Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for July 21

What emotional traits are important in a spanker?

Mark: Any spanker is a great spanker! I like strict when being punished. Like being lectured etc. However but being mocked or teased is also fun. Wanting to be spanked is a bit odd to many people and my wife certainly has no desire to be on the receiving end... as such she can very effectively mock. It feels loving and I do like it.

Roz: Great question. For me it depends on the situation and set up. Whether the spanking is punishment, to reinforce roles or play. For me the demeanour needs to suit the situation.

Strict and lighthearted and light teasing works depending on the situation. Humiliation does not work for me.

FL: I'm all about maternal discipline, so a strict, no-nonsense approach is my ideal, with plenty of scolding. Post-spanking, I like being comforted and cuddled and knowing I'm loved and forgiven (until next time).

I don't care for humiliation or ridicule. 

Jack: My wife/mommy is nothing but strict. She will not be anything else and does not matter if someone or others are present.

KDPierre: As stated here before, I see "spanking" as a multi-faceted activity with many different flavors, motives, goals, and feelings at different times. So, 'yes' to all of it...but not at the same time. 'Strict' is great for our DD aspect. It helps for Rosa to be serious and consistent. A bit playful and mischievous is also great for the more playful times.

But the teasing/humiliation aspect is complicated for me. Having my situation pointed out in a teasing way can be deliciously embarrassing. Being scolded in front of others or having an impending or past punishment told to others is embarrassing in a different way, but I feel a necessary part of the disciplinary package and still something I appreciate...if not in the moment then after. Teased about how sore I'm going to be, or how sore I am, is also OK. BUT, if it was something like: "You are so immature and worthless that you can't even function like an adult and I have to treat and spank you like a child." said in a derisive, condescending tone, I would be very hurt, and feel angry and upset, and probably end up in a nasty argument. Thankfully, the last example is something that doesn't happen here. 

Rosco: Thanks for posting this question.

While I crave, relish and savor the sensation of a good spanking, it’s not the same without the role play. (Irene and I aren’t serious about it - if she were truly angry, the last thing she’d want to do is spank me.)

Often, Irene crafts a scenario as she goes along based on stories I’ve told her about growing up ogling girls, trying to get furtive glimpses of panties and generally being too shy to talk to them. In these stories, I’m still Rosco, but she plays many parts both older women (neighbors, teachers et al) and girls my age or thereabouts.

The older women will be strict, no nonsense types. If I’m in a mood to have Irene dial up the intensity, I will resist, claim I didn’t do anything wrong. She does enjoy playing the bossy, bitchy martinet and giving me a good thrashing (I like to make it hurt, she has confided).

Often, she’ll leave me tied up after a spanking and encourage the girls to come find me. Irene will change clothes and play other roles, this time mocking, teasing and giggling as she spanks me again - telling me how embarrassed I should be, that she’s going to take pictures and show all her friends. I’ll be serving as her pussy boy going forward.

(We’ve never engaged in the small penis or sexual inadequacy teasing that is prevalent in some corners of the internet and real life I assume.)

On the whole I really appreciate it when the girls laugh as they spank me. Go figure.

Graham: So much variety! Strict and scolding for "punishment" spankings. Otherwise, fun spankings have lots of scenarios. But neither of us is into any real humiliation. 

Bonnie: What I prefer is typically a secondary consideration. My role is to accept what he delivers, and I do. If he's headed my way at a high rate of speed and holding a wooden hairbrush, I know this will be punishment. If he gives my bottom a quick pop with his hand while we are kissing, He has other things in mind. These variations or anything in between are usually fine, if not always what I expect.

Prefectdt: I like a spanker who knows how they like to do it and concentrate on doing that way, the best that they can. Variety is the spice of life, and experiencing different styles of coercion and control only adds to the fun.

A.J.: "...a spanker who is strict? Who mocks, embarrasses, laughs or teases? Or is their emotion not important?"

I'm with Roscoe's 1st and last paragraphs. I only (give or get) for sexual reasons. All the spankings in which I participate in lead to "ROMANCE!" (Yes; I'm being polite.) And I never do punishment.

Strict? As role play, OK.
Mocks? For real? No.
Embarrasses? Me/her? No.
Laughs? At the situation? Enjoying the moment? Yes! Deprecating laughter - no.
Teases? Sure!

Emotion? It's all emotion. If there is no emotion it is cold and heartless.
To me.

Hermione: I love strictness, but laughter has its place too. It all depends on the situation. But a big NO to any form of humiliation, which Ron would never do.

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