Spanko Brunch 2.0 #658

Here's a question I posed ten years ago today, and I thought it was worth resurrecting. In view of the current state of sexual identities, it may not be politically correct, so I hope you will forgive me.

 If you are reading this blog, you are almost 100% guaranteed to be interested in spanking for one reason or another. You might actively engage in it, or have just started to explore, or maybe you're just curious. But there are many people out there who don't share our fascination with this percussive sport.

There are four possible combinations of spankers and spankees:

1. Male spanker and female spankee
2. Female spanker and male spankee
3. Female spanker and female spankee
4. Male spanker and male spankee

Which combination do you think non-spankos are most comfortable with, or most understanding of? Which one can they simply not get their heads around, or are least comfortable with? 

Leave your reply as a comment, and remember, all opinions are welcome here. Please feel free to interpret the question as you wish. If you prefer to state your own preference instead, that's fine. I will publish a summary of our discussion once everyone has had a chance to speak.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #657

Would you let yourself be spanked by a stranger in order to help your partner get ahead? 

Robert: Well, since we're both retired this is a total fabrication, but I suppose if she thought it important enough and my wife asked/told me to take a spanking from a stranger, I hope (and think) I would say "Yes, ma'am. Where and when?"

I think it would make her proud of me to do so. I've never been spanked by anyone else, so it would be quite a step in our relationship!

Bonnie: My first thought is “how strange are they?”

I don’t know why anyone would even think that caning the employee’s naked wife was on the table. The story provides a rather unlikely rationale. I like the fantasy and I would enjoy a bigwig spanking role play with Randy. But in real life, I would have to respectfully pass. Only one man gets the privilege of spanking me. Any retribution would be met with a lawsuit.

Red: I love fantasy! However, I have actually been spanked by three different women with Cindy present, and quite enjoyed it. One was far too severe and left me badly bruised, one was absolute play with only a few real spanks, and the third wonderful woman is a friend of ours. Her spankings were not very hard, but more as strong play.. I have seen her spank much harder, when spanking her husband John.
In reality, if Cindy said that someone should spank me for real, i would say, yes dear, and permit it to happen.

Rosco: I can’t quite make this fantasy work.

But I’ve imagined any number of scenarios where Irene engages another woman to help keep me in line. Once we ran into Susan, the best friend of my high school girlfriend who didn’t seem to approve of me. When I introduced Irene to her, Susan made some sort of comment to the effect that she hoped I’d learned to treat women better. I imagined Irene replying that she had to be a little strict and bossy sometimes, leading to Susan asking questions, Irene telling her about my spankings and asking her if she like to participate.

Most of my fantasies start will real life encounters like this one - I have many and often replay them in my mind with the exact conversation.

Wendel: Nope.

Roz: While the fantasy is tantalising, in reality it would be a no. Spanking is purely between us.

Ronnie: Nope, spanking is just between the two of us. 

A.J.: Foolish scenario. Maybe it is the wife who should be doing the spanking

Fantasy-wise, if my boss was a cute female, and my "wife" was present - that might be fun.

Graham: Fun fantasy but can't imagine it happening in real life. For openers, way too many potential work place implications unless it was a 2-person company. 

Prefectdt: It is a fictitious scenario for me but here is what I would do. I would take the whooping but in a place where I could hide several cameras and sound recording devices, without the knowledge of my partner's boss. Then next time that the wicked work giver tries to be unfair in any way at all to my loved one, we would have a pretty little sword of Damocles, to dangle over their corrupt head.

Brett: I'd go up the chain or get a lawyer and see if we can remove this predator from his position.

Dan: I have kind of a thing for stories and memes that involve being coerced into taking a spanking. So, yes, I think I'd be game for it.

Hermione: The story was a fun read, but in real life it would be a red line never to be crossed.             

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #657

Welcome to another weekend brunch! Several years ago I published a story here about a woman who had to agree to be spanked by her husband's boss in order for him to keep his promotion. The story was fiction, but what if you found yourself in that position?

If you are the spankee in your relationship, would you agree to be spanked by a stranger in order to help your husband / wife / partner get ahead or keep a job? If you are the spanker, would you encourage your husband / wife / partner to go through with it?

Leave your thoughts as a comment and I will publish the outcome once everyone has had a chance to speak. I hope you took the time to read the story; it's quite delicious!

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for August 16

What is your experience with blindfolds, gags, earplugs or similar items?

Wendel: We tried having the spankee blindfolded and wearing noise canceling headphones playing “Dance of the Sugar Plum Fairies”. The Misses cried out much louder each time the paddle whacked her fanny. She said it seem more intense because the music relaxed her and then the surprise whack of the paddle produced endorphins, adrenalin or whatever chemicals the body makes to increase pleasure. When it was my turn I did not want her to stop. My bottom hurt so bad after that I could barely get my pants back on but the pleasure was well worth the pain.
Restraints? Bought a pair, tried it once and never used it again. We just did not like it. 

Barrel: We tried a blindfold and I didn’t care for it as I like to see what is coming before I feel it. Never used ear plugs, and won’t as I like to hear the “whurp” of the cane before it is administered. We do use a perforated ball gag occasionally to heighten the aura and when the caning will be extended or severe. Restraints are commonly used when we do a session. 

Roz: We have used restraints and blindfolds in the past. For me it definitely added to the experience and my other senses were on overdrive. We have never used earplugs or headphones.

Rosco: Blindfolds, gags and light bondage are usual components of our repertoire these days.

Irene will pull a (sometimes clean, sometimes not) pair of panties or a panty girdle over my head, the tie satin scarves over my eyes and mouth. She’ll tell me she’s tired of my sass and doesn’t want to hear a word from me.

She might strap me down on our massage table for a sound thrashing. Then she’ll put me down for a nap on my back with my wrists handcuffed to my thighs (being too enthusiastic with bondage has caused neck, back and shoulder pain).

Sometimes I’ll be required to give Irene an extended foot massage while blindfolded and gagged.

Oddly, I’ll drift off into an erotic slumber for half an hour or so then patiently wait to hear her footsteps when she returns to give me more attention. Irene will administer another thrashing, always with a lecture, before indulging in more traditional intimate activities.

Dan: We've never tried any kind of sensory restriction, and I doubt we would. As the recipient, I already have a very narrow focus on a single sensation during a spanking -- the sensation of the brush or paddle slamming into my butt. I think my wife gets more out of the other sensory inputs, particularly sounds. She has said she loves the sound of that paddle or strap striking.

CEM: Nope on all three...never would. 

Prefectdt: I have tried blindfolds and gags whilst on the receiving end. Always at the request of the person handing out the whups, not asked for by me. A blindfold and someone who knows how to direct the mind play are a combination that has often added positively to my experience. Gags, on the other hand, especially ball gags, have been for the benefit of the spanker, I just don't mind them. I am happy to be gagged, in the spirit of compromise, but it is more for the benefit of the other party in the interaction. Ear plugs and headphones do not appeal to me, at all, and I would take some convincing to try them out.

Bonnie: Sensory restriction can be either good or bad, depending upon the context. In a playful scene, blindfold spanking games, like guess the implement, can be fun. I have a problem with noise cancelling headphones because they can make a scene too intense for me. Likewise, I don’t like any gag that restricts my breathing. That’s a hard limit.

But if he wants to tie me up or tie me down, I’m all in for that spanking.

Red: Interesting ideas, but we have not ever tried any of these. The idea of guess the implement when blindfolded would possibly add another element of fun to the activity. Not hearing the stroke, and not knowing when it would happen, could be very intense. Another reason to buy noise cancelling headphones for travel on airplanes. 

Hermione: We have used restraints in the past, but after reading Gerald's Game, I'm not too eager for them. I wouldn't mind being blindfolded, but a ball gag is too creepy, even in photos. Headphones might be a possibility if I bought wireless ones.

      

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #656

Welcome one and all to another weekend spanko brunch. We all live in different countries around the world, so we can't meet in the same physical location to eat and chat, but we can still have fun together here on this blog. No travel required!

For my husband and me, spanking involves many of our senses. Besides the feel of the paddle - either in his hand or on my bottom - there is the sight of him standing there, ready for action. Then there are sounds, lots of them: my squeals, his laughter, the swish and crack of the implement. The scent of a leather paddle or belt is always a turn-on for me. I wouldn't want to be deprived of the whole experience. But what about you?

What do you think about using blindfolds, gags, earplugs or headphones during a spanking? Do these restrictions enhance the experience or take away from it?

Leave your response as a comment, and once everyone has spoken I will publish a summary of our discussion.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for August 9

What do you do if your spanking partner is away?

Bonnie: We’ve been fortunate to not have that problem, at least not for an extended time. Even when Randy was sick, he could still swing a light implement.

Robert: Recently, my wife was away for a "Girl's Weekend," including the day I usually receive my maintenance spanking. She isn't interested in me spanking myself, but she did have some "maintenance" tasks to remind me she's in charge even when away.
For example, I have one pair of nylon panties that are two sizes too small, usually worn on days when I'm to be spanked later. However, in this case, the first full day she was away, I was to wear those panties...uncomfortable all day, but a nice remind.
Other days, I was assigned corner time. It's odd standing in the house all by myself, pants and panties at my ankles for ten minutes, but it's what you do when your wife tells you to do so.
She made up for lost time when she got home and I went to bed with a VERY red bottom.

Wendel: Luckily the Misses has a job that is fully remote. If I leave for a project she will tag along. If I am only going only for a day or two and she does not join I will paddle or whip her bottom good so she has something to remember me by. 

When the Misses goes on a girls' night out excursion she is usually back the follow evening. Before leaving the Misses will give me a rather sound paddling to ensure I behave while she is away.

CEM: I just put everything for the future into the...spank bank. 😁
Sorry, couldn't resist. 😬

Roz: We have had occasions back in the day where we have been apart for a period of time. Regular communication which includes phrases like "you will" or "I want you to" help alongside regular checking in. In regards to spanking alternatives, things like chores, corner time (bleah lol), set bedtime. Of course these can be used whether together or apart.

Ronnie: P hasn’t been away for a long period so not had that problem. 

Rosco: We’re in the midst of a bit of a drought right now. Neither of us is away, but there are numerous distractions and anomalies in our schedules.

When Irene was away and I was missing the attention, I got into bed, pulled a pair of her panties over my face and listened to a Missjenndavis podcast as I drifted off into a nap.

Irene will be eager to reengage when we have an opportunity but that might not be for another 10 days - unless we find time this afternoon. Absence does my the heart grow fonder!

Red: Fortunately, we have almost never had extended periods apart from each other. More than 50 years of seeing each other almost every day. No wonder I need to be spanked at times. 

Prefectdt: My partner is never here, because I do not have one. However, there are often times when I cannot get spanked. During these times, self spanking, with various implements, does help me keep my rear end in condition, but is not at all satisfying. There is an EMS/TENS unit that I have found can give me a half hour electronic spanking, and that helps to keep me in mental balance.   

Hermione: Like others, we are together every day, and neither of us is away overnight, so there is no need to go without spankings.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #655

Welcome to our weekly spanko brunch. Today's topic was inspired by a message from a regular reader. Their question is one that many of us have struggled with from time to time, and they would like some suggestions from you on how to handle it.

How do you cope when your partner is away for extended periods? What substitutes for spanking do you use? How do you keep up domestic discipline, if that is part of your lifestyle?

Leave your reply as a comment and I will publish your suggestions once everyone has had a chance to contribute.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine