Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for June 26

How soon after a spanking do you feel the need for another one?

Bonnie: I'd prefer not to invoke my usual answer, but in this instance, I must: It depends. It depends upon Randy's plans, how complete and satisfying the previous spanking was, our energy levels, what else is going on in our lives, and the phase of moon. Not a definitive response, but it's true.

Jean Marie: First of all, in your greeting, you said you hoped that we were "staying out of mischief." What fun is that? Of course I'm not! How's a girl supposed to get her bottom spanked that way? How ludicrous of you, my friend!
As to this week's topic, I relate heavily to what Bonnie stated; so many factors come into play. Chief among them is time; if we're free, I'm getting spanked, which leads (like night following the day) to sex.
I was about to add to my answer by saying it depends on how damaged my backside was from the previous session, but this isn't true, upon reflection. I tend to err toward being insatiable when it comes to spanking and sex.
Another great, thought-provoking question! Thanks for hosting, Hermione!

Roz: Great question Hermione. It depends on a number of factors as the others have said. What else is going on in our lives, energy levels, time, what the last spanking was like etc. Also the nature of the previous spanking. If it was a lighter, play spanking for example, I am more likely to want a repeat sooner than a harder spanking.

Graham: I'll give both a practical answer and a fantasy answer. As a practical matter, it's usually weeks between spankings. On a fantasy level, I'm often ready in a day or two...and sometimes I'm lucky! 

Fred Bloggs: It depends, but mostly quite soon. Spanking is addictive.

Ronnie: Straight away:) It depends on P and what we have going on and what the last spanking was like but I always hope I get spanked again very soon after.

Anon 1: By the next day, I am usually craving another spanking.

A.J.: "...how long is it before you want another spanking?"

Actually, 3-4 months. There are times I CRAVE it, get it, and that seems to hold me for a while.

On the other (spanking) hand, if you had asked:

"...how long is it before you want to give her another spanking?"

That would get a completely different response! It would be days, or a week or two.

Prefectdt: It depends on the severity of the spanking that I have just received. For a very light spanking, it could be as little as 5 minutes. But these days I know that I am not going to get spanked that often, so I try to get a proper whupping, when I can and so it would be about a week before the deep muscle trauma and other effects have worn off before I would be fit for another spanking. Then I want a spanking, but usually have to wait much more than a week until I get my next bottom warming.

Wendy: TBH, I always *want* a spanking. I guess I would want to be spanked as soon as the effects of the previous one wore off. 

Rosco: 4-5 days usually. Mostly it’s once a week and a powerful wonderful experience followed by pussy licking and intercourse.

Sadly, Irene, is recovering from “minor” surgery and it’s been almost 2 months. I’ve been getting a few lectures but it’s not quite the same.

Anon 2: After my wife spanks me, I am always ready in a few days for the next one.

Hermione: I wouldn't want one right away. I prefer to have an interval of several days, in order to allow the anticipation and dread to build. Looking forward to a spanking is part of the total experience.

Enjoy your week, and feel free to drop by any time.

Glory to Ukraine

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #441

Welcome, everyone. I hope you are all keeping well and staying out of mischief. Are you ready for today's discussion topic, submitted by one of my regular readers?

After you play how long is it before you want another spanking? 

Please leave your response as a comment, and I will publish an edited summary of our discussion on Monday.

Glory to Ukraine

Spam? Are You Sure?

Last week I received three emails from Google. Each one warned me that a Blogger post had been unpublished because I had violated the Google terms of service. Specifically, the posts were spam. Now, the offending posts weren't in this blog. They were published on a very old test blog that I had created 10 years ago in order to experiment with the then-new dynamic template. The three ancient posts were:

test post april 15 #1

test post april 25 #1

test

Each of them contained only one word: "test".

How was that spam? How did these offensive posts fly under the radar for so long, only to be unearthed at last by an industrious bot?

The funny thing is, on the same day as those posts, I published these subsequent posts.

test post april 15 #2 with content "retest"

test post april 15 #3 with content "test again"

test post april 25 #2 with content "test 2"

test post april 25 #3 with content "test 3"

Obviously the bot was offended by the word "test" appearing by itself. Or did the bot think it had done enough work for one day and knocked off early?

By the way, I have the opportunity to appeal these unfair decisions and ask for a human to review my case and reconsider, but I think I'll leave it for now.

Glory to Ukraine

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for June 19

How do you feel about public displays of attention to your buttocks?

Jack: My wife does, sometimes to remind me of the spanking I just got and still feel, other times a way of showing who runs the household (she said women know ). One winter day at the mall, my wife reached under my coat, put her hand inside my pants and we walked as her hand rested on my bare bottom. It was a cold day and I still had a very warm bottom from the spanking I got prior to going to the mall. 

Mark: Mine doesn't. I would like it if she did though.

SPM: I pat my wife's butt in public but she does not touch mine. I wish she would.

Bonnie: My reaction depends upon the setting. If we're alone or mostly alone, I'm fine with it. If we're in a more populated place, I'm less fond, but generally not inclined to make an issue. If we are with friends, I feel obligated to display faux indigence.

Wendel: We do but in a private setting. It is not for others to see. 

Anon: My partner, when we are with friends and/or family, will give me a light pat on my butt whenever I do something she does not like me to whilst saying: no problem darling, I will deal with you later and everybody knows what that means….

Roz: Yes, on occasion Rick might quickly pat my butt while out in public. It's usually subtle and probably looks more like we are just fooling around.

Mary: My wife pats my butt whenever she feels like it. Not often but whenever she wants to. If we are alone, I will turn around and give her a kiss. In public, I pretend it did not happen but I know my face turns red.

Ronnie: Yes P will often give me a quick swat while out in public and I do enjoy it. Never does it if we are in the company of friends.

Rosco: Irene and I are affectionate but discreet.

There was one time, however, when she deviated. We were in a large shared kitchen at a vacation place cooking with several friends. Irene came up behind me and whacked my bottom several times with some sort of a wooden paddle she found. I was pretty surprised, and it smarted plenty.

I don’t know if others noticed. There have been a few occasions when our lifestyle may have been “outed”. My sister-in-law found a riding crop when she spent the night and smirked a bit. And one of Irene’s friends and a neighbor commented about how noisy we are sometimes. So people may know.

Bernie: I get the very occasional, in-public pat on the ass from my wife. It doesn't bother me anymore. I've noticed younger people smile. Maybe they thought the old people are cute.

A.J.: "Does your partner ever give you public displays of affection such as pats, pinches or spanks on the bottom?"

Give HER pats on her tush? Yes. Affectionately. Subtly.
Give her pinches or spanks? No!

Her give ME pats? Damn rare. More like the back of the hand tap with, "OK. Time to go!"
Her give ME pinches or spanks? No!

Maybe it goes back to never even touching a woman without her OK. And that would be rare.

(I had to take dancing lessons, social etiquette, etc. starting in the 4th grade - with every one of my M/F classmates. A class with maybe 60-100 9 and 10-year olds. First up - manners. And the boys were told to never touch a girl, even to shake her hand. It was OK to shake her hand - if SHE offered hers. She had to make the first move and only if she did that was it socially acceptable. To this day I am still reluctant of offer my hand to a woman. Pat her tush???? Are you kidding????)

Wendy: No PDA, of any kind, for us. I do think it would be a bit thrilling if he touched my butt when people were around, but not looking. But we reserve that sort of thing for truly private moment.

Barrel: I get pats and pinches. Never any spanks in public. I enjoy them, knowing they are an intimate connection between us. Could it be more, maybe, but not with close friends close by.

Hermione: It would never happen, although I really wouldn't mind if it did. Ron isn't one for displays of affection in public. Even hand-holding is out of bounds for him.

That's all, folks!

Glory to Ukraine

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #440

It's the weekend, and that means it's time for our weekly discussion.

Does your partner ever give you public displays of affection such as pats, pinches or spanks on the bottom? If so, is it something you invite and enjoy, or do you cringe?

Please leave a comment with your response. Once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish an edited summary of our discussion.

Glory to Ukraine

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for June 12

Do Millennials have a different perspective on spanking than people from the previous generation?

Jean Marie: Wow, great question, one that I've never thought about before!
I recall Eve Howard discussing in her newsletter the younger models in her company's spanking tapes, how this one was "one of us" (as in being a true spanko) as opposed to that model who was just "a thrill-seeker." I never put two and two together correctly to see that this related to their age and their upbringing.
So now I'm wondering if there is a new fetish centered on being put in time out. LOL. If there is, all I can say is that they're missing out!

Alan: I don't know and will be interested to read what others say. Overall it does seem there is a lot of interest in spanking these days or at least talking about it. Your question really goes to the issue of how influential childhood spanking is on our interest as adults. MY guess is that spanking interest is a lot more complicated than just being spanked as a kid or not. But hope to hear others views.

Anon 1: I am inclined to agree with Alan. I am now of retirement age and have had this interest all my life - but never experienced or had any significant exposure to parental spankings. So I think the urge has much more psychological roots.

Rosco: I don’t know, but Millennials have had far more and easier access to all kinds of sexual material through the internet. I remember the days of sneaking into adult bookstores hoping no one would see me then also worrying about what the clerk thought.

I wasn’t spanked as a kid, and the ones I remember being around were mostly pretty violent and scary (including an uncle who could get drunk and belligerent).

So I have no idea where my interest came from, but the roots were before 5 years of age.

Fred Bloggs: I am in my late 60s. For many years just after puberty when my sexual thoughts were all about spanking I thought I was the only one thinking that way. It was well into the 1970s, maybe the early 1980s that I discovered the "scene" and finally realized that I was not alone. To have had a searh engine and been able to type 'spanking' would have been marvellous.

Roz: Interesting question, and one I haven't thought about before. I wasn't spanked as a kid either but have been interested in spanking from a young age. Perhaps it may hold even more appeal to those who weren't spanked? I don't know.

Millennials do have a greater access to content. I think they may well have a different view on the topic than us older folk, such as its acceptability, even among consenting adults etc, mainly due to the influence of societal 'norms' nowdays.

Bonnie: My thought when I conceived this question was that Boomers were flooded with spanking images, stories, and scenes in the media throughout our early years. These were the foundation upon which countless fantasies were constructed. By the time Millennials came along, most spanking references had been scrubbed from mainstream television, films, and books. Those few that remained were aimed at adults and played for humor. One might conclude that this younger group starts from a very different frame of reference.

As I think more about the differences, I consider Rosco's point about the internet to be central to this discussion. Some Boomers sexualized the spanking content they encountered, but probably not immediately. Millennials, if they encountered spanking content on the internet, it was likely already sexualized, thus cementing this relationship from the beginning.

It seems that there are still plenty of young spankos finding their way. We should welcome them into our community and offer to share what we can.

Brett: Growing up with the reality of spanking as punishment, the actual experience of or threat of, is clearly a different perspective than not living it. Unless you've felt the fear, anxiety, helplessness, shame, embarrassment and possible other emotions, then it's a fantasy perspective. But those emotions, and the elements of power, dominance and submission, justice, nurturing authority, vulnerability, humiliation, erotic sensation, the butt, are attractive to some human beings regardless of their background. The Internet has just opened the gates to knowledge, acceptability and community. I grew up clueless and feeling like something was wrong with me. Today, young people can type 'spanking' into a search engine and identify their thoughts and feelings as a widely shared kink.

Prefectdt: My main source of how different experiences of spanking, in the media and fictional sources, between my generation and millennials, comes from following the Vlog of Jillian Keenan. From which I get the impression that the lack of spanking related content in earlier life of millennials is more than compensated for by the overload of spanking material, that is available to them on the internet, once they pluck up the "courage" to put the word SPANKING into a search engine. This was not available to many of us, once we hit 18. From this, I conclude that they are a lot more confident about starting to play for real than the older generations.

Jack: This generation from what I've read doesn't want to be like their parents. They don't want to commit to a full-time job, driving a car is not on the top of their list. The question is the best so far, and so tend to lean that they will not have this spanking desire and in time it will be a thing of the past. 

Barrel: Good question. My bad answer is I really don’t know because I have a hard time understanding what Millennials think. They are so different from my Boomer generation. I do think they have been influenced by more sex and violence on TV and in movies way more than I was. Through weekly participation by our regulars at brunch, we seem to be more Boomers. But I really liked Bonnie's conclusion that we should welcome Millennials, and for that matter, all generations as we can all learn from each other in this safe and consensual exchange.

Dan: I don't have an answer on spanking as a whole, but I do think there are generational differences when it comes to F/m spankings and with the related "Female Led Relationship" kink. I have a younger friend who is a "top" in an FLR relationship. She's told me she feels like several of her female friends are "in charge" in their marriages and serious relationships, though to what extent they are in some kind of formalized power exchange varies. I think for the Boomers and probably Gen X (I'm officially Gen X, though just barely), traditional gender roles were much less flexible than is the case for Millennials and younger generations. I suspect that females in those younger generations are more likely to be comfortable being the "top" in their relationships, including when it comes to spanking and corporal punishment.

Wendel: The Misses is a Millennial and got enough exposure to enjoy me spanking her. That is all I need to know.

Hermione: I really have no idea of their perspective, but spanking still seems to be very popular. I believe the interest is timeless.

Thank you all for your opinions on this thought-provoking question.

Glory to Ukraine