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Does the spankee say "thank you"?
Graham: Absolutely! I not only thank her verbally, but she almost always receives a well-deserved oral orgasm usually followed by penetrative sex. Lots of fun!
Roz: I don't usually thank Rick for a spanking and it's not generally expected however I have on the odd occasion.
Fondles: I don't, usually, but I *have* said thank you when we have a Dd/lg session of playing (and spanking) - which I only mention here specifically cos sometimes the dynamic is less obvious.
Prefectdt: After a spanking I always offer a full formal, thank you. Usually in at least one full sentence. This is accompanied by a small bow. I never offer or seek a hug after this, but I often do get a hug from the other party, A hug is most welcome, but only if it is genuinely meant. I would not like it if I felt that the other party felt they had to hug me.
FL: Often, sometimes immediately following as part of roleplay, sometimes a while afterward, thanking her for enthusiastically indulging me. It's just good manners.
Jack: When my wife/mommy is done with the spanking I must say I will be a good little boy Mommy and sorry for being naughty.
Rosco: I’ll often
apologize for the behavior that led up to the spanking - that I’m sorry
for being such a recalcitrant naughty disrespectful pouty boy and that I
need to learn to follow all her rules. Then I might thank her for
spanking me because I know I needed it.
She’ll agree and usually say she needs to spank me more often.
A
few times Irene has demanded that I thank her as she’s spanking me.
I’ll refuse at first just to be a little annoying then comply.
Barrel: Yes, I do thank my wife after any spanking. After a long session, when I am totally drained, I give her a deep hug and thank her for taking me into that realm where I feel a total release of any stress. I absolutely love those moments.
A.J.: "Do you thank your spanker after a spanking?"
No. Not really. Does telling her "Oh. That was a good one!" count?
Has she ever thanked me for rendering the "honors?"
No! (That bitch!!! Kidding.)
"As a spanker, do you expect or demand such a courtesy?"
No. Never.
And that seems to me like a ritual or formality, one that I don't care for.
We thank each other in "other" ways, if-you-know-what-I-mean- and-I-think-you-do.
Wendel: The Misses has never thanked me for spanking her and I do not look for it. Consoling with kisses and sex is all that is needed.
Hermione: I agree with Wendel. No thanks are required, just some intimacy.
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Welcome back, friends and visitors alike. Our dear friend Erica Scott has posted again, so please visit her and say hello. She shared her interviews on the Spanko! Podcast; the links are here to part one and part two. It was a pleasant surprise to me because I had never heard of the Spanko! Podcast, but I'll be returning often.
Now on to today's discussion, kindly supplied to us by our good friend Barrel.
As a spankee, do you thank your spanker after a spanking? As a spanker, do you expect or demand such a courtesy?
Please leave your response as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion after everyone has had a chance to weigh in.
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Sting or thud? It was no contest.
Bonnie: Ideally, I
prefer a spanking that provides a bit of each. A moderate size wooden
paddle, not too thick, dispenses both sets of sensations when applied
firmly. Each immediate strike delivers a sharp shock to my exposed
skin. This is how corporal punishment feels.
After my spanking
is over, the burning sensation is gradually subsumed by a deep ache that
I had not fully appreciated previously. This throbbing sort of pain is
also part of the experience of getting a serious paddling. It serves
as a relentless reminder, every time I stand, sit, walk, or bend.
If I got to choose, and I don't, I would want both sting and thud.
Roz: I think I would prefer a bit of both too. The more stingy spankings can be very intense in the moment and the more thuddy implements leave more of a reminder which I love.
Prefectdt: Following on with the general vibe, so far, in this subject. It is nice to have a mix of both, delivered by several, different implements. There are so many more stingy than thuddy toys in the world that it is hard to get a perfect balance between the two.
Ronnie: A mix of both. I love (and hate) the sting of a cane but a thuddy implement like the paddle does leave a lovely reminder.
Graham: Another vote for a mix, but I do love the sting of the cane!
Rosco: Such a complicated question.
The
riding crop, the whip and the switch are generally stingy. They’re all
delicious, and can be used on areas other than the sweet spot of the
buttocks albeit generally with less force. Also, the impact of a whip,
for example, catching a bit of the tailbone is not ideal but generally
tolerable and won’t disturb the flow.
Paddles deliver a
wonderfully satisfying resounding thwack, especially when delivered just
right. They’re also easier to control - not that I have any experience
doing so. Errant blows, however, result in pain - not the good kind.
I’ve
bought numerous implements over the years the years, mostly some sort
of lever and recently with comfortable round handles to fit nicely in
Irene’s hands. These days, I usually get both the two tailed leather
strap and either the leather ping pong paddle or the harsher wooden
paddle. My face is down and I’m often blindfolded so I don’t know what’s
coming until I feel than sting or thwack (don’t much like “thud”).
The after effects of the paddle do tend to last longer.
Variety is the spice of life.
Wendel: Like everyone we like both.
Hermione: I'll have to be the lone dissenter here. I much prefer thuddy implements. When Ron gets out the stingy wooden shoehorn I cringe. He hand-fashioned a switch out of a long branch from a tree in our back yard, and even attached a loop on the end for hanging. He's proud of his work, but I try to keep it hidden because the sting is unpleasant to me.
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Welcome, one and all! Spring is finally here in the often-frozen North. Crocuses are in their full purple glory, the daffodil buds are colouring, and there is a lone hyacinth that self-seeded near the foundation of our house, and has produced three flower stalks. The dogs have enjoyed a muddy frisk together in the sunshine, and Ron has smoked his first cigar of the season on the patio.
Now down to more important matters. This week we have another of Barrel's topic suggestions.
Do you prefer "stingy" or "thuddy" spankings? Describe your best and worst of each.
Please leave your response as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion after everyone has had a chance to speak.
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Spanking twice in a day? Here's what you said:
Rosco: Our usual
routine is Irene will give me 3 or 4 spankings, maybe 20 minutes apart -
usually followed by more traditional intimate activities.
I’ll often be instructed to take a nap after a spanking (which can be oddly relaxing), then spanked again after the nap.
Once in a while I may get a spanking earlier in the day then again at bedtime.
Bonnie: Yes. Randy
loves to apply the paddle to my bare bottom when I'm already red and
sore from a previous session. When he lifts my skirt, he always
comments about how the previous spanking must have been insufficient
because here I am over his lap again. He then makes absolutely certain
my follow up punishment is even harder and hurts more.
From my
perspective, the second (or third!) spanking in a day does hurt worse,
but numb butt seems to kick in earlier. I don't tell him this part. If
he knew, he would change to a different implement. Regardless, my
bottom usually ends up colorfully marked, hot to the touch, and with a
deep, lasting ache. My skin back there often feels kind of stiff.
Randy
captures these tender moments in photos and videos. He sends me to the
corner and tells me to bend over for pictures. He reminds me that bad
girls get paddled (I already figured this out long ago, but no sense
stopping him when he's on a roll). He asks me whether I am embarrassed
to require corporal punishment so frequently. I give him the expected
answer because OW! I'm already plenty sore by that point.
I complain a lot, but he knows I love it all, even the second time.
Wendel: The Misses
works from home so there are days when I will paddle her fanny good in
the morning before I leave for work and remind her that she will get
another when I get home. The Misses says her excitement and arousal gets
stronger the later it gets knowing another spanking is coming.
The
Misses has spanked me multiple times in the same day and I have been
sentenced to a butt whipping every night for a week numerous times. My
bottom is constantly red and sore for the whole week but I love every
moment.
Jack: When my Wife/Mommy tells me to lay my pajamas on the bed, no matter time of day and wait for her I know I will be given another spanking prior to early bedtime. When she comes to the room, bathbrush in hand I will get undress while she scolds me. Once the spanking is done I will be wearing my pajamas the rest of the day. I will be facing the wall in the frontroom or kitchen with the bottoms around my ankles. Early bedtime means around 7pm and I will be told to get to the bedroom. She will bare my bottom and apply the bathbrush. It hurts like hell and I plead with Mommy to stop. When she is done, I pull up the bottoms and get in bed. I lay on my stomach and when she leaves the room I rub my spanked bottom.
Roz: That is a great question Hermione and Barrel! We have in the past spanked more than once in a day . I find the subsequent spankings can hurt more and also, sometimes the headspace changes during subsequent spankings.
Prefectdt: It has happened, but it is very rare for me to get multiple spankings sessions in the same day. Digging through my memories, I suspect that we are talking somewhere about 3 decades ago, the last time that this happened. Spanking twice on back to back days has never happened to me. I crash (get sub drop) very badly on the day after getting spanked and tend to avoid people, as much as possible. I do not want to hassle anybody with “Grumpy, bitchy me.”
Anon: I spanked an ex 3 different times on one day when she had a bad attitude, and made her stay in her get otk ready attire (panties only waist down) the full day (except when we went out to eat) after the 2nd otk trip. In between, we watched tv on the couch and I could feel the heat on her panties the entire day. She left my place the next day, still fire engine red.
Dan: I've only been spanked twice on the same day once. The second was truly excruciating. I also stayed sore much longer than usual, with some residual pain a full week later. That wasn't the case with being spanked on back-to-back days, which we've done a small number of times. I had anticipated those would hurt more than they actually did.
Graham: It has happened to me a couple of times. Wow, does that second one ever smart!
A.J.: "Do you ever spank twice on the same day"
Well, when you do it right you don't have to!
Have to say no on his one; giving or receiving. (Yes; I'm boring.)
Barrel: When we
have a long session, she usually gives me a 20 or 30 minute break where
she removes the restraints, gives me some water and I catch my breath.
We then return to the bench or rack where she finishes what she started
with a hard caning and whipping with the tawse. I think I am in numb
zone a bit, but the cane always catches me off guard.
We have spanked
on back to back days. While the second day really hurts, it depends on
the implement used on the first day. If the hairbrush or plastic
paddle on the first day, the feelings the second day are even greater.
While I like to be spanked, I do not look forward to being spanked on
back to back days.
Hermione: I guess that I, like A.J., am boring. We spank on a schedule of once a week. No second helpings, no back to back days. That's one for my bucket list.
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It's the weekend, and that means it's time for another meeting of like minds. I always love getting suggestions for discussions, because I want to make sure we are talking about what interests you. Let's give our good friend Barrel a round of applause for today's topic.
Do you ever spank twice on the same day, or on back to back days? If so, describe the different feelings you get with the second spanking.
Please leave your response as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion after everyone has had a chance to speak.
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