Welcome, one and all. I hope you all had a productive and peaceful week. (Are those two mutually exclusive?) No matter, it's the weekend, so let's enjoy a discussion on a topic suggested by regular brunch attendee Sage Blum.
How have your attitudes or needs around spanking changed over time? Or have they remained the same? If you are in a relationship, has the dynamic changed over time?
Please leave your response as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion once everyone has had a chance to join in.
Slava Ukraini
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It's been 45 years. Initially, Irene spanked me because I suggested it. Over time, she seemed to relish the disciplinary role. "I like to make it hurt", she has said on occasion as though she is surprising herself.
Irene likes to lecture me during these times. She gets quite annoyed if I don't take her seriously. If I laugh, it doesn't last long.
We've added several side courses to the main spanking dish - slapping my privates, bondage, ice in sensitive places as well as a bit of feminization from time to time.
Best,
Rosco
I think people always experiment, evolve, try new things, adapt and adopt, but the core interest and activity mostly remains the same.
I think when we first started disciplinary spankings, it was probably mostly my wife accommodating my interest. Over the years, she's come to be way more into it, because of the benefits she gets from it and, frankly, because she's come to get off on the power involved.
For me, recently I've gotten much more into the possibility of being less concerned about confidentiality and with being more open about that aspect of our relationship, including the (unlikely) possibility of spanking being witnessed or overheard. I spent the first 20 years of our DD relationship being paranoid about anyone finding out about it, and now I've gone almost 180 degrees in the opposite direction and feel an affirmative attraction to the ideal of (some) others knowing.
I've only been doing this a year but have had a few changes. Have become much more enamored of leather implements over time. My partner has become more skilled at spanking me & so my pleasure has increased over time.
When I first asked him to do it, there was a hurdle, as he at first was afraid I might want him to make up rules for my life & keep track of whether I follow
them or not & spank me if I didn't. Which he didn't want to do.
I kept communicating & he did too. Am so glad we're good at that, as it is invaluable to know what each other want and don't want. He was relieved when I made it very clear that I have zero desire for him to make up rules for me.
My attitude toward myself and my identity have changed somewhat too. I'm more relaxed about my life and better able to focus. Before I got spanked the first time, I used to think of myself as kind of frigid sexually. But my reactions to being spanked revealed to me that that's not at all the case.
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