Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for November 9

Need advice on caning technique? Read on!

Bonnie: For me, a punishment with the cane is intense to be sure, but it's not the worst implement. I reserve that distinction for a solid wooden bath brush. It feels like a hairbrush, but it burns much hotter. Spankings with this long handled brush leave vivid marks on my bottom and next day soreness.

As far as advice, I'd say remember to breathe. If skin damage is a problem, wear a pair of cotton panties or some leggings. Moisturizing lotion can help afterward. For the spankers, please take care to avoid our hips and back.

Anon: The cane is a very exotic and erotic implement with one of the longest traditions. Three pieces of advice that I'm sure others would share. First, start with a manageable size. You needn't start with the senior cane -- work your way up to it if desired.

Second, the spanker should definitely practice on a pillow long enough to gain confidence of control and accuracy before going to work on a human! If you're worried, then cover the lower back and the thighs. Also, practice not wrapping, as that can be painful and leave unwanted marks.

Third, position is everything for both parties. It may work best with the victim over a pile of pillows to start before graduating to the bent over position. In the latter position, it usually works best for the caner to be slightly ahead of the recipient's bottom to effectively cover both cheeks without wrapping.

Back to point 1, a lighter, shorter cane is not likely to do so much damage with a mishit, so definitely a good place to start.

Enjoy...the cane is my favorite to receive and hope you learn to appreciate it.

Mark: I'd agree with Bonnie, I find wooden paddles much worse. They don't however have the instant clarity of pain that you get with a cane, and not the welts either. I think that it is important that the cane is applied with a very full swing - arm taken right back and wrist cranked back further - then brought down on the bottom as hard as the caner can achieve. Particularly so with women caning men, strike as hard as you can and with the tip lined up to hit the far cheek firmly but not wrap past it.

Do this and the recipient will hear the stroke but not feel anything for a few milliseconds and then there will be a blinding pain. Give them time to process this before applying the next in the same fashion.

The cane you use needs to have a bit of weight too; 10 - 13mm diameter works well. There will be significant bruising at the 13mm diameter on a new cane.

Done well, six strokes are plenty. Over 12 and there will definitely be good bruising and the chance of breaking the skin increases.

Roz: Some great advice above. We haven't used a cane that often so I don't have much in the way of advice to share except that aim is so important. For me I find it a very intense implement.

Barrel: I bought our delrin canes from Aunt Kay at DWC so we have had them a long time. They came with a short VHS tape and several pages of examples how to use the canes effectively. That said, my wife still has mis-hits. 

I agree that practising on a pillow can help. Practise standing further away from the target as the caner’s arm will always extend further than expected, resulting the tip of the cane to wrap, most often around to the sides of the hips, which is really unpleasant. 

Know that thin canes (3/16”) will leave deep welts and may break the skin slightly. Thicker canes leave welts but also a deeper soreness, so give some thought to the desired end result.

My wife and I will usually have a short discussion after she canes me, reviewing the marks and my input on the intensity of her caning. If either of us doesn’t feel the caning was what either of us expected, we will have a topping off to achieve the spacing, color and depth of the welts. Those strokes are always as hard as she can swing and when applied on top of an already marked and welted skin, are memorable.

I find the cane the most intense implement she employs. I dislike the deep bruising and soreness, preferring welts and blood blisters, which I wear as a badge of honor. I do believe that regular canings are fun and needed.

Prefectdt: For this, I am talking about rattan canes and nothing else.

Most canes have a natural bend to them; if you can, just before playing, flex the cane and increase the bend as much as possible. Then, when aiming, place the cane so that the bend goes away from the buttocks at the far end. Then plan the strike so that the cane lands on the nearest buttock first, and the natural flexibility of the rattan should make an even contact across the buttocks. For the recipient, this will give the effect of evenly laid out pain along the stripe of impact.

When coming from a side on swing, like in a bent over the desk situation, always aim the stroke to land short, just at the start of the second buttock. In these situations, the stroke always lands further on than is planned. And the line should now end up fully across both sides of the bottom without wrapping around to the hip bones.

A caner should take their time. Wait between each stroke until the red line of the last stroke laid on appears. This should take between 15 and 30 seconds. The caner can then assess the stroke and compensate for any inaccuracies for the next stroke.

If you are on the receiving end, be prepared for the first stroke of a caning to be a shock to the system. It always is, even for those of us with a lot of experience with canes.      

Rosco: We’ve never used a cane. Irene doesn’t like to plan. She’s fairly whimsical and unlikely to want to count out six of the best or take the necessary care to whack the exact right spot.

A.J.: Interesting comments. Very.

But thanks, anyway. Still not interested in caning, giving or receiving. (Am I boring…?)

Hermione: Thank you for all the excellent advice -- no doubt from first-hand experience. Some years ago I posted a dissertation on the cane, which you may find helpful.

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #616

Last week, we had several readers explain that they either hadn't used a cane and wanted to, or that using one wasn't comfortable yet. Our good friend Barrel suggested this follow-up.

For those of you that do use a cane regularly and effectively, what advice or experience might you share to help others experience this most intense toy?

Please leave your response as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish a summary of your helpful hints.

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Awkward!

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for November 2

Is there an implement you haven't figured out, or have never tried but would like to?

Dan: For me, it's the cane. It is such an iconic instrument that I feel like it should be part of my wife's "go to" arsenal. But, we've tried it several times, and for some reason my wife really struggles to use it effectively. She's read materials about how to cane effectively and watched videos showing how to use, but somehow it just doesn't work. 

Rosco: Irene has arthritis in her hands, so we’ve been focusing on implements with round handles for awhile. Most recently I bought a small wooden paddle that has quite an impact and wrapped the handle with a spongy sort of medical tape. It works very well, and I’m surprised there’s been no bruising because it certainly feels like it.

And when we’re out hiking I’m always looking for a good switch. They’re hard to find in our area. The best have been shoots at the base of wild plum trees in the spring. Maybe we’ll find something new next year.

Wendel: The one implement we do not have is a cane. It is something we have talked about buying and trying out one day. On hikes we will look for the ideal stick to whip each other’s bottom like a cane, but we never keep them. 

Roz: I'm afraid my answer is a boring one. I can't think of anything in particular at the moment.

Luvinhub: Similar to the others the cane and a switch are two that my ass has yet to feel. The cane is a curiosity and scary. The switch, I have fantasized and even written stories for my wife of being on one of our bike rides when I do something wrong and a few steps from the trail she uses a switch to discipline me. 

Jack: My wife/mommy has tried several items, when she first used the bathbrush and saw my reaction she used it and still look for something more effective, she could not find one.

Prefectdt: Several years ago I made a chamois leather flogger. It has to be used wet as it is stiff and brittle when dry. It got swung once, at a very weak practice stroke, inside a tiled bathroom. It produced so much spray that even in that situation, it was deemed not to be any good for indoor play. So it sits in the toy box, stiff and brittle waiting to be soaked and used properly. I so want to know what it is like being wet flogged with that toy, but will probably never experience it as it was meant to be used.     

Barrel: I bought a single tail whip several months ago. It is about 36" long including the tail at the end which is called a popper. The popper can be changed from a soft chamois leather strip to twin 6" heavy leather tails. It currently sports the heavy leather tails. Despite watching videos and practising on a pillow, my wife is still learning how to administer a whipping with it.
Standing back to extend the full length, while trying to land just the tips, it varies from sensual to intense. When she holds it at mid length, she can land it wherever she wishes, from my back to my thighs.
When we finish a session with it, she always tells me she really liked it. Thus the fascination knowing as she improves in using it, I will need to learn to like it as well. 

Bonnie: You stumped me! I can't think of any interesting implement type we haven't already tried.

Hermione: I've always been curious to find out what it would be like to receive a proper caning with a school cane. We have a short wooden cane, suitable for otk, but it just feels like being whacked with a wooden dowel.   

I have also been intrigued by the thought of being birched. Many of the stories in The Pearl feature vigorous birchings, but I suspect the experience would not be at all pleasant.

Ronnie: No, can’t think of anything I’d want to try. 

 

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #615

Welcome! I hope you all had an uneventful Hallowe'en. Our street was blocked off for four hours so that kids could rampage over the neighbourhood without fear of being run over. However, steady rain and near-freezing temperatures caused the event to be packed up by 7:30. Thank goodness!

Thanks to our good friend Barrel, we have a topic that I've never considered before.

Is there an implement that you haven’t quite figured out or perfected its use, that fascinates you?  Or one you don’t have yet that intrigues you, and why?

Please leave your response as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish a summary of our discussion.

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for October 26

Do your spankings include warm-ups?

Norse Cavalier: All of the spankings I give include warm-up. The spankee can take a far harder spanking with a good warm-up first. For new spankees, it will make their first spanking far less scary. And for punishment spankings, it lets me pull out the heavier implements.

Roz: I would say a warm-up is included in all spankings as they tend to start less intense and slowly build up from there. The intensity often also varies during the spanking, to keep me guessing and on my toes.

Rosco: Well, yes and no. Irene is whimsical, not methodical. She likes to make it hurt (she confesses), but only to a certain degree. I’ve explained that the bottom absorbs spankings differently after a warm up and she understands that in her head but doesn’t fully get it.

So some spankings begin with decided enthusiasm, I.e. no warm up. But she’ll back off when I react with extreme kicking of the legs - I try not to yell.

As spankees know, it’s especially intense when one’s bottom is cold - e.g. if you’ve been out on a winter’s day before said spanking. Those whacks just hurt - it’s harder to savor the experience.

Glenmore: Nope! She gets right down to business.

Jack: If you mean getting a spanking then having to stand in the corner, knowing the spanking is not over, that could be a warm up. 

Bonnie: Sometimes I get a warm-up. Other times, Randy prefers full power from the first swat. As shocking as the latter approach is, I can accept a longer, harder spanking if it is preceded by a warm-up. He knows this, so that warm-up is not necessarily a kindness.

A fast and furious start feels like corporal punishment and puts me in that familiar headspace. I love to be the bad girl across his lap receiving correction for my most recent transgression.

A more gradual build up feels more like play, even if it doesn't conclude that way. In this case, I am well aware that spankings are supposed to hurt and they always do. But I get to wonder what's next.     

Wendel: No warm-up here. It is a good spanking from start to finish. 

Barrel: It depends. If we are using a spanking as a prelude to intimacy, most often she starts slower and with a smaller count, pauses and then the next sets are more intense and with a higher quantity. I usually get two to four sets with whatever implement she wants to use.
If we have a planned session, there is no warm-up, other than some caressing of my white, unblemished skin...a blank canvas, she likes to say. Then the implements come into play and we are off. As everyone knows, a hard thrashing right from the beginning is nasty, and a cold caning is the worst, but if that is what she has planned, I can only endure.  

Predfectdt: It depends on what you define as a warm-up. With most things I can go straight into proper play now, unlike when I was younger. But with harsher toys, like a rattan cane, for example, It is better if they are not the first thing out of the box. So it can be supposed that the other spanking toys used before that are a sort of a warm-up for the hard stuff. A cold caning is hard to take. Other than that, if the other participant is a first time or inexperienced spanker, then I might encourage them to start easy and work on their accuracy first and their intensity of stroke, once they have mastered a good aim. So that kind of play can have a sort of calmer start to it. 

Dan: No, Anne is pretty binary in her spanking approach. From the first swat, it's hard and at a deliberate, fairly fast pace.

Anon: Always!!! When on either side of the lap.
I don’t give/believe in punishment spankings, and certainly would not accept one (although, at certain times the Grande Finale! has been a little “vigorous”, if you know what I mean. Often “ memorable”.)

All is a prelude to ‘intimacy.’

Hermione: Not an actual warm-up. but Ron always starts off with a pretty mild implement, then moves on to the more severe ones. 

Graham: Usually. However, if it's disciplinary and time is limited, it's likely to be short and hard from the start!

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #614

Hello and welcome! Pull up a chair and make yourself comfortable. It's always great to see you. I hope you will find today's discussion both interesting and enlightening. This week I was contemplating the role that warm-ups play. By that I mean spankings that are lighter, meant as a preparation for the main event.

Do your spankings include warm-ups? Are they used regularly or only under certain circumstances? What purpose do they serve for you and your partner?

Leave your response as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish a summary of our discussion.

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