Welcome back to another weekend spanko brunch. As you can see, this is brunch number 599, so next week will be a major milestone. I'd like it to be really special, so I'm throwing the floor open to suggestions. What topic would make next week's discussion memorable?
Now on to today's discussion.
What are your thoughts on submission?
Is it an important part of your spanking relationship? Is it necessary
to hand over control to the spanker in order for a spanking to work? Is
asking for permission a part of your dynamic?
Leave your thoughts as a comment and once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish a summary of our discussion.
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I don't know if submission is the right word. My wife/mommy knows what is best, I accept, the marriage has been great, the sex life can't complain, but the spankings and sex do not go together. I know I can't help myself at times, and I know that a spanking is coming, and I can complain, beg, plead, to no avail. I accept the spankings but not how much my bare bottom is stinging and sore afterwards. So for me, having a wife/mommy is very good even tho the spankings hurt and the bathbrush insures that. Jack
Submission is important to me and Irene. A spanking without a lecture is a bit empty. The physical sensation is delicious, but for me the turn on is dependent also on the reprimand for my disputatious, obstreperous, recalcitrant ways. Irene has quite the vocabulary.
Our dynamic has gone through many changes over the years. Submission and permission used to play an important part at various times, depending on the nature of the dynamic at the time. Spanking nowdays is purely for fun.
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Roz
I think that submission is very important in play, for me, but mostly revolves around physical submission. Play always seems enhanced when I am made an automaton of the other person in the play session. This is most illustrated when the other participant is an inexperienced player and, from necessity, I am topping from the bottom. If, for example, I think that the spanker might get a better target if I am in another position, I will ask to be told to move to another position, rather than moving by my own command. Giving physical control of my body to someone else gives a high sense of submission and helps bring on the "Dancing with the Fairies" high.
Prefectdt
Submission is important, but not automatic. I can play without it, but then the play is much more about the physical sensation, maybe even the playfulness, of being spanked. I like the sense of submission, my physical and emotional submission, being valued, maybe even insisted on by person topping. Maybe because when I'm submissive I'm feeling vulnerable and so it would hurt me to have those submissive feelings not matter, not be valued. If they've insisted I submit then I feel like that submission has been seen and that it matters.
Regardless of the reason, spanking is an inherent power imbalance that requires one party to submit to the other. In this exchange, pain is being given by one party to the other who accepts that pain for whatever motives move them. I'm not sure how any spanking can even happen without 'submission' taking place, even if that submission does not extend past the spanking itself. I have noticed that some people fairly bristle at the notion of submission being involved and therefore kind of redefine the term so that they can say it is not happening. But that's just the modern world we live in and that trend is not in any way limited to spanking and submission.
Perhaps if someone dictates precisely what they want, control it utterly and sort of use the spanker as almost a service employee, I suppose you could say they aren't submitting but just consenting to receive pain, but even then.....the spanker is still kind of in the dominant position.
Books and essays have been written about this topic, so I'm not sure if a post reply can do it justice.
"Sense" of submission? Sure.
An actual full-time submissive in all things? No thanks.
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