Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for July 19

First of all, I want to thank my readers for their concern regarding the horrendous forest fires here in Canada. Please be assured that we are well away from the actual fires, although the air has been pea soup thick for a couple of days. Unfortunately, a certain president has decided that our fires are a good reason to implement yet more tariffs on all our goods imported by the US. Go figure! Anyway, let's move on.

 

How do you protect your devices from prying eyes?

 

CEM: Someone would have to literally break into my home, and/or hack into my PC to be able to see anything so, I'm not that worried about it. 

 

Dan: I don't do much to secure that kind of material from prying eyes, separate and apart from what I use to protect everything else. My laptop is where I keep almost all such material, and it requires a password or fingerprint access to open.That's really about it. If someone were to get access to my laptop, it would be very easy to stumble on spanking-related material without looking very hard. One browser almost always has tabs open for my blog and the Google mailbox my blogging profile is registered under. There's also a tab open for my Tumblr account, where many of the things I follow are spanking-related.

In addition to my fairly casual approach to guarding my electronic spanking trail, if anyone looked in my bedroom or office closet, they'd find spanking instruments or spanking-related material, and I have a package of old Disciplinary Wives Club videos that I received from one of the co-founders.

So, it wouldn't be hard to find myself "outed" if someone did get a look at my computer or my personal space at home. If that were to happen, at this point I think I would just own up to it and shrug it off. That is a big change from when we started 20+ years ago. Back then, I was very paranoid about anyone learning about this aspect of our relationship. I kept all our spanking instruments, and anything else that was kinky in nature, in a locked trunk, and I did things like posting to my blog only from the Tor browser. Honestly, it was overkill, and I'm at an age where being "outed" would have no impact on anything important, so why worry about it?

 

Jack: The only devise that has such picture is my wife/mommy phone. She has a picture of me facing the wall, with a well spanked bottom. She said she has the picture to remind me to behave and she has shown a few close friends and of course her Mother. To me it is a continuation of the punishment for being naughty, knowing others have seen and worse knowing that my wife/mommy wears the pants in the family.

 

Rosco: Most of my salacious browsing etc. is on my iPad. No one else uses it, but I do usually clear history etc before visiting my kids and older grandchildren. I have a few telling files that are unlikely to be accidentally found.

I have a few things I’ve written on my computer but again they are in folder that nobody would likely stumble onto.

I did get a virus a few years ago and told the tech guy that I’d gotten it at an adult site. I wasn’t embarrassed and figure that happens often.

Again, it’s my kids and grandchildren that I worry about in this regard.

My wife Irene has her own different ways of finding titillation on the internet.

 

Roz: To be honest, I don't do anything above what I do to protect anything anything else. Password and pin protection on my phone and tablet. There is very little chance of anyone else accessing my devices. If anyone should however stumble across something I really don't know what I would say.

 

Red: My computer is password protected, and I rarely have it on when people are in the house. I always watch it turn in sleep mode so a password is needed to get in. The spanking information I have on the computer are buried deep within folders,but now Internet Explorer keeps bringing up files you saved recently. As I am the one that is spanked, I have less fear of us being outed in any way by my computer.

 

Prefectdt: I cannot say that I am too bothered about people seeing the stuff on my computer. I came out years ago and only one person, in my vanilla circle, believed me. Apparently I am not the type. So if any adult saw my stuff, it might help me to be believed. I would not want any children seeing what is on my computer, but there are two codes to keep them out.

 

Wendel: We have one computer that is used for spanking related stuff and nothing else. Personal business, regular surfing and such is done on other computers. The hard drive is encrypted and cannot be accessed if taken out of the computer. The screen locks after 30 seconds of inactivity so there is little chance of anyone seeing anything. 

 

Robert: My wife and I live alone and our computers never leave the house, so we're okay with that. But it's probably important to share that I can only visit sites, blogs, and the like which my wife has pre-approved. When I discovered this one, for example, I immediately sent her the link and asked if I could please visit here regularly. She read it over and, obviously, gave me a thumbs up.

She will look through my browser every week or so (I'm not allowed to clear memory unless I've been banking) and if there's a naughty site I've not been given permission to see, down go my pants/panties and out comes the paddle.

 

Hermione: Like Dan, I am less concerned about being outed now than I was years ago when I was working in an office. We use a desktop computer for our daily activities, and I keep a separate browser just for blogging. Since it's only the two of us, it is not password protected. Our grandchildren are not allowed in the room where it resides. I also have spanking sites on my iPad, which I put away if we have visitors.

 

Slava Ukraini
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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #652

It's the weekend, and that means it's time for another spanko brunch. When something goes wrong with our computer or laptop, I do everything possible to fix the problem myself. I never like the thought of taking it to a professional who, while fixing the issue, would also be able to see what I have been up to and find out about my spanking interests. That brings us to today's topic.

What steps do you take to ensure that your computer, tablet or phone is safe from the prying eyes of people who shouldn't find out about your interest in spanking?  What would you say if someone accidentally saw your blog or looked at your browser history? Would you make a joke, deny any knowledge, or tell the truth and explain?

Leave your reply as a comment and I will publish a summary of your thoughts once everyone has had a chance to contribute.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for July 12

Do you have any school-related fantasies to share with us?

Bonnie: Randy and I have played many frustrated teacher / naughty student corporal punishment scenarios. A slow, deliberate sequence of paddle swats delivered while I am bent over and grabbing the desk always improves my attentiveness. At least for a while.

Graham: Indeed, bending over for many swats from a female teacher is a recurring fantasy. Either with a paddle having holes or pants down for a caning. Almost instant erection, if you'll forgive my frankness.

Roz: Never had the experience IRL but it has been the subject of some fantasies and the occasional role play.

Red: Was a fantasy of mine with a beautiful elementary school teacher. Cannot remember what grade but one of the upper elementary school years. Played right into the fantasy of being spanked and then more, that I had read earlier as a youth. She had red hair, was tall, and had a beautiful face and body. I still remember her name, but that is not something to post. 

KDPierre: My story "The Raffle" (at the LSF then search for my name in Authors)) deals precisely with this. It is a fantasy story based around a very real teacher I had and my thoughts about her.

Jean Marie: I dated a college professor years ago (not a teacher of mine) who came home at the end of a semester saying that a female student had come to his office during conference times to say, "I'm failing, Is there any earthly, physical way I can pass your course?" He thought that she was offering sex, but he just told her that it was too late, her grade was so low that even a 100% on the final couldn't help her. Later that night, I came to bed role-playing that student, saying that exact phrase, "Is there any earthly, physical way you can pass me?" He spanked me for my lack of efforts and fucked me in a variety of ways as quid pro quo. We used that phrase throughout the rest of our relationship as a way of introducing strict teacher/errant student role-play, a scenario I LOVE! 

Rosco: Other than my powerful fantasy inspired by Miss Johnston as I described in response to the picture Hermione posted a few days ago, none of my teachers provided both the requisite attractiveness and authority - though I’ve tried.

With Irene, almost all of our activities involve role play and she is very often the teacher. Frequently girls in the class have reported on my misbehavior. Irene has strict rules under various pseudonyms and is not afraid to enforce them. Sometimes she invites the girls to watch a spanking or to observe my corner time.      

Dan: Where I grew up, teachers giving spankings was an all-too-common reality, not a fantasy!

When I was in high school, I did have crushes on teachers, including one that developed into something bordering on an inappropriate relationship. But, while I was developing a thing for older, in-charge women, I didn't connect the dots, and I wasn't into spanking at that time. I had a friend whose mother was a teacher and an incredibly hot one. We all had crushes on her. She was quick to discipline my friend. It was always with grounding, not spanking, but she was very strict about it. If he was grounded for a week, she wouldn't budge by even an hour. Although I sometimes felt bad for him, something about her strictness and resolve was attractive even back then. Now that I'm older and HAVE connected the dots between my thing for older female authority figures and my disciplinary spanking scenes, I definitely fantasize about either of those real-life teachers putting me over their respective knees. 

Prefectdt: When I first started consensual, adult spanking, I very often donned my old, but genuine school uniform, to be corrected by a strict Ms. In my pre-play days, a lot of my fantasies were school based, but never college or university based. I no longer fantasize about that sort of thing now, the age play thing gives me a bit of an “ICK” feeling now. I suppose your mentality changes as you age.

A.J.: 9th grade. Wonderful social studies teacher. But if central casting ever got a call for a 40-something female teacher who looks like she's capable and willing to take a deserving bad boy OTK - that was her!

But my fantasy was a 4-way! Ms. Social Studies addressing the failures of myself and two cute classmates, a blonde and brunette on whom I had severe crushes. Two fantasy scenes:
1. We are all spanked together, same time, cheek-cheek, on bare bottoms.
2. They were the guilty ones, but I volunteer to take their spanking for them that they observe, thus making me a gallant knight.

In each fantasy, they are soooooo appreciative of my gallantry they "reward" me (if-you-know-what-I-mean-and-I-think-you-do.)

Because THAT is how 15-year old boys think!!!

KDPierre: To keep the discussion going, I wanted to observe that there is a definite difference between a "student/teacher fantasy" and a fantasy about a particular real-life student or teacher. And, even with the real-life teacher, there is a huge difference between having a kinky fantasy based on a crush of devotion, and a kinky fantasy triggered by something else. I was wondering if any of those with a real-life inspiration, held that fantasy while not particularly 'liking' the teacher in it?

Rosco: I’d say yes. I didn’t particularly like my literature TA - I was always frustrated by those who expected us to write about deep insights from books.

Many of my other fantasies are being spanked by girls that were not particularly friendly to me - rather arrogantly so, and I thus didn’t like them much.

Robert: Ah, memories of Ms. King, who taught Music Appreciation when I was a freshman in college 55 years ago. Who can forget how she'd use her cello to teach us basic theory. I'd sit close, hoping to catch a glimpse of her panties when she'd get into position. I wasn't as into spanking then as I am now, but the idea that she'd catch me trying to peek up her skirt and call me to her office... well, you can just imagine how sorry I'd be standing in the corner with a red bottom while she played the cello! 

Hermione: In grade seven, I had my first male teacher (aside from two student teachers and the weekly music teacher) who taught us science each day. He was a large, well-built man probably in his thirties. During one class, he admonished us that if we did not turn in our assignment on time, "I will spank." Yes, those were his exact words. I squirmed in my seat. It wasn't the only time either. A week later, he said to another student something to the effect of, "And if you are late, what will I do, Ann?" Ann replied quickly, with a smile, "Spank." "That's right." Phew! Those encounters fed fantasies for the rest of the year.

In grade eleven, our male algebra teacher called on me to supply the answer to an equation he had written on the blackboard. He was probably in his sixties, quite a formidable figure who called us all by our surnames. I gave him an answer, but it was the wrong one. He turned to me and said, "[Surname], sometimes I want to spank you." I'm sure I blushed and wanted to crawl under my desk. For days after, I replayed the scene in my mind, with various endings involving rulers and corners.

Spankings didn't really happen at school, but boys would get the strap across their hands from the principal, or the ruler on their hands from a teacher. Girls got lines and detentions. 

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #651

A couple of days ago I posted an image of a magazine cover featuring a poor student receiving a spanking from her stern professor. Our good friend Rosco left a comment that inspired this week's topic.

Have you ever had a spanking fantasy involving a teacher, professor or student? What about a real-life encounter with one of them, dare I ask?

Please leave your response as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion after everyone has had a chance to contribute. Everyone is welcome at our weekly discussion time, so I hope you will all join in. You may remain anonymous if you wish.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Back to College

I first saw this picture when I was still at university. I was off for the summer and didn't have a job, so my upstairs neighbour lent me his collection of National Lampoon magazines to pass the time. I was a fan of MAD magazine, so I gladly accepted his offer. I was pleasantly surprised, although i confess I was shocked from time to time. National Lampoon is somewhat like MAD, but much edgier.

Then I found the issue with the above cover. OMG! Really? I was so tempted to keep it, to neglect to return it along with the rest of the issues. Surely the lender wouldn't miss it. 

But maybe he would. So I drooled over the cover for several days, then finally returned it, along  with its fellows. Now, thanks to the miracle of the internet, I can enjoy it whenever I like, and you can too. 

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for July 5

What about wet spankings? Read on:

Bonnie: Yes, we do sometimes. Yes, wet spankings definitely hurt more than dry. Some sessions might be planned in advance, but not by me. More often than not, I think it’s spontaneous. We have a spray bottle that is used to dissuade a cat from causing trouble. Occasionally, when I am over Randy’s lap getting a spanking, he will turn the spritz on me..

At least once, he decided that the ideal implement for a wet spanking was a solid wooden bath brush. He gave me something to think about for a long while afterward.

I don’t encourage this technique, but neither do I resist it. My motto is “Spankings Happen.”

Jack:  Wet spankings hurt the most and knowing you're getting a spanking is just adding to the punishment.

Wendel: Getting spanked in the rain is exciting. It is always fun breaking out the paddle on a hike in the rain. The Misses’ wet bare bottom turning red is quite the turn on. Since the nearest neighbor to our home in Ireland is about ½ mile away the Misses will take me outside on the patio in the rain for a good paddling.
We both agree it stings a lot more when the bottom is wet. 

Roz: Happy belated Canada Day to our Canadian friends and Independence Day to our American friends.

I'm afraid my answer is rather boring. From memory I don't think we have ever had a wet spanking. If anything maybe just after a shower.

Red: No wet spankings have occurred.

Mija: I've only had a few - mostly during or getting out of baths. MO, yes they sting more. In fantasies, I do always imagine them around swimming pools.

CEM: Yes, sometimes. Her, right out of the shower/bath. 

Prefectdt: My planned, wet flogging with my chamois leather flogger got aborted after one very messy stroke. Perhaps one day, if a suitable venue can be found. I have had some genuine, but rare, punishment spankings, involving tight-fitting boxer type undercrackers that have been soaked around the buttock area, not the front. These do make the strokes more painful and have the effect of having strokes delivered very hard, without breaking the skin, which had a good chance of happening if the punishment had been delivered to a bare bottom.

A.J.: From either side of the lap - no. Never happened. God, I’m boring.

Anon: Yes! If my wife needs to apply a really significant punishment --- wants to make sure I REALLY get the message!

She'll order me to kneel on a towel at the side of our bathtub, the bend over the rim and place my forearms and head down in the tub, with my butt raised high, waiting for her.

She'll fill a bucket with cold water and a good measure of dish-soap to break the surface tension, then sponge-down my butt and back of thighs.

Finally, she'll go to work with her rubber tawse. It's everything I can do to stay quiet and maintain position.  Mostly staying quiet, as bent of the rub-rim like that, I have almost no leverage to raise myself back up; she can easily hold me down with one hand while working the tawse with her other arm.

In my experience, a wet rubber strapping is comparable to the worst possible caning; almost as bad as being butt-thrashed shortly after sexual release/relief. (I don't EVEN want to think what a wet rubber strapping WITH sexual release would be like!) 

Hermione: We have a spritz bottle in the bedroom, and Ron likes to spray my spanked bottom to indicate the spanking is over. But it's never used beforehand, so I must say I haven't had a wet bottom spanking. 

Robert: I've gotten a couple of wet spankings, neither planned but, as you not, just happened because I was getting out of the shower. Yes, it hurts more than a dry spanking.
Each time it was because I was in the shower when she learned that I'd failed to complete one of my morning chores such as putting out her lingerie, making the bed, and the like. Rather than let it wait, as soon as I came out she had me bend over, gave me about five or six with her hairbrush, and told me to get dressed and do what I should have done.
Do I recommend it? Well, I do if it works for you!

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #650

Welcome back to another weekend spanko brunch, when we get together to discuss all things spanking. First of all, I want to wish all my Canadian friends a belated Happy Canada Day. To all my American readers, Happy Independence Day.

This is a topic that has been addressed a few times in the past, but in view of the hot weather, it might be nice to cool off.

Do you ever have wet spankings? Is it true for you that they hurt more? Is it planned in advance, or is it the unintentional result of a bath, shower, or swim? Is it something you encourage or do you try to avoid it?

Leave your response as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish a summary of our discussion.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for June 28

Mirrors in your spankings? Let's see.

Bonnie: Yes. Here’s an episode with mirrors that I logged twenty years ago this week.

Since then, my dear Randy has gone digital. He has video recording equipment that can be set up to stream to my tablet in real time. He enjoys this sort of fun a bit more than I do. But who am I to interfere?

I still frequently employ our mirrors to survey the damage my bottom has absorbed immediately after he spanks me. 

Wendel: No mirrors here. Everything left to the imagination during and surprise after the spanking.

Rosco: At our new house there’s a sliding glass door mirror, so I’ve watched Irene spank me on occasion. More to the point, she’ll often instruct me to look at my hot bottom after a spanking as she teases and mocks me - all in great fun.

Roz: No mirrors during a spanking but I usually take the opportunity to use the mirror afterwards to check out the evidence 😊

Norse Cavalier: I've wanted to spank a woman in front of a mirror so that she can see her own face during the spanking, as I've told it makes it extra embarrassing for them, but haven't had a chance to actually do it yet. One more for the list of "If I ever have the opportunity..."

A.J.: We have all seen pics and clips (mostly) of the face of someone being spanked, but I can't recall where the spankee got to see her own face.

It was a British media photo I found while recently cleaning up my computer; a lovely thing bent over a stool as she is corrected in the timeless fashion.
Nothing special or unusual - until I noticed the LARGE (guessing 18x18") mirror on the floor. She could see HER FACE as she was spanked! And I had never heard or even thought of that! A mirror against a wall or a mirrored door so the victim can witness their spanking, sure (Never did that either.) But flat on the floor?

The owner of that spanked tush could see her (his) own facial reaction to each spank for the duration. Not an every-time thing; but the occasional, "Go get the mirror" might be a bit of fun.

I don't know if this is physically possible, but it also has the advantage of the spanker able to look at the poor victims face as he spanks, better able to judge limits and effects.

Anyone want to try it out and let us know?

Donn: AJ: Read my own description below of how my wife sometimes sets me up. It seems pretty close to what you describe, excepts the mirror is usually angled enough so that I can see my wife's face -- angled too much to see my own face, but my wife can certainly see it!

Yes, we sometimes use a mirror, most commonly when I'm restrained.

It's positioned so that when I'm being thrashed I can look in the mirror and observe my wife behind me -- her face, and her demeanor. She's usually has a very "serious" and "determined" expression! Of course, with that position, she can easily see my face while she works-over my butt -- she's never told me what my face looks like, but I suspect she uses my expressions to guide her thrashing and intensity.

Sometimes my wife will also place me into the "diaper position," with my arms/hands tied wide to either side of me, and my legs/ankles pulled high-and-back. She'll stand near my waist, lecturing and scolding me as she thrashes down on my butt. (If it didn't hurt so much, and was so effective, us watching each other like that would be quite arousing [maybe she does get aroused -- she certainly can work up a sweat!].) 

Red: Remember once in our hotel their was a mirror, but barely looked at it, because my head is usually downward OTK, and thus not easy to see. Plus, rather distracted by the spanking than trying to watch it. The idea of a mirror on the ground is quite a unique thought. We might try that. I am always instructted to look at my spanked bottom in a mirror after the spanking. 

Prefectdt: A lot of pay to play spankings that I have experienced have taken place in rooms with multiple mirrors. Sometimes so many that the only way of not looking at one was to close my eyes.  

Jack: No mirror, but one time my mother-in-law took a short video of my wife/mommy spanking me and making comments how I was acting like a little boy. I was kicking, squirming, pleading with Mommy to stop. She still has it and every once in awhile I have been told by my wife/mommy she shows it to some of her friends. The best part is me facing the wall with my spanked bottom on display.

Barrel: We have never used a mirror but I love the idea, especially when we do a session. I commonly try to look over my shoulder to see what implement is coming next...not sure why because I have a pretty good guess after the first stroke. But I really like the comment about watching my wife's facial expressions. Not sure how that works in otk, but I'm up for trying it.  

Hermione: There is a mirror in the bedroom positioned behind me as I'm benr over the bed. I can't see my tush in it without turning around, so maybe I should invest in a large hand-held mirror so I can see my reflection in the other mirror. 
    

Slava Ukraini
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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #649

Welcome to our weekly discussion time. Today I have an exciting topic suggested by our good friend A.J. I hadn't thought of this before, so I wonder what your observations will be.

Have you ever used a mirror during a spanking? If so, is it placed so that the spankee's bottom is visible to them? What about placing the mirror so that the spankee can watch their face? If you haven't tried this, does it give you any ideas?

Please leave your reply as a comment. When everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish a summary of our discussion. 

 

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Look Who's Back

 

I have some great news for you. After a well-earned vacation and some world travelling, our very good friend Red is back. His new blog is "Fun Thoughts on The Thing We Do". It's a must read for fans of spanking, and yes, Cindy still wields the paddle very effectively.

Do drop in to read his latest posts and leave a comment. You will receive a warm welcome!

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for June 21

Do you ever engage in age play?

Red: No age play here! Simply a spanking for misbehavior, or relieving stress, or a reminder of how to participate when seeing other couples (talk less, listen more).  

Dan: Not age play per se, but we do talk quite a bit about a "maternal" dynamic, with her disciplining me like a mother a generation or so back might have a misbehaving teen.

CEM: Negative. Never have, never will. 

Roz: We did have a very mild Daddy/lg dynamic for a period years ago. It was never serious and surfaced occasionally. It was never incorporated into spanking.

Jack: The reason I call my wife Mommy is she stated she would not be a Mother to me, but my Mommy, there is a difference she states. Mommy rules the house, and her mother told her males are little boys in adult bodies. I will call her Mommy until told otherwise. 

Anon: In a way, yes, we do. We don't consciously try to act like a child, but we do assume the roles of parental authority figure and the young person under that authority being punished. The purpose of the spanking is to punish for something done growing up that went unpunished at the time. We do not call it age "play" because the crime was actually committed and the consequences are now deserved. We follow rituals that are similar to how we were punished by our parents years ago, so it feels like going back in time to what might have happened if fate had been different. We do not wear costumes per se, but the spanker does dress the part. My wife has a retro-like dress and attire that makes her look matronly, and I wear a suit like her father wore when he got home from work. The important thing is getting into the mindset and making it real. Afterwards, fate has been altered, and we can never again say we got away with that misbehavior.

Rosco: Pretty much every time. We never mention a number but I’m about 14. Irene is anywhere from 14 to 40.

She’ll dress as a sexy little tart, then punish me for looking. Or she might be a teacher, dressed prim and proper, lecturing and spanking me. Or a million other personalities. Sometimes she’ll change her clothes several times over the course of a few hours.

Activities subsequent to discipline take place under her skirt or dress, something that seems to work for me.

Wendel: The Misses bought a school girl costume years ago. If I come home and she is wearing it then we pretend she was bad in school and needs to be spanked.

Prefectdt: Way back in history, when dinosaurs roamed the earth, and I was still a bright and shiny 18-year-old, new to adult spanking, I would very often don my genuine school uniform. Along with my genuine prefect's badge (note my name). I would joy in playing the errant schoolboy in need of disciplining. This ended when my uniform started to wear out, and I was faced with the task of buying replacement clothes. I was in my early 20s by then and decided to leave the school boy thing in the past. If a play partner wants to do an age play related scene, I am happy to play along, but no longer seek age play shenanigans.

A.J.: No. Not a fan of it. And no one ever asked me to. (God, am I dull....)

Does this count...?

I remember once trying to teach a woman I had been spanking to return the favor and spank me. Give/take. Fair's fair, right?

She was terrible!!! I told her to imagine I was a 5th grade bad boy who needed one and she was the adult in the room who was responsible for giving one.

She was terrible. So bad we stopped, I put her otk and delivered her 10 firm one, "Like that." Then switched positions with her.

She was still terrible! She didn't know what spanking a "bad boy" was because she had never given/seen/heard of one! And she was old enough to have teen children!

I gave up.

Hermione: It's not for us. At one time I might have enjoyed the fantasy of an older, stern father figure spanking me, but those days are long gone. Spanking for us is purely for enjoyment.          

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #648

Welcome back, one and all, to our regular weekly spanko brunch. This weekend is Father's Day in many countries, and that inspired today's topic.

Do you ever engage in age play as part of your spanking experience? That is, does the spanker ever assume the role of a parent or other adult authority figure, and the spankee the role of a young person? If so, does it include special costumes or rituals?

Please leave your reply as a comment. When everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish a summary of our discussion.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Three Word Meme

Our dear friend Ronnie posted this meme last week, and I want to try it too. The answers must have only three words, and that's not as easy as it sounds.

1. Where is your cell phone?  - In my purse

2. Boyfriend/girlfriend? - Ron's the one

3. Hair? - Needs a touchup

4. Your favorite item(s)? - My own iPad

5. Your dream last night? - Shopping in Toronto

6. Your favorite drink? - Earl Grey tea

7. Your dream guy/girl?  - Changes every night

8. The room you are in? - Our computer room

9. Your fear? - Heights and spiders

10. What do you want to be in 10 years? - Able to blog

11. Do you have pictures of your spanked bottom - No way, Jose

12. What's outside your window? - Busy bird feeder

13. One of your wish list items? - German chocolate cake

14. What time is it? - Exactly eight fifteen

15. What are you wearing?  - Tee and leggings

16. Your favorite book?  - Pride and Prejudice

17. The last thing you ate? - steak and mushrooms

18. Your life? - Just fine, thanks

19. Your car? - lovely blue Lexus

20. What are you doing at this moment? - This silly meme

21 Your summer? - Not started yet

22. Travel plans? - Staying at home

23. What is on your TV screen? - MS NOW news

24. Last time you cried? - Can't remember when

25. School? - Had to go

26. Sport at school - Not an athlete

27. Least favourite spanking implement - Hand made switch

28, Who did you hang out with last night - Ron and dogs

29. Favourite colour - Blue, baby, blue

30. Lake or Ocean - Lake (no sharks!)

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for June 14

Broken implements? Read on!

Bonnie: I still love this question. My dear Randy has become more selective when choosing the implements he uses to spank me. I get fewer opportunities to gloat over spanking contest victories. There are several items in our toy box that outlast my bottom every single time.

But it happens. While decluttering our basement, he found a wooden wall hanging that used to be in his mother’s family room. His twisted mind immediately concluded it needed to be a paddle. And so it was, for about ten hard swats. When I heard it split, I burst into giggles. So much for that punishment session and any semblance of seriousness.

I still got spanked after he found a more reliable paddle, but his best efforts did little to mute my amusement.

Roz: I love this question too! We had a novel flogger years ago that slowly deteriorated so we discarded it, along with a novelty crop.

There was an occasion Rick was using a cane for a serious spanking and was giving quite the lecture during when I heard snap. That was it, we were both in fits of laughter. He did recover enough to continue, but, as Bonnie said, the spanking lost any seriousness at that point.

Barrel: Nope, despite thorough use over 30 years. The only evidence of deterioration our toys show are fraying leather at the end of a strap and two riding crops.

CEM: I've broken wood spoons/spatulas, paddles, canes, switches, knocked the tip off a riding crop, so, yes. But, being "dedicated" as I am, I just grabbed some other implement, and carried on.

Wendel: We bought a Mickey Mouse hand spatula in a gift shop when we visited Disney World a few years ago. I gave the Misses a few whacks with it in the hotel room and it broke. We did not have the nerve to bring it back for a refund.
The real implements designed for beating butts have held the test of time. 

Red: We had a leather metal studded paddle that had a heart shaped hole in the middle. It sort of came apart after many years of using, and the spanking ended. We loved that paddle, as Cindy liked using it in the same spot to make a white heart on my red bottom.   

Rosco: Several times, and yes the spanking continued each time. A couple of riding crops have fallen apart, a leather ping pong paddle.

And several hand cut switches of course - they’re not meant to last.

Ronnie: Ha, yes we have had a couple of implements break. Not serious ones. One was a thin paddle (don’t think it was made of wood) that broke in half that made us both laugh. The spanking didn’t carry on.

Prefectdt: More toys have met their end, coming up against my buttocks, than I care to remember. Mostly it has been pervertables. The last one was a spatula, but my bottom is the legendary graveyard of hairbrushes; they seldom stay the course, once the game is on. Several rattan canes have lost their tips encountering my spanked zone, and one shattered once, but it was over 20 years old (I purchased it in the 1980s). I usually laugh when this happens and yes, the spanking always continues, sometimes because I laughed.     

A.J.: “Had an implement break?”

That would be my hand, so no. (Or her hand if laps are flipped.

We avoid using implements preferring the more intimate hand. On rare occasions a LIGHT strap might be used if my/her hand starts to hurt, a strap picked more for its “slap” sound than anything else.

Yes. Boring. Need to get out more.

Graham: A paddle from a curiosity shop broke. Switches wear out, as mentioned above. Nothing else that I can recall. 

KDPierre: Yes, a lucite paddle we had thought was indestructible broke off at the neck. The spanking continued with another, but not without a good laugh in between. Rosa also took a picture of the broken paddle lying on my beaten butt for posterior posterity. Naturally I made her a new one (with an improved design) and that one has been in faithful service ever since.   

Hermione: We have broken several implements, but the funniest time was when Ron used a wooden spoon on my bare bottom. Afterward, we were in the middle of some erotic activity when we heard a loud "Crack". Ron had left the spoon on the bed and he had lain on it and broken it. He said there were plenty more in the kitchen, and we carried on, giggling.

He has also split a hairbrush and broken a rattan carpet beater while spanking me. The spankings didn't stop; he merely switched to a different implement.  

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #647

Welcome, one and all, to our weekly spanko brunch. You're just in time for what I hope will be a lively discussion. Today's topic is one I found down in the vault where the archives of My Bottom Smarts are stored. I dusted it off and it is just as timely today as it was in 2007.

Have you or your partner ever had an implement break during a spanking? If so, how did it happen? What were your reactions? Did the spanking continue?

Leave your reply as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to respond, I will publish a summary of our discussion.

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You've Gotta Read This

Our good friend Sore has written a novel that's a tribute to our late friend and mentor Devlin O'Neill. Uncle Ar the Disciplinarian is a must-read! I hope you will check it out and leave a comment.Writing a novel of this magnitude takes a lot of time and effort. Links to Amazon for non-US readers are here.

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for June 9

We talked about the length of time spankings take.

Jack: I have no say in how long the spanking is. My wife/mommy does not even know how long the spanking is. It depends on what I did and how I react while being spanked. 

Wendel: There are times I will set the timer for 5 plus minutes when I give the Misses a hand spanking. Once it starts it does not stop. She squirms a lot and will have tears in her eyes but It does not end until the timer goes off and every inch of her bottom is bright red.
The Misses can drag a paddling out for a long time if I am bent over the end of the bed. She will give me a dozen whacks and then go do something else in the room. It can be several minutes before I get more whacks. The wait is exhilarating. Just as I get over the sting and pain she returns and beats my bottom some more. This can go on for 30 minutes or more and I cannot get up until she says so. 

Rosco: On average, I get 3 spankings 20 or 30 minutes apart - each with maybe 20 whacks lasting 3 minutes or so. Just a guess, I’ve never counted or timed it. Often I’m tied up.

Norse Cavalier: The longest spanking I've ever given was three hours - not very hard, mostly hand, some paddle. Quite enjoyable for us both. Most spankings last about an hour, I think, but that's mostly fun spankings; punishment spankings are shorter and a lot harder.

Luvinhub: I don't believe my wife ever timed my spankings but I would guess around 30 minutes. In the moment it was usually long enough but in reality I believe she should have spanked me much longer.

Prefectdt: My spankings usually last between an hour and an hour and a half. Sometimes half an hour. An hour and a bit is often ideal, as I do like a certain level of severity and longer spankings would be hard to bear. I have been spanked for longer periods, but there are typically long breaks during the time of this type of play, it is not continuous.

KDPierre: Oddly, Rosa and I don't go by time but rather number, with a target number sort of decreed with the understanding that number might be exceeded a bit or perhaps, though less frequently, lessened as the spanking progresses.

High numbers are not unusual here, (1000+) and often very high numbers are divided up into a series of more manageable instalments, which can be a mixed blessing and curse. The more typical spankings are in the "quick 50" to solid 250-300 range.

Bonnie: Duration is Randy’s decision and he’s all over the map. Time is just one factor in deciding the severity of a spanking. Just a minute or two with a wooden bath brush at top speed and full intensity is far more painful, both during and after, than a steady 30 minute spanking with the leather paddle.

While I don’t get a choice, I do have preferences and they vary over time as well. Sometimes, I just want to take my position and get it over. In other cases, I like the detailed choreography, the build up, and the slow reveal of an inescapable punishment.

As for the longest spanking I’ve received, that depends upon one’s definition of a spanking. He has spanked me several times during a day where each session began where the last one left off (I totally deserved it). It seemed like one spanking to me and if you accept that premise, I guess my longest could span seven or eight hours.

A.J.: Obviously, I'm an amateur here, but I go by color, not time. When she's a nice pink I stop and proceed with the TLC+. When it's me on the receiving end I'm pretty sure it's the same.

In general it's about time time it take to deliver about (guessing) 250-300 hand spanks.
At top speed (where it hurts a bit more) 300 = 2 1/2 minutes.
At sensual speed 300 = 5 minutes + pauses for TLC.
At "Ain't this fun?" speed = 30 minutes?       

Dan: I think length does matter, and there are times that, when a spanking is done, I feel like it wasn't quite long enough to leave me feeling like the issue that earned me the trip over her lap was fully dealt with. But numbness puts a hard limit on most of my spankings. Somewhere around 5 - 6 minutes, my butt starts going numb and, after that, continuing to spank seems pointless. I have come to appreciate, however, the role longer spankings play in leaving soreness that lasts for days. Five to six minutes is probably our average, but the time element is probably less relevant than the number of swats Most of my spankings are with a combination of the bath brush and a heavy ebony hairbrush, with a heavy emphasis on the bath brush. The typical number of swats/strikes per session are around 200 - 300. 

Graham: Best guess is usually 45 minutes or more, but obviously not continuously.

Roz: It does vary quite a bit depending on the circumstances, mood etc. I would say on average 20 minutes.

Hermione: Ron aims for a finish time, so length of time doesn't enter into it for him. He watches the clock, and when it reaches the three quarter hour, he stops. The spanking might start on the half hour, or five minutes later, but it doesn't matter. He stops at 4:45 pm. 

Like Dan, I get numb after about five minutes, so long spankings don't do anything for me. 

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #646

Welcome to our first spanko brunch for June. Today we will be pondering that age-old question: does length really matter? The length of a spanking, that is.

How long do your spankings usually last? Would you prefer them to be longer or shorter, or are they just right? What is the longest spanking you have ever participated in?

Leave your response as a comment and I will publish your thoughts once everyone has had a chance to speak.

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for May 31

We talked about spanking for punishment. Was there a time when you should have been spanked, but weren't?

Rosco: When Irene is truly annoyed with me, she ignores me. I don’t think it’s intentional punishment, but it feels that way.

Spankings are generally for imaginary infractions like being distracted by schoolgirls or maybe not doing my homework (ageplay, they call it). Occasionally she’ll threaten a spanking for not doing something around the house, but I don’t think it ever happens.

I fantasize about real discipline, but I don’t think I’m interested.

Roz: There have been a few occasions when I thought a spanking was forthcoming but it didn't happen.

Jack: If I think I will not be spanked and got away with it, I know I'm kidding myself. My wife/mommy has told me she needs to 'cool' off and just calm down.

KDPierre: I think this happens to just about everyone (in a disciplinary relationship) over time. It's just how life works. Things pop up, get in the way, and then the moment is lost and you either try to revisit it another time or just move on. Living this type of lifestyle is complicated, especially over the long haul, so I think it's best to focus on the positives and let go of the occasional, and inevitable, "what could have beens". 

Prefectdt: The problem is for me that, although I pretend to see spankings as punishment, really I see them as a reward. So yes, there have been lots of times when I have achieved hard to do or difficult things, when I feel that I have truly earned a “well done” spanking, but there is no one around to give me one. Just life, I suppose.     

Barrel: We don't really use spanking as punishment, although our sessions do take on a stern and reprimanding tone. There have definitely been times when I deserved discipline and didn't get it right away. We tend to work things out but remember to reinforce the outcome at the end of her cane when we schedule a session.

TTWD: My experience is similar to KDPierre's. Many (most) of my spankings are disciplinary, but sometimes we just continue doing what we are doing, and by the next day, although I might remember why (or not), Cindy has forgotten. Cindy's spankings have become really effective and strong, similar to what you used to describe for your spankings. At that time, Cindy felt they were too strong, but if she would read them now, she would realize they are the appropriate level needed, and what she gives me, or ours are even stronger. 

Graham: Absolutely! But not everything in life is perfect. And spankings are hardly the only important thing in our lives. 

Bonnie: Yes, definitely. But I usually get that spanking eventually.

A.J.: Did you ever feel you really deserved a spanking, but didn't get one?

No. But did really WANT a spanking, but didn't get one?
Yes.
Give a spanking, but didn't get to?
Also yes.

Was there an alternative punishment, or did the issue get resolved in another way?

I don't believe in punishment spanking unless it is part of playing so, not a good question for me.

Ronnie: Yes, definitely. But things get in the way and the spanking doesn’t happen.

Hermione: For us, spankings are a reward, not a punishment.  If Ron is mad at me, he will postpone our spanking until he's in a better mood.

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #645

Welcome to another weekend spanko brunch. Grab a sandwich, pour yourself a cup of coffee, and take a seat on one of the padded chairs.

We all spank for different reasons, and not everyone engages in them for punishment. However, there are times when only a spanking will do.

Did you ever feel you really deserved a spanking, but didn't get one? Was there an alternative punishment, or did the issue get resolved in another way?

Leave your reply as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish a summary of our discussion.

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for May 24

What can you tell us about self-spanking? This proved to be a popular topic and we have several new friends who joined us this week. 

MrBill: I self spank, flagellate, etc. frequently. I just don't get enough from my wife despite my requests and encouragement over the years. I don't masturbate anymore, but when she is away I whip, flog, cane myself. Sometimes bent over on the butt, sometimes inner thighs. Usually with implements including leather strap, belt, flogger, crop, cane, wooden paddle.

Rosco: Yes. For me it was underwhelming. I tried a riding crop. Yes I was by myself.

Any spanking without a lecture is unfulfilling.

Obviously we’re all different.

Bonnie: Yes, at Randy’s direction, but it wasn’t as satisfying as the real thing. I recall making the comment, “Do I have to do everything?”

Roz: I have tried it on the odd occasion when I've been alone. Definitely not as fulfilling as the real thing for me either.

TTWD: I tried a couple of times long ago, but definitely unsatisfying! I need to be spanked, not self spanked.

Wendel: Spanking for us is all about fun and intimacy. Without someone to be part of the experience a spanking is not satisfying.
We put a couple of spins on it by self-spanking when the other was present. For the first we each took turns while the other stood outside the bedroom listening. The second was self-spanking while the other was in the room. I did enjoy watching her whack her bottom and being critiqued by the Misses was a turn on. If a good enough job was not done then a proper spanking followed which happened to be every time.    

Ronnie: Only to tease P.

Prefectdt: Yes I have self-spanked a lot, although I do not get much joy out of it. There can be a long break between spankings and self-spanking helps to keep my butt in order and helps me to keep a decent pain tolerance; it is not done for fun.

I have used plenty of things to self-spank, but the best seems to be a 2 foot (60 cm), peeled, German style rattan cane. By learning to use a flick of the wrist, rather than an arm swing, you can get a respectably stinging stroke. Also, it is not too noisy, so the radio does not need turning up too loud. Usually I am leaning forward over my dining table, supporting myself with my left hand, when this happens.

For a mentally satisfying self-spank, a medical EMS/TENS unit is often attached to my buttocks and set on a half hour pre-program, with the strength of pulse set way too high for normal medical use. This is not as good as a real spanking, but it does help me keep in mental trim, when real spankings are thin on the ground. I can just lie on my front on the bed and mentally absorb the pain, without having to do something myself, as the procedure is endured.

A.J.: Have you ever tried self-spanking?
Yes. And it appears - I'm not the only one!

If so, under what circumstances?
I was bored, felt like I needed it, and no spank buddy was handy.

Were you alone or with another person?
WHAT?? No! More proof I'm the impressionable virgin in this group.

Did you use an implement?
Hand. When that proved to be Meh..., my belt.

What position did you find most effective?
In bed and 'perched' over a BIG stack of pillows to get the more-perfect angle for the job.

Reading the comments it appears the answer is "Yes," but it is unfulfilling.

I got a smile from Wendel's comments. I wish I told my spanking GF that, before I took her OTK, that she go into her bedroom alone, go over a stack of pillows, and spank her bare bottom to warm her tush up before the OTK fun. And adding, "Leave the door open! Make sure I hear it!"

I need to get out more.     

Graham: Several times when alone. Better than nothing, but that's a pretty low bar!

Kiki: I never self spanked before but I decided to try it a few minutes ago. I barely felt it and didn't enjoy it.   

Hermione: Nope, never done it. Well, I might have tried it once, but it isn't easy and it hurts! 

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