Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for March 22

Aren't fantasies wonderful? Here are yours:

Luvinhub: I have in the past thought about having someone else spank me. When we were actively in a WLM and on occasion my wife would speak to other women around the WLM topic I thought/fantasized about my wife leading/teaching another woman and using me as the spankee to teach the other woman how to truly deliver a spanking. 

Jack: A dream that I have is dating and the person is not my wife, it is the mother that is a friend of my wife. In this dream the mother has rules for her daughter and one is when to be home, not past 10pm. We broke this rule several times and arriving late the mother told her daughter to get to her bedroom and wait for her. Young man, she said sternly to me, my daughter is going to get a spanking, you can leave anytime or get a spanking. I said nothing, the mother was soon giving her daughter a spanking. The bedroom door was open and I saw my girlfriend over her mother's lap, her bottom bared and the hairbrush landing hard. I went to the front room, and can not explain, I took off all my clothes and stood there. When the mother saw me, she smiled and said, saved me some time. Over her lap I went and that hairbrush landed fast and hard and I was soon kicking and pleading. When I woke up the next morning my bottom felt like it had been spanked, my wife looked at me, I said nothing. The dream felt real. 

Prefectdt: I do not really have a regular partner, but I do fantasize a lot about getting spanked by strong-willed, female characters that I see on TV or in the movies. So many, that if I told you about them all, this comment would be as long as a book. There have been a lot over the years. The earliest character that I can remember getting a fantasy spanking from was Colonel Wilma Deering, in the 1980s version of Buck Rogers in the 25th Century. Lip gloss, Lycra, a high military rank and she was a space fighter pilot. How could a teenage submissive resist? Most recently I have had Hetty Woodstone, from the American version of Ghosts, playing on my mind. But there must have been hundreds in between. I fantasize about the characters and not the actors who play them. As to details of the spanking and sexual content in the fantasy, that varies greatly from character to character. And a Gentleman Sub would not go into individual details. :) 

Barrel: My wife has a female exercise instructor who has been married several times. She works out with the class, is extremely fit and runs the class like a drill sergeant. Plus she can party like a rock star, having hung out at our house during a Christmas party for the class until midnight, drinking wine. I fantasize about my wife hinting I was a jerk during the week and she had plans to deal with me. The subsequent discussions led to the instructor accompanying my wife home and announcing an immediate session. The rest goes as usual except that the instructor won't back off with the caning and I am punished way past normal.

KDPierre: Those familiar with my old defunct blog may recall my very real conversation with my mother over my lifestyle, and her not just politely accepting it all, but enthusiastically endorsing it! it blew me away and was a very powerful and humbling experience. Unfortunately, this conversation preceded a decline in her health and ultimate passing. I often wonder, given how she reacted to what I told her, what might have transpired between us had she lived longer. I have shared these feelings with both my wife and stepdaughter, and both said they believed that had my mother gone on for several more healthy years, that if the circumstances were right, that she might well have taken me in hand and delivered her own discipline as she had in my very early years. I think I would have liked that very much and truly wish it could have happened.

In subsequent years I wrote a trilogy of a fictionalized take on an adult son coming to his elderly mother for a return to their earlier days of discipline and authority as a kind of therapeutic alternative to this actually happening. 

Anon: Well, I'm married, and my Wife periodically checks my computer, and knows about your website, Hermione, so, I'd better post this "anonymously!"

My most common fantasy is really imagining what some real women would be like as spankers. It can happen anywhere (grocery store, mall, etc.), but is most common outdoors on the tennis courts or racquetball courts.

I'm a great admirer of the female posterior and legs. Out "on the courts" you'll see a lot, LOT of women with highly developed legs and butts, swinging hard with their rackets. I can't help to imagine what almost every one of these women would be like if she was actually swinging a paddle or strap: Doing her full windup with her torso, swinger it (racket) back, then letting loose with a powerful, full-body stroke and lots of "follow-through!" Over and OVER again!

Considering the percentage of women who spank (one way or another), I always wonder which of these athletes actually take "their game" home to their hubbies! 

Rosco: Most of my fantasies are based on past encounters which, with enough imagination, I’ve turned into detailed fantasies. (I’ve a few fantasies involving celebrities and female tennis players, but these are the exception.)

One example involves running into Susan at a party. I hadn’t seen her in a few years, but had always found her attractive. She was dressed up more than most. Fixed hair, lipstick, black leather boots and a blouse unbuttoned just enough to see a bit of her black lace bra. (This part is all true.)

We spoke briefly but I was distracted by others for all the wrong reasons.

The fantasy begins “You look great, I love your hair, your lipstick and everything you’re wearing from your shiny black boots up to you lacy black bra.

Thank you she replies, but you’re really not supposed to comment on a girl’s lingerie.

I replied I wondered if she was wearing matching panties.

Susan turned stern. You are a naughty boy. You need to learn some manners. I should put you over my knee and give you a spanking.

I asked if that was a threat or a promise.

She said it was a promise and further she promised me that when she was done I wouldn’t be so impudent.

We left the party forthwith.

I’ve constructed conversations like this oodles of times, tweaking them occasionally as time passes. They almost all start with a real encounter with someone I knew but never had any real interaction with. 

I’ll add a couple of more fantasies and imagined conversations. I delivered a successful spanking to an eager recipient at a young age (I was more interested in receiving than giving but it’s easier to initiate than to ask). At few years later I was quickly seduced by an older schoolmate who said she’d try “anything” but she quickly shamed me for asking about spanking. I didn’t raise the issue again until I was 23 and had gained a little confidence. Until that time I missed a few opportunities when the subject came up - here are two with the real beginning plus how I could have and should have responded.

On my 20th birthday I was walking home from the bus stop with college friends - Bianca, Margaret and her boyfriend James. Margaret opined they should give me a birthday spanking. James scoffed who’s going to hold him down - obviously not wanting his girlfriend to have any part in the idea. I should have said if Bianca (who was single) wanted to spank me, I wouldn’t resist.

But the most obvious missed opportunity was hooking up with a former casual college girlfriend Mary a year after we graduated. We’d gone to different schools in nearby towns, and enjoyed each other but it had always been sporadic due to the distance. I’d gone to her apartment and was drinking wine with Mary and her roommates Suzanne and Julie. Julie had a short dress on with pink lace pantries and I couldn’t stop looking. Suzanne noticed and announced I needed a spanking. Mary brushed off the idea by saying I’d probably like it. This all happened. I could have responded in a million ways and maybe gotten a real spanking, but I flinched and said nothing. I think about this one all the time even though it’s been almost 50 years.

Thanks to Hermione for posting this question and hosting this blog.  

Hermione: My fantasy always involves a stern relative giving naughty schoolgirl (me) a good, bare-bottom spanking. The situations vary, but the end result is always the same. 

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #635

Welcome, dear readers, to our first brunch in spring. I had thought that winter was truly over, but yesterday was spent shovelling out from a last-minute snow dump. The robins must be quite puzzled!

Our good friend Rosco has come up with an excellent, multi-faceted brunch topic, for those of you who fantasize about spanking with someone other that your regular partner. 

Is it someone you know, a celebrity or just some mysterious stranger?
Do you imagine a whole scene, including behavior leading up to a spanking, or just the spanking itself?
Is there conversation involved? If so how much and how specific is it?
Does your fantasy take place in a particular place?
Do you try, in your mind, to make it realistic at all? (i.e. not a sexualized activity between consenting adults)  

Please leave your response as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion after everyone has had a chance to contribute.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for March 15

What has been your experience with bratting?

KDPierre: We always felt that manipulative bratting or intentional provocation was simply the worst thing a sub could do if engaged in a DD relationship, which we have. DD is tricky enough without the mixed signals that sends off. Instead, we just recognized that sometimes a sub just wants to be spanked, and we have ways of conveying it without bratting.

Now, all that said, if we're just playing around, and being silly, and "fun" spanking threats are already flying around, does some playful bratting occur? Absolutely! It's cute and funny. But it has to fall within a very well understood setting. Fortunately, we are able to navigate those two different worlds pretty easily. 

Prefectdt: I love to Brat during a spanking play time, in order to get more or more severe whups. But I will only Brat, physically or verbally, with the permission and pre-negotiations about my actions. Bratting is a lot like spanking itself, it is only fun if all of the participating parties are consenting.

Barrel: I don't intentionally brat, I exhibit enough attitudes and behaviors that justify a spanking and occasionally a session. Our problem is that she doesn't connect poor behavior frequently enough to call for a spanking. Usually, as is the case now, I have to let her know I think we need a session. We work to find times that work, and start the build up, which involves discussion on being a jerk. This guides her into the right mindset to really thrash me.

Rosco: Yes, but only in a fun way. Sometimes I peek at Irene through the keyhole when she’s dressing for example. Sometimes I touch her when I’m not supposed to ( but never when it’s totally unwelcome).

Roz: I have bratted and teased in play which often, but it not always resulted in a spanking. I have also bratted once or twice outside of play which brought mixed results. Thinking back now I think doing so mostly just leads to confusion for both parties.

Wendel: We are not looking for submission or discipline. Spankings for us are meant to be fun. Obviously we will do things that provoke a sore bottom. The Misses will be bad and say things like “I was naughty” or “I guess I deserve a spanking”. Her favorite thing to do is spill or spray water on me. The whipping that follows really turns her on. 

FL: Only in the context of playing, never out of the blue during "normal life".

Graham: Only when it is clearly in fun, as several have described above. Enough unintentional things occur that lead to spankings, and I can always as for a stress relief spanking.

Hermione: As others have said, only in fun. Spankings occur when Ron decides, and nothing I say or do alters that.     

  

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #634

Welcome back to another brunch, where we discuss all things spanking. 

Do you or your partner ever intentionally act in a naughty way in order to provoke a spanking? What is the usual result of this bratting? 

As usual, leave your response as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion after everyone has had a chance to contribute.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for March 8

What does your posterior enjoy besides being spanked? As it happens, quite a lot!

CEM: Biting, grabbing, kissing, punching, kicking, slapping (last 3 playful), molesting, groping, staring, massaging, biting (again), and then spanking and then...starting all over and...notice a pattern here? 

KDPierre: Oh, dear. Is there any bottom-oriented play we DON'T do? LOL Of course the ones that are more devotional are directed 'one way' while the more..... shall we say 'invasive' ones are directed 'one way' in the opposite direction. ;-) 

Roz: Caressing, rubbing, tickling and squeezing mainly. Along with grabbing and light pats.

Luvinhub: As I have shared before this is all in the past of a WLM and in hopes one day to return. But for us I was figged a couple of times for punishment. Many times required to wear a buttplug and a handful of times I was penetrated with a dildo or strapon. 

FL: I love having mine spanked and I absolutely adore women's bottoms and love fondling and kissing them. Have no desire for anything penetrative though. Some things are exit only. 

Rosco: Well golly.

One of my earliest desires (other than spanking) was to put my hand up the skirt of the right girl and feel her bottom over a pair of sexy nylon panties. Thiss happened after school one day when I was least expecting it.

When I raised the idea of spanking my now wife said she’d try it, but she’d do the spanking. At one point she started moving her fingers toward my rectum. Is she really going to do this, I thought? She did.

And after my spanking is complete, Irene will usually mount me for what I call reverse cowgirl cunnilingus. My mouth, nose and tongue you know where and my eyes gazing on her beautiful round bottom very close up at least until she sits down and all goes dark (she always showers right beforehand).

And I touch her bottom at least a dozen times a day. 

Wendel: I love to caress, kiss, lick and bite the Misses’ cheeks. The Misses likes to put on a short skirt and lay across my lap when we are watching TV. I will start caressing the legs and work up her skirt to her fanny. The skirt comes up and the panties come down. Then I will fondle her bottom for the rest of the show. 

Prefectdt: It has not happened in a very long time, but I have been pegged several times. I do not at all like the physical sensation of doing this, but that is a big part of it. Giving of myself purely to please another, for the joy of their enjoyment rather than my own. Doing this is the only time that I feel truly and totally submissive.

Bonnie: Yesiree... If it involves my bottom, my husband is all in. Spankings are the centerpiece, but there's plenty more. 

A.J.: I can't believe I'm seeing this question!

For the past few months I have thought about this, but never got around to bringing it up to Hermione.  Hermione's topics are on clothing, implements, feelings, places, whatever.  

But(t) what about the one, indispensable, component in TTWD??????  

I give you:

   "What a unique device the human tush.
    An architectural marvel!
    One of a kind.  
    Actually, two of a kind.
    Designed to support our weight for a lifetime of sitting...
    It also has the subtlety to do the samba.
    And when attached to certain members of the female species at a time when light summer dresses are worn, 
    ...can cause some of us to drive our cars straight up a lamppost." - B. H. Pierce, MD, Korea, 1952.

Said in song and poetry for the ages!  Dr. Pierce wasn't wrong.  Although he left out spanking.

The "architectural marvel " The tush. The bottom. The derrière. The back side of my (our) front. The badunkadonk. The twin moons.  Of either sex. Giving or receiving.  Without it?  This would be a blog about gardening and recipes...?  With unattended-to pale bottoms.  Sad.

Hermione: Ron is very much an ass man, as you may have guessed. He loves to caress and fondle my bottom. We also enjoy anal sex just as much as, if not more than, the other way(s). 

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #633

Welcome back, one and all, to our weekend spanko discussion. Most spankos are attracted to bottoms, and it's a well-known fact that the buttocks are an erogenous area. Bottoms were meant to be spanked and seem to invite it, but there are many other ways of giving attention to this highly sensitive area. 

Does your bottom play sometimes extend beyond spanking? What other kinds of  bottom-related activities do you enjoy giving or receiving?

Leave your reply as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish a summary of our discussion.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

The Beat Goes On

It's been 18 years since I first started blogging. Most of my contemporaries have hung up their keyboards, but you, my dear friends, have soldiered on with me and made it possible for me to continue.

Thank you to all who visit here, either regularly or infrequently. As Bonnie once told me, "If you blog, they will come." So have slice of cake and celebrate my birthday and blogaversary with me.

 

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for March 2

How do you feel about spanking parties? Most of your comments were flagged as spam by Blogger. I guess B*D*S*M triggers the spam filter, but don't worry. I recovered them, and here they are:

Bonnie: That's not really our vibe. While I am intrigued by the idea, Randy prefers to handle our spankings at home and in private.

Dan: I haven't attended one. For me, I think it would depend to a huge extent on the composition of the party. A general spanking party doesn't have much appeal for me, but mostly because my spanking interest is so focused on disciplinary spankings. If there were a "party" for Domestic Discipline couples, and preferably a small group (probably no more than 4-6 couples), I could be into it.

Wendel: A spanking party does not really spark interest. We like to keep it with us. 

Barrel: We have never been to one. It would take some open and candid discussion about the rules, limits, do's and don'ts, but maybe. It would also depend on where it was (far away from home is better), size of the group (smaller is better) and maybe others sharing how it might work. Hmmm???? 

Donn: My perspective is very similar to Dan's: If it was a small group of wife-led DD couples, who were together simply to socialize, or to trade information and techniques, or one husband had incurred penance with several wives (who wanted witnesses), I would certainly attend.

Somewhat similar, there are periodic "trade shows" of vendors of spanking (and other BDSM) equipment, where there are often "equipment demonstration suites" in a nearby hotel. Not exactly "parties," but there is often a group of people engaged in various "test and demonstration" spankings. I'd be up to visit and learn more.

Roz: We went to a BDSM event years ago out of curiosity. It was interesting seeing the people there, the goings on etc. There wasn't much spanking though. It was a one off. I don't think a spanking party would hold much appeal.

Norse Cavalier: I find the concept interesting, but there are none in Norway, and I don't like the thought of having to leave the country. There's BDSM parties, and I've attended a few, but it's not the same. But yeah, if time and money were no object, maybe.

Graham: OK, I'll be the outlier going against the grain. When I was younger and single, I went to several and they were all great fun. Once I took a girlfriend who also enjoyed it very much. There was ZERO pressure to do anything. The people were very friendly. It might have been even nicer if we had known some of the people beforehand. There were of course toys and things for sale, but only on the first night. While there were some public events, almost all the real action occurred behind closed doors from what I could tell. What I've related here was over 30 years ago, so I can't comment on the current climate. 

Rosco: I don’t think so, but I do have fantasies about being spanked by the whole sorority or, better yet, the women’s tennis team in their locker room.

Prefectdt: No I have never been to a spanking party. I would like to, but not alone. If I could find a Top who wanted to go with me, I would, but being a single, male spankee at a party, unaccompanied, no thanks.

cleveland_Tom: Gone to 2 SCONY, (Spanking Club of New York), weekends in the Poconos, joined a Spanko interest group that held events at a local/amateur dungeon that meets for about a year, a group spun off from that Cleveland Tanners Society that held in home events for a few year, mostly couples, (which I wasn't at the time), kind of Pot Lucks with spanking. All were interesting, mostly great people. Fun.

Ronnie: I am intrigued by the idea, and would be interested in attending one, but only as a spectator. 

Hermione: I am currently reading 18 Months in the Spanking Scene by Anna J Skye, and in it she describes spanking parties, although she never attends one. The parties she was told about seem very structured, and always end with a round of caning all the females present. That type of party would not appeal to me at all! I might like to be a fly on the wall at a party, but have no desire to be spanked in public.

A.J.: "Have you ever been to a spanking party?"

No.  But sometimes I wish I had.  

There was one near me and I contacted the hosts.  Like Anonymous wrote, they were all so friendly and ZERO pressure.  This one would actually invite pro spankers in to give lectures on the do's and don't's of spanking.  I remember they had one who would fly in from Florida for the get-togethers.

But I did get access to their private chats which were a lot of fun - but little talk about spanking, surprisingly.  Most were about life experience but with a hint of spanking.

One of my favs was a couple (spankos) about to buy a new house.  They found one but the wife wanted to take one more look before committing.  She gets with the realtor for an early AM tour.  And - she brings along her 3-year old, full of life and curiosity, daughter.

They tour the house and come to the master bedroom.  The 3-year old is a fun whirlwind who winds up crawling around on the floor of the master closet. After a minute or 2, mom and the agent go find her.  They do, finding her kneeling on the floor of the closet where she had pushed aside some of the clothing on the rack and saw what was hidden behind.

"Look!! They must have horses!!" said the 3-year old.

Mom and agent look and see what the home owners thought would be hidden - another rack with paddles, straps, riding whips, and ...uh...leather "accessories." All of which YOU KNOW were for only purpose!  Strictly!

Mom and agent can't talk!  The now desperate agent finally tells the 3-year old, "Did you see the back yard?  Maybe you could have a swing??"

Girl laughs and runs off.

Mom and agent follow.  Going down the stairs the agent breaks the ice, "Kinkyyyy...!!!!"
"Yeah. Kinky," said the mom while thinking, "If you only knew...."

There was one other great story, one I will never forget.  

Another story? Please do tell! 

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #632

Welcome back once more, dear friends, to another spanko brunch. February is nearly over and that means Spring is just around the corner for those of us in the northern hemisphere. Canada geese are flying overhead in V formation as I type this. 

This might be a quiet weekend for many of us, but for others there is indoor fun to be had. That brings us to today's discussion topic.

Have you ever been to a spanking party? If so, what were your impressions? If not, and if time and money were no object, would you consider attending one?

Leave your response as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion on Monday.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine