Our good friend Boru alerted me to this amazing product. It's "a fast-absorbing body cream designed to visibly firm, tighten and deeply hydrate the skin" and I assume it is especially made to target the skin of the bottom.
Have you tried it, or would you? If so, I want to hear about your experience with it. It's available from the Sol de Janeiro website, or from Sephora.
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This week we discussed pain tolerance.
Bonnie: I’d say my pain tolerance is probably medium overall, but well above average when it comes to spankings. When I’m in that zone, the pain doesn’t register the same. It’s a familiar sensation and one I embrace and accept.
Dan: I'm kind of the opposite of Bonnie. I have always had a very high overall pain tolerance. When it comes to spanking, however, I'm just average. Especially if I haven't been spanked in a while, I'm often astonished at how much it hurts.
Rosco: I really don’t know how I compare to others. I’ve seen some brutal stuff online and some wimpy ass stuff as well. I can’t imagine getting it with a bath brush. On the other hand some floggers are a joke.
I’m surprised I’ve never bruised much given how hard Irene whacks me. Sometimes it hurts like crazy, that’s it’s too hard but it only lasts a few seconds.
I’ve only asked Irene to stop once. We’d bought a carpet beater that felt like iron. Usually I just suck it up and assume she can tell from my reaction if it’s getting a bit much.
I feel like I can take a lot and enjoy the prolonged intensity, but the next day or two will carry quite the reminder.
Anon: I don't do pain. When on either side of the lap. I have delivered a "punishment" type spanking exactly once and I had to be pleaded with to so.
"Spank me harder?" Sure. If she asks for it, but it's never harsh.
Just me...
Prefectdt: I do not really judge my pain threshold, for non-spanking events. Stubbed toe, bitten tongue, burnt hand they all just annoy me so much. It all seems so unfair. All of that type of pain is so non-consensual, and that is just not on.
Barrel: Generally, I have a high tolerance for pain. However after an extended period of no spanking, we tried a caning session this week. I had to tap out after the 6 or so strokes. While three were misses that resulted in wrap arounds, I just couldn't take it. I think we are both out of practice and my tolerance level is definitely diminished. So, I apologized for not being able to take it as I handed her the plastic paddle the next day, which she applied. I will hand her the hairbrush when I get out of the shower as a continuing step to build my tolerance. I want to get back to where we were and I can take what she wants to give me.
Roz: I would say I have a medium threshold for pain. The pain from a spanking is definitely more welcome than any other kind of pain.
Ronnie: Medium tolerance for pain, but like Roz, the pain from a spanking is different which I welcome.
Hermione: I have a pretty high tolerance for pain of any kind. I was encouraged as a small child to be stoic about pain, to endure it and not complain. So that extends to both spanking and non-spanking pain.
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What special sounds enhance a spanking?
Barrel: The unmistakable “whurp” when my wife whips the cane through the air before applying it to my backside. That sound heightens the apprehension I have, knowing what is about to take place.
Robert: I'm sure I'm not alone, but she has one paddle which makes a VERY loud *whack* when appropriately applied to my bare bottom. The pain with the sound reminds me what the next few minutes will be like before I get to head into the corner for a few minutes.
Roz: The sound (and sight) of implements being retrieved. Opening of the drawer, wardrobe etc. Plus the sound of the implement before making contact eg, the whoosh of a belt. Not to mention the sound as it lands.
Bonnie: There are several such sounds: a leather belt slipping through belt loops, a paddle slapped against a hand, Velcro restraint cuffs being opened, an alarm on his phone that tells us it’s that special time again, a snap of the elastic of the waistband of my thong, the drop of a brush on the nightstand, the swish of a crop, when he carefully enunciates the word “Spanking” as he explains what is about to happen to me, and my own rapid breathing as the action warms up.
CEM: Whore Moans. (Hormones.) 😁 The sound of her desire, lust, urgency, passion, distress, desire, wanting it to end, wanting more, hating it, loving it, just the sound of her breathing and utterances...that. I know that was not really the question, but...that's my offering/submission to the topic. 😊
Rosco: For me (us really) spankings wouldn’t be the same at all without the lecture. Not having the whacking sounds would be odd.
Wendel: I love that ½ second of silence right before the wonderful sound of the whack from the paddle or belt. The Misses crying out, sometimes in tears, is also a great addition to the spankings.
Jack: My wife/Mommy pats the bath brush against her hand as she scolds me. She reminds me this is just the light sound. I will be standing there either naked or pants and underpants around my ankle. When it does land on my bare bottom it makes a loud sound and I make a loud sound also, which can be clearly heard when being spanked in the bedroom.
A.J.: Oooh!!! My question!
I don't give/get hard spankings. It's all sensual fun. But it is essential to mess with her mind!*
Without saying a word I lead her to a familiar place - the plush arm of the sofa. She knows what's coming.
Over the arm she goes. No words are spoken. Her mind racing because - she knows! A skirt flipped up. Panties sensuously pulled down and off. Legs parted.
You stand near her as she clutches a small pillow; not looking at you. And then she hears it - the sound of the belt being undone. The deliberate jingle of the belt buckle is heard. The slow, sensuous snake-like slithering hissss of a belt passing through belt loops. You can almost see her tush react.
She sees none of this. She's not looking. It all playing out so beautifully in her mind. The anticipation of what's to come. And it's powerful. The sound alone sets what's to come. And that's one of the sounds I most love.
Coincident with that moment:
- Hearing that little 'gasp' as she takes in that little bit of air as her panties come off. (That's for me! Ladies - want to fuck with my mind? Make that little sound.)
- The soft 'slap!' sound of leather meeting bottom. I don't spank hard, so this is no more than hand meeting bottom. But I want to create the sound of that slap so she thinks it is more than it is. Just to fuck with her mind!
In reality, I'm not sure I ever created that sound; probably from lack of practice. I think it requires a leather that is not a belt. Suggestions?
* This is an equal opportunity zone. It's also effective when the bottoms over that sofa arm are switched. No judgement here! Whoo-Hoo!
Roz said "The sound of implements being retrieved. Opening of the drawer, wardrobe etc."
YES! That!
And why hadn't I thought of that?
Putting her in position over the arm of the sofa, bare-bottom up - and then walk away! And she hears that rummaging sound. Worse - his footsteps back!
What a wonderful mind-fucking! At this point the actual spanking is anticlimactic. It bothers me a bit that I had not thought of this; (probably because I don't have an implements drawer.)
Anon: Sounds are very much a part of it. The "whoosh" of the cane to the "whack" of the paddle. All part of the excitement.
Prefectdt: It looks like I am with the majority here. It is the sounds during play that trigger the mind fairies. The swish of a cane coming in, that loud THWAP! sound as a slipper/plimsoll lands. The sounds of her shoes on a hard floor, as she walks around, out of my sight. Is she getting another toy? Is she just taking a look at her handywork? Is she going to take a run-up this time?
Hermione: The click of his glasses as he puts them on the dresser, knowing that he means to get down to business. The swish of the wooden shoehorn through the air before it lands.
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Panties and spanking go together like... Here's what you said.
Bonnie: For my husband, Randy, spanking and panties are tightly intertwined interests. He loves to order new panties for me in every style, pattern, material, and color. I think I might own more now than I will ever wear. But still they roll in.
Thongs and cheeky styles that provide minimal coverage around back are his favorites. He says he loves how the fabric frames my target. But he’s not beyond an occasional change of pace. One fun kinky scenario involves caning me while I am wearing high-waisted white nylon full briefs.
Upon the arrival of each new shipment, he asks me to model for him. After my private runway performance, he “tests” my new panties by bouncing a paddle off the round parts they don’t cover. His test feels exactly like a spanking from my perspective, but who am I to argue with science?
Roz: Panties do play a role in spanking for us. Rick enjoys the view and tracing the outline. Then there is the moment they come down or off. So intimate and sensual.
KDPierre: Panties have been an occasional add-on over the years. We use them to enhance certain moods for a spanking, and since they are thong-backed, to act as a frilly frame for any post-spanking color. One thing that has gotten much easier, is being able to find and procure "pouch panties". Hell, we have gotten most of ours off of eBay. Easy-peasy.
Jean Marie: I have strong feelings about panties. I love lingerie but not to wear in bed where they could be ruined; I save them for under slinky sexy gowns. (Agent Provocateur is my favorite brand.) I love plain white cotton panties with full coverage across the seat; I buy packages of cheap ones in bulk. I like to have these ripped right off me, before spanking, before sex. I do not like thongs! I floss my teeth not my ass crack. That is my two cents' worth.
A.J.: "Do panties play a part in your spanking activities?"
Can't answer. I have never worn panties.
Oh! You mean HER!
I have read stories where she has to stand before the 'Lap of Justice™" and told to remove her panties before going OTK. Supposedly humiliating for her.
Not me.
I want her OTK with her panties still on (and maybe that's all she has on) for a minute or two as I get reacquainted with the target, and telling her what's about to come.
I TAKE HER PANTIES down! (Or off.) And I'm with Roz.
My favorite moment - hearing her suck in a little bit air as the gusset of her panties, reluctantly, springs free from her most personal parts. Her last bit of modesty gone, she's vulnerable. "It" is about to start. That little gasp from her - such sweet surrender. The baring of the bottom is the best moment.
Wendel: The Misses looks awesome wearing panties but they always come down for a spanking. It is quite a turn on watching her bottom being exposed.
Prefectdt: I have never worn panties :) I do like being spanked through the layers until it becomes a bare bottom spanking. That includes over the tight boxer shorts that I prefer. I nearly always wear a boy thong during a beating, as, most interactions that I take part in are non-sexual, and it is very often appreciated that my boy bits are not on display whilst the posterior can still be bare.
Barrel: Occasionally my wife makes me wear panties before a session. But they always come off before the thrashing begins. I do wear a protective cup fashioned like a skimpy thong to define the upper limit of the target and protect my parts from an errant lash of the single tail whip.
Rosco: I am obsessed with panties and spanking both, but I’m the spankee and Irene the spanker wears the panties. (Ok I wear them sometimes)
I definitely appreciate my spankings most when Irene wears a skirt or dress with panties. Decades ago, she allowed me to select her panties. It’s weird to admit, but cotton is a bit of a turn off for me. I’ve got many brands for Irene, but mostly I go back to Olga 913. I love to play with her nether parts though panties before they’re removed for serious action.
I think the allure comes from peeking up skirts in the 7th grade in 1967-68 when skirts were super short. There’s a certain naughtiness on my part. If she’s wearing a skirts without panties that’d be naughtiness on her part which is not part of our role play.
To add a little more, I love to see pictures of female female spanking. I like the idea of a female top and I’d rather see that red round often plump female bottom. A spanking over pretty panties with a raised skirt has a sort of realism for me. I love it when the panties are a bit flimsy - not too small but they might get pulled up into the bottom crack a bit.
It’s common to see someone spanked over panties then having them pulled down then spanked some more. That’s fine, but I also like it if the panties stay up. If there’s frontal nudity one of my turnoffs is shaved public hair.
And since the US Open just ended, I’ve had fantasies about locker room spankings in tennis dresses involving both stars of today and yesteryear.
Loki_Darksong: When it comes to spanking scenes, panties are a pleasant part of the package.
Not all spankings, whether that is a hand spanking or implements such as a strap or belt, a paddle, or a cane, have to be bare bottom to be effective. Granted there is a slight difficulty in regards to measuring the severity of the spanking if it's done over pansies. But all the more reason to be careful when doing so.
Of course there's also the artistic view of a woman's backside while receiving a spanking over panties due to all the various styles available to panties ranging from bikini to high cut to boy shorts to briefs as well as thongs and g-strings. And of course not to leave out the period piece ones such as the Victorian and Edwardian era bloomers.
Even to this day I find those very attractive on a woman. I have a few on the shopping list for my wife at present!
Hermione: I am not allowed to have any protective covering on my bottom before or during a spanking. Ron wants my bottom bare and ready for his attention.
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