Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for March 29

Let's discuss lasting effects from a spanking.

Rosco: I’m usually given three or four spankings over the course of an hour or so - each maybe twenty swats with a paddle, leather strap or whip. During this time I descend into another world where little else exists other than my discipline and my disciplinarian. After I’ve been punished sufficiently, sexual activity ensues.

After catching our breath, we’ll usually have dinner. My bottom will be tender, but it’s 24 hours later that it will often be hard to sit.

We don’t use a switch often, but when we do the welts will last a few days and taken a shower brings a delicious reminder. I should go look for a good switch. 

Cleveland_Tom: I was never in a relation where I got a lot of daily spankings. Closest was the time is one I've shared where we had a spanko group party at our "friendly neighborhood dungeon." A women showed up with a hankering to try the other side of the paddle, and I "won" out between the 4 unattached male bottoms in the "slips in a hat" drawing. After a hand spanking over eight oldies songs, we "won" with the reddest bottom prize, (she warned me that her friends said she had a heavy hand). After that I convinced her to try out the all the implements in her toy bag. I wanted to try the spanking blocks they had at the dungeon and we continued the fun, though it went to another level when a male top lent her a heavy wooden paddle. She was able to create some real bruises with that. I checked them out when I got home. I was a little freaked when I started having purple piss while the bruising went down. Still, a very fond memory.

Wendel: We spank often. I have spanked the Misses multiple days in a row and sometime in the morning and then in the evening. On a few occasions the Misses has whipped my butt every night for a week. Hands and wrists hurt from giving the spankings. The bottoms remain sore and marks linger longer. Call us weird but all of this reminds us of the love we have for each other.

Roz: For us there has always been quite a gap between spankings so I always used to love any lasting marks/redness and discomfort as a reminder.

 

Prefectdt: The two short-term effects I get from spanking are usually a high on the day, and what I still call a crash, but what most people describe as sub drop for most of the time the day after a spanking. More long term comes a period that can be from 5 to 9 days after the spanking, when physically I can still have swelling and discomfort from the spanking. Along with that comes an ability to think with surprising simplicity and clarity. This is when I can best think through problems in my life and decide on the best actions to take. In the longest term, I feel more balanced, mentally, to get on with my life, if I am getting spankings at least on a semiregular basis, rather than the imbalance that I suffer from when going through long periods without spanking.

 

Jack: Spankings in this home last for sometime, meaning after the spanking is over. My wife/mommy uses a bath brush when as she states been a naughty little boy. Some spankings might be short, but the after affect is the same as the longer ones. 

 

Dan: Physically, the lasting effects have diminished a lot over the years. In earlier days, I would often get bruising and marking that would last for several days. Now, I get a lot of discoloration that probably qualifies as bruising, but it's not very visible.

Emotionally, it depends a lot on what the spanking was for and all the circumstances around it. Often, when it's over, it's over, without a lot of lasting feelings about it. Other times, especially if the spanking happens in the middle of the day, I'm left with an increased sense of awareness about the fact that I just got spanked and underlying reason for it. 

 

Barrel: Most of our regular spankings are a prelude to intimacy. But that doesn't mean that there are not some effects. My wife likes to use a hair brush with a back that is like a really heavy corduroy texture. When she spanks hard with that brush, I get thin, long blood blisters that will last 4 or 5 days. She also has a heavy, hard plastic paddle that will impart some good welts. Even when she uses her favorite strap or riding crop, the welts and marks fade within a day or two.
I always feel a sense of stress relief where any tension has been cleansed away. With a heavier session, the endorphin rush is unmistakable.

 

Hermione: Because we have been spanking for many years, I don't have many physical after effects. I a session goes on for a longer time, my bottom stays red for a day or two. Since spanking is always followed by intimacy, I often become aroused again after a few hours, thinking of the spanking that we engaged in.    

 

A.J.: "What types of lasting effects do you get from a regular spanking?  How long do these last? If you are the spanker, what are the lasting effects for your spankee?"

"Lasting."  Meaning...? Physically...or mentally?

Unless asked, I'm pretty much a mild spanker; and the same is expected when I'm on the receiving end.  A nice pink tush is, to borrow a phrase, "...sufficient to complete the act."  So physically lasting, to me, is a couple hours.

Mentally, I'm with Perfectdt and the euphoria from the event!  And I don't want that to end.

The real "lasting effects" are the memories of the wonderful women who let me spank them, and who spanked me in return.  Without exception they were all wonderful, I remember every one of them to this day and, most of all - wish I could meet with them again!

Yeah, corny; and probably not what you were expecting.   

  

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #636

Welcome to our weekly spanko brunch on a very significant day in America. If you have time, please join us in our latest topic, contributed by our good friend and regular bruncher, Barrel.

What types of lasting effects do you get from a regular spanking?  How long do these last? If you are the spanker, what are the lasting effects for your spankee?

Please leave your response as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion after everyone has had a chance to contribute. 

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for March 22

Aren't fantasies wonderful? Here are yours:

Luvinhub: I have in the past thought about having someone else spank me. When we were actively in a WLM and on occasion my wife would speak to other women around the WLM topic I thought/fantasized about my wife leading/teaching another woman and using me as the spankee to teach the other woman how to truly deliver a spanking. 

Jack: A dream that I have is dating and the person is not my wife, it is the mother that is a friend of my wife. In this dream the mother has rules for her daughter and one is when to be home, not past 10pm. We broke this rule several times and arriving late the mother told her daughter to get to her bedroom and wait for her. Young man, she said sternly to me, my daughter is going to get a spanking, you can leave anytime or get a spanking. I said nothing, the mother was soon giving her daughter a spanking. The bedroom door was open and I saw my girlfriend over her mother's lap, her bottom bared and the hairbrush landing hard. I went to the front room, and can not explain, I took off all my clothes and stood there. When the mother saw me, she smiled and said, saved me some time. Over her lap I went and that hairbrush landed fast and hard and I was soon kicking and pleading. When I woke up the next morning my bottom felt like it had been spanked, my wife looked at me, I said nothing. The dream felt real. 

Prefectdt: I do not really have a regular partner, but I do fantasize a lot about getting spanked by strong-willed, female characters that I see on TV or in the movies. So many, that if I told you about them all, this comment would be as long as a book. There have been a lot over the years. The earliest character that I can remember getting a fantasy spanking from was Colonel Wilma Deering, in the 1980s version of Buck Rogers in the 25th Century. Lip gloss, Lycra, a high military rank and she was a space fighter pilot. How could a teenage submissive resist? Most recently I have had Hetty Woodstone, from the American version of Ghosts, playing on my mind. But there must have been hundreds in between. I fantasize about the characters and not the actors who play them. As to details of the spanking and sexual content in the fantasy, that varies greatly from character to character. And a Gentleman Sub would not go into individual details. :) 

Barrel: My wife has a female exercise instructor who has been married several times. She works out with the class, is extremely fit and runs the class like a drill sergeant. Plus she can party like a rock star, having hung out at our house during a Christmas party for the class until midnight, drinking wine. I fantasize about my wife hinting I was a jerk during the week and she had plans to deal with me. The subsequent discussions led to the instructor accompanying my wife home and announcing an immediate session. The rest goes as usual except that the instructor won't back off with the caning and I am punished way past normal.

KDPierre: Those familiar with my old defunct blog may recall my very real conversation with my mother over my lifestyle, and her not just politely accepting it all, but enthusiastically endorsing it! it blew me away and was a very powerful and humbling experience. Unfortunately, this conversation preceded a decline in her health and ultimate passing. I often wonder, given how she reacted to what I told her, what might have transpired between us had she lived longer. I have shared these feelings with both my wife and stepdaughter, and both said they believed that had my mother gone on for several more healthy years, that if the circumstances were right, that she might well have taken me in hand and delivered her own discipline as she had in my very early years. I think I would have liked that very much and truly wish it could have happened.

In subsequent years I wrote a trilogy of a fictionalized take on an adult son coming to his elderly mother for a return to their earlier days of discipline and authority as a kind of therapeutic alternative to this actually happening. 

Anon: Well, I'm married, and my Wife periodically checks my computer, and knows about your website, Hermione, so, I'd better post this "anonymously!"

My most common fantasy is really imagining what some real women would be like as spankers. It can happen anywhere (grocery store, mall, etc.), but is most common outdoors on the tennis courts or racquetball courts.

I'm a great admirer of the female posterior and legs. Out "on the courts" you'll see a lot, LOT of women with highly developed legs and butts, swinging hard with their rackets. I can't help to imagine what almost every one of these women would be like if she was actually swinging a paddle or strap: Doing her full windup with her torso, swinger it (racket) back, then letting loose with a powerful, full-body stroke and lots of "follow-through!" Over and OVER again!

Considering the percentage of women who spank (one way or another), I always wonder which of these athletes actually take "their game" home to their hubbies! 

Rosco: Most of my fantasies are based on past encounters which, with enough imagination, I’ve turned into detailed fantasies. (I’ve a few fantasies involving celebrities and female tennis players, but these are the exception.)

One example involves running into Susan at a party. I hadn’t seen her in a few years, but had always found her attractive. She was dressed up more than most. Fixed hair, lipstick, black leather boots and a blouse unbuttoned just enough to see a bit of her black lace bra. (This part is all true.)

We spoke briefly but I was distracted by others for all the wrong reasons.

The fantasy begins “You look great, I love your hair, your lipstick and everything you’re wearing from your shiny black boots up to you lacy black bra.

Thank you she replies, but you’re really not supposed to comment on a girl’s lingerie.

I replied I wondered if she was wearing matching panties.

Susan turned stern. You are a naughty boy. You need to learn some manners. I should put you over my knee and give you a spanking.

I asked if that was a threat or a promise.

She said it was a promise and further she promised me that when she was done I wouldn’t be so impudent.

We left the party forthwith.

I’ve constructed conversations like this oodles of times, tweaking them occasionally as time passes. They almost all start with a real encounter with someone I knew but never had any real interaction with. 

I’ll add a couple of more fantasies and imagined conversations. I delivered a successful spanking to an eager recipient at a young age (I was more interested in receiving than giving but it’s easier to initiate than to ask). At few years later I was quickly seduced by an older schoolmate who said she’d try “anything” but she quickly shamed me for asking about spanking. I didn’t raise the issue again until I was 23 and had gained a little confidence. Until that time I missed a few opportunities when the subject came up - here are two with the real beginning plus how I could have and should have responded.

On my 20th birthday I was walking home from the bus stop with college friends - Bianca, Margaret and her boyfriend James. Margaret opined they should give me a birthday spanking. James scoffed who’s going to hold him down - obviously not wanting his girlfriend to have any part in the idea. I should have said if Bianca (who was single) wanted to spank me, I wouldn’t resist.

But the most obvious missed opportunity was hooking up with a former casual college girlfriend Mary a year after we graduated. We’d gone to different schools in nearby towns, and enjoyed each other but it had always been sporadic due to the distance. I’d gone to her apartment and was drinking wine with Mary and her roommates Suzanne and Julie. Julie had a short dress on with pink lace pantries and I couldn’t stop looking. Suzanne noticed and announced I needed a spanking. Mary brushed off the idea by saying I’d probably like it. This all happened. I could have responded in a million ways and maybe gotten a real spanking, but I flinched and said nothing. I think about this one all the time even though it’s been almost 50 years.

I played a fair amount of tennis during my formative years and had plenty of opportunities to ogle. A couple of courts were elevated a few feet off the ground - during tournaments one could sit in a chair behind the baseline and get great views of firm round bottoms - especially as the received serve.

In my fantasies I am caught for such ogling, and soundly punished. Sometimes it goes beyond a mere spanking.

Thanks to Hermione for posting this question and hosting this blog.  

Hermione: My fantasy always involves a stern relative giving naughty schoolgirl (me) a good, bare-bottom spanking. The situations vary, but the end result is always the same. 

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #635

Welcome, dear readers, to our first brunch in spring. I had thought that winter was truly over, but yesterday was spent shovelling out from a last-minute snow dump. The robins must be quite puzzled!

Our good friend Rosco has come up with an excellent, multi-faceted brunch topic, for those of you who fantasize about spanking with someone other that your regular partner. 

Is it someone you know, a celebrity or just some mysterious stranger?
Do you imagine a whole scene, including behavior leading up to a spanking, or just the spanking itself?
Is there conversation involved? If so how much and how specific is it?
Does your fantasy take place in a particular place?
Do you try, in your mind, to make it realistic at all? (i.e. not a sexualized activity between consenting adults)  

Please leave your response as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion after everyone has had a chance to contribute.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for March 15

What has been your experience with bratting?

KDPierre: We always felt that manipulative bratting or intentional provocation was simply the worst thing a sub could do if engaged in a DD relationship, which we have. DD is tricky enough without the mixed signals that sends off. Instead, we just recognized that sometimes a sub just wants to be spanked, and we have ways of conveying it without bratting.

Now, all that said, if we're just playing around, and being silly, and "fun" spanking threats are already flying around, does some playful bratting occur? Absolutely! It's cute and funny. But it has to fall within a very well understood setting. Fortunately, we are able to navigate those two different worlds pretty easily. 

Prefectdt: I love to Brat during a spanking play time, in order to get more or more severe whups. But I will only Brat, physically or verbally, with the permission and pre-negotiations about my actions. Bratting is a lot like spanking itself, it is only fun if all of the participating parties are consenting.

Barrel: I don't intentionally brat, I exhibit enough attitudes and behaviors that justify a spanking and occasionally a session. Our problem is that she doesn't connect poor behavior frequently enough to call for a spanking. Usually, as is the case now, I have to let her know I think we need a session. We work to find times that work, and start the build up, which involves discussion on being a jerk. This guides her into the right mindset to really thrash me.

Rosco: Yes, but only in a fun way. Sometimes I peek at Irene through the keyhole when she’s dressing for example. Sometimes I touch her when I’m not supposed to ( but never when it’s totally unwelcome).

Roz: I have bratted and teased in play which often, but it not always resulted in a spanking. I have also bratted once or twice outside of play which brought mixed results. Thinking back now I think doing so mostly just leads to confusion for both parties.

Wendel: We are not looking for submission or discipline. Spankings for us are meant to be fun. Obviously we will do things that provoke a sore bottom. The Misses will be bad and say things like “I was naughty” or “I guess I deserve a spanking”. Her favorite thing to do is spill or spray water on me. The whipping that follows really turns her on. 

FL: Only in the context of playing, never out of the blue during "normal life".

Graham: Only when it is clearly in fun, as several have described above. Enough unintentional things occur that lead to spankings, and I can always as for a stress relief spanking.

Hermione: As others have said, only in fun. Spankings occur when Ron decides, and nothing I say or do alters that.     

  

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #634

Welcome back to another brunch, where we discuss all things spanking. 

Do you or your partner ever intentionally act in a naughty way in order to provoke a spanking? What is the usual result of this bratting? 

As usual, leave your response as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion after everyone has had a chance to contribute.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for March 8

What does your posterior enjoy besides being spanked? As it happens, quite a lot!

CEM: Biting, grabbing, kissing, punching, kicking, slapping (last 3 playful), molesting, groping, staring, massaging, biting (again), and then spanking and then...starting all over and...notice a pattern here? 

KDPierre: Oh, dear. Is there any bottom-oriented play we DON'T do? LOL Of course the ones that are more devotional are directed 'one way' while the more..... shall we say 'invasive' ones are directed 'one way' in the opposite direction. ;-) 

Roz: Caressing, rubbing, tickling and squeezing mainly. Along with grabbing and light pats.

Luvinhub: As I have shared before this is all in the past of a WLM and in hopes one day to return. But for us I was figged a couple of times for punishment. Many times required to wear a buttplug and a handful of times I was penetrated with a dildo or strapon. 

FL: I love having mine spanked and I absolutely adore women's bottoms and love fondling and kissing them. Have no desire for anything penetrative though. Some things are exit only. 

Rosco: Well golly.

One of my earliest desires (other than spanking) was to put my hand up the skirt of the right girl and feel her bottom over a pair of sexy nylon panties. Thiss happened after school one day when I was least expecting it.

When I raised the idea of spanking my now wife said she’d try it, but she’d do the spanking. At one point she started moving her fingers toward my rectum. Is she really going to do this, I thought? She did.

And after my spanking is complete, Irene will usually mount me for what I call reverse cowgirl cunnilingus. My mouth, nose and tongue you know where and my eyes gazing on her beautiful round bottom very close up at least until she sits down and all goes dark (she always showers right beforehand).

And I touch her bottom at least a dozen times a day. 

Wendel: I love to caress, kiss, lick and bite the Misses’ cheeks. The Misses likes to put on a short skirt and lay across my lap when we are watching TV. I will start caressing the legs and work up her skirt to her fanny. The skirt comes up and the panties come down. Then I will fondle her bottom for the rest of the show. 

Prefectdt: It has not happened in a very long time, but I have been pegged several times. I do not at all like the physical sensation of doing this, but that is a big part of it. Giving of myself purely to please another, for the joy of their enjoyment rather than my own. Doing this is the only time that I feel truly and totally submissive.

Bonnie: Yesiree... If it involves my bottom, my husband is all in. Spankings are the centerpiece, but there's plenty more. 

A.J.: I can't believe I'm seeing this question!

For the past few months I have thought about this, but never got around to bringing it up to Hermione.  Hermione's topics are on clothing, implements, feelings, places, whatever.  

But(t) what about the one, indispensable, component in TTWD??????  

I give you:

   "What a unique device the human tush.
    An architectural marvel!
    One of a kind.  
    Actually, two of a kind.
    Designed to support our weight for a lifetime of sitting...
    It also has the subtlety to do the samba.
    And when attached to certain members of the female species at a time when light summer dresses are worn, 
    ...can cause some of us to drive our cars straight up a lamppost." - B. H. Pierce, MD, Korea, 1952.

Said in song and poetry for the ages!  Dr. Pierce wasn't wrong.  Although he left out spanking.

The "architectural marvel " The tush. The bottom. The derrière. The back side of my (our) front. The badunkadonk. The twin moons.  Of either sex. Giving or receiving.  Without it?  This would be a blog about gardening and recipes...?  With unattended-to pale bottoms.  Sad.

Hermione: Ron is very much an ass man, as you may have guessed. He loves to caress and fondle my bottom. We also enjoy anal sex just as much as, if not more than, the other way(s). 

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #633

Welcome back, one and all, to our weekend spanko discussion. Most spankos are attracted to bottoms, and it's a well-known fact that the buttocks are an erogenous area. Bottoms were meant to be spanked and seem to invite it, but there are many other ways of giving attention to this highly sensitive area. 

Does your bottom play sometimes extend beyond spanking? What other kinds of  bottom-related activities do you enjoy giving or receiving?

Leave your reply as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish a summary of our discussion.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

The Beat Goes On

It's been 18 years since I first started blogging. Most of my contemporaries have hung up their keyboards, but you, my dear friends, have soldiered on with me and made it possible for me to continue.

Thank you to all who visit here, either regularly or infrequently. As Bonnie once told me, "If you blog, they will come." So have slice of cake and celebrate my birthday and blogaversary with me.

 

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for March 2

How do you feel about spanking parties? Most of your comments were flagged as spam by Blogger. I guess B*D*S*M triggers the spam filter, but don't worry. I recovered them, and here they are:

Bonnie: That's not really our vibe. While I am intrigued by the idea, Randy prefers to handle our spankings at home and in private.

Dan: I haven't attended one. For me, I think it would depend to a huge extent on the composition of the party. A general spanking party doesn't have much appeal for me, but mostly because my spanking interest is so focused on disciplinary spankings. If there were a "party" for Domestic Discipline couples, and preferably a small group (probably no more than 4-6 couples), I could be into it.

Wendel: A spanking party does not really spark interest. We like to keep it with us. 

Barrel: We have never been to one. It would take some open and candid discussion about the rules, limits, do's and don'ts, but maybe. It would also depend on where it was (far away from home is better), size of the group (smaller is better) and maybe others sharing how it might work. Hmmm???? 

Donn: My perspective is very similar to Dan's: If it was a small group of wife-led DD couples, who were together simply to socialize, or to trade information and techniques, or one husband had incurred penance with several wives (who wanted witnesses), I would certainly attend.

Somewhat similar, there are periodic "trade shows" of vendors of spanking (and other BDSM) equipment, where there are often "equipment demonstration suites" in a nearby hotel. Not exactly "parties," but there is often a group of people engaged in various "test and demonstration" spankings. I'd be up to visit and learn more.

Roz: We went to a BDSM event years ago out of curiosity. It was interesting seeing the people there, the goings on etc. There wasn't much spanking though. It was a one off. I don't think a spanking party would hold much appeal.

Norse Cavalier: I find the concept interesting, but there are none in Norway, and I don't like the thought of having to leave the country. There's BDSM parties, and I've attended a few, but it's not the same. But yeah, if time and money were no object, maybe.

Graham: OK, I'll be the outlier going against the grain. When I was younger and single, I went to several and they were all great fun. Once I took a girlfriend who also enjoyed it very much. There was ZERO pressure to do anything. The people were very friendly. It might have been even nicer if we had known some of the people beforehand. There were of course toys and things for sale, but only on the first night. While there were some public events, almost all the real action occurred behind closed doors from what I could tell. What I've related here was over 30 years ago, so I can't comment on the current climate. 

Rosco: I don’t think so, but I do have fantasies about being spanked by the whole sorority or, better yet, the women’s tennis team in their locker room.

Prefectdt: No I have never been to a spanking party. I would like to, but not alone. If I could find a Top who wanted to go with me, I would, but being a single, male spankee at a party, unaccompanied, no thanks.

cleveland_Tom: Gone to 2 SCONY, (Spanking Club of New York), weekends in the Poconos, joined a Spanko interest group that held events at a local/amateur dungeon that meets for about a year, a group spun off from that Cleveland Tanners Society that held in home events for a few year, mostly couples, (which I wasn't at the time), kind of Pot Lucks with spanking. All were interesting, mostly great people. Fun.

Ronnie: I am intrigued by the idea, and would be interested in attending one, but only as a spectator. 

Hermione: I am currently reading 18 Months in the Spanking Scene by Anna J Skye, and in it she describes spanking parties, although she never attends one. The parties she was told about seem very structured, and always end with a round of caning all the females present. That type of party would not appeal to me at all! I might like to be a fly on the wall at a party, but have no desire to be spanked in public.

A.J.: "Have you ever been to a spanking party?"

No.  But sometimes I wish I had.  

There was one near me and I contacted the hosts.  Like Anonymous wrote, they were all so friendly and ZERO pressure.  This one would actually invite pro spankers in to give lectures on the do's and don't's of spanking.  I remember they had one who would fly in from Florida for the get-togethers.

But I did get access to their private chats which were a lot of fun - but little talk about spanking, surprisingly.  Most were about life experience but with a hint of spanking.

One of my favs was a couple (spankos) about to buy a new house.  They found one but the wife wanted to take one more look before committing.  She gets with the realtor for an early AM tour.  And - she brings along her 3-year old, full of life and curiosity, daughter.

They tour the house and come to the master bedroom.  The 3-year old is a fun whirlwind who winds up crawling around on the floor of the master closet. After a minute or 2, mom and the agent go find her.  They do, finding her kneeling on the floor of the closet where she had pushed aside some of the clothing on the rack and saw what was hidden behind.

"Look!! They must have horses!!" said the 3-year old.

Mom and agent look and see what the home owners thought would be hidden - another rack with paddles, straps, riding whips, and ...uh...leather "accessories." All of which YOU KNOW were for only purpose!  Strictly!

Mom and agent can't talk!  The now desperate agent finally tells the 3-year old, "Did you see the back yard?  Maybe you could have a swing??"

Girl laughs and runs off.

Mom and agent follow.  Going down the stairs the agent breaks the ice, "Kinkyyyy...!!!!"
"Yeah. Kinky," said the mom while thinking, "If you only knew...."

There was one other great story, one I will never forget.  

Another story? Please do tell! 

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #632

Welcome back once more, dear friends, to another spanko brunch. February is nearly over and that means Spring is just around the corner for those of us in the northern hemisphere. Canada geese are flying overhead in V formation as I type this. 

This might be a quiet weekend for many of us, but for others there is indoor fun to be had. That brings us to today's discussion topic.

Have you ever been to a spanking party? If so, what were your impressions? If not, and if time and money were no object, would you consider attending one?

Leave your response as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion on Monday.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for February 22

This week we discussed BDSM and autism. Here's what you said:

Norse Cavalier: My local BDSM group has a LOT of autistic people in it - I'm one of them.

You can also talk about the overlap between BDSMers, autistic people, and board game players. At one point, autistic Doms were a majority of the board of my local board game group (though this was not widely known to the board game players). We make sure the board game group and the BDSM group never have events on the same weekends, due to the massive overlap.

Rosco: Hmm interesting. I’m nerdy and socially awkward, but I don’t think I’m on the spectrum.

Prefectdt: I got tested, for a lot of stuff, on the advice of a professional psychologist, that I was seeing at the time, in the 1990s. Autism was one of those things and I came up negative. So, just because you are into an aspect of BDSM, does not automatically mean that you are Autistic. I wonder if it is worth some Boffin's time to do a study to find out the percentages of Autistic and non-Autistic people in the community.

Roz: Very interesting. I guess it may make sense that the structure of BDSM would work for those on the spectrum.

Nana: I was tested for autism 4 years ago, did not have it, did get diagnosed with ADHD tho and there is a huge overlap in people with ADHD and people that are into BDSM as well, makes a lot of sense to me, as a good spanking is one of the few things that can shut up my brain.

Hermione: That was such an interesting discussion. I had no idea ofthe association, but it makes perfect sense. Thank you, Boru!

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #631

Welcome, everyone, to a very special weekend spanko brunch. Our good friend Boru alerted me to an interesting correlation between people interested in spanking and those on the autistic spectrum. He said, "I saw the meme on an autism group and the resultant posts, there were lots of them, agreed this to be true about spankos. One person even suggested that it may not be mere correlation." I did a search and here's the AI summary: 

Studies suggest a higher prevalence of BDSM interest among autistic individuals compared to the general population

, with research indicating that BDSM's structured, explicit communication and sensory-focused nature align with common autistic traits. Key research highlights that kink environments can provide a safe space for autistic individuals to navigate social interaction and sensory exploration. 

So what do you think? Leave your response as a comment and once everyone has had a chance to reply, I will publish a summary of your thoughts. If you are interested in checking yourself, here's a quick self-test. 

 

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Going Out to Eat

We're going out for a belated Valentine's Day lunch, so I found some food-related signs for your enjoyment.

 

Bon appetit!

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for February 15

This week we discussed lopsided spankings, and here's what you said:

Bonnie: I really dislike an unbalanced spanking, so much so that I've asked Randy to even me up. He is delighted to grant such requests.

Graham: No interest here, fortunately.

Kiki: I'm with Bonnie. I can't stand when the spanking is unbalanced either.

Wendel: We did try paddling just one cheek. It was not satisfying giving or receiving so it has not happened since. 

Roz: I too much prefer an even spanking. It does happen on the odd occasion though.

Norse Cavalier: I've wanted to try that with a young lady - deliberately spank only one of her cheeks, then go out to eat. She can squirm in her chair at the restaurant, trying to get comfortable. Once we're done, we go back home so that the other cheek can get some attention.

I've noticed that I tend to spank the right cheek more than the left. The best way to avoid it is to give some extra attention to the left cheek, to even it out, and to rely on feedback from the naughty young lady. If one of her cheeks hurts more than the other, she's not shy in telling me.

Ronnie: I don't like when a spanking is more one sided but it has happened on occasion. 

Prefectdt: I hate being “Lop” spanked. Just watching a video of it happening to someone else is annoying. Where this seems to happen the most in an OTK situation, where the further buttock is easier to reach than the nearer buttock. It is often something that inexperienced spankers need to be warned about. Spankers, please learn to take a physical hint. When the Spankee is lifting one buttock higher than the other, that means that the buttock being lifted high needs more attention.

Rosco: I think this happened more often initially. With paddles, straps and even riding crops it’s pretty to provide an egalitarian spanking. A bit harder with whips, unless the dominant partner is truly ambidextrous.

It’s been awhile, but when we’ve used switches I get wonderful welts, albeit only on the right buttock.

Barrel: Neither of us like lopsided color and marks. That's why she carefully inspects the results before we stop spankings and sessions. Before our recent sessions to prevent strokes landing in unintended areas, we mark the limits on my bottom with a pen. Then she is free to land any of the implements within the target, and usually balances the color, texture and markings evenly.

A.J.: I have NEVER spanked one of my lovely spanking GFs like that! It is always left-right-left-right. (Or the reverse.)

On the receiving end, though, it did happen. My first spanking GF, after a month or two of my spanking her so deliciously, out of the blue announced "Your turn!" And I had to go OTK for my first ever otk spanking.

And guess what she did? Yup.

I finally turned back and yelled at her : "Hey!! I have TWO cheeks!"

She paused, noticed, laughed, apologized. and then balanced her work out. Funny then. 

Hermione: It happens sometimes with longer implements, such as the long wooden shoehorn. The impact lands on the left cheek more, and the right cheek gets only a whisper of a stroke.

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #630

Welcome, fellow brunchers, to our weekly get-together. It's Valentine's Day, and the shops are decked out in various shades of pink and red.  Today's topic, suggested by an anonymous reader, explores the subject of those differing shades of redness.

Do you ever deliver or receive a lop-sided spanking, when one cheek receives far more attention than the other? Spankers, do you do it intentionally? If not, how can you avoid it? Spankees, does it bother you or do you accept it as part of the overall experience?

Leave your response as a comment and once everyone has had a chance to reply, I will publish a summary of our discussion.

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The Price of Procrastination

Do you ever put off doing something that you know has to be done? Our dear friend Bonnie experienced just such an affliction, but she was lucky. Her husband Randy helped her to overcome it. Read on:

The Price of Procrastination

I'm good about getting things done.  My career as a journalist/writer taught me respect for deadlines.  Finishing on time is the right thing to do for many good reasons.  This belief lies at the very core of my being.

But some tasks I avoid.  A while back, I mentioned to my ever vigilant husband, Randy, that I needed to make an appointment to see a certain grumpy doctor.  He's a specialist who I visit periodically.  At least I should, but I know I won't die if I put it off.   But I could get a spanking.

Recently, Randy asked me whether I had made my appointment with Doctor Grumpy.  "No, not yet," I replied.  I was surprised he recalled my offhand comment from weeks before.  But he told me that my health is very important.  I suddenly realized that the health of my butt was rapidly dropping in importance.

So I got spanked with the paddle for procrastination.  I told him that he wouldn't like this doctor either, but that didn't seem to help my case.  He grabbed a solid hardwood paddle with an oval shaped head, sat in the center of the couch, and directed me down over his lap.  I was face down and bottom up, positioned for a traditional corporal punishment.  That's a tradition we uphold.

He raised my skirt and lifted the paddle.  "Bon, you must learn not to procrastinate."  He lectured a while longer, but my attention by then was on more immediate concerns.

The smooth blade of paddle impacted against my exposed skin.  It hurt.  It always hurts.  I cringed in expectation of a follow-up swat.  But he paused.  For what seemed like an eternity.  Am I still getting a spanking?  I wondered.

I got a confusing answer when Randy reached over and grabbed the TV remote.  As I awaited my inevitable destiny, he surfed through channels (as men do) until landing on a sports program.  Satisfied with his choice, I smacked me again.

"Ow!" I exclaimed.  I wasn't ready.  I thought we were beginning in earnest.  But no.  He halted once more and just rubbed the wooden surface across my cheeks.  He seemed to be paying more attention to his show than my scarcely blushed posterior.

After a third delayed swat, I recognized that he was teaching me a lesson about procrastination.    This lesson was more way annoying than it was painful.  I'd had enough.

"Are you going to spank me or what?"  I can tell you his response was everything but "Or what."  He whacked me good.  Then he whacked me bad, pausing every so often to drive home his point.  By the time he finished, my home fires were definitely alight.

After my punishment concluded, Randy surprised me again.  He pulled a marker from his pocket and handed it to me along with the paddle.  At his instruction, I wrote these words on the face of the paddle – "On [date] I was spanked for procrastination."  Then I signed it.  He displayed the paddle on the wall.  He said it’s a better reminder than just a sore seat because it lasts longer.

I made the appointment the next day and I will see Doctor Grumpy on Tuesday.  Fortunately, he won't be examining my bottom.

So did I learn anything?  Yes, I did.  I learned that my queries about getting spanked are always answered forcefully in the affirmative. 

 Thank you, Bonnie, for sharing that painful lesson with us.

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for February 8

Have there been times when you just didn't feel like engaging in spanking? Do you postpone?

Wendel: Spankings are postponed when one or both of us are sick.

Bonnie: Yes, sometimes that occurs for any one of many reasons. We postpone, but the spanking always happens eventually.

Mija: Yes, and I could totally have done that - safe words are real and absolutel. However, what I've realized over the years that because this is about giving up control, the after effect of being spanked when I *don't* feel like it, of giving that control of telling my partner that I don't want to be spanked, that I'm scared, and his going ahead anyway is mind blowingly powerful. Not to be cliche, but there's something about not wanting it, but needing it/getting it anyway that goes somewhere really deep. Sorry for being so vague, but I've really written about this before.

Roz: Yes there have been times I have not wanted a spanking in the moment. Rick was very good at knowing whether it is a minor protest, in which case the spanking would happen or if there was more to it, in which case the spanking wouldn't happen.    

Mary: My wife gives me a spanking once a month (First Friday after dinner). I suggested we try spanking once and she made it a permanent part of our now FLR relationship. I hate it but I know that she sends me up to our room at the appointed time and I do. I have asked her if this is permanent and she just answers "We'll see". Right now it is 36 hours later and my bottom is still sensitive.

Rosco: Generally Irene and I know each other well enough to tell if it’s a good time without asking, so it’s rare that a spanking wouldn’t take place when suggested.

But we do have a code. If she asks if I need a spanking and I say I don’t, that I don’t deserve one and I’ve been obedient, it means please spank me. The more I protest the harder and longer the spanking.

If I ask if she can do it later, it means now is not a good time. But that’s only happened a handful of times in 46 years.

Ronnie: Yes we have postponed spankings. It happens. 

Graham: Of course. Very rare, but sometimes there may be other pressing matters unrelated to spanking that take precedence.

Prefectdt: There are times when a spanking does not sound so good to me. But I have the advantage, over most that come to chat here, in that I just do not go to be spanked. The exception to this is when a pay to play has been arranged sometime in advance and then on the day the mood is just not there. On these occasions I keep it to myself and go and play anyway. Just don't want to get a reputation as a last minute no show.

Hermione: We postpone when there's work to be done - snow shovelling or lawn mowing - that will leave one or both of us just too tired. If it's just that I'm not in the mood, we carry on regardless since, as Mija said, it's all about submission.

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #629

Good day all! It's a fine day today, regardless of the weather, because we are all together again to talk about spanking. We are all enthusiasts in one way or another, but sometimes our enthusiasm isn't quite up to its usual level.

Has there ever been a time when you just didn't feel like participating in a spanking? Did you make your feelings known to your partner? If so, did the spanking happen anyway, or was it postponed?

Leave your reply as a comment and I will publish a summary of our discussion when the weekend is over.

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The Sounds Opposite of Silence

Our good friend Jean Marie was inspired by a recent brunch to compose a song parody. She gave me permission to share it with you, and here it is:

The Sounds Opposite of Silence
By Jean Marie

Hello bedspread, my old friend
I’ve come to stare at you again
Because my new boyfriend wants me OTK
He’s going to make me rue this day
With a spankin’ that my butt will ne’er forget
It’ll still remain
After the bruises have faded

In restless dreams I stand alone
As skirt goes up and pants come down
“Neath the halo of a bedside lamp
My pussy grows both sticky and damp
Then my butt is pained with the flash of his spanking hand
More than I could stand
Man, I’ll be bruised forever

And in that naked light I saw
Ten thousand spankos, maybe more
People spanking with a sense of fun
Bottoms hoping it’ll ne’er be done
Kinksters writing poems in their lover’s flesh
Eloquent
Bruises on butts unfaded

“Ouch” cried I, “That hurts so much
Spankings get so hot to the touch
Hear my pleas that you might back-off
Read my signs, you brutish jack-off!”
But I feared my words like silent teardrops fell
Unheeded like my bruises

But then this Top, he stopped and prayed
To the altar that he claimed my pert butt had made
He worshipfully deified 
The derriere he almost crucified

The Top prayed, “This butt is near perfect
It just needs some color, some heat…”
“Proceed,” I said, my other cheeks blushing 
And the night was filled with the sounds opposite of silence

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for February 1

Do you and your partner discuss spanking?

Bonnie: A casual observer might think Randy and I should have long ago said everything there is to be said on this subject. But we're still talking all the time. Sometimes the subject is serious, but sometimes funny. Sometimes it's logistical. Occasionally, it's just a sly aside slipped into an otherwise vanilla topic. Or a joke.

The conversation can also be non-verbal. A paddle strategically placed on the bed. A random swat on my butt. A fashion choice meant to intrigue.

So, yes, our answer is yes.

Roz: Rick and I have always been able to talk about any subject. We share our thoughts and feelings on issues and our desires. That includes spanking. Sometimes a serious conversation, sometimes designed to titillate or just fun. Importantly I think, we have been able to discuss what works and doesn't work for each of us spanking wise. When we had an active dynamic the topic would come up fairly frequently and would be raised by either of us.

Wendel: Spanking comes up pretty much every day. It is just a fun thing we like doing and talking about. 

Barrel: Yes, we talk about the subject regularly and openly. As we are using spanking to support behavioral change, she brings up the subject weekly or so. We are both desiring for the frequency and duration to increase, and we have agreed either of us are encouraged to bring the subject up.

Rosco: Yes. I’ll distinguish between talking about spanking during our role play, usually sexual, encounters, and when we’re talking about those times. During those sessions I’ll complain and beg not to be spanked which is our code for more spanking.

Outside of those times, Irene will tell me I’m due for a spanking and I’ll joke about it. If I ever say I don’t need one, again it’s code that I do want one. If I say “later”, it’s serious - now is not the right time.

We do talk about implements and severity. I bought her a vicious wooden paddle to make it easier on the arthritis in her hands - but it’s often too intense for my bottom. I like it to hurt, as does she, but only to a point. I’ve also brought home switches that leave welts which don’t bother me but they do bother her.

Recently she got carried away and whacked my testicles with the tip of a whip that took me, and thus her, out of our blissful zone. She felt bad about it, but I reminded her that subs get over these things quickly but, as I’ve read, sometimes they never get over these things quickly, such as the wrong kind of verbal insult.   

Prefectdt: I don't think that this particular is for me. I am, genuinely, looking forward to reading other peoples comments about this.

At least your comment wasn't identified as spam by Blogger this time :)

Dan: We talk about it fairly often. Not all the time, but probably once every two or three weeks. I initiate most of those discussions, but not all.

Hermione: Not serious discussions, but once in a while Ron will make a joking reference to it. 

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