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Does the spanker in your relationship sometimes spank to send a message? If so, how is that accomplished?
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Thank you, Bonnie, for suggesting the topic.
Slava Ukraini
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Yes, absolutely. There are lots of messages. Examples include "I want you to listen to what I'm telling you" or "I'm going to be in charge now" or "You need some guidance" or "I'm going to resolve this problem right now."
He delivers his message through spankings. He forcefully strikes my bare bottom many times with a paddle. It hurts and I get his point.
Pretty much like Bonnie said. The paddle and the belt does all the talking.
Wendel
Pretty much that she wants her pussy licked. Sometimes Irene means to spank longer and harder but can’t wait. - she orders me to turn over and smothers me with her ample bottom and precious pussy.
Sorry/not sorry for the graphic language,
Rosco
Oh yes, there is often a message behind the spanking. Either addressing an issue, or it could be making it plain that the spanking is for fun. The message is delivered through the words Rick uses, his general demeanor during the spanking and how he spanks, how hard, whether there are pauses to rub etc
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Roz
Yes. As the spanker, the message I'm sending usually, "Don't do that again".
The subtext is, "You are submitting to me." Sometimes that's the text, but usually it's the subtext.
Obviously, there's another message, too. "Your bottom is lovely!"
(Especially with this nice red color.)
I have never been in that kind of relationship, but I am interested in reading everyone else's answers.
Prefectdt
My spankings are for being a naughty little boy even though I'm the husband. It depends on what I did, for it is not just the spanking but afterwards. Just the normal would be facing the wall with bare bottom on display. I feel like a little boy which my wife/mommy enjoys. If spanked naked, I face the wall naked, and no matter who might drop in I stay. The worse is the truly little boy punishment. A spanking, then having to put on my pajamas, no matter time of day, face the wall with bottoms down. Sent to bed early, given a little boys bath prior to going to work and this could be the norm for a week. The message is heard loud and clear, Mommy will not tolerate a little boy behavior in her home. I dread this the most, and have been seen, and I must say that Mommy spanked me, tell the reason. My wife/Mommy knows how to address and send the message loud and clear, Mommy knows Best and best do as Mommy saids. Jack
I don't think we've ever done a spanking without SOME sort of message. Naturally on the behavioral end, the message is usually one to behave in the future and to be currently contrite for whatever already happened. And Rosa has also done preventive warning spankings where the message is kind of "Your sore butt will help remind you to behave while we're out."
I'm very big on understanding what a spanking is for. Even a requested spanking is asked for with a reason. I can't imagine enduring the pain of a spanking without knowing why, even if the message is one of play or fun. In whatever case the message is conveyed verbally for clarity, and then punctuated with smacks for reinforcement.
Absolutely! When a session is spawned by bad behavior or disrespect, my wife uses the opportunity to send a message. Spanking is usually a prelude to her use of the strap, tawse and two delrin canes. She uses each to deliver a different lesson, often times asking if I “understand” her message, after which she tells me she doubts that I do and I get a long volley of what ever she has in her hand. I have to say when she is using the thin cane, it is eye watering. After years of these thrashings, I do believe her messages are opportunities for me to learn and improve. Great question this week. Thank you.
Barrel
All my spanking, giving or receiving, is for the sheer fun of it, and always leading to amorous activities! I don’t think that qualifies as “sending a message” (or does it?), so I’m going to say no.
A.
Pretty much as Bonnie says. P delivers his message through the spankings, Bad behaviour, not listening to him, fun.
Love,
Ronnie
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