Welcome, dear friends, to another spanko brunch. Our good friend Barrel has come up with another exciting topic for us to discuss.
Do you ever use restraints? If so, how often? Are restraints employed to enhance the aura or to keep the spankee still as the spanking will be especially severe?
Please leave your response as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion after everyone has had a chance to speak.
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My wife/mommy has my legs secure with her’s, my hand is pinned to my back. I still squirm, wiggle, beg, plead, no avail. She does not want my bare bottom is where she insures the bath brush will land. Once she is finished and stand me up, to the wall no rubbing. Once only once I was caught rubbing, another spanking and then she ties my hands so I could not rub. My wife/mommy insures I have learned my lesson, and as mentioned before I must call her Mommy until told otherwise, no matter who might be present. Jack
Yes, yes, and yes. We use restraints during spankings, though maybe a bit less often in recent years. There is something really exciting about granting my husband complete control over my body. From the moment when I am secured, everything that happens is his choice. I love that. He makes the decisions. If he desires to do something deliciously naughty to me, that is part of the bargain. We both look forward to these special sessions.
An ex of mine purchased some novelty handcuffs on our visit to the now defunct Geauga Lake Amusement Park, she used them on me a couple of times, they weren't very comfortable, (neither was the paddle she used with them, but I was more into that). The last time she had me cuffed with my hands up and to a decorative headboard behind me. Oddly enough this was in the living room, locate in the front of the first floor of the duplex she rented. Her daughter was away at her ex-husbands, so we had the place to our selves. I'm not sure, but she may have gotten me in a piece of female clothing like a shift or a nightgown, (but I may be miss remembering). The apartment door was right there at the front corner to the hall/stairs to the top apartment, so I was wildly embarrassed and very anxious when a female neighbor came by and Debbie left me where I was and opened the door to talked to her. She only partially opened the door, but I was almost directly opposite and unable to cover up or move. The had what was probably only a 3 minute conversation even though it felt longer. Debbie did not step out of the way or open the door so the neighbor never saw me, but it left me in such a state that the paddle felt ever harder when she continued our play.
Anyway, would rather use leather cuffs if I ever played that way again, sadly, I have no playmates.
The Misses bought some arm and leg restraints long ago. We each took a turn tying down the other and administering a whipping. It was ok but not our thing. The restraints have been in the closet ever since.
Sometimes. It adds a nice dimension and also makes it easier for me to reach the point of tears. I do like the feeling of being totally under her control. Graham
I never ask to be restrained, but I am not against being restrained for a play scenario, if the other party wishes it. There is are only two conditions to my being restrained 1/ This is not the first time that we have played together. 2/ I feel a certain level of trust for the spanker.
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Yes. I can’t remember when we started. Unlike spanking, I didn’t have any interest before we did it, but I love it.
That said, it’s tricky. I like to be firmly bound (helpless and vulnerable), but comfortable at the same time. And at times, Irene, wonderful dominant that she is, can be somewhat incompetent in her knot tying.
A few days ago, Irene instructed me to set up the massage table and lie face down. She bound me with yoga straps, including one over my tailbone which kept my bottom in place. After also blindfolding me, she delivered a sound spanking accompanied by a lecture. She left the room, returned 15 minutes later and delivered another spanking - the repeated the whole thing a few more times. I whined and complained of course, but it was pure bliss.
Irene will also often spank me then put me down for a nap, before returning for more discipline followed by traditional sexual activity. She has straps that loop around my thighs connected to handcuffs, and will often blindfold and gag me. After a spanking she’ll turn me into my back and I’ll drift off to sleep (go figure).
This is a pretty loose bondage, I could escape if I tried - but then I’d be in big trouble.
We’ve done a little spread eagle more intense stuff, but honestly the discomfort inhibits my libido.
Yes, we do use restraints. I was wondering if we were crazy, but from the comments so far, I think we are quite sane.
Restraints are always used when we have a session, as the intensity and duration are longer and harder. Certainly the aura is heightened, but our sessions include extended caning with three canes, single tail whipping and an extra heavy tawse.
We use two positions in a session, the first being restrained to a retractable hoist in our garage we normally use for hanging bikes and garden hoses...but it works well as a rack too. I am not hung but stretched enough to prevent movement when she wields the single tail on my back and other implement on my buttocks.
The second is a bench, with convenient restraint points to use Velcro straps to not only bind my extremities but also open my inner thighs just below the crease in my buttocks. This providing unlimited access with her tawse to the most sensitive skin. I wear a protective cup for obvious reasons, but a properly applied tawse stroke can exceed the most intense cane stroke, making the restraints invaluable.
The resulting bonding we both get from these is exceeded only by the intimacy that follows.
My use of restraints does depend on the play session at hand, usually for both practical and artistic reasons.
The practical is that the restraints make it easier for my play partner to not be concerned about staying in position on their own. The restraints allow them to focus on the play itself, especially if heavy implements are part of it.
Artistic wise is pretty much self-explanatory. People do look good tied up in various positions both in drawing and in photography.
On a side note, for the times when I bottom I do like the use of restraints on me in scenes involving caning and/or floggings. I can't put into words at the moment but being restrained during those types of scene is a big help for me in my mind Sensei do believe in if you're going to play you should know that you had been for at least a couple days afterwards. And that only works on me if I am restrained.
We did use restraints occasionally years ago. Mostly soft restraints such as scarfs etc and had a set of novelty cuffs. Also blindfolds. It all definitely added to the experience.
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Roz
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