Boru sent me a couple of images that made me stop and think:
And here are a few more:

"You'll never be as hot as we are, no matter what bikini you buy."
Happy hump day!
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Has a spanking ever gotten you out of a funk?
FL: Spanking for me is 100% sexual, so while I enjoy roleplay and "punishments", it's not really about that. Real issues should be dealt with by discussing them as adults, and equals. But spankings, especially unexpected ones, have certainly brightened my day and put me in a much better mood on occasion.
Wendel: Spankings are great stress relievers. All the worries, except for how sore we will be, leave the body.
When she cannot sleep in the middle of the night the Misses will wake me up with a hard whack of the paddle. She does it because once I catch my breath I whip her bottom. Once whipped she falls asleep almost immediately. I guess spankings help with sleeping as well.
I must try that!
Roz: There have been the odd occasion I felt a spanking may help lift a mood or anxiety. It has sort of worked. But in that situation any benefits were mainly temporary.
Bonnie: Yes, yes, and yes. Randy knows a good spanking will fix my funk.
CEM: As most here already know, this is actually based on biology and science. Dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin are brain chemicals, also known as neurotransmitters or hormones, that play a crucial role in our mood, emotions, and overall well-being. These "happy chemicals" work together to regulate feelings like happiness, motivation, relaxation, and social connection.
Mija: Sometimes stress and anxiety freeze me in place, until I can't do anything. There's something about a spanking sometimes that makes me stop ruminating and start acting again. Much better.
Jack: As far as my wife/mommy is concerned a spanking cures all.
Prefectdt: Yes, loads of times. It is never the day of the spanking or the day after. But usually from the third to sixth day after a spanking, I get an increased ability to think logically and more effectively than I usually do. Every time that I have a big life decision to make, I try to get a spanking a week before I have to make that decision. It normally helps me to make the best choice.
A.J.: I can only
recall one occasion where I wanted to be spanked to get my mind off the
problems of the day (actually, a couple months.) The twins, time and
place, got in the way and so it never happened. And then the 'turmoil'
passed....
On the delivery end, my first spanking GF was
experiencing a lot of stress at her job and approached me one afternoon
to REALLY spank her! Not the fun spankings we both loved, but hard,
long and painful. A REAL spanking! One to get her mind off her
problems.
I said no. Actually, "NO!!"
She whined and begged and wore me down. Then gave me a paddle.
OK. "YOU" asked for it.
OTK
and she was soon howling and kicking and squirming. I stopped! She
said, "More." I did; then I couldn't. Threw the paddle down and looked
at her beautiful face all blubbery with tears and crying; her cute tush
RED and on its way to BLACK.
She went to work the next day, still sore. She said she felt better.
A few days later - she was back to worrying about her jobs and life and whatev.
Conclusion
(mine): It didn't do a damn thing except bruise up the tush I loved.
All the issues she had were still there. And SHE had to address them
there, in her office.
She never asked me to do that again. (Which was good - I didn't want to.)
However - I do note that other responses to this Q are different from mine. So your mileage may vary.
Hermione: Yes, it has worked for me. When I need a real reset I hand over the wooden paddle with holes or the bath brush. It takes my mind off everything else, and I feel refreshed.
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We've been enjoying fiddleheads - a traditional Canadian springtime treat. Steamed, with a little butter added, they're delicious!
At last week's brunch, our good friend A.J. gave me a suggestion for this week's topic, and I love it.
Was there ever an occasion when you thought a spanking would help you get out of a funk or resolve a problem? Did you actually get that spanking, and did it help or not?
Please leave your reply as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish a summary of our discussion.
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This week we discussed punishment spankings that were deserved but not given.
Bonnie: I think I deserve a spanking most days, but I don't always get it.
Wendel: The only time spankings are not given is if one of us is sick. Otherwise, if a spanking is deserved, needed or wanted it is given.
Roz: I can't remember specifics now but there have been a couple of occasions I really thought a spanking was forthcoming but it didn't happen.
Prefectdt: Punishment spankings don't really work for me. Even ones that were far too severe at the time give me fond memories later. This has left me curious about in DD and Ds relationships and how it works for them. I hope that one or two of them might take part in this week's brunch. It would be interesting to hear their take on this subject.
Rosco: If Irene is really annoyed with me, she’ll ignore me. Spanking is the last think she’ll do.
All
my spankings involve fictional transgressions pretty much related to
ogling schoolgirls as a teen - guilty memories that I’ve shared with
her. She’s adopted these fantasies as her own it seems, and maybe
there’s a bit of real anger mixed in with the sexual as she spanks me.
She likes to make it hurt, she admits - and indeed it does.
But
there have been times when I’ve really craved a good spanking and she’s
busy or distracted or just not in the mood. Now that the kids are grown
and gone, there’s no pressure to squeeze activities into a narrow time
slot, so it hasn’t been a problem lately.
Anon: I probably deserve to be spanked everyday, but it never happens.
A.J.: Did you ever feel you really deserved a spanking, but didn't get one?
Oh,
boy. Good question. Years ago and looking for someone to have me otk I
found this wonderful woman. Had a great talk beforehand then she said:
"Everyone
has done something in their lives that was wrong; something they should
have been punished for but was not, something they 'got away' with.
That's true for you, too, isn't it?"
Yes.
"I'm
going to leave you alone for a couple of minutes and I want you to think
what that was, and what your punishment should have been."
She
left me alone. I thought. And came up with one. When I was about 12
or 13. Something I did to a girl in my class. Something that haunted
me for a LONG time.
Ms. E comes back into the room, asks what it was and I tell her.
I got "the look." The, "Oh, you didn't..?" look. For real.
"What was her name?"
Susan.
"And if Susan was standing here, what would you tell her?"
I was wrong. Endless apologies. A regret I had held for years. Forgiveness.
"So this is long overdue. And it needs to be addressed. Today. Now. For your sake. Now, am I to be your mother - or Susan?"
Susan. (God - not my mother!)
She
holds me by my elbow and takes me to a row of implements, considers
what I did, and picks out a small paddle and a small strap.
"Susan"
led me to her spanking chair, took me OTK, bared my bottom, and hand
spanked me. I'm guessing 250-350 smacks by her (hard) hand. I was a
nice red-pink. After the hand-spanks, a pause, small talk...then:
Susan: "And this is for what you did!"
"Susan" picked up that strap, held me tight around the waist - and let fly with that damn thing!
Vicious? No. Hard? YES!
By the second stroke with that strap I'm buckin' and rearin' with each one and I didn't know how many were coming.
Dear reader: I got strapped! Royally strapped! .
After about 25 or 30 with that damn strap, "Susan" stopped. I slid off her lap and immediately began to furiously rub my tush!!
Ms. E: "There. That should atone for what you did! And no whining - you deserved it!"
Smiling, I told her I did.
Did it help? At the moment, yes. On reflection, no; it should have come from actual "Susan." But it had to do.
Part 2:
"Was there an alternative punishment, or did the issue get resolved in another way?"
I'm going to flip this and bring up "issues resolved in another way."
Years
ago. From early November, thru Thanksgiving, the Christmas holidays,
New Years, travel, job, finances, friends, family and it all became
overwhelming. Mid-January I'm thinking that what I needed was to be
taken otk and spanked to a nice pink - and that might, at least, get my
mind in order.
And, given the time and place - I had no one to
provide that "therapy." Nothing happened. In a couple more weeks it
all went away. The world was back to spinning in the right direction.
Mark: I've been spanked a couple of times when I've been moping around a bit blue, not knowing what to do next, and she's got sick of it. But, there have been many more times when she didn't but she should have! In each instance it would have been good for both of us.
Luvinhub: There were
many times that I deserved a spanking and did not get one. Usually that
meant that she didn't feel like giving me a spanking and it was more of
a silent treatment. Also, most times when I did get a spanking it
wasn't as much as I deserved. Looking back I would say I was just at
the point of wishing it was over when my wife stopped; that is probably
when she should have doubled her efforts.
To answer your question
Perfectdt, I was in a WLM with DD and punishment spankings worked.
However, thinking about a spanking beforehand got me aroused and later
thinking of the memory aroused me. But I assure you if I was aroused
and hard before the spanking I was no longer aroused and there was no
more erection.
Hermione: I usually deserve one, but it's up to Ron to determine what punishment fits the crime.
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Welcome to another weekend spanko brunch. Grab a sandwich, pour yourself
a cup of coffee, and take a seat on one of the padded chairs. Let's take a stroll down memory lane and see what we were talking about ten years ago today.
We all spank for different reasons, and not everyone engages in them for
punishment. However, there are times when only a spanking will do.
Did you ever feel you really deserved
a spanking, but didn't get one? Was there an alternative punishment, or
did the issue get resolved in another way?
Leave your reply as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish a summary of our discussion.
Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine