Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for May 31

We talked about spanking for punishment. Was there a time when you should have been spanked, but weren't?

Rosco: When Irene is truly annoyed with me, she ignores me. I don’t think it’s intentional punishment, but it feels that way.

Spankings are generally for imaginary infractions like being distracted by schoolgirls or maybe not doing my homework (ageplay, they call it). Occasionally she’ll threaten a spanking for not doing something around the house, but I don’t think it ever happens.

I fantasize about real discipline, but I don’t think I’m interested.

Roz: There have been a few occasions when I thought a spanking was forthcoming but it didn't happen.

Jack: If I think I will not be spanked and got away with it, I know I'm kidding myself. My wife/mommy has told me she needs to 'cool' off and just calm down.

KDPierre: I think this happens to just about everyone (in a disciplinary relationship) over time. It's just how life works. Things pop up, get in the way, and then the moment is lost and you either try to revisit it another time or just move on. Living this type of lifestyle is complicated, especially over the long haul, so I think it's best to focus on the positives and let go of the occasional, and inevitable, "what could have beens". 

Prefectdt: The problem is for me that, although I pretend to see spankings as punishment, really I see them as a reward. So yes, there have been lots of times when I have achieved hard to do or difficult things, when I feel that I have truly earned a “well done” spanking, but there is no one around to give me one. Just life, I suppose.     

Barrel: We don't really use spanking as punishment, although our sessions do take on a stern and reprimanding tone. There have definitely been times when I deserved discipline and didn't get it right away. We tend to work things out but remember to reinforce the outcome at the end of her cane when we schedule a session.

TTWD: My experience is similar to KDPierre's. Many (most) of my spankings are disciplinary, but sometimes we just continue doing what we are doing, and by the next day, although I might remember why (or not), Cindy has forgotten. Cindy's spankings have become really effective and strong, similar to what you used to describe for your spankings. At that time, Cindy felt they were too strong, but if she would read them now, she would realize they are the appropriate level needed, and what she gives me, or ours are even stronger. 

Graham: Absolutely! But not everything in life is perfect. And spankings are hardly the only important thing in our lives. 

Bonnie: Yes, definitely. But I usually get that spanking eventually.

A.J.: Did you ever feel you really deserved a spanking, but didn't get one?

No. But did really WANT a spanking, but didn't get one?
Yes.
Give a spanking, but didn't get to?
Also yes.

Was there an alternative punishment, or did the issue get resolved in another way?

I don't believe in punishment spanking unless it is part of playing so, not a good question for me.

Ronnie: Yes, definitely. But things get in the way and the spanking doesn’t happen.

Hermione: For us, spankings are a reward, not a punishment.  If Ron is mad at me, he will postpone our spanking until he's in a better mood.

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