Window Shopping

If you were strolling along the sidewalk in a shopping district and saw these panties in a store window, what would your reaction be? A smile at least, or maybe you might step inside to check out the other wares for sale. If you are a resident or a tourist in Virginia Beach, this sight may no longer be available.

The Virginia Beach council voted last week to prohibit display of "vulgar" or "indecent" clothing in the shop windows along the popular Atlantic Avenue boardwalk. The reason is that the lewd messages are spoiling the area's "wholesome" image and may keep people away from the hotels, restaurants and bars in the area. I don't know about you, but I would be more likely to visit the boardwalk if the shop windows were this entertaining. Read the full story, including pictures, here.

Thank you Rosco for finding this gem. 

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for August 24

What characteristics do you look for in a spanker or spankee?

Barrel: I don't have to look for a spanker, I am married to one, thank goodness.

Traits I admire in her are resolve and commitment. When we plan a session, I tend to get cold feet as the time approaches. She takes me through the apprehension with sensitivity, but focused on delivering the thrashing we have planned. She ensures our restraints are secure and I am comfortable before she begins. As our sessions are intense, she is resolved to deliver either the quantity of strokes or obtain the desired color and markings with passion. Often she senses I have had enough, but she will continue to her satisfaction.
It has taken us 30 years to get to the point where she likes the actual act of spanking the most. I feel blessed to be where we are.

Roz: As a spankee the traits I like a spanker who is confident, has a plan for the spanking (knows what they want out of the spanking for both of us), and who is good at reading the spankee and is able to adjust based on the spankee's reaction.

Rosco: For me, watching a spanking video without a lecture is usually boring. And a lecture adds to the fun of getting a spanking. It doesn’t have to be super serious and can even be lighthearted but it’s part of the experience for me.

There’s a wide variety of intensities that can be compelling but some videos are too little and some definitely too much. I do have a double standard in that seeing a man delivering a hard spanking is far more likely to be a turn off than if a woman is doing it.

Irene has four implements she favors, and often switches between them when she thrashes me. There’s a pause and I don’t know exactly when the next one is coming or what “flavor” it will have. I try to hold still and whine softly with appreciation, but I’ll kick my legs and make more noise when it’s truly hard.

Prefectdt: What characteristics do I look for in a spanker? Firstly she must be honest and aware of her level of knowledge, where administering corporal punishment is concerned. I like a spanker who is an individual and has or is developing her own style in both physical administration and managing a spanking scenario. Lastly, it is the cherry on the cake, if she is genuinely enjoying punishing my old rear end and other body parts.

How would I describe my ideal spanker? Confident, skilled, harsh, fun and having her own way of doing things. Whilst respecting my hard limits and limits, of course.

Jack: My wife/mommy as far as I’m concerned is the ideal spanker. She can be my wonderful wife, but when I’m naughty that look is a Mommy look and that is not good.

Wendel: My answers for this one are regarding videos or pictures. In the real world the Misses is the perfect spanker and looks extremely sexy taking a spanking.
For a spanker: I always envision the spanker to be an older woman maybe fifty plus with a stern look in her face. I am not big into lectures. Less talking more spanking.
For a spankee: The woman needs to bare her bottom and take the spanking. That is it. She does not need to be naked. I just like watching the bare bottom being spanked. 

Bonnie: I wrote an article on this very subject almost ten years ago. My tastes haven't changed much.

FL: Someone who has a strict demeanour, able to deliver a good scolding, is resolute in the face of my pleading, and is just a bit intimidating. Not loud or shrill, but absolutely in control. Physically I have a preference for mature women, with solid figures and laps that accommodate a man. Not fat but not skinny either.

KDPierre: For me it's definitely a sincere belief in their role and in the efficacy of spanking. A spanker who is not play-acting but truly sees their role as logical, sensible, natural, and deserved will usually then have confidence, determination, and all the other aspects of a loving disciplinarian. If you have a person like this in a consensual relationship with someone who sees themselves as in need of such an influence in their life, the resulting punishments will be powerful even if not necessarily severe.

For me personally, I feel very appreciative afterwards if a spanker can have me feeling genuine remorse and even a desperation to make amends and please. I have pride and a spanker that can effectively challenge that pride and coax a good bit of sincere humility out of me through a combination of scolding and application of paddle will earn my admiration and respect.

Hermione: I like a man who surprises me with a spanking when I least expect it. I also like variety: different rooms, different positions, different implements. I like a spanker who teases and jokes about the proceedings, although sometimes sternness is very appealing. Ron pretty much ticks all the boxes on this list.          

I am always on the lookout for new discussion topics. If you have a question or suggestion that interests you, it's very likely that others share that interest. Please email me or leave a comment with any topic you'd like to be featured here. 

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Glory to Ukraine

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #605

This week we went on a road trip to a cheese factory in the country, where we purchased bags of squeaky curd and some blocks of aged cheddar. At one time the shop also sold cheeses made elsewhere, like Danish blue and Wisconsin flavoured cheeses, but that was in the before times. Now they only sell their own cheese, plus some baked goods, jams and butter made locally.

Our topic for today came to me as I was watching a not-so-good spanking video. I thought Ron could do a much better job than the person wielding the hairbrush, and I was sure I could have wiggled and protested much more convincingly than the subject of the implement's attention.

Depending on your point of view, what characteristics do you look for in a spanker or a spankee? How would you describe your ideal spanker or spankee?

Please leave your response as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will post a summary of our conversation. 

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for August 17

We discussed the overpowering urge to be spanked, and here is what you said:

Wendel: We were at a ComicCon last week checking out the art as well as the costumes. I especially enjoy the ladies' costumes. If the Misses caught me staring, she would smile, smack me in the shoulder and say how that one needs to be spanked. On the ride home I thought about her spanking comments and figure she really meant that I needed it. Once we got to the house, I told her I was sorry for staring and that if anyone needed a spanking it was me. I took the paddle from the pantry closet and gave it to her. The Misses told me to drop my pants and proceeded to paddle my butt until I could not sit. It was wonderful. 

Roz: I'm not sure I get to that point. If a spanking doesn't eventuate, then it doesn't. Having said that, if I'm feeling the need I often use physical signals, a bit of cheeky banter etc. I have also just simply lent over Rick's knee if we have been cozy together on the couch.

Rosco: I get spanked roughly twice a week, one of which is simply discipline and one of which is the prelude to sexual activity. If I’m itching for a spanking, all I have to do is complain or whine about something trivial, and Irene will tend to threaten me with a spanking. I’ll tell her I don’t need a spanking, which is our code for asking for one. (Our code for not spanking now is “later”. Later means later.)

These days I’ve learned to savor a spanking at bedtime or before a nap. Irene and I are pretty much in sync.

Prefectdt: How long does it take for the urge to be spanked to grow to where it is ever-present and powerful?As soon as I have physically recovered from my last spanking :) . I do not have a long term partner, so it is impossible for my feelings to be shared intimately.

Dan: The clarifying question for me would be "How long after what?" The most recent spanking? For me, that's not really relevant. I don't feel a need to be spanked simply because some time has passed since my last one. For me, it's really about whether there has been some bad behavior that I feel a need to be held accountable for. For me, it's only after something like that has happened that I feel a compelling need for a spanking. Once that's occurred, there's a fairly narrow window--three to four days, maybe a week for serious misconduct--in which that need is pretty strong. Longer than that, and the perceived need for consequences starts to taper off.

Barrel: My urge starts in about 7 to 10 days. It builds to quite a bit around two weeks, thus my email to Hermione as a prompt for this week's topic.

This time, I didn't need to say anything to my wife, my behavior did. With family staying with us, there was nothing we could do. But after they left, I got the hairbrush along with a lecture. So while I feel better, she left the hairbrush on the living room table, either as a reminder to shape up OR for easy and quick access for the next one.

A.J.: How long does it take for the urge to be spanked to grow to where it is ever-present and powerful?

No definite time. Usually, it comes with stress. Just the everyday "stuff" of life that builds and builds until you "need" something to cleanse the mind. And sometimes that 'thing' is some time spent OTK.

I remember a bad case of it a few years ago and thought that was a solution (It's not. But what the heck.) My mind said I really need one. Time and place said it's not going to happen. A month later the world was back in place.

Sad.

Hermione: At one time I used to feel the urge at least twice a week. I'd get annoyed that Ron seemed not to notice my signals. But then he would, and took matters into his own hands expertly. Nowadays, due to age and hormones or lack thereof, I don't usually have a desperate need to be spanked. If it happens, it happens, and if not, there's always tomorrow. The timing is up to Ron.  

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #604

Is it hot where you are? Come on in and cool off. Our good friend Barrel sent me an email in which he complained that it's been a while since he had a good spanking. I know the feeling; we've had to postpone several times because of the heat. How about you?

How long does it take for the urge to be spanked to grow to where it is ever-present and powerful? What do you do to share your feelings with your partner? 

Please leave your reply as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion at the end of the weekend. 

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Glory to Ukraine

OTK Anyone?

Our good friend S alerted me to a site that specialized in all things related to my favourite position.

The logo is discrete but meaningful to those in the know.

 

S asked if I would wear a hat like this:

Or carry this bag

Would you?
 

 Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for August 10

Spanking to music? 

Norse Cavalier: In order to make sure my neighbours heard nothing, I often put on the combined works of Sabaton while entertaining a spankee who used to visit me. Not sure whether it was necessary, as the walls are quite thick, but decided not to take the chance. We also both enjoy Sabaton's music anyway.

Can't say that the music reminds me of her, though.

Barrel: I distinctly recall the back ground music from Aunt Kay's DWC website. Mesmerizing! I found a link to it a few years back but can't find it. It would be the perfect music for a seriously intense session. Might any of you know where I can find it?

A.J.: If the music is “Flight of the Bumblebee” - Run!!!

Roz: Great question Hermione! I love it.

I remember years ago posting a list of spanky songs on my blog.

We may have had music in the background during a spanking, but it would have been more incidental than deliberate. We have however had music accompany other activities on occasion 😊    

Luvinhub: Nothing necessarily during a spanking but I do have as an alarm setting John Mellencamp's song "Hurts So Good".

KDPierre: We love music here, but not for spanking. Most are punishments anyway and music hardly seems appropriate for something like that. Fun ones have their own 'music and beat'. ;-)

Prefectdt: Yes, there have been plenty of times that music has been played. Mostly to spare the blushes of those in neighbouring houses or apartments. I would like to say that classical music did the job, but I would be lying to you if I told you that, as classical music tends to have too many quiet periods. Strong Rock or Heavy Metal tends to work best for noise covering, Motorhead is highly recommended. There is also one song, that is very rarely played in real life, but nearly always gets played in my head, when I am trying to get through the pure pain part of spanking, early on before the magic starts. That is "Be My Enemy" by The Waterboys.

Wendel: Nothing really. There might be something on at the time but it is not by design. 

A.J.: No music. But I have had the TV on a bit louder than normal if the spanking is in a hotel room. But that doesn't count.

In my mind I have 3 classes of spanking.
Class 1 - A 'nice' spanking, both are enjoying. Nice pink bottoms and smiles.
Class 2 - 'A good hard spanking!' This is a spanking!! But not vicious. Bottom has moved past pink and will wind up almost-bright red. It's a 'let's clear the air, or 'maintenance', or whatever spanking.
Class 3 - You don't want a class 3!!!

Back to today's question - it's about the pace.
Class 1 - One smack per second, 60 or fewer per minute, interspersed with caresses and 'searching' (if-you-know-what-I-mean-and-I-think-you-do!)
Class 2 - It a REAL spanking so the pace is picked up! It's DOUBLED! Two smacks per second or 120 smacks a minute. And because it is faster, it is also a bit HARDER.
120 beats per minute is a marching cadence. Think - soldiers marching.
Also think - College fight songs!!

"You're due, honey! Get OTK and let's sing your alma mater's fight song!"
On Wisconsin, on Wisconsin!
Plunge right through that line
(Whack, whack, whack, whack! ....)

Works with every college fight song I can think of. Even military songs!
Anchors Aweigh, my boys,
Anchors Aweigh.
(Whack, whack, whack, whack! ....)

Fun part: The smile on the face of the spanker! And (spoiler), at 120-whacks per minute, the spanking is probably over in under 4 minutes. YMMV.

I mentioned this to a girl who didn't mind the occasional and loving otk spanking. She was a U. of Michigan alum. The thought of her otk getting spanked to that song made her laugh.  Here it is. 

This is CONSIDERABLY fasted than 120 per minutes; this is 180 per minute! The most recognized part of the fight song kicks in at the 0:52 mark.

(Note: Class 3, is double Class 2! Three to four per second or 180-240 a minute!!! My nickname for it is "The Angry Girlfriend!" Another time you might use it is at the conclusion of a Class 1 or Class 2 spanking with about 50 whacks in what I nicknamed "The Grande Finale!"  

Donn: Hi Barrel:

Yes, some of Aunt Kay's soundtracks (over the years) were very interesting.

The two most commonly used background music were:

"haveyouever1DWC.mid"; and

"DWCff3cells3.mid" (most common).

They are both available on the Internet Archive at:

web.archive.org/web/2007/www.disciplinarywivesclub.com/sounds/haveyouever1DWC.mid

web.archive.org/web/2007/www.disciplinarywivesclub.com/sounds/DWCff3cells3.mid

There is also a "library" of other music that Aunt Kay experimented with at various times, here:

web.archive.org/web/2007/www.disciplinarywivesclub.com/sounds/

Enjoy,

-- Glad to Help!

Hermione: We just leave on whatever music is playing on the laptop. However, I'm going to check out the links Donn supplied above. I'm very intrigued.

 

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #603

Welcome, dear friends. It's lovely to see you all here again. I was just thinking how important music is in my life. At home, we have internet radio playing on our laptop most of the time, and Ron is always on the hunt for new stations. Music is the background to most of our domestic activities.

Are your spankings ever accompanied by music? Do you have a special song that reminds you of spanking?

Please leave your reply as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion at the end of the weekend.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Cane-iac Has a New Owner

Last week I received an email from Cane-iac, my go-to online shop for implements. The business has been up for sale for quite some time, but new owners Archer and Alex have taken over and they seem like a good fit. Here's the latest news.

Archer and Alex are extremely familiar with the domestic discipline / spanking community have been active in it for over 25 years.  They are gifted crafts people with a passion for wood and leather.  Archer and Alex bring a commitment to maintaining CANE-IAC’s quality and pricing philosophy while delivering great customer service.  They've loved one of our core concepts from the beginning, making spanking and kink toys accessible to the entire community for a reasonable price.  They are very quick learners and are learning how to make all of our most popular “implements” - including the Best of the Best – Rattan Canes.

CANE-IAC is moving to the beautiful state of Arizona.  The grand reopening will be September 2nd with Archer and Alex taking over on August 16th.  They are committed to keeping the store open during the transition and only expect a brief delay in shipping.  All items will be shipped from CANE-IAC's new Arizona home starting August 16th.

Right now, we are all working on making things like Rattan Canes, Spencer and assorted Wooden Paddles, Acrylic and Lexan Canes and Paddles, Rubber Items and Leather Goods.  We are committed to get CANE-IAC restocked for all your fall spanking needs.

Sadly, I cannot access the site. It's still restricted to customers from the US. Maybe once they are settled in their new location I'll be able to shop there again. Oh wait. Tariffs. So maybe not.

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for August 3

This week you were asked to define a spanking.

Jack: If the spankings are foreplay I suppose you can break it down to defining. In my case foreplay is far from it, my wife/mommy considers spanking only when I've been a naughty little boy.

Bonnie: Yes, your first question aligns with my definition. If it occurs multiple times in succession, I consider those to be a series of spankings (ouch!).

Wendel: For us a series of spankings would not be switching from the hand to the paddle and then the belt. That is just the same spanking with different implements. A series of spanking would be when I spank the Misses in the morning before work and then give her another spanking in the evening after dinner. It would be when the Misses whips my butt ever night for a week. 

Roz: I agree with the definition above, a spanking is a series of swats. A series of spankings to me is where a session ends, there is a break then another spanking.     

KDPierre: Interesting question of semantics. The purist in me would agree with what seems like the consensus that one session of whacks, however given is "a spanking". However, the notion of a break muddies that definition. Let's say my wife says, "I think you need to be punished for XYZ. You are going to get a good long spanking of 600 smacks." She then gives me 300, decides her arm needs a break, and we stop for a few minutes, walk around maybe even have some water, and then go back and finish the second half. Is that one spanking with a break in between or two?

Let's take that further with something that has happened here often enough. I am sentenced to a punishment spanking of 1000 or more smacks. Even the person issuing this knows they can't be done in one go. Then, instead of a 10 minute break, a part of the overall thousand is done the next day, or even two days later, and then the next installment a day after that. Is that one spanking in several installments, or one punishment of multiple spankings?

Here's one more. I am sentenced to a punishment spanking for something that my wife is very angry about. She gives me the spanking that she declared but upon completing it feels more punishment is needed and gives me another sometime later. I would say THAT is one 'punishment' consisting of two separate spankings, but is it? ;-)

Ain't werdz phunn? ;-)

Prefectdt: My congratulations to Rosco for coming up with such an interesting question. Before I read this question, I used to consider the whole time that I was playing with someone else as a spanking. Since reading this question, I have been thinking. As play with a fellow amateur spanking enthusiast can take place over several hours, it would be impossible to continuously spank for such a period of time. So now am thinking that scenario would be better described as a series of spankings within a period of spanking play. The best questions are ones that make you think and challenge your own, perceived conceptions.

FL: This is more a linguistics question than a spanking one.
I would define a spanking as a series of spanks given in a single position, with no significant break in the delivery. The spanker may pause very briefly to change instruments but the spankee remains in the same pose throughout. Changing position - regardless of how quickly the spanks resume - signals the start of a new spanking and what had been A spanking is now a SERIES of spankings. Lucky duck.

Rosco: Thanks to Hermione for posting this question.

I get a spanking, often at bedtime, a few days a week. Irene will usually switch between her favored implements, but if it only takes a few seconds I don’t think of it as a separate spanking.

Our “dates” usually involve 2 or more spankings, between 10 minutes and up to a hour apart, along with bondage and other discipline, followed by more traditional sexual activities. Last time I think it was 5 spankings for which I don’t have the right word.

Hermione: For us, a spanking is completed in a single session, with changes of implement but no real pauses. If another spanking happened after several minutes or hours, it would be a separate spanking or one of a series depending on the length of time between.

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #602

My goodness! The week went fast for us, and I'm glad for the chance to relax with you. Our good friend Rosco submitted this question around defining a spanking:

Do you define a spanking as a series of whacks on the bottom with a hand, paddle or other implement? If so, is there a word for a series of spankings with breaks in between? Do you and your partner typically engage in a single spanking as defined above, or in a series of spankings?

Please leave your reply as a comment, and I will publish the results of our discussion when the weekend is over. 

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Gag Gifts

These items are not really commercially available, but they do exist, and were surreptitiously displayed on the shelves in various stores.

 

 

 

 

 

Excellent Secret Santa gifts ,are they not?

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Bzzzzz!

I have plenty of BUMblebees in our garden, and thank you, Boru, for reminding me to tell you about them. Hungry flying insects first appeared when the scarlet runner beans that I have on two trellises on either side of the dining room window started to bloom. When the oregano came into flower, more bees came to feast. But now that the globe thistles are showing tiny blue flowers all over their prickly surfaces, the bees are really having a ball.

Speaking of thistles, I've been watching the Scottish thistles in the garden next door.

They are growing in an area that was once a vegetable bed for the lady next door and her granddaughter. The little girl is now grown up and the tomatoes have been replaced by goldenrod, ragweed and tansy -- until this year, that is. Thistles have taken over completely, and some are about three meters (10 feet) tall! Their purple tops are now turning white and the fluffy seeds are drifting our way. Oh dear! The house was sold recently, but the new owners don't seem interested in the garden. I hope that once they complete their indoor renovations they will put a little effort into the wilderness that was once a neat and tidy back yard.

 

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for July 27

What is your favourite (or least favourite) implement?

Jack: It depends on who is giving the spanking. My wife/mommy or as she recently told me she used a hairbrush until her mother gave her a bathbrush. Long handle she was told does wonders. It is the bathbrush I hate. My mother-law who has spanked me prefers the hairbrush; hers is large and heavy. 

Roz: This is a great question. There is just something about the belt that sends a thrill. I think because it's a personal item. It can be sensual or hurt like hell depending on how it is used. I also love our leather paddle.

Norse Cavalier: I've mentioned it before, but my favourite implement is a heavy clothes brush I own. It's the first implement I bought, and spankees tell me it's surprisingly painful. One woman said it was cute and wanted to feel it on her bare bottom, but quickly nicknamed it "Satan" once I started using it. I now only use it for punishments.

I've tried using floggers, but they never feel satisfactory.

Ronnie: Mine without a doubt is the rose leatherthorn paddle but I thought I share P's favourite implement.

It's just a small simple wooden paddle (gifted from Bogey and Bacall). l can tell you that size may well matter but it's definitely not everything; it's also the way it's made, what it's made of and how it's used that counts and on all three criteria my bottom can testify to its effectiveness. It's sharp, packs a punch way above its inches and leaves a lasting impression on my bottom...and my mind.

P's favourites because he says it's fast and well suited to OTK as it doesn't need much room to swing but still produces excellent results (from his perspective). He also knows I genuinely dread it so am unlikely to be able to convert the experience of receiving it into a sensual one, certainly not at the time of use anyway.  

FL: The hairbrush, with the belt as a close second. Both are perfect for domestic discipline, my preferred scenario. And of course a hand spanking is extremely intimate, though not as painful.

Dan: For me, the answer is more complicated than the simple question suggests. Aesthetically, it's an iconic heavy ebony hairbrush I bought on eBay a few years ago. There also is a strap from London Tanners that is a classic. But, the former isn't that effective and, since we started using OTK as our go-to position, the strap hasn't been used much. I also have a sentimental attachment to a couple of leather paddles I received from the husband of the DWC's "Aunt Kay." I admit I get a kind of perverse little thrill from the instruments that have been used on other butts. (I don't know that the ebony hairbrush has, but have any of those ever been REALLY used to brush hair?)

My wife's favorite is, by far, her bath brush. I hate that thing, though because it is so effective.

A.J.: My hand. (Yes; I'm boring.)

If my hand starts to hurt and there is more "work" still to be done, MAYBE a small strap.

And I'm with Roz on the belt! Not its actual use, but the mind-messing it can do! Having her bent over something and her HEARING that belt being pulled through the belt loops of my jeans, building her excitement/anticipation/fear, "It's coming. I'm going to get the belt!" - (French kiss!!!)

How do I use it? Lightly. About the same as using my hand. But in her mind she is the bad girl, getting the spanking she deserves. (All in fun!)

Prefectdt: least favourite is a delrin cane, I hate that thing so much but just can't bring myself to throw it away. Most favourite type of toy is always a rattan cane. But the toy that means most to me, in my toy box, is a cheap braided flogger that was purchased as a prop for a vanilla costume party and then got properly played with on another occasion and turned out to be a worthwhile toy. It is not that it is the best toy that I own but it is one that brings back good memories, both kinky and vanilla.

Bonnie: My favorite spanking implement is a flexible leather teardrop-shaped paddle. It reliably delivers the necessary heat, sting, and redness without doing any serious damage.

Randy prefers a more substantial OTK-style wooden paddle because he says it is perfect for those corporal punishment spankings.

My least favorite is flimsy novelty paddles that split. I love the concept of owning, displaying, and using paddles with clever sayings, but it would be a whole lot more fun if I could actually get a real spanking.

I have no idea what Randy's least favorite implement might be. He's tried just about everything. I can tell you that a frying pan spanking hurts more than you might think.

Spanky53: My favorite implement is a belt that I have named Turk. It's a supple 2 1/2 inch wide light brown belt with a turquoise belt buckle that I bought in Spain. I've had it now for 25 years and it is the most sensual toy I have.

Loki_Darksong: For myself, my favorite implement is The Cane. Both giving and receiving.

To be more specific, the levels of the canes would be Junior, Senior, Reformatory and whatever level the American Horror Story Asylum Cane is. I still have yet to give the one I own a proper trying out!

I have always loved canes, thoroughly enjoying all the movies that they were used in. I believe the first time I saw one in film was the 70's version of Tom Sawyer.

Unlike many other implements, a cane doesn't numb one's butt during a caning. You are made very aware of what it is doing to you from the first stroke to the last.

Also the use of a cane requires skill and attention so the wielder does not cause any unwanted harm to the person being caned. A well caned backside does not, nor should not, come with a bloody mess. Just a nice level of soreness that lasts for a couple days! 

Wendel: The favorite implement is the old belt. We just love the sound, the sting and the marks it makes. Also easy to transport. 

Hermione: My favourite is the dogging bat. It produces a nice sting and a very loud sound. My least favourite, and I suspect Ron's favourite, is a foot-long wooden shoehorn. It's light, but produces an unholy sting, especially at the tops of my thighs. Ron gets it out nearly every week, so it must be at the top of his list.

      

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #601

It's been a busy week, so now it's time for some relaxation and good conversation over brunch. This week's question came to mind as I was hanging up some of the implements that we hadn't used for a while, and had stored away in a drawer. It's an oldie but a goodie.

What is your all-time favourite implement? Please describe it and tell us why you love it so much. If you prefer, what is your least favourite?

Leave your reply as a comment, and I will publish the results of our discussion when the weekend is over.

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I Protest!

Many protests are occurring in the United States these days, and while I can't join in personally, I'm joining them in spirit.

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for July 20

What's the future for blogging and other spanko social media? 

Anon: No doubt, people are opening up more with social media, learning their desires, lifestyle is common. Social media has been a positive influence, nothing one should hide any more, it is just a part of who we are.

KDPierre: I believe the death knell for blogs has already been ringing for a while now. When the remaining holdouts give up or are censored out of existence, that will be it.

As for other forms of social media? I haven't a clue. However, I believe with the growing use of AI in the future, what does show up will become less and less personal or reliably authentic. I also believe short, banal, attention-grabbers will utterly replace anything of depth or substance.

The one exception may be the podcast-type feature. Those may be the only place in the future for lifestyle people to share anything of substance in depth...but even here I must emphasize 'may'. They just as easily could go trite and sensational, since many already do.

This may sound depressing, but it won't be, because anyone who would lament the passing of substantial lifestyle discussion (like me) will be gone by then and the new generations won't know anything different.  

CEM: Most things are cyclical. People lose interest in certain things over time, jump to newer technology, that becomes passé, they go to other forms of media, literature and entertainment. Blogs were huge for years, then other social media came about, people jumped to that, now a lot are growing tired of it and seeking out other forums or venues, which may (or may not) mean blogs increase. I don't think anyone can predict what the future will hold, but it will endlessly evolve, rotate, fluctuate and change. And fetish interests change to some extent with time as well, and also cycle around too. Human beings are fickle and unpredictable. Anyway, congrats on the success. 

Roz: Wow, congratulations on your 600th brunch Hermione!

Gosh, I have no idea what the future holds in terms of social media. The number of active blogs in the spanking community has vastly reduced over the years, and censorship isn't helping, but perhaps the blogs may make a comeback? Censorship may be the biggest barrier to meaningful conversations over any platform.

Dan: Congrats on 600 spanko brunches!

I don't think social media forums related to spanking will go away, but as for blogs in particular, it's not pretty. When I started my blog twelve years ago, there were quite a few blogs focused on M/f disciplinary spankings. Now, it seems like I'm the last man standing.

On the other hand, Tumblr is chock-full of channels with that focus. But, that doesn't mean the same content is still out there. Tumblr is largely a visual medium. Very few Tumblr "blogs" have more than a snippet of text (at most) under whatever picture or drawing they're sharing. Maybe that reflects a younger audience that is very visually-oriented but won't read a book to save their lives.

And, KD is right that those blogs that don't run out of gas are still subject to arbitrary censorship from the platform providers like Blogger and WordPress. Often, blogs in his genre disappear not because their authors gave up but, rather, because censors at Blogger or WordPress took them down.

One other platform I've been exploring lately that is kind of blogging is Medium. I like it as a platform, and so far I haven't seen much in the way of censorship. But, because people can't comment without a Medium account, and since most of the users have a profile linked to their real identity, it is virtually impossible to have a conversation, because people won't leave comments revealing their identity. I've published articles that have gotten several thousand reads but few of them get any comments at all.

Prefectdt: I don't think that blogs are done, but the type of blog around is changing. The more heavily written blogs and story blogs are flourishing but they are often not as informative as blogs of old. From personal experience, it looks like explicitly illustrated blogs have the clock ticking. It is a shame that a lot of the newer blogs do not have blog rolls, as they are still the best way of spreading the love and creating a spanking, linkup, blog network. I do hope that another form of adult-only  platform might come along, but it might be inadvisable of us to hold our breaths. Perhaps we should all go back to the printed word :)

Bonnie: Congratulations on brunch #600. That's excellent! And happy moon landing day too.

I may have originally posed the question, but sitting here today, I don't know the answer. I think people will continue to find ways to discuss their shared interests despite growing censorship. It seems like traditional blogs will retain a role, though a diminished one.

Podcasts and vlogs are hot, but many in our community cannot be that out. I never liked Twitter/X because it feels more like a series of strafing runs than an authentic dialogue.

Reddit is an interesting platform, but some of the users (and bots) who inhabit it are idiots. Maybe someone could start an invitation-only spanko discussion subreddit. That could provide an open forum like we once had in Geocities, Delphi Forums, and Yahoo Groups.

I guess that's my long winded way to reiterate that I don't know.

Hermione: When I first started blogging and even before, there was a multitude of blogs focused on D/d relationships. Bloggers used to  have virtual surprise parties for one another, and there was a real sense of community. As George Harrison once said, all things must pass, and the golden age of blogging is now over.

Reddit is a good idea for having spanko conversations, and Substack is an idea for podcasts, although that would necessitate being "out".

I guess we just need to enjoy the remaining blogs while they last. 

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #600

Welcome one and all to our six hundredth brunch. We've talked a lot about spanking over the past eleven years that I have hosted brunch here. Now let's think about the future. This question was suggested by our dear friend and former blogger Bonnie.

What do you think is the future of social media for the spanko community? Will blogs continue to be a community and a source of spanko information? 

Please give this one some consideration and leave your thoughts as a comment. Once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish a summary of our discussion. 

 

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