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What about your spankings would you like to change?
CEM: More. That would be my answer and it would be applicable to all questions or relevant topical issues or concerns. More... :)
Marie: More frequent overall and a greater emphasis on creating headspace, I'd say. Not roleplay, but setting a tone, really focusing, etc. Taking more time - for my husband (who is my primary play partner), it doesn't take as much for him to feel play is complete.
Wendel: More! The rest is a good blend of everything we enjoy so no changes needed.
Roz: Greater opportunities to indulge in spanking.
Luvinhub: Considering we are not in a WLM any longer more is definitely a change. Would love to step back into the WLM/DD. Besides that, from the past I would say intensity of strength and time, maybe even implements. But, all of that is scary when it comes down to it.
Prefectdt: I would like to get spanked more often. Outside of that, I would like to rely less on travelling and staying away, to get spanked. Finding one or more local spankers would be a big improvement to my play life.
A.J.: "intensity" No.
"frequency" A bit more.
"implements" God, no.
I
would like to play with more women, though, who think spanking is fun
and sexy. And to live (one more time!) having a woman watch as another
woman has me otk - and then we all switch! (Oh, yeah; I'm not crazy.)
Rosco: Spanking is
role play for most of us, i.e. we are pretending to engage in discipline
(yes, I know, not everybody). Irene and I take it a step further -
usually she creates a detailed pretext and often dresses for her part.
So
it doesn't work well to simply say can you do this not that or do it
harder or here not there etc. - we have those discussions after the fact
once in a while. It works well.
But the one thing Irene does not
really understand after almost 45 years is the first dozen or so whacks
feel very differently that those that come later. She "knows" it, but
since she has never been spanked she does not "understand" it. For me
the first onslaught hurts like the dickens, then I slip into a euphoria
where there is still pain but it is deeply satisfying.
Barrel: Like others, more frequency in the build up to intimacy AND in duration of serious sessions.
KDPierre: Definitely more. With time, age, and circumstance, things here have slowed and I wish they would pick up again. It's not like we stopped, but time spans between them have certainly lengthened.
Hermione: I would like more scolding or talking about the ongoing process to get me into a submissive headspace. Being told I am a naughty girl and deserve a good hard spanking would be a huge turnon for me.
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Well, well, a disturbing week, to be sure. However, let's enjoy each other's company and think of happier times. This is a repost of a topic we discussed exactly ten years ago today.
Depending on personal preference, we all enjoy giving and/or receiving
spankings, but there's always room for improvement, right? Would a
change in intensity, frequency, implements, talking or not, location, or
some other adjustment make the experience even more enjoyable for you?
What one thing related to spanking would you like to change? Is this change something that is possible?
Please leave your reply as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance
to speak, I will publish a
summary of our discussion.
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Our good friend A.J. found this startle and I'm pleased to share it with you. Here's what he said:
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This week we discussed multiple implements. How many have you experienced?
Roz: It varies, often there can be 2 implements, not counting the hand and occasionally 3 and they tend to be used on a rotational basis during the spanking. At least I have a brief reprieve from the sensation of each while another is being used.
Wendel: If you count the hand, then it would be 3 during the same session. Hand, paddle and finally the belt but we do just prefer one per session.
Donn: Accustomed? I don't think I would use that term, ever.
Yes,
my Disciplinary Wife sometimes uses up to three implements during a
punitive thrashing: Delrin Cane, Rubber Strap, and Wood/Delrin/Teflon
Paddle, usually in that order for maximum effect. (You can understand
why.)
(My last serious thrashing was a "four-weekend /
four-session" affair, with her repeatedly using her reformatory cane,
then a rubber strap onto those weals.)
However, she usually only
uses one or two implement: Cane or Rubber Strap, singly, together, or
one of those sometimes combined with a paddle.
"Do you prefer one
or many?" I prefer that she uses what will work to get the job done;
whatever works to best ensure she does NOT need to repeat the thrashing
for the same offense in the future.
That said, if "punitive
learning" is off the table, I would always prefer one implement: A
basic paddle -- least painful short term, but more pain tends to linger
longer-turn.
CEM: Multi-implement. Hand, other hand, hairbrushes, switches, paddles of various sizes, canes, also of various types and sizes, kitchen implements, riding crop, belt, straps, also again, of various types and sizes, not sure how many that is, can't really count that high anyway as...I'm not very smart. 😁
Luvinhub: Typically, my wife used her hand and then her purple heartwood paddle. The worst I had gotten included my very thick braided leather belt on top of the others.
Norse Cavalier: I prefer using my hand and then one paddle or brush. Not really a fan of using a lot of implements for a single spanking. Quite willing to do it if the young lady in question desires it, of course.
Jack: My wife/mommy only uses the bath brush, she want the spanking to get my attention from the start and to last longer after it is over. My mother-in-law always start with her hand, it hurts alot, she then uses her hairbrush and that is to remind not to rub, dance around, each of those spanks land very hard and hurt the most.
Anon: I like to use multiple implements to vary the sensations. Plus I have a lot of different implements and I have a hard time picking my favorite. In the end though, I like using my hand best.
Barrel: Our sessions are usually prefaced with a spanking by hand and then hairbrush or plastic paddle, followed up with a short outing for lunch or appetizers. The main event always includes more than one implement. She likes the handmade strap the best, so she usually starts with it to set the tone. The tawse is employed more frequently as she likes to deliver the twin tips into the more central, lower, tender areas. All sessions include thrashings with two delrin canes, one thicker that thuds and one thin that leaves intense weals. Occasionally, she will finish with the hairbrush or paddle so she can balance the color as she prefers. During any session, I don't prefer any of these, however I do wear and admire the welts from the tawse and weals from the thin cane with pride for days thereafter.
Prefectdt: A big fat yes :) . Getting spanked, for me, will involve a minimum of 5 toys or pervertables. Those will be the ones that I bring with me. And of course I am eager to experience anything that the spanker has and wants to use. I have never counted the number of toys and pervertables used in a play, but I suspect that there have been times when it could have been as many as 20, possibly more.
A.J.: Obviously, I'm the wuss in this group!
Giving,
it's all hand, and roaming hands at that. Until her tush is a nice
pink. I have used a belt before, but for its emotional effect on her
when she hears, "Do I have to take my belt off???" And her reaction to
just the SOUND of my belt being pulled from my jeans! Anticipation level peaks!
Application? Belts can really hurt so CAREFULLY! Difference between my hand vs. my belt? Zilch. It's all theater.
On the receiving end? Sumbitch!! The same!
Sage: Just two or three leather implements lately, as I've gotten enamored of leather.
Hermione: A typical session includes four implements. Ron chooses three and I may pick the fourth. Like Roz said, these are rotated during the session so I feel different sensations - all of them ouchy!
KDPierre: Normally it's just one - her custom paddle, but on certain occasions
where a bit of extra emphasis is desired she might finish with a few
nasty strokes from a synthetic switch we have. It leaves thick welts and
will hurt even after my butt has gotten numbed from her paddle.
However,
the record for most would have to be back in 2009 when Rosa and I did a
fun "Bless the House" game where we went from room to room (10 in all)
giving out 50 strikes with a different implement for each room. We went
from living room to porch and from attic to basement! Ouch! LOL
Hold onto your hats at noon EST today. The world as we know it is about to end. /s
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Welcome back, dear friends, to our weekly get-together. Today's topic might inspire some of you to go the extra distance, while others might be tempted to say, "No way!"
Are you accustomed to having multiple implements employed during a session? If so, what is the maximum number that have been used? Do you prefer one or many?
Please leave your response as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion once everyone has had a chance to join in.
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How has your attitude towards spanking changed over time?
Rosco: It's been 45
years. Initially, Irene spanked me because I suggested it. Over time,
she seemed to relish the disciplinary role. "I like to make it hurt",
she has said on occasion as though she is surprising herself.
Irene
likes to lecture me during these times. She gets quite annoyed if I
don't take her seriously. If I laugh, it doesn't last long.
We've
added several side courses to the main spanking dish - slapping my
privates, bondage, ice in sensitive places as well as a bit of
feminization from time to time.
CEM: I think people always experiment, evolve, try new things, adapt and adopt, but the core interest and activity mostly remains the same.
Dan: I think when
we first started disciplinary spankings, it was probably mostly my wife
accommodating my interest. Over the years, she's come to be way more
into it, because of the benefits she gets from it and, frankly, because
she's come to get off on the power involved.
For me, recently
I've gotten much more into the possibility of being less concerned about
confidentiality and with being more open about that aspect of our
relationship, including the (unlikely) possibility of spanking being
witnessed or overheard. I spent the first 20 years of our DD
relationship being paranoid about anyone finding out about it, and now
I've gone almost 180 degrees in the opposite direction and feel an
affirmative attraction to the ideal of (some) others knowing.
Sage: I've only
been doing this a year but have had a few changes. Have become much more
enamored of leather implements over time. My partner has become more
skilled at spanking me & so my pleasure has increased over time.
When
I first asked him to do it, there was a hurdle, as he at first was
afraid I might want him to make up rules for my life & keep track of
whether I follow them or not & spank me if I didn't. Which he didn't want to do.
I
kept communicating & he did too. Am so glad we're good at that, as
it is invaluable to know what each other want and don't want. He was
relieved when I made it very clear that I have zero desire for him to
make up rules for me.
My attitude toward myself and my
identity have changed somewhat too. I'm more relaxed about my life and
better able to focus. Before I got spanked the first time, I used to
think of myself as kind of frigid sexually. But my reactions to being
spanked revealed to me that that's not at all the case.
Roz: Our dynamic has gone through many changes over the years. We started spanking for fun and decided we wanted something more outside of the bedroom and embarked on a domestic discipline dynamic. From there we have constantly changed incorporating elements of BDSM and Daddy/lg at different times.
Jack: It has improved somewhat if you ask my wife/mommy. I still at times fall back, but it is quickly addressed with a spanking. My wife/mommy from the first spanking she gave me, told me it would not be the last. The changes are really before the spanking and after.
KDPierre: I could answer this two ways: long or short. The long version would take pages. The short answer seems more preferable for this situation, and it would be: "absolutely."
Barrel: Yes, we have evolved. Enhanced, actually. We used to spank as a prelude to intimacy, which we still do. But now we have periodic sessions where the spankings are disciplinary, longer, more intense and involve BDSM kinks. And recently, we have scheduled weekly check in’s, which are meant to be maintenance spankings, but we haven’t started yet due to busy schedules.
Wendel: Not too much
has changed over the years. We have gotten braver when outside. On a
mountain trail the Misses has been stripping naked to receive her
spanking. It adds to the excitement knowing that someone might come
along.
Like Dan we have thought about and discussed having someone
watch while spanking or maybe just peek through a cracked open door.
Prefectdt: Over time, I have had 3 major changes in my attitudes towards getting spanked. In the early days it was exciting and fun and just a great thing to be into. Later, I made the mistake of thinking that I could decide to be into spanking or not. This was the wrong attitude. Now I accept that it is something that is part of me and my life and something I have to take part in. That is my current attitude.
Hermione: It's been nearly 40 years for us, and over time, it's become more of a habit than something unusual or different. We have moved on from experimentation to sticking with the tried and true. With advancing age, my sexual desire has diminished, and although spanking, whether actual or imagined, is the only thing that stimulates me, the need and desire are less frequent.
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Welcome, one and all. I hope you all had a productive and peaceful week. (Are those two mutually exclusive?) No matter, it's the weekend, so let's enjoy a discussion on a topic suggested by regular brunch attendee Sage Blum.
How have your attitudes or needs around spanking changed over time? Or have they remained the same? If you are in a relationship, has the dynamic changed over time?
Please leave your response as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion once everyone has had a chance to join in.
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What a coincidence! After the discussion about tattoos at our latest brunch, I came across this lovely photo on Bored Panda of a sculpture found in a second-hand shop. While it represents work on a tattoo, I also thought there was a spanko quality to it. What do you think?
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How do you feel about spanking tattoos?
Wendel: Happy New Year Everyone!
I
do not have any interest in getting a tattoo. The Misses has talked
about getting a small one on her fanny that says “Spank Me”. Since she
has talked about it for years, I doubt it will ever happen.
Roz: I don't like tattoos so would never happen. If I ever did maybe the word 'spank' tattooed on my butt.
CEM: Not a fan of tattoos. For me, God/Mother Nature created human flesh perfectly, regardless of shade or color, no decoration or alteration required. But, people own their own bodies so for those that desire them, enjoy. I am partial however to "tattooing" a female bare bottom red. :)
Graham: No tats. Don't like most of the ones I've seen. Probably a generational thing.
Ronnie: I did think about having a heart tatooed on my bottom, but didn't.
Jack: I asked my wife/mommy about this, NO is a very stern voice. The only tattoo you will get is a very red bottom, and others will see.
Prefectdt: I would kind of like one, easily visible, on my lower arm. But I would like it to be of a symbol that only other spankos are likely to recognize. Not just the general BDSM triple tadpole symbol that I have seen on many other people. I am not against this symbol, it is just not for me. Perhaps an inverted green heart, to symbolize my submissive nature, might be better?
Barrel: Nope. Agree it is likely a generational thing.
KDPierre: No, but for me it's more of an aesthetic thing rather than a generational one. (And it would be a fairly long, technical, and likely boring explanation to describe my objection.) However, while I would not have a tattoo, I don't mind them on others...again as long as they 'work'. Tattoos that remind me of the haphazard application of travel stickers on a streamer trunk are not enviable. LOL.
A.J.: I HATE tattoos. Can't stand them but now they are everywhere. A particular hate? Women tattooing their breasts. Just kill me.
At
a dinner it came up. "K" said she might, but not really. Her husband
said if she did he would tie her the the outdoor deck and power-wash it
off her. (Kidding.)
Some years ago driving late and it came up on a talk radio show.
A whopping 50% of the male callers said they would not even date a woman who got one.
Leaving
the question for the women: Why would a single woman looking to
eventually get married get a tattoo when 50% of the available pool of
men HATE them?
Besides, most of the tattoos on women are flat-out ugly.
Donn: Nope: No
tattoos on my body regarding spanking, now or any time in the future.
Basically, I think supposedly decorative tattoos are anything but
decorative, especially as we all age and skin changes shape and
position.
(That said, I do have six "micro-tattoos" (1-2mm dia)
that I use as reference points for using a body-fat/composition caliper.
Those marks allow for very accurate positioning for maximum
repeatability/accuracy.)
Rosco: I’m thinking about getting a small discreet tattoo when I turn 70 later this year. I’ll give your suggestion some thought but I don’t think it will have anything to do with TTWD.
Hermione: I am constantly amazed at the number of tattoos I see on professionals on the various TV programs we watch. Why, why, why? They are a big NO for Ron and me.
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Happy New Year, everyone. The confetti has been swept up and the noisemakers put away, and now it's time to enjoy our first discussion of the new year.
Do you now, or would you ever, have a tattoo on your body that suggests or indicates your interest in spanking? If so, where on your body would it be? Have you ever seen such a tattoo on someone else?
Please leave your response as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion once everyone has had a chance to join in.
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