Our brunch on caning has generated some interesting spin-offs. Today's topic was suggested by our good friend A.J.
If your partner wants to feel the cane, and you don't want to do it and, quoting Ronnie: "No-one should receive a hard caning from someone who doesn't know what they're doing," would you take him/her to a pro who does? On the reverse: if you were offered that, would you accept that offer and go?
Please leave your response as a comment, and once everyone has had a
chance to speak, I will publish a summary of your responses.
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We've always explored new spanking techniques and new implements together. I trust Randy to proceed slowly until we are both comfortable, or stop if necessary. I know he won't inflict any severe physical or emotional damage.
I would. I have a fascination with caning, but for some reason, it's just never worked well with Anne wielding the cane. We've tried several times, including after she's read various "how to" resources. It just doesn't hurt very much, and it's clearly never going to be an instrument she has any enthusiasm for. But, I do have enough curiosity about how a truly effective caning would feel, I would be very open to experiencing it with a pro. And, that's really the only context I can think of in which I would have any interest in going to a pro. In other scenarios, it has no appeal.
We would not seek out a Pro. Spankings are for us by us. If the Misses wants to experience it I would give it a go but it is not an implement we have much interest in.
I think that with practice and patience, anyone who can use a paddle or strap can also learn to use the cane. The question of wanting to is different. As a switch that mostly bottoms, I often visited pros in my younger life and all of them were very skilled. Graham
If Irene wanted to escort me, I probably would. It’s intriguing, but I’d worry about injury at least a little.
But I’d rather be tested with prolonged and repeated spankings.
Under those circumstances I'd take *us* to a pro. I've known a number of people who've gone to pros with their partner to be taught/learn safe ways to use specific implements or rope or whatever. If there was something my partner wanted to experience and, after trying and getting instruction I wasn't able, a pro would be a great option. Especially if I got to watch.
Yes, I would if she asked for that support. Why not? If it is something between us that we both want, it makes sense. But we seem to do rather well anyway.
Spanking for me is 100% sexual and part of a trusting, loving relationship. I would not want to involve a third party, any more than I would want one involved for any other sexual act one of us might not wish to participate in. Respecting each others' hard limits is crucial, in any aspect of the relationship.
Finding someone more competent than myself, for spanko style caning (as opposed to more mainstream BDSM cane use), would mean travelling. Probably to the UK, but at least as far as the Netherlands. But I would be up for a weekend away for that. Also, I would be interested if a play partner wanted to see me caned. Having a consenting audience is a bit of a fantasy of mine. In both cases, though, the idea of doing this would have to be suggested by the other party involved. I would not propose doing either, for fear of feeling that I am pressuring someone into doing something that they might not really want to do.
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I don't think we would seek a professional. Spanking is between and for us.
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Roz
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