Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for November 17

How creative are you when it comes to incorporating spanking into games or activities?

 Anon: Let me count the ways! Billiards, ping pong, Scrabble, Cribbage, gin rummy, Mancala, etc. We're not golfers, but nothing prevents you from coming up with a system. Given that my butt is tougher than hers, the losing margin for me is a multiple of what it would be for her. Surprising as it may seem, we are usually able to complete several games/rounds before succumbing to the inevitable climax, as it were!

Roz: What a great, fun question! Nothing currently but the possibilities are endless. Great food for thought.

Wendel: Incorporating spanking into golf might not be good for us. We have only played once before and suck really bad. Our butts would be so sore by the 3rd hole that we could not keep pants on or walk.

As for part two: Spanking makes all activities better. 

Mark: Dinner party with close friends...

Luvinhub: We ride bicycles and currently ride tandem bike on bike trails more than anything else. I have thought/fantasized my wife whipping me with a riding crop to pull more of the weight on the tandem or for whatever reason was to come up to stop and have to find a switch for her to use to punish me with my bike shorts down. 

Prefectdt: One of my main hobbies is photography. So I could go round taking pictures of people getting spanked... Oh! Wait a minute. There are a lot of people doing that already, so that is not much fun. I do love walking in nature. It would be a lot of fun exploring an area, with a willing spanker, to find places to use freshly cut switches. Also, not very unique, but it is something that I would like to try.

S: I like to workout with weights. Sometimes I pretend if I do not do a specific number of reps, I get paddled for the shortfall. It helps to keep me motivated.

FL: Failing to do the housework to her exacting standards. It turns a boring but necessary chore into a delightful game. Of course I do a proper and thorough job but might just deliberately leave a table undusted or a mop and bucket not put away. The house ends up spotless, my backside not so much.

CEM: Pretty much anything and everything around the house. But nothing (for the most part) outside the home in public. Too worried about public exposure and someone misconstruing the activity, legal issues, etc. 

Barrel: I agree with Roz…endless possibilities.

On my 60th birthday, I crafted a session around the number 6. My wife spanked 6 minutes with her hand, 6 minutes with the hairbrush, 6 minutes with the paddle…all followed up with 60 strokes, at her choosing, split between the tawse, thick and thin delrin canes. Very memorable. My 70th is not too far off and I’m thinking of the possibilities.

Jean Marie: I thought of sports first. I've never played cricket, but their bat resembles the worst of heavy fraternity/sorority paddles. I'd love to know what a solid wallop with a cricket bat feels like. Then my mind went to paddleball. I have played this game with some female (non-spanko) friends. The whole time I played, I was swatting my palm with that paddle, imagining what it'd feel like with my tennis togs pulled down. I used to have a boyfriend in college who had a table tennis or ping pong set-up. I was spanked with one of those paddles. It had a rough rubber coating that REALLY stung!
As for non-sporting endeavors, I love to cook. It's romantic to cook with a partner while wearing only an apron; it's sexy to cook and spank at the same time! I've had many recipes ruined because our spanking play got carried away, burned both the dish and my derriere!

Doon: My wife does not allow any fun or erotic thrashings as part of our dynamic. My thrashings are solely to improve our relationship, either through my own behavior, our interactions, or for our joint or individual stress management. That said, I will talk to my wife and suggest there are ways she could improve my performance in various areas that might be game-like or sports-like and which she might enjoy (immediate, and long term improvements).

I suppose these performance enhancing thrashings could be based upon my improvements in either the mental or physical realm. I would, however, want them to be based upon my own performance and ability to improve that performance, and not (particularly) upon random chance.

I suppose competing against my wife in games of Scrabble(R" could be used to enhance my verbal / vocabularly performance, with x-many slashes from one of her rubber straps for every point I fail to earn above some premium + past average (10 games). That way, I would always be working from behind my previous score, and would absolutely, continuously have to improve my skills to avoid a serious thrashing. PRETTY STRONG MOTIVATION!

Something similar could be done with chess, along with a player move timer. I have to win, and do it under some past average (10 games) - premium. That way, again, I would always be playing behind, and have to BOTH win and win faster to avoid a thrashing.

In sports, I could be required to run a fixed course, carrying a weighted ruck-sack, in a certain minimum time. Once again, the penalty cut-in would be any final time more than past average (10 runs) - premium. Once again, I'd always be behind, forcing continuous improvement to avoid the PENALTY. This could be made even harder by my not being allowed to have a stopwatch with me during the run -- having no way to know whether I was ahead or behind the required pace; made even harder by basing the penalty upon the number of minutes I fail to meet the newer, faster pace (30 strokes of strap / minute slow).

I suppose that now that I have suggested this, I should tell my wife, before she reads it for herself, and comes up with some ideas of her own.         

KDPierre: We have a pool table in our living room and every so often, Rosa and I play a private tournament of 8-ball that is absurdly one-sided and slanted in her favor. I play naked while she is clothed and there are penalty spanks for just about everything in differing amounts. No matter how well I play there simply is no escaping an extremely sore bottom! The last time we played I actually tallied up what I ended up getting and it came out to over 800 whacks!

Hermione: In the summer we play lawn darts, a game that Ron loves because he is so much better then I am at aiming for the tiny circle way off in the distance. So I would obviously be the one getting swats for losing. I hope the neighbours aren't watching! We also both play Klondike solitaire on his iPad, and if I let the % won go below 50%, I get a spanking.

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #566

Welcome, one and all, to our weekly discussion. This week I was delighted to receive not one but two suggestions for brunch topics. Here's what my first correspondent wrote by way of explanation.

"I like to play golf. I always thought it would be fun to combine golf with spanking somehow. Maybe spanks instead of penalty shots? Or me getting spanked by my [partner] after the round for every bogey or worse? Or maybe getting spanked on the course and having to play the next hole with my pants down or naked with a red hot bottom on display. A lot of possibilities."

So here's the question for today:

Are there any normal activities that you spice up or would like to with a little spanking flare? If so, what are they?

Please leave your response as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion once everyone has had a chance to speak.

 

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Cheer Up

We could all use a reason to smile today.

Feel better now?

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for November 10

Let's talk about aftercare.

FL: Since I prefer a DommyMommy f/m aesthetic, my preferred aftercare is lots of cuddling and forgiveness. All part of the roleplay. I don't need or want any soothing balms or lotions on my backside, the afterburn is part of the enjoyment.

CEM: If the relationship is just punitive, I wrap her up like a burrito in the comforter, get her some cold water and let her recover. If the relationship is more intimate...than, well, you know. :) 

Wendel: Most times when the spanking is in the kitchen the recipient has to stand in the corner showcasing their bright red bottom when it is over. After care for a paddling or whipping in bedroom may get a cold rag or zippy bag of ice applied to the sore bottom. We do not use creams or ointments. Occasionally I will paddle the Misses in the morning before she starts work. She works out of the house and has to get an extra cushion to sit on while working. 

Rosco: Mostly, but not always, spanking is followed by reverse cowgirl cunnilingus. Sometimes Irene will say she wanted to spank me again or for longer but she can’t wait. After the pussy licking, it’s intercourse then usually dinner.

Roz: If not immediately followed by more intimate activities a spanking is usually followed by cuddles and a cold drink.

Prefectdt: Post spanking rituals tend to vary, for me, depending on the spanker. The only constant that I insist on is the application of horribly stingy alcohol gel, to deal with any skin breaks or micro lesions. There must be lots of aftercare that I have not tried. I would like to leave myself open to suggestion to trying some of these in the future.

KDPierre: If it's for play, really nothing...except maybe a quick cell phone shot for posterior posterity. If it's punishment? Well, typically there's a post spanking kiss to my Honey's feet to show no hard feelings and a kind of acceptance of roles and just deserts.

In the past when more 'people-in-the-know' were living with us and a punishment might be for something done to them, it was a house policy that I would formally apologize after a punishment to whomever was affected by my behavior. If the person was not in the home, this would be done by text.

With Nickki, our post spanking ritual was just a chat while platonically cuddling...again just to show no hard feelings and to offer feedback about the experience.

In no instance, play or punitive, do we do any kind of alleviating treatment of my bottom, since the intention of either type of spanking is to cause a nice and lasting burning pain. Once accomplished there seems no logic to minimizing what was so painstakingly (literally) achieved.

Graham: Same as Rosco. Cunnilingus, intercourse and dinner or a drink.

Barrel: If a normal spanking, we are almost always intimate. If it is an extended session, I am unsteady on my feet, so we hug. We then have a drink or glass of wine and discuss what worked, what didn’t. I like to ask her what she liked most about it. What was her best implement? If it got her aroused? Then intimacy. Good topic this week!

Hermione: Our usual routine for aftercare is intimacy, then, if it's Sunday afternoon, we take out the recycling together.

Let's take a moment on this Remembrance Day to remember the millions of people who gave their lives for our freedom.

P.S. Moments after I published this post, I got an automated warning from Blogger, saying it had been put behind a warning because it contained sensitive content. I can't see that it makes much difference since the blog is already behind an adult warning. This is the beginning of free speech restriction.

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #565

You're just in time to enjoy brunch, so pull up a chair and let's get started. Today's topic is all about aftercare.

What happens once a spanking is over? Are there certain rituals that you and your partner enjoy? Is there a type of aftercare that you haven't tried but would like to?

 Leave your thoughts in a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to respond, I will publish a summary of our discussion.

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Escape Route

With the results of yesterday's US election in all the headlines today, you might want to seriously consider relocating to the chilly but peaceful country of Canada.

I'm sorry for you too.
 

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for November 3

This week we discussed how soon to discuss spanking when dating.

CEM: As soon as possible - right away. If it's an important aspect of your life, and you don't intend to live without it, there is no point in pursuing a relationship with someone if there is no mutual interest. It's just wasting both people's time. 

Dan: For us, it would have been impossible for me to bring it up during the dating process, as I didn't develop an interest in spanking until we were almost a decade into our marriage. But, if I were starting a new relationship today, it wouldn't be at the outset, but it wouldn't be months and months into it either. I think I would be looking for the sweet spot where you know this is a relationship you want to be in long-term, but without waiting so long that it might seem like you were trying to keep it a secret.

Of course, my response is colored by the fact that, were I to be in a relationship with someone who wasn't interested in spankings, or at least DD-style spankings, I could go on without them. They aren't my entire sexual identity in the way they might be for someone with a deeply-rooted and long-established spanking fetish. If that were the case for me, I'd probably bring it up sooner, before either of us had a substantial investment in the relationship, since not having that need fulfilled going forward might be a dealbreaker.

Rosco: What an important question. I haven’t had any need to ask it since 1980.

If I were dating a new person, I’d probably bring it and related kinks up within a month or two.

Roz: This is a great question! I guess it depends on how important spanking in a relationship is to you. I don't think I would bring it up straight away. I would want to get to know the other person well enough first. Also, once I have a gauge on how serious the relationship is.

Jack: It was brought up by my girlfriend now my wife when I was caught looking at spanking pictures and playing with myself. She said she loved me and that I would be spanked, to know how it feels, and to know that I will be spanked when I act like a naughty little boy and naughty little boys look at such pictures.

Prefectdt: I think as soon as possible, just to get it out of the way. But this has never worked well for me, relationship wise.

Bonnie: I think you could start with a subtle hint that could be easily explained away if the response is negative. If the response is positive or neutral, a less subtle hint could be advanced to confirm your original impression.

I think it's much easier for a bottom to drop these hints. A male top who expresses interest in hurting a female bottom is scary, even if you're both kinky. Consent and mutual understanding throughout the conversation is essential.

Wendel: Do not wait too long to bring it up. I gave the Misses an occasional swat on her fanny when we were dating. This led to the discussion where I learned she liked it.    

KDPierre: I am a firm believer in not only bringing this up formally early on in the dating process, but also even before asking a person out by means of observation, hunch, and innuendo. I have never been one to "just ask someone out" and have usually "known' a person to some degree before even being interested enough to ask them out. If someone didn't send off a certain vibe in this regard, they would not be someone I'd ask out in the first place.

Hermione: It's been a long time since I was looking for a date, but it seems that today, much of seeking a partner is done online. So adding a hint about spanking to your online profile might generate interest from those similarly inclined, and the subsequent conversations would be easier.

If we are talking about the old-fashioned way, then I would wait until I felt the relationship was serious before dropping a hint or two.

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