A.J.: "Do you ever use restraints?"
Another question revealing how damn boring I must be.
Unless you consider her panties at her ankles while OTK acting as a kicking restraint, the answer is "No." And "no" when on either side of the lap. That is more spanking ritual than I want to do; that, and she never asked me. (See? Boring.)
(And right now I'm thinking of the episode of 'Seinfeld' where Costanza is handcuffed to a bed by a woman who then makes off with his clothes and money.)
However, as a consolation....one time in my late 20's, I was dating this beautiful out-of-my-class blonde who dropped by one afternoon as I was cleaning out my closet of old suits and stuff. Came to my scores of ties that I never used anymore, ties I was reluctant to toss because they were so expensive.
Me: "So damn expensive; and now I have no use for them."
Her, with a devilishly sly look on her face every man yearns for: "Really? Can't think of anything...?"
Me: (One one thousand... two one thousand... three...) Click! "You! Get naked! I'll get the whipped cream and berries!"
There was no spanking, but what a great Sunday afternoon!
Note to beginners: No matter how many ties you think you will need for a four-poster with your favorite play partner - double it! And have spares handy. This is no time to be frugal.
Note #2: No whipped cream or berries? Wing it! You'll come up with something. The next time you are in the market - get some! Like the Boy Scouts, ya' gotta' be prepared!
Jack: My wife/mommy has my legs secured with hers, my hand is pinned to my back. Once she is finished and stands me up, to the wall no rubbing. Once only once I was caught rubbing, another spanking and then she tied my hands so I could not rub.
Bonnie: Yes, yes, and yes. We use restraints during spankings, though maybe a bit less often in recent years. There is something really exciting about granting my husband complete control over my body. From the moment when I am secured, everything that happens is his choice. I love that. He makes the decisions. If he desires to do something deliciously naughty to me, that is part of the bargain. We both look forward to these special sessions.
Cleveland_Tom: An ex of
mine purchased some novelty handcuffs on our visit to the now defunct
Geauga Lake Amusement Park, she used them on me a couple of times, they
weren't very comfortable, (neither was the paddle she used with them,
but I was more into that). The last time she had me cuffed with my hands
up and to a decorative headboard behind me. Oddly enough this was in
the living room, located in the front of the first floor of the duplex
she rented. Her daughter was away at her ex-husband's, so we had the
place to ourselves. I'm not sure, but she may have gotten me in a piece
of female clothing like a shift or a nightgown, (but I may be miss
remembering). The apartment door was right there at the front corner to
the hall/stairs to the top apartment, so I was wildly embarrassed and
very anxious when a female neighbor came by and Debbie left me where I
was and opened the door to talked to her. She only partially opened the
door, but I was almost directly opposite and unable to cover up or move.
Then had what was probably only a 3 minute conversation even though it
felt longer. Debbie did not step out of the way or open the door so the
neighbor never saw me, but it left me in such a state that the paddle
felt ever harder when she continued our play.
Anyway, would rather use leather cuffs if I ever played that way again. Sadly, I have no playmates.
Wendel: The Misses bought some arm and leg restraints long ago. We each took a turn tying down the other and administering a whipping. It was ok but not our thing. The restraints have been in the closet ever since.
Graham: Sometimes. It adds a nice dimension and also makes it easier for me to reach the point of tears. I do like the feeling of being totally under her control.
Prefectdt: I never ask to be restrained, but I am not against being restrained for a play scenario, if the other party wishes it. There is are only two conditions to my being restrained 1/ This is not the first time that we have played together. 2/ I feel a certain level of trust for the spanker.
Rosco: Yes. I can’t remember when we started. Unlike spanking, I didn’t have any interest before we did it, but I love it.
That
said, it’s tricky. I like to be firmly bound (helpless and vulnerable),
but comfortable at the same time. And at times, Irene, wonderful
dominant that she is, can be somewhat incompetent in her knot tying.
A
few days ago, Irene instructed me to set up the massage table and lie
face down. She bound me with yoga straps, including one over my tailbone
which kept my bottom in place. After also blindfolding me, she
delivered a sound spanking accompanied by a lecture. She left the room,
returned 15 minutes later and delivered another spanking - the repeated
the whole thing a few more times. I whined and complained of course, but
it was pure bliss.
Irene will also often spank me then put me
down for a nap, before returning for more discipline followed by
traditional sexual activity. She has straps that loop around my thighs
connected to handcuffs, and will often blindfold and gag me. After a
spanking she’ll turn me into my back and I’ll drift off to sleep (go
figure).
This is a pretty loose bondage, I could escape if I tried - but then I’d be in big trouble.
We’ve done a little spread eagle more intense stuff, but honestly the discomfort inhibits my libido.
Barrel: Yes, we do use restraints. I was wondering if we were crazy, but from the comments so far, I think we are quite sane.
Restraints
are always used when we have a session, as the intensity and duration
are longer and harder. Certainly the aura is heightened, but our
sessions include extended caning with three canes, single tail whipping
and an extra heavy tawse.
We use two positions in a session,
the first being restrained to a retractable hoist in our garage we
normally use for hanging bikes and garden hoses...but it works well as a
rack too. I am not hung but stretched enough to prevent movement when
she wields the single tail on my back and other implement on my
buttocks.
The second is a bench, with convenient restraint
points to use Velcro straps to not only bind my extremities but also
open my inner thighs just below the crease in my buttocks. This
providing unlimited access with her tawse to the most sensitive skin. I
wear a protective cup for obvious reasons, but a properly applied tawse
stroke can exceed the most intense cane stroke, making the restraints
invaluable.
The resulting bonding we both get from these is exceeded only by the intimacy that follows.
Loki_Darksong: My use of restraints does depend on the play session at hand, usually for both practical and artistic reasons.
The
practical is that the restraints make it easier for my play partner to
not be concerned about staying in position on their own. The restraints
allow them to focus on the play itself, especially if heavy implements
are part of it.
Artistic wise is pretty much self-explanatory.
People do look good tied up in various positions both in drawing and in
photography.
On a side note, for the times when I bottom I do
like the use of restraints on me in scenes involving caning and/or
floggings. I can't put into words at the moment but being restrained
during those types of scene is a big help for me in my mind since I do
believe in if you're going to play you should know that you had been for
at least a couple days afterwards. And that only works on me if I am
restrained.
Roz: We did use restraints occasionally years ago. Mostly soft restraints such as scarfs etc and had a set of novelty cuffs. Also blindfolds. It all definitely added to the experience.
Hermione: We have a set of silver-coloured plastic cuffs that sometimes come into play. When we last bought a new bed, I chose a headboard that allowed for "attachments".
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