Welcome, one and all. I hope you all had a productive and peaceful week. (Are those two mutually exclusive?) No matter, it's the weekend, so let's enjoy a discussion on a topic suggested by regular brunch attendee Sage Blum.
How have your attitudes or needs around spanking changed over time? Or have they remained the same? If you are in a relationship, has the dynamic changed over time?
Please leave your response as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion once everyone has had a chance to join in.
Slava Ukraini
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It's been 45 years. Initially, Irene spanked me because I suggested it. Over time, she seemed to relish the disciplinary role. "I like to make it hurt", she has said on occasion as though she is surprising herself.
Irene likes to lecture me during these times. She gets quite annoyed if I don't take her seriously. If I laugh, it doesn't last long.
We've added several side courses to the main spanking dish - slapping my privates, bondage, ice in sensitive places as well as a bit of feminization from time to time.
Best,
Rosco
I think people always experiment, evolve, try new things, adapt and adopt, but the core interest and activity mostly remains the same.
I think when we first started disciplinary spankings, it was probably mostly my wife accommodating my interest. Over the years, she's come to be way more into it, because of the benefits she gets from it and, frankly, because she's come to get off on the power involved.
For me, recently I've gotten much more into the possibility of being less concerned about confidentiality and with being more open about that aspect of our relationship, including the (unlikely) possibility of spanking being witnessed or overheard. I spent the first 20 years of our DD relationship being paranoid about anyone finding out about it, and now I've gone almost 180 degrees in the opposite direction and feel an affirmative attraction to the ideal of (some) others knowing.
I've only been doing this a year but have had a few changes. Have become much more enamored of leather implements over time. My partner has become more skilled at spanking me & so my pleasure has increased over time.
When I first asked him to do it, there was a hurdle, as he at first was afraid I might want him to make up rules for my life & keep track of whether I follow
them or not & spank me if I didn't. Which he didn't want to do.
I kept communicating & he did too. Am so glad we're good at that, as it is invaluable to know what each other want and don't want. He was relieved when I made it very clear that I have zero desire for him to make up rules for me.
My attitude toward myself and my identity have changed somewhat too. I'm more relaxed about my life and better able to focus. Before I got spanked the first time, I used to think of myself as kind of frigid sexually. But my reactions to being spanked revealed to me that that's not at all the case.
Our dynamic has gone through many changes over the years. We started spanking for fun and decided we wanted something more outside of the bedroom and embarked on a domestic discipline dynamic. From there we have constantly changed incorporating elements of BDSM and Daddy/lg at different times.
Hugs
Roz
It has improved somewhat if you ask my wife/mommy. I still at times fall back, but it is quickly addressed with a spanking. My wife/mommy from the first spanking she gave me, told me it would not be the last. The changes are really before the spanking and after. Especially after, pajama punishment, early bedtime. Prior to a longer scolding and does not matter if someone else is present. The worse was that my mother-in-law at her home she does the spanking, and I dread those the most. Jack
I could answer this two ways: long or short. The long version would take pages. The short answer seems more preferable for this situation, and it would be: "absolutely."
Yes, we have evolved. Enhanced, actually. We used to spank as a prelude to intimacy, which we still do. But now we have periodic sessions where the spankings are disciplinary, longer, more intense and involve BDSM kinks. And recently, we have scheduled weekly check in’s, which are meant to be maintenance spankings, but we haven’t started yet due to busy schedules.
Not too much has changed over the years. We have gotten braver when outside. On a mountain trail The Misses has been stripping naked to receive her spanking. It adds to the excitement knowing that someone might come along.
Like Dan we have thought about and discussed having someone watch while spanking or maybe just peek through a cracked open door.
Wendel
Over time, I have had 3 major changes in my attitudes towards getting spanked. In the early days it was exciting and fun and just a great thing to be into. Later, I made the mistake of thinking that I could decide to be into spanking or not. This was the wrong attitude. Now I accept that it is something that is part of me and my life and something I have to take part in. That is my current attitude.
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