Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for February 15

This week we discussed lopsided spankings, and here's what you said:

Bonnie: I really dislike an unbalanced spanking, so much so that I've asked Randy to even me up. He is delighted to grant such requests.

Graham: No interest here, fortunately.

Kiki: I'm with Bonnie. I can't stand when the spanking is unbalanced either.

Wendel: We did try paddling just one cheek. It was not satisfying giving or receiving so it has not happened since. 

Roz: I too much prefer an even spanking. It does happen on the odd occasion though.

Norse Cavalier: I've wanted to try that with a young lady - deliberately spank only one of her cheeks, then go out to eat. She can squirm in her chair at the restaurant, trying to get comfortable. Once we're done, we go back home so that the other cheek can get some attention.

I've noticed that I tend to spank the right cheek more than the left. The best way to avoid it is to give some extra attention to the left cheek, to even it out, and to rely on feedback from the naughty young lady. If one of her cheeks hurts more than the other, she's not shy in telling me.

Ronnie: I don't like when a spanking is more one sided but it has happened on occasion. 

Prefectdt: I hate being “Lop” spanked. Just watching a video of it happening to someone else is annoying. Where this seems to happen the most in an OTK situation, where the further buttock is easier to reach than the nearer buttock. It is often something that inexperienced spankers need to be warned about. Spankers, please learn to take a physical hint. When the Spankee is lifting one buttock higher than the other, that means that the buttock being lifted high needs more attention.

Rosco: I think this happened more often initially. With paddles, straps and even riding crops it’s pretty to provide an egalitarian spanking. A bit harder with whips, unless the dominant partner is truly ambidextrous.

It’s been awhile, but when we’ve used switches I get wonderful welts, albeit only on the right buttock.

Barrel: Neither of us like lopsided color and marks. That's why she carefully inspects the results before we stop spankings and sessions. Before our recent sessions to prevent strokes landing in unintended areas, we mark the limits on my bottom with a pen. Then she is free to land any of the implements within the target, and usually balances the color, texture and markings evenly.

A.J.: I have NEVER spanked one of my lovely spanking GFs like that! It is always left-right-left-right. (Or the reverse.)

On the receiving end, though, it did happen. My first spanking GF, after a month or two of my spanking her so deliciously, out of the blue announced "Your turn!" And I had to go OTK for my first ever otk spanking.

And guess what she did? Yup.

I finally turned back and yelled at her : "Hey!! I have TWO cheeks!"

She paused, noticed, laughed, apologized. and then balanced her work out. Funny then. 

Hermione: It happens sometimes with longer implements, such as the long wooden shoehorn. The impact lands on the left cheek more, and the right cheek gets only a whisper of a stroke.

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #630

Welcome, fellow brunchers, to our weekly get-together. It's Valentine's Day, and the shops are decked out in various shades of pink and red.  Today's topic, suggested by an anonymous reader, explores the subject of those differing shades of redness.

Do you ever deliver or receive a lop-sided spanking, when one cheek receives far more attention than the other? Spankers, do you do it intentionally? If not, how can you avoid it? Spankees, does it bother you or do you accept it as part of the overall experience?

Leave your response as a comment and once everyone has had a chance to reply, I will publish a summary of our discussion.

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The Price of Procrastination

Do you ever put off doing something that you know has to be done? Our dear friend Bonnie experienced just such an affliction, but she was lucky. Her husband Randy helped her to overcome it. Read on:

The Price of Procrastination

I'm good about getting things done.  My career as a journalist/writer taught me respect for deadlines.  Finishing on time is the right thing to do for many good reasons.  This belief lies at the very core of my being.

But some tasks I avoid.  A while back, I mentioned to my ever vigilant husband, Randy, that I needed to make an appointment to see a certain grumpy doctor.  He's a specialist who I visit periodically.  At least I should, but I know I won't die if I put it off.   But I could get a spanking.

Recently, Randy asked me whether I had made my appointment with Doctor Grumpy.  "No, not yet," I replied.  I was surprised he recalled my offhand comment from weeks before.  But he told me that my health is very important.  I suddenly realized that the health of my butt was rapidly dropping in importance.

So I got spanked with the paddle for procrastination.  I told him that he wouldn't like this doctor either, but that didn't seem to help my case.  He grabbed a solid hardwood paddle with an oval shaped head, sat in the center of the couch, and directed me down over his lap.  I was face down and bottom up, positioned for a traditional corporal punishment.  That's a tradition we uphold.

He raised my skirt and lifted the paddle.  "Bon, you must learn not to procrastinate."  He lectured a while longer, but my attention by then was on more immediate concerns.

The smooth blade of paddle impacted against my exposed skin.  It hurt.  It always hurts.  I cringed in expectation of a follow-up swat.  But he paused.  For what seemed like an eternity.  Am I still getting a spanking?  I wondered.

I got a confusing answer when Randy reached over and grabbed the TV remote.  As I awaited my inevitable destiny, he surfed through channels (as men do) until landing on a sports program.  Satisfied with his choice, I smacked me again.

"Ow!" I exclaimed.  I wasn't ready.  I thought we were beginning in earnest.  But no.  He halted once more and just rubbed the wooden surface across my cheeks.  He seemed to be paying more attention to his show than my scarcely blushed posterior.

After a third delayed swat, I recognized that he was teaching me a lesson about procrastination.    This lesson was more way annoying than it was painful.  I'd had enough.

"Are you going to spank me or what?"  I can tell you his response was everything but "Or what."  He whacked me good.  Then he whacked me bad, pausing every so often to drive home his point.  By the time he finished, my home fires were definitely alight.

After my punishment concluded, Randy surprised me again.  He pulled a marker from his pocket and handed it to me along with the paddle.  At his instruction, I wrote these words on the face of the paddle – "On [date] I was spanked for procrastination."  Then I signed it.  He displayed the paddle on the wall.  He said it’s a better reminder than just a sore seat because it lasts longer.

I made the appointment the next day and I will see Doctor Grumpy on Tuesday.  Fortunately, he won't be examining my bottom.

So did I learn anything?  Yes, I did.  I learned that my queries about getting spanked are always answered forcefully in the affirmative. 

 Thank you, Bonnie, for sharing that painful lesson with us.

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for February 8

Have there been times when you just didn't feel like engaging in spanking? Do you postpone?

Wendel: Spankings are postponed when one or both of us are sick.

Bonnie: Yes, sometimes that occurs for any one of many reasons. We postpone, but the spanking always happens eventually.

Mija: Yes, and I could totally have done that - safe words are real and absolutel. However, what I've realized over the years that because this is about giving up control, the after effect of being spanked when I *don't* feel like it, of giving that control of telling my partner that I don't want to be spanked, that I'm scared, and his going ahead anyway is mind blowingly powerful. Not to be cliche, but there's something about not wanting it, but needing it/getting it anyway that goes somewhere really deep. Sorry for being so vague, but I've really written about this before.

Roz: Yes there have been times I have not wanted a spanking in the moment. Rick was very good at knowing whether it is a minor protest, in which case the spanking would happen or if there was more to it, in which case the spanking wouldn't happen.    

Mary: My wife gives me a spanking once a month (First Friday after dinner). I suggested we try spanking once and she made it a permanent part of our now FLR relationship. I hate it but I know that she sends me up to our room at the appointed time and I do. I have asked her if this is permanent and she just answers "We'll see". Right now it is 36 hours later and my bottom is still sensitive.

Rosco: Generally Irene and I know each other well enough to tell if it’s a good time without asking, so it’s rare that a spanking wouldn’t take place when suggested.

But we do have a code. If she asks if I need a spanking and I say I don’t, that I don’t deserve one and I’ve been obedient, it means please spank me. The more I protest the harder and longer the spanking.

If I ask if she can do it later, it means now is not a good time. But that’s only happened a handful of times in 46 years.

Ronnie: Yes we have postponed spankings. It happens. 

Graham: Of course. Very rare, but sometimes there may be other pressing matters unrelated to spanking that take precedence.

Prefectdt: There are times when a spanking does not sound so good to me. But I have the advantage, over most that come to chat here, in that I just do not go to be spanked. The exception to this is when a pay to play has been arranged sometime in advance and then on the day the mood is just not there. On these occasions I keep it to myself and go and play anyway. Just don't want to get a reputation as a last minute no show.

Hermione: We postpone when there's work to be done - snow shovelling or lawn mowing - that will leave one or both of us just too tired. If it's just that I'm not in the mood, we carry on regardless since, as Mija said, it's all about submission.

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #629

Good day all! It's a fine day today, regardless of the weather, because we are all together again to talk about spanking. We are all enthusiasts in one way or another, but sometimes our enthusiasm isn't quite up to its usual level.

Has there ever been a time when you just didn't feel like participating in a spanking? Did you make your feelings known to your partner? If so, did the spanking happen anyway, or was it postponed?

Leave your reply as a comment and I will publish a summary of our discussion when the weekend is over.

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Glory to Ukraine

The Sounds Opposite of Silence

Our good friend Jean Marie was inspired by a recent brunch to compose a song parody. She gave me permission to share it with you, and here it is:

The Sounds Opposite of Silence
By Jean Marie

Hello bedspread, my old friend
I’ve come to stare at you again
Because my new boyfriend wants me OTK
He’s going to make me rue this day
With a spankin’ that my butt will ne’er forget
It’ll still remain
After the bruises have faded

In restless dreams I stand alone
As skirt goes up and pants come down
“Neath the halo of a bedside lamp
My pussy grows both sticky and damp
Then my butt is pained with the flash of his spanking hand
More than I could stand
Man, I’ll be bruised forever

And in that naked light I saw
Ten thousand spankos, maybe more
People spanking with a sense of fun
Bottoms hoping it’ll ne’er be done
Kinksters writing poems in their lover’s flesh
Eloquent
Bruises on butts unfaded

“Ouch” cried I, “That hurts so much
Spankings get so hot to the touch
Hear my pleas that you might back-off
Read my signs, you brutish jack-off!”
But I feared my words like silent teardrops fell
Unheeded like my bruises

But then this Top, he stopped and prayed
To the altar that he claimed my pert butt had made
He worshipfully deified 
The derriere he almost crucified

The Top prayed, “This butt is near perfect
It just needs some color, some heat…”
“Proceed,” I said, my other cheeks blushing 
And the night was filled with the sounds opposite of silence

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for February 1

Do you and your partner discuss spanking?

Bonnie: A casual observer might think Randy and I should have long ago said everything there is to be said on this subject. But we're still talking all the time. Sometimes the subject is serious, but sometimes funny. Sometimes it's logistical. Occasionally, it's just a sly aside slipped into an otherwise vanilla topic. Or a joke.

The conversation can also be non-verbal. A paddle strategically placed on the bed. A random swat on my butt. A fashion choice meant to intrigue.

So, yes, our answer is yes.

Roz: Rick and I have always been able to talk about any subject. We share our thoughts and feelings on issues and our desires. That includes spanking. Sometimes a serious conversation, sometimes designed to titillate or just fun. Importantly I think, we have been able to discuss what works and doesn't work for each of us spanking wise. When we had an active dynamic the topic would come up fairly frequently and would be raised by either of us.

Wendel: Spanking comes up pretty much every day. It is just a fun thing we like doing and talking about. 

Barrel: Yes, we talk about the subject regularly and openly. As we are using spanking to support behavioral change, she brings up the subject weekly or so. We are both desiring for the frequency and duration to increase, and we have agreed either of us are encouraged to bring the subject up.

Rosco: Yes. I’ll distinguish between talking about spanking during our role play, usually sexual, encounters, and when we’re talking about those times. During those sessions I’ll complain and beg not to be spanked which is our code for more spanking.

Outside of those times, Irene will tell me I’m due for a spanking and I’ll joke about it. If I ever say I don’t need one, again it’s code that I do want one. If I say “later”, it’s serious - now is not the right time.

We do talk about implements and severity. I bought her a vicious wooden paddle to make it easier on the arthritis in her hands - but it’s often too intense for my bottom. I like it to hurt, as does she, but only to a point. I’ve also brought home switches that leave welts which don’t bother me but they do bother her.

Recently she got carried away and whacked my testicles with the tip of a whip that took me, and thus her, out of our blissful zone. She felt bad about it, but I reminded her that subs get over these things quickly but, as I’ve read, sometimes they never get over these things quickly, such as the wrong kind of verbal insult.   

Prefectdt: I don't think that this particular is for me. I am, genuinely, looking forward to reading other peoples comments about this.

At least your comment wasn't identified as spam by Blogger this time :)

Dan: We talk about it fairly often. Not all the time, but probably once every two or three weeks. I initiate most of those discussions, but not all.

Hermione: Not serious discussions, but once in a while Ron will make a joking reference to it. 

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