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Jack: I have no say in how long the spanking is. My wife/mommy does not even know how long the spanking is. It depends on what I did and how I react while being spanked.
Wendel: There are
times I will set the timer for 5 plus minutes when I give the Misses a
hand spanking. Once it starts it does not stop. She squirms a lot and
will have tears in her eyes but It does not end until the timer goes off
and every inch of her bottom is bright red.
The Misses can drag a
paddling out for a long time if I am bent over the end of the bed. She
will give me a dozen whacks and then go do something else in the room.
It can be several minutes before I get more whacks. The wait is
exhilarating. Just as I get over the sting and pain she returns and
beats my bottom some more. This can go on for 30 minutes or more and I
cannot get up until she says so.
Rosco: On average, I get 3 spankings 20 or 30 minutes apart - each with maybe 20 whacks lasting 3 minutes or so. Just a guess, I’ve never counted or timed it. Often I’m tied up.
Norse Cavalier: The longest spanking I've ever given was three hours - not very hard, mostly hand, some paddle. Quite enjoyable for us both. Most spankings last about an hour, I think, but that's mostly fun spankings; punishment spankings are shorter and a lot harder.
Luvinhub: I don't believe my wife ever timed my spankings but I would guess around 30 minutes. In the moment it was usually long enough but in reality I believe she should have spanked me much longer.
Prefectdt: My spankings usually last between an hour and an hour and a half. Sometimes half an hour. An hour and a bit is often ideal, as I do like a certain level of severity and longer spankings would be hard to bear. I have been spanked for longer periods, but there are typically long breaks during the time of this type of play, it is not continuous.
KDPierre: Oddly, Rosa
and I don't go by time but rather number, with a target number sort of
decreed with the understanding that number might be exceeded a bit or
perhaps, though less frequently, lessened as the spanking progresses.
High
numbers are not unusual here, (1000+) and often very high numbers are
divided up into a series of more manageable instalments, which can
be a mixed blessing and curse. The more typical spankings are in the
"quick 50" to solid 250-300 range.
Bonnie: Duration is
Randy’s decision and he’s all over the map. Time is just one factor in
deciding the severity of a spanking. Just a minute or two with a wooden
bath brush at top speed and full intensity is far more painful, both
during and after, than a steady 30 minute spanking with the leather
paddle.
While I don’t get a choice, I do have preferences and
they vary over time as well. Sometimes, I just want to take my position
and get it over. In other cases, I like the detailed choreography, the
build up, and the slow reveal of an inescapable punishment.
As
for the longest spanking I’ve received, that depends upon one’s
definition of a spanking. He has spanked me several times during a day
where each session began where the last one left off (I totally deserved
it). It seemed like one spanking to me and if you accept that premise,
I guess my longest could span seven or eight hours.
A.J.: Obviously,
I'm an amateur here, but I go by color, not time. When she's a nice
pink I stop and proceed with the TLC+. When it's me on the receiving
end I'm pretty sure it's the same.
In general it's about time time it take to deliver about (guessing) 250-300 hand spanks.
At top speed (where it hurts a bit more) 300 = 2 1/2 minutes.
At sensual speed 300 = 5 minutes + pauses for TLC.
At "Ain't this fun?" speed = 30 minutes?
Dan: I think length does matter, and there are times that, when a spanking is done, I feel like it wasn't quite long enough to leave me feeling like the issue that earned me the trip over her lap was fully dealt with. But numbness puts a hard limit on most of my spankings. Somewhere around 5 - 6 minutes, my butt starts going numb and, after that, continuing to spank seems pointless. I have come to appreciate, however, the role longer spankings play in leaving soreness that lasts for days. Five to six minutes is probably our average, but the time element is probably less relevant than the number of swats Most of my spankings are with a combination of the bath brush and a heavy ebony hairbrush, with a heavy emphasis on the bath brush. The typical number of swats/strikes per session are around 200 - 300.
Graham: Best guess is usually 45 minutes or more, but obviously not continuously.
Roz: It does vary quite a bit depending on the circumstances, mood etc. I would say on average 20 minutes.
Hermione: Ron aims for a finish time, so length of time doesn't enter into it for him. He watches the clock, and when it reaches the three quarter hour, he stops. The spanking might start on the half hour, or five minutes later, but it doesn't matter. He stops at 4:45 pm.
Like Dan, I get numb after about five minutes, so long spankings don't do anything for me.
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We talked about spanking for punishment. Was there a time when you should have been spanked, but weren't?
Rosco: When Irene is truly annoyed with me, she ignores me. I don’t think it’s intentional punishment, but it feels that way.
Spankings
are generally for imaginary infractions like being distracted by
schoolgirls or maybe not doing my homework (ageplay, they call it).
Occasionally she’ll threaten a spanking for not doing something around
the house, but I don’t think it ever happens.
I fantasize about real discipline, but I don’t think I’m interested.
Roz: There have been a few occasions when I thought a spanking was forthcoming but it didn't happen.
Jack: If I think I will not be spanked and got away with it, I know I'm kidding myself. My wife/mommy has told me she needs to 'cool' off and just calm down.
KDPierre: I think this happens to just about everyone (in a disciplinary relationship) over time. It's just how life works. Things pop up, get in the way, and then the moment is lost and you either try to revisit it another time or just move on. Living this type of lifestyle is complicated, especially over the long haul, so I think it's best to focus on the positives and let go of the occasional, and inevitable, "what could have beens".
Prefectdt: The problem is for me that, although I pretend to see spankings as punishment, really I see them as a reward. So yes, there have been lots of times when I have achieved hard to do or difficult things, when I feel that I have truly earned a “well done” spanking, but there is no one around to give me one. Just life, I suppose.
Barrel: We don't really use spanking as punishment, although our sessions do take on a stern and reprimanding tone. There have definitely been times when I deserved discipline and didn't get it right away. We tend to work things out but remember to reinforce the outcome at the end of her cane when we schedule a session.
TTWD: My experience is similar to KDPierre's. Many (most) of my spankings are disciplinary, but sometimes we just continue doing what we are doing, and by the next day, although I might remember why (or not), Cindy has forgotten. Cindy's spankings have become really effective and strong, similar to what you used to describe for your spankings. At that time, Cindy felt they were too strong, but if she would read them now, she would realize they are the appropriate level needed, and what she gives me, or ours are even stronger.
Graham: Absolutely! But not everything in life is perfect. And spankings are hardly the only important thing in our lives.
Bonnie: Yes, definitely. But I usually get that spanking eventually.
A.J.: Did you ever feel you really deserved a spanking, but didn't get one?
No. But did really WANT a spanking, but didn't get one?
Yes.
Give a spanking, but didn't get to?
Also yes.
Was there an alternative punishment, or did the issue get resolved in another way?
I don't believe in punishment spanking unless it is part of playing so, not a good question for me.
Ronnie: Yes, definitely. But things get in the way and the spanking doesn’t happen.
Hermione: For us, spankings are a reward, not a punishment. If Ron is mad at me, he will postpone our spanking until he's in a better mood.
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What can you tell us about self-spanking? This proved to be a popular topic and we have several new friends who joined us this week.
MrBill: I self spank, flagellate, etc. frequently. I just don't get enough from my wife despite my requests and encouragement over the years. I don't masturbate anymore, but when she is away I whip, flog, cane myself. Sometimes bent over on the butt, sometimes inner thighs. Usually with implements including leather strap, belt, flogger, crop, cane, wooden paddle.
Rosco: Yes. For me it was underwhelming. I tried a riding crop. Yes I was by myself.
Any spanking without a lecture is unfulfilling.
Obviously we’re all different.
Bonnie: Yes, at Randy’s direction, but it wasn’t as satisfying as the real thing. I recall making the comment, “Do I have to do everything?”
Roz: I have tried it on the odd occasion when I've been alone. Definitely not as fulfilling as the real thing for me either.
TTWD: I tried a couple of times long ago, but definitely unsatisfying! I need to be spanked, not self spanked.
Wendel: Spanking for us is all about fun and intimacy. Without someone to be part of the experience a spanking is not satisfying.
We
put a couple of spins on it by self-spanking when the other was
present. For the first we each took turns while the other stood outside
the bedroom listening. The second was self-spanking while the other was
in the room. I did enjoy watching her whack her bottom and being
critiqued by the Misses was a turn on. If a good enough job was not done
then a proper spanking followed which happened to be every time.
Ronnie: Only to tease P.
Prefectdt: Yes I have
self-spanked a lot, although I do not get much joy out of it. There can
be a long break between spankings and self-spanking helps to keep my
butt in order and helps me to keep a decent pain tolerance; it is not
done for fun.
I have used plenty of things to self-spank, but the
best seems to be a 2 foot (60 cm), peeled, German style rattan cane.
By learning to use a flick of the wrist, rather than an arm swing, you
can get a respectably stinging stroke. Also, it is not too noisy, so the
radio does not need turning up too loud. Usually I am leaning forward over my dining table, supporting myself with my left hand, when this
happens.
For a mentally satisfying self-spank, a medical EMS/TENS
unit is often attached to my buttocks and set on a half hour
pre-program, with the strength of pulse set way too high for normal
medical use. This is not as good as a real spanking, but it does help me
keep in mental trim, when real spankings are thin on the ground. I can
just lie on my front on the bed and mentally absorb the pain, without
having to do something myself, as the procedure is endured.
A.J.: Have you ever tried self-spanking?
Yes. And it appears - I'm not the only one!
If so, under what circumstances?
I was bored, felt like I needed it, and no spank buddy was handy.
Were you alone or with another person?
WHAT?? No! More proof I'm the impressionable virgin in this group.
Did you use an implement?
Hand. When that proved to be Meh..., my belt.
What position did you find most effective?
In bed and 'perched' over a BIG stack of pillows to get the more-perfect angle for the job.
Reading the comments it appears the answer is "Yes," but it is unfulfilling.
I
got a smile from Wendel's comments. I wish I told my spanking GF that,
before I took her OTK, that she go into her bedroom alone, go over a
stack of pillows, and spank her bare bottom to warm her tush up before
the OTK fun. And adding, "Leave the door open! Make sure I hear it!"
I need to get out more.
Graham: Several times when alone. Better than nothing, but that's a pretty low bar!
Kiki: I never self spanked before but I decided to try it a few minutes ago. I barely felt it and didn't enjoy it.
Hermione: Nope, never done it. Well, I might have tried it once, but it isn't easy and it hurts!
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Tears during a spanking? Here's what you said:
Rosco: I’d love to cry from spanking, but it’s never happened. (I do cry on emotional occasions more than most people.)
Like
others, I’ve had a few super hard or errant blows that were over the
top. The intense bliss of ongoing seemingly endless hard spanks puts me
in a zone like nothing else.
A few days ago, Irene played the
strict teacher role as never before - inspired by that short Marcy film
(thanks for telling us about it). It was really great, but I was closer
to laughing than crying.
CEM: If tears happen, they happen. Some women are geared that way, others are not. I would never however, try to make that a goal or a result of punishment, as that would be abusive.
Roz: Tears were seldom here, though I often wanted to be able to cry from a spanking. On the occasions it did happen we were practising dd and the tears were more a result of the emotions behind the spanking.
FL: Tears during a spanking have remained elusive my whole life. There was one occasion where I came very close and it had more to do with the role play and emotions than the actual spanking. Been chasing that high ever since.
Jack: My wife/mommy insures I'm crying, the bath brush insures that. The spanking is supposed to teach a lesson. I have a wife who loves me, but knows that she must be the Mommy at times and Mommy will insure that I'm crying, saying I'm sorry by the time she is done.
Prefectdt: I have never cried tears (I have cried out loud :) ) from a spanking. In theory, I would like to. Perhaps I will find out in reality one day. I have cried when put in a corner and the spanker has walked away, part way through a spanking. I think that it is the feeling of being abandoned that really gets to me.
Wendel: The Misses will let the tears fly once in a while for a bit. It is not necessary for us to enjoy the spankings.
Bonnie: Tears are rare, at least when Randy spanks me. I’m not sure why, but that’s just not part of my usual reaction.
Now let the dog die in a kids movie and I’m a blubbering mess.
Dan: Movies and TV shows can make me cry. Same with movies and books. Yet, I've never really cried from a spanking, even though it's something I've been fascinated by since I discovered adult disciplinary spankings.
Hermione: Like Bonnie, if you want to see me cry, just let a dog (or a cartoon lion) die in a movie. But spankings never make me want to cry. I always wonder about the stories I read in which spanking doesn't stop until there are tears. Mine would last for hours until the spanker's arm gave out.
A.J.: Tears come from EMOTION; not the spanking itself, nor the pain.
There can even be tears and crying even before the spankee goes OTK.
British sailors, VICIOUSLY flogged at sea, did not shed tears - they screamed.
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What about marks? Here's what you said:
Bonnie: There are
marks and then there are marks. I always have some residual redness on
my bottom after I receive a proper spanking, but it often dissipates
fairly quickly. There are some spankings, though, where Randy’s
combination of implement, technique, and duration leaves me owning a
more lasting set of marks.
I love my marks and the accompanying
ouch back there whenever I sit, stand, walk, or bend. They remind me
that I was recently punished, and to a certain degree, that the corporal
punishment is still ongoing. These are exciting notions for me.
Inspecting my visible marks in a mirror afterward makes the whole
experience real.
Anon: My ex was surprised by marks the first time I spanked her, despite it being just surface marks and a few handprints. She got used to it.
Roz: I used to love having marks and being able to feel the spanking after. A lasting reminder. Rick also used to enjoy seeing the evidence of his handiwork. In the early days we were surprised at the amount of marking on a couple of occasions.
Rosco: Irene likes
to tease me about them. She’ll say I deserved them and more. That she
hopes I learned my lesson, but she suspects I haven’t.
The most
visible marks occur when she uses a switch - tiny welts that sting like
crazy when they’re administered but satisfy like cold lemonade on a hot
day.
There have been a few errant blows over the years which have
caused Irene a bit of remorse, but I’ve always healed in a couple of
days.
Prefectdt: I don't mark much now. Sometimes welts from a very hard caning, but that is more that you can see a furrow along my bottom, with no or not much bruising. I did start bruising again, some years ago, when I started taking a medication for my sticky blood syndrome, but that stopped happening about 18 months after starting the medication. I did used to like looking at my marks for a few days after the spanking, and miss that a lot. Still, there is usually swelling of the buttocks now and that is nice to feel for 3 or 4 days after the spanking, but it is not as good as having proper marks.
Red: Cindy is very happy to see my bottom a bright red, but not happy if any bruising or bad marks. However, a nice grey surrounded by red on my bottom shows a rather very intense and deserved spanking. I like to take pictures of my bottom when it is quite red, but the lighting does not show the deep red. Wonder why on an Iphone. I blogged recently also, but need to re-learn everything, like how to put links to blogs I am starting to re-follow.
Welcome back, Red. I've added your link to my blog roll.
Hermione: I love seeing marks, but sadly, I don't mark much these days. Redness that lasts a day or so, but nothing dramatic. I'll have to find out how Ron can up his game :)
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This week we discussed quiet spankings and this is what you said:
Wendel: No quiet spanking here. The sound of the bottom being smacked is wonderful and I love to hear the Misses cry out after each whack.
Roz: No need for quiet spankings but I am always paranoid about what neighbours might hear.
Glenmore: When the kids were home we would schedule a lunchtime meeting for lunch and spanking.
With the nest empty we just have to make sure the windows aren't open!
We
had a noisy one in a hotel room. Once and got some amused looks in the
elevator the next morning.We didn't know them so didn't really care.
Fondles: Tappity taps with the cane... it's the quietest option we have.
Prefectdt: There are quiet toys, rope floggers, for example. But realistically, having to keep it hushed is one condition too far. Better to find a place where noise is not an issue.
Bonnie: No. Our nest is empty now.
Hermione: There's no need for us to be quiet, but we put the television on for the dogs and give them stuffed Kongs to enjoy so the noise won't bother them.
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Does the spankee say "thank you"?
Graham: Absolutely! I not only thank her verbally, but she almost always receives a well-deserved oral orgasm usually followed by penetrative sex. Lots of fun!
Roz: I don't usually thank Rick for a spanking and it's not generally expected however I have on the odd occasion.
Fondles: I don't, usually, but I *have* said thank you when we have a Dd/lg session of playing (and spanking) - which I only mention here specifically cos sometimes the dynamic is less obvious.
Prefectdt: After a spanking I always offer a full formal, thank you. Usually in at least one full sentence. This is accompanied by a small bow. I never offer or seek a hug after this, but I often do get a hug from the other party, A hug is most welcome, but only if it is genuinely meant. I would not like it if I felt that the other party felt they had to hug me.
FL: Often, sometimes immediately following as part of roleplay, sometimes a while afterward, thanking her for enthusiastically indulging me. It's just good manners.
Jack: When my wife/mommy is done with the spanking I must say I will be a good little boy Mommy and sorry for being naughty.
Rosco: I’ll often
apologize for the behavior that led up to the spanking - that I’m sorry
for being such a recalcitrant naughty disrespectful pouty boy and that I
need to learn to follow all her rules. Then I might thank her for
spanking me because I know I needed it.
She’ll agree and usually say she needs to spank me more often.
A
few times Irene has demanded that I thank her as she’s spanking me.
I’ll refuse at first just to be a little annoying then comply.
Barrel: Yes, I do thank my wife after any spanking. After a long session, when I am totally drained, I give her a deep hug and thank her for taking me into that realm where I feel a total release of any stress. I absolutely love those moments.
A.J.: "Do you thank your spanker after a spanking?"
No. Not really. Does telling her "Oh. That was a good one!" count?
Has she ever thanked me for rendering the "honors?"
No! (That bitch!!! Kidding.)
"As a spanker, do you expect or demand such a courtesy?"
No. Never.
And that seems to me like a ritual or formality, one that I don't care for.
We thank each other in "other" ways, if-you-know-what-I-mean- and-I-think-you-do.
Wendel: The Misses has never thanked me for spanking her and I do not look for it. Consoling with kisses and sex is all that is needed.
Hermione: I agree with Wendel. No thanks are required, just some intimacy.
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Welcome back, friends and visitors alike. Our dear friend Erica Scott has posted again, so please visit her and say hello. She shared her interviews on the Spanko! Podcast; the links are here to part one and part two. It was a pleasant surprise to me because I had never heard of the Spanko! Podcast, but I'll be returning often.
Now on to today's discussion, kindly supplied to us by our good friend Barrel.
As a spankee, do you thank your spanker after a spanking? As a spanker, do you expect or demand such a courtesy?
Please leave your response as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion after everyone has had a chance to weigh in.
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Sting or thud? It was no contest.
Bonnie: Ideally, I
prefer a spanking that provides a bit of each. A moderate size wooden
paddle, not too thick, dispenses both sets of sensations when applied
firmly. Each immediate strike delivers a sharp shock to my exposed
skin. This is how corporal punishment feels.
After my spanking
is over, the burning sensation is gradually subsumed by a deep ache that
I had not fully appreciated previously. This throbbing sort of pain is
also part of the experience of getting a serious paddling. It serves
as a relentless reminder, every time I stand, sit, walk, or bend.
If I got to choose, and I don't, I would want both sting and thud.
Roz: I think I would prefer a bit of both too. The more stingy spankings can be very intense in the moment and the more thuddy implements leave more of a reminder which I love.
Prefectdt: Following on with the general vibe, so far, in this subject. It is nice to have a mix of both, delivered by several, different implements. There are so many more stingy than thuddy toys in the world that it is hard to get a perfect balance between the two.
Ronnie: A mix of both. I love (and hate) the sting of a cane but a thuddy implement like the paddle does leave a lovely reminder.
Graham: Another vote for a mix, but I do love the sting of the cane!
Rosco: Such a complicated question.
The
riding crop, the whip and the switch are generally stingy. They’re all
delicious, and can be used on areas other than the sweet spot of the
buttocks albeit generally with less force. Also, the impact of a whip,
for example, catching a bit of the tailbone is not ideal but generally
tolerable and won’t disturb the flow.
Paddles deliver a
wonderfully satisfying resounding thwack, especially when delivered just
right. They’re also easier to control - not that I have any experience
doing so. Errant blows, however, result in pain - not the good kind.
I’ve
bought numerous implements over the years the years, mostly some sort
of lever and recently with comfortable round handles to fit nicely in
Irene’s hands. These days, I usually get both the two tailed leather
strap and either the leather ping pong paddle or the harsher wooden
paddle. My face is down and I’m often blindfolded so I don’t know what’s
coming until I feel than sting or thwack (don’t much like “thud”).
The after effects of the paddle do tend to last longer.
Variety is the spice of life.
Wendel: Like everyone we like both.
Hermione: I'll have to be the lone dissenter here. I much prefer thuddy implements. When Ron gets out the stingy wooden shoehorn I cringe. He hand-fashioned a switch out of a long branch from a tree in our back yard, and even attached a loop on the end for hanging. He's proud of his work, but I try to keep it hidden because the sting is unpleasant to me.
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Welcome, one and all! Spring is finally here in the often-frozen North. Crocuses are in their full purple glory, the daffodil buds are colouring, and there is a lone hyacinth that self-seeded near the foundation of our house, and has produced three flower stalks. The dogs have enjoyed a muddy frisk together in the sunshine, and Ron has smoked his first cigar of the season on the patio.
Now down to more important matters. This week we have another of Barrel's topic suggestions.
Do you prefer "stingy" or "thuddy" spankings? Describe your best and worst of each.
Please leave your response as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion after everyone has had a chance to speak.
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Spanking twice in a day? Here's what you said:
Rosco: Our usual
routine is Irene will give me 3 or 4 spankings, maybe 20 minutes apart -
usually followed by more traditional intimate activities.
I’ll often be instructed to take a nap after a spanking (which can be oddly relaxing), then spanked again after the nap.
Once in a while I may get a spanking earlier in the day then again at bedtime.
Bonnie: Yes. Randy
loves to apply the paddle to my bare bottom when I'm already red and
sore from a previous session. When he lifts my skirt, he always
comments about how the previous spanking must have been insufficient
because here I am over his lap again. He then makes absolutely certain
my follow up punishment is even harder and hurts more.
From my
perspective, the second (or third!) spanking in a day does hurt worse,
but numb butt seems to kick in earlier. I don't tell him this part. If
he knew, he would change to a different implement. Regardless, my
bottom usually ends up colorfully marked, hot to the touch, and with a
deep, lasting ache. My skin back there often feels kind of stiff.
Randy
captures these tender moments in photos and videos. He sends me to the
corner and tells me to bend over for pictures. He reminds me that bad
girls get paddled (I already figured this out long ago, but no sense
stopping him when he's on a roll). He asks me whether I am embarrassed
to require corporal punishment so frequently. I give him the expected
answer because OW! I'm already plenty sore by that point.
I complain a lot, but he knows I love it all, even the second time.
Wendel: The Misses
works from home so there are days when I will paddle her fanny good in
the morning before I leave for work and remind her that she will get
another when I get home. The Misses says her excitement and arousal gets
stronger the later it gets knowing another spanking is coming.
The
Misses has spanked me multiple times in the same day and I have been
sentenced to a butt whipping every night for a week numerous times. My
bottom is constantly red and sore for the whole week but I love every
moment.
Jack: When my Wife/Mommy tells me to lay my pajamas on the bed, no matter time of day and wait for her I know I will be given another spanking prior to early bedtime. When she comes to the room, bathbrush in hand I will get undress while she scolds me. Once the spanking is done I will be wearing my pajamas the rest of the day. I will be facing the wall in the frontroom or kitchen with the bottoms around my ankles. Early bedtime means around 7pm and I will be told to get to the bedroom. She will bare my bottom and apply the bathbrush. It hurts like hell and I plead with Mommy to stop. When she is done, I pull up the bottoms and get in bed. I lay on my stomach and when she leaves the room I rub my spanked bottom.
Roz: That is a great question Hermione and Barrel! We have in the past spanked more than once in a day . I find the subsequent spankings can hurt more and also, sometimes the headspace changes during subsequent spankings.
Prefectdt: It has happened, but it is very rare for me to get multiple spankings sessions in the same day. Digging through my memories, I suspect that we are talking somewhere about 3 decades ago, the last time that this happened. Spanking twice on back to back days has never happened to me. I crash (get sub drop) very badly on the day after getting spanked and tend to avoid people, as much as possible. I do not want to hassle anybody with “Grumpy, bitchy me.”
Anon: I spanked an ex 3 different times on one day when she had a bad attitude, and made her stay in her get otk ready attire (panties only waist down) the full day (except when we went out to eat) after the 2nd otk trip. In between, we watched tv on the couch and I could feel the heat on her panties the entire day. She left my place the next day, still fire engine red.
Dan: I've only been spanked twice on the same day once. The second was truly excruciating. I also stayed sore much longer than usual, with some residual pain a full week later. That wasn't the case with being spanked on back-to-back days, which we've done a small number of times. I had anticipated those would hurt more than they actually did.
Graham: It has happened to me a couple of times. Wow, does that second one ever smart!
A.J.: "Do you ever spank twice on the same day"
Well, when you do it right you don't have to!
Have to say no on his one; giving or receiving. (Yes; I'm boring.)
Barrel: When we
have a long session, she usually gives me a 20 or 30 minute break where
she removes the restraints, gives me some water and I catch my breath.
We then return to the bench or rack where she finishes what she started
with a hard caning and whipping with the tawse. I think I am in numb
zone a bit, but the cane always catches me off guard.
We have spanked
on back to back days. While the second day really hurts, it depends on
the implement used on the first day. If the hairbrush or plastic
paddle on the first day, the feelings the second day are even greater.
While I like to be spanked, I do not look forward to being spanked on
back to back days.
Hermione: I guess that I, like A.J., am boring. We spank on a schedule of once a week. No second helpings, no back to back days. That's one for my bucket list.
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It's the weekend, and that means it's time for another meeting of like minds. I always love getting suggestions for discussions, because I want to make sure we are talking about what interests you. Let's give our good friend Barrel a round of applause for today's topic.
Do you ever spank twice on the same day, or on back to back days? If so, describe the different feelings you get with the second spanking.
Please leave your response as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion after everyone has had a chance to speak.
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A.J.: "Do you ever use restraints?"
Another question revealing how damn boring I must be.
Unless you consider her panties at her ankles while OTK acting as a kicking restraint, the answer is "No." And "no" when on either side of the lap. That is more spanking ritual than I want to do; that, and she never asked me. (See? Boring.)
(And right now I'm thinking of the episode of 'Seinfeld' where Costanza is handcuffed to a bed by a woman who then makes off with his clothes and money.)
However, as a consolation....one time in my late 20's, I was dating this beautiful out-of-my-class blonde who dropped by one afternoon as I was cleaning out my closet of old suits and stuff. Came to my scores of ties that I never used anymore, ties I was reluctant to toss because they were so expensive.
Me: "So damn expensive; and now I have no use for them."
Her, with a devilishly sly look on her face every man yearns for: "Really? Can't think of anything...?"
Me: (One one thousand... two one thousand... three...) Click! "You! Get naked! I'll get the whipped cream and berries!"
There was no spanking, but what a great Sunday afternoon!
Note to beginners: No matter how many ties you think you will need for a four-poster with your favorite play partner - double it! And have spares handy. This is no time to be frugal.
Note #2: No whipped cream or berries? Wing it! You'll come up with something. The next time you are in the market - get some! Like the Boy Scouts, ya' gotta' be prepared!
Jack: My wife/mommy has my legs secured with hers, my hand is pinned to my back. Once she is finished and stands me up, to the wall no rubbing. Once only once I was caught rubbing, another spanking and then she tied my hands so I could not rub.
Bonnie: Yes, yes, and yes. We use restraints during spankings, though maybe a bit less often in recent years. There is something really exciting about granting my husband complete control over my body. From the moment when I am secured, everything that happens is his choice. I love that. He makes the decisions. If he desires to do something deliciously naughty to me, that is part of the bargain. We both look forward to these special sessions.
Cleveland_Tom: An ex of
mine purchased some novelty handcuffs on our visit to the now defunct
Geauga Lake Amusement Park, she used them on me a couple of times, they
weren't very comfortable, (neither was the paddle she used with them,
but I was more into that). The last time she had me cuffed with my hands
up and to a decorative headboard behind me. Oddly enough this was in
the living room, located in the front of the first floor of the duplex
she rented. Her daughter was away at her ex-husband's, so we had the
place to ourselves. I'm not sure, but she may have gotten me in a piece
of female clothing like a shift or a nightgown, (but I may be miss
remembering). The apartment door was right there at the front corner to
the hall/stairs to the top apartment, so I was wildly embarrassed and
very anxious when a female neighbor came by and Debbie left me where I
was and opened the door to talked to her. She only partially opened the
door, but I was almost directly opposite and unable to cover up or move.
Then had what was probably only a 3 minute conversation even though it
felt longer. Debbie did not step out of the way or open the door so the
neighbor never saw me, but it left me in such a state that the paddle
felt ever harder when she continued our play.
Anyway, would rather use leather cuffs if I ever played that way again. Sadly, I have no playmates.
Wendel: The Misses bought some arm and leg restraints long ago. We each took a turn tying down the other and administering a whipping. It was ok but not our thing. The restraints have been in the closet ever since.
Graham: Sometimes. It adds a nice dimension and also makes it easier for me to reach the point of tears. I do like the feeling of being totally under her control.
Prefectdt: I never ask to be restrained, but I am not against being restrained for a play scenario, if the other party wishes it. There is are only two conditions to my being restrained 1/ This is not the first time that we have played together. 2/ I feel a certain level of trust for the spanker.
Rosco: Yes. I can’t remember when we started. Unlike spanking, I didn’t have any interest before we did it, but I love it.
That
said, it’s tricky. I like to be firmly bound (helpless and vulnerable),
but comfortable at the same time. And at times, Irene, wonderful
dominant that she is, can be somewhat incompetent in her knot tying.
A
few days ago, Irene instructed me to set up the massage table and lie
face down. She bound me with yoga straps, including one over my tailbone
which kept my bottom in place. After also blindfolding me, she
delivered a sound spanking accompanied by a lecture. She left the room,
returned 15 minutes later and delivered another spanking - the repeated
the whole thing a few more times. I whined and complained of course, but
it was pure bliss.
Irene will also often spank me then put me
down for a nap, before returning for more discipline followed by
traditional sexual activity. She has straps that loop around my thighs
connected to handcuffs, and will often blindfold and gag me. After a
spanking she’ll turn me into my back and I’ll drift off to sleep (go
figure).
This is a pretty loose bondage, I could escape if I tried - but then I’d be in big trouble.
We’ve done a little spread eagle more intense stuff, but honestly the discomfort inhibits my libido.
Barrel: Yes, we do use restraints. I was wondering if we were crazy, but from the comments so far, I think we are quite sane.
Restraints
are always used when we have a session, as the intensity and duration
are longer and harder. Certainly the aura is heightened, but our
sessions include extended caning with three canes, single tail whipping
and an extra heavy tawse.
We use two positions in a session,
the first being restrained to a retractable hoist in our garage we
normally use for hanging bikes and garden hoses...but it works well as a
rack too. I am not hung but stretched enough to prevent movement when
she wields the single tail on my back and other implement on my
buttocks.
The second is a bench, with convenient restraint
points to use Velcro straps to not only bind my extremities but also
open my inner thighs just below the crease in my buttocks. This
providing unlimited access with her tawse to the most sensitive skin. I
wear a protective cup for obvious reasons, but a properly applied tawse
stroke can exceed the most intense cane stroke, making the restraints
invaluable.
The resulting bonding we both get from these is exceeded only by the intimacy that follows.
Loki_Darksong: My use of restraints does depend on the play session at hand, usually for both practical and artistic reasons.
The
practical is that the restraints make it easier for my play partner to
not be concerned about staying in position on their own. The restraints
allow them to focus on the play itself, especially if heavy implements
are part of it.
Artistic wise is pretty much self-explanatory.
People do look good tied up in various positions both in drawing and in
photography.
On a side note, for the times when I bottom I do
like the use of restraints on me in scenes involving caning and/or
floggings. I can't put into words at the moment but being restrained
during those types of scene is a big help for me in my mind since I do
believe in if you're going to play you should know that you had been for
at least a couple days afterwards. And that only works on me if I am
restrained.
Roz: We did use restraints occasionally years ago. Mostly soft restraints such as scarfs etc and had a set of novelty cuffs. Also blindfolds. It all definitely added to the experience.
Hermione: We have a set of silver-coloured plastic cuffs that sometimes come into play. When we last bought a new bed, I chose a headboard that allowed for "attachments".
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Welcome, dear friends, to another spanko brunch. Our good friend Barrel has come up with another exciting topic for us to discuss.
Do you ever use restraints? If so, how often? Are restraints employed to enhance the aura or to keep the spankee still as the spanking will be especially severe?
Please leave your response as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion after everyone has had a chance to speak.
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Glory to Ukraine
Let's discuss lasting effects from a spanking.
Rosco: I’m usually
given three or four spankings over the course of an hour or so - each
maybe twenty swats with a paddle, leather strap or whip. During this
time I descend into another world where little else exists other than my
discipline and my disciplinarian. After I’ve been punished
sufficiently, sexual activity ensues.
After catching our breath,
we’ll usually have dinner. My bottom will be tender, but it’s 24 hours
later that it will often be hard to sit.
We don’t use a switch
often, but when we do the welts will last a few days and taken a shower
brings a delicious reminder. I should go look for a good switch.
Cleveland_Tom: I was never in a relation where I got a lot of daily spankings. Closest was the time is one I've shared where we had a spanko group party at our "friendly neighborhood dungeon." A women showed up with a hankering to try the other side of the paddle, and I "won" out between the 4 unattached male bottoms in the "slips in a hat" drawing. After a hand spanking over eight oldies songs, we "won" with the reddest bottom prize, (she warned me that her friends said she had a heavy hand). After that I convinced her to try out the all the implements in her toy bag. I wanted to try the spanking blocks they had at the dungeon and we continued the fun, though it went to another level when a male top lent her a heavy wooden paddle. She was able to create some real bruises with that. I checked them out when I got home. I was a little freaked when I started having purple piss while the bruising went down. Still, a very fond memory.
Wendel: We spank often. I have spanked the Misses multiple days in a row and sometime in the morning and then in the evening. On a few occasions the Misses has whipped my butt every night for a week. Hands and wrists hurt from giving the spankings. The bottoms remain sore and marks linger longer. Call us weird but all of this reminds us of the love we have for each other.
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