What are your thoughts on submission?
Jack: I don't know if submission is the right word. My wife/mommy knows what is best, I accept, the marriage has been great, the sex life can't complain, but the spankings and sex do not go together. I know I can't help myself at times, and I know that a spanking is coming, and I can complain, beg, plead, to no avail. I accept the spankings but not how much my bare bottom is stinging and sore afterwards. So for me, having a wife/mommy is very good even tho the spankings hurt and the bathbrush insures that.
Rosco: Submission is important to me and Irene. A spanking without a lecture is a bit empty. The physical sensation is delicious, but for me the turn on is dependent also on the reprimand for my disputatious, obstreperous, recalcitrant ways. Irene has quite the vocabulary.
Roz: Our dynamic has gone through many changes over the years. Submission and permission used to play an important part at various times, depending on the nature of the dynamic at the time. Spanking nowadays is purely for fun.
Prefectdt: I think that submission is very important in play, for me, but mostly revolves around physical submission. Play always seems enhanced when I am made an automaton of the other person in the play session. This is most illustrated when the other participant is an inexperienced player and, from necessity, I am topping from the bottom. If, for example, I think that the spanker might get a better target if I am in another position, I will ask to be told to move to another position, rather than moving by my own command. Giving physical control of my body to someone else gives a high sense of submission and helps bring on the "Dancing with the Fairies" high.
Mija: Submission is important, but not automatic. I can play without it, but then the play is much more about the physical sensation, maybe even the playfulness, of being spanked. I like the sense of submission, my physical and emotional submission, being valued, maybe even insisted on by person topping. Maybe because when I'm submissive I'm feeling vulnerable and so it would hurt me to have those submissive feelings not matter, not be valued. If they've insisted I submit then I feel like that submission has been seen and that it matters.
KDPierre: Regardless
of the reason, spanking is an inherent power imbalance that requires one
party to submit to the other. In this exchange, pain is being given by
one party to the other who accepts that pain for whatever motives move
them. I'm not sure how any spanking can even happen without 'submission'
taking place, even if that submission does not extend past the spanking
itself. I have noticed that some people fairly bristle at the notion of
submission being involved and therefore kind of redefine the term so
that they can say it is not happening. But that's just the modern world
we live in and that trend is not in any way limited to spanking and
submission.
Perhaps if someone dictates precisely what they want,
control it utterly and sort of use the spanker as almost a service
employee, I suppose you could say they aren't submitting but just
consenting to receive pain, but even then.....the spanker is still kind
of in the dominant position.
Books and essays have been written about this topic, so I'm not sure if a post reply can do it justice.
A.J.: "Sense" of submission? Sure.
An actual full-time submissive in all things? No thanks.
Hermione: I am definitely a submissive, and Ron is a natural dominant, so we complement each other. I usually ask his permission to do things like going shopping or making major changes around the house. He does not normally say no, but prefers that I ask rather than just go ahead on my own. Spanking naturally requires submission on my part, even though I crave it.
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Hermione: your comment reminded me that 'permission' was also part of the question, which I left unanswered, so....... "permission" for us evolved over time to be somewhat less of 'a thing'......................with the stark, glaring exception of orgasm. LOL THAT is one thing that is still very much in Rosa's complete control.
With the day-to-day, requesting permission for household decisions has sort of given way to more of an understanding of Rosa expecting me to know what the parameters are and just doing things that adhere to her preferences. However, like you, I usually let her know what I'm going to do just out of deference to her authority. She is far from tyrannical though, and rarely has an issue with my thoughts, but will voice objections if she has them and we then work it out with a heavy leaning towards her will over mine.
Our spankings (at least in the form of discipline or even just penalty play in the form of bets, dares, and games or whatever) are totally one-sided and so it's kind of to have a totally egalitarian approach to household living when one person has that kind of edge, even if it's not super-formalized.
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