most of those discussions, but not all.

Hermione: Not serious discussions, but once in a while Ron will make a joking reference to it. 

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #628

Welcome back to another weekend of eating, enjoying each other's company, and discussing spanking. One of the things I like best about our brunches is that it gives people who don't have a blog a chance to participate and speak their minds. And speaking happens to be our topic for today.

Do you find it easy to talk to your partner about spanking? How often do you discuss the subject: often, seldom, or never? Who usually initiates the conversation?

Leave your response as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to speak I will publish a summary of our discussion.

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Movies Then and Now

After we talked about our favourite spanking movies last week, our good friend A.J. asked me how today's list compared with the one readers contributed to ten years ago. Here are my readers' favourite movies back then:

McLintock

Secretary

Of Freaks and Men

Ups and Downs of a Handyman 

Les Memoirs de Monsieur Leon - Maitre Fesseur

The Father of the Bride

9 1/2 Weeks

Love Camp #7

Community

Meet Me in St. Louis

Spencer's Mountain

Tank    

As you can see, there are a few movies that are all-time favourites!

 

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for January 25

Are your eyes closed or open during a spanking?

Roz: I tend to fluctuate between eyes open and closed. I think I tend to close them as the spanking intensifies.

Prefectdt: I have never thought about this one before. But as I have a great memory file, in my head, of floorings and carpets, that I was looking at whilst being spanked, It can only be concluded that the eyes were always open.

Jean Marie: All of my senses are heightened/sharpened during a good spanking. I never feel more sexual than when I'm getting a really good, hard spanking, not even when I share sexual intercourse. So I try to keep my eyes open to register everything, along with that exquisite percussive sound, and the many smells, chief among them my aroused scent, contrasting with my cotton-dry mouth. I love having my vision prismed with a kaliadescope of rainbow colors as my eyes fill with tears. I can vividly remember closing my eyes with an alarmed blink when the pain grows to be too much, as when a heavy wooden paddle is utilize on my sensitized tushy, and then closing them tight as the paddling reaches its crescendo, and fireworks go off behind my closed eyes.

All of those sense memories are now a thing of the past. I don't think I'll ever have my bottom punished properly again, due to a series of unfortunate events.  

Welcome back, Jean Marie!

A.J.: "...my vision prismed with a kaliadescope of rainbow colors as my eyes fill with tears"

That's a great line!

When you are being spanked, are your eyes open or closed?
Open. (Now ask if I'm smiling, gritting my teeth, or pursing my lips.)

Have you tried the opposite?
Hmmmmm. Opposite of what?

If you are a spanker, what have you observed in your partner?
Well, from her position OTK, not her eyes. Besides, there is this wonderful bare bottom inches away that I need to pink up.

Barrel: I always keep my eyes open. If the spanking is for maintenance or a prelude to intimacy, my wife usually dresses in lingerie or hosiery. As I am normally OTK and face down, I look at her feet. If we are having an extended session, I place all the implements she wants on a table in front of the bench where I am restrained. I do that so I can see what implement she starts with and know what she is using next when she makes a change. Although I can almost always tell what she is using, discerning between the two delrin canes is difficult.

Rosco: Closed mostly. Usually these days I’m kneeling on a pouf and lying over the edge of the bed with a pillow supporting my chin and neck looking straight down so I can savor the experience. I like to know when the next swat is coming but sometimes I have to guess a bit.

Sometimes I’ll peek, either directly or via the mirror but I really prefer to lie still and feel the sensation while absorbing whatever concurrent lecture Irene may be delivering.

Sometimes Irene will blindfold me (and maybe tie me up) so my eyes are effectively closed anyway.

Part of our routine is that she’ll spank and lecture me, put me down for a nap (sometimes tied up blindfolded) then return for more discipline an hour later before other conjugal activities ensue. 

Jack: My wife/mommy will during the spanking have me looked at her, she will ask me why I was a naughty little boy, I have looked at her and pleaded for her to stop I'll be a good little boy. Doesn't do any good. At the times that my mother-in-law is present, I will close my eyes and turn my head away, those spankings are the worse because of being seen by someone and my kicking, squirming and pleading, I'm reminded that is how naughty little boys react to being spanked. 

Hermione: I would have thought closed was preferable, but I realized that I keep my eyes open, although there's nothing much to look at other than the pattern on the bedspread.    

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #627

Welcome, one and all, to our regular weekend brunch, when we have an opportunity to discuss a spanking-related subject. I've been battling Yahoo (my email provider) and Google all week. Yahoo has inexplicably demanded that I use two-step verification to log on. Alas, the phone number it wanted to send me a text to is my landline number. Hours later, I managed to add my cell number by using a laptop where I was already logged on to Yahoo.

That was for my vanilla Yahoo mail. It was different for my blogging email, since the only way I have to verify is with a Gmail account. Google wouldn't let me simply log on to Gmail, though. It insisted I use my current Google account and create a new email. No way! I solved this problem by using another browser where I wasn't logged on to Google. Success at last, and I also added my cell number to my blogging email, so no worries in the future.

Whew! That left me exhausted, so today's topic is pretty simple.

When you are being spanked, are your eyes open or closed? Have you tried the opposite? If you are a spanker, what have you observed in your partner?

Please leave your reply as a comment, and once everyone has contributed, I will publish a summary of your responses.

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for January 18

What's your favourite movie spanking scene?

Roz: I don't know about spanking movies as such, but there have been various clips in films or old tv shows. Some of them tweak the interest others just lame or funny. 

Rosco: Even though I’m not a fan of John Wayne, McClintock has a great spanking scene at the end - I’m a big fan of petticoats as well.

I thought the scene in Weeds (TV, not movies) where the drug dealer spanked Mary Louise Parker in the car was pretty great - she thought so too.

Of course I’m a male submissive. I’ve had some powerful fantasies of being spanked in 60s TV shows - by Mary Ann and Ginger on Gilligan’s Island and Billie Jo, Bobby Jo and Betty Jo on Petticoat Junction.

There was also a scene in Dogville when a bratty kid begs Nicole Kidman for a spanking. I liked the scene but not the movie.

Wolfman: My choice is 50 Shades Darker. The reason is a romance with our female lead not depicted as being mentally deficient, In fact she comes to embrace her submissive life without sacrificing her acquired leadership skills. She remains charmingly feminine without becoming dumbed down. All in all a refreshing change.

Prefectdt: It was an F/f production from Sting In The Tail (SIT) spanking video productions. I no longer have it, as it was on a VHS tape, and is a long time gone. Unfortunately, the name of the film is also gone from the memory. But it was the first proper spanking film, in watchable quality, that I could find to buy, when I was living in The Netherlands. It was important to me, as I could show it to other people and point out the main differences between Spanko play and mainstream BDSM play.  

KDPierre: I would say "Secretary". There are things about it I didn't like, but compared to the other possibilities, it's better by far than say, "Exit to Eden" or "50 Shades". I think I like the main character's unapologetic acceptance of who she is by the end. I don't like the implication in most spank-themed movies (including Secretary) that the characters are the way they are due to some personal damage or flaw.

My favorite kinky scene in an otherwise non kinky movie is "Antonia and Jane" where they play a trivia game with spanks for wrong answers. 

Dan: A Dangerous Method has a very graphic spanking scene that it also the best I can think of for depicting what a hard spanking (or, in that case, strapping) is like. And, unlike some other common examples, it's in a truly good movie.

Given that I'm a "bottom" who gets hard disciplinary spankings, I can't help but be attracted to the school paddling scene in Dead Poets Society, though more specifically the student's pained attempts to walk and sit afterwards.

Although it's not a movie, Season 4 of Fargo opens with a long series of school paddlings. There are two spanking scenes in Weeds, both of which are pretty hot.

All of those are, of course, movies or series that have only a scene or two with spanking. Among those where spanking, BDSM and D/s are more central to the plot, I'd probably have to agree with KD regarding "Secretary", though like 50 Shades, it associates power differential relationships with having psychological issues in a way that I don't like. 

Bonnie: I've not seen a mainstream film that didn't depict spankos as some combination of defective, weird, cruel. victimized, fantasized, or confused. I wish someone would make a film that shows a normal couple expressing their mutual love and respect in a consensual manner. I dunno. Maybe that doesn't sell like the fake stuff.

We do enjoy specialty spanking content.

Wendel: Professor Marston & The Wonder Women has my favorite spanking scene. It is an OK movie, but I will just forward to the scene. Just wish the spankee’s bottom was bared.

Anon: McClintock and Blue Hawaii are the best scenes. Actresses admitted all scenes real, partly as costumes were not conducive to fake scenes.    

Hermione: The movie Tank has a good scene. Although you don't see the belt come in contact with the bare bottom, The camera concentrates on the young woman's facial expression.

I also love the scene in Monty Python and the Holy Grail where all the ladies ask for spankings.

A.J.: Roz hinted at it: Movies that have a spanking scene, or movies about spanking with a story written about them? (I'm eliminating the companies that only make spanking videos and clips like those from (the now defunct) companies like Nu-West.)

I assume the last, where the story is written around spankings (plural.)
A film where spanking is considered an erotic and necessary art. In keeping with Bonnie's comment, nothing violent, nothing weird, nothing that is not consensual. Little vignettes, each with spanking.)

In which case there is only one, the French film: La fessée, ou Les mémoires de monsieur Léon maître-fesseur (Translated: The Spanking, or The Memoirs of Mr. Léon, the Master Spanker.)

Mild-mannered bank teller by day, the Master of spankings at night! (Should have given him a cape!)

About a dozen beautiful women willingly go otk! And the eroticism of spanking is explained (and demonstrated!) by the maître.

To the question why I loved it? Because each of Mr. Léon spankings is the way I spank! Each of the dozen or so spankings are with the bare hand on a bare and beautiful bottom. And, with one exception, every spanking is OTK. And in the end, roles are reversed. (Why should the ladies have all the fun, amiright?)

You can still find it! If you can't, let Hermione know and I will see if I can find it.

(The accompanying music is awful. As if you care about that.) 

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #626

Winter has finally appeared with a vengeance here in the North, so today is a good day to snuggle up in front of the fire with a hot bowl of soup, and discuss another activity that never fails to bring a glow to the posterior. This week's question is a reprise from ten years ago, and I wonder how the responses will differ this time.

What spanking movie have you seen that you really loved, and why? What made it memorable?

Leave your reply as a comment and I will publish a summary of our discussion once the weekend is over.

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