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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for January 12

How has your attitude towards spanking changed over time?

Rosco: It's been 45 years. Initially, Irene spanked me because I suggested it. Over time, she seemed to relish the disciplinary role. "I like to make it hurt", she has said on occasion as though she is surprising herself.

Irene likes to lecture me during these times. She gets quite annoyed if I don't take her seriously. If I laugh, it doesn't last long.

We've added several side courses to the main spanking dish - slapping my privates, bondage, ice in sensitive places as well as a bit of feminization from time to time.

CEM: I think people always experiment, evolve, try new things, adapt and adopt, but the core interest and activity mostly remains the same. 

Dan: I think when we first started disciplinary spankings, it was probably mostly my wife accommodating my interest. Over the years, she's come to be way more into it, because of the benefits she gets from it and, frankly, because she's come to get off on the power involved.

For me, recently I've gotten much more into the possibility of being less concerned about confidentiality and with being more open about that aspect of our relationship, including the (unlikely) possibility of spanking being witnessed or overheard. I spent the first 20 years of our DD relationship being paranoid about anyone finding out about it, and now I've gone almost 180 degrees in the opposite direction and feel an affirmative attraction to the ideal of (some) others knowing.

Sage: I've only been doing this a year but have had a few changes. Have become much more enamored of leather implements over time. My partner has become more skilled at spanking me & so my pleasure has increased over time.

When I first asked him to do it, there was a hurdle, as he at first was afraid I might want him to make up rules for my life & keep track of whether I follow them or not & spank me if I didn't. Which he didn't want to do.

I kept communicating & he did too. Am so glad we're good at that, as it is invaluable to know what each other want and don't want. He was relieved when I made it very clear that I have zero desire for him to make up rules for me.

My attitude toward myself and my identity have changed somewhat too. I'm more relaxed about my life and better able to focus. Before I got spanked the first time, I used to think of myself as kind of frigid sexually. But my reactions to being spanked revealed to me that that's not at all the case.

Roz: Our dynamic has gone through many changes over the years. We started spanking for fun and decided we wanted something more outside of the bedroom and embarked on a domestic discipline dynamic. From there we have constantly changed incorporating elements of BDSM and Daddy/lg at different times.

Jack: It has improved somewhat if you ask my wife/mommy. I still at times fall back, but it is quickly addressed with a spanking. My wife/mommy from the first spanking she gave me, told me it would not be the last. The changes are really before the spanking and after.

KDPierre: I could answer this two ways: long or short. The long version would take pages. The short answer seems more preferable for this situation, and it would be: "absolutely."

Barrel: Yes, we have evolved. Enhanced, actually. We used to spank as a prelude to intimacy, which we still do. But now we have periodic sessions where the spankings are disciplinary, longer, more intense and involve BDSM kinks. And recently, we have scheduled weekly check in’s, which are meant to be maintenance spankings, but we haven’t started yet due to busy schedules.

Wendel: Not too much has changed over the years. We have gotten braver when outside. On a mountain trail the Misses has been stripping naked to receive her spanking. It adds to the excitement knowing that someone might come along.
Like Dan we have thought about and discussed having someone watch while spanking or maybe just peek through a cracked open door.    

Prefectdt: Over time, I have had 3 major changes in my attitudes towards getting spanked. In the early days it was exciting and fun and just a great thing to be into. Later, I made the mistake of thinking that I could decide to be into spanking or not. This was the wrong attitude. Now I accept that it is something that is part of me and my life and something I have to take part in. That is my current attitude.     

 Hermione: It's been nearly 40 years for  us, and over time, it's become more of a habit than something unusual or different. We have moved on from experimentation to sticking with the tried and true. With advancing age, my sexual desire has diminished, and although spanking, whether actual or imagined, is the only thing that stimulates me, the need and desire are less frequent.

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #573

Welcome, one and all. I hope you all had a productive and peaceful week. (Are those two mutually exclusive?) No matter, it's the weekend, so let's enjoy a discussion on a topic suggested by regular brunch attendee Sage Blum.

How have your attitudes or needs around spanking changed over time? Or have they remained the same? If you are in a relationship, has the dynamic changed over time?

Please leave your response as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion once everyone has had a chance to join in.

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Speaking of Tattoos

What a coincidence! After the discussion about tattoos at our latest brunch, I came across this lovely photo on Bored Panda of a sculpture found in a second-hand shop. While it represents work on a tattoo, I also thought there was a spanko quality to it. What do you think?

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for January 5

How do you feel about spanking tattoos?

Wendel: Happy New Year Everyone!

I do not have any interest in getting a tattoo. The Misses has talked about getting a small one on her fanny that says “Spank Me”. Since she has talked about it for years, I doubt it will ever happen.

Roz: I don't like tattoos so would never happen. If I ever did maybe the word 'spank' tattooed on my butt.

CEM: Not a fan of tattoos. For me, God/Mother Nature created human flesh perfectly, regardless of shade or color, no decoration or alteration required. But, people own their own bodies so for those that desire them, enjoy. I am partial however to "tattooing" a female bare bottom red. :) 

Graham: No tats. Don't like most of the ones I've seen. Probably a generational thing. 

Ronnie: I did think about having a heart tatooed on my bottom, but didn't.

Jack: I asked my wife/mommy about this, NO is a very stern voice. The only tattoo you will get is a very red bottom, and others will see. 

Prefectdt: I would kind of like one, easily visible, on my lower arm. But I would like it to be of a symbol that only other spankos are likely to recognize. Not just the general BDSM triple tadpole symbol that I have seen on many other people. I am not against this symbol, it is just not for me. Perhaps an inverted green heart, to symbolize my submissive nature, might be better?

Barrel: Nope. Agree it is likely a generational thing. 

KDPierre: No, but for me it's more of an aesthetic thing rather than a generational one. (And it would be a fairly long, technical, and likely boring explanation to describe my objection.) However, while I would not have a tattoo, I don't mind them on others...again as long as they 'work'. Tattoos that remind me of the haphazard application of travel stickers on a streamer trunk are not enviable. LOL.

A.J.: I HATE tattoos. Can't stand them but now they are everywhere. A particular hate? Women tattooing their breasts. Just kill me.

At a dinner it came up. "K" said she might, but not really. Her husband said if she did he would tie her the the outdoor deck and power-wash it off her. (Kidding.)

Some years ago driving late and it came up on a talk radio show.
A whopping 50% of the male callers said they would not even date a woman who got one.
Leaving the question for the women: Why would a single woman looking to eventually get married get a tattoo when 50% of the available pool of men HATE them?

Besides, most of the tattoos on women are flat-out ugly.    

Donn: Nope: No tattoos on my body regarding spanking, now or any time in the future. Basically, I think supposedly decorative tattoos are anything but decorative, especially as we all age and skin changes shape and position.

(That said, I do have six "micro-tattoos" (1-2mm dia) that I use as reference points for using a body-fat/composition caliper. Those marks allow for very accurate positioning for maximum repeatability/accuracy.)

Rosco: I’m thinking about getting a small discreet tattoo when I turn 70 later this year. I’ll give your suggestion some thought but I don’t think it will have anything to do with TTWD.

Hermione: I am constantly amazed at the number of tattoos I see on professionals on the various TV programs we watch. Why, why, why? They are a big NO for Ron and me.    

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #572

Happy New Year, everyone. The confetti has been swept up and the noisemakers put away, and now it's time to enjoy our first discussion of the new year.

Do you now, or would you ever, have a tattoo on your body that suggests or indicates your interest in spanking? If so, where on your body would it be? Have you ever seen such a tattoo on someone else?

Please leave your response as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion once everyone has had a chance to join in.

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It's 2025!

This year's going to be different, to say the least. Let's hope we all survive it.

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