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Sage writes: "My favorite implement, besides the spanking buddy which is a hand protector but has a really good sting, is another thing from Cane-iac, called an OTK Russet Brown leather strap. Here is the photo from their site. I know people who are not in the U.S. can't get to their site now."
If someone in the US can copy the actual photo and send it to me, I will gladly replace the image above with the real thing.
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Do you use ice or lotion to soothe a spanked bottom?
Anon: Lotion helps some. Cold wet yeoooch!
Bonnie: Yes, both will soothe a spanked bottom, when they are offered. I am far more likely to feel lotion as aftercare drifts into foreplay.
Sage Blum: I like coconut oil.
Wendel: A cold damp wash cloth is always soothing. The Misses likes ice in a zippy bag for her bottom after a whipping. It is very arousing to see her laying on the edge of the bed holding an ice bag on her sore bottom.
Roz: Ice or lotion can help. Not something we regularly do, but we have used arnica cream on the odd occasion.
Prefectdt: The first thing on my butt, post spanking, is definitely the opposite of soothing. Alcohol gel, to sort out any lesions and micro lesions. After that, some body lotion is very welcome. Nothing special, just some basic hydro care stuff. That always feels good and goes on three times a day, until the marks have faded. It helps prevent any drying out and other healing problems.
Luvinhub: I think once my wife applied lotion; yes it felt good. However, my spankings were for disciple/punishment so my wife wasn't into easing any discomforts. Our aftercare was more on the physical side; more like cuddling.
Barrel: I don’t recall ever using ice. I have used lotion to soothe welts, but rarely. After we each share our reflections on the session, we have a glass of wine and move to intimacy.
KDPierre: Objectively speaking, yes, ice and lotion are inherently soothing just as they would be for any injury. But no, we don't use them. The only time lotion is used is for color enhancement for the photos we take, not for relief. Relief is never a goal.
Ronnie: Both will soothe. Have used cream on occasions but not something we do on a regular basis.
Hermione: We don't use either right after, but each morning I apply a good moisturizing lotion to keep the cheeks in good shape.
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The pictures and stories about your favourite implements are flooding in. Thank you to all who responded. If you haven't, you can still send pictures of your favourite implement to my email address in the right sidebar. If you leave a comment without a picture, I'll try to add a reasonable facsimile when I create your post.
Now on to our discussion. All good things, including spankings, come to an end. Let's consider a specific form of aftercare.
Do you think ice or lotion are helpful for comforting a recently spanked bottom? Is this something you regularly apply?
Please leave your response as a comment below. Once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish an edited summary of our conversation. Thank you, Bonnie, for yet another great topic.
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Thank you, KDPierre. I've had many responses, so watch for more favourites in the weeks to come.
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At last week's brunch, Sage Blum suggested that readers tell us about their favourite implements. Our good friend Barrel then reminded me that he had made that same suggestion some time ago, with an added enhancement. Barrel, I apologize for the delay, and Sage, thank you for the idea.
Do you have a favourite implement that you would like to tell everyone about? If so, please send me a picture of the implement, along with a description of why you love it, how and when it is used, or whatever details you wish to share. My email address is on the right sidebar of this post (without the spaces). Do use an anonymous email, if you can, or specify what pseudonym you would like me to use.
Here's my favourite implement, the dogging bat. It's leather, which I love, and makes a lovely loud smack. It isn't severe at all, but is great for a warmup before the main event.
I'm looking forward to hearing from you, and I'll post your replies as they come in.
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Are any implements a hard "No" for you?
Anon: I always refuse to use any implement which may crack skin. Redness rocks, bruising and handprints or brush prints are fine. Breaking through the skin level is a hard will not do.
Mark: We don't have discussed hard limits but we had a heavy rubber paddle that bruised me badly and I quietly disposed of it...
Rosco: Sure.
Irene likes the satisfaction of being able to deliver a
good whack. Nice I bought a carpet beater but it was too stiff and hurt
way too much. Once in a while I cut switches - they’re delicious but you
gotta get em right.
Intense but not severe.
She’s
overdone it a few times, but only a few - and sometimes she misses the
sweet spot and whacks my testicles hard or a whip wraps around to the
far hipbone. I like it to hurt but there are limits.
Sage: I retired the lexan paddle we had, and probably will retire the cane. Everything else we've tried seems good by me. I really don't like serious pain. And like sting rather than thud. Have returned things just because they were thuddy. We use wooden implements less often than leather ones, since I like leather better on most days. And since my vanilla partner would have a cow if he left marks on me, he doesn't. I am pink or red after a spanking, but if a mark looks like it's starting to appear, he adjusts his use of the implement so that doesn't happen.
Roz: We haven't really discussed hard limits when it comes to implements, but are on the same page that we wouldn't anything extreme, such as whips etc. I would like to add canes.
Dan: Rubber straps. All of our spankings are disciplinary and meant to hurt a lot, but those showed me that, even within our spanking niche, there is such a thing as too much. They also had a tendency to break skin, which was a big issue for my wife. Also, one of them smelled like an old tire. So, the rubber straps all ended up in the dumpster.
KDPierre: Over time we've just sort of mutually gravitated to what works best for us, with some implements being eventually retired, others kept for special times, and still others given hallowed status, but I can't recall anything that was a "hard limit".
A.J.: Pretty much "hands on." Maybe a small strap/belt if the hand starts to hurt.
I'm romantic that way.....
Prefectdt: Just saying “Delrin” seems to sum it up for me. I have a delrin cane, that has not cut the air for nearly 2 decades now, and that languishes at the bottom of the toy box. It just gives the wrong type of pain and I cannot process it, mentally. I hope one day to find someone who likes delrin and I can donate it to them. It seems such a sad waste to throw away a perfectly good toy.
Graham: Nothing that could cause real damage. We do like canes, which can certainly draw a little blood on occasion which is a sign to stop very soon!
Wendel: We are not fond of canes or whips that can wrap around the hips. Paddles, straps and belts are favorites.
Barrel: We do not have any limits and have continued to dial our sessions up, both in duration and intensity. My wife likes the feeling she gets when she puts me into compromised territory because she knows it is what I want, and most often, what I need. We both get the endorphin rush from a serious thrashing. She really tries hard to not let our thin delrin cane wrap onto the sides of my thighs, and has grown quite proficient with it. However, in the heat of the moment, it will and deliver a deep wale. I am fine with it and wear them as a badge of honor, with fond memories.
Marie: My personal hard limits (with anyone) are anything with holes (like a
paddle or strap with holes), anything rubber, lexan, synthetic canes
like delrin, frat style paddles that cross both cheeks, and typically
anything plastic other than the Mason Pearson hairbrush I have.
I tend to gravitate towards thud and especially enjoy leather.
Ronnie: We know what works for us. We don't do hard limit implements though some would say the cane was:), but not for me.
FL: Not so much a hard limit as being perfectly happy with the classics; hand, hairbrush, belt, and (rarely) cane. Both for their physical effects and their compatibility with domestic discipline role play.
Hermione: One of the early episodes of "Doc Martin" comes to mind. A man with a variety of injuries was a frequent visitor to the surgery. When Doc Martin went to their house on an emergency call, he found the man wearing leather and stuck in an apparatus that belonged in a dungeon. The couple were inexperienced and a little too enthusiastic in their BDSM explorations, and the result was a myriad of sprains, lacerations and dislocations.
As for us, I submit to anything Ron cares to use, because I know he won't cause me any real harm. I'm not a fan of the dressage whip, and there is a delrin paddle that has never been used.
On the flip side, Ron once bought a lovely red leather strap for me on Valentine's Day. After one use, he was disappointed that it didn't produce much of an impact. He's only used it once since, when I had hidden all our implements due to a family visit, and hadn't put them out again, so he had to use what he could find.
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