Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for August 30

From this brunch ten years ago, the options picked by my readers for most and least comfortable were:

1. Male spanker and female spankee - 7 / 0
2. Female spanker and male spankee - 3 / 1
3. Female spanker and female spankee - 6 / 0
4. Male spanker and male spankee - 1 / 6

Let's see how we fared this year.

Bonnie: I don’t think non-spankos will be comfortable with any of these permutations, except perhaps in a hanky spanky bedroom context. Accordingly, I think their spanko preferences, if they have any, will parallel their sexual preferences.

Spanky53: My experience is that Male Spanker/Female Spankee and and Female Spanker/Female Spankee are a tie. The hardest for Non-Spankos to accept is Male Spanker/Male Spankee. That being said my experience also has been that Spankos have a harder time accepting Male Spanker/ Male Spankee than Non-Spankos.

Graham: I have zero interest in M/M though I certainly don't mind if others are into it -- none of my business as long as it's consensual. I can't possibly know, but I suspect that most non-spankers would find M/M most difficult to understand. But, as noted above, they likely identify most easily with their own orientation.

Dan: I think Female Spanker/Male Spankee has a lot of negative connotations for some, including that the male in that situation is unmanly. Others have said, in response to your question, that Male/Male may be the hardest for some to understand or accept. I'm not sure that's true. I think they may not themselves gravitate to it, but that doesn't mean they can't understand it. There is a Male/Male spanking group I follow on Reddit and, honestly, I think there are more posts on it that I find similar to my DD spanking lifestyle than is the case with the other DD spanking groups, which are predominantly F/m. I've also found that those latter groups tend to be pretty uninviting to those of us in Female/male dynamics.

CEM: I think the majority of people would find M/f the most "normal" due to societal standards of males being dominant. But most people would probably find F/f the least "threatening" due to the presumption that it was a kink, fetish, two lesbians or whatever, but with the so called "patriarchal" aspect removed, and women being physically less strong, less potentially "abusive" and those other misguided notions. 

Roz: I'm not sure on this one but as noted above I'm not sure non-spankos would be comfortable with any of the above but may perhaps be able to understand their own orientation a little more. As also commented above I think perhaps M/M may be the most difficult.

Rosco: I’d guess people in my group would be more comfortable with fm than mf, since it’s less likely to be associated with abuse, and it’s fun!

Like many men, I don’t like much to think about what gay men do.

I love to look at pictures of women spanking. Best if they’re wearing a nice dress or sometimes lingerie. Ok if they’re angry or whimsical.

I’m mixed about seeing the victim. If it’s male it could be me. But I love to look at a round plump female bottom, sometimes still wearing panties.

Even though I might have been a spanker if my wife was willing, I don’t generally like to look at men doing the spanking. It makes me think of abuse. My mind knows it’s not, but I still tend not to look.

Prefectdt: I have to admit to having only limited experience of explaining TTWD to non-spankos. I agree with Graham above, though. Talking to them about F/m play does avoid a lot of preconceptions, that they might have about partnership abuse and manipulative behaviour. Giving us a chance to distinguish ourselves as consenting players, not to be grouped with abusers. In my limited experience, the hardest thing about to non-spankos is overcoming the misconceptions that they already have, ranging from spankos being abusers or victims of abusers to they gave/received a light patty cake spanking, as part of foreplay once. Making them think that they know all about it already.  

Red: Very difficult to say what non spankos think, as we have never talked to anyone about spanking who is not into the idea of spanking. Many would think it abusive, I imagine.
Maybe we should all be saying that we do not find spanking in any way abusive, and just as I am happy in a F/M situation, I know Ron and you are happy in a M/F relationship.
Meeting friends who are in the opposite spanking (M/F) situation might even have the man being reluctant to meet because of what he thinks the new couple are actually thinking.
We do not find spanking to be in any way abusive, but actually enhancing our love for each other.
Cindy has occasionally said she was wrong and should be spanked, and I have agreed by bending down and planting a firm kiss on each cheek, with the firm reminder that if the behavior was worse, it would be on her bare bottom. We both laugh afterwards, and the problem is solved. Every couple might try this just to have a laugh. Just do not tell your partner what you are going to do when saying you should be spanked for this.

KDPierre: I don't think it's possible to answer this question for "non-spankos" since they are as diverse a group in their thinking as spankos and therefore would lean in different directions depending on a lot of factors. Personally, however, as a spanko who has come out to plenty of non-spankos, I have found that me being a sub male who GETS spanked rather than doing the spanking, has amused and resonated more than if I came out and said that I spank my wife. My wife also has gotten more "you go, girl!" responses from non-spanko women that seem to support this trend as well. But our experience is skewed by the type of people we are comfortable coming out to. It is definitely not a random group where I would expect the responses might well be quite different. 

Wolfman7446: male spanker female spankee - feminine, soft, and lovely.

Hermione: As others have said, it's hard to see things from the non-spanko's point of view. But I think, since the advent of the Sixty Shades books, most non-spankos would be most comfortable with M/F.         

   

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #658

Here's a question I posed ten years ago today, and I thought it was worth resurrecting. In view of the current state of sexual identities, it may not be politically correct, so I hope you will forgive me.

 If you are reading this blog, you are almost 100% guaranteed to be interested in spanking for one reason or another. You might actively engage in it, or have just started to explore, or maybe you're just curious. But there are many people out there who don't share our fascination with this percussive sport.

There are four possible combinations of spankers and spankees:

1. Male spanker and female spankee
2. Female spanker and male spankee
3. Female spanker and female spankee
4. Male spanker and male spankee

Which combination do you think non-spankos are most comfortable with, or most understanding of? Which one can they simply not get their heads around, or are least comfortable with? 

Leave your reply as a comment, and remember, all opinions are welcome here. Please feel free to interpret the question as you wish. If you prefer to state your own preference instead, that's fine. I will publish a summary of our discussion once everyone has had a chance to speak.

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for August 23

Would you let yourself be spanked by a stranger in order to help your partner get ahead? 

Robert: Well, since we're both retired this is a total fabrication, but I suppose if she thought it important enough and my wife asked/told me to take a spanking from a stranger, I hope (and think) I would say "Yes, ma'am. Where and when?"

I think it would make her proud of me to do so. I've never been spanked by anyone else, so it would be quite a step in our relationship!

Bonnie: My first thought is “how strange are they?”

I don’t know why anyone would even think that caning the employee’s naked wife was on the table. The story provides a rather unlikely rationale. I like the fantasy and I would enjoy a bigwig spanking role play with Randy. But in real life, I would have to respectfully pass. Only one man gets the privilege of spanking me. Any retribution would be met with a lawsuit.

Red: I love fantasy! However, I have actually been spanked by three different women with Cindy present, and quite enjoyed it. One was far too severe and left me badly bruised, one was absolute play with only a few real spanks, and the third wonderful woman is a friend of ours. Her spankings were not very hard, but more as strong play.. I have seen her spank much harder, when spanking her husband John.
In reality, if Cindy said that someone should spank me for real, i would say, yes dear, and permit it to happen.

Rosco: I can’t quite make this fantasy work.

But I’ve imagined any number of scenarios where Irene engages another woman to help keep me in line. Once we ran into Susan, the best friend of my high school girlfriend who didn’t seem to approve of me. When I introduced Irene to her, Susan made some sort of comment to the effect that she hoped I’d learned to treat women better. I imagined Irene replying that she had to be a little strict and bossy sometimes, leading to Susan asking questions, Irene telling her about my spankings and asking her if she like to participate.

Most of my fantasies start will real life encounters like this one - I have many and often replay them in my mind with the exact conversation.

Wendel: Nope.

Roz: While the fantasy is tantalising, in reality it would be a no. Spanking is purely between us.

Ronnie: Nope, spanking is just between the two of us. 

A.J.: Foolish scenario. Maybe it is the wife who should be doing the spanking

Fantasy-wise, if my boss was a cute female, and my "wife" was present - that might be fun.

Graham: Fun fantasy but can't imagine it happening in real life. For openers, way too many potential work place implications unless it was a 2-person company. 

Prefectdt: It is a fictitious scenario for me but here is what I would do. I would take the whooping but in a place where I could hide several cameras and sound recording devices, without the knowledge of my partner's boss. Then next time that the wicked work giver tries to be unfair in any way at all to my loved one, we would have a pretty little sword of Damocles, to dangle over their corrupt head.

Brett: I'd go up the chain or get a lawyer and see if we can remove this predator from his position.

Dan: I have kind of a thing for stories and memes that involve being coerced into taking a spanking. So, yes, I think I'd be game for it.

Hermione: The story was a fun read, but in real life it would be a red line never to be crossed.             

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #657

Welcome to another weekend brunch! Several years ago I published a story here about a woman who had to agree to be spanked by her husband's boss in order for him to keep his promotion. The story was fiction, but what if you found yourself in that position?

If you are the spankee in your relationship, would you agree to be spanked by a stranger in order to help your husband / wife / partner get ahead or keep a job? If you are the spanker, would you encourage your husband / wife / partner to go through with it?

Leave your thoughts as a comment and I will publish the outcome once everyone has had a chance to speak. I hope you took the time to read the story; it's quite delicious!

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for August 16

What is your experience with blindfolds, gags, earplugs or similar items?

Wendel: We tried having the spankee blindfolded and wearing noise canceling headphones playing “Dance of the Sugar Plum Fairies”. The Misses cried out much louder each time the paddle whacked her fanny. She said it seem more intense because the music relaxed her and then the surprise whack of the paddle produced endorphins, adrenalin or whatever chemicals the body makes to increase pleasure. When it was my turn I did not want her to stop. My bottom hurt so bad after that I could barely get my pants back on but the pleasure was well worth the pain.
Restraints? Bought a pair, tried it once and never used it again. We just did not like it. 

Barrel: We tried a blindfold and I didn’t care for it as I like to see what is coming before I feel it. Never used ear plugs, and won’t as I like to hear the “whurp” of the cane before it is administered. We do use a perforated ball gag occasionally to heighten the aura and when the caning will be extended or severe. Restraints are commonly used when we do a session. 

Roz: We have used restraints and blindfolds in the past. For me it definitely added to the experience and my other senses were on overdrive. We have never used earplugs or headphones.

Rosco: Blindfolds, gags and light bondage are usual components of our repertoire these days.

Irene will pull a (sometimes clean, sometimes not) pair of panties or a panty girdle over my head, the tie satin scarves over my eyes and mouth. She’ll tell me she’s tired of my sass and doesn’t want to hear a word from me.

She might strap me down on our massage table for a sound thrashing. Then she’ll put me down for a nap on my back with my wrists handcuffed to my thighs (being too enthusiastic with bondage has caused neck, back and shoulder pain).

Sometimes I’ll be required to give Irene an extended foot massage while blindfolded and gagged.

Oddly, I’ll drift off into an erotic slumber for half an hour or so then patiently wait to hear her footsteps when she returns to give me more attention. Irene will administer another thrashing, always with a lecture, before indulging in more traditional intimate activities.

Dan: We've never tried any kind of sensory restriction, and I doubt we would. As the recipient, I already have a very narrow focus on a single sensation during a spanking -- the sensation of the brush or paddle slamming into my butt. I think my wife gets more out of the other sensory inputs, particularly sounds. She has said she loves the sound of that paddle or strap striking.

CEM: Nope on all three...never would. 

Prefectdt: I have tried blindfolds and gags whilst on the receiving end. Always at the request of the person handing out the whups, not asked for by me. A blindfold and someone who knows how to direct the mind play are a combination that has often added positively to my experience. Gags, on the other hand, especially ball gags, have been for the benefit of the spanker, I just don't mind them. I am happy to be gagged, in the spirit of compromise, but it is more for the benefit of the other party in the interaction. Ear plugs and headphones do not appeal to me, at all, and I would take some convincing to try them out.

Bonnie: Sensory restriction can be either good or bad, depending upon the context. In a playful scene, blindfold spanking games, like guess the implement, can be fun. I have a problem with noise cancelling headphones because they can make a scene too intense for me. Likewise, I don’t like any gag that restricts my breathing. That’s a hard limit.

But if he wants to tie me up or tie me down, I’m all in for that spanking.

Red: Interesting ideas, but we have not ever tried any of these. The idea of guess the implement when blindfolded would possibly add another element of fun to the activity. Not hearing the stroke, and not knowing when it would happen, could be very intense. Another reason to buy noise cancelling headphones for travel on airplanes. 

Hermione: We have used restraints in the past, but after reading Gerald's Game, I'm not too eager for them. I wouldn't mind being blindfolded, but a ball gag is too creepy, even in photos. Headphones might be a possibility if I bought wireless ones.

      

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #656

Welcome one and all to another weekend spanko brunch. We all live in different countries around the world, so we can't meet in the same physical location to eat and chat, but we can still have fun together here on this blog. No travel required!

For my husband and me, spanking involves many of our senses. Besides the feel of the paddle - either in his hand or on my bottom - there is the sight of him standing there, ready for action. Then there are sounds, lots of them: my squeals, his laughter, the swish and crack of the implement. The scent of a leather paddle or belt is always a turn-on for me. I wouldn't want to be deprived of the whole experience. But what about you?

What do you think about using blindfolds, gags, earplugs or headphones during a spanking? Do these restrictions enhance the experience or take away from it?

Leave your response as a comment, and once everyone has spoken I will publish a summary of our discussion.

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for August 9

What do you do if your spanking partner is away?

Bonnie: We’ve been fortunate to not have that problem, at least not for an extended time. Even when Randy was sick, he could still swing a light implement.

Robert: Recently, my wife was away for a "Girl's Weekend," including the day I usually receive my maintenance spanking. She isn't interested in me spanking myself, but she did have some "maintenance" tasks to remind me she's in charge even when away.
For example, I have one pair of nylon panties that are two sizes too small, usually worn on days when I'm to be spanked later. However, in this case, the first full day she was away, I was to wear those panties...uncomfortable all day, but a nice remind.
Other days, I was assigned corner time. It's odd standing in the house all by myself, pants and panties at my ankles for ten minutes, but it's what you do when your wife tells you to do so.
She made up for lost time when she got home and I went to bed with a VERY red bottom.

Wendel: Luckily the Misses has a job that is fully remote. If I leave for a project she will tag along. If I am only going only for a day or two and she does not join I will paddle or whip her bottom good so she has something to remember me by. 

When the Misses goes on a girls' night out excursion she is usually back the follow evening. Before leaving the Misses will give me a rather sound paddling to ensure I behave while she is away.

CEM: I just put everything for the future into the...spank bank. 😁
Sorry, couldn't resist. 😬

Roz: We have had occasions back in the day where we have been apart for a period of time. Regular communication which includes phrases like "you will" or "I want you to" help alongside regular checking in. In regards to spanking alternatives, things like chores, corner time (bleah lol), set bedtime. Of course these can be used whether together or apart.

Ronnie: P hasn’t been away for a long period so not had that problem. 

Rosco: We’re in the midst of a bit of a drought right now. Neither of us is away, but there are numerous distractions and anomalies in our schedules.

When Irene was away and I was missing the attention, I got into bed, pulled a pair of her panties over my face and listened to a Missjenndavis podcast as I drifted off into a nap.

Irene will be eager to reengage when we have an opportunity but that might not be for another 10 days - unless we find time this afternoon. Absence does my the heart grow fonder!

Red: Fortunately, we have almost never had extended periods apart from each other. More than 50 years of seeing each other almost every day. No wonder I need to be spanked at times. 

Prefectdt: My partner is never here, because I do not have one. However, there are often times when I cannot get spanked. During these times, self spanking, with various implements, does help me keep my rear end in condition, but is not at all satisfying. There is an EMS/TENS unit that I have found can give me a half hour electronic spanking, and that helps to keep me in mental balance.   

Hermione: Like others, we are together every day, and neither of us is away overnight, so there is no need to go without spankings.

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #655

Welcome to our weekly spanko brunch. Today's topic was inspired by a message from a regular reader. Their question is one that many of us have struggled with from time to time, and they would like some suggestions from you on how to handle it.

How do you cope when your partner is away for extended periods? What substitutes for spanking do you use? How do you keep up domestic discipline, if that is part of your lifestyle?

Leave your reply as a comment and I will publish your suggestions once everyone has had a chance to contribute.

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for August 2

What is the longest time you have been without spanking?

Bonnie: Randy didn’t want to spank me when I was pregnant. He was worried for the safety of our baby. I got that concern, but I was less certain. There were zero spankings for many months. I can’t remember a time when I needed it more.

Even after our daughter was born, I had to convince him that beating my bottom would not affect my breast milk. In any case, the baby was fine and she now has her own college-age daughter.

Jack: I had messed up at a visit to a friend, we got home late, I knew what was to come, but my wife/mommy said nothing. The next morning I got up after she did, and took a shower. As I was stepping out of the shower she stood there, pointed to the front room, I had dried off and naked went to the front room. I was told to stand, and wait. It was a half hour and finally she took me over her lap and the bath brush was applied hard and fast. This is the longest time I can recall.  

Wendel: We both got the flu that lasted a week and 3 more days before we really felt good again. It was the longest we ever went without spanking each other. 

Donn: Well, so far I think I hold the record for longest period:

Discontinuation: Junior High School football coach was last person to swing a paddle for many years. That was back in 1972.

Resumption: My current wife was the next person, with one of her rubber straps. That was back in 2004.

I think that makes 32 years! (That's a "record" I never again want to come anywhere meeting!)  

Why so long?

Basically, I don't thing I'm really a "spanko." I don't have a spanking "kink" or "fetish."

I do, most certainly, have an empowered female fetish. I've know that for many years since roughly Junior High School. However, it was always felt and express in non-spanking ways.

Back in roughly 2002 I discovered the Disciplinary Wives Club website, which supercharged my  empowered female urges, and linked them to reality, with "Good Old-Fashioned Discipline" and all the accoutrements (mostly spanking and butt thrashing); so easy -- so natural - SO REAL!  

Roz: When we had a dd dynamic back in the day we used to have weekly maintenance so there was that anticipation every week. There were also a few occasions a spanking was 'due' but Rick was away so there may have been a wait of just over a week.

Prefectdt: It was back in the 90s, I gave up for nearly four years. The reason? I mistakenly thought that I could choose to be or not to be a spanko, and it was time to stop this childish thing. I was wrong. It was upon some heavily dropped hints from a psychologist that I ended up seeing on a regular basis, I took up getting spanked again and all became better.

  

A.J.: Twenty (20!) years? From the time I first knew spanking fascinated me as a young lad to the time my GF tricked me into spanking her. Does that count?

(Why? Because I believed that anyone who took pleasure in 'hitting' a woman was a perversion worthy of prison.)

Reversing laps...a year?

 

Dan: It's probably the period I'm in right now, in which it's been over three months; probably more like four at this point. It was the result of an injury that's going to take a while to heal. We had another period, two years ago, in which we went about three months. That too was medically related.

 

Red: Never really kept track of time between spankings. Spankings in the past usually went in spurts of two or three weeks without and then maybe three in the space of a week. We are now doing more often regularly, and if I feel stressed, I ask to be spanked. We are about to try twice a week to see how that works out. 

 

I am spanked while on vacation, and we do not worry of how thin the cabin walls on a cruise ship, nor in a hotel or airbnb. We will never meet the people again that are the opposite side of the wall. However, we do put music on to muffle the sound a bit, but our love-making creating an orgasm is much louder, and we do not muffle them. Neighbors can choose which they like best! 

 

Rosco: Irene has been spanking me consistently since 1980. The longest break during that time has probably been 3 weeks or so due to travel, houseguests etc. when the kids were growing up I came home for lunch, spankings and more.

Before 1980, the only successful spanking was in 1969 which I administered just prior to my first French kiss.

 

Fondles: I think we're down to maybe a handful of spankings a year now. It's hard when there are people in the house! Those waffles looked delicious! (It's the other thing I'm weak for besides scones!)      

Hermione: The longest we have gone without spanking is 18 months. We adopted a rescue dog who hadn't been crated in years and objected to being incarcerated while we were still obviously in the house and he was missing all the fun. He made such a fuss that we eliminated spanking from our bedroom activities until Ron got access to an apartment after a family member had vacated it. We enjoyed spanking for three Sundays in a row, realized how much we had missed it, then resolved to either put up with the dog's fuss or rent a motel room. By then the dog was used to being crated and didn't make a peep.

More recently, Ron had minor health issues that put spanking on the back burner for three weeks. 

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #654

I hope everyone's hungry, because the waffles are hot and ready! No waiting for them to cook. And speaking of waiting, that brings us to today's topic.

What is the longest period of time you have waited between spankings? What was the reason for the long delay?

Leave your response as a comment and I will publish a summary of our discussion once everyone has had a chance to speak.

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Our Friend is Back

Our good friend and blogger Jean Marie is back with a new blog on Substack. Do you call it a blog if it's on Substack? No matter, she's back with many stories about spanking and life.

I hope you will drop in and wish her well. You won't be disappointed. 

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for July 26

Sports and spanking. How do you combine them?

Bonnie: My dear husband has a hundred permutations of the “Oops, you lose, now bend over” game. They all end more or less the same way. Card games, board games, sporting contests, dice, wagers on future events - my poor butt always eventually pays the price.

Now I appreciate a good spanking as much as the next gal, but it doesn’t seem fair that even when I win, l still end up over his lap. He offers to skip the paddle if I win, but that doesn’t seem quite right either. I want him to take me out for a nice dinner or go with me to an arts fair or a bookstore. If he did that, I wouldn’t mind all those spankings.

Wendel: Just like Bonnie we can convert any game into a loser gets spanked game. Big difference is that we spank each other, so the loser really does get the spanking. 

Anon: Ditto. Card games, word games, ping pong, pool, etc.

Rosco: I would probably do this kind of thing, but Irene likes to be spontaneous.

We did play a memorable (suggestive to me) game of ping pong in 1979, having snuck away from our erstwhile partners at a party. We got together 6 months later, and she’s been spanking me ever since.

Roz: There may have been a few light-hearted wagers over the years but it hasn't seriously been part of our spanking activities.     

Prefectdt: Can't really think of any vanilla games that have been played in my spankings. I used to know one pay to play Top who used to incorporate mind games into the play. She had me so confused once that the first thing I did, when I got back in the real world, was to buy a newspaper (pre smartphone era) to find out what day of the week it was. I have never really thought about actual physical games to include during a spanking. Something new to consider. 

KDPierre: We have a set of spank-oriented 'tournament rules' for our occasional private games of 8-ball. Needless to say they are ridiculously slanted in Rosa's favor and result in literally hundreds of smacks being delivered to me over the course of the games and after (depending on how well I play). 

Hermione: Ron is a big football fan, so when his team loses, I get spanked. Of course, when his team wins, I get a celebratory spanking.  

Red: Never incorporated anything with spanking . (no sports, or activities). Guess we are a little bland. 

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #653

Welcome one and all to our regular weekend spanko brunch. If you are new here, please introduce yourself, and the others will make you feel at home in no time.

I am exceptionally pleased to be hosting brunch today because earlier this week,  our modem gave up the ghost and we were without internet for two days until a new one arrived. Talk about going cold turkey! We each had one game on our iPads that didn't require a connection, but the rest of the world was cut off to us. It's amazing how many little jobs can be completed around the house to fill in the time not surfing the net. We are back to normal now, and making up for lost time.

The FIFA World Cup was enthusiastically watched my millions around the world, and it inspired today's topic. It was first posed by Bonnie in one of her early brunches, and I think it's worth revisiting.

Do you ever incorporate otherwise vanilla sports or games into your spanking repertoire? If so, please describe how these competitions operate in the context of your relationship. If not, are there other spanking games that you play? Is this something that you would like to try if you haven't already done so?

As always, leave your response as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to contribute their thoughts, I will publish a summary of our conversation.

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for July 19

First of all, I want to thank my readers for their concern regarding the horrendous forest fires here in Canada. Please be assured that we are well away from the actual fires, although the air has been pea soup thick for a couple of days. Unfortunately, a certain president has decided that our fires are a good reason to implement yet more tariffs on all our goods imported by the US. Go figure! Anyway, let's move on.

 

How do you protect your devices from prying eyes?

 

CEM: Someone would have to literally break into my home, and/or hack into my PC to be able to see anything so, I'm not that worried about it. 

 

Dan: I don't do much to secure that kind of material from prying eyes, separate and apart from what I use to protect everything else. My laptop is where I keep almost all such material, and it requires a password or fingerprint access to open.That's really about it. If someone were to get access to my laptop, it would be very easy to stumble on spanking-related material without looking very hard. One browser almost always has tabs open for my blog and the Google mailbox my blogging profile is registered under. There's also a tab open for my Tumblr account, where many of the things I follow are spanking-related.

In addition to my fairly casual approach to guarding my electronic spanking trail, if anyone looked in my bedroom or office closet, they'd find spanking instruments or spanking-related material, and I have a package of old Disciplinary Wives Club videos that I received from one of the co-founders.

So, it wouldn't be hard to find myself "outed" if someone did get a look at my computer or my personal space at home. If that were to happen, at this point I think I would just own up to it and shrug it off. That is a big change from when we started 20+ years ago. Back then, I was very paranoid about anyone learning about this aspect of our relationship. I kept all our spanking instruments, and anything else that was kinky in nature, in a locked trunk, and I did things like posting to my blog only from the Tor browser. Honestly, it was overkill, and I'm at an age where being "outed" would have no impact on anything important, so why worry about it?

 

Jack: The only devise that has such picture is my wife/mommy phone. She has a picture of me facing the wall, with a well spanked bottom. She said she has the picture to remind me to behave and she has shown a few close friends and of course her Mother. To me it is a continuation of the punishment for being naughty, knowing others have seen and worse knowing that my wife/mommy wears the pants in the family.

 

Rosco: Most of my salacious browsing etc. is on my iPad. No one else uses it, but I do usually clear history etc before visiting my kids and older grandchildren. I have a few telling files that are unlikely to be accidentally found.

I have a few things I’ve written on my computer but again they are in folder that nobody would likely stumble onto.

I did get a virus a few years ago and told the tech guy that I’d gotten it at an adult site. I wasn’t embarrassed and figure that happens often.

Again, it’s my kids and grandchildren that I worry about in this regard.

My wife Irene has her own different ways of finding titillation on the internet.

 

Roz: To be honest, I don't do anything above what I do to protect anything anything else. Password and pin protection on my phone and tablet. There is very little chance of anyone else accessing my devices. If anyone should however stumble across something I really don't know what I would say.

 

Red: My computer is password protected, and I rarely have it on when people are in the house. I always watch it turn in sleep mode so a password is needed to get in. The spanking information I have on the computer are buried deep within folders,but now Internet Explorer keeps bringing up files you saved recently. As I am the one that is spanked, I have less fear of us being outed in any way by my computer.

 

Prefectdt: I cannot say that I am too bothered about people seeing the stuff on my computer. I came out years ago and only one person, in my vanilla circle, believed me. Apparently I am not the type. So if any adult saw my stuff, it might help me to be believed. I would not want any children seeing what is on my computer, but there are two codes to keep them out.

 

Wendel: We have one computer that is used for spanking related stuff and nothing else. Personal business, regular surfing and such is done on other computers. The hard drive is encrypted and cannot be accessed if taken out of the computer. The screen locks after 30 seconds of inactivity so there is little chance of anyone seeing anything. 

 

Robert: My wife and I live alone and our computers never leave the house, so we're okay with that. But it's probably important to share that I can only visit sites, blogs, and the like which my wife has pre-approved. When I discovered this one, for example, I immediately sent her the link and asked if I could please visit here regularly. She read it over and, obviously, gave me a thumbs up.

She will look through my browser every week or so (I'm not allowed to clear memory unless I've been banking) and if there's a naughty site I've not been given permission to see, down go my pants/panties and out comes the paddle.

 

Hermione: Like Dan, I am less concerned about being outed now than I was years ago when I was working in an office. We use a desktop computer for our daily activities, and I keep a separate browser just for blogging. Since it's only the two of us, it is not password protected. Our grandchildren are not allowed in the room where it resides. I also have spanking sites on my iPad, which I put away if we have visitors.

 

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #652

It's the weekend, and that means it's time for another spanko brunch. When something goes wrong with our computer or laptop, I do everything possible to fix the problem myself. I never like the thought of taking it to a professional who, while fixing the issue, would also be able to see what I have been up to and find out about my spanking interests. That brings us to today's topic.

What steps do you take to ensure that your computer, tablet or phone is safe from the prying eyes of people who shouldn't find out about your interest in spanking?  What would you say if someone accidentally saw your blog or looked at your browser history? Would you make a joke, deny any knowledge, or tell the truth and explain?

Leave your reply as a comment and I will publish a summary of your thoughts once everyone has had a chance to contribute.

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for July 12

Do you have any school-related fantasies to share with us?

Bonnie: Randy and I have played many frustrated teacher / naughty student corporal punishment scenarios. A slow, deliberate sequence of paddle swats delivered while I am bent over and grabbing the desk always improves my attentiveness. At least for a while.

Graham: Indeed, bending over for many swats from a female teacher is a recurring fantasy. Either with a paddle having holes or pants down for a caning. Almost instant erection, if you'll forgive my frankness.

Roz: Never had the experience IRL but it has been the subject of some fantasies and the occasional role play.

Red: Was a fantasy of mine with a beautiful elementary school teacher. Cannot remember what grade but one of the upper elementary school years. Played right into the fantasy of being spanked and then more, that I had read earlier as a youth. She had red hair, was tall, and had a beautiful face and body. I still remember her name, but that is not something to post. 

KDPierre: My story "The Raffle" (at the LSF then search for my name in Authors)) deals precisely with this. It is a fantasy story based around a very real teacher I had and my thoughts about her.

Jean Marie: I dated a college professor years ago (not a teacher of mine) who came home at the end of a semester saying that a female student had come to his office during conference times to say, "I'm failing, Is there any earthly, physical way I can pass your course?" He thought that she was offering sex, but he just told her that it was too late, her grade was so low that even a 100% on the final couldn't help her. Later that night, I came to bed role-playing that student, saying that exact phrase, "Is there any earthly, physical way you can pass me?" He spanked me for my lack of efforts and fucked me in a variety of ways as quid pro quo. We used that phrase throughout the rest of our relationship as a way of introducing strict teacher/errant student role-play, a scenario I LOVE! 

Rosco: Other than my powerful fantasy inspired by Miss Johnston as I described in response to the picture Hermione posted a few days ago, none of my teachers provided both the requisite attractiveness and authority - though I’ve tried.

With Irene, almost all of our activities involve role play and she is very often the teacher. Frequently girls in the class have reported on my misbehavior. Irene has strict rules under various pseudonyms and is not afraid to enforce them. Sometimes she invites the girls to watch a spanking or to observe my corner time.      

Dan: Where I grew up, teachers giving spankings was an all-too-common reality, not a fantasy!

When I was in high school, I did have crushes on teachers, including one that developed into something bordering on an inappropriate relationship. But, while I was developing a thing for older, in-charge women, I didn't connect the dots, and I wasn't into spanking at that time. I had a friend whose mother was a teacher and an incredibly hot one. We all had crushes on her. She was quick to discipline my friend. It was always with grounding, not spanking, but she was very strict about it. If he was grounded for a week, she wouldn't budge by even an hour. Although I sometimes felt bad for him, something about her strictness and resolve was attractive even back then. Now that I'm older and HAVE connected the dots between my thing for older female authority figures and my disciplinary spanking scenes, I definitely fantasize about either of those real-life teachers putting me over their respective knees. 

Prefectdt: When I first started consensual, adult spanking, I very often donned my old, but genuine school uniform, to be corrected by a strict Ms. In my pre-play days, a lot of my fantasies were school based, but never college or university based. I no longer fantasize about that sort of thing now, the age play thing gives me a bit of an “ICK” feeling now. I suppose your mentality changes as you age.

A.J.: 9th grade. Wonderful social studies teacher. But if central casting ever got a call for a 40-something female teacher who looks like she's capable and willing to take a deserving bad boy OTK - that was her!

But my fantasy was a 4-way! Ms. Social Studies addressing the failures of myself and two cute classmates, a blonde and brunette on whom I had severe crushes. Two fantasy scenes:
1. We are all spanked together, same time, cheek-cheek, on bare bottoms.
2. They were the guilty ones, but I volunteer to take their spanking for them that they observe, thus making me a gallant knight.

In each fantasy, they are soooooo appreciative of my gallantry they "reward" me (if-you-know-what-I-mean-and-I-think-you-do.)

Because THAT is how 15-year old boys think!!!

KDPierre: To keep the discussion going, I wanted to observe that there is a definite difference between a "student/teacher fantasy" and a fantasy about a particular real-life student or teacher. And, even with the real-life teacher, there is a huge difference between having a kinky fantasy based on a crush of devotion, and a kinky fantasy triggered by something else. I was wondering if any of those with a real-life inspiration, held that fantasy while not particularly 'liking' the teacher in it?

Rosco: I’d say yes. I didn’t particularly like my literature TA - I was always frustrated by those who expected us to write about deep insights from books.

Many of my other fantasies are being spanked by girls that were not particularly friendly to me - rather arrogantly so, and I thus didn’t like them much.

Robert: Ah, memories of Ms. King, who taught Music Appreciation when I was a freshman in college 55 years ago. Who can forget how she'd use her cello to teach us basic theory. I'd sit close, hoping to catch a glimpse of her panties when she'd get into position. I wasn't as into spanking then as I am now, but the idea that she'd catch me trying to peek up her skirt and call me to her office... well, you can just imagine how sorry I'd be standing in the corner with a red bottom while she played the cello! 

Hermione: In grade seven, I had my first male teacher (aside from two student teachers and the weekly music teacher) who taught us science each day. He was a large, well-built man probably in his thirties. During one class, he admonished us that if we did not turn in our assignment on time, "I will spank." Yes, those were his exact words. I squirmed in my seat. It wasn't the only time either. A week later, he said to another student something to the effect of, "And if you are late, what will I do, Ann?" Ann replied quickly, with a smile, "Spank." "That's right." Phew! Those encounters fed fantasies for the rest of the year.

In grade eleven, our male algebra teacher called on me to supply the answer to an equation he had written on the blackboard. He was probably in his sixties, quite a formidable figure who called us all by our surnames. I gave him an answer, but it was the wrong one. He turned to me and said, "[Surname], sometimes I want to spank you." I'm sure I blushed and wanted to crawl under my desk. For days after, I replayed the scene in my mind, with various endings involving rulers and corners.

Spankings didn't really happen at school, but boys would get the strap across their hands from the principal, or the ruler on their hands from a teacher. Girls got lines and detentions. 

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #651

A couple of days ago I posted an image of a magazine cover featuring a poor student receiving a spanking from her stern professor. Our good friend Rosco left a comment that inspired this week's topic.

Have you ever had a spanking fantasy involving a teacher, professor or student? What about a real-life encounter with one of them, dare I ask?

Please leave your response as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion after everyone has had a chance to contribute. Everyone is welcome at our weekly discussion time, so I hope you will all join in. You may remain anonymous if you wish.

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Back to College

I first saw this picture when I was still at university. I was off for the summer and didn't have a job, so my upstairs neighbour lent me his collection of National Lampoon magazines to pass the time. I was a fan of MAD magazine, so I gladly accepted his offer. I was pleasantly surprised, although i confess I was shocked from time to time. National Lampoon is somewhat like MAD, but much edgier.

Then I found the issue with the above cover. OMG! Really? I was so tempted to keep it, to neglect to return it along with the rest of the issues. Surely the lender wouldn't miss it. 

But maybe he would. So I drooled over the cover for several days, then finally returned it, along  with its fellows. Now, thanks to the miracle of the internet, I can enjoy it whenever I like, and you can too. 

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for July 5

What about wet spankings? Read on:

Bonnie: Yes, we do sometimes. Yes, wet spankings definitely hurt more than dry. Some sessions might be planned in advance, but not by me. More often than not, I think it’s spontaneous. We have a spray bottle that is used to dissuade a cat from causing trouble. Occasionally, when I am over Randy’s lap getting a spanking, he will turn the spritz on me..

At least once, he decided that the ideal implement for a wet spanking was a solid wooden bath brush. He gave me something to think about for a long while afterward.

I don’t encourage this technique, but neither do I resist it. My motto is “Spankings Happen.”

Jack:  Wet spankings hurt the most and knowing you're getting a spanking is just adding to the punishment.

Wendel: Getting spanked in the rain is exciting. It is always fun breaking out the paddle on a hike in the rain. The Misses’ wet bare bottom turning red is quite the turn on. Since the nearest neighbor to our home in Ireland is about ½ mile away the Misses will take me outside on the patio in the rain for a good paddling.
We both agree it stings a lot more when the bottom is wet. 

Roz: Happy belated Canada Day to our Canadian friends and Independence Day to our American friends.

I'm afraid my answer is rather boring. From memory I don't think we have ever had a wet spanking. If anything maybe just after a shower.

Red: No wet spankings have occurred.

Mija: I've only had a few - mostly during or getting out of baths. MO, yes they sting more. In fantasies, I do always imagine them around swimming pools.

CEM: Yes, sometimes. Her, right out of the shower/bath. 

Prefectdt: My planned, wet flogging with my chamois leather flogger got aborted after one very messy stroke. Perhaps one day, if a suitable venue can be found. I have had some genuine, but rare, punishment spankings, involving tight-fitting boxer type undercrackers that have been soaked around the buttock area, not the front. These do make the strokes more painful and have the effect of having strokes delivered very hard, without breaking the skin, which had a good chance of happening if the punishment had been delivered to a bare bottom.

A.J.: From either side of the lap - no. Never happened. God, I’m boring.

Anon: Yes! If my wife needs to apply a really significant punishment --- wants to make sure I REALLY get the message!

She'll order me to kneel on a towel at the side of our bathtub, the bend over the rim and place my forearms and head down in the tub, with my butt raised high, waiting for her.

She'll fill a bucket with cold water and a good measure of dish-soap to break the surface tension, then sponge-down my butt and back of thighs.

Finally, she'll go to work with her rubber tawse. It's everything I can do to stay quiet and maintain position.  Mostly staying quiet, as bent of the rub-rim like that, I have almost no leverage to raise myself back up; she can easily hold me down with one hand while working the tawse with her other arm.

In my experience, a wet rubber strapping is comparable to the worst possible caning; almost as bad as being butt-thrashed shortly after sexual release/relief. (I don't EVEN want to think what a wet rubber strapping WITH sexual release would be like!) 

Hermione: We have a spritz bottle in the bedroom, and Ron likes to spray my spanked bottom to indicate the spanking is over. But it's never used beforehand, so I must say I haven't had a wet bottom spanking. 

Robert: I've gotten a couple of wet spankings, neither planned but, as you not, just happened because I was getting out of the shower. Yes, it hurts more than a dry spanking.
Each time it was because I was in the shower when she learned that I'd failed to complete one of my morning chores such as putting out her lingerie, making the bed, and the like. Rather than let it wait, as soon as I came out she had me bend over, gave me about five or six with her hairbrush, and told me to get dressed and do what I should have done.
Do I recommend it? Well, I do if it works for you!

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