Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for June 28

Mirrors in your spankings? Let's see.

Bonnie: Yes. Here’s an episode with mirrors that I logged twenty years ago this week.

Since then, my dear Randy has gone digital. He has video recording equipment that can be set up to stream to my tablet in real time. He enjoys this sort of fun a bit more than I do. But who am I to interfere?

I still frequently employ our mirrors to survey the damage my bottom has absorbed immediately after he spanks me. 

Wendel: No mirrors here. Everything left to the imagination during and surprise after the spanking.

Rosco: At our new house there’s a sliding glass door mirror, so I’ve watched Irene spank me on occasion. More to the point, she’ll often instruct me to look at my hot bottom after a spanking as she teases and mocks me - all in great fun.

Roz: No mirrors during a spanking but I usually take the opportunity to use the mirror afterwards to check out the evidence 😊

Norse Cavalier: I've wanted to spank a woman in front of a mirror so that she can see her own face during the spanking, as I've told it makes it extra embarrassing for them, but haven't had a chance to actually do it yet. One more for the list of "If I ever have the opportunity..."

A.J.: We have all seen pics and clips (mostly) of the face of someone being spanked, but I can't recall where the spankee got to see her own face.

It was a British media photo I found while recently cleaning up my computer; a lovely thing bent over a stool as she is corrected in the timeless fashion.
Nothing special or unusual - until I noticed the LARGE (guessing 18x18") mirror on the floor. She could see HER FACE as she was spanked! And I had never heard or even thought of that! A mirror against a wall or a mirrored door so the victim can witness their spanking, sure (Never did that either.) But flat on the floor?

The owner of that spanked tush could see her (his) own facial reaction to each spank for the duration. Not an every-time thing; but the occasional, "Go get the mirror" might be a bit of fun.

I don't know if this is physically possible, but it also has the advantage of the spanker able to look at the poor victims face as he spanks, better able to judge limits and effects.

Anyone want to try it out and let us know?

Donn: AJ: Read my own description below of how my wife sometimes sets me up. It seems pretty close to what you describe, excepts the mirror is usually angled enough so that I can see my wife's face -- angled too much to see my own face, but my wife can certainly see it!

Yes, we sometimes use a mirror, most commonly when I'm restrained.

It's positioned so that when I'm being thrashed I can look in the mirror and observe my wife behind me -- her face, and her demeanor. She's usually has a very "serious" and "determined" expression! Of course, with that position, she can easily see my face while she works-over my butt -- she's never told me what my face looks like, but I suspect she uses my expressions to guide her thrashing and intensity.

Sometimes my wife will also place me into the "diaper position," with my arms/hands tied wide to either side of me, and my legs/ankles pulled high-and-back. She'll stand near my waist, lecturing and scolding me as she thrashes down on my butt. (If it didn't hurt so much, and was so effective, us watching each other like that would be quite arousing [maybe she does get aroused -- she certainly can work up a sweat!].) 

Red: Remember once in our hotel their was a mirror, but barely looked at it, because my head is usually downward OTK, and thus not easy to see. Plus, rather distracted by the spanking than trying to watch it. The idea of a mirror on the ground is quite a unique thought. We might try that. I am always instructted to look at my spanked bottom in a mirror after the spanking. 

Prefectdt: A lot of pay to play spankings that I have experienced have taken place in rooms with multiple mirrors. Sometimes so many that the only way of not looking at one was to close my eyes.  

Jack: No mirror, but one time my mother-in-law took a short video of my wife/mommy spanking me and making comments how I was acting like a little boy. I was kicking, squirming, pleading with Mommy to stop. She still has it and every once in awhile I have been told by my wife/mommy she shows it to some of her friends. The best part is me facing the wall with my spanked bottom on display.

Barrel: We have never used a mirror but I love the idea, especially when we do a session. I commonly try to look over my shoulder to see what implement is coming next...not sure why because I have a pretty good guess after the first stroke. But I really like the comment about watching my wife's facial expressions. Not sure how that works in otk, but I'm up for trying it.  

Hermione: There is a mirror in the bedroom positioned behind me as I'm benr over the bed. I can't see my tush in it without turning around, so maybe I should invest in a large hand-held mirror so I can see my reflection in the other mirror. 
    

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #649

Welcome to our weekly discussion time. Today I have an exciting topic suggested by our good friend A.J. I hadn't thought of this before, so I wonder what your observations will be.

Have you ever used a mirror during a spanking? If so, is it placed so that the spankee's bottom is visible to them? What about placing the mirror so that the spankee can watch their face? If you haven't tried this, does it give you any ideas?

Please leave your reply as a comment. When everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish a summary of our discussion. 

 

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Look Who's Back

 

I have some great news for you. After a well-earned vacation and some world travelling, our very good friend Red is back. His new blog is "Fun Thoughts on The Thing We Do". It's a must read for fans of spanking, and yes, Cindy still wields the paddle very effectively.

Do drop in to read his latest posts and leave a comment. You will receive a warm welcome!

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for June 21

Do you ever engage in age play?

Red: No age play here! Simply a spanking for misbehavior, or relieving stress, or a reminder of how to participate when seeing other couples (talk less, listen more).  

Dan: Not age play per se, but we do talk quite a bit about a "maternal" dynamic, with her disciplining me like a mother a generation or so back might have a misbehaving teen.

CEM: Negative. Never have, never will. 

Roz: We did have a very mild Daddy/lg dynamic for a period years ago. It was never serious and surfaced occasionally. It was never incorporated into spanking.

Jack: The reason I call my wife Mommy is she stated she would not be a Mother to me, but my Mommy, there is a difference she states. Mommy rules the house, and her mother told her males are little boys in adult bodies. I will call her Mommy until told otherwise. 

Anon: In a way, yes, we do. We don't consciously try to act like a child, but we do assume the roles of parental authority figure and the young person under that authority being punished. The purpose of the spanking is to punish for something done growing up that went unpunished at the time. We do not call it age "play" because the crime was actually committed and the consequences are now deserved. We follow rituals that are similar to how we were punished by our parents years ago, so it feels like going back in time to what might have happened if fate had been different. We do not wear costumes per se, but the spanker does dress the part. My wife has a retro-like dress and attire that makes her look matronly, and I wear a suit like her father wore when he got home from work. The important thing is getting into the mindset and making it real. Afterwards, fate has been altered, and we can never again say we got away with that misbehavior.

Rosco: Pretty much every time. We never mention a number but I’m about 14. Irene is anywhere from 14 to 40.

She’ll dress as a sexy little tart, then punish me for looking. Or she might be a teacher, dressed prim and proper, lecturing and spanking me. Or a million other personalities. Sometimes she’ll change her clothes several times over the course of a few hours.

Activities subsequent to discipline take place under her skirt or dress, something that seems to work for me.

Wendel: The Misses bought a school girl costume years ago. If I come home and she is wearing it then we pretend she was bad in school and needs to be spanked.

Prefectdt: Way back in history, when dinosaurs roamed the earth, and I was still a bright and shiny 18-year-old, new to adult spanking, I would very often don my genuine school uniform. Along with my genuine prefect's badge (note my name). I would joy in playing the errant schoolboy in need of disciplining. This ended when my uniform started to wear out, and I was faced with the task of buying replacement clothes. I was in my early 20s by then and decided to leave the school boy thing in the past. If a play partner wants to do an age play related scene, I am happy to play along, but no longer seek age play shenanigans.

A.J.: No. Not a fan of it. And no one ever asked me to. (God, am I dull....)

Does this count...?

I remember once trying to teach a woman I had been spanking to return the favor and spank me. Give/take. Fair's fair, right?

She was terrible!!! I told her to imagine I was a 5th grade bad boy who needed one and she was the adult in the room who was responsible for giving one.

She was terrible. So bad we stopped, I put her otk and delivered her 10 firm one, "Like that." Then switched positions with her.

She was still terrible! She didn't know what spanking a "bad boy" was because she had never given/seen/heard of one! And she was old enough to have teen children!

I gave up.

Hermione: It's not for us. At one time I might have enjoyed the fantasy of an older, stern father figure spanking me, but those days are long gone. Spanking for us is purely for enjoyment.          

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #648

Welcome back, one and all, to our regular weekly spanko brunch. This weekend is Father's Day in many countries, and that inspired today's topic.

Do you ever engage in age play as part of your spanking experience? That is, does the spanker ever assume the role of a parent or other adult authority figure, and the spankee the role of a young person? If so, does it include special costumes or rituals?

Please leave your reply as a comment. When everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish a summary of our discussion.

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Three Word Meme

Our dear friend Ronnie posted this meme last week, and I want to try it too. The answers must have only three words, and that's not as easy as it sounds.

1. Where is your cell phone?  - In my purse

2. Boyfriend/girlfriend? - Ron's the one

3. Hair? - Needs a touchup

4. Your favorite item(s)? - My own iPad

5. Your dream last night? - Shopping in Toronto

6. Your favorite drink? - Earl Grey tea

7. Your dream guy/girl?  - Changes every night

8. The room you are in? - Our computer room

9. Your fear? - Heights and spiders

10. What do you want to be in 10 years? - Able to blog

11. Do you have pictures of your spanked bottom - No way, Jose

12. What's outside your window? - Busy bird feeder

13. One of your wish list items? - German chocolate cake

14. What time is it? - Exactly eight fifteen

15. What are you wearing?  - Tee and leggings

16. Your favorite book?  - Pride and Prejudice

17. The last thing you ate? - steak and mushrooms

18. Your life? - Just fine, thanks

19. Your car? - lovely blue Lexus

20. What are you doing at this moment? - This silly meme

21 Your summer? - Not started yet

22. Travel plans? - Staying at home

23. What is on your TV screen? - MS NOW news

24. Last time you cried? - Can't remember when

25. School? - Had to go

26. Sport at school - Not an athlete

27. Least favourite spanking implement - Hand made switch

28, Who did you hang out with last night - Ron and dogs

29. Favourite colour - Blue, baby, blue

30. Lake or Ocean - Lake (no sharks!)

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for June 14

Broken implements? Read on!

Bonnie: I still love this question. My dear Randy has become more selective when choosing the implements he uses to spank me. I get fewer opportunities to gloat over spanking contest victories. There are several items in our toy box that outlast my bottom every single time.

But it happens. While decluttering our basement, he found a wooden wall hanging that used to be in his mother’s family room. His twisted mind immediately concluded it needed to be a paddle. And so it was, for about ten hard swats. When I heard it split, I burst into giggles. So much for that punishment session and any semblance of seriousness.

I still got spanked after he found a more reliable paddle, but his best efforts did little to mute my amusement.

Roz: I love this question too! We had a novel flogger years ago that slowly deteriorated so we discarded it, along with a novelty crop.

There was an occasion Rick was using a cane for a serious spanking and was giving quite the lecture during when I heard snap. That was it, we were both in fits of laughter. He did recover enough to continue, but, as Bonnie said, the spanking lost any seriousness at that point.

Barrel: Nope, despite thorough use over 30 years. The only evidence of deterioration our toys show are fraying leather at the end of a strap and two riding crops.

CEM: I've broken wood spoons/spatulas, paddles, canes, switches, knocked the tip off a riding crop, so, yes. But, being "dedicated" as I am, I just grabbed some other implement, and carried on.

Wendel: We bought a Mickey Mouse hand spatula in a gift shop when we visited Disney World a few years ago. I gave the Misses a few whacks with it in the hotel room and it broke. We did not have the nerve to bring it back for a refund.
The real implements designed for beating butts have held the test of time. 

Red: We had a leather metal studded paddle that had a heart shaped hole in the middle. It sort of came apart after many years of using, and the spanking ended. We loved that paddle, as Cindy liked using it in the same spot to make a white heart on my red bottom.   

Rosco: Several times, and yes the spanking continued each time. A couple of riding crops have fallen apart, a leather ping pong paddle.

And several hand cut switches of course - they’re not meant to last.

Ronnie: Ha, yes we have had a couple of implements break. Not serious ones. One was a thin paddle (don’t think it was made of wood) that broke in half that made us both laugh. The spanking didn’t carry on.

Prefectdt: More toys have met their end, coming up against my buttocks, than I care to remember. Mostly it has been pervertables. The last one was a spatula, but my bottom is the legendary graveyard of hairbrushes; they seldom stay the course, once the game is on. Several rattan canes have lost their tips encountering my spanked zone, and one shattered once, but it was over 20 years old (I purchased it in the 1980s). I usually laugh when this happens and yes, the spanking always continues, sometimes because I laughed.     

A.J.: “Had an implement break?”

That would be my hand, so no. (Or her hand if laps are flipped.

We avoid using implements preferring the more intimate hand. On rare occasions a LIGHT strap might be used if my/her hand starts to hurt, a strap picked more for its “slap” sound than anything else.

Yes. Boring. Need to get out more.

Graham: A paddle from a curiosity shop broke. Switches wear out, as mentioned above. Nothing else that I can recall. 

KDPierre: Yes, a lucite paddle we had thought was indestructible broke off at the neck. The spanking continued with another, but not without a good laugh in between. Rosa also took a picture of the broken paddle lying on my beaten butt for posterior posterity. Naturally I made her a new one (with an improved design) and that one has been in faithful service ever since.   

Hermione: We have broken several implements, but the funniest time was when Ron used a wooden spoon on my bare bottom. Afterward, we were in the middle of some erotic activity when we heard a loud "Crack". Ron had left the spoon on the bed and he had lain on it and broken it. He said there were plenty more in the kitchen, and we carried on, giggling.

He has also split a hairbrush and broken a rattan carpet beater while spanking me. The spankings didn't stop; he merely switched to a different implement.  

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #647

Welcome, one and all, to our weekly spanko brunch. You're just in time for what I hope will be a lively discussion. Today's topic is one I found down in the vault where the archives of My Bottom Smarts are stored. I dusted it off and it is just as timely today as it was in 2007.

Have you or your partner ever had an implement break during a spanking? If so, how did it happen? What were your reactions? Did the spanking continue?

Leave your reply as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to respond, I will publish a summary of our discussion.

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You've Gotta Read This

Our good friend Sore has written a novel that's a tribute to our late friend and mentor Devlin O'Neill. Uncle Ar the Disciplinarian is a must-read! I hope you will check it out and leave a comment.Writing a novel of this magnitude takes a lot of time and effort. Links to Amazon for non-US readers are here.

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for June 9

We talked about the length of time spankings take.

Jack: I have no say in how long the spanking is. My wife/mommy does not even know how long the spanking is. It depends on what I did and how I react while being spanked. 

Wendel: There are times I will set the timer for 5 plus minutes when I give the Misses a hand spanking. Once it starts it does not stop. She squirms a lot and will have tears in her eyes but It does not end until the timer goes off and every inch of her bottom is bright red.
The Misses can drag a paddling out for a long time if I am bent over the end of the bed. She will give me a dozen whacks and then go do something else in the room. It can be several minutes before I get more whacks. The wait is exhilarating. Just as I get over the sting and pain she returns and beats my bottom some more. This can go on for 30 minutes or more and I cannot get up until she says so. 

Rosco: On average, I get 3 spankings 20 or 30 minutes apart - each with maybe 20 whacks lasting 3 minutes or so. Just a guess, I’ve never counted or timed it. Often I’m tied up.

Norse Cavalier: The longest spanking I've ever given was three hours - not very hard, mostly hand, some paddle. Quite enjoyable for us both. Most spankings last about an hour, I think, but that's mostly fun spankings; punishment spankings are shorter and a lot harder.

Luvinhub: I don't believe my wife ever timed my spankings but I would guess around 30 minutes. In the moment it was usually long enough but in reality I believe she should have spanked me much longer.

Prefectdt: My spankings usually last between an hour and an hour and a half. Sometimes half an hour. An hour and a bit is often ideal, as I do like a certain level of severity and longer spankings would be hard to bear. I have been spanked for longer periods, but there are typically long breaks during the time of this type of play, it is not continuous.

KDPierre: Oddly, Rosa and I don't go by time but rather number, with a target number sort of decreed with the understanding that number might be exceeded a bit or perhaps, though less frequently, lessened as the spanking progresses.

High numbers are not unusual here, (1000+) and often very high numbers are divided up into a series of more manageable instalments, which can be a mixed blessing and curse. The more typical spankings are in the "quick 50" to solid 250-300 range.

Bonnie: Duration is Randy’s decision and he’s all over the map. Time is just one factor in deciding the severity of a spanking. Just a minute or two with a wooden bath brush at top speed and full intensity is far more painful, both during and after, than a steady 30 minute spanking with the leather paddle.

While I don’t get a choice, I do have preferences and they vary over time as well. Sometimes, I just want to take my position and get it over. In other cases, I like the detailed choreography, the build up, and the slow reveal of an inescapable punishment.

As for the longest spanking I’ve received, that depends upon one’s definition of a spanking. He has spanked me several times during a day where each session began where the last one left off (I totally deserved it). It seemed like one spanking to me and if you accept that premise, I guess my longest could span seven or eight hours.

A.J.: Obviously, I'm an amateur here, but I go by color, not time. When she's a nice pink I stop and proceed with the TLC+. When it's me on the receiving end I'm pretty sure it's the same.

In general it's about time time it take to deliver about (guessing) 250-300 hand spanks.
At top speed (where it hurts a bit more) 300 = 2 1/2 minutes.
At sensual speed 300 = 5 minutes + pauses for TLC.
At "Ain't this fun?" speed = 30 minutes?       

Dan: I think length does matter, and there are times that, when a spanking is done, I feel like it wasn't quite long enough to leave me feeling like the issue that earned me the trip over her lap was fully dealt with. But numbness puts a hard limit on most of my spankings. Somewhere around 5 - 6 minutes, my butt starts going numb and, after that, continuing to spank seems pointless. I have come to appreciate, however, the role longer spankings play in leaving soreness that lasts for days. Five to six minutes is probably our average, but the time element is probably less relevant than the number of swats Most of my spankings are with a combination of the bath brush and a heavy ebony hairbrush, with a heavy emphasis on the bath brush. The typical number of swats/strikes per session are around 200 - 300. 

Graham: Best guess is usually 45 minutes or more, but obviously not continuously.

Roz: It does vary quite a bit depending on the circumstances, mood etc. I would say on average 20 minutes.

Hermione: Ron aims for a finish time, so length of time doesn't enter into it for him. He watches the clock, and when it reaches the three quarter hour, he stops. The spanking might start on the half hour, or five minutes later, but it doesn't matter. He stops at 4:45 pm. 

Like Dan, I get numb after about five minutes, so long spankings don't do anything for me. 

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #646

Welcome to our first spanko brunch for June. Today we will be pondering that age-old question: does length really matter? The length of a spanking, that is.

How long do your spankings usually last? Would you prefer them to be longer or shorter, or are they just right? What is the longest spanking you have ever participated in?

Leave your response as a comment and I will publish your thoughts once everyone has had a chance to speak.

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for May 31

We talked about spanking for punishment. Was there a time when you should have been spanked, but weren't?

Rosco: When Irene is truly annoyed with me, she ignores me. I don’t think it’s intentional punishment, but it feels that way.

Spankings are generally for imaginary infractions like being distracted by schoolgirls or maybe not doing my homework (ageplay, they call it). Occasionally she’ll threaten a spanking for not doing something around the house, but I don’t think it ever happens.

I fantasize about real discipline, but I don’t think I’m interested.

Roz: There have been a few occasions when I thought a spanking was forthcoming but it didn't happen.

Jack: If I think I will not be spanked and got away with it, I know I'm kidding myself. My wife/mommy has told me she needs to 'cool' off and just calm down.

KDPierre: I think this happens to just about everyone (in a disciplinary relationship) over time. It's just how life works. Things pop up, get in the way, and then the moment is lost and you either try to revisit it another time or just move on. Living this type of lifestyle is complicated, especially over the long haul, so I think it's best to focus on the positives and let go of the occasional, and inevitable, "what could have beens". 

Prefectdt: The problem is for me that, although I pretend to see spankings as punishment, really I see them as a reward. So yes, there have been lots of times when I have achieved hard to do or difficult things, when I feel that I have truly earned a “well done” spanking, but there is no one around to give me one. Just life, I suppose.     

Barrel: We don't really use spanking as punishment, although our sessions do take on a stern and reprimanding tone. There have definitely been times when I deserved discipline and didn't get it right away. We tend to work things out but remember to reinforce the outcome at the end of her cane when we schedule a session.

TTWD: My experience is similar to KDPierre's. Many (most) of my spankings are disciplinary, but sometimes we just continue doing what we are doing, and by the next day, although I might remember why (or not), Cindy has forgotten. Cindy's spankings have become really effective and strong, similar to what you used to describe for your spankings. At that time, Cindy felt they were too strong, but if she would read them now, she would realize they are the appropriate level needed, and what she gives me, or ours are even stronger. 

Graham: Absolutely! But not everything in life is perfect. And spankings are hardly the only important thing in our lives. 

Bonnie: Yes, definitely. But I usually get that spanking eventually.

A.J.: Did you ever feel you really deserved a spanking, but didn't get one?

No. But did really WANT a spanking, but didn't get one?
Yes.
Give a spanking, but didn't get to?
Also yes.

Was there an alternative punishment, or did the issue get resolved in another way?

I don't believe in punishment spanking unless it is part of playing so, not a good question for me.

Ronnie: Yes, definitely. But things get in the way and the spanking doesn’t happen.

Hermione: For us, spankings are a reward, not a punishment.  If Ron is mad at me, he will postpone our spanking until he's in a better mood.

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #645

Welcome to another weekend spanko brunch. Grab a sandwich, pour yourself a cup of coffee, and take a seat on one of the padded chairs.

We all spank for different reasons, and not everyone engages in them for punishment. However, there are times when only a spanking will do.

Did you ever feel you really deserved a spanking, but didn't get one? Was there an alternative punishment, or did the issue get resolved in another way?

Leave your reply as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish a summary of our discussion.

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for May 24

What can you tell us about self-spanking? This proved to be a popular topic and we have several new friends who joined us this week. 

MrBill: I self spank, flagellate, etc. frequently. I just don't get enough from my wife despite my requests and encouragement over the years. I don't masturbate anymore, but when she is away I whip, flog, cane myself. Sometimes bent over on the butt, sometimes inner thighs. Usually with implements including leather strap, belt, flogger, crop, cane, wooden paddle.

Rosco: Yes. For me it was underwhelming. I tried a riding crop. Yes I was by myself.

Any spanking without a lecture is unfulfilling.

Obviously we’re all different.

Bonnie: Yes, at Randy’s direction, but it wasn’t as satisfying as the real thing. I recall making the comment, “Do I have to do everything?”

Roz: I have tried it on the odd occasion when I've been alone. Definitely not as fulfilling as the real thing for me either.

TTWD: I tried a couple of times long ago, but definitely unsatisfying! I need to be spanked, not self spanked.

Wendel: Spanking for us is all about fun and intimacy. Without someone to be part of the experience a spanking is not satisfying.
We put a couple of spins on it by self-spanking when the other was present. For the first we each took turns while the other stood outside the bedroom listening. The second was self-spanking while the other was in the room. I did enjoy watching her whack her bottom and being critiqued by the Misses was a turn on. If a good enough job was not done then a proper spanking followed which happened to be every time.    

Ronnie: Only to tease P.

Prefectdt: Yes I have self-spanked a lot, although I do not get much joy out of it. There can be a long break between spankings and self-spanking helps to keep my butt in order and helps me to keep a decent pain tolerance; it is not done for fun.

I have used plenty of things to self-spank, but the best seems to be a 2 foot (60 cm), peeled, German style rattan cane. By learning to use a flick of the wrist, rather than an arm swing, you can get a respectably stinging stroke. Also, it is not too noisy, so the radio does not need turning up too loud. Usually I am leaning forward over my dining table, supporting myself with my left hand, when this happens.

For a mentally satisfying self-spank, a medical EMS/TENS unit is often attached to my buttocks and set on a half hour pre-program, with the strength of pulse set way too high for normal medical use. This is not as good as a real spanking, but it does help me keep in mental trim, when real spankings are thin on the ground. I can just lie on my front on the bed and mentally absorb the pain, without having to do something myself, as the procedure is endured.

A.J.: Have you ever tried self-spanking?
Yes. And it appears - I'm not the only one!

If so, under what circumstances?
I was bored, felt like I needed it, and no spank buddy was handy.

Were you alone or with another person?
WHAT?? No! More proof I'm the impressionable virgin in this group.

Did you use an implement?
Hand. When that proved to be Meh..., my belt.

What position did you find most effective?
In bed and 'perched' over a BIG stack of pillows to get the more-perfect angle for the job.

Reading the comments it appears the answer is "Yes," but it is unfulfilling.

I got a smile from Wendel's comments. I wish I told my spanking GF that, before I took her OTK, that she go into her bedroom alone, go over a stack of pillows, and spank her bare bottom to warm her tush up before the OTK fun. And adding, "Leave the door open! Make sure I hear it!"

I need to get out more.     

Graham: Several times when alone. Better than nothing, but that's a pretty low bar!

Kiki: I never self spanked before but I decided to try it a few minutes ago. I barely felt it and didn't enjoy it.   

Hermione: Nope, never done it. Well, I might have tried it once, but it isn't easy and it hurts! 

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #644

The coffee is hot and the snacks are on the table, so find a comfy seat and let's get started with this week's spanko brunch discussion.

Have you ever tried self-spanking? If so, under what circumstances? Were you alone or with another person? Did you use an implement? What position did you find most effective? If you haven't tried it, would you consider it?

Leave your response as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to speak I will publish a summary of our discussion.

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for May 17

Tears during a spanking? Here's what you said:

Rosco: I’d love to cry from spanking, but it’s never happened. (I do cry on emotional occasions more than most people.)

Like others, I’ve had a few super hard or errant blows that were over the top. The intense bliss of ongoing seemingly endless hard spanks puts me in a zone like nothing else.

A few days ago, Irene played the strict teacher role as never before - inspired by that short Marcy film (thanks for telling us about it). It was really great, but I was closer to laughing than crying.

CEM: If tears happen, they happen. Some women are geared that way, others are not. I would never however, try to make that a goal or a result of punishment, as that would be abusive. 

Roz: Tears were seldom here, though I often wanted to be able to cry from a spanking. On the occasions it did happen we were practising dd and the tears were more a result of the emotions behind the spanking.   

FL: Tears during a spanking have remained elusive my whole life. There was one occasion where I came very close and it had more to do with the role play and emotions than the actual spanking. Been chasing that high ever since.

Jack: My wife/mommy insures I'm crying, the bath brush insures that. The spanking is supposed to teach a lesson. I have a wife who loves me, but knows that she must be the Mommy at times and Mommy will insure that I'm crying, saying I'm sorry by the time she is done.

Prefectdt: I have never cried tears (I have cried out loud :) ) from a spanking. In theory, I would like to. Perhaps I will find out in reality one day. I have cried when put in a corner and the spanker has walked away, part way through a spanking. I think that it is the feeling of being abandoned that really gets to me.

Wendel: The Misses will let the tears fly once in a while for a bit. It is not necessary for us to enjoy the spankings. 

Bonnie: Tears are rare, at least when Randy spanks me. I’m not sure why, but that’s just not part of my usual reaction.

Now let the dog die in a kids movie and I’m a blubbering mess.

Dan: Movies and TV shows can make me cry. Same with movies and books. Yet, I've never really cried from a spanking, even though it's something I've been fascinated by since I discovered adult disciplinary spankings.

Hermione: Like Bonnie, if you want to see me cry, just let a dog (or a cartoon lion) die in a movie. But spankings never make me want to cry.  I always wonder about the stories I read in which spanking doesn't stop until there are tears. Mine would last for hours until the spanker's arm gave out.

A.J.: Tears come from EMOTION; not the spanking itself, nor the pain.
There can even be tears and crying even before the spankee goes OTK.
British sailors, VICIOUSLY flogged at sea, did not shed tears - they screamed. 

Slava Ukraini
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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #643

I want to extend a warm welcome to everyone who has come to join us for brunch. Newcomers, please introduce yourselves and don't be shy. You are among friends here. Today, let's talk about tears.

How important are tears in your spanking relationship? Do they happen often, seldom, or once in a blue moon? Are they even necessary? What do you think of the popular concept of being spanked to tears?

Leave your response as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish a summary of our conversation. If you have never joined in a brunch discussion before, now's your chance. You may remain anonymous if you wish.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for May 10

What about marks? Here's what you said:

 Bonnie: There are marks and then there are marks. I always have some residual redness on my bottom after I receive a proper spanking, but it often dissipates fairly quickly. There are some spankings, though, where Randy’s combination of implement, technique, and duration leaves me owning a more lasting set of marks.

I love my marks and the accompanying ouch back there whenever I sit, stand, walk, or bend. They remind me that I was recently punished, and to a certain degree, that the corporal punishment is still ongoing. These are exciting notions for me. Inspecting my visible marks in a mirror afterward makes the whole experience real.

Anon: My ex was surprised by marks the first time I spanked her, despite it being just surface marks and a few handprints. She got used to it. 

Roz: I used to love having marks and being able to feel the spanking after. A lasting reminder. Rick also used to enjoy seeing the evidence of his handiwork. In the early days we were surprised at the amount of marking on a couple of occasions.

Rosco: Irene likes to tease me about them. She’ll say I deserved them and more. That she hopes I learned my lesson, but she suspects I haven’t.

The most visible marks occur when she uses a switch - tiny welts that sting like crazy when they’re administered but satisfy like cold lemonade on a hot day.

There have been a few errant blows over the years which have caused Irene a bit of remorse, but I’ve always healed in a couple of days.

Prefectdt: I don't mark much now. Sometimes welts from a very hard caning, but that is more that you can see a furrow along my bottom, with no or not much bruising. I did start bruising again, some years ago, when I started taking a medication for my sticky blood syndrome, but that stopped happening about 18 months after starting the medication. I did used to like looking at my marks for a few days after the spanking, and miss that a lot. Still, there is usually swelling of the buttocks now and that is nice to feel for 3 or 4 days after the spanking, but it is not as good as having proper marks.   

Red: Cindy is very happy to see my bottom a bright red, but not happy if any bruising or bad marks. However, a nice grey surrounded by red on my bottom shows a rather very intense and deserved spanking. I like to take pictures of my bottom when it is quite red, but the lighting does not show the deep red. Wonder why on an Iphone. I blogged recently also, but need to re-learn everything, like how to put links to blogs I am starting to re-follow. 

Welcome back, Red. I've added your link to my blog roll.

Hermione: I love seeing marks, but sadly, I don't mark much these days. Redness that lasts a day or so, but nothing dramatic. I'll have to find out how Ron can up his game :)

   

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #642

It's the weekend, and that means it's time for another spanko brunch. This week's topic is one I am particularly fond of.

How do you and your partner feel about the marks left after a spanking? Do they happen often or just under certain circumstances? Do you like them, do they bother you, or are you indifferent?

Leave your thoughts as a comment and I will publish a summary of our discussion on Monday.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for May 3

This week we discussed quiet spankings and this is what you said:

Wendel: No quiet spanking here. The sound of the bottom being smacked is wonderful and I love to hear the Misses cry out after each whack. 

Roz: No need for quiet spankings but I am always paranoid about what neighbours might hear.

Glenmore: When the kids were home we would schedule a lunchtime meeting for lunch and spanking.
With the nest empty we just have to make sure the windows aren't open!
We had a noisy one in a hotel room. Once and got some amused looks in the elevator the next morning.We didn't know them so didn't really care.

Fondles: Tappity taps with the cane... it's the quietest option we have.   

Prefectdt: There are quiet toys, rope floggers, for example. But realistically, having to keep it hushed is one condition too far. Better to find a place where noise is not an issue.

Bonnie: No. Our nest is empty now.

Hermione: There's no need for us to be quiet, but we put the television on for the dogs and give them stuffed Kongs to enjoy so the noise won't bother them.

Slava Ukraini
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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #641

Welcome back, dear friends. We all know that spankings can be very noisy affairs, and that's part of the fun. But what if you have friends, parents, or children within earshot and you absolutely have to keep the noise down?

Do you sometimes need to have quiet spankings? How do you keep the sound to a minimum? 

Please leave your reply as a comment. Once everyone has had a chance to leave their suggestions, I will publish a summary of our discussion.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for April 26

Does the spankee say "thank you"?

Graham: Absolutely! I not only thank her verbally, but she almost always receives a well-deserved oral orgasm usually followed by penetrative sex. Lots of fun!

Roz: I don't usually thank Rick for a spanking and it's not generally expected however I have on the odd occasion.

Fondles: I don't, usually, but I *have* said thank you when we have a Dd/lg session of playing (and spanking) - which I only mention here specifically cos sometimes the dynamic is less obvious.   

Prefectdt: After a spanking I always offer a full formal, thank you. Usually in at least one full sentence. This is accompanied by a small bow. I never offer or seek a hug after this, but I often do get a hug from the other party, A hug is most welcome, but only if it is genuinely meant. I would not like it if I felt that the other party felt they had to hug me.

FL: Often, sometimes immediately following as part of roleplay, sometimes a while afterward, thanking her for enthusiastically indulging me. It's just good manners.

Jack: When my wife/mommy is done with the spanking I must say I will be a good little boy Mommy and sorry for being naughty.

Rosco: I’ll often apologize for the behavior that led up to the spanking - that I’m sorry for being such a recalcitrant naughty disrespectful pouty boy and that I need to learn to follow all her rules. Then I might thank her for spanking me because I know I needed it.

She’ll agree and usually say she needs to spank me more often.

A few times Irene has demanded that I thank her as she’s spanking me. I’ll refuse at first just to be a little annoying then comply.

Barrel: Yes, I do thank my wife after any spanking. After a long session, when I am totally drained, I give her a deep hug and thank her for taking me into that realm where I feel a total release of any stress. I absolutely love those moments.

A.J.: "Do you thank your spanker after a spanking?"

No. Not really.  Does telling her "Oh.  That was a good one!" count?
Has she ever thanked me for rendering the "honors?"  
No! (That bitch!!!  Kidding.)

"As a spanker, do you expect or demand such a courtesy?"
No.  Never.
And that seems to me like a ritual or formality, one that I don't care for.
We thank each other in "other" ways, if-you-know-what-I-mean- and-I-think-you-do.       

Wendel: The Misses has never thanked me for spanking her and I do not look for it. Consoling with kisses and sex is all that is needed.

Hermione: I agree with Wendel. No thanks are required, just some intimacy. 

Slava Ukraini
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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #640

Welcome back, friends and visitors alike. Our dear friend Erica Scott has posted again, so please visit her and say hello. She shared her interviews on the Spanko! Podcast; the links are here to part one and part two. It was a pleasant surprise to me because I had never heard of the Spanko! Podcast, but I'll be returning often.

Now on to today's discussion, kindly supplied to us by our good friend Barrel.

As a spankee, do you thank your spanker after a spanking? As a spanker, do you expect or demand such a courtesy?

Please leave your response as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion after everyone has had a chance to weigh in. 

 

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine