Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for October 13

It's Thanksgiving Day here in Canada, and pumpkin pie is on the menu tonight. Before we can enjoy it, let's see what you said about visiting a professional Dom or Domme.

Bonnie: Ever could be a long time, but I don't think so.

Graham: I went many times in my 30's and 40's. Had rewarding experiences and, surprisingly to me at the time, met some very nice women. Although the industry norm is that these women don't date clients, that is not at all the case. Two people can establish a meaningful relationship and friendship in these situations, which fortunately occurred with me. I never met anyone who wasn't nice and competent and focused on customers' needs. 

CEM: Nope, never, ever, ever on the "pro-sub". However, I do like fresh red tomatoes, and I like making women's bare bottoms the color of...red tomatoes. :) 

Dan: I never say never, but it's unlikely. The only way I can see it happening is if, god forbid, something happened to my wife or, in the unlikely event we split up after 30+ years. Even then, I don't know that my very strong interest in domestic discipline-style spankings (a) would be fulfilled by a pro, since that wouldn't be in a realistic domestic relationship; (b) is so strong that I would seek it out from a pro if it wasn't happening in a primary relationship.

Enzo: I have never visited a pro-domme because that is not my preferred dynamic.

However, I have often considered offering my services as "pro-dom" and wonder if I would get any interested inquiries. 

Wendel: Nope and nope. The Misses in leather panties swinging a belt is all I need to cover that desire.

FL: Never have but am strongly leaning towards it. I am single (widowed) and not getting any younger, so I think it's a 'now-or-never' thing for me. My biggest concern is that it would be a huge and expensive disappointment without the emotional connection of a relationship.

Jack: Never thought about it, looking back I would say I should have, but not for sexual pleasure, but for a woman taking charge. 

Rosco: I am intrigued and would go if I thought she was right for me, but it’s not likely to be compatible with my marriage.

Ideally Irene would take me herself, dragging me in by the ear whining and pouting and begging. This naughty boy is incorrigible, she’d explain, I need someone to help me give him a thrashing he won’t forget.

jpo: I used to visit a male pro dom for spankings. I had to appear at his door bare naked, having undressed in the car, it involved walking naked up his driveway, knocking on the door and asking for a spanking when he answered. Some days he would just close the door and leave me standing there naked until he decided to let me in the house.
Then he would tie and gag me and proceed to whip my sissy bare bottom with a heavy strap for usually 45 minutes. He was very good at using a strap and often left me crying like the little sissy b*tch i am.

Prefectdt: I have in the past and I will in the future :)

S: In the past I have hired a submissive women who likes to be spanked. Most of the women I spanked this way are delightful spirits who enjoy spending time having their bottoms roasted. I recently spanked a lovely woman so hard that I had a blood blister on my hand. When we were done she just said that was wonderful, I hope we can do it again soon. I know it is not perfect but it helps me retain some of my sanity.

I just read all of the comments, I know it is not my place, but I would encourage FL to go for it. The women I have met over the years have been wonderful and they made me feel great about our interest. 

FL: It's absolutely "your place" to offer an opinion and I truly appreciate it. Thank you. One of the biggest pluses I can see is being able to allow myself to "let go" in a session, without fear of judgment or damage to an existing relationship. Feeling great about enjoying being spanked would be wonderful; frankly, I'd be happy just not feeling ashamed about it.      

Mija: It's something I've thought about, a lot. I haven't, but I think I will someday. I like the idea of being able to push some of my limits with someone who's experienced and, perhaps, into the idea of being a little bit cruel.

The trick, as far as I'm concerned, would be finding someone whose primary kink is the corporal punishment end of spanking. Someone who understands it's the center of my kink, not an expression of or pathway to submission.  

Barrel: Yes I have, and will consider it. I have entertained the idea of a session with a pro domme with my wife for my birthday. I think my wife would appreciate watching a pro deal with me. I am encouraged with all the positive comments about friendly and professional relationships that may be available.

Roz: Not for me. Spanking for me has to be within the bounds of a relationship with a connection between us.

Hermione: I can't see myself ever doing that, but if it works for you, go for it and enjoy it.

 

That was quite a wide variety of answers, and one of our more successful brunches!

 

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #561

Our tomato harvest is coming to an end, and the remaining ones are ripening on our dining room table. Some will eaten as a side dish or in a sandwich, but most of them will be canned (well, jarred, actually) for winter use. Yes, I know store-bought canned tomatoes are cheap, but I get real satisfaction out of canning them myself and seeing the rows of filled Mason jars with layers of red, yellow and brown fruit.

Now, on to our weekly discussion, and a topic that was inspired by a comment in one of our previous brunches. 

Would you ever consider going to a professional Dom/Domme, if this is not something you have ever done?

Please leave your reply as a comment below. When everyone has had a chance to speak, I will post a summary of our discussion.

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Seen Along the Road

Yesterday we went on a field trip to a nearby cheese factory for some fresh, squeaky curd and blocks of aged cheddar. The things we saw along the way!

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for October 6

What do you like to see in a spanking picture?

Wendel: For me the best spanking pictures are the ladies getting it on the bare bottom. It has to show the bottom along with all the beautiful curves and creases. I am also a fan of the pics showing the upset, firm lady sitting on a chair with a paddle awaiting her bad boy’s arrival across her lap. Severe bruising in the pic is not a turn on nor is the legs spread wide open as the spanking is administered.

Glenmore: I do enjoy pictures of a female spanker who is smiling , laughing and enjoying herself while her man has a completely opposite expression. I also like to see spanking with women wearing glasses, whether spanked or spanked.

FL: I enjoy F/M scenarios, particularly those with a maternal figure administering a classic OTK spanking with hand and/or hairbrush. I especially like seeing the women's faces, a look of strict determination as they mete out punishment. I don't need nudity or lingerie (though I am partial to full slips). 

Rob Allen: I like to see a nicely-shaped spankee enjoying it or reacting to an intense stroke, not just enduring or seeming to dread it. Any gender combination can work but I identify most with M/f.

CEM: Realism. All the websites that popped up over the years, or used to be magazines, that just hire women to spank or the mere depiction of it...not a fan. Without authenticity, it means nothing to me and can be sort of off-putting. Anything photoshopped, faked, adding redness, just bogus. There is no shortage of people in everyday real life that partake in this activity, no desire to see anything fraudulent or just for $$$.  

Graham: I prefer F/M but like some M/F. Very much like women in some form of stockings and suspenders, which I find even sexier than nude ladies. All a matter of preference!

Anon: I enjoy m/f otk, everyday clothing taken down, realistic facial expressions. 

Enzo: Our preferences are probably as unique as we all are.

I am a fan of pictures that were set up and intended to be photographs to begin with. What I mean is I prefer pictures that were intended to be printed in magazines to begin with, such as the old Janus and Blushes magazines. There is just something about those; the thought that went into the angles, and lighting and especially the story telling. I'm not such a fan of a lot of modern photos that are basically screen grabs from a video production. (No offence to those video producers as they serve a great community service). Those pictures can be great, but the photos are a secondary thought to the primary intent which is the video.

These and any well stylized photos that tell a visual story are my preference. 

Roz: I prefer more intimate, sensual pics. More extreme shots and severe marking aren't a turn on. My main preference is M/F.

KDPierre: I prefer a somewhat realistic depiction of a F/f or F/m spanking where something more stingy than a hand is used, and the marks indicate the spanking is being felt quite sincerely. If the photographer, through setting and expression, can further manage to convey an exchange that resonates with me, I am thrilled. A reversal in age is even more wonderful. 

As for what disappoints? Too mild is a yawn. M/f leaves me a bit queasy, especially if the Top is paunchy, nerdy, very old, or--god forbid--has a ponytail. If the Top looks like an operative for the Russian mob I feel physically ill. All these pictures do is make me think the poor model is a sex slave captive of some sort. Weird hair color and excessive tattooing just makes me shake my head. School scenes are another yawn. And I can't suppress a laugh if the outfits are clownish or the spankee is totally nude yet still has high heels on. Just silly. And the worst is anything that has been faked in any way. I feel that faked photos should be required by law to have a mark in the corner indicating the photo has been altered, and violators of this law should be slowly lowered into a vat of boiling oil the way they did in Medieval times. (By now I am sure that you can see I don't like MOST of what's out there. So for me, finding a good shot is like finding a four-leaf clover in a field full of cow pies.)  

Prefectdt: First, thank you for giving my second blog a much-needed push.

I like a picture that suggests a whole story, in my head. If it is well thought out, staged and properly lit, that helps a lot. It would be nice to see more professional, paid, male spanking performers both in videos and pictures. Just having people, both giving and receiving in an adult spanking scenario, because they are prepared to do it for free is not good enough. We do not expect women to do this and therefore, should not expect men to do so either. I feel that the old saying is true there "Pay peanuts and get monkeys".

Rosco: Before so much was available online, I screwed up my courage to go to the seedy neighborhood adult bookstore, bought a few magazines and was pretty disappointed.

The first picture I really adored was a small advertisement in Penthouse for Leda/NuWest shown a stern looking Julia Jameson in a short but modest skirt with a hairbrush on her lap.

As a loosely heteronormative submissive, I love seeing attractive female spankers. If it’s a male spankee, I don’t want to see too much. If it’s a female spankee, I’d often prefer to see a raised skirt than nudity - maybe it seems like a real spanking. I like to see a spanking over panties sometimes, if they’re the right kind (I much prefer nylon over cotton-go figure).

I generally like female spankers in dresses or skirts or sometimes partially clad with lingerie. Jeans don’t work. Jodhpurs can be sexy.

Above all, I like faces. The spankers can be angry or smiling and laughing. The spankees can be in pain or enjoying it. But without faces, pictures mean very little.

S: What a great question. Based on my collection,I like all types of spanking photos. I really enjoy over the knee spankings, well dressed women standing in the corner displaying spanked bottoms. I also like photos of women with their hands on their own bottoms. I also like happy smiling spankers and spankees. I also like photos of women's panties. I do not like photos of naked women with their makeup ruined from crying and I really do not like photo of bottoms that have been brutally traumatized

Dan: It's probably easier for me to specify what I don't like than all the things I do. I'm in a purely F/m dynamic, but I do like both F/m and M/f photos and artwork.. But, like K.D., I really hate pictures with paunchy, old, male spankers and young female spankees. Total turnoff. But, oddly, the F/m converse is not true. I actually like pictures with older female spankers. I gravitate strongly toward pictures or drawings where the spankee is showing real emotions and that he or she is really, really hating and struggling with the spanking, including real tears. Unfortunately, I find that real emotion seems to be displayed almost exclusively in M/f or F/f pictures and drawings. For some reason, all you see in the F/m genre is exaggerated grimacing and fake yelling.    

Hermione: I dislike total nudity of either the spanker or the spankee. Clothing from the waist up and a fully-bared bottom for the spankee, but no genitalia showing. I prefer the OTK position or else bent over a piece of furniture. No bruises or blood, just a nicely-reddened bottom. And no smiling from either party; spanking is serious business!

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #560

The table is set, the soup is hot, and the chairs are comfortable, so let's get started on another weekly discussion. 

Our good friend Prefectdt has a blog devoted to links to other spanking blogs. After a quick perusal of a few, I decided that people do seem to enjoy spanking pictures. There is quite a lot of variety in the kind of photos displayed; some are much more explicit than others.

What makes a spanking picture enjoyable for you? What do you like to see? What would you prefer not to see?

Leave your reply as a comment and when everyone has had a chance to speak, I will post a summary of our discussion.

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His Secret is Out

Now everyone knows that Arthur was a spanko.

Thank you, Rosco, for finding this gem.

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for September 29

Do your spankings include an element of embarrassment?

CEM: I'm sure some of them have indeed felt embarrassed during a spanking...if I do it right. :) 

Mija: Better question - Have I ever *not* felt embarrassed during a spanking?

Embarrassment (safe embarrassment) is definitely a central part of the kink for me. It adds to the sense of trust. That said, the time we thought we were alone only to find a family, including a dog, walking by after Paul finished was probably the most embarrassing thing that's ever going to happen. 

Rosco: Well, let’s see.

I delivered a spanking, actually three short spankings a few minutes apart, when I was thirteen to a girl I’d met at the beach. We weren’t far from the older kids at the bonfire and I kept the spankings short because I was afraid the older kids at the bonfire would notice and ridicule me. The girl I was spanking was clearly into it in retrospect, but I was totally unprepared for the situation and the opportunity.

When I was 16, I asked a girl to spank me. She did not respond well and I was embarrassed.

When I was 23, I spanked a girlfriend for no reason. I just couldn’t resist. Her bottom just seemed to need it. But She said “I don’t think I like that”, and I was embarrassed. She told some friends who teased me good naturedly, which made me feel a bit better.

My wife Irene said she no interest in being spanked but she’d be happy to spank me. It’s always role play with lecture and theoretical embarrassment. We’ve never been caught, but a few folks have seen our Implements and seem to know. 

Roz: I have felt embarrassed on occasion, or perhaps more accurately uncomfortable. Mainly if I have been caught by surprise by the spanking and don't feel prepared enough for it eg clothes, underwear etc.

FL: There's the embarrassment that's integral to the spanking role play (good) and the embarrassment of things like being discovered by others (not so good). I'm happy to say I've had the former and never the latter.
In my younger years, I was quite afraid of being found out a spanko and trusting someone enough to share it was huge. Now I hardly care at all and doubt anyone else would either.

Luvinhub: I had the general embarrassment of having to be over my wife's lap and being spanked by my wife. I would say it was more so in the early days of our WLM. There were a couple times where the spanking was loud and so was I that I was embarrassed that someone might have heard. One was in our house and the other in a hotel. The fantasy in me thinks that I would "enjoy" the embarrassment of being witnessed in person or someone finding out (overheard a spanking, was told that I was a spanked husband...)

Jack: It's part of the punishment, my wife/mommy reminds me. 

KDPierre: Yes, since I have been the recipient of actual punishment spankings from several different people for a multitude of reasons over the years...with some of them being witnessed, and others having been clearly heard by members of our household, it would be very hard to have NOT felt some embarrassment at times. Also, those in my life who have/had disciplinary authority never seemed shy to scold or send me off for a spanking when others were present, and as cool as that sounds in "fantasyland" let me tell you it's a different story when it actually happens. >blush<

Dan: I don't think I've been embarrassed by a spanking itself but, as KD mentions, a serious scolding can be embarrassing and humbling.

Prefectdt: Well, there has been all those unexpected farts, over the years :) Plenty of unplanned expletives, that I did not intend to utter. There was that time when someone spent a good five minutes telling me about her wonderful paddle, that someone had carried from the USA for her (in pre- internet days) just for it to split on my butt, on the first swat. I am sure that there are a lot more times too. But I cannot remember them all right now. 

Wendel: We like outdoor spanking. There is always the chance of getting caught so there really is no real embarrassment for us outdoors or inside. 

Barrel: How about embarrassment before a spanking? My wife will require me to put on panties or hose then go out to lunch before a session. She will talk openly and out loud what implements she intends to use, how many strokes she will deliver and how hard she will whip me. I don’t know if the nearby tables can hear what she is saying but probably. When we get home she will begin to undress me and “discover” what I am wearing, telling me how cute I look. Then it is into the restraints.  

Bonnie: Yes, definitely. For some spanking scenarios, embarrassment is part of the experience.

Just to make sure, Randy sometimes reinforces the message by asking me, questions like, "Aren't you embarrassed to get another spanking over my lap like a bad girl?" I reply in the affirmative.

Rosco: Responding to KDPierre and Barrel:

KD - our spankings are all role play not real punishment so presence of a third party would fulfill not ruin a fantasy I think.

Barrel - we’ve done that too - I’ve gone to lunch in panties, or sometimes done errands or housework, been teased and threatened, restrained then spanked - all wonderful foreplay. 

Hermione: There's always a feeling of embarrassment at having to bare my bottom then bend over. As KDPierre said, my fantasy of being scolded and spanked by a third party or with a third party watching would be a definite turn-off in real life.

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