Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for November 23

How do you feel about going to a professional to learn proper caning technique?

Bonnie: We've always explored new spanking techniques and new implements together. I trust Randy to proceed slowly until we are both comfortable, or stop if necessary. I know he won't inflict any severe physical or emotional damage.

Dan: I would. I have a fascination with caning, but for some reason, it's just never worked well with Anne wielding the cane. We've tried several times, including after she's read various "how to" resources. It just doesn't hurt very much, and it's clearly never going to be an instrument she has any enthusiasm for. But, I do have enough curiosity about how a truly effective caning would feel, I would be very open to experiencing it with a pro. And, that's really the only context I can think of in which I would have any interest in going to a pro. In other scenarios, it has no appeal.

Wendel: We would not seek out a Pro. Spankings are for us by us. If the Misses wants to experience it I would give it a go but it is not an implement we have much interest in.

Graham: I think that with practice and patience, anyone who can use a paddle or strap can also learn to use the cane. The question of wanting to is different. As a switch that mostly bottoms, I often visited pros in my younger life and all of them were very skilled.

Rosco: If Irene wanted to escort me, I probably would. It’s intriguing, but I’d worry about injury at least a little.

But I’d rather be tested with prolonged and repeated spankings.

Mija: Under those circumstances I'd take *us* to a pro. I've known a number of people who've gone to pros with their partner to be taught/learn safe ways to use specific implements or rope or whatever. If there was something my partner wanted to experience and, after trying and getting instruction I wasn't able, a pro would be a great option. Especially if I got to watch. 

Barrel: Yes, I would if she asked for that support. Why not? If it is something between us that we both want, it makes sense. But we seem to do rather well anyway.

FL: Spanking for me is 100% sexual and part of a trusting, loving relationship. I would not want to involve a third party, any more than I would want one involved for any other sexual act one of us might not wish to participate in. Respecting each others' hard limits is crucial, in any aspect of the relationship. 

Prefectdt: Finding someone more competent than myself, for spanko style caning (as opposed to more mainstream BDSM cane use), would mean travelling. Probably to the UK, but at least as far as the Netherlands. But I would be up for a weekend away for that. Also, I would be interested if a play partner wanted to see me caned. Having a consenting audience is a bit of a fantasy of mine. In both cases, though, the idea of doing this would have to be suggested by the other party involved. I would not propose doing either, for fear of feeling that I am pressuring someone into doing something that they might not really want to do.

Roz: I don't think we would seek a professional. Spanking is between and for us. 

Hermione: In theory, it would be very interesting to have instruction from a pro. In reality, neither of us would be comfortable in such a situation. Caning doesn't hold much of an attraction for us.           

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #618

Our brunch on caning has generated some interesting spin-offs. Today's topic was suggested by our good friend A.J.

If your partner wants to feel the cane, and you don't want to do it and, quoting Ronnie: "No-one should receive a hard caning from someone who doesn't know what they're doing," would you take him/her to a pro who does? On the reverse: if you were offered that, would you accept that offer and go?

Please leave your response as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish a summary of your responses.

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Some Mondegreens for your Enjoyment

A mondegreen is a misunderstood or misinterpreted word or phrase resulting from a mishearing of the lyrics of a song. Let's stretch that definition to include words or phrases other than songs, and here's what happens.

 

And some that are not mondegreens, just misused words, but they're funny anyway.

Happy Thursday!

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Naughty Boy

Last week I posted a spanking song I had discovered accidentally. Well, it seems there are plenty more out there.

Our good friend Rosco reported that Christina Aguilera asks for a spanking in her “Nasty Naughty Boy”, among other things. The sound quality is inferior in this live version, but the video is fun.

 

Oh my! And there are more songs to come, so stay tuned.

 

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for November 16

Do you have any tips for spanking sensitive areas?

Rosco: I never would have predicted it, but Irene spanks my balls and I like it. Obviously a little discretion on the implement and intensity is necessary. Once in a while she’s a little too enthusiastic but there've been no lasting physical or emotional scars. 

Roz: What comes to mind when it comes to sensitive areas is be careful and deliberate with your aim and watch the intensity.

Barrel: We do, which prompted the question. There is an area just above the crease at the bottom of the buttocks and on either side of the vertical separation between the cheeks. Extending out 2" (5cm for those of you using metric) from that intersection, we call the golden triangle. I find it the most sensitive area my wife spanks. We have a small, blue slapper that works well in those tight quarters. But when I am bent over and restrained, my wife likes to try to land the tips of the xh tawse in the golden triangle. I wear a protective cup for obvious reasons. When she is successful, I find it...memorable.

I just bought an 18" (45cm) cane that is 1/4" (6.35mm) in diameter for use when we travel, as we have a cruise planned next year. It fits in our carry-on roller bags and is relatively quiet when applied. While she is still practising with it, she finds it easy to land in intimate areas.

FL: The classic "sit spots" do it for me. I've also had my hands tawsed and my erection flogged, both of which I quite enjoyed but wouldn't classify as spanking.

Wendel: The sit spot for us. 

Bonnie: When my husband smacks me with a serious implement, it's all sensitive. Striking my bits is an absolute hard limit. We're not into torture. There's plenty of available skin back there for him to punish.

His favorite spots to spank are the under curves of my bottom. He wants to make sure that it hurts every time I sit. Believe me. It hurts. He often works over the tops of my thighs in back for the same reason. I have less padding there which makes this technique worse than swats on my butt.

He has one cruel practice that I dread. My bottom is pretty tough thanks to our regular sessions with the paddle. But there are places where he can lay down vivid marks and bruises with relatively little effort. When he decides I am a particularly bad girl, my love spreads my cheeks and beats my inner surfaces repeatedly using the solid wooden hairbrush. This kind of punishment stays with me long after the spanking is over.

Prefectdt: I once was an uptight, bottom, thighs only spanko. But after many years of compromising, with more mainstream BDSMers, I have some limited experience with CBT. I can only recommend that the fleshier part of the thigh and not the actual knee is used when “putting the knee in”. And that kicking only happens with the middle part of the foot and not the toe.      

Rosco: Weighing in for the second time, I haven’t delivered a spanking since the Carter Administration. My wife Irene is all to happy to do the spanking in our relationship. It’s worked out wonderfully.

I did deliver 3 spankings, a few minutes apart one evening at a time when I had never even made out with a girl (we did so afterwards). We were on the beach at night and had wandered away from the others.

We began to wrestle playfully. At one point I turned her over in what we call the diaper position (to keep her face out of the sand) and slapped her bottom a few times. I stopped only because I didn’t want to be accused of being weird.

But she seemed to like it, and a few minutes later I did it again. The third time, I slapped either cheek several times then went for a spot in-between and little lower down. I didn’t smack hard, but she was wearing a onesie with loose short pants that had ridden up so the whole thing was quite a thrill for me - and I think for her as well.

Making out ensued, as well as third base at her behest.

A.J.: God, I'm such a wimp.

I read Ronnie's treatise on caning. And what hit me (Was that a pun???) was understanding what a caning is, the types of canes, the length of canes, practising on objects before you dare use one, the tip speed, warnings on the target areas. Whew! That's a lot of work! That I don't want to do. And Mark's line: "instant clarity of pain," pretty much said "No" to me.

Side note: Many years ago I met this woman for the first time for some strictly OTK fun. Talked to her for almost two hours she was so fascinating! Took me on a tour of her place before the main event. Along a wall were hung many of her "tools of the trade." And at the end - a bullwhip! A fer-real bullwhip!
"You use that?"
"It's rare, but yes. I charge a lot more. And need a couple weeks to prepare."
"Why?"
"Because I use it so rarely and the damage it can deal out is so great I have to practice for hours over several days in advance, before the appointment."

I passed.

And I'm still not interested in caning.

Hermione: Just the sit spots for us. I'm not interested in being hurt in any other areas.   

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #617

We've all come through another busy week and now it's time to relax. Last week we discussed helpful tips on wielding a cane.  

Do you have similar tips, perhaps more “impactful”, on how and where to spank the most sensitive areas?  Are these reserved for special spankings?

Please leave your response as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish a summary of your helpful hints. Thank you, Barrel, for suggesting this follow-up topic.

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More Advice on Caning

Our very dear friend Ronnie has published a post with a wealth of information on caning. She should know what she's talking about, as she sells a variety of canes and has had much first-hand experience being on the receiving end. 

Here is her advice. While you are visiting her blog, please do take the opportunity to order a cane or  two. 

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