Hello and welcome! Our good friend Barrel sent me a topic that I suspect you will all enjoy discussing.
How many toys are typically used in your spankings? If more than one, is there one toy that is always used? Is there one that is most often used during the finale, and if so, why?
Please leave your reply as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion at the end of the weekend.
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If you were strolling along the sidewalk in a shopping district and saw these panties in a store window, what would your reaction be? A smile at least, or maybe you might step inside to check out the other wares for sale. If you are a resident or a tourist in Virginia Beach, this sight may no longer be available.
The Virginia Beach council voted last week to prohibit display of "vulgar" or "indecent" clothing in the shop windows along the popular Atlantic Avenue boardwalk. The reason is that the lewd messages are spoiling the area's "wholesome" image and may keep people away from the hotels, restaurants and bars in the area. I don't know about you, but I would be more likely to visit the boardwalk if the shop windows were this entertaining. Read the full story, including pictures, here.
Thank you Rosco for finding this gem.
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What characteristics do you look for in a spanker or spankee?
Barrel: I don't have to look for a spanker, I am married to one, thank goodness.
Traits
I admire in her are resolve and commitment. When we plan a session, I
tend to get cold feet as the time approaches. She takes me through the
apprehension with sensitivity, but focused on delivering the thrashing
we have planned. She ensures our restraints are secure and I am
comfortable before she begins. As our sessions are intense, she is
resolved to deliver either the quantity of strokes or obtain the desired
color and markings with passion. Often she senses I have had enough,
but she will continue to her satisfaction.
It has taken us 30 years
to get to the point where she likes the actual act of spanking the
most. I feel blessed to be where we are.
Roz: As a spankee the traits I like a spanker who is confident, has a plan for the spanking (knows what they want out of the spanking for both of us), and who is good at reading the spankee and is able to adjust based on the spankee's reaction.
Rosco: For me,
watching a spanking video without a lecture is usually boring. And a
lecture adds to the fun of getting a spanking. It doesn’t have to be
super serious and can even be lighthearted but it’s part of the
experience for me.
There’s a wide variety of intensities that can
be compelling but some videos are too little and some definitely too
much. I do have a double standard in that seeing a man delivering a hard
spanking is far more likely to be a turn off than if a woman is doing
it.
Irene has four implements she favors, and often switches
between them when she thrashes me. There’s a pause and I don’t know
exactly when the next one is coming or what “flavor” it will have. I try
to hold still and whine softly with appreciation, but I’ll kick my legs
and make more noise when it’s truly hard.
Prefectdt: What
characteristics do I look for in a spanker? Firstly she must be honest
and aware of her level of knowledge, where administering corporal
punishment is concerned. I like a spanker who is an individual and has
or is developing her own style in both physical administration and
managing a spanking scenario. Lastly, it is the cherry on the cake, if
she is genuinely enjoying punishing my old rear end and other body
parts.
How would I describe my ideal spanker? Confident, skilled,
harsh, fun and having her own way of doing things. Whilst respecting my
hard limits and limits, of course.
Jack: My wife/mommy as far as I’m concerned is the ideal spanker. She can be my wonderful wife, but when I’m naughty that look is a Mommy look and that is not good.
Wendel: My answers
for this one are regarding videos or pictures. In the real world the
Misses is the perfect spanker and looks extremely sexy taking a
spanking.
For a spanker: I always envision the spanker to be an
older woman maybe fifty plus with a stern look in her face. I am not big
into lectures. Less talking more spanking.
For a spankee: The woman
needs to bare her bottom and take the spanking. That is it. She does
not need to be naked. I just like watching the bare bottom being
spanked.
Bonnie: I wrote an article on this very subject almost ten years ago. My tastes haven't changed much.
FL: Someone who has a strict demeanour, able to deliver a good scolding, is resolute in the face of my pleading, and is just a bit intimidating. Not loud or shrill, but absolutely in control. Physically I have a preference for mature women, with solid figures and laps that accommodate a man. Not fat but not skinny either.
KDPierre: For me it's
definitely a sincere belief in their role and in the efficacy of
spanking. A spanker who is not play-acting but truly sees their role as
logical, sensible, natural, and deserved will usually then have
confidence, determination, and all the other aspects of a loving
disciplinarian. If you have a person like this in a consensual
relationship with someone who sees themselves as in need of such an
influence in their life, the resulting punishments will be powerful even
if not necessarily severe.
For me personally, I feel very
appreciative afterwards if a spanker can have me feeling genuine remorse
and even a desperation to make amends and please. I have pride and a
spanker that can effectively challenge that pride and coax a good bit of
sincere humility out of me through a combination of scolding and
application of paddle will earn my admiration and respect.
Hermione: I like a man who surprises me with a spanking when I least expect it. I also like variety: different rooms, different positions, different implements. I like a spanker who teases and jokes about the proceedings, although sometimes sternness is very appealing. Ron pretty much ticks all the boxes on this list.
I am always on the lookout for new discussion topics. If you have a question or suggestion that interests you, it's very likely that others share that interest. Please email me or leave a comment with any topic you'd like to be featured here.
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This week we went on a road trip to a cheese factory in the country, where we purchased bags of squeaky curd and some blocks of aged cheddar. At one time the shop also sold cheeses made elsewhere, like Danish blue and Wisconsin flavoured cheeses, but that was in the before times. Now they only sell their own cheese, plus some baked goods, jams and butter made locally.
Our topic for today came to me as I was watching a not-so-good spanking
video. I thought Ron could do a much better job than the person wielding
the hairbrush, and I was sure I could have wiggled and protested much
more convincingly than the subject of the implement's attention.
Depending on your point of view, what
characteristics do you look for in a spanker or a spankee? How would
you describe your ideal spanker or spankee?
Please leave your response as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will post a summary of our conversation.
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We discussed the overpowering urge to be spanked, and here is what you said:
Wendel: We were at a ComicCon last week checking out the art as well as the costumes. I especially enjoy the ladies' costumes. If the Misses caught me staring, she would smile, smack me in the shoulder and say how that one needs to be spanked. On the ride home I thought about her spanking comments and figure she really meant that I needed it. Once we got to the house, I told her I was sorry for staring and that if anyone needed a spanking it was me. I took the paddle from the pantry closet and gave it to her. The Misses told me to drop my pants and proceeded to paddle my butt until I could not sit. It was wonderful.
Roz: I'm not sure I get to that point. If a spanking doesn't eventuate, then it doesn't. Having said that, if I'm feeling the need I often use physical signals, a bit of cheeky banter etc. I have also just simply lent over Rick's knee if we have been cozy together on the couch.
Rosco: I get
spanked roughly twice a week, one of which is simply discipline and one
of which is the prelude to sexual activity. If I’m itching for a
spanking, all I have to do is complain or whine about something trivial,
and Irene will tend to threaten me with a spanking. I’ll tell her I
don’t need a spanking, which is our code for asking for one. (Our code
for not spanking now is “later”. Later means later.)
These days I’ve learned to savor a spanking at bedtime or before a nap. Irene and I are pretty much in sync.
Prefectdt: How long does it take for the urge to be spanked to grow to where it is ever-present and powerful?As soon as I have physically recovered from my last spanking :) . I do not have a long term partner, so it is impossible for my feelings to be shared intimately.
Dan: The clarifying question for me would be "How long after what?" The most recent spanking? For me, that's not really relevant. I don't feel a need to be spanked simply because some time has passed since my last one. For me, it's really about whether there has been some bad behavior that I feel a need to be held accountable for. For me, it's only after something like that has happened that I feel a compelling need for a spanking. Once that's occurred, there's a fairly narrow window--three to four days, maybe a week for serious misconduct--in which that need is pretty strong. Longer than that, and the perceived need for consequences starts to taper off.
Barrel: My urge
starts in about 7 to 10 days. It builds to quite a bit around two
weeks, thus my email to Hermione as a prompt for this week's topic.
This
time, I didn't need to say anything to my wife, my behavior did. With
family staying with us, there was nothing we could do. But after they
left, I got the hairbrush along with a lecture. So while I feel better,
she left the hairbrush on the living room table, either as a reminder
to shape up OR for easy and quick access for the next one.
A.J.: How long does it take for the urge to be spanked to grow to where it is ever-present and powerful?
No
definite time. Usually, it comes with stress. Just the everyday
"stuff" of life that builds and builds until you "need" something to
cleanse the mind. And sometimes that 'thing' is some time spent OTK.
I
remember a bad case of it a few years ago and thought that was a
solution (It's not. But what the heck.) My mind said I really need one.
Time and place said it's not going to happen. A month later the world
was back in place.
Sad.
Hermione: At one time I used to feel the urge at least twice a week. I'd get annoyed that Ron seemed not to notice my signals. But then he would, and took matters into his own hands expertly. Nowadays, due to age and hormones or lack thereof, I don't usually have a desperate need to be spanked. If it happens, it happens, and if not, there's always tomorrow. The timing is up to Ron.
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Is it hot where you are? Come on in and cool off. Our good friend Barrel sent me an email in which he complained that it's been a while since he had a good spanking. I know the feeling; we've had to postpone several times because of the heat. How about you?
How long does it take for the urge to be spanked to grow to where it is ever-present and powerful? What do you do to share your feelings with your partner?
Please leave your reply as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion at the end of the weekend.
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Our good friend S alerted me to a site that specialized in all things related to my favourite position.
The logo is discrete but meaningful to those in the know.
S asked if I would wear a hat like this:
Or carry this bag
Would you?
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