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Tell us about your experience with canes.
Bonnie: The cane is not a standard punishment implement here in the US so I didn’t encounter it for many years. After watching Eastern European caning videos where terrified young women were beaten bloody, it became a non-negotiable limit. Online friends later convinced me that the cane could be more than a brutal torture tool.
Eventually, we ordered a short, light cane as an experiment. It offered a different feel than the paddles we used. Randy liked to combine them.
Several years ago, we bought a real punishment cane. I can attest it lives up to its name. The big cane now hangs in the basement next to our spanking bench. It serves as a special occasion implement, but we like our special occasions. 🍑
CEM: For me, canes are like paddles, wood implements where the size matters. A thin cane is not the same as a much thicker one. A thin one can be sort of "switch like" and I've seen larger ones that are like a log. Same with wood paddles. Some are like a small hairbrush, others are like oars. So that is a huge factor. And then of course the amount of forced applied behind it. So I have used them on some bare bottoms, but only smaller/thinner ones, and with less force than say a leather paddle or a strap, etc. Common sense and caution is of paramount importance. Sound punishment/discipline should never equal brutality.
Rosco: I think of the cane as a limited number of harsh strokes methodically applied. The notion does intrigue me, albeit with trepidation.
Irene, however, likes to go with the flow so to speak. She doesn’t like to plan my discipline ahead of time, to count strokes, or to choose implements.
It would also be hard to get the intensity right. It’s great to really feel it and have my limits tested, but i also need to avoid bruising for medical reasons.
So no cane for us.
Red: I bought two canes from Aunt Kay of the DWC a longtime ago. The whippy one was too intense and wrapped on my side so threw it away. (I now wish we still had it, and used it properly.) The thick one did nothing. I have since bought some canes from Ronnie, and they are okay. Cindy does not use a cane with force, so pretty ineffectual most of the time. Occasionally, she will practise on a pillow getting the swing to strike much harder. That caning is effective. We do not do blood, or bruising, and Cindy prefers the bath brush and the short tawse.
Barrel: Like Red, I also bought two canes from Aunt Kay, along with a VHS tape and pamphlet on domestic discipline. Regrettably the tape and paper are gone but the canes are still in use. I am caned once a month, but the intensity varies from medium strength to heavy during a session. After some errant wraparound strokes, my wife practised on a pillow and now is quite confident in wielding very accurate lashes. She delivers sets of 6 which allows her to talk to me in between and inspect the welts and weals, before planning the next round.
We have a lot of implements, but I find both canes the most intense and effective. While these thrashings leave me marked, I seem to crave another session within two to three weeks.
A.J.: ZERO interest in canes/caning! Never wanted to wield one, or be on the receiving end (which I did ONCE, with a pro, 2 strokes, no more) of one.
I'm with Bonnie re: "European caning videos where terrified young women were beaten bloody." The key word in that sentence is "beaten." Canes deliver a beating. I don't do beatings. And I hate welts and marks on the cute bottoms I love.
And implied in those European/Russian caning videos is "ritual." With caning there is always some form of ritual before and during; The high holy ritual that leads up to the beating. The calculated ritual and counting during. Not interested in that at all.
Maybe I'm just boring.
Loki_Darksong:
How do you feel about canes?
I like them. I have had a fascination with them since childhood when I watched a scene in the 70’s The Adventures of Tom Sawyer that featured one in use.
I consider the cane as an implement that is underestimated due to its appearance but lives up to a fearsome reputation when in action.
Have you ever caned someone or been caned yourself?
Yes to both questions.
When I had attended a monthly BDSM event here in Philly, there was a young lady who was my play partner who enjoyed being caned by me as a big part of our evening to which she would always enjoy the sore feeling afterwards for days!
Additionally I have been caned on numerous occasions when I bottomed at play parties as well as from time to time when I play with my wife.
Of course the most memorable time was the first time I was caned for my 21st birthday while at Paddles in New York.
Do you own a cane? If so, is it regularly in use? If not, would you consider trying one?
I own seven, with the last one purchased being The American Horror Story: Asylum Cane. I plan to purchase another cane at some point in the future. Unfortunately they are not regularly used due to various reasons. My work schedule notwithstanding. Hopefully that will change.
Are there certain situations in which you think a cane is appropriate?
I suppose that depends on the situation and the people involved. For example if you're within a relationship that punishments are responded to on a sliding scale, then the use of a cane could be used in response of a very serious situation.
Graham: Avoided them for years. Once a nice lady introduced me to them, they became a regular part of my routine. Used properly, they are no worry.
Hermione: I don't even want to think about seeing any of those Eastern European caning videos. A Bonnie said, the cane is not a popular implement here, so I never had a fascination for it. We bought a short one to try, and it feels like being hit with a wooden dowel. No desire to try a longer, whippy one, thank you very much.
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Have your spankings ever included an equestrian theme?
Bonnie: We own a crop and he uses it periodically. But we have not ridden horses in many years.
Barrel: Our first spanking implement was a short riding crop that I bought at an equestrian store. I remember when I bought it wondering how many crops purchased there were not intended for horses. Moreover, I was a bit embarrassed when paying for it knowing it was to be used on me! Later in TTWD, I bought a longer, black crop. It has been used extensively to the point that the leather tip is fraying. Still stings like crazy and brings back great memories.
Rosco: Absolutely - much to say
Early on, before internet shopping, i summoned the courage to go to a local Western Wear store to get a riding crop. I tried to be so casual but it seemed obvious i wasn't a rider. I had a half baked story prepared. A buxom young salesgirl suggested a certain crop, very briefly threatening to demonstrate (trigger the fantasy here) then laughed it off (sadly her boss was nearby).
Also for a time Irene and I had access to a tack room full of the aroma of oiled saddles and other gear, and with a rack of crops on the end wall. The gear was no longer used but cared for as though the lady of the manor might come by anytime. Irene would don one of the hats as she whipped me soundly in that room many times. It was delicious. We were never caught, but there was always some apprehension that we might be.
We've had riding crops pretty much ever since.
The stable boy and the riding girl is one of our role play scenarios. I get in trouble if I do a poor job of cleaning and polishing Irene’s boots. I get in trouble if I’m caught peeking when shes changing. I get in trouble if I get caught smelling her clothing or the saddle after she's been riding. The class distinction is part of the fun. Irene adopts some pretty haughty accents - southern or British for these scenes.
One upside of the riding crop is it can be used to spank with precision - the thighs, the testicles (I never would have thought that to be stimulating but go figure).
Roz: We haven't used any implements with an equestrian theme. The closest was a crop, but it was a toy rather than an actual riding crop.
Wendel: We have never tried any related to equestrian. Thought about the riding crop once or twice but never bought one.
CEM: Riding crops, yes. Spurs? Seem a tad harsh.
Ronnie: Those who have been reading my blog over the years know I have a kink for equestrian things, even though I'm not a rider..
I have jodhpurs which I've been spanked in many times and also have a genuine riding crop which we ordered on line. I would have liked to have bought a saddle:)
Jack: The first thing that came to mind was riding a horse afterwards, not the choice of the one spanked, but the one who gave the spanking. Talk about riding high in the saddle.
A.J.: No. No equestrian themes or gear. (Yes; I’m boring. I need to get out more.)
But I have noticed that theme before. The “discipline” of girls/women in riding outfit, has some legs. I’m guessing the form-fitting pants has a lot to do with that. (Note: I can’t recall boys/men in that attire being spanked/whipped. Odd, no?)
And therein lies a brunch question for you, Hermione!
Prefectdt: I have been cropped, with real riding crops, many times. Batters have also frequently visited my flesh. Recently, a special BDSM crop (with a flexible shaft) was obtained, but it has yet to see two person action. Other than that, no real horsey stuff has happened to me. I have always wanted to be on the receiving end of a long training whip, so that is something to look out for in the future.
Graham: No horse fantasy but we do use a riding crop at times. Most often she uses it to control my pace while I'm going down on her after my spanking. My purchase experience was the same as Rosco's -- an almost fantasy come true!
Tom: I never even tried the crop, but I can share that saddles do seem to be a thing; one of the ladies at the second SCONY party I went to was tickled to share that she brought her saddle for people to get spanked over. I did not get a chance to try it out.
Red: We had a riding crop, but found it not very effective. No other equestrian fantasies.
Luvinhub: A riding crop was probably our first purposeful purchase from a farm supply store, whereas before it was a ping pong paddle or something else we already had. We went away for a weekend where she put that riding crop to use in an equestrian way. She had a collar on me with a leash. She held the leash and had me prancing in a circle, swatting my ass, telling me to get my knees up. We never did that again, though.
Hermione: We have a riding crop, dogging bat and dressage whip, all used in regular rotation. The long training whip (lunging whip) that Prefectdt mentioned would be far too unwieldy to be effective. Sadly, I gave my saddle away, never thinking it would be useful in a spanking scene.
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How do your pets react to spanking?
Bonnie: We’ve had a number of kitties over the years. We usually lock them out when we’re up in the bedroom. In other parts of the house, that’s less feasible. They don’t usually get involved with the action, but they are curious and crave attention. In those cases, we either find another room for them or move ourselves.
Roz: We too had cats back in the day. Occasionally they would want attention but most of the time they ran off pretty quickly when the action started lol.
A.J.: Define "join in."
Ronnie: We used to have a German Shepherd which we had to lock her in another room or she would be jumping around and trying to get in between us.
Dan: We have dogs. We kick them out of our bedroom during spankings. They don't seem to pay much attention, though I'm sure they can hear my verbal reactions through the door. One of them has a habit of acting as "playground monitor" at the dog park, trying to break up dogs that he thinks are being too rambunctious or aggressive. If he could get to us during a spanking, I wouldn't be surprised if he tried to break it up.
KDPierre: Neither my fish nor my snakes have ever tried to intervene or even make any noise over it. ;-)
Prefectdt: There is no pet in the house now, but there used to be a wonderful Lurcher. He was never there when I was getting spanked by someone else, but he was always there when I self spanked. Which he did not allow to disturb his naps (only someone who has owned a Lurcher will know how important constant napping is to them). If I returned from a spanking adventure, with a bag of toys, he was very curious about the toys. I suppose because he could smell the spanker on them.
Wendel: No pets. So we can spank away in any room at any time.
Red: No pets, thus spanking anywhere any time in the house.
Rosco: Funny you should ask.
We’ve had numerous dogs without a problem. But we’ve recently been dog sitting for a friend, and the critter comes to the door and barks. I found it annoying and distracting. Irene didn’t mind so much. Not sure what to do next time.
Robert: No pets currently, but several years ago, when I was spanking a new girlfriend, her dog was quite upset that I was doing so. We had to put the dog out and that dog never really liked me!
In the more common situation, our cat has absolutely no interest or concern when my wife spanks me. If she's sleeping on the nearby couch when the paddling starts, she'll sometimes get up and go to another room and get back to sleep...I guess the paddling woke her up!
Hermione: Our budgies don't seem to mind at all. The dogs are put into their crates with treats in another room and the television is turned on for them. They were unhappy at being apart from us at first but now they know the drill and are content to chew their Kongs.
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Bonnie: Thank you for digging up this favorite topic. It remains an unresolved question for us. I think we recognized together that we are both spankos.
Wendel: I do not remember who brought it up first. Most likely it was me.
Dan: I break the context out into two separate happenings, though the answer to who first brought it up is the same in both cases. The first time, I brought up spanking after seeing a segment on adult spanking on the old HBO series Real Sex. I don't remember a lot about the context, other than I saw that segment, was at least mildly turned on by it, and probably showed it to my wife. Her reaction was relatively positive, and for a short period we did some "funishment" role play. However, she soon became concerned that she was giving me fake punishments, basically as sexual foreplay, for real misbehavior, and that it might just be reinforcing the bad behavior. So, we stopped.
The second time was a few months later, after I discovered The Disciplinary Wives Club website and, through it, the concept of Domestic Discipline. Until than, I really had no clue that adult corporal punishment was "a thing". Unlike the Real Sex segment, which was focused on erotic spanking, something about disciplinary spankings touched something in my core. I told my wife about it, emphasizing that unlike our prior experimentation, this would entail *real* spankings, i.e. severe enough that I would experience them as real punishment and something to be avoided. She reacted positively, and 20+ years later, we're still doing it.
CEM: All of my relationships of this nature started via Internet sites where that topic, or at least fetish in general, was the subject matter so it's not like someone was "caught" off guard or surprised. It was mutually sought after.
Roz: For us it was mutual. We were having a conversation and somehow spanking just came up, I can't remember how. We talked about it and it was quickly clear it was something we were both interested in.
Luvinhub: I'm not really sure. I know we started that direction when one day my wife grabbed me by my balls and said we were going to have a talk and things were going to change. Eventually, from there we moved into a wife led marriage and then into DD.
Jack: Dating an older woman, in her 60's, I was in my 20's. I can't recall what I did but she said I should be given a spanking. I said at my age and laughed it off, but her look and tone of voice changed and I soon said, your kidding. She said she was not and I thought what the heck. I was soon standing before her pants and underpants around my ankles and told to get over her lap. She was not kidding, that spanking hurt, she used her hairbrush and it landed very hard and very fast. When she did stop, I layed across her lap, saying I was sorry. She then stood me up, leave the pants and underpants down and face the corner, NOW. I stood facing the corner for a long time.
Rosco: I raised it. I had a wildly successful experience at the tender age of 13, but had been rebuffed whenever I ventured into the subject for the next ten years and was pretty gun shy.
When Irene and I started dating, I knew pretty quickly she might be the one for me. She was pretty open minded so I got up the nerve to ask. She was surprised, but quickly told me if there was going to be any spanking she would be doing it and I would be on the receiving end.
It still took a little time for her to realize how serious I was, but now 46 years later she’s as into it as I am - maybe more.
Alan: In my marriage it was me that first brought it up. But in a previous long term DD relationship ,it was a former girlfriend who actually dove into it asserting that I had some self-destructive tendencies she could and did address with spanking. My impression is that it is typically the male who brings spanking up. But clearly there are exceptions to that. Also younger women, particularly GEN Z, are a lot savvier about kink in general and probably much more likely to introduce it into a relationship than earlier generations.
Prefectdt: Never had a long term relationship with someone else who is into TTWD. Raised the subject twice, in relationships with vanilla partners. It was not well received either time.
KDPierre: It has always been me who brought it up in several relationships over many years. It was received fairly well, BUT I had a pretty strong inkling that these ladies would be receptive before I ventured down the path, though I was never sure. So it took some nerve each time. But it was worth it.
Ronnie: P's I suppose. It started with playful swats, probably like it does with most couples. Then much later I read some throwaway paperback on holiday, I think a Jackie Collins, in which there was a brief account of a girl getting spanked and I told P about it, I remember him reading the extract and telling me so and saying it seemed to have done her some good. I think that was probably the first time P ever mentioned it, I mean the actual determined act of spanking, and told him I agreed and the rest is history.
Red: I was the one who requested that Cindy spank me, as a way of responding to my dominant nature! It took quite a bit of convincing, and finding the Disciplinary Wives Club site helped make it more real than just her and me. Other people actually did this, and it helped their marriage, and their sex life together. I thought spanking would be sexy, and it was and still is, although the spankings are quite real now. I have now been spanked by Cindy for more than 20 years, and it is still exciting, and solves lots of little problems, reduces my stress, and makes both of us happy. plus sex the next day is amazing!
For new readers, Bonnie and I were two of the first bloggers who wrote about being spanked and being happy that we are spanked, so many years ago. My blog was spankedhubby so many years ago.
Bottoms up
red (aka dwcmike)
Hermione: I had always longed for it, but it was Ron who first initiated it. He is a man of action, not words, so we never discussed it. He simply spanked me one evening during an erotic encounter. We were both amazed at our reactions to it, and we have never looked back.
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Happy belated Thanksgiving to all my Canadian readers. We do indeed have much to be thankful for.
What is the most recent implement to cross your spanking room's threshold?
Roz: The last implement we purchased was a leather paddle and that was some number of years ago now. It was spur of the moment and we purchased it together.
Bonnie: I had no idea so I asked Randy. He didn’t know either, but thought it might be a leather belt he bought for wearing. Of course it had to be tested in other ways.
Barrel: I last purchased an 18” long by 1/4” delrin cane from Cane-iac. It fits in my roller bag and thus made the trip to the UK this summer. While somewhat quieter than our other canes, it is quite effective, leaves marks and can be administered in intimate areas too.
CEM: Very much a traditionalist, so I stick with basic wood hairbrushes, small wood paddles, canes, a variety of leather straps, riding crops and paddles. For items purchased, I bought quality implements, for items self made, I made them well, so everything lasts for years and years. And when in season, fresh cut green willow switches.
Tom: Rather than an implement, you should ask what materials intended for a new implement I last purchased, and that would be some leather scraps, (from a cut up cushion), that I got at the co-op crafting store. I'm thinking about making a dragon's tail whip. Though why, I'm not sure, I'm old with no play-partner/spanker, so I guess it's just more stuff for the people who they hire to clean out this "senior-living apartment", to leer over after I'm gone.
Jack: My wife/mommy bought a bath brush with a larger head, and she had padding added to the handle. She bought two, one for home and one for travel.
Rosco: Maybe 6 months ago I bought Irene a wooden paddle that I found online. It beautifully crafted and causes quite the sting even when used in moderation - almost too harsh.
Irene has some arthritis in her hands so it’s best to have implements with a round handle. Even so it’s a little hard for her to swing the leather strap that she likes or the leather ping pong paddle hard enough.
I may try a putting a thin layer of leather on the new paddle to lessen its impact a tad.
A.J.: Nothing. Just the always ‘handy’ and ever-present hand. (God, I’m boring.)
Luckily for me when on the receiving end, my girlfriends also prefer the hand.
Both of us. Boring. Happily!
Prefectdt: It was in Spring, this year (April I think) I bought a riding crop, made specifically for BDSM purposes. It was only at the start of the year that I found out the difference between a real riding crop and a BDSM riding crop. The real ones have a stiff (often metal) shaft wrapped in leather. Whereas the BDSM riding crops have a flexible shaft, more forgiving of mis-hits. I have been cropped often, but always with a real crop that I would only like to see in the hands of the highly experienced. The BDSM crop should be easy, even for a beginner or less experienced player to use. I have not had chance to try it out yet. Something to look forward to :)
Dan: I recently bought an implement that was basically three short canes, bundled together with a leather handle. Sort of like a bundle of switches used for birching. I was still recovering from a tailbone injury, and I wanted something that might pack a serious sting while being flexible enough that injuring that area was unlikely.
Wendel: The Misses’s birthday gift to me was this thing called a weighted fire hose paddle. The sting and pain that follows is incredible although I wished I was not as old as I am. My backend hurt all evening and I slept on my stomach with no pants or covers. It is reserved solely for me when she feels a firm spanking is needed.
Loki_Darksong: The last implement I purchased it is a leather 10 hole Prison Strap out of Etsy a couple of years ago.
Unfortunately since the purchase I had not found the time to go to proper testing out. It has great potential but still got to find a time to explore that potential.
Graham: A small, round Lexan paddle with tapered holes. Stings a lot w/o doing much damage.
Hermione: Ron gave me a lovely little red strap that he found on Etsy for my birthday. It's beautiful, but doesn't do much besides make a noise. He was disappointed that his choice wasn't as effective as he had hoped, so the strap is merely a decorative addition to our toy rack.
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Thank you, Boru, for this great find.
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What does the spanker do that lets you now this spanking is going to be different?
Bonnie: Some Jazz musicians claim they never play a song exactly the same way twice. I think that concept applies to my dear husband Randy’s approach to spanking me.
We celebrated my birthday last week in the traditional fashion (for us). Except it wasn’t. I anticipated an enthusiastic celebratory OTK paddling with lots of banter, probably up in the bedroom. That would have been perfectly wonderful and totally appropriate for the occasion.
But no. I ended up down in our basement, cuffed to our spanking bench naked for a caning. Yeow! Fortunately, he didn’t go into full punishment mode, but I definitely felt every year. He had candles burning down there for illumination. I didn’t count them. He proceeded slowly and silently as might befit a more somber ceremony. I was intrigued by the change of pace, quite literally, and loved the excellent set of marks he gifted me.
I’m impressed he’s still coming up with new birthday spanking ideas after all these years. Ceaseless variety makes things interesting, exciting, and fun.
Having said all that, I told him afterward that it’s about time to stow the bench for the winter. It’s cold down there!
A.J.: How about same room same position. With a candle for each year. After each stroke a candle is lit/extinguished (your choice!)
(Imagine going into that room and seeing all those candles! There's some mind-fucking!
Bonnie: I’ve come to expect there will be surprises, but my Prince Charming still invents spanking scenarios that I don’t anticipate. After the session, he sometimes asks how I liked my spanking. This is the about only input I get to his planning process. At that point, however, my mind is typically scrambled to point where my clever response is something like, “My butt hurts.”
If he chose the incremental candle approach you describe, I’d be fine with it.
Wendel: Normally during a hike in the mountains just the pants come down for spankings. To spice things up the Misses will strip naked for her spanking. The spanking and sex that follows after is quite erotic knowing that someone could come along and spot us.
A.J.: This was my suggested question. An earlier topic had to do with noise-cancelling headsets that led me to ask about things you hear but do not see. I call it "mind-fucking," but "gaslighting," in the good sense also works; the subtle toying with your partner's thoughts for the pure joy it creates.
So, no sound, sound, now visual. You come to the place of judgement and see her/him* do something that immediately get the neurons firing across the synapses. Something that lets you know, 'This time it's going to be different.'
And by 'different' I don't mean threatening. But you're on alert. My pick.
She is seated in that uncomfortable, armless chair that you know so well, kept only because it has one special purpose. You are standing close to her. Her short skirt is pulled back (No! Further back...!!) exposing the lap of justice, a hairbrush/paddle/strap resting on her right thigh...
Your heart beat increases...
Her (calm but decisively): "Get those pants off!"
And at the same moment - She starts to tie her hair up.
And that's my visual! She ties her hair up!
I have learned/noticed over the years - that when a woman ties her hair up, things are about to get serious! And it's for the most common things; play tennis, repaint the living room, the dreaded spring cleaning, wash the car. "It's a job, it has to get done, and I'm going to do it."
And that simple act thrills and excites you. And warns you! There may be a bit "extra" in this one. Good or bad, but it's there.
The fun one: She smiles so sweetly at you when she does this.
The less fun one: There is no smile, her lips are gently pursed like an impatient woman waiting for you to get moving, and she's staring at you, eye-to-eye, as you do as you are told.
The even worse "Oh, shit!" one: There is no smile, her lips are tightly pursed, and she's staring at you, eye-to-eye and not blinking, as you do as you are told. This is where you consider your past life choices.
Even though I don't give/get really hard spankings, there have been times when a bit more than expected was delivered. Something where the eyes opened a bit wider. A "Pink-plus" tush when it is over. But that's about it.
* I don't know what the male equivalent is of tying up the hair. (Rolling up shirt-sleeves?) You?
Prefectdt: I think that this topic is for those with long term spanking partners, so I will opt out this time. Looking forward to reading everyone else's replies, though.
Rosco: I can get a clue by how she’s dressed. Irene likes to dress up for our “dates”, and sometimes changes once or twice during the two hours or so from start to finish. Irene doesn’t have a huge wardrobe, but she’s creative.
She’s done the schoolmarm thing recently a few times, but also can be a cheerleader, a senorita, and any number of other personas. Hairdo, lipstick as well as clothes, and she has a lot of fun with accents as she delivers the obligatory naughty boy lecture as she intermittently thrashes me.
Tom: After some funishment in the bedroom, I was herded naked to the living room, (with one driving smack from the paddle just as I passed in view of the house next door from the kitchen window). She sat on a low ottoman bench, and pulled me over for a fast and furious 30 swat volley, then she dropped the paddle for an endless set of hand delivered spanks, deftly avoiding my one hand's attempt to shield my bottom. That 'driving smack' should have been my clue, she was genuinely mad at me. It became so painful I actually asked her to stop. In retrospect, I wish I had offered her the choice of stopping, or pinning me down and redoubling her spanking.
Robert: Not long ago I thought I would just be getting a maintenance spanking, but as she had me bend over the couch and pulled my panties down she said that I had been a little lax in some of my chores. I hadn't done the laundry yet and only vacuumed downstairs, for example, so this would be between a punishment spanking and a maintenance one.
She used her paddle first, which is normal, but after about 15 swats, she surprised me by bringing out her hairbrush, which I hadn't seen yet. I then got a dozen or so with that and then I was sent off to the corner for 10 minutes.
Believe me that I made sure to get my chores done more quickly after that!
Roz: Back in the day we would sometimes incorporate light restraints or blindfold. The biggest clue of a spicier spanking is generally the implements or accessories gathered beforehand.
Hermione: When I am bent over the end of the bed, if Ron lifts my shirt out of the way to broaden the target area, I know I am in for a serious spanking.
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Welcome, one and all, to our first spanko brunch for October. Our good friend A.J. has devised yet another intriguing topic, so let's get the discussion going right here, right now!
What single thing does he/she do - right in front of you - prior to a spanking that tells you, "Something has changed. Something is going to be different. This one is going to have a little spice to it. Be a bit more memorable"?
Leave your response as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to contribute, I will publish a summary of our discussion.
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Our good friend Boru alerted me to this amazing product. It's "a fast-absorbing body cream designed to visibly firm, tighten and deeply hydrate the skin" and I assume it is especially made to target the skin of the bottom.
Have you tried it, or would you? If so, I want to hear about your experience with it. It's available from the Sol de Janeiro website, or from Sephora.
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This week we discussed pain tolerance.
Bonnie: I’d say my pain tolerance is probably medium overall, but well above average when it comes to spankings. When I’m in that zone, the pain doesn’t register the same. It’s a familiar sensation and one I embrace and accept.
Dan: I'm kind of the opposite of Bonnie. I have always had a very high overall pain tolerance. When it comes to spanking, however, I'm just average. Especially if I haven't been spanked in a while, I'm often astonished at how much it hurts.
Rosco: I really don’t know how I compare to others. I’ve seen some brutal stuff online and some wimpy ass stuff as well. I can’t imagine getting it with a bath brush. On the other hand some floggers are a joke.
I’m surprised I’ve never bruised much given how hard Irene whacks me. Sometimes it hurts like crazy, that’s it’s too hard but it only lasts a few seconds.
I’ve only asked Irene to stop once. We’d bought a carpet beater that felt like iron. Usually I just suck it up and assume she can tell from my reaction if it’s getting a bit much.
I feel like I can take a lot and enjoy the prolonged intensity, but the next day or two will carry quite the reminder.
Anon: I don't do pain. When on either side of the lap. I have delivered a "punishment" type spanking exactly once and I had to be pleaded with to so.
"Spank me harder?" Sure. If she asks for it, but it's never harsh.
Just me...
Prefectdt: I do not really judge my pain threshold, for non-spanking events. Stubbed toe, bitten tongue, burnt hand they all just annoy me so much. It all seems so unfair. All of that type of pain is so non-consensual, and that is just not on.
Barrel: Generally, I have a high tolerance for pain. However after an extended period of no spanking, we tried a caning session this week. I had to tap out after the 6 or so strokes. While three were misses that resulted in wrap arounds, I just couldn't take it. I think we are both out of practice and my tolerance level is definitely diminished. So, I apologized for not being able to take it as I handed her the plastic paddle the next day, which she applied. I will hand her the hairbrush when I get out of the shower as a continuing step to build my tolerance. I want to get back to where we were and I can take what she wants to give me.
Roz: I would say I have a medium threshold for pain. The pain from a spanking is definitely more welcome than any other kind of pain.
Ronnie: Medium tolerance for pain, but like Roz, the pain from a spanking is different which I welcome.
Hermione: I have a pretty high tolerance for pain of any kind. I was encouraged as a small child to be stoic about pain, to endure it and not complain. So that extends to both spanking and non-spanking pain.
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What special sounds enhance a spanking?
Barrel: The unmistakable “whurp” when my wife whips the cane through the air before applying it to my backside. That sound heightens the apprehension I have, knowing what is about to take place.
Robert: I'm sure I'm not alone, but she has one paddle which makes a VERY loud *whack* when appropriately applied to my bare bottom. The pain with the sound reminds me what the next few minutes will be like before I get to head into the corner for a few minutes.
Roz: The sound (and sight) of implements being retrieved. Opening of the drawer, wardrobe etc. Plus the sound of the implement before making contact eg, the whoosh of a belt. Not to mention the sound as it lands.
Bonnie: There are several such sounds: a leather belt slipping through belt loops, a paddle slapped against a hand, Velcro restraint cuffs being opened, an alarm on his phone that tells us it’s that special time again, a snap of the elastic of the waistband of my thong, the drop of a brush on the nightstand, the swish of a crop, when he carefully enunciates the word “Spanking” as he explains what is about to happen to me, and my own rapid breathing as the action warms up.
CEM: Whore Moans. (Hormones.) 😁 The sound of her desire, lust, urgency, passion, distress, desire, wanting it to end, wanting more, hating it, loving it, just the sound of her breathing and utterances...that. I know that was not really the question, but...that's my offering/submission to the topic. 😊
Rosco: For me (us really) spankings wouldn’t be the same at all without the lecture. Not having the whacking sounds would be odd.
Wendel: I love that ½ second of silence right before the wonderful sound of the whack from the paddle or belt. The Misses crying out, sometimes in tears, is also a great addition to the spankings.
Jack: My wife/Mommy pats the bath brush against her hand as she scolds me. She reminds me this is just the light sound. I will be standing there either naked or pants and underpants around my ankle. When it does land on my bare bottom it makes a loud sound and I make a loud sound also, which can be clearly heard when being spanked in the bedroom.
A.J.: Oooh!!! My question!
I don't give/get hard spankings. It's all sensual fun. But it is essential to mess with her mind!*
Without saying a word I lead her to a familiar place - the plush arm of the sofa. She knows what's coming.
Over the arm she goes. No words are spoken. Her mind racing because - she knows! A skirt flipped up. Panties sensuously pulled down and off. Legs parted.
You stand near her as she clutches a small pillow; not looking at you. And then she hears it - the sound of the belt being undone. The deliberate jingle of the belt buckle is heard. The slow, sensuous snake-like slithering hissss of a belt passing through belt loops. You can almost see her tush react.
She sees none of this. She's not looking. It all playing out so beautifully in her mind. The anticipation of what's to come. And it's powerful. The sound alone sets what's to come. And that's one of the sounds I most love.
Coincident with that moment:
- Hearing that little 'gasp' as she takes in that little bit of air as her panties come off. (That's for me! Ladies - want to fuck with my mind? Make that little sound.)
- The soft 'slap!' sound of leather meeting bottom. I don't spank hard, so this is no more than hand meeting bottom. But I want to create the sound of that slap so she thinks it is more than it is. Just to fuck with her mind!
In reality, I'm not sure I ever created that sound; probably from lack of practice. I think it requires a leather that is not a belt. Suggestions?
* This is an equal opportunity zone. It's also effective when the bottoms over that sofa arm are switched. No judgement here! Whoo-Hoo!
Roz said "The sound of implements being retrieved. Opening of the drawer, wardrobe etc."
YES! That!
And why hadn't I thought of that?
Putting her in position over the arm of the sofa, bare-bottom up - and then walk away! And she hears that rummaging sound. Worse - his footsteps back!
What a wonderful mind-fucking! At this point the actual spanking is anticlimactic. It bothers me a bit that I had not thought of this; (probably because I don't have an implements drawer.)
Anon: Sounds are very much a part of it. The "whoosh" of the cane to the "whack" of the paddle. All part of the excitement.
Prefectdt: It looks like I am with the majority here. It is the sounds during play that trigger the mind fairies. The swish of a cane coming in, that loud THWAP! sound as a slipper/plimsoll lands. The sounds of her shoes on a hard floor, as she walks around, out of my sight. Is she getting another toy? Is she just taking a look at her handywork? Is she going to take a run-up this time?
Hermione: The click of his glasses as he puts them on the dresser, knowing that he means to get down to business. The swish of the wooden shoehorn through the air before it lands.
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