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What emotional traits are important in a spanker?
Mark: Any spanker is a great spanker! I like strict when being punished. Like being lectured etc. However but being mocked or teased is also fun. Wanting to be spanked is a bit odd to many people and my wife certainly has no desire to be on the receiving end... as such she can very effectively mock. It feels loving and I do like it.
Roz: Great question. For me it depends on the situation and set up. Whether
the spanking is punishment, to reinforce roles or play. For me the
demeanour needs to suit the situation.
Strict and lighthearted and light teasing works depending on the situation. Humiliation does not work for me.
FL: I'm all about maternal discipline, so a strict, no-nonsense approach is
my ideal, with plenty of scolding. Post-spanking, I like being comforted
and cuddled and knowing I'm loved and forgiven (until next time).
I don't care for humiliation or ridicule.
Jack: My wife/mommy is nothing but strict. She will not be anything else and does not matter if someone or others are present.
KDPierre: As stated here before, I see "spanking" as a multi-faceted activity with
many different flavors, motives, goals, and feelings at different
times. So, 'yes' to all of it...but not at the same time. 'Strict' is
great for our DD aspect. It helps for Rosa to be serious and
consistent. A bit playful and mischievous is also great for the more
playful times.
But the teasing/humiliation aspect is complicated
for me. Having my situation pointed out in a teasing way can be
deliciously embarrassing. Being scolded in front of others or having an
impending or past punishment told to others is embarrassing in a
different way, but I feel a necessary part of the disciplinary package
and still something I appreciate...if not in the moment then after.
Teased about how sore I'm going to be, or how sore I am, is also OK.
BUT, if it was something like: "You are so immature and worthless that
you can't even function like an adult and I have to treat and spank you
like a child." said in a derisive, condescending tone, I would be
very hurt, and feel angry and upset, and probably end up in a nasty
argument. Thankfully, the last example is something that doesn't happen
here.
Rosco: Thanks for posting this question.
While I crave, relish and savor
the sensation of a good spanking, it’s not the same without the role
play. (Irene and I aren’t serious about it - if she were truly angry,
the last thing she’d want to do is spank me.)
Often, Irene crafts
a scenario as she goes along based on stories I’ve told her about
growing up ogling girls, trying to get furtive glimpses of panties and
generally being too shy to talk to them. In these stories, I’m still
Rosco, but she plays many parts both older women (neighbors, teachers et
al) and girls my age or thereabouts.
The older women will be
strict, no nonsense types. If I’m in a mood to have Irene dial up the
intensity, I will resist, claim I didn’t do anything wrong. She does
enjoy playing the bossy, bitchy martinet and giving me a good thrashing
(I like to make it hurt, she has confided).
Often, she’ll leave
me tied up after a spanking and encourage the girls to come find me.
Irene will change clothes and play other roles, this time mocking,
teasing and giggling as she spanks me again - telling me how embarrassed
I should be, that she’s going to take pictures and show all her
friends. I’ll be serving as her pussy boy going forward.
(We’ve
never engaged in the small penis or sexual inadequacy teasing that is
prevalent in some corners of the internet and real life I assume.)
On the whole I really appreciate it when the girls laugh as they spank me. Go figure.
Graham: So much variety! Strict and scolding for "punishment" spankings. Otherwise, fun spankings have lots of scenarios. But neither of us is into any real humiliation.
Bonnie: What I prefer is typically a secondary consideration. My role is to accept what he delivers, and I do. If he's headed my way at a high rate of speed and holding a wooden hairbrush, I know this will be punishment. If he gives my bottom a quick pop with his hand while we are kissing, He has other things in mind. These variations or anything in between are usually fine, if not always what I expect.
Prefectdt: I like a spanker who knows how they like to do it and concentrate on doing that way, the best that they can. Variety is the spice of life, and experiencing different styles of coercion and control only adds to the fun.
A.J.: "...a spanker who is strict? Who mocks, embarrasses, laughs or teases? Or is their emotion not important?"
I'm with Roscoe's 1st and last paragraphs. I
only (give or get) for sexual reasons. All the spankings in which I
participate in lead to "ROMANCE!" (Yes; I'm being polite.) And I never
do punishment.
Strict? As role play, OK.
Mocks? For real? No.
Embarrasses? Me/her? No.
Laughs? At the situation? Enjoying the moment? Yes! Deprecating laughter - no.
Teases? Sure!
Emotion? It's all emotion. If there is no emotion it is cold and heartless.
To me.
Hermione: I love strictness, but laughter has its place too. It all depends on the situation. But a big NO to any form of humiliation, which Ron would never do.
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Welcome, everybody, you're just in time for our weekly discussion. Our good friend Rosco sent me a series of questions, so let's start with the first one.
Do you prefer a spanker who is strict? Who mocks, embarrasses, laughs or teases? Or is their emotion not important?
Please leave your response as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish a summary of our discussion.
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Are your spankings in need of some variety?
Jack: Never truly the same, over time my spankings have brought on more... As for the actual spankings, yes always over my wife mommy/lap, moved on from the hairbrush to the bath brush... She reminds me that I seem to find news ways to get in trouble and so she finds new ways to address it... Been spanked in a hotel room and knowing others will hear and will look at me.
Rosco: It’s been 44 years, so there’s been a lot of change - but week to week
the physical part changes little. The role play changes a lot, at least
for Irene. She’s always assuming different characters - age, profession,
nationality, accent but my transgressions change less.
Mostly
she drives that bus so to speak. Once in awhile I develop a scenario and
write her a letter, ostensibly from a woman or girl that explains to
Irene what she caught me doing. Irene will take from there.
The
most recent physical change is not spanking but the ensuing cunnilingus -
normally reverse cowgirl. As Irene’s wrists have weakened, she now
leans on a small gardening bench/stool that we bought for the purpose. A
bit of an odd to bring into the bedroom but we haven’t missed a beat.
Roz: Our dynamic has gone through many changes over the years so the circumstances surrounding a spanking, set-up etc have changed a lot over the years from scheduled maintenance spankings which included some ritual to impromptu, erotic and light BDSM play. Nowdays they are slightly more routine but never quite the same as position, intensity and implements change.
Spanky53: For me and my partners I think our spanking play continues to evolve. We've never been into roleplay, but the style and intensity always varies. We do change up how we use implements or location as often as possible. But the reality each time is unique because the energy we come to the play with is the key component to how we play.
KDPierre: Our interactions have evolved and the others "in the know" have changed as well, which always brings new possibilities into the mix. Always keep moving forward!
Bonnie: I am married to a man who lives for variety, especially when it comes to
my spankings. As I've documented, we do a lot of experimenting. The
primary commonality is that my bottom hurts a lot when he's done.
We
have a few familiar templates, like the midday hem-hoister or the
Friday night special, but even within these familiar routines, there are
numerous permutations involving timing, duration, intensity, scenario,
implements, dress, location, technique, tone, position, dialogue,
rituals, restraint, video recording, corner time, and many more courtesy
of his devious spanko mind.
My short answer is no. Even after many years, there are still plenty of surprises.
Wendel: A bare bottom spanking or paddling in the kitchen will never get old. We do have enough variety that the spankings do not get boring.
Barrel: While we have a normal rhythm that might seem a bit regular, we do add variety through the build up, number of implements she employs, duration, severity, scolding, wardrobe for each of us and location. And when I am getting thrashed, it hardly seems boring.
Graham: Wow! I never tire of getting spanked, and I suppose each one is somewhat similar as the others but never exactly the same.
Yes,
we do play lots of games and mix things up. Plus, a plethora of
different instruments, butt plugs, dildos, lingerie, etc. keep things
fresh.
No complaints here!
Hermione: ours always follow the same pattern, except for the choice of implements. We are both comfortable with routine, so I'm not bothered by the lack of variety or spontaneity.
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Of course we all knew that!
A big thank you goes out to Norse Cavalier for sharing this with us.
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Dressed or completely undressed? That was the question.
Anon: Yes. Always. It may start with a short skirt, but ultimately...!
That goes for me, too, when it's "my turn" (but without a skirt.)
Bonnie: It depends upon the circumstances. For routine spankings, I just hoist my hem to expose my bottom. For our special Friday night spankings, I may dress up or undress down depending upon the scene that Randy chooses.
Mark: Yes for me, always naked.
Dan: For me, always naked. She's always fully clothed.
Rosco: Sometimes I’ll be naked, sometimes Irene will put me into panties or a
frilly nightie. (While she quickly got into spanking 40+ years ago, it
took her longer to appreciate feminization as part of my discipline -
but now she’s fully into it.)
Once in a great while I could be wearing a shirt but never pants or, god forbid, socks.
Irene
usually wears a dress or skirt, sometimes changing two or three times
for a second round of spanking or the ensuing cunnilingus and
intercourse.
B: I'm always required to be completely naked from the waist down. This is for a time before, during, and after the spanking. I'm allowed to leave a shirt on if I want. A thong is usually the required bottom half attire for the rest of the day, It's a good reminder that she could give me a meaningful whack at any time.
Wendel: We are a big fan of pulling pants down and baring the bottom for
spankings but there are times when the spankee strips naked. We find
corner time after a spanking is more arousing for both if the pants are
down.
The last few mountain hikes we have made ended with the Misses stripping naked and getting spanked/whipped.
And..for Halloween we dress up in costumes. It is fun to spank Cinderella.
Norse Cavalier: She's usually wearing jeans and a t-shirt, and over the course of the spanking, I pull her jeans and panties down. I like to start over the seat of the jeans, but it always ends on her bare bottom. I've never given a spanking to a naked woman.
Roz: It depends on the circumstances. Sometimes I an naked, sometimes just in lingerie or fully clothed with jeans down or skirt raised.
Prefectdt: That mostly depends on who is spanking me, I usually let them decide. For my own desires, I do like to be wearing at least a man thong. There do seem to be a lot of women in the world who enjoy the humiliating scenario of CFNM (Clothed Female, Naked Male). I do like it when most of the clothing stays on, though. There is nothing so wonderfully humbling, as having to shuffle about with your trousers and underpants around your ankles.
Jack: When I have as my wife/mommy been a very naughty little boy, the spankings are always when I'm naked. I will either go to the bedroom, remove my clothing, get my jammies out and lay on the bed and wait, or if she wants to insure I learn my lesson, she has me undress in the front room, scolds me, then applies the bath brush. If others might drop in, the spanking is still applied. The bedroom, means once the spanking is over, I must put on my jammies no matter time of day, means I'm grounded, going to bed early, and getting a bath prior to bedtime.
Barrel: Most of the time, I am naked unless the spanking is a daily warm up to a planned session. In those cases, I am bare below the waist for the time it takes to provide ample notice what is coming in the next few days. No intimacy, just the hair brush or paddle. During such a session, I may be required to wear panties or hose to add humiliation to the thrashing. However, regular spankings I am sans clothing.
Alan: For a formal "punishment spanking," the command is "strip," and I am nude from the start, clothes neatly folded; for most else, I am naked below the waist before it begins, although underpants may be at knees or ankles; for the rare "on the spot spanking," usually only my bottom is bared, with other clothing left in place.
Donn: It depends upon the circumstances and location.
For
inside our house, if the chastisement is "on the spot" (close in time
and location to the transgression), my wife will direct me to strip below
the waist and grab my ankles.
For other, more formal or
pre-planned punishment sessions, my wife has always required me to be
completely naked. (The only exception is that sometimes she requires me
to wear a nylon safety strap around my waist, supporting both ends of a
nylon and high-density foam strap (like a thong) that protects my
coccyx, separates my cheeks, and widens into a front-pouch to hold and
keep my genitals up-and-out of the line of fire. She has no desire
for a high-strike, or wrap-around of my inner-thighs, to contact
anything "critical.")
My wife is always dressed when raising my
self-discipline. I personally like if she wears a skirt or dress (or
particularly, a nightgown), but timing and weather seem to be
determinative.
Graham: Rarely naked at the start, but always naked at the end! The clothing usually comes off gradually. If I'm told to strip immediately, I'm likely in more trouble than I'd like!
KDPierre: Nearly always naked for me with her clothed, unless it's really cold in the house. LOL I'm not even sure how this started, but now it's just sort of an automatic thing.
Hermione: I usually remove everything below the waist for a spanking, then the rest comes off for intimacy.
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