For those of you in the US, tax time has come and gone. We in Canada have another week and a half before our deadline, so Ron and I will be busy getting our forms together and hoping our tax software will cooperate.
Our good friend Bonnie suggested this week's topic, which might provide some incentive for not procrastinating with those taxes.
Do you or your partner have hard limits in terms of spanking implements? Are there some that are too extreme to be used?
Please leave your response as a comment below. Once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish an edited summary of our conversation.
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I always refuse to use any implement which may crack skin. Redness rocks, bruising and handprints or brush prints are fine. Breaking through the skin level is a hard will not do.
We don't have discussed hard limits but we had a heavy rubber paddle that bruised me badly and I quietly disposed of it...
Sure.
Irene likes the satisfaction of being able to deliver a good whack. Nice I bought a carpet beater but it was too stiff and hurt way too much. Once in a while I cut switches - they’re delicious but you gotta get em right.
Intense but not severe.
She’s overdone it a few times, but only a few - and sometimes she misses the sweet spot and whacks my testicles hard or a whip wraps around to the far hipbone. I like it to hurt but there are limits.
Rosco
I retired the lexan paddle we had, and probably will retire the cane. Everything else we've tried seems good by me. I really don't like serious pain. And like sting rather than thud. Have returned things just because they were thuddy. We use wooden implements less often than leather ones, since I like leather better on most days. And since my vanilla partner would have a cow if he left marks on me, he doesn't. I am pink or red after a spanking, but if a mark looks like it's starting to appear, he adjusts his use of the implement so that doesn't happen.
We haven't really discussed hard limits when it comes to implements, but are on the same page that we wouldn't anything extreme, such as whips etc. I would like to add canes.
Hugs
Roz
When dating my wife to be used a hairbrush, was always available, large, wanted to insure I would think before acting like a naughty little boy. When we got married my mother-in-law as a wedding present gave us or should I say my wife a bath brush. The long handle she said allows her to apply it firmly. Now when my wife/mommy applies the hairbrush I'm kicking, squirming, pleading and what she likes is me dancing and rubbing afterwards prior to wall facing time. Jack
Rubber straps. All of our spankings are disciplinary and meant to hurt a lot, but those showed me that, even within our spanking niche, there is such a thing as too much. They also had a tendency to break skin, which was a big issue for my wife. Also, one of them smelled like an old tire. So, the rubber straps all ended up in the dumpster.
Over time we've just sort of mutually gravitated to what works best for us, with some implements being eventually retired, others kept for special times, and still others given hallowed status, but I can't recall anything that was a "hard limit".
Pretty much "hands on." Maybe a small strap/belt if the hand starts to hurt.
I'm romantic that way.....
A.J.
Just saying “Delrin” seems to sum it up for me. I have a delrin cane, that has not cut the air for nearly 2 decades now, and that languishes at the bottom of the toy box. It just gives the wrong type of pain and I cannot process it, mentally. I hope one day to find someone who likes delrin and I can donate it to them. It seems such a sad waste to throw away a perfectly good toy.
Prefectdt
Thanks for the info about rubber straps and some other harsh implements I will likely cross off the list of things to buy. With my vanilla partner, my task is to demonstrate to him that spanking is a safe enough thing for him to keep doing for me. Broken skin would have quite the opposite effect.
Would love for a later topic to hear from people about what their favorite implements are.
Nothing that could cause real damage. We do like canes, which can certainly draw a little blood on occasion which is a sign to stop very soon! Graham
Injury can be a serious concern. From Fifty Shades of Grey wikipedia page.
"Coinciding with the release of the book and its surprising popularity, injuries related to BDSM and sex toy use spiked dramatically. In the year after the novel's publishing in 2012, injuries requiring Emergency Room visits increased by over 50% from 2010 (the year before the book was published). This is speculated to be due to people unfamiliar with both the proper use of these toys and the safe practice of bondage and other "kinky" sexual fetishes in attempting to recreate what they had read.[42]"
We are not fond of canes or whips that can wrap around the hips. Paddles, straps and belts are favorites.
We do not have any limits and have continued to dial our sessions up, both in duration and intensity. My wife likes the feeling she gets when she puts me into compromised territory because she knows it is what I want, and most often, what I need. We both get the endorphin rush from a serious thrashing. She really tries hard to not let our thin delrin cane wrap onto the sides of my thighs, and has grown quite proficient with it. However, in the heat of the moment, it will and deliver a deep wale. I am fine with it and wear them as a badge of honor, with fond memories.
Great topic this week. Thanks
My personal hard limits (with anyone) are anything with holes (like a paddle or strap with holes), anything rubber, lexan, synthetic canes like delrin, frat style paddles that cross both cheeks, and typically anything plastic other than the Mason Pearson hairbrush I have.
I tend to gravitate towards thud and especially enjoy leather.
All this talk of wales, bruising, blood drawn etc. makes me realize that, as a beginner (just a few months), I'd better slow down & not buy any more implements for a while. We have enough.
We're quite inexperienced. My partner never spanked anyone before I asked him to spank me. And we've never met another spanko besides me, or been to spanking parties where we could see experienced people doing it. We're just going by what I've read on the Internet. So far, there's been no problem. I hope that remains the case.
We know what works for us. We don't do hard limit implements though some would say the cane was:), but not for me.
Love,
Ronnie
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Not so much a hard limit as being perfectly happy with the classics; hand, hairbrush, belt, and (rarely) cane. Both for their physical effects and their compatibility with domestic discipline role play.
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