Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for September 20

What special sounds enhance a spanking?

Barrel: The unmistakable “whurp” when my wife whips the cane through the air before applying it to my backside. That sound heightens the apprehension I have, knowing what is about to take place.

Robert: I'm sure I'm not alone, but she has one paddle which makes a VERY loud *whack* when appropriately applied to my bare bottom. The pain with the sound reminds me what the next few minutes will be like before I get to head into the corner for a few minutes.

Roz: The sound (and sight) of implements being retrieved. Opening of the drawer, wardrobe etc. Plus the sound of the implement before making contact eg, the whoosh of a belt. Not to mention the sound as it lands.

Bonnie: There are several such sounds: a leather belt slipping through belt loops, a paddle slapped against a hand, Velcro restraint cuffs being opened, an alarm on his phone that tells us it’s that special time again, a snap of the elastic of the waistband of my thong, the drop of a brush on the nightstand, the swish of a crop, when he carefully enunciates the word “Spanking” as he explains what is about to happen to me, and my own rapid breathing as the action warms up.

CEM: Whore Moans. (Hormones.) 😁 The sound of her desire, lust, urgency, passion, distress, desire, wanting it to end, wanting more, hating it, loving it, just the sound of her breathing and utterances...that. I know that was not really the question, but...that's my offering/submission to the topic. 😊 

Rosco: For me (us really) spankings wouldn’t be the same at all without the lecture. Not having the whacking sounds would be odd.

Wendel: I love that ½ second of silence right before the wonderful sound of the whack from the paddle or belt. The Misses crying out, sometimes in tears, is also a great addition to the spankings. 

Jack: My wife/Mommy pats the bath brush against her hand as she scolds me. She reminds me this is just the light sound. I will be standing there either naked or pants and underpants around my ankle. When it does land on my bare bottom it makes a loud sound and I make a loud sound also, which can be clearly heard when being spanked in the bedroom.

A.J.: Oooh!!! My question!

I don't give/get hard spankings. It's all sensual fun. But it is essential to mess with her mind!*

Without saying a word I lead her to a familiar place - the plush arm of the sofa. She knows what's coming.

Over the arm she goes. No words are spoken. Her mind racing because - she knows! A skirt flipped up. Panties sensuously pulled down and off. Legs parted.
You stand near her as she clutches a small pillow; not looking at you. And then she hears it - the sound of the belt being undone. The deliberate jingle of the belt buckle is heard. The slow, sensuous snake-like slithering hissss of a belt passing through belt loops. You can almost see her tush react.

She sees none of this. She's not looking. It all playing out so beautifully in her mind. The anticipation of what's to come. And it's powerful. The sound alone sets what's to come. And that's one of the sounds I most love.

Coincident with that moment:
- Hearing that little 'gasp' as she takes in that little bit of air as her panties come off. (That's for me! Ladies - want to fuck with my mind? Make that little sound.)
- The soft 'slap!' sound of leather meeting bottom. I don't spank hard, so this is no more than hand meeting bottom. But I want to create the sound of that slap so she thinks it is more than it is. Just to fuck with her mind!

In reality, I'm not sure I ever created that sound; probably from lack of practice. I think it requires a leather that is not a belt. Suggestions?

* This is an equal opportunity zone. It's also effective when the bottoms over that sofa arm are switched. No judgement here! Whoo-Hoo!    

Roz said "The sound of implements being retrieved. Opening of the drawer, wardrobe etc."

YES! That!

And why hadn't I thought of that?

Putting her in position over the arm of the sofa, bare-bottom up - and then walk away! And she hears that rummaging sound. Worse - his footsteps back!

What a wonderful mind-fucking! At this point the actual spanking is anticlimactic. It bothers me a bit that I had not thought of this; (probably because I don't have an implements drawer.)      

Anon: Sounds are very much a part of it. The "whoosh" of the cane to the "whack" of the paddle. All part of the excitement.

Prefectdt: It looks like I am with the majority here. It is the sounds during play that trigger the mind fairies. The swish of a cane coming in, that loud THWAP! sound as a slipper/plimsoll lands. The sounds of her shoes on a hard floor, as she walks around, out of my sight. Is she getting another toy? Is she just taking a look at her handywork? Is she going to take a run-up this time? 

Hermione: The click of his glasses as he puts them on the dresser, knowing that he means to get down to business. The swish of the wooden shoehorn through the air before it lands.

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #671

A short while ago our brunch question had to do with restraints and noise-cancelling headsets, where the recipient could not hear; only sense and feel. Sound - all by itself - can be a very powerful trigger for the mind. That inspired our good friend A.J. asks this question:

What sounds alone, before, during, or after, create an emotional moment for the giver or taker, without which the spanking lacks that little bit 'extra?'

 

Leave your thoughts as a comment and I will publish the outcome once everyone has had a chance to speak.

 

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for September 13

Panties and spanking go together like... Here's what you said.

Bonnie: For my husband, Randy, spanking and panties are tightly intertwined interests. He loves to order new panties for me in every style, pattern, material, and color. I think I might own more now than I will ever wear. But still they roll in.

Thongs and cheeky styles that provide minimal coverage around back are his favorites. He says he loves how the fabric frames my target. But he’s not beyond an occasional change of pace. One fun kinky scenario involves caning me while I am wearing high-waisted white nylon full briefs.

Upon the arrival of each new shipment, he asks me to model for him. After my private runway performance, he “tests” my new panties by bouncing a paddle off the round parts they don’t cover. His test feels exactly like a spanking from my perspective, but who am I to argue with science?

Roz: Panties do play a role in spanking for us. Rick enjoys the view and tracing the outline. Then there is the moment they come down or off. So intimate and sensual.

KDPierre: Panties have been an occasional add-on over the years. We use them to enhance certain moods for a spanking, and since they are thong-backed, to act as a frilly frame for any post-spanking color. One thing that has gotten much easier, is being able to find and procure "pouch panties". Hell, we have gotten most of ours off of eBay. Easy-peasy. 

Jean Marie: I have strong feelings about panties. I love lingerie but not to wear in bed where they could be ruined; I save them for under slinky sexy gowns. (Agent Provocateur is my favorite brand.) I love plain white cotton panties with full coverage across the seat; I buy packages of cheap ones in bulk. I like to have these ripped right off me, before spanking, before sex. I do not like thongs! I floss my teeth not my ass crack. That is my two cents' worth. 

A.J.: "Do panties play a part in your spanking activities?"

Can't answer. I have never worn panties.

Oh! You mean HER!

I have read stories where she has to stand before the 'Lap of Justice™" and told to remove her panties before going OTK. Supposedly humiliating for her.

Not me.

I want her OTK with her panties still on (and maybe that's all she has on) for a minute or two as I get reacquainted with the target, and telling her what's about to come.

I TAKE HER PANTIES down! (Or off.) And I'm with Roz.

My favorite moment - hearing her suck in a little bit air as the gusset of her panties, reluctantly, springs free from her most personal parts. Her last bit of modesty gone, she's vulnerable. "It" is about to start. That little gasp from her - such sweet surrender. The baring of the bottom is the best moment.

Wendel: The Misses looks awesome wearing panties but they always come down for a spanking. It is quite a turn on watching her bottom being exposed. 

Prefectdt: I have never worn panties :) I do like being spanked through the layers until it becomes a bare bottom spanking. That includes over the tight boxer shorts that I prefer. I nearly always wear a boy thong during a beating, as, most interactions that I take part in are non-sexual, and it is very often appreciated that my boy bits are not on display whilst the posterior can still be bare.       

Barrel: Occasionally my wife makes me wear panties before a session. But they always come off before the thrashing begins. I do wear a protective cup fashioned like a skimpy thong to define the upper limit of the target and protect my parts from an errant lash of the single tail whip. 

Rosco: I am obsessed with panties and spanking both, but I’m the spankee and Irene the spanker wears the panties. (Ok I wear them sometimes)

I definitely appreciate my spankings most when Irene wears a skirt or dress with panties. Decades ago, she allowed me to select her panties. It’s weird to admit, but cotton is a bit of a turn off for me. I’ve got many brands for Irene, but mostly I go back to Olga 913. I love to play with her nether parts though panties before they’re removed for serious action.

I think the allure comes from peeking up skirts in the 7th grade in 1967-68 when skirts were super short. There’s a certain naughtiness on my part. If she’s wearing a skirts without panties that’d be naughtiness on her part which is not part of our role play.

To add a little more, I love to see pictures of female female spanking. I like the idea of a female top and I’d rather see that red round often plump female bottom. A spanking over pretty panties with a raised skirt has a sort of realism for me. I love it when the panties are a bit flimsy - not too small but they might get pulled up into the bottom crack a bit.

It’s common to see someone spanked over panties then having them pulled down then spanked some more. That’s fine, but I also like it if the panties stay up. If there’s frontal nudity one of my turnoffs is shaved public hair.

And since the US Open just ended, I’ve had fantasies about locker room spankings in tennis dresses involving both stars of today and yesteryear.   

Loki_Darksong: When it comes to spanking scenes, panties are a pleasant part of the package.

Not all spankings, whether that is a hand spanking or implements such as a strap or belt, a paddle, or a cane, have to be bare bottom to be effective. Granted there is a slight difficulty in regards to measuring the severity of the spanking if it's done over pansies. But all the more reason to be careful when doing so.

Of course there's also the artistic view of a woman's backside while receiving a spanking over panties due to all the various styles available to panties ranging from bikini to high cut to boy shorts to briefs as well as thongs and g-strings. And of course not to leave out the period piece ones such as the Victorian and Edwardian era bloomers.

Even to this day I find those very attractive on a woman. I have a few on the shopping list for my wife at present! 

Hermione: I am not allowed to have any protective covering on my bottom before or during a spanking. Ron wants my bottom bare and ready for his attention.
 

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #670

Welcome to our regular weekend spanko brunch. If you are new here, I invite you to contribute to our conversation. All opinions are welcome, but no politics please. Speaking of opinions, everyone has one about spanking with panties, shorts, knickers, underpants, briefs, or whatever you prefer to call them. So what's yours?

Do panties play a part in your spanking activities? Does wearing panties during a spanking enhance the experience for the spanker and/or spankee?  If so, do tell.

Leave your response by leaving a comment and I will publish a summary of our discussion once everyone has had a chance to speak.

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I get by with a little help from...AI?

Our dear friend Bonnie has been hard at work writing, and here is the result of her creativity. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.

AI Said What?

New fiction by Bonnie

Saturday was date night at home for Cindy and George.  It was almost dinner time.  George reclined in the living room watching YouTube videos on his tablet.  His girlfriend, Cindy, was in the kitchen putting the finishing touches on her special chicken paprikash.  The distinctive aroma of dinner filled the small bungalow.  Everyone knows about the Hungarian paprika, but the right onions, she told him, are just as important.

“It’s chicken,” Cindy announced with a mixture of pride and insistence.  “OK, I’m coming,” George replied, eager to enjoy another of her culinary specialties.  The chicken arrived at the table atop nokedli, Hungarian noodles, and topped with a classic creamy paprikash sauce.  The accompaniment was parsley potatoes.  Cindy briefly considered adding red cabbage to the menu, but she wasn’t sure he’d like it.

“This is amazing,” George observed, as he made quick work of the savory Magyar feast.  Cindy was more inclined to savor the meal she carefully prepared.  She made certain there would be plenty of leftovers to enjoy later.

As George cleaned up in the kitchen after dinner, as is their agreement, Cindy moved to the living room and scouted the streaming services for an appropriate movie.

“I love your paprikash,” George declared as he entered the room with arms wide to demonstrate his enthusiasm.  “And I love you too, my sweet chef!”  Cindy beamed with satisfaction over her meal’s success.  He sat next to her on the couch as she scrolled through the films.

“George?”  Her rising pitch suggested a meaningful question was coming.

“Yes…?”

“I asked AI whether you should spank me.  He wanted to know whether I had done anything naughty to deserve a spanking.  I replied that I hadn’t, but I really like spankings and we hadn’t done that in a long time.”

“You asked AI?  Really?”  George didn’t expect that.

“Yeah.  I wanted a second opinion.”  Cindy was defensive now.

“But you didn’t just ask me?  What did it say?”

Cindy struggled to conceal a blush.  “He said you should definitely spank me as soon as possible.”

“Well OK, that’s some AI advice I’m willing to take,” George replied, now chuckling.  “Do you know where that hairbrush is?”

Cindy knew exactly which hairbrush he meant.  “Yes, I‘ll go get it.”

George positioned himself in the center of the couch in preparation for all that would surely follow.  He turned on the lamp behind the couch to illuminate the proceedings.  When Cindy returned, George couldn’t help but notice how lovely she looked in her blue and white flowered dress.  He hadn’t really noticed before, maybe because of her apron, but she dressed up for him and this dinner date.

“Have I told you that you are beautiful?”

“Yes, but thank you.  Here’s that brush.”

George thought the speed with which she blew past his sincere compliment suggested she wanted to get right down to business.  And that business was spanking.  Setting the wooden brush beside him, George gestured for his lover to take her position across his lap.  As George gently guided her shapely torso into place, he recalled that it had indeed been a while since he spanked his girlfriend.  There wasn’t any good reason why they stopped.  Their lives just got busy.  But now they could start making up for lost spankings.

Cindy was thrilled to finally feel the spanking she had clandestinely craved.  Why, she wondered, hadn’t she mentioned it earlier?  Why did she have to blame AI?  She knew now he would have said yes, and happily.  Next time, she won’t keep quiet so long.

Cindy uttered an almost imperceptible gasp as George gently unwrapped his gift.  But George heard it.  Beneath her pretty dress, he stopped to caress her aqua and white striped bikini panties before exposing her twin alabaster globes.  These gorgeous curves demanded attention and George made certain to pay tribute through a series of light traces that made Cindy shiver.  Incredibly soft and smooth he noted.

But soon, the time had come for the evening’s highlight, or at least one of them.  Rubbing gave way to tapping and tapping to slapping.  Before long, George was spanking in earnest.  Cindy drank in the rising sensuality of his steadily striking palm.

Next came the brush.  George knew his partner hadn’t been spanked for months and wouldn’t be acclimated to this harsh implement.  But he also knew Cindy.  She wouldn’t be satisfied with half a spanking.  He started slow but firm and gradually stepped up the pace, reading her body and breathing for signs of distress.  Her growling moans soon suggested quite the opposite reaction.  Even so, George stopped after a short while to limit the damage that was by then quite evident along the lower slopes of her punished cheeks.

Cindy practically jumped from his lap and into his arms.  They embraced as Cindy landed a passionate French kiss.  George momentarily hoped he didn’t taste like paprika and onion.  Too late.  His next thought was “Wow!”  They had unleashed a torrent of lustful zeal.  Hands roamed and clothing fell.  Each found the other quite ready for next stage.  Their mutual desire was too urgent to delay so the carnal celebration continued unabated on the living room couch.

As the couple embraced afterward, Cindy shared how much she appreciated her spanking.  “The sting was just so energizing, so, so exciting.”  George too appreciated their date night at home.  Spanking Cindy was splendid fun.  So was everything else.

“Are you still sore?”  George knew the answer but wanted to hear her say it.

“Oh hell yes!  I’ll be feeling that hairbrush for a while.  But I don’t regret it in the least.  Thank you, my love.  I needed this.”

“Let’s make sure we keep that brush somewhere we can easily find it.  By the way…  Did you really ask AI about a spanking?”

Cindy’s halting response gave her away.  “Um, I.  Ah.  You know I kinda did, but those chatbots are programmed to not talk about fun adult stuff.  So I did ask.  But I, uh, made up the answer I wanted to hear.”

A knowing smile crossed George’s face.  “So you might need another spanking for lying about the AI?”

“Yes, I guess I do, but maybe not tonight.”

 

 

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for September 7

What would you like to learn about spanking? What can you teach others?

 Bonnie: I like to learn through direct hands-on experience. In fact, I’m still learning.

Jack: Resisting, talking back, is not a good idea.

Rosco: Well, I had a few girlfriends here and there, but I never really felt comfortable being intimate until I started a relationship with Irene when I was 24. Discussing spanking, then engaging in it, happened pretty organically at the time.

I wish I’d understood myself better and was able to communicate with girls when I was much younger.

On the other hand, I remember leaving a small New Year’s Eve party when all my old friends had partners and I was single - they’ve all been divorced now and we’re going strong.

Roz: Always learning:) perhaps one lesson perhaps would be the important of aim and avoiding wrapping.

Red: I agree with Roz of the importance of aim and not wrapping. Wrapping with a long tawse hits the bone on the side of your body that has no padding, and not concentrating when spanking can have the end of a bath brush strike like a 2 by 4.

A.J.: What would you like to learn about spanking?

Nothing. Comfortable with what I know.

Is there something about spanking that you have learned the hard way, that you could teach others?

No. Not really. And not sure I would want to teach anyone anything re: spanking. Kinda' intimate to me.      

Prefectdt: What would you like to learn about spanking? 

I would like to know what is in it for the people who like to be the spanker. I do switch myself, although I would not describe myself as a switch, for me being a spanker is just a technical exercise in getting the spankee to the place they want to be in, but it is no great thrill for me. Even when I see an attractive butt under my lash, I am more concerned about what I am doing to that rear end than I am about how pretty it is. When receiving I can get a high that no external drugs could match, but cannot see what the spanker is getting out of it. It would be nice to find out what is in it for them.

Is there something about spanking that you have learned the hard way, that you could teach others?

Yes lots. Horticulturally I am a trained and experienced adult instructor and the skills learned from that have translated well to spanking scenarios. This has been useful when playing with inexperienced spankers. 

Wendel: I think we know enough to keep enjoying spanking. Always nice to read about other’s experiences. 

Hermione: I have learned a lot by watching spanking videos, especially what NOT to do. Videos are a lot of fun to watch and might help convince a reluctant partner to give it a try.

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #659

It's back to school this week for Canadian children, so sing along with me. "Reading and writing and 'rithmatic, taught to the tune of a..." never mind, you know how it goes. But learning is important for everyone, young, old and in between. 

What would you like to learn about spanking? Is there something about spanking that you have learned the hard way, that you could teach others?


Leave your thoughts as a comment. Once everyone has had a chance to join in, I will publish a summary of our discussion.

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for August 30

From this brunch ten years ago, the options picked by my readers for most and least comfortable were:

1. Male spanker and female spankee - 7 / 0
2. Female spanker and male spankee - 3 / 1
3. Female spanker and female spankee - 6 / 0
4. Male spanker and male spankee - 1 / 6

Let's see how we fared this year.

Bonnie: I don’t think non-spankos will be comfortable with any of these permutations, except perhaps in a hanky spanky bedroom context. Accordingly, I think their spanko preferences, if they have any, will parallel their sexual preferences.

Spanky53: My experience is that Male Spanker/Female Spankee and and Female Spanker/Female Spankee are a tie. The hardest for Non-Spankos to accept is Male Spanker/Male Spankee. That being said my experience also has been that Spankos have a harder time accepting Male Spanker/ Male Spankee than Non-Spankos.

Graham: I have zero interest in M/M though I certainly don't mind if others are into it -- none of my business as long as it's consensual. I can't possibly know, but I suspect that most non-spankers would find M/M most difficult to understand. But, as noted above, they likely identify most easily with their own orientation.

Dan: I think Female Spanker/Male Spankee has a lot of negative connotations for some, including that the male in that situation is unmanly. Others have said, in response to your question, that Male/Male may be the hardest for some to understand or accept. I'm not sure that's true. I think they may not themselves gravitate to it, but that doesn't mean they can't understand it. There is a Male/Male spanking group I follow on Reddit and, honestly, I think there are more posts on it that I find similar to my DD spanking lifestyle than is the case with the other DD spanking groups, which are predominantly F/m. I've also found that those latter groups tend to be pretty uninviting to those of us in Female/male dynamics.

CEM: I think the majority of people would find M/f the most "normal" due to societal standards of males being dominant. But most people would probably find F/f the least "threatening" due to the presumption that it was a kink, fetish, two lesbians or whatever, but with the so called "patriarchal" aspect removed, and women being physically less strong, less potentially "abusive" and those other misguided notions. 

Roz: I'm not sure on this one but as noted above I'm not sure non-spankos would be comfortable with any of the above but may perhaps be able to understand their own orientation a little more. As also commented above I think perhaps M/M may be the most difficult.

Rosco: I’d guess people in my group would be more comfortable with fm than mf, since it’s less likely to be associated with abuse, and it’s fun!

Like many men, I don’t like much to think about what gay men do.

I love to look at pictures of women spanking. Best if they’re wearing a nice dress or sometimes lingerie. Ok if they’re angry or whimsical.

I’m mixed about seeing the victim. If it’s male it could be me. But I love to look at a round plump female bottom, sometimes still wearing panties.

Even though I might have been a spanker if my wife was willing, I don’t generally like to look at men doing the spanking. It makes me think of abuse. My mind knows it’s not, but I still tend not to look.

Prefectdt: I have to admit to having only limited experience of explaining TTWD to non-spankos. I agree with Graham above, though. Talking to them about F/m play does avoid a lot of preconceptions, that they might have about partnership abuse and manipulative behaviour. Giving us a chance to distinguish ourselves as consenting players, not to be grouped with abusers. In my limited experience, the hardest thing about to non-spankos is overcoming the misconceptions that they already have, ranging from spankos being abusers or victims of abusers to they gave/received a light patty cake spanking, as part of foreplay once. Making them think that they know all about it already.  

Red: Very difficult to say what non spankos think, as we have never talked to anyone about spanking who is not into the idea of spanking. Many would think it abusive, I imagine.
Maybe we should all be saying that we do not find spanking in any way abusive, and just as I am happy in a F/M situation, I know Ron and you are happy in a M/F relationship.
Meeting friends who are in the opposite spanking (M/F) situation might even have the man being reluctant to meet because of what he thinks the new couple are actually thinking.
We do not find spanking to be in any way abusive, but actually enhancing our love for each other.
Cindy has occasionally said she was wrong and should be spanked, and I have agreed by bending down and planting a firm kiss on each cheek, with the firm reminder that if the behavior was worse, it would be on her bare bottom. We both laugh afterwards, and the problem is solved. Every couple might try this just to have a laugh. Just do not tell your partner what you are going to do when saying you should be spanked for this.

KDPierre: I don't think it's possible to answer this question for "non-spankos" since they are as diverse a group in their thinking as spankos and therefore would lean in different directions depending on a lot of factors. Personally, however, as a spanko who has come out to plenty of non-spankos, I have found that me being a sub male who GETS spanked rather than doing the spanking, has amused and resonated more than if I came out and said that I spank my wife. My wife also has gotten more "you go, girl!" responses from non-spanko women that seem to support this trend as well. But our experience is skewed by the type of people we are comfortable coming out to. It is definitely not a random group where I would expect the responses might well be quite different. 

Wolfman7446: male spanker female spankee - feminine, soft, and lovely.

Hermione: As others have said, it's hard to see things from the non-spanko's point of view. But I think, since the advent of the Sixty Shades books, most non-spankos would be most comfortable with M/F.         

   

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #658

Here's a question I posed ten years ago today, and I thought it was worth resurrecting. In view of the current state of sexual identities, it may not be politically correct, so I hope you will forgive me.

 If you are reading this blog, you are almost 100% guaranteed to be interested in spanking for one reason or another. You might actively engage in it, or have just started to explore, or maybe you're just curious. But there are many people out there who don't share our fascination with this percussive sport.

There are four possible combinations of spankers and spankees:

1. Male spanker and female spankee
2. Female spanker and male spankee
3. Female spanker and female spankee
4. Male spanker and male spankee

Which combination do you think non-spankos are most comfortable with, or most understanding of? Which one can they simply not get their heads around, or are least comfortable with? 

Leave your reply as a comment, and remember, all opinions are welcome here. Please feel free to interpret the question as you wish. If you prefer to state your own preference instead, that's fine. I will publish a summary of our discussion once everyone has had a chance to speak.

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for August 23

Would you let yourself be spanked by a stranger in order to help your partner get ahead? 

Robert: Well, since we're both retired this is a total fabrication, but I suppose if she thought it important enough and my wife asked/told me to take a spanking from a stranger, I hope (and think) I would say "Yes, ma'am. Where and when?"

I think it would make her proud of me to do so. I've never been spanked by anyone else, so it would be quite a step in our relationship!

Bonnie: My first thought is “how strange are they?”

I don’t know why anyone would even think that caning the employee’s naked wife was on the table. The story provides a rather unlikely rationale. I like the fantasy and I would enjoy a bigwig spanking role play with Randy. But in real life, I would have to respectfully pass. Only one man gets the privilege of spanking me. Any retribution would be met with a lawsuit.

Red: I love fantasy! However, I have actually been spanked by three different women with Cindy present, and quite enjoyed it. One was far too severe and left me badly bruised, one was absolute play with only a few real spanks, and the third wonderful woman is a friend of ours. Her spankings were not very hard, but more as strong play.. I have seen her spank much harder, when spanking her husband John.
In reality, if Cindy said that someone should spank me for real, i would say, yes dear, and permit it to happen.

Rosco: I can’t quite make this fantasy work.

But I’ve imagined any number of scenarios where Irene engages another woman to help keep me in line. Once we ran into Susan, the best friend of my high school girlfriend who didn’t seem to approve of me. When I introduced Irene to her, Susan made some sort of comment to the effect that she hoped I’d learned to treat women better. I imagined Irene replying that she had to be a little strict and bossy sometimes, leading to Susan asking questions, Irene telling her about my spankings and asking her if she like to participate.

Most of my fantasies start will real life encounters like this one - I have many and often replay them in my mind with the exact conversation.

Wendel: Nope.

Roz: While the fantasy is tantalising, in reality it would be a no. Spanking is purely between us.

Ronnie: Nope, spanking is just between the two of us. 

A.J.: Foolish scenario. Maybe it is the wife who should be doing the spanking

Fantasy-wise, if my boss was a cute female, and my "wife" was present - that might be fun.

Graham: Fun fantasy but can't imagine it happening in real life. For openers, way too many potential work place implications unless it was a 2-person company. 

Prefectdt: It is a fictitious scenario for me but here is what I would do. I would take the whooping but in a place where I could hide several cameras and sound recording devices, without the knowledge of my partner's boss. Then next time that the wicked work giver tries to be unfair in any way at all to my loved one, we would have a pretty little sword of Damocles, to dangle over their corrupt head.

Brett: I'd go up the chain or get a lawyer and see if we can remove this predator from his position.

Dan: I have kind of a thing for stories and memes that involve being coerced into taking a spanking. So, yes, I think I'd be game for it.

Hermione: The story was a fun read, but in real life it would be a red line never to be crossed.             

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #657

Welcome to another weekend brunch! Several years ago I published a story here about a woman who had to agree to be spanked by her husband's boss in order for him to keep his promotion. The story was fiction, but what if you found yourself in that position?

If you are the spankee in your relationship, would you agree to be spanked by a stranger in order to help your husband / wife / partner get ahead or keep a job? If you are the spanker, would you encourage your husband / wife / partner to go through with it?

Leave your thoughts as a comment and I will publish the outcome once everyone has had a chance to speak. I hope you took the time to read the story; it's quite delicious!

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for August 16

What is your experience with blindfolds, gags, earplugs or similar items?

Wendel: We tried having the spankee blindfolded and wearing noise canceling headphones playing “Dance of the Sugar Plum Fairies”. The Misses cried out much louder each time the paddle whacked her fanny. She said it seem more intense because the music relaxed her and then the surprise whack of the paddle produced endorphins, adrenalin or whatever chemicals the body makes to increase pleasure. When it was my turn I did not want her to stop. My bottom hurt so bad after that I could barely get my pants back on but the pleasure was well worth the pain.
Restraints? Bought a pair, tried it once and never used it again. We just did not like it. 

Barrel: We tried a blindfold and I didn’t care for it as I like to see what is coming before I feel it. Never used ear plugs, and won’t as I like to hear the “whurp” of the cane before it is administered. We do use a perforated ball gag occasionally to heighten the aura and when the caning will be extended or severe. Restraints are commonly used when we do a session. 

Roz: We have used restraints and blindfolds in the past. For me it definitely added to the experience and my other senses were on overdrive. We have never used earplugs or headphones.

Rosco: Blindfolds, gags and light bondage are usual components of our repertoire these days.

Irene will pull a (sometimes clean, sometimes not) pair of panties or a panty girdle over my head, the tie satin scarves over my eyes and mouth. She’ll tell me she’s tired of my sass and doesn’t want to hear a word from me.

She might strap me down on our massage table for a sound thrashing. Then she’ll put me down for a nap on my back with my wrists handcuffed to my thighs (being too enthusiastic with bondage has caused neck, back and shoulder pain).

Sometimes I’ll be required to give Irene an extended foot massage while blindfolded and gagged.

Oddly, I’ll drift off into an erotic slumber for half an hour or so then patiently wait to hear her footsteps when she returns to give me more attention. Irene will administer another thrashing, always with a lecture, before indulging in more traditional intimate activities.

Dan: We've never tried any kind of sensory restriction, and I doubt we would. As the recipient, I already have a very narrow focus on a single sensation during a spanking -- the sensation of the brush or paddle slamming into my butt. I think my wife gets more out of the other sensory inputs, particularly sounds. She has said she loves the sound of that paddle or strap striking.

CEM: Nope on all three...never would. 

Prefectdt: I have tried blindfolds and gags whilst on the receiving end. Always at the request of the person handing out the whups, not asked for by me. A blindfold and someone who knows how to direct the mind play are a combination that has often added positively to my experience. Gags, on the other hand, especially ball gags, have been for the benefit of the spanker, I just don't mind them. I am happy to be gagged, in the spirit of compromise, but it is more for the benefit of the other party in the interaction. Ear plugs and headphones do not appeal to me, at all, and I would take some convincing to try them out.

Bonnie: Sensory restriction can be either good or bad, depending upon the context. In a playful scene, blindfold spanking games, like guess the implement, can be fun. I have a problem with noise cancelling headphones because they can make a scene too intense for me. Likewise, I don’t like any gag that restricts my breathing. That’s a hard limit.

But if he wants to tie me up or tie me down, I’m all in for that spanking.

Red: Interesting ideas, but we have not ever tried any of these. The idea of guess the implement when blindfolded would possibly add another element of fun to the activity. Not hearing the stroke, and not knowing when it would happen, could be very intense. Another reason to buy noise cancelling headphones for travel on airplanes. 

Hermione: We have used restraints in the past, but after reading Gerald's Game, I'm not too eager for them. I wouldn't mind being blindfolded, but a ball gag is too creepy, even in photos. Headphones might be a possibility if I bought wireless ones.

      

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Glory to Ukraine

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #656

Welcome one and all to another weekend spanko brunch. We all live in different countries around the world, so we can't meet in the same physical location to eat and chat, but we can still have fun together here on this blog. No travel required!

For my husband and me, spanking involves many of our senses. Besides the feel of the paddle - either in his hand or on my bottom - there is the sight of him standing there, ready for action. Then there are sounds, lots of them: my squeals, his laughter, the swish and crack of the implement. The scent of a leather paddle or belt is always a turn-on for me. I wouldn't want to be deprived of the whole experience. But what about you?

What do you think about using blindfolds, gags, earplugs or headphones during a spanking? Do these restrictions enhance the experience or take away from it?

Leave your response as a comment, and once everyone has spoken I will publish a summary of our discussion.

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Glory to Ukraine

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for August 9

What do you do if your spanking partner is away?

Bonnie: We’ve been fortunate to not have that problem, at least not for an extended time. Even when Randy was sick, he could still swing a light implement.

Robert: Recently, my wife was away for a "Girl's Weekend," including the day I usually receive my maintenance spanking. She isn't interested in me spanking myself, but she did have some "maintenance" tasks to remind me she's in charge even when away.
For example, I have one pair of nylon panties that are two sizes too small, usually worn on days when I'm to be spanked later. However, in this case, the first full day she was away, I was to wear those panties...uncomfortable all day, but a nice remind.
Other days, I was assigned corner time. It's odd standing in the house all by myself, pants and panties at my ankles for ten minutes, but it's what you do when your wife tells you to do so.
She made up for lost time when she got home and I went to bed with a VERY red bottom.

Wendel: Luckily the Misses has a job that is fully remote. If I leave for a project she will tag along. If I am only going only for a day or two and she does not join I will paddle or whip her bottom good so she has something to remember me by. 

When the Misses goes on a girls' night out excursion she is usually back the follow evening. Before leaving the Misses will give me a rather sound paddling to ensure I behave while she is away.

CEM: I just put everything for the future into the...spank bank. 😁
Sorry, couldn't resist. 😬

Roz: We have had occasions back in the day where we have been apart for a period of time. Regular communication which includes phrases like "you will" or "I want you to" help alongside regular checking in. In regards to spanking alternatives, things like chores, corner time (bleah lol), set bedtime. Of course these can be used whether together or apart.

Ronnie: P hasn’t been away for a long period so not had that problem. 

Rosco: We’re in the midst of a bit of a drought right now. Neither of us is away, but there are numerous distractions and anomalies in our schedules.

When Irene was away and I was missing the attention, I got into bed, pulled a pair of her panties over my face and listened to a Missjenndavis podcast as I drifted off into a nap.

Irene will be eager to reengage when we have an opportunity but that might not be for another 10 days - unless we find time this afternoon. Absence does my the heart grow fonder!

Red: Fortunately, we have almost never had extended periods apart from each other. More than 50 years of seeing each other almost every day. No wonder I need to be spanked at times. 

Prefectdt: My partner is never here, because I do not have one. However, there are often times when I cannot get spanked. During these times, self spanking, with various implements, does help me keep my rear end in condition, but is not at all satisfying. There is an EMS/TENS unit that I have found can give me a half hour electronic spanking, and that helps to keep me in mental balance.   

Hermione: Like others, we are together every day, and neither of us is away overnight, so there is no need to go without spankings.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #655

Welcome to our weekly spanko brunch. Today's topic was inspired by a message from a regular reader. Their question is one that many of us have struggled with from time to time, and they would like some suggestions from you on how to handle it.

How do you cope when your partner is away for extended periods? What substitutes for spanking do you use? How do you keep up domestic discipline, if that is part of your lifestyle?

Leave your reply as a comment and I will publish your suggestions once everyone has had a chance to contribute.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for August 2

What is the longest time you have been without spanking?

Bonnie: Randy didn’t want to spank me when I was pregnant. He was worried for the safety of our baby. I got that concern, but I was less certain. There were zero spankings for many months. I can’t remember a time when I needed it more.

Even after our daughter was born, I had to convince him that beating my bottom would not affect my breast milk. In any case, the baby was fine and she now has her own college-age daughter.

Jack: I had messed up at a visit to a friend, we got home late, I knew what was to come, but my wife/mommy said nothing. The next morning I got up after she did, and took a shower. As I was stepping out of the shower she stood there, pointed to the front room, I had dried off and naked went to the front room. I was told to stand, and wait. It was a half hour and finally she took me over her lap and the bath brush was applied hard and fast. This is the longest time I can recall.  

Wendel: We both got the flu that lasted a week and 3 more days before we really felt good again. It was the longest we ever went without spanking each other. 

Donn: Well, so far I think I hold the record for longest period:

Discontinuation: Junior High School football coach was last person to swing a paddle for many years. That was back in 1972.

Resumption: My current wife was the next person, with one of her rubber straps. That was back in 2004.

I think that makes 32 years! (That's a "record" I never again want to come anywhere meeting!)  

Why so long?

Basically, I don't thing I'm really a "spanko." I don't have a spanking "kink" or "fetish."

I do, most certainly, have an empowered female fetish. I've know that for many years since roughly Junior High School. However, it was always felt and express in non-spanking ways.

Back in roughly 2002 I discovered the Disciplinary Wives Club website, which supercharged my  empowered female urges, and linked them to reality, with "Good Old-Fashioned Discipline" and all the accoutrements (mostly spanking and butt thrashing); so easy -- so natural - SO REAL!  

Roz: When we had a dd dynamic back in the day we used to have weekly maintenance so there was that anticipation every week. There were also a few occasions a spanking was 'due' but Rick was away so there may have been a wait of just over a week.

Prefectdt: It was back in the 90s, I gave up for nearly four years. The reason? I mistakenly thought that I could choose to be or not to be a spanko, and it was time to stop this childish thing. I was wrong. It was upon some heavily dropped hints from a psychologist that I ended up seeing on a regular basis, I took up getting spanked again and all became better.

  

A.J.: Twenty (20!) years? From the time I first knew spanking fascinated me as a young lad to the time my GF tricked me into spanking her. Does that count?

(Why? Because I believed that anyone who took pleasure in 'hitting' a woman was a perversion worthy of prison.)

Reversing laps...a year?

 

Dan: It's probably the period I'm in right now, in which it's been over three months; probably more like four at this point. It was the result of an injury that's going to take a while to heal. We had another period, two years ago, in which we went about three months. That too was medically related.

 

Red: Never really kept track of time between spankings. Spankings in the past usually went in spurts of two or three weeks without and then maybe three in the space of a week. We are now doing more often regularly, and if I feel stressed, I ask to be spanked. We are about to try twice a week to see how that works out. 

 

I am spanked while on vacation, and we do not worry of how thin the cabin walls on a cruise ship, nor in a hotel or airbnb. We will never meet the people again that are the opposite side of the wall. However, we do put music on to muffle the sound a bit, but our love-making creating an orgasm is much louder, and we do not muffle them. Neighbors can choose which they like best! 

 

Rosco: Irene has been spanking me consistently since 1980. The longest break during that time has probably been 3 weeks or so due to travel, houseguests etc. when the kids were growing up I came home for lunch, spankings and more.

Before 1980, the only successful spanking was in 1969 which I administered just prior to my first French kiss.

 

Fondles: I think we're down to maybe a handful of spankings a year now. It's hard when there are people in the house! Those waffles looked delicious! (It's the other thing I'm weak for besides scones!)      

Hermione: The longest we have gone without spanking is 18 months. We adopted a rescue dog who hadn't been crated in years and objected to being incarcerated while we were still obviously in the house and he was missing all the fun. He made such a fuss that we eliminated spanking from our bedroom activities until Ron got access to an apartment after a family member had vacated it. We enjoyed spanking for three Sundays in a row, realized how much we had missed it, then resolved to either put up with the dog's fuss or rent a motel room. By then the dog was used to being crated and didn't make a peep.

More recently, Ron had minor health issues that put spanking on the back burner for three weeks. 

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #654

I hope everyone's hungry, because the waffles are hot and ready! No waiting for them to cook. And speaking of waiting, that brings us to today's topic.

What is the longest period of time you have waited between spankings? What was the reason for the long delay?

Leave your response as a comment and I will publish a summary of our discussion once everyone has had a chance to speak.

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Our Friend is Back

Our good friend and blogger Jean Marie is back with a new blog on Substack. Do you call it a blog if it's on Substack? No matter, she's back with many stories about spanking and life.

I hope you will drop in and wish her well. You won't be disappointed. 

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for July 26

Sports and spanking. How do you combine them?

Bonnie: My dear husband has a hundred permutations of the “Oops, you lose, now bend over” game. They all end more or less the same way. Card games, board games, sporting contests, dice, wagers on future events - my poor butt always eventually pays the price.

Now I appreciate a good spanking as much as the next gal, but it doesn’t seem fair that even when I win, l still end up over his lap. He offers to skip the paddle if I win, but that doesn’t seem quite right either. I want him to take me out for a nice dinner or go with me to an arts fair or a bookstore. If he did that, I wouldn’t mind all those spankings.

Wendel: Just like Bonnie we can convert any game into a loser gets spanked game. Big difference is that we spank each other, so the loser really does get the spanking. 

Anon: Ditto. Card games, word games, ping pong, pool, etc.

Rosco: I would probably do this kind of thing, but Irene likes to be spontaneous.

We did play a memorable (suggestive to me) game of ping pong in 1979, having snuck away from our erstwhile partners at a party. We got together 6 months later, and she’s been spanking me ever since.

Roz: There may have been a few light-hearted wagers over the years but it hasn't seriously been part of our spanking activities.     

Prefectdt: Can't really think of any vanilla games that have been played in my spankings. I used to know one pay to play Top who used to incorporate mind games into the play. She had me so confused once that the first thing I did, when I got back in the real world, was to buy a newspaper (pre smartphone era) to find out what day of the week it was. I have never really thought about actual physical games to include during a spanking. Something new to consider. 

KDPierre: We have a set of spank-oriented 'tournament rules' for our occasional private games of 8-ball. Needless to say they are ridiculously slanted in Rosa's favor and result in literally hundreds of smacks being delivered to me over the course of the games and after (depending on how well I play). 

Hermione: Ron is a big football fan, so when his team loses, I get spanked. Of course, when his team wins, I get a celebratory spanking.  

Red: Never incorporated anything with spanking . (no sports, or activities). Guess we are a little bland. 

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