Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for September 13

Panties and spanking go together like... Here's what you said.

Bonnie: For my husband, Randy, spanking and panties are tightly intertwined interests. He loves to order new panties for me in every style, pattern, material, and color. I think I might own more now than I will ever wear. But still they roll in.

Thongs and cheeky styles that provide minimal coverage around back are his favorites. He says he loves how the fabric frames my target. But he’s not beyond an occasional change of pace. One fun kinky scenario involves caning me while I am wearing high-waisted white nylon full briefs.

Upon the arrival of each new shipment, he asks me to model for him. After my private runway performance, he “tests” my new panties by bouncing a paddle off the round parts they don’t cover. His test feels exactly like a spanking from my perspective, but who am I to argue with science?

Roz: Panties do play a role in spanking for us. Rick enjoys the view and tracing the outline. Then there is the moment they come down or off. So intimate and sensual.

KDPierre: Panties have been an occasional add-on over the years. We use them to enhance certain moods for a spanking, and since they are thong-backed, to act as a frilly frame for any post-spanking color. One thing that has gotten much easier, is being able to find and procure "pouch panties". Hell, we have gotten most of ours off of eBay. Easy-peasy. 

Jean Marie: I have strong feelings about panties. I love lingerie but not to wear in bed where they could be ruined; I save them for under slinky sexy gowns. (Agent Provocateur is my favorite brand.) I love plain white cotton panties with full coverage across the seat; I buy packages of cheap ones in bulk. I like to have these ripped right off me, before spanking, before sex. I do not like thongs! I floss my teeth not my ass crack. That is my two cents' worth. 

A.J.: "Do panties play a part in your spanking activities?"

Can't answer. I have never worn panties.

Oh! You mean HER!

I have read stories where she has to stand before the 'Lap of Justice™" and told to remove her panties before going OTK. Supposedly humiliating for her.

Not me.

I want her OTK with her panties still on (and maybe that's all she has on) for a minute or two as I get reacquainted with the target, and telling her what's about to come.

I TAKE HER PANTIES down! (Or off.) And I'm with Roz.

My favorite moment - hearing her suck in a little bit air as the gusset of her panties, reluctantly, springs free from her most personal parts. Her last bit of modesty gone, she's vulnerable. "It" is about to start. That little gasp from her - such sweet surrender. The baring of the bottom is the best moment.

Wendel: The Misses looks awesome wearing panties but they always come down for a spanking. It is quite a turn on watching her bottom being exposed. 

Prefectdt: I have never worn panties :) I do like being spanked through the layers until it becomes a bare bottom spanking. That includes over the tight boxer shorts that I prefer. I nearly always wear a boy thong during a beating, as, most interactions that I take part in are non-sexual, and it is very often appreciated that my boy bits are not on display whilst the posterior can still be bare.       

Barrel: Occasionally my wife makes me wear panties before a session. But they always come off before the thrashing begins. I do wear a protective cup fashioned like a skimpy thong to define the upper limit of the target and protect my parts from an errant lash of the single tail whip. 

Rosco: I am obsessed with panties and spanking both, but I’m the spankee and Irene the spanker wears the panties. (Ok I wear them sometimes)

I definitely appreciate my spankings most when Irene wears a skirt or dress with panties. Decades ago, she allowed me to select her panties. It’s weird to admit, but cotton is a bit of a turn off for me. I’ve got many brands for Irene, but mostly I go back to Olga 913. I love to play with her nether parts though panties before they’re removed for serious action.

I think the allure comes from peeking up skirts in the 7th grade in 1967-68 when skirts were super short. There’s a certain naughtiness on my part. If she’s wearing a skirts without panties that’d be naughtiness on her part which is not part of our role play.

To add a little more, I love to see pictures of female female spanking. I like the idea of a female top and I’d rather see that red round often plump female bottom. A spanking over pretty panties with a raised skirt has a sort of realism for me. I love it when the panties are a bit flimsy - not too small but they might get pulled up into the bottom crack a bit.

It’s common to see someone spanked over panties then having them pulled down then spanked some more. That’s fine, but I also like it if the panties stay up. If there’s frontal nudity one of my turnoffs is shaved public hair.

And since the US Open just ended, I’ve had fantasies about locker room spankings in tennis dresses involving both stars of today and yesteryear.   

Loki_Darksong: When it comes to spanking scenes, panties are a pleasant part of the package.

Not all spankings, whether that is a hand spanking or implements such as a strap or belt, a paddle, or a cane, have to be bare bottom to be effective. Granted there is a slight difficulty in regards to measuring the severity of the spanking if it's done over pansies. But all the more reason to be careful when doing so.

Of course there's also the artistic view of a woman's backside while receiving a spanking over panties due to all the various styles available to panties ranging from bikini to high cut to boy shorts to briefs as well as thongs and g-strings. And of course not to leave out the period piece ones such as the Victorian and Edwardian era bloomers.

Even to this day I find those very attractive on a woman. I have a few on the shopping list for my wife at present! 

Hermione: I am not allowed to have any protective covering on my bottom before or during a spanking. Ron wants my bottom bare and ready for his attention.
 

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #670

Welcome to our regular weekend spanko brunch. If you are new here, I invite you to contribute to our conversation. All opinions are welcome, but no politics please. Speaking of opinions, everyone has one about spanking with panties, shorts, knickers, underpants, briefs, or whatever you prefer to call them. So what's yours?

Do panties play a part in your spanking activities? Does wearing panties during a spanking enhance the experience for the spanker and/or spankee?  If so, do tell.

Leave your response by leaving a comment and I will publish a summary of our discussion once everyone has had a chance to speak.

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I get by with a little help from...AI?

Our dear friend Bonnie has been hard at work writing, and here is the result of her creativity. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.

AI Said What?

New fiction by Bonnie

Saturday was date night at home for Cindy and George.  It was almost dinner time.  George reclined in the living room watching YouTube videos on his tablet.  His girlfriend, Cindy, was in the kitchen putting the finishing touches on her special chicken paprikash.  The distinctive aroma of dinner filled the small bungalow.  Everyone knows about the Hungarian paprika, but the right onions, she told him, are just as important.

“It’s chicken,” Cindy announced with a mixture of pride and insistence.  “OK, I’m coming,” George replied, eager to enjoy another of her culinary specialties.  The chicken arrived at the table atop nokedli, Hungarian noodles, and topped with a classic creamy paprikash sauce.  The accompaniment was parsley potatoes.  Cindy briefly considered adding red cabbage to the menu, but she wasn’t sure he’d like it.

“This is amazing,” George observed, as he made quick work of the savory Magyar feast.  Cindy was more inclined to savor the meal she carefully prepared.  She made certain there would be plenty of leftovers to enjoy later.

As George cleaned up in the kitchen after dinner, as is their agreement, Cindy moved to the living room and scouted the streaming services for an appropriate movie.

“I love your paprikash,” George declared as he entered the room with arms wide to demonstrate his enthusiasm.  “And I love you too, my sweet chef!”  Cindy beamed with satisfaction over her meal’s success.  He sat next to her on the couch as she scrolled through the films.

“George?”  Her rising pitch suggested a meaningful question was coming.

“Yes…?”

“I asked AI whether you should spank me.  He wanted to know whether I had done anything naughty to deserve a spanking.  I replied that I hadn’t, but I really like spankings and we hadn’t done that in a long time.”

“You asked AI?  Really?”  George didn’t expect that.

“Yeah.  I wanted a second opinion.”  Cindy was defensive now.

“But you didn’t just ask me?  What did it say?”

Cindy struggled to conceal a blush.  “He said you should definitely spank me as soon as possible.”

“Well OK, that’s some AI advice I’m willing to take,” George replied, now chuckling.  “Do you know where that hairbrush is?”

Cindy knew exactly which hairbrush he meant.  “Yes, I‘ll go get it.”

George positioned himself in the center of the couch in preparation for all that would surely follow.  He turned on the lamp behind the couch to illuminate the proceedings.  When Cindy returned, George couldn’t help but notice how lovely she looked in her blue and white flowered dress.  He hadn’t really noticed before, maybe because of her apron, but she dressed up for him and this dinner date.

“Have I told you that you are beautiful?”

“Yes, but thank you.  Here’s that brush.”

George thought the speed with which she blew past his sincere compliment suggested she wanted to get right down to business.  And that business was spanking.  Setting the wooden brush beside him, George gestured for his lover to take her position across his lap.  As George gently guided her shapely torso into place, he recalled that it had indeed been a while since he spanked his girlfriend.  There wasn’t any good reason why they stopped.  Their lives just got busy.  But now they could start making up for lost spankings.

Cindy was thrilled to finally feel the spanking she had clandestinely craved.  Why, she wondered, hadn’t she mentioned it earlier?  Why did she have to blame AI?  She knew now he would have said yes, and happily.  Next time, she won’t keep quiet so long.

Cindy uttered an almost imperceptible gasp as George gently unwrapped his gift.  But George heard it.  Beneath her pretty dress, he stopped to caress her aqua and white striped bikini panties before exposing her twin alabaster globes.  These gorgeous curves demanded attention and George made certain to pay tribute through a series of light traces that made Cindy shiver.  Incredibly soft and smooth he noted.

But soon, the time had come for the evening’s highlight, or at least one of them.  Rubbing gave way to tapping and tapping to slapping.  Before long, George was spanking in earnest.  Cindy drank in the rising sensuality of his steadily striking palm.

Next came the brush.  George knew his partner hadn’t been spanked for months and wouldn’t be acclimated to this harsh implement.  But he also knew Cindy.  She wouldn’t be satisfied with half a spanking.  He started slow but firm and gradually stepped up the pace, reading her body and breathing for signs of distress.  Her growling moans soon suggested quite the opposite reaction.  Even so, George stopped after a short while to limit the damage that was by then quite evident along the lower slopes of her punished cheeks.

Cindy practically jumped from his lap and into his arms.  They embraced as Cindy landed a passionate French kiss.  George momentarily hoped he didn’t taste like paprika and onion.  Too late.  His next thought was “Wow!”  They had unleashed a torrent of lustful zeal.  Hands roamed and clothing fell.  Each found the other quite ready for next stage.  Their mutual desire was too urgent to delay so the carnal celebration continued unabated on the living room couch.

As the couple embraced afterward, Cindy shared how much she appreciated her spanking.  “The sting was just so energizing, so, so exciting.”  George too appreciated their date night at home.  Spanking Cindy was splendid fun.  So was everything else.

“Are you still sore?”  George knew the answer but wanted to hear her say it.

“Oh hell yes!  I’ll be feeling that hairbrush for a while.  But I don’t regret it in the least.  Thank you, my love.  I needed this.”

“Let’s make sure we keep that brush somewhere we can easily find it.  By the way…  Did you really ask AI about a spanking?”

Cindy’s halting response gave her away.  “Um, I.  Ah.  You know I kinda did, but those chatbots are programmed to not talk about fun adult stuff.  So I did ask.  But I, uh, made up the answer I wanted to hear.”

A knowing smile crossed George’s face.  “So you might need another spanking for lying about the AI?”

“Yes, I guess I do, but maybe not tonight.”

 

 

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for September 7

What would you like to learn about spanking? What can you teach others?

 Bonnie: I like to learn through direct hands-on experience. In fact, I’m still learning.

Jack: Resisting, talking back, is not a good idea.

Rosco: Well, I had a few girlfriends here and there, but I never really felt comfortable being intimate until I started a relationship with Irene when I was 24. Discussing spanking, then engaging in it, happened pretty organically at the time.

I wish I’d understood myself better and was able to communicate with girls when I was much younger.

On the other hand, I remember leaving a small New Year’s Eve party when all my old friends had partners and I was single - they’ve all been divorced now and we’re going strong.

Roz: Always learning:) perhaps one lesson perhaps would be the important of aim and avoiding wrapping.

Red: I agree with Roz of the importance of aim and not wrapping. Wrapping with a long tawse hits the bone on the side of your body that has no padding, and not concentrating when spanking can have the end of a bath brush strike like a 2 by 4.

A.J.: What would you like to learn about spanking?

Nothing. Comfortable with what I know.

Is there something about spanking that you have learned the hard way, that you could teach others?

No. Not really. And not sure I would want to teach anyone anything re: spanking. Kinda' intimate to me.      

Prefectdt: What would you like to learn about spanking? 

I would like to know what is in it for the people who like to be the spanker. I do switch myself, although I would not describe myself as a switch, for me being a spanker is just a technical exercise in getting the spankee to the place they want to be in, but it is no great thrill for me. Even when I see an attractive butt under my lash, I am more concerned about what I am doing to that rear end than I am about how pretty it is. When receiving I can get a high that no external drugs could match, but cannot see what the spanker is getting out of it. It would be nice to find out what is in it for them.

Is there something about spanking that you have learned the hard way, that you could teach others?

Yes lots. Horticulturally I am a trained and experienced adult instructor and the skills learned from that have translated well to spanking scenarios. This has been useful when playing with inexperienced spankers. 

Wendel: I think we know enough to keep enjoying spanking. Always nice to read about other’s experiences. 

Hermione: I have learned a lot by watching spanking videos, especially what NOT to do. Videos are a lot of fun to watch and might help convince a reluctant partner to give it a try.

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #659

It's back to school this week for Canadian children, so sing along with me. "Reading and writing and 'rithmatic, taught to the tune of a..." never mind, you know how it goes. But learning is important for everyone, young, old and in between. 

What would you like to learn about spanking? Is there something about spanking that you have learned the hard way, that you could teach others?


Leave your thoughts as a comment. Once everyone has had a chance to join in, I will publish a summary of our discussion.

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for August 30

From this brunch ten years ago, the options picked by my readers for most and least comfortable were:

1. Male spanker and female spankee - 7 / 0
2. Female spanker and male spankee - 3 / 1
3. Female spanker and female spankee - 6 / 0
4. Male spanker and male spankee - 1 / 6

Let's see how we fared this year.

Bonnie: I don’t think non-spankos will be comfortable with any of these permutations, except perhaps in a hanky spanky bedroom context. Accordingly, I think their spanko preferences, if they have any, will parallel their sexual preferences.

Spanky53: My experience is that Male Spanker/Female Spankee and and Female Spanker/Female Spankee are a tie. The hardest for Non-Spankos to accept is Male Spanker/Male Spankee. That being said my experience also has been that Spankos have a harder time accepting Male Spanker/ Male Spankee than Non-Spankos.

Graham: I have zero interest in M/M though I certainly don't mind if others are into it -- none of my business as long as it's consensual. I can't possibly know, but I suspect that most non-spankers would find M/M most difficult to understand. But, as noted above, they likely identify most easily with their own orientation.

Dan: I think Female Spanker/Male Spankee has a lot of negative connotations for some, including that the male in that situation is unmanly. Others have said, in response to your question, that Male/Male may be the hardest for some to understand or accept. I'm not sure that's true. I think they may not themselves gravitate to it, but that doesn't mean they can't understand it. There is a Male/Male spanking group I follow on Reddit and, honestly, I think there are more posts on it that I find similar to my DD spanking lifestyle than is the case with the other DD spanking groups, which are predominantly F/m. I've also found that those latter groups tend to be pretty uninviting to those of us in Female/male dynamics.

CEM: I think the majority of people would find M/f the most "normal" due to societal standards of males being dominant. But most people would probably find F/f the least "threatening" due to the presumption that it was a kink, fetish, two lesbians or whatever, but with the so called "patriarchal" aspect removed, and women being physically less strong, less potentially "abusive" and those other misguided notions. 

Roz: I'm not sure on this one but as noted above I'm not sure non-spankos would be comfortable with any of the above but may perhaps be able to understand their own orientation a little more. As also commented above I think perhaps M/M may be the most difficult.

Rosco: I’d guess people in my group would be more comfortable with fm than mf, since it’s less likely to be associated with abuse, and it’s fun!

Like many men, I don’t like much to think about what gay men do.

I love to look at pictures of women spanking. Best if they’re wearing a nice dress or sometimes lingerie. Ok if they’re angry or whimsical.

I’m mixed about seeing the victim. If it’s male it could be me. But I love to look at a round plump female bottom, sometimes still wearing panties.

Even though I might have been a spanker if my wife was willing, I don’t generally like to look at men doing the spanking. It makes me think of abuse. My mind knows it’s not, but I still tend not to look.

Prefectdt: I have to admit to having only limited experience of explaining TTWD to non-spankos. I agree with Graham above, though. Talking to them about F/m play does avoid a lot of preconceptions, that they might have about partnership abuse and manipulative behaviour. Giving us a chance to distinguish ourselves as consenting players, not to be grouped with abusers. In my limited experience, the hardest thing about to non-spankos is overcoming the misconceptions that they already have, ranging from spankos being abusers or victims of abusers to they gave/received a light patty cake spanking, as part of foreplay once. Making them think that they know all about it already.  

Red: Very difficult to say what non spankos think, as we have never talked to anyone about spanking who is not into the idea of spanking. Many would think it abusive, I imagine.
Maybe we should all be saying that we do not find spanking in any way abusive, and just as I am happy in a F/M situation, I know Ron and you are happy in a M/F relationship.
Meeting friends who are in the opposite spanking (M/F) situation might even have the man being reluctant to meet because of what he thinks the new couple are actually thinking.
We do not find spanking to be in any way abusive, but actually enhancing our love for each other.
Cindy has occasionally said she was wrong and should be spanked, and I have agreed by bending down and planting a firm kiss on each cheek, with the firm reminder that if the behavior was worse, it would be on her bare bottom. We both laugh afterwards, and the problem is solved. Every couple might try this just to have a laugh. Just do not tell your partner what you are going to do when saying you should be spanked for this.

KDPierre: I don't think it's possible to answer this question for "non-spankos" since they are as diverse a group in their thinking as spankos and therefore would lean in different directions depending on a lot of factors. Personally, however, as a spanko who has come out to plenty of non-spankos, I have found that me being a sub male who GETS spanked rather than doing the spanking, has amused and resonated more than if I came out and said that I spank my wife. My wife also has gotten more "you go, girl!" responses from non-spanko women that seem to support this trend as well. But our experience is skewed by the type of people we are comfortable coming out to. It is definitely not a random group where I would expect the responses might well be quite different. 

Wolfman7446: male spanker female spankee - feminine, soft, and lovely.

Hermione: As others have said, it's hard to see things from the non-spanko's point of view. But I think, since the advent of the Sixty Shades books, most non-spankos would be most comfortable with M/F.         

   

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #658

Here's a question I posed ten years ago today, and I thought it was worth resurrecting. In view of the current state of sexual identities, it may not be politically correct, so I hope you will forgive me.

 If you are reading this blog, you are almost 100% guaranteed to be interested in spanking for one reason or another. You might actively engage in it, or have just started to explore, or maybe you're just curious. But there are many people out there who don't share our fascination with this percussive sport.

There are four possible combinations of spankers and spankees:

1. Male spanker and female spankee
2. Female spanker and male spankee
3. Female spanker and female spankee
4. Male spanker and male spankee

Which combination do you think non-spankos are most comfortable with, or most understanding of? Which one can they simply not get their heads around, or are least comfortable with? 

Leave your reply as a comment, and remember, all opinions are welcome here. Please feel free to interpret the question as you wish. If you prefer to state your own preference instead, that's fine. I will publish a summary of our discussion once everyone has had a chance to speak.

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