It's been 18 years since I first started blogging. Most of my contemporaries have hung up their keyboards, but you, my dear friends, have soldiered on with me and made it possible for me to continue.
Thank you to all who visit here, either regularly or infrequently. As Bonnie once told me, "If you blog, they will come." So have slice of cake and celebrate my birthday and blogaversary with me.
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How do you feel about spanking parties? Most of your comments were flagged as spam by Blogger. I guess B*D*S*M triggers the spam filter, but don't worry. I recovered them, and here they are:
Bonnie: That's not really our vibe. While I am intrigued by the idea, Randy prefers to handle our spankings at home and in private.
Dan: I haven't attended one. For me, I think it would depend to a huge extent on the composition of the party. A general spanking party doesn't have much appeal for me, but mostly because my spanking interest is so focused on disciplinary spankings. If there were a "party" for Domestic Discipline couples, and preferably a small group (probably no more than 4-6 couples), I could be into it.
Wendel: A spanking party does not really spark interest. We like to keep it with us.
Barrel: We have never been to one. It would take some open and candid discussion about the rules, limits, do's and don'ts, but maybe. It would also depend on where it was (far away from home is better), size of the group (smaller is better) and maybe others sharing how it might work. Hmmm????
Donn: My
perspective is very similar to Dan's: If it was a small group of
wife-led DD couples, who were together simply to socialize, or to trade
information and techniques, or one husband had incurred penance with
several wives (who wanted witnesses), I would certainly attend.
Somewhat
similar, there are periodic "trade shows" of vendors of spanking (and
other BDSM) equipment, where there are often "equipment demonstration
suites" in a nearby hotel. Not exactly "parties," but there is often a
group of people engaged in various "test and demonstration" spankings.
I'd be up to visit and learn more.
Roz: We went to a BDSM event years ago out of curiosity. It was interesting seeing the people there, the goings on etc. There wasn't much spanking though. It was a one off. I don't think a spanking party would hold much appeal.
Norse Cavalier: I find the concept interesting, but there are none in Norway, and I don't like the thought of having to leave the country. There's BDSM parties, and I've attended a few, but it's not the same. But yeah, if time and money were no object, maybe.
Graham: OK, I'll be the outlier going against the grain. When I was younger and single, I went to several and they were all great fun. Once I took a girlfriend who also enjoyed it very much. There was ZERO pressure to do anything. The people were very friendly. It might have been even nicer if we had known some of the people beforehand. There were of course toys and things for sale, but only on the first night. While there were some public events, almost all the real action occurred behind closed doors from what I could tell. What I've related here was over 30 years ago, so I can't comment on the current climate.
Rosco: I don’t think so, but I do have fantasies about being spanked by the whole sorority or, better yet, the women’s tennis team in their locker room.
Prefectdt: No I have never been to a spanking party. I would like to, but not alone. If I could find a Top who wanted to go with me, I would, but being a single, male spankee at a party, unaccompanied, no thanks.
cleveland_Tom: Gone to 2 SCONY, (Spanking Club of New York), weekends in the Poconos, joined a Spanko interest group that held events at a local/amateur dungeon that meets for about a year, a group spun off from that Cleveland Tanners Society that held in home events for a few year, mostly couples, (which I wasn't at the time), kind of Pot Lucks with spanking. All were interesting, mostly great people. Fun.
Ronnie: I am intrigued by the idea, and would be interested in attending one, but only as a spectator.
Hermione: I am currently reading 18 Months in the Spanking Scene by Anna J Skye, and in it she describes spanking parties, although she never attends one. The parties she was told about seem very structured, and always end with a round of caning all the females present. That type of party would not appeal to me at all! I might like to be a fly on the wall at a party, but have no desire to be spanked in public.
A.J.: "Have you ever been to a spanking party?"
No. But sometimes I wish I had.
There was one near me and I contacted the hosts. Like Anonymous wrote, they were all so friendly and ZERO pressure. This one would actually invite pro spankers in to give lectures on the do's and don't's of spanking. I remember they had one who would fly in from Florida for the get-togethers.
But I did get access to their private chats which were a lot of fun - but little talk about spanking, surprisingly. Most were about life experience but with a hint of spanking.
One of my favs was a couple (spankos) about to buy a new house. They found one but the wife wanted to take one more look before committing. She gets with the realtor for an early AM tour. And - she brings along her 3-year old, full of life and curiosity, daughter.
They tour the house and come to the master bedroom. The 3-year old is a fun whirlwind who winds up crawling around on the floor of the master closet. After a minute or 2, mom and the agent go find her. They do, finding her kneeling on the floor of the closet where she had pushed aside some of the clothing on the rack and saw what was hidden behind.
"Look!! They must have horses!!" said the 3-year old.
Mom and agent look and see what the home owners thought would be hidden - another rack with paddles, straps, riding whips, and ...uh...leather "accessories." All of which YOU KNOW were for only purpose! Strictly!
Mom and agent can't talk! The now desperate agent finally tells the 3-year old, "Did you see the back yard? Maybe you could have a swing??"
Girl laughs and runs off.
Mom and agent follow. Going down the stairs the agent breaks the ice, "Kinkyyyy...!!!!"
"Yeah. Kinky," said the mom while thinking, "If you only knew...."
There was one other great story, one I will never forget.
Another story? Please do tell!
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This week we discussed BDSM and autism. Here's what you said:
Norse Cavalier: My local BDSM group has a LOT of autistic people in it - I'm one of them.
You
can also talk about the overlap between BDSMers, autistic people, and
board game players. At one point, autistic Doms were a majority of the
board of my local board game group (though this was not widely known to
the board game players). We make sure the board game group and the BDSM
group never have events on the same weekends, due to the massive
overlap.
Rosco: Hmm interesting. I’m nerdy and socially awkward, but I don’t think I’m on the spectrum.
Prefectdt: I got tested, for a lot of stuff, on the advice of a professional psychologist, that I was seeing at the time, in the 1990s. Autism was one of those things and I came up negative. So, just because you are into an aspect of BDSM, does not automatically mean that you are Autistic. I wonder if it is worth some Boffin's time to do a study to find out the percentages of Autistic and non-Autistic people in the community.
Roz: Very interesting. I guess it may make sense that the structure of BDSM would work for those on the spectrum.
Nana: I was tested for autism 4 years ago, did not have it, did get diagnosed with ADHD tho and there is a huge overlap in people with ADHD and people that are into BDSM as well, makes a lot of sense to me, as a good spanking is one of the few things that can shut up my brain.
Hermione: That was such an interesting discussion. I had no idea ofthe association, but it makes perfect sense. Thank you, Boru!
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Leave your response as a comment and once everyone has had a chance to reply, I will publish a summary of
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We're going out for a belated Valentine's Day lunch, so I found some food-related signs for your enjoyment.
Bon appetit!
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This week we discussed lopsided spankings, and here's what you said:
Bonnie: I really dislike an unbalanced spanking, so much so that I've asked Randy to even me up. He is delighted to grant such requests.
Graham: No interest here, fortunately.
Kiki: I'm with Bonnie. I can't stand when the spanking is unbalanced either.
Wendel: We did try paddling just one cheek. It was not satisfying giving or receiving so it has not happened since.
Roz: I too much prefer an even spanking. It does happen on the odd occasion though.
Norse Cavalier: I've wanted
to try that with a young lady - deliberately spank only one of her
cheeks, then go out to eat. She can squirm in her chair at the
restaurant, trying to get comfortable. Once we're done, we go back home
so that the other cheek can get some attention.
I've noticed that
I tend to spank the right cheek more than the left. The best way to
avoid it is to give some extra attention to the left cheek, to even it
out, and to rely on feedback from the naughty young lady. If one of her
cheeks hurts more than the other, she's not shy in telling me.
Ronnie: I don't like when a spanking is more one sided but it has happened on occasion.
Prefectdt: I hate being “Lop” spanked. Just watching a video of it happening to someone else is annoying. Where this seems to happen the most in an OTK situation, where the further buttock is easier to reach than the nearer buttock. It is often something that inexperienced spankers need to be warned about. Spankers, please learn to take a physical hint. When the Spankee is lifting one buttock higher than the other, that means that the buttock being lifted high needs more attention.
Rosco: I think this
happened more often initially. With paddles, straps and even riding
crops it’s pretty to provide an egalitarian spanking. A bit harder with
whips, unless the dominant partner is truly ambidextrous.
It’s been awhile, but when we’ve used switches I get wonderful welts, albeit only on the right buttock.
Barrel: Neither of us like lopsided color and marks. That's why she carefully inspects the results before we stop spankings and sessions. Before our recent sessions to prevent strokes landing in unintended areas, we mark the limits on my bottom with a pen. Then she is free to land any of the implements within the target, and usually balances the color, texture and markings evenly.
A.J.: I have NEVER spanked one of my lovely spanking GFs like that! It is always left-right-left-right. (Or the reverse.)
On
the receiving end, though, it did happen. My first spanking GF, after
a month or two of my spanking her so deliciously, out of the blue
announced "Your turn!" And I had to go OTK for my first ever otk
spanking.
And guess what she did? Yup.
I finally turned back and yelled at her : "Hey!! I have TWO cheeks!"
She paused, noticed, laughed, apologized. and then balanced her work out. Funny then.
Hermione: It happens sometimes with longer implements, such as the long wooden shoehorn. The impact lands on the left cheek more, and the right cheek gets only a whisper of a stroke.
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Do you ever put off doing something that you know has to be done? Our dear friend Bonnie experienced just such an affliction, but she was lucky. Her husband Randy helped her to overcome it. Read on:
The Price of Procrastination
I'm good about getting things done. My career as a journalist/writer taught me respect for deadlines. Finishing on time is the right thing to do for many good reasons. This belief lies at the very core of my being.
But some tasks I avoid. A while back, I mentioned to my ever vigilant husband, Randy, that I needed to make an appointment to see a certain grumpy doctor. He's a specialist who I visit periodically. At least I should, but I know I won't die if I put it off. But I could get a spanking.
Recently, Randy asked me whether I had made my appointment with Doctor Grumpy. "No, not yet," I replied. I was surprised he recalled my offhand comment from weeks before. But he told me that my health is very important. I suddenly realized that the health of my butt was rapidly dropping in importance.
So I got spanked with the paddle for procrastination. I told him that he wouldn't like this doctor either, but that didn't seem to help my case. He grabbed a solid hardwood paddle with an oval shaped head, sat in the center of the couch, and directed me down over his lap. I was face down and bottom up, positioned for a traditional corporal punishment. That's a tradition we uphold.
He raised my skirt and lifted the paddle. "Bon, you must learn not to procrastinate." He lectured a while longer, but my attention by then was on more immediate concerns.
The smooth blade of paddle impacted against my exposed skin. It hurt. It always hurts. I cringed in expectation of a follow-up swat. But he paused. For what seemed like an eternity. Am I still getting a spanking? I wondered.
I got a confusing answer when Randy reached over and grabbed the TV remote. As I awaited my inevitable destiny, he surfed through channels (as men do) until landing on a sports program. Satisfied with his choice, I smacked me again.
"Ow!" I exclaimed. I wasn't ready. I thought we were beginning in earnest. But no. He halted once more and just rubbed the wooden surface across my cheeks. He seemed to be paying more attention to his show than my scarcely blushed posterior.
After a third delayed swat, I recognized that he was teaching me a lesson about procrastination. This lesson was more way annoying than it was painful. I'd had enough.
"Are you going to spank me or what?" I can tell you his response was everything but "Or what." He whacked me good. Then he whacked me bad, pausing every so often to drive home his point. By the time he finished, my home fires were definitely alight.
After my punishment concluded, Randy surprised me again. He pulled a marker from his pocket and handed it to me along with the paddle. At his instruction, I wrote these words on the face of the paddle – "On [date] I was spanked for procrastination." Then I signed it. He displayed the paddle on the wall. He said it’s a better reminder than just a sore seat because it lasts longer.
I made the appointment the next day and I will see Doctor Grumpy on Tuesday. Fortunately, he won't be examining my bottom.
So did I learn anything? Yes, I did. I learned that my queries about getting spanked are always answered forcefully in the affirmative.
Thank you, Bonnie, for sharing that painful lesson with us.
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Have there been times when you just didn't feel like engaging in spanking? Do you postpone?
Wendel: Spankings are postponed when one or both of us are sick.
Bonnie: Yes, sometimes that occurs for any one of many reasons. We postpone, but the spanking always happens eventually.
Mija: Yes, and I could totally have done that - safe words are real and absolutel. However, what I've realized over the years that because this is about giving up control, the after effect of being spanked when I *don't* feel like it, of giving that control of telling my partner that I don't want to be spanked, that I'm scared, and his going ahead anyway is mind blowingly powerful. Not to be cliche, but there's something about not wanting it, but needing it/getting it anyway that goes somewhere really deep. Sorry for being so vague, but I've really written about this before.
Roz: Yes there have been times I have not wanted a spanking in the moment. Rick was very good at knowing whether it is a minor protest, in which case the spanking would happen or if there was more to it, in which case the spanking wouldn't happen.
Mary: My wife gives me a spanking once a month (First Friday after dinner). I suggested we try spanking once and she made it a permanent part of our now FLR relationship. I hate it but I know that she sends me up to our room at the appointed time and I do. I have asked her if this is permanent and she just answers "We'll see". Right now it is 36 hours later and my bottom is still sensitive.
Rosco: Generally
Irene and I know each other well enough to tell if it’s a good time
without asking, so it’s rare that a spanking wouldn’t take place when
suggested.
But we do have a code. If she asks if I need a
spanking and I say I don’t, that I don’t deserve one and I’ve been
obedient, it means please spank me. The more I protest the harder and
longer the spanking.
If I ask if she can do it later, it means now is not a good time. But that’s only happened a handful of times in 46 years.
Ronnie: Yes we have postponed spankings. It happens.
Graham: Of course. Very rare, but sometimes there may be other pressing matters unrelated to spanking that take precedence.
Prefectdt: There are times when a spanking does not sound so good to me. But I have the advantage, over most that come to chat here, in that I just do not go to be spanked. The exception to this is when a pay to play has been arranged sometime in advance and then on the day the mood is just not there. On these occasions I keep it to myself and go and play anyway. Just don't want to get a reputation as a last minute no show.
Hermione: We postpone when there's work to be done - snow shovelling or lawn mowing - that will leave one or both of us just too tired. If it's just that I'm not in the mood, we carry on regardless since, as Mija said, it's all about submission.
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Our good friend Jean Marie was inspired by a recent brunch to compose a song parody. She gave me permission to share it with you, and here it is:
The Sounds Opposite of Silence
By Jean Marie
Hello bedspread, my old friend
I’ve come to stare at you again
Because my new boyfriend wants me OTK
He’s going to make me rue this day
With a spankin’ that my butt will ne’er forget
It’ll still remain
After the bruises have faded
In restless dreams I stand alone
As skirt goes up and pants come down
“Neath the halo of a bedside lamp
My pussy grows both sticky and damp
Then my butt is pained with the flash of his spanking hand
More than I could stand
Man, I’ll be bruised forever
And in that naked light I saw
Ten thousand spankos, maybe more
People spanking with a sense of fun
Bottoms hoping it’ll ne’er be done
Kinksters writing poems in their lover’s flesh
Eloquent
Bruises on butts unfaded
“Ouch” cried I, “That hurts so much
Spankings get so hot to the touch
Hear my pleas that you might back-off
Read my signs, you brutish jack-off!”
But I feared my words like silent teardrops fell
Unheeded like my bruises
But then this Top, he stopped and prayed
To the altar that he claimed my pert butt had made
He worshipfully deified
The derriere he almost crucified
The Top prayed, “This butt is near perfect
It just needs some color, some heat…”
“Proceed,” I said, my other cheeks blushing
And the night was filled with the sounds opposite of silence
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Do you and your partner discuss spanking?
Bonnie: A casual
observer might think Randy and I should have long ago said everything
there is to be said on this subject. But we're still talking all the
time. Sometimes the subject is serious, but sometimes funny. Sometimes
it's logistical. Occasionally, it's just a sly aside slipped into an
otherwise vanilla topic. Or a joke.
The conversation can also be
non-verbal. A paddle strategically placed on the bed. A random swat
on my butt. A fashion choice meant to intrigue.
So, yes, our answer is yes.
Roz: Rick and I have always been able to talk about any subject. We share our thoughts and feelings on issues and our desires. That includes spanking. Sometimes a serious conversation, sometimes designed to titillate or just fun. Importantly I think, we have been able to discuss what works and doesn't work for each of us spanking wise. When we had an active dynamic the topic would come up fairly frequently and would be raised by either of us.
Wendel: Spanking comes up pretty much every day. It is just a fun thing we like doing and talking about.
Barrel: Yes, we talk about the subject regularly and openly. As we are using spanking to support behavioral change, she brings up the subject weekly or so. We are both desiring for the frequency and duration to increase, and we have agreed either of us are encouraged to bring the subject up.
Rosco: Yes. I’ll
distinguish between talking about spanking during our role play, usually
sexual, encounters, and when we’re talking about those times. During
those sessions I’ll complain and beg not to be spanked which is our code
for more spanking.
Outside of those times, Irene will tell me
I’m due for a spanking and I’ll joke about it. If I ever say I don’t
need one, again it’s code that I do want one. If I say “later”, it’s
serious - now is not the right time.
We do talk about implements
and severity. I bought her a vicious wooden paddle to make it easier on
the arthritis in her hands - but it’s often too intense for my bottom. I
like it to hurt, as does she, but only to a point. I’ve also brought
home switches that leave welts which don’t bother me but they do bother
her.
Recently she got carried away and whacked my testicles with
the tip of a whip that took me, and thus her, out of our blissful zone.
She felt bad about it, but I reminded her that subs get over these
things quickly but, as I’ve read, sometimes they never get over these things
quickly, such as the wrong kind of verbal insult.
Prefectdt: I don't think that this particular is for me. I am, genuinely, looking forward to reading other peoples comments about this.
At least your comment wasn't identified as spam by Blogger this time :)
Dan: We talk about it fairly often. Not all the time, but probably once every two or three weeks. I initiate most of those discussions, but not all.
Hermione: Not serious discussions, but once in a while Ron will make a joking reference to it.
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After we talked about our favourite spanking movies last week, our good friend A.J. asked me how today's list compared with the one readers contributed to ten years ago. Here are my readers' favourite movies back then:
McLintock
Secretary
Of Freaks and Men
Ups and Downs of a Handyman
Les Memoirs de Monsieur Leon - Maitre Fesseur
The Father of the Bride
9 1/2 Weeks
Love Camp #7
Community
Meet Me in St. Louis
Spencer's Mountain
Tank
As you can see, there are a few movies that are all-time favourites!
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Are your eyes closed or open during a spanking?
Roz: I tend to fluctuate between eyes open and closed. I think I tend to close them as the spanking intensifies.
Prefectdt: I have never thought about this one before. But as I have a great memory file, in my head, of floorings and carpets, that I was looking at whilst being spanked, It can only be concluded that the eyes were always open.
Jean Marie: All of my senses are heightened/sharpened during a good spanking. I never feel more sexual than when I'm getting a really good, hard spanking, not even when I share sexual intercourse. So I try to keep my eyes open to register everything, along with that exquisite percussive sound, and the many smells, chief among them my aroused scent, contrasting with my cotton-dry mouth. I love having my vision prismed with a kaliadescope of rainbow colors as my eyes fill with tears. I can vividly remember closing my eyes with an alarmed blink when the pain grows to be too much, as when a heavy wooden paddle is utilize on my sensitized tushy, and then closing them tight as the paddling reaches its crescendo, and fireworks go off behind my closed eyes.
All of those sense memories are now a thing of the past. I don't think I'll ever have my bottom punished properly again, due to a series of unfortunate events.
Welcome back, Jean Marie!
A.J.: "...my vision prismed with a kaliadescope of rainbow colors as my eyes fill with tears"
That's a great line!
When you are being spanked, are your eyes open or closed?
Open. (Now ask if I'm smiling, gritting my teeth, or pursing my lips.)
Have you tried the opposite?
Hmmmmm. Opposite of what?
If you are a spanker, what have you observed in your partner?
Well, from her position OTK, not her eyes. Besides, there is this wonderful bare bottom inches away that I need to pink up.
Barrel: I always keep my eyes open. If the spanking is for maintenance or a prelude to intimacy, my wife usually dresses in lingerie or hosiery. As I am normally OTK and face down, I look at her feet. If we are having an extended session, I place all the implements she wants on a table in front of the bench where I am restrained. I do that so I can see what implement she starts with and know what she is using next when she makes a change. Although I can almost always tell what she is using, discerning between the two delrin canes is difficult.
Rosco: Closed
mostly. Usually these days I’m kneeling on a pouf and lying over the
edge of the bed with a pillow supporting my chin and neck looking
straight down so I can savor the experience. I like to know when the
next swat is coming but sometimes I have to guess a bit.
Sometimes
I’ll peek, either directly or via the mirror but I really prefer to lie
still and feel the sensation while absorbing whatever concurrent
lecture Irene may be delivering.
Sometimes Irene will blindfold me (and maybe tie me up) so my eyes are effectively closed anyway.
Part of our routine is that she’ll spank and lecture me, put me down
for a nap (sometimes tied up blindfolded) then return for more
discipline an hour later before other conjugal activities ensue.
Jack: My wife/mommy will during the spanking have me looked at her, she will ask me why I was a naughty little boy, I have looked at her and pleaded for her to stop I'll be a good little boy. Doesn't do any good. At the times that my mother-in-law is present, I will close my eyes and turn my head away, those spankings are the worse because of being seen by someone and my kicking, squirming and pleading, I'm reminded that is how naughty little boys react to being spanked.
Hermione: I would have thought closed was preferable, but I realized that I keep my eyes open, although there's nothing much to look at other than the pattern on the bedspread.
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Welcome, one and all, to our regular weekend brunch, when we have an
opportunity to discuss a spanking-related subject. I've been battling Yahoo (my email provider) and Google all week. Yahoo has inexplicably demanded that I use two-step verification to log on. Alas, the phone number it wanted to send me a text to is my landline number. Hours later, I managed to add my cell number by using a laptop where I was already logged on to Yahoo.
That was for my vanilla Yahoo mail. It was different for my blogging email, since the only way I have to verify is with a Gmail account. Google wouldn't let me simply log on to Gmail, though. It insisted I use my current Google account and create a new email. No way! I solved this problem by using another browser where I wasn't logged on to Google. Success at last, and I also added my cell number to my blogging email, so no worries in the future.
Whew! That left me exhausted, so today's topic is
pretty simple.
When you are being spanked, are your
eyes open or closed? Have you tried the opposite? If you are a spanker,
what have you observed in your partner?
Please leave your reply as a comment, and once everyone has contributed, I will publish a summary of your responses.
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What's your favourite movie spanking scene?
Roz: I don't know about spanking movies as such, but there have been various clips in films or old tv shows. Some of them tweak the interest others just lame or funny.
Rosco: Even though I’m not a fan of John Wayne, McClintock has a great spanking scene at the end - I’m a big fan of petticoats as well.
I
thought the scene in Weeds (TV, not movies) where the drug dealer
spanked Mary Louise Parker in the car was pretty great - she thought so
too.
Of course I’m a male submissive. I’ve had some powerful
fantasies of being spanked in 60s TV shows - by Mary Ann and Ginger on
Gilligan’s Island and Billie Jo, Bobby Jo and Betty Jo on Petticoat
Junction.
There was also a scene in Dogville when a bratty kid begs Nicole Kidman for a spanking. I liked the scene but not the movie.
Wolfman: My choice is 50 Shades Darker. The reason is a romance with our female lead not depicted as being mentally deficient, In fact she comes to embrace her submissive life without sacrificing her acquired leadership skills. She remains charmingly feminine without becoming dumbed down. All in all a refreshing change.
Prefectdt: It was an F/f production from Sting In The Tail (SIT) spanking video productions. I no longer have it, as it was on a VHS tape, and is a long time gone. Unfortunately, the name of the film is also gone from the memory. But it was the first proper spanking film, in watchable quality, that I could find to buy, when I was living in The Netherlands. It was important to me, as I could show it to other people and point out the main differences between Spanko play and mainstream BDSM play.
KDPierre: I would say
"Secretary". There are things about it I didn't like, but compared to
the other possibilities, it's better by far than say, "Exit to Eden" or
"50 Shades". I think I like the main character's unapologetic
acceptance of who she is by the end. I don't like the implication in
most spank-themed movies (including Secretary) that the characters are
the way they are due to some personal damage or flaw.
My
favorite kinky scene in an otherwise non kinky movie is "Antonia and
Jane" where they play a trivia game with spanks for wrong answers.
Dan: A Dangerous
Method has a very graphic spanking scene that it also the best I can
think of for depicting what a hard spanking (or, in that case,
strapping) is like. And, unlike some other common examples, it's in a
truly good movie.
Given that I'm a "bottom" who gets hard
disciplinary spankings, I can't help but be attracted to the school
paddling scene in Dead Poets Society, though more specifically the
student's pained attempts to walk and sit afterwards.
Although
it's not a movie, Season 4 of Fargo opens with a long series of school
paddlings. There are two spanking scenes in Weeds, both of which are
pretty hot.
All of those are, of course, movies or series that
have only a scene or two with spanking. Among those where spanking, BDSM
and D/s are more central to the plot, I'd probably have to agree with
KD regarding "Secretary", though like 50 Shades, it associates power
differential relationships with having psychological issues in a way
that I don't like.
Bonnie: I've not
seen a mainstream film that didn't depict spankos as some combination of
defective, weird, cruel. victimized, fantasized, or confused. I wish
someone would make a film that shows a normal couple expressing their
mutual love and respect in a consensual manner. I dunno. Maybe that
doesn't sell like the fake stuff.
We do enjoy specialty spanking content.
Wendel: Professor Marston & The Wonder Women has my favorite spanking scene. It is an
OK movie, but I will just forward to the scene. Just wish the spankee’s
bottom was bared.
Anon: McClintock
and Blue Hawaii are the best scenes. Actresses admitted all scenes real,
partly as costumes were not conducive to fake scenes.
Hermione: The movie Tank has a good scene. Although you don't see the belt come in contact with the bare bottom, The camera concentrates on the young woman's facial expression.
I also love the scene in Monty Python and the Holy Grail where all the ladies ask for spankings.
A.J.: Roz hinted at it: Movies that have a spanking scene, or movies about spanking with a story written about them? (I'm eliminating the companies that only make spanking videos and clips like those from (the now defunct) companies like Nu-West.)
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