Hermione's Heart: Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for May 24

Monday, May 25, 2026

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for May 24

What can you tell us about self-spanking? This proved to be a popular topic and we have several new friends who joined us this week.

MrBill: I self spank, flagellate, etc. frequently. I just don't get enough from my wife despite my requests and encouragement over the years. I don't masturbate anymore, but when she is away I whip, flog, cane myself. Sometimes bent over on the butt, sometimes inner thighs. Usually with implements including leather strap, belt, flogger, crop, cane, wooden paddle.

Rosco: Yes. For me it was underwhelming. I tried a riding crop. Yes I was by myself.

Any spanking without a lecture is unfulfilling.

Obviously we’re all different.

Bonnie: Yes, at Randy’s direction, but it wasn’t as satisfying as the real thing. I recall making the comment, “Do I have to do everything?”

Roz: I have tried it on the odd occasion when I've been alone. Definitely not as fulfilling as the real thing for me either.

TTWD: I tried a couple of times long ago, but definitely unsatisfying! I need to be spanked, not self spanked.

Wendel: Spanking for us is all about fun and intimacy. Without someone to be part of the experience a spanking is not satisfying.
We put a couple of spins on it by self-spanking when the other was present. For the first we each took turns while the other stood outside the bedroom listening. The second was self-spanking while the other was in the room. I did enjoy watching her whack her bottom and being critiqued by the Misses was a turn on. If a good enough job was not done then a proper spanking followed which happened to be every time.

Ronnie: Only to tease P.

Prefectdt: Yes I have self-spanked a lot, although I do not get much joy out of it. There can be a long break between spankings and self-spanking helps to keep my butt in order and helps me to keep a decent pain tolerance; it is not done for fun.

I have used plenty of things to self-spank, but the best seems to be a 2 foot (60 cm), peeled, German style rattan cane. By learning to use a flick of the wrist, rather than an arm swing, you can get a respectably stinging stroke. Also, it is not too noisy, so the radio does not need turning up too loud. Usually I am leaning forward over my dining table, supporting myself with my left hand, when this happens.

For a mentally satisfying self-spank, a medical EMS/TENS unit is often attached to my buttocks and set on a half hour pre-program, with the strength of pulse set way too high for normal medical use. This is not as good as a real spanking, but it does help me keep in mental trim, when real spankings are thin on the ground. I can just lie on my front on the bed and mentally absorb the pain, without having to do something myself, as the procedure is endured.

A.J.: Have you ever tried self-spanking?
Yes. And it appears - I'm not the only one!

If so, under what circumstances?
I was bored, felt like I needed it, and no spank buddy was handy.

Were you alone or with another person?
WHAT?? No! More proof I'm the impressionable virgin in this group.

Did you use an implement?
Hand. When that proved to be Meh..., my belt.

What position did you find most effective?
In bed and 'perched' over a BIG stack of pillows to get the more-perfect angle for the job.

Reading the comments it appears the answer is "Yes," but it is unfulfilling.

I got a smile from Wendel's comments. I wish I told my spanking GF that, before I took her OTK, that she go into her bedroom alone, go over a stack of pillows, and spank her bare bottom to warm her tush up before the OTK fun. And adding, "Leave the door open! Make sure I hear it!"

I need to get out more.