Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for June 22

Has your partner ever spoken about spanking to a stranger while you were present?

Anon 1: This isn't exactly what you asked, but years ago, I used to deliver stripping telegrams with a company called Strip-a-Gram. It wasn't unusual to entertain at ten or more parties every Saturday night. (I bet I've been to more bridal and baby showers than all of my female friends combined.) So, I performed for a woman's bridal shower, then went into a bedroom to put my clothes back together (there was Velcro along the seams of my pants so as to be able to rip them off suddenly), and the maid of honor came in to pay me. She said, "I should be spanked for all the naughty thoughts I'm having about you right now!" Surprised, I replied, "You have a taste for being spanked?" She returned, "More like a voracious appetite," and she started taking off her clothes as I was trying to put mine on. I was in my twenties and she was in her late thirties, but she was cute with a really nice butt, so I locked the bedroom door. "Your friends won't be bothered by the noise we make?" I asked as I helped her disrobe. "They're used to it..." she answered as she crawled across my lap. "Really spank me good, I've been a very bad girl," she said as she revealed her phat ass. 

This is my favorite form of foreplay (why I read your blog) so it didn't take long until my g-string looked like a tiny banner at the top of a tall flagpole. I thought that she was too easy to seduce so worried that a lot of guys had been where I was headed, so I refrained from fucking her, just let her service me orally. It was my last scheduled gig of the night, so I could have stayed and partied, but didn't. I didn't even ask for her phone number. Being a spanko like me, and now knowing how difficult it is to find a like-minded mate, I'd love to reconnect with her, if she happens to read this. 

A.J.: "They're used to it..." she answered as she crawled across my lap."

Really? Oh, c'mon. You can't leave us hanging like that!!!!

Anon 1: This is directed to A.J. In that this blog is operated by a lady, and a Canadian lady at that, I thought discretion was the better part of valor. I'm not sure what more to say... I think I redefined what constitutes a hard spanking for the recipient. I'm sure that the spanks were heard by all the other women in the adjoining room. She also made the most incredible, welcoming sounds throughout the spanking. (A few weeks ago, noises made while spanking was a brunch topic. I did not comment, but I thought about this incident in vivid detail.) Since that Strip-A-Gram job, I've graduated college and am now near retirement. I've been married to a woman who indulged me occasionally with my desire to spank her, and wisely divorced her stingy, cold-hearted ass. So I mean it when I say I appreciate a submissive female who enjoys getting a spanking as much as I love giving it.

Jack: Stranger or not, my wife/mommy will tell them that she is the mommy when I'm a naughty little boy and that I must address her as mommy. My wife/mommy will say this with me present and all I want to do his hide. She reminds me later that women share a lot, and so spankings is brought up a few times, not many.  

CEM: No. That would not be acceptable. I'd never be with someone that might do that...nor would they. Discretion is of paramount importance, especially with a Male Dominant/female submissive dynamic as too many PC idiots out there conflate domestic violence with BDSM. There is a proper time and place for discussions and activity, in public with strangers...is not that time nor place. 

Roz: There have been the odd occasion where spanking has been raised by someone else in a joking way, not by myself or Rick. When this has happened we both tended to be oddly quiet. Afraid of giving ourselves away I think lol.

Mark: My wife did it to me today... in front of our friends (her best friend and her husband) she announced that what I had done deserved a thorough spanking. I went very quiet and tried to kid it off. Definitely wasn't looking either of them in the eye! Makes me wonder what her friend knows - but I'm a little scared to ask.

Wendel: Like Roz, we stay silent on the subject. If only they knew. 

Rosco: Not exactly. Once we were cooking at a group/communal kitchen and Irene scolded me and gave me several sharp slaps with a wooden spoon which got the attention of all around.

Another time we’re having dinner at a restaurant when one of her friends told me she wanted to spank me. I’m guessing she knew. I told her she would need Irene’s permission. The subject was changed.

Anon 2: We would never inflict that on a innocent bystander. It would be nice if it could be openly shared, but that just doesn't seem likely. I have told my wife that if she wanted to share with her best friend, it would be OK. She hasn't done that...yet. We do share "coded" messages via text and email.

Prefectdt: You have got me on this one, it has never happened to me. Makes me wonder how I would react :)

By the way, I had to get into your blog through Microsoft Edge again. Sorry to be the one telling you about this.

That's a real mystery! Sorry Firefox misbehaves for you. I use it exclusively for blogging.

A.J.: "...she unexpectedly brought up spanking while talking to a complete stranger?"

Twice. I think I mentioned this before.

Mid-week took GF to a local mall for something to eat. After, she decides she needs something from the dreaded Bloomingdale's. I don't want go to Bloomingdales! Can we go...?

'Will only take a moment.' Off we go, and wind up in - ladies lingerie. Oy!

I'm hatin' life and decide - what the heck - it's almost closing time, dept. has me, the GF and a 20-something clerk so - time to play the fool. And I do. Make a pest of myself.
GF is checking out and tells clerk: What do you do with men like this.
Clerk: Darned if I know.
GF: I think I'll spank him.

Noooo! She used the forbidden "S" word in public, to a civilian. About me! That's not allowed. Time to double down - and I do!

A royal, teasing pest!!

Loaded with sarcasm: "A spanking? Oh, no! Not a spanking!"
Hugging and kissing her neck.

GF, not royally peeved, is scribbling her name on receipt as fast as she can and says: "Wait until we get home!"

Clerk is laughing.

She finishes. Turns and says: "Time to go." with the dreaded (not really) and emphasized: "We need to talk."

Takes my elbow and quick-walks me toward the exit.

Clerk is now really laughing and says, "And give him a few for me!""

She did. It was funny. We laughed about it often after - and wondered "What did that clerk tell her friends after we left?"

Second "incident."

We were at an empty antiques store and I foolishly as clerk if there was something I could us as a spanking paddle.
She found an antique bread paddle, used to put dough into a hearth for baking. Brings it to me and GF.
GF: What that for?
Me: So I don't hurt my hand if I have to spank you.
GF's face turns bright RED!
Clerk laughs; says it's OK. Besides, she says, "...a paddle doesn't know or care WHOSE bottom it is used on.... (Hint. Hint.).

GF now wants that paddle and has me buy it.
We drive home in silence. ("I was only joking!!!")
Once there she's ready to try out her new toy! On me.
She did. With the occasional eye-opening "emphasis" on some of her efforts.

Funny at first.
Not so funny later.
Then funny again. For her.
We never used that paddle again. 

Barrel: No, but I wish she would. The only way that could happen is if it was a complete stranger in a completely remote venue, like on vacation, and she had a few glasses of wine. I would be open to it, thinking something might happen.

KDPierre: Never bluntly. But Rosa has made a few teasing innuendos to 'strangers' (waitresses, salespeople, for example), but always within a vibe that it would be taken for what it was. It never bothered me.

Take that from 'stranger' to people we know and the conversations have gotten way more specific and open. Those don't bother me either. What I do find more embarrassing is when someone 'in the know' is told by Rosa that I was recently punished for something specific or that I had one coming for something I did. One conversation is more informational and the latter very direct and personal.

Hermione: Like Roz and Wendel, it hasn't happened and never will. We are too private about our intimate activities.  But sometimes I wonder what a friend's or stranger's reaction might be.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #596

Welcome, dear friends old and new, to our regular weekend get together. Here's a question that I hope will elicit some interesting replies.

Have you ever been someplace with your partner and he or she unexpectedly brought up spanking while talking to a complete stranger? How did you react at the time? Were there any repercussions after the event?

Leave you response as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish a summary of our discussion.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

And Now a Word from Bonnie

Our dear friend Bonnie's blog is closed, but she and Randy are still very enthusiastic about spanking. She recently wrote about her latest trip over his knee, and has kindly given me permission to post it here. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did when I read it.

 

Why I'm a Bad Girl

My dear husband Randy tells me I'm a bad girl.  Bad girls get spanked.  I knew that.

I was out shopping recently for most of a Saturday afternoon.  I got carried away, but I found a lot of good stuff for both of us.  When I returned home, Randy was concerned because I had not informed him of my plans.  I should have texted.

The situation was quickly resolved through the vigorous application of a small wooden paddle to my bare seat.  I squirmed and squealed, but the experience was not altogether unpleasant.  I told him that I appreciated his well-practised technique.  He grumbled, but I replied that I wasn't being sarcastic.  He is a genuine expert at delivering this sort of corporal punishment.  He spanks hard and it always hurts, but there's no lasting damage back there and my mood is brightened.

That was when he informed me I was a bad girl.  I'm not supposed to enjoy my punishments.  But I love them and I do a poor job of hiding it.  He pulled me over his lap and spanked me again.  This time he employed the smooth side of a serious long-handled brush.  This felt like a longer, harder spanking that hurt way more coming so soon after he paddled me.  By the time he lost interest in tenderizing my bottom, it was throbbing.

A quick trip to the bathroom confirmed my suspicions.  He left deep red marks on me!  Rubbing provided no relief.

When I returned to the living room, Randy asked to see my bottom again.  So I hiked my skirt and bent forward for inspection.  His fingers lightly traced the crimson memories he painted on my skin.  Even this was painful.  I flinched at one point and he chuckled as if with pride in his work.

"Do you feel punished now?"  "Yes," I meekly replied.  Definitely.

"Did you deserve your spankings?"  "Yes, sir."

"Do you still like your punishments?"  A lie here would have been easily detected.  When freshly spanked, I read like an open book.  The truth was that this was a delicious punishment.  I knew that I would almost certainly feel the after-effects the following day.  I don't desire one of those soul-shaking spankings every time, but when they happen, I drink up the endorphins.

"Um, yeah?"  My voice emerged as a mere squeak.

"Of course you do.  You're a very bad girl and that's one big reason I love you!"

For a brief instant, I thought a third spanking might be headed my way.  Instead, he took me out for dinner.  It was pleasant on the patio and our Mexican salads were fresh and tasty, though sitting on an unpadded metal chair constantly reminded me of my bad girl status.

Sometimes being the bad girl can be good.

 

 Thank you, Bonnie, for sharing that spanking with us!

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for June 15

Tell us about your broken implement mishaps.

 Donn: About twenty years ago, very early in our DWC DD Lifestyle, we had a rubber strap "delaminate." (It was composed of two layers of rubber sandwiching fiber [nylon / rayon?] belt, all held together with some type of contact adhesive.)

No harm done to either person on either end of strap. Just super annoying. It was the last time I purchased any commercial / factory-made implements. I'd much rather design and fabricate to her specs!

Bonnie: Yes, there have been several occasions when a poorly chosen spanking implement proved to be inadequate for its assigned role. I remember a novelty paddle that Randy purchased from a roadside trinket shop years ago. It cracked upon the first impact. I giggled.

I always laugh at spankings gone wrong. I can't help it. My husband takes these things seriously. His response is to grab a more capable implement and finish the job, and then some. My giggles don't help my case.

KDPierre: Yes and it was actually during a punishment rather than a fun one which somehow made our mutual laughing seem at odds with the situation. I was also upset that an implement broke because I'm kind of OCD that way.....but we just used another and finished the spanking.

For a inside joke between us, Rosa even took a picture of my beaten butt atop her lap with the two pieces of the broken paddle resting on it.

Rosco: Sure, we had a couple of marvellous vintage riding crops with leather fringes that fell apart at one point or another. And a leather ping pong paddle. Also a wooden spoon or so.

The only thing that might temporarily interrupt a spanking is if Irene hurts her hand.   

CEM: Canes, switches, small paddles, yes. Once the tip flew off a riding crop. So, there has been quite a few implements that broke during use. 

Roz: There have been a couple of occasions over the years. On one occasion, we were in the middle of a kinda serious session with a cane. Rick was in the middle of a lecture while spanking when the cane broke. We both paused and laughed for a bit, until Rick announced a portion had broken off but the cane was still safe and usable and continued.

Ronnie: Yes we've had a couple of implements break during a spanking. I remember one, I was over P's lap and he was spanking me with my hairbrush, suddenly he stopped, I wondered why. He told me to get up and showed me the brush, it had slit down the middle. We both laughed. Didn't carry on with the spanking.

Wendel: A few cheap paddles and a bath brush where the handle was only glued on.

A.J.: Nope! Never. If “it” broke, then my right hand would be in a cast as that is my/her only implement.

That and I’m too lazy/cheap to buy one.

Anon: I'd say that 8 out of every 10 spankings I get are with my lover's bare hand on my bared bottom. Some are impromptu and some are formalized, when I'm told I'm going to get it at bedtime, and he makes a big deal of preparations, like rolling up his shirt sleeve, baring me, and inspecting my bottom intimately, etc.
But on a few occasions, he'll tell me that I'm going to get a really hard spanking, and an implement is used. On one of these times, he pulled out the heavy wooden paddle, a dastardly one with holes drilled through its thickness. He came into the relationship with this dreaded tool, I think he used it on his previous girlfriend, Jessica. I'd never felt it used full force on me. I was scared but also curious, therefore desirous for it. He made me bend over the edge of our bed, took aim, and reared back to give me a solid wallop. Its impact stung like holy hell, but I was so proud of myself for taking it. I stuck my butt out for another lick. He gave it to me, but this time the fearsome sound was muffled. The paddle had broken lengthwise. My butt had destroyed the butt-destroyer! I felt like his memories of using it on Jessica were now colored by that fact, my bottom was triumphant! I turned around and pulled him into a kiss that evolved into wonderful love-making.

Prefectdt: I have lost count of the number of cane ends that have flown off, during hard canings. My back side is also the legendary lost graveyard of hairbrushes. Not sure why, but in an open competition it tends to be My Butt 1 - Hairbrush 0.
I think that the most memorable one was when a professional Domme, very proud of her rather pricey new horse batter, found that the end was not attached as well as she thought. The spankings always continued, as I had to be punished for damaging important equipment :)

Barrel: Kinda. I used to cut fresh suckers from our purple leaf plum tree, peel off the leaves, and shorten to the proper length. I usually cut three as we knew they would fray and break, which they ultimately did, but only after doing their job. We have since graduated to two delrin canes. Even though they are 10 years old and experienced, they have held up adequately.

Hermione: A rattan carpet beater broke during a session, so the spanking stopped because the sharp broken ends would have caused damage. Although I carefully glued the ends back together, Ron never trusted it not to break again. The replacement, a delrin carpet beater, has never fractured.      

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #595

Welcome, one and all, to our weekly spanko brunch. You're just in time for what I hope will be a lively discussion. Today's topic is one I found down in the vault where my archives are stored. I dusted it off and it is just as timely today as it was in 2015.

Have you or your partner ever had an implement break during a spanking? If so, how did it happen? What were your reactions? Did the spanking continue?

Leave your reply as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to respond, I will publish a summary of our discussion.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Farewell, Dear Friend

Another blog has bitten the dust. Our good friend and regular blogger Prefectdt has lost his blog. I thought Blogger was the only platform that unexplainedly wiped blogs from the interwebs. But no, it seems Wordpress does the same. His blog with links to all other spanking blogs is still operational here.

You can still visit the archive of Spankedhortic II -- 14 years in all, that's quite a record -- in the Wayback Machine. I hope that someday a new blog called Spankedhortic III will arise from the ashes. In the meantime, there's always a home for you here.

We'll miss you, Prefectdt. 

 

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for June 8

What are your thoughts on the sounds that a spankee makes?

Dan: During a spanking, I don't "speak" a lot with actual words. Instead, there are lots of grunts and groans and OW, OW, OWs.

I'm not sure whether my wife cares one way or another about the vocalizing. But, I think she does like the sound of the paddle or strap as it makes contact.

FL: One time I was apparently making too much noise so she stuffed her panties into my mouth. And yes, I'm aware of how completely made up it sounds but it really did happen. And I loved it!

Barrel: During most spankings, strappings and paddlings, I try to remain silent and not disturb the moment. Even when she goes longer and the discomfort grows, I just try to let it in. When we are in a session, most of my responses are heavy breathing, which I try to control so as not to hyperventilate. Occasionally, when she wants to maximize the effect, she inserts a breathable ball gag, which allows only moaning and lots of drooling, but it is fun.
As for her, she loves the impact noise and occasionally comments when the strap or tawse lands perfectly.

Wendel: When I am spanking the Misses she will yell out a bit and sometimes break out into full blown crying. I love how the sounds of the spanking impacts blend with the cries. They go together quite nicely.
When the Misses spanks me I will yell out “owww and oohhhs!”.
We both like spankings too much to beg for it to stop. 

Norse Cavalier: For fun spankings, I love the little moans the spankees make. One woman I spanked made the most adorable grunting noises - and when I commented on them, she blushed so red she almost struggled to breathe.

For punishment spankings, I expect her to whine, squeal and plead. If she's not promising insistently to behave forever and ever, she's not being spanked hard enough. So yeah, I love the noise(s).

Roz: During a spanking I usually let out a series of grunts and groans and oww and ooh's. Rick likes my verbal responses and will often adjust accordingly.

Jack: When my wife/mommy applies the bath brush to my bare bottom I'm very loud, there is no way I cannot be. Over her lap she scolds me and I must respond, loud: you have been a naughty little boy and I must say Yes Mommy, and I'm sorry Mommy. 

Prefectdt: As I have always strived, and often failed, to be a Stoic Spankee, I try my best myself not to make a noise during a spanking. I do enjoy it when a Spanker can make me cry out during a spanking. To be honest, I am pleased when a spanking becomes a bit of a contest, me trying to stay quiet, whilst the Top/Domme is trying to make me make some noise. Unless they cheat with not enough time between strokes/swats/pats or something else.

Rosco: I might say ow or otherwise complain just to be a little obstinate and encourage the ferocity of the discipline to come.

I might softly moan as my cravings are satisfied.

I might involuntarily shout or grunt when a blow lands extra hard.

I might be instructed to be quiet, in which case I’ll do my best.

S: I wish I had to worry about making too much noise when engaging in spanking fun. Unfortunately, no spankings at our house.

A.J.: Lots of questions!

Spankees, do you make a lot of verbal noise? How would you feel if you were somehow prevented from speaking or otherwise expressing yourself?

I don't make (or any) much noise when on the receiving end. Usually the occasional "Emmmm!" None of the lovelies who have had me OTK ever prevented me from expression, probably because I'm a bit of a wuss and spanking for us is the erotic thrill I/we get from it. Physically restrained? An absolute "NO!" for me. Never asked if I could restrain her - during a spanking! A bunch of old neckties, a bowl of strawberries, and some whip cream - well, that's another story.

Spankers, what do you think of the sounds coming from the spankee's mouth? Do you enjoy them, or do you discourage speaking and crying out?

Love them. But, again, I'm a wuss as a spanker. It's only a guide in directing the action. Discourage them? Nope! Helps to understand her at that moment.      

Hermione: Like Prefectdt, I'm from the Stoic School of Spankees, and try my best to keep quiet. But I do let out a few Ow's just to let Ron know he's doing a good job.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #594

Once again we're here together for the ever-popular weekend spanko brunch. I'm glad you could make it, because I have an interesting topic for you today, aimed at both participants of a spanking. We discussed it exactly ten years ago today, so let's try it again.

Spanking can be a very noisy business. There's the crack of the paddle, the whoosh of the belt, the slap of the hand...you get the idea. But what about the sounds a spankee makes?

Spankees, do you make a lot of verbal noise? How would you feel if you were somehow prevented from speaking or otherwise expressing yourself? Spankers, what do you think of the sounds coming from the spankee's mouth? Do you enjoy them, or do you discourage speaking and crying out?

Leave your response as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to weigh in, I will publish a summary of our discussion. Don't be shy—speak up!

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Things that make you go "Hmmm"

Boru sent me a couple of images that made me stop and think:

 

And here are a few more:

 

"You'll never be as hot as we are, no matter what bikini you buy."

 

 

 

                                                                Happy hump day!

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for June 1

Has a spanking ever gotten you out of a funk?

FL: Spanking for me is 100% sexual, so while I enjoy roleplay and "punishments", it's not really about that. Real issues should be dealt with by discussing them as adults, and equals. But spankings, especially unexpected ones, have certainly brightened my day and put me in a much better mood on occasion. 

Wendel: Spankings are great stress relievers. All the worries, except for how sore we will be, leave the body. 

When she cannot sleep in the middle of the night the Misses will wake me up with a hard whack of the paddle. She does it because once I catch my breath I whip her bottom. Once whipped she falls asleep almost immediately. I guess spankings help with sleeping as well.

I must try that! 

Roz: There have been the odd occasion I felt a spanking may help lift a mood or anxiety. It has sort of worked. But in that situation any benefits were mainly temporary. 

Bonnie: Yes, yes, and yes. Randy knows a good spanking will fix my funk.

CEM: As most here already know, this is actually based on biology and science. Dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin are brain chemicals, also known as neurotransmitters or hormones, that play a crucial role in our mood, emotions, and overall well-being. These "happy chemicals" work together to regulate feelings like happiness, motivation, relaxation, and social connection. 

Mija: Sometimes stress and anxiety freeze me in place, until I can't do anything. There's something about a spanking sometimes that makes me stop ruminating and start acting again. Much better. 

Jack: As far as my wife/mommy is concerned a spanking cures all.

Prefectdt: Yes, loads of times. It is never the day of the spanking or the day after. But usually from the third to sixth day after a spanking, I get an increased ability to think logically and more effectively than I usually do. Every time that I have a big life decision to make, I try to get a spanking a week before I have to make that decision. It normally helps me to make the best choice.

A.J.: I can only recall one occasion where I wanted to be spanked to get my mind off the problems of the day (actually, a couple months.) The twins, time and place, got in the way and so it never happened. And then the 'turmoil' passed....

On the delivery end, my first spanking GF was experiencing a lot of stress at her job and approached me one afternoon to REALLY spank her! Not the fun spankings we both loved, but hard, long and painful. A REAL spanking! One to get her mind off her problems.

I said no. Actually, "NO!!"

She whined and begged and wore me down. Then gave me a paddle.

OK. "YOU" asked for it.

OTK and she was soon howling and kicking and squirming. I stopped! She said, "More." I did; then I couldn't. Threw the paddle down and looked at her beautiful face all blubbery with tears and crying; her cute tush RED and on its way to BLACK.

She went to work the next day, still sore. She said she felt better.

A few days later - she was back to worrying about her jobs and life and whatev.

Conclusion (mine): It didn't do a damn thing except bruise up the tush I loved. All the issues she had were still there. And SHE had to address them there, in her office.

She never asked me to do that again. (Which was good - I didn't want to.)

However - I do note that other responses to this Q are different from mine. So your mileage may vary.

Hermione: Yes, it has worked for me. When I need a real reset I hand over the wooden paddle with holes or the bath brush. It takes my mind off everything else, and I feel refreshed.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #593

We've been enjoying fiddleheads - a traditional Canadian springtime treat. Steamed, with a little butter added, they're delicious!

At last week's brunch, our good friend A.J. gave me a suggestion for this week's topic, and I love it.

Was there ever an occasion when you thought a spanking would help you get out of a funk or resolve a problem? Did you actually get that spanking, and did it help or not? 

Please leave your reply as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish a summary of our discussion.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for May 25

This week we discussed punishment spankings that were deserved but not given.

Bonnie: I think I deserve a spanking most days, but I don't always get it.

Wendel: The only time spankings are not given is if one of us is sick. Otherwise, if a spanking is deserved, needed or wanted it is given. 

Roz: I can't remember specifics now but there have been a couple of occasions I really thought a spanking was forthcoming but it didn't happen. 

Prefectdt: Punishment spankings don't really work for me. Even ones that were far too severe at the time give me fond memories later. This has left me curious about in DD and Ds relationships and how it works for them. I hope that one or two of them might take part in this week's brunch. It would be interesting to hear their take on this subject.

Rosco: If Irene is really annoyed with me, she’ll ignore me. Spanking is the last think she’ll do.

All my spankings involve fictional transgressions pretty much related to ogling schoolgirls as a teen - guilty memories that I’ve shared with her. She’s adopted these fantasies as her own it seems, and maybe there’s a bit of real anger mixed in with the sexual as she spanks me. She likes to make it hurt, she admits - and indeed it does.

But there have been times when I’ve really craved a good spanking and she’s busy or distracted or just not in the mood. Now that the kids are grown and gone, there’s no pressure to squeeze activities into a narrow time slot, so it hasn’t been a problem lately.

Anon: I probably deserve to be spanked everyday, but it never happens.

A.J.: Did you ever feel you really deserved a spanking, but didn't get one?

Oh, boy. Good question. Years ago and looking for someone to have me otk I found this wonderful woman. Had a great talk beforehand then she said:

"Everyone has done something in their lives that was wrong; something they should have been punished for but was not, something they 'got away' with. That's true for you, too, isn't it?"

Yes.

"I'm going to leave you alone for a couple of minutes and I want you to think what that was, and what your punishment should have been."

She left me alone. I thought. And came up with one. When I was about 12 or 13. Something I did to a girl in my class. Something that haunted me for a LONG time.

Ms. E comes back into the room, asks what it was and I tell her.

I got "the look." The, "Oh, you didn't..?" look. For real.

"What was her name?"

Susan.

"And if Susan was standing here, what would you tell her?"

I was wrong. Endless apologies. A regret I had held for years. Forgiveness.

"So this is long overdue. And it needs to be addressed. Today. Now. For your sake. Now, am I to be your mother - or Susan?"

Susan. (God - not my mother!)

She holds me by my elbow and takes me to a row of implements, considers what I did, and picks out a small paddle and a small strap.

"Susan" led me to her spanking chair, took me OTK, bared my bottom, and hand spanked me. I'm guessing 250-350 smacks by her (hard) hand. I was a nice red-pink. After the hand-spanks, a pause, small talk...then:

Susan: "And this is for what you did!"

"Susan" picked up that strap, held me tight around the waist - and let fly with that damn thing!

Vicious? No. Hard? YES!
By the second stroke with that strap I'm buckin' and rearin' with each one and I didn't know how many were coming.
Dear reader: I got strapped! Royally strapped! .

After about 25 or 30 with that damn strap, "Susan" stopped. I slid off her lap and immediately began to furiously rub my tush!!

Ms. E: "There. That should atone for what you did! And no whining - you deserved it!"

Smiling, I told her I did.

Did it help? At the moment, yes. On reflection, no; it should have come from actual "Susan." But it had to do.

Part 2:

"Was there an alternative punishment, or did the issue get resolved in another way?"

I'm going to flip this and bring up "issues resolved in another way."

Years ago. From early November, thru Thanksgiving, the Christmas holidays, New Years, travel, job, finances, friends, family and it all became overwhelming. Mid-January I'm thinking that what I needed was to be taken otk and spanked to a nice pink - and that might, at least, get my mind in order.

And, given the time and place - I had no one to provide that "therapy." Nothing happened. In a couple more weeks it all went away. The world was back to spinning in the right direction.

Mark: I've been spanked a couple of times when I've been moping around a bit blue, not knowing what to do next, and she's got sick of it. But, there have been many more times when she didn't but she should have! In each instance it would have been good for both of us.   

Luvinhub: There were many times that I deserved a spanking and did not get one. Usually that meant that she didn't feel like giving me a spanking and it was more of a silent treatment. Also, most times when I did get a spanking it wasn't as much as I deserved. Looking back I would say I was just at the point of wishing it was over when my wife stopped; that is probably when she should have doubled her efforts.

To answer your question Perfectdt, I was in a WLM with DD and punishment spankings worked. However, thinking about a spanking beforehand got me aroused and later thinking of the memory aroused me. But I assure you if I was aroused and hard before the spanking I was no longer aroused and there was no more erection.  

Hermione: I usually deserve one, but it's up to Ron to determine what punishment fits the crime.

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #592

Welcome to another weekend spanko brunch. Grab a sandwich, pour yourself a cup of coffee, and take a seat on one of the padded chairs. Let's take a stroll down memory lane and see what we were talking about ten years ago today.

We all spank for different reasons, and not everyone engages in them for punishment. However, there are times when only a spanking will do.

Did you ever feel you really deserved a spanking, but didn't get one? Was there an alternative punishment, or did the issue get resolved in another way?

Leave your reply as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish a summary of our discussion.

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Assume the Position

A traffic-stopper for sure!

 A big thank you goes out to Boru for sending me this photo.

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Roll of the Dice

There's a winner every time!

Thank you, S, for the awesome picture. I'm going to check Amazon to see if they have any in stock.

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for May 18

We discussed the first encounter with an implement.

Jack: My wife/mommy when we were dating used her hand until her mother showed up when I was being spanked. She knew her daughter had spanked me and it was a week before the wedding. I was over her lap, thankful to still have my underpants on. My future mother-in-law did not even sit down, she reached in her purse and it was a large hairbrush which she handed to her daughter and then she told her daughter spankings are on the bare bottom and she removed my underpants. That hairbrush hurt like hell and it was landed hard and fast. I danced around not caring all was on display until told to face the wall. A wedding gift from my mother-in-law was a bath brush, that long handle really warms my bare bottom today.

Rosco: I’m not certain, but I remember early on going to the Western store and buying a riding crop. There were no kink friendly shops in the early 80s.

I was trying to casually peruse the basket of crops thinking about what I might say if asked why I was purchasing it, when a buxom salesgirl approached. She told me the longer leather model was not necessary and the the small nylon crop hurt plenty. Then for a brief moment she lifted it as if to swat me before laughing it off.

It wasn’t a missed opportunity/fantasy as her serious looking boss was not far away, but it’s still something I think about now and then.

I bought both crops.

Norse Cavalier: The first item I ever used on a spankee was a paddle or strap or something at a BDSM event. I don't remember what it was and I didn't own it, so I have no idea where it is.

The first implement of my own was a clothes brush, purchased especially for this use. I still own it and use it as often as I can - though only for punishment spankings, since it's too severe for fun play.

Prefectdt: The first implement used on me during an adult spanking, which happened during my first spanking as an adult, was a tawse. This was a bit of a tradition in my hometown in the UK, as the schools in that town used the tawse rather than the cane, for corporal punishment. Even though I come from England rather than Scotland. It was not purchased especially for that incident. The owner had had that particular tawse, as well as a few others, for several years.   

Barrel: Like Rosco, ours was a 16" riding crop. I think they called it a bat, purchased from a western store. It has since given way to items with more impact.

A.J.: "The first implement, other than a hand, that you used...?"
My hand hurt (her tush was like leather!) so I had her get off my lap and find something in her apt. for me to use on her. Her panties were still at half-mast and I told her to leave them there. The sight of her duck-waking away from me - what a memory! She came back with a small leather strap thing. Never used it again - unless my hand hurt.

"...or had used on you?"

I was being a wise-ass (and stupid) in a rural antiques store and found an ancient small paddle once used to put bread into fireplace ovens. Loud and proud, I told her I could use this on her to protect my hand. Not amused. Bought the paddle; and as soon as we got home...!!!  

S: The first spanking implement I made was a wooden paddle made from some thin tightly grained light wood. It was very stingy and I remember it broke when I was paddling a particularly naughty woman. 

Roz: Our first spanking implement was a heavy wooden spoon purchased with spanking in mind. This was then followed by a leather paddle.

KDPierre: A yellow plastic bath brush that eventually broke at the neck, but which I saved as a nostalgic token/souvenir of my first step into what became a very long lifestyle. And while a common, seemingly vanilla item, it was bought for that purpose.

FL: A hairbrush, still my favourite. Can't beat the classics!

Anon: Paint stirring stick.

Donn: When the Wife and I were just getting started, she wanted a paddle to practice with. I fabricated a paddle out of 1/2" thick black nylon plank, about 16" long by 3" wide at the business end.

Yes, it was very effective, especially with an thin extended handle that gave her a lot of leverage. (Kind of like a nylon-shaped bath brush, without the bristles.

In the end, it cause her chronic wrist-injury too much discomfort. (The paddle was transferred to the scrap-plastic bin in my workshop, and eventually cut into smaller pieces for other miscellaneous projects.) 

Hermione: We were doing some redecorating, and when we bought the paint we were given a free paint stirrer. The more I used it during our painting sessions, the more I wanted to feel it on my bottom. So the next time we went paint shopping, I put the new stirrer aside. When the time was right, I told Ron of my desire, and he happily complied. He eventually painted it gold and called it the "Golden Paddle". We still have it, although it's pretty tame in comparison to most of our current implements.     

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #591

Greetings everyone, and welcome to another weekend spanko brunch. Here's a blast from the past; the reprise of a brunch we enjoyed ten years ago today. Most of us started on our spanking journey with hand spankings, then eventually progressed to implements made of wood, leather, or other materials. So I'd like you all to think back to your early days of spanking.

What was the first implement, other than a hand, that you used or had used on you? Was it purchased especially for that reason, or was it an existing item that was repurposed? Do you still use it?

Leave your answer as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion when everyone has had a chance to walk down memory lane.

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for May 11

What does the spanker say to indicate the spanking is over?

Bonnie: Frequently, Randy will finish with a flourish (imagine the grand finale of a fireworks show), announce "OK, you're done," straighten my skirt, and then help me back to my feet

Once in a while, he will ask me whether I need another spanking/harder spanking/the hairbrush/some other diabolical bottom beating punishment. I almost always decline so as not to insult his previous efforts. Well, that, and I am already plenty sore by this stage.

Norse Cavalier: If it's a punishment spanking, I can say something like "Shh, it's over now. You took that very bravely. Come here," followed by a hug.

If it's a fun spanking, she lets me know when it's enough, usually by saying "That's enough" or "I'd like to stop now" or something like that. I tend to like clear communication.

Rosco: Irene will give me some sort of instruction.

Last night she gave me a bedtime spanking. I’d already gotten in bed, she told me to get up and onto the massage table (which we often use for such purposes), spanked me with a leather strap then told me to get back in bed.

Sometimes Irene will order me to stand in the corner. More often she’ll demand that I massage her feet, which might include filing down her sexy callouses.

When she’s ready, Irene will simply order me to turn over, whereupon she will plant her luscious bottom and perfect pussy on my face for a bit of reverse cowgirl cunnilingus.  

Jack: Since all my spankings are punishment, It always start with Mommy wants my naughty little boy to... and it could be to the corner, put on his jammies, or get to the bathroom your getting a bath and to bed... it ends with do you understand, and my response is Yes Mommy.

Anon: As the spankee, I have nothing to say about ending it other than normal pleading which is entirely ignored. She has no routine for stopping. It just ends when she's done.

KDPierre: There are no nuanced or cute codes with us. She will either tell me we're done or stop long enough for me to ask if she is. Sometimes she says 'yes', and other times she will say, "no, just taking a break" or worse, "we're done for now, but you have more coming". 

Wendel: If the Misses says anything it will be stuff like “You’re done” or “That will teach you.” Most times it just ends. I do not have sayings or comments. When I am done spanking her it is over.  

CEM: I simply tell her to stand up and to go stand bare bottom exposed, facing the corner...I like the view. :)

Roz: For us it varies, often times it's actions rather than words that signal to me the spanking is over, such as pulling me back up to stand, or it may be some instruction that indicates the spanking part of proceedings is over.

Dan: It's usually something simple like, "I think that's enough," or "You can get up."

Prefectdt: There have been so many spankers over the years, and they all called the end in their own way. Every thing from a simple “You're done now” to one spanker who would go really hard, with an American style paddle, until I was forced to safe word. There are just too many variants to list them all.

Hermione: Ron doesn't say anything. He just puts the paddle down and begins the logical follow-on of intimacy.      

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Spanko Brunch 2.0 #590

Welcome back for another weekend spanko brunch. If this is your first time here, this is when we get together to discuss a topic related to spanking.

Some spankings are short, others are long, and still others seem to last forever. The time may vary, but all good things must come to an end. Sometimes it isn't easy to tell whether the person holding the paddle has stopped for a rest, or has finished spanking.

In your spanking experiences, what words does the spanker use to indicate that a spanking is over? Does the spankee also have something to say?

Leave your reply as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion once everyone has had an opportunity to speak. You may remain anonymous if you wish.

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Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for May 4

Is there an article of clothing that simply cries out "Spank me"?

KDPierre: No, nothing we currently own would instantly trigger a spanking, but I imagine if I purchased a T-shirt that read: "My wife is a crazy bitch!" and put it on before going out with her somewhere that I wouldn't end up driving to whatever rendezvous we had planned in an entirely different shirt and sitting on a stinging bottom. ;-)

Rosco: Many.

I’ve bought Irene several items of clothing for our role play. A dirndl, a matching tennis outfit, a fifties style country girl dress, a leather bra etc. if she puts on any of these I know what’s to follow.

And sometimes she’ll instruct me to put on a pair of lacy panties or my nightgown. A spanking might ensue immediately or I might wear the panties all day and be spanked in the evening. I also bought a hat for regular use, but Irene decided it looked like it belonged to a German schoolboy and so it has inspired a few spankings.

Wendel: The Misses has one particular pair of jeans that makes her butt scream “Spank Me Now!” Also, when she walks around the house without pants her panties tend to cry out for a spanking. In both cases I am eager to oblige.

Roz: No specific item of clothing, but wearing some sexy lingerie usually does the trick 😊

Prefectdt: Not really. It works better the other way round for me. If I am guaranteed a spanking, I will almost always wear one of my man thongs. Just so that that bare bottomed thing can go on without my boy bits bouncing around. As most of my spankings are for play rather than part of a sexual interaction, it just seems like good manners. I am happy to get spanked without them, if the Top or Domme so requests it.

Jack: I showed this to my wife/mommy, she said clothing plays no part when I need a spanking. She then reminded me that when she says to get my pajamas on no matter time of day means what? I say a spanking. 

Anon: A woman in a pair of boldly patterned skin tight bell bottoms always makes my palm itch and sometimes I cannot resist giving her a sharp smack on her lovely hiney.

Hermione: I have sweatpants that are two sizes too small for me. When I wear them...you can guess the rest. 

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