While I rarely have cooking mishaps, some people aren't so lucky.
Wait! Where's the yolk?
The early breakfast eater thought this was Cinnamon Toast Crunch cereal. Turns out it was a bowl of Cheezits crackers.
Oops!
How's that working out for you?
Finally, a recipe from a reader that you're sure to love.
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We discussed punishment spankings in an otherwise erotic spanking relationship, and here's what you said.
FL: We had been trading teasing texts all day, where I was threatened with a good spanking. She had an engagement that evening and wouldn't be home until very late, so I went to bed my usual time thinking we'd pick up at a later date. Around midnight I was woken up by being harshly told to fetch the hairbrush and meet her downstairs, NOW! I did as told and received two separate, very hard spankings over her knee. This wasn't a fun, sexy session, it was real and it hurt. And yes, I loved every minute of it, particularly the spontaneity.
Mark: I've discovered, since we agreed that my wife could punish me at her discretion, that she really hates the coffee machine being dirty. She had warned me several times, but it rocked me back on my heels when she appeared with the cane and told me to drop my pants and bend over the table. She proceeded to cane me harder than she ever had before. Coffee machine cleaning is now a priority!
Graham: Yes, I have on several occasions asked for a strictly disciplinary spanking. They also served as great stress relief, though that was not the primary purpose.
Jack: Spankings are a great stress relief, but I also learned that my wife/mommy is a woman who knows that it is the wife that keeps the marriage together, and was taught by her mother that a wife will be the Mommy also, they go hand in hand. My wife/mommy will spank me for being naughty, she will also spank me when my attitude is not acceptable. If I come home from work with a bad attitude, she will allow me to calm down, but a bed time spanking will happen, and nothing worse then going to bed with a very sore spanked bottom.
CEM: I see it a different way. For me, all spankings have to have an "erotic" vibe, whether that is the sole objective or if they are punitive in nature. Without that element, it would be just abusive. So playful, disciplinary, foreplay, or whatever combination of the above, without some sort of sexual or erotic component I would not be administering one as it would seem like assault.
Wendel: Our spankings are meant to be fun. Obviously things we do may spark the other to give out a spanking but the fun factor is still present. There are times when the Misses misbehaves and will ask to be spanked because she was a bad girl. I paddle her fanny much harder. Occasionally If I do something that annoys the Misses she will announce that I am getting a whipping. She will retrieve the belt and let me have it.
Roz: Our dynamic has gone through many changes over the years and spanking has been both solely for play and also as a consequence at different times. There have been both times I have suggested a spanking and been surprised by a spanking over the years.
Rosco: Irene has
never used and perhaps never heard the terms sexy or punishment
spankings. I see them as sexy because at any moment I could say I don’t
want to do this. But I never have and probably never will.
I
rarely know what I’ll get. Sometimes it’s as few as twenty swats before
cunnilingus. Sometimes it’s an hour or more of intermittent intense
spankings on the bottom and more sensitive spots, bondage, maybe ice
cubes in my rectum and other sorts of “torture”. So far I’ve endured and
relished all the discipline and never used a safe word,. It’s only been
44 years.
Prefectdt: I don't really have a relevant answer to most of the question, so I thought that I would just answer the part that goes…
Or as a bottom, have you ever been genuinely shocked by a spanking your Top decided you had coming?
Someone
decided that I needed a punishment caning once and gave me my first
crusher caning. A crusher caning is when a male spankee is bent over a
hard surface, in this case a table, and has their legs stretched out
straight away from the table, so that they cannot support any body
weight. As the spankee bends over to get into this position. The spanker
uses the cane to lift the male genitalia onto the table. So that the
old boy tackle is between the body of the spankee and the table and not
left dangling free. I was given an extensive caning in this position,
during which I got a good buzz and ended up enjoying the scene. Then I
was instructed to stand up and the blood returned to my testicles that
had been repeatedly crushed against the table, as my body was driven
forward by the cane and my natural reaction to the strokes. Almost
immediately, I was on my knees and fighting the desire to throw up. The
type of pain was horrible, and it was about 3 hours before I could stand
up straight again. Then I found out the real punishment part of this
type of caning. I did find this experience both shocking and surprising,
in its effect.
Marie: Interesting Q. My husband and I have a bit of a kink mismatch - despite both being spankos - he prefers them to be more as foreplay or true play, where discipline is at the core of my kink. That's not to say I don't enjoy play or sexy spankings or more lighthearted ones, it's just not at the top of my list, so to speak. He definitely prefers them be mostly fun and since he's doing the spanking, that's how most of them default. I have asked for a more true punishment before, but it's me driven, not his decision so to speak, but if he agrees, then he's in control of the "how". Recently, I was teasing him though, clearly trying to provoke a *bit* of bottom smacking, and he came into my office where I was tidying and put me over his knee and spanked me so hard, probably the hardest hand spanking he's ever given me, cold, right from the start. It was amazing but caught me so off guard! His hand is pretty large and heavy to begin with so he's a firm handspanker, but I remember being so (pleasantly - ha!) surprised by his response. Those moments are truly lovely.
Barrel: We always spank for pleasure and foreplay. But we also use a session when called for due to behavioral needs and certainly stress relief. We are both working to use our tawse to reach the more intimate and tender areas which are being exposes with careful arrangements of restraints. When properly delivered, the results are amazingly intense. We have added a protective cup which allows uninhibited access. Genuinely shocked…yep, in a good way.
KDPierre: Thank you
for posting this topic. Rosa and I are kind of a multi-purpose spanking
couple, but genuine discipline has certainly been a core motive. Given
how long we’ve been doing this there certainly have been times when she
has told me I had a spanking coming that took me by surprise, though, to
be honest, I usually know when I have screwed up and am not generally
surprised by most punishments.
One time that does stand out dates
back many years when Rosa and I had just roughed out what our domestic
discipline policy would be. For those familiar with my blog or past
writings, you may recall that the key tenets were that Rosa would have
authority over my domestic behavior, and that she did not want our
lifestyle to be kept hidden out of fear or shame, but rather be an open
demonstration of one possible alternate way that a couple could choose
to live. As such, those in our house (her three kids) and anyone outside
of the house deemed worthy of trust, would know that she had this
authority allowing for no hindrance in her exercising it. I was
initially surprised she wanted to be that open, having chosen the secret
route in my prior household with my own kids, but she seemed to think
there would be no downside with it and I trusted her, and therefore
agreed.
One day we were all having dinner together as a family
and there was some playful teasing going on that emboldened me to poke
some fun at her. At one point she warned me that I should be careful
about what I was choosing to say, but I continued anyway thinking it was
all in fun. At one point she just flat out announced in front of
everyone that she found my teasing to be inappropriate and disrespectful
and that I would be punished for it. She then told me to kindly follow
her ‘to the room’. I still thought she was kidding until she insisted
she certainly was not, stood, took me by the hand and said “Let’s go.”
Confronted
with the reality of the lifestyle I had chosen to live, and obligated
to honor my word, I blushed mightily and with an expression of disbelief
and embarrassment, followed her behind closed doors still not believing
this was happening. Our bedroom was mere yards from the dining room
where my stepkids all sat a bit surprised yet amused. And there I got a
serious paddle spanking that would be impossible not to hear.
Later
I thought that Rosa might have been using my teasing (which wasn’t
anything THAT bad) as an excuse to clearly establish a precedent for
what things were going to be like; when asked, she admitted with a
smile that was precisely her intention.
Hermione: Our spankings have never been for punishment, and as Ron is a guy who prefers routine, there are no surprised in our spankings.
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Our good friend KDPierre came up with this week's topic, so I'll let him introduce it.
"We all know that some people spank for sexy play and others for punishment, and others yet for a combination of both, yet everyone kind of recognizes that regardless of the REAL reason for a spanking, they all have a certain punitive 'vibe' to them, whether genuine or role-played."
To those who spank only for sexy play, have you, as a Top, ever suggested a genuine spanking for something that bothered you? Or, as a bottom, ever had such a suggestion put to you by your Top? And for those who do use spanking as punishment, have you ever suggested one that took your bottom by surprise? or as a bottom have you ever been genuinely shocked by a spanking your Top decided you had coming?
Please leave your response as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion once everyone has had a chance to speak.
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Two weeks ago I noted at the end of the brunch update that Blogger bots had decided that the post was spam. Well, today they changed their minds. Here's an excerpt from the email I received:
"We have re-evaluated the post titled "Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for November 10" against Community Guidelines. Upon review, the post has been reinstated."
Thank you, humans at Google. The funny thing is, they included a link to that post, but the link didn't work! I guess some human mis-typed it :)
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How creative are you when it comes to incorporating spanking into games or activities?
Anon: Let me count the ways! Billiards, ping pong, Scrabble, Cribbage, gin rummy, Mancala, etc. We're not golfers, but nothing prevents you from coming up with a system. Given that my butt is tougher than hers, the losing margin for me is a multiple of what it would be for her. Surprising as it may seem, we are usually able to complete several games/rounds before succumbing to the inevitable climax, as it were!
Roz: What a great, fun question! Nothing currently but the possibilities are endless. Great food for thought.
Wendel: Incorporating
spanking into golf might not be good for us. We have only played once
before and suck really bad. Our butts would be so sore by the 3rd hole
that we could not keep pants on or walk.
As for part two: Spanking makes all activities better.
Mark: Dinner party with close friends...
Luvinhub: We ride bicycles and currently ride tandem bike on bike trails more than anything else. I have thought/fantasized my wife whipping me with a riding crop to pull more of the weight on the tandem or for whatever reason was to come up to stop and have to find a switch for her to use to punish me with my bike shorts down.
Prefectdt: One of my main hobbies is photography. So I could go round taking pictures of people getting spanked... Oh! Wait a minute. There are a lot of people doing that already, so that is not much fun. I do love walking in nature. It would be a lot of fun exploring an area, with a willing spanker, to find places to use freshly cut switches. Also, not very unique, but it is something that I would like to try.
S: I like to workout with weights. Sometimes I pretend if I do not do a specific number of reps, I get paddled for the shortfall. It helps to keep me motivated.
FL: Failing to do the housework to her exacting standards. It turns a boring but necessary chore into a delightful game. Of course I do a proper and thorough job but might just deliberately leave a table undusted or a mop and bucket not put away. The house ends up spotless, my backside not so much.
CEM: Pretty much anything and everything around the house. But nothing (for the most part) outside the home in public. Too worried about public exposure and someone misconstruing the activity, legal issues, etc.
Barrel: I agree with Roz…endless possibilities.
On
my 60th birthday, I crafted a session around the number 6. My wife
spanked 6 minutes with her hand, 6 minutes with the hairbrush, 6 minutes
with the paddle…all followed up with 60 strokes, at her choosing, split
between the tawse, thick and thin delrin canes. Very memorable. My
70th is not too far off and I’m thinking of the possibilities.
Jean Marie: I thought
of sports first. I've never played cricket, but their bat resembles the
worst of heavy fraternity/sorority paddles. I'd love to know what a
solid wallop with a cricket bat feels like. Then my mind went to
paddleball. I have played this game with some female (non-spanko)
friends. The whole time I played, I was swatting my palm with that
paddle, imagining what it'd feel like with my tennis togs pulled down. I
used to have a boyfriend in college who had a table tennis or ping pong
set-up. I was spanked with one of those paddles. It had a rough rubber
coating that REALLY stung!
As for non-sporting endeavors, I love to
cook. It's romantic to cook with a partner while wearing only an apron;
it's sexy to cook and spank at the same time! I've had many recipes
ruined because our spanking play got carried away, burned both the dish
and my derriere!
Doon: My wife
does not allow any fun or erotic thrashings as part of our dynamic.
My thrashings are solely to improve our relationship, either through my
own behavior, our interactions, or for our joint or individual stress
management. That said, I will talk to my wife and suggest there are
ways she could improve my performance in various areas that might be game-like or sports-like and which she might enjoy (immediate, and
long term improvements).
I suppose these performance enhancing
thrashings could be based upon my improvements in either the mental or
physical realm. I would, however, want them to be based upon my own
performance and ability to improve that performance, and not
(particularly) upon random chance.
I suppose competing against my
wife in games of Scrabble(R" could be used to enhance my verbal /
vocabularly performance, with x-many slashes from one of her rubber
straps for every point I fail to earn above some premium + past average
(10 games). That way, I would always be working from behind my
previous score, and would absolutely, continuously have to improve my
skills to avoid a serious thrashing. PRETTY STRONG MOTIVATION!
Something
similar could be done with chess, along with a player move timer. I
have to win, and do it under some past average (10 games) - premium.
That way, again, I would always be playing behind, and have to BOTH
win and win faster to avoid a thrashing.
In sports, I could be
required to run a fixed course, carrying a weighted ruck-sack, in a
certain minimum time. Once again, the penalty cut-in would be any final
time more than past average (10 runs) - premium. Once again, I'd
always be behind, forcing continuous improvement to avoid the PENALTY.
This could be made even harder by my not being allowed to have a
stopwatch with me during the run -- having no way to know whether I was
ahead or behind the required pace; made even harder by basing the
penalty upon the number of minutes I fail to meet the newer, faster pace
(30 strokes of strap / minute slow).
I suppose that now that I
have suggested this, I should tell my wife, before she reads it for
herself, and comes up with some ideas of her own.
KDPierre: We have a pool table in our living room and every so often, Rosa and I play a private tournament of 8-ball that is absurdly one-sided and slanted in her favor. I play naked while she is clothed and there are penalty spanks for just about everything in differing amounts. No matter how well I play there simply is no escaping an extremely sore bottom! The last time we played I actually tallied up what I ended up getting and it came out to over 800 whacks!
Hermione: In the summer we play lawn darts, a game that Ron loves because he is so much better then I am at aiming for the tiny circle way off in the distance. So I would obviously be the one getting swats for losing. I hope the neighbours aren't watching! We also both play Klondike solitaire on his iPad, and if I let the % won go below 50%, I get a spanking.
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Welcome, one and all, to our weekly discussion. This week I was delighted to receive not one but two suggestions for brunch topics. Here's what my first correspondent wrote by way of explanation.
"I like to play golf. I always thought it would be fun to combine golf with spanking somehow. Maybe spanks instead of penalty shots? Or me getting spanked by my [partner] after the round for every bogey or worse? Or maybe getting spanked on the course and having to play the next hole with my pants down or naked with a red hot bottom on display. A lot of possibilities."
So here's the question for today:
Are there any normal activities that you spice up or would like to with a little spanking flare? If so, what are they?
Please leave your response as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion once everyone has had a chance to speak.
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Let's talk about aftercare.
FL: Since I prefer a DommyMommy f/m aesthetic, my preferred aftercare is lots of cuddling and forgiveness. All part of the roleplay. I don't need or want any soothing balms or lotions on my backside, the afterburn is part of the enjoyment.
CEM: If the relationship is just punitive, I wrap her up like a burrito in the comforter, get her some cold water and let her recover. If the relationship is more intimate...than, well, you know. :)
Wendel: Most times when the spanking is in the kitchen the recipient has to stand in the corner showcasing their bright red bottom when it is over. After care for a paddling or whipping in bedroom may get a cold rag or zippy bag of ice applied to the sore bottom. We do not use creams or ointments. Occasionally I will paddle the Misses in the morning before she starts work. She works out of the house and has to get an extra cushion to sit on while working.
Rosco: Mostly, but not always, spanking is followed by reverse cowgirl cunnilingus. Sometimes Irene will say she wanted to spank me again or for longer but she can’t wait. After the pussy licking, it’s intercourse then usually dinner.
Roz: If not immediately followed by more intimate activities a spanking is usually followed by cuddles and a cold drink.
Prefectdt: Post spanking rituals tend to vary, for me, depending on the spanker. The only constant that I insist on is the application of horribly stingy alcohol gel, to deal with any skin breaks or micro lesions. There must be lots of aftercare that I have not tried. I would like to leave myself open to suggestion to trying some of these in the future.
KDPierre: If it's for
play, really nothing...except maybe a quick cell phone shot for
posterior posterity. If it's punishment? Well, typically there's a post
spanking kiss to my Honey's feet to show no hard feelings and a kind of
acceptance of roles and just deserts.
In the past when more
'people-in-the-know' were living with us and a punishment might be for
something done to them, it was a house policy that I would formally
apologize after a punishment to whomever was affected by my behavior. If
the person was not in the home, this would be done by text.
With
Nickki, our post spanking ritual was just a chat while platonically
cuddling...again just to show no hard feelings and to offer feedback
about the experience.
In no instance, play or punitive, do we do
any kind of alleviating treatment of my bottom, since the intention of
either type of spanking is to cause a nice and lasting burning pain.
Once accomplished there seems no logic to minimizing what was so
painstakingly (literally) achieved.
Graham: Same as Rosco. Cunnilingus, intercourse and dinner or a drink.
Barrel: If a normal spanking, we are almost always intimate. If it is an extended session, I am unsteady on my feet, so we hug. We then have a drink or glass of wine and discuss what worked, what didn’t. I like to ask her what she liked most about it. What was her best implement? If it got her aroused? Then intimacy. Good topic this week!
Hermione: Our usual routine for aftercare is intimacy, then, if it's Sunday afternoon, we take out the recycling together.
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P.S. Moments after I published this post, I got an automated warning from Blogger, saying it had been put behind a warning because it contained sensitive content. I can't see that it makes much difference since the blog is already behind an adult warning. This is the beginning of free speech restriction.
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With the results of yesterday's US election in all the headlines today, you might want to seriously consider relocating to the chilly but peaceful country of Canada.
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This week we discussed how soon to discuss spanking when dating.
CEM: As soon as possible - right away. If it's an important aspect of your life, and you don't intend to live without it, there is no point in pursuing a relationship with someone if there is no mutual interest. It's just wasting both people's time.
Dan: For us, it
would have been impossible for me to bring it up during the dating
process, as I didn't develop an interest in spanking until we were
almost a decade into our marriage. But, if I were starting a new
relationship today, it wouldn't be at the outset, but it wouldn't be
months and months into it either. I think I would be looking for the
sweet spot where you know this is a relationship you want to be in
long-term, but without waiting so long that it might seem like you were
trying to keep it a secret.
Of course, my response is colored by
the fact that, were I to be in a relationship with someone who wasn't
interested in spankings, or at least DD-style spankings, I could go on
without them. They aren't my entire sexual identity in the way they
might be for someone with a deeply-rooted and long-established spanking
fetish. If that were the case for me, I'd probably bring it up sooner,
before either of us had a substantial investment in the relationship,
since not having that need fulfilled going forward might be a
dealbreaker.
Rosco: What an important question. I haven’t had any need to ask it since 1980.
If I were dating a new person, I’d probably bring it and related kinks up within a month or two.
Roz: This is a great question! I guess it depends on how important spanking in a relationship is to you. I don't think I would bring it up straight away. I would want to get to know the other person well enough first. Also, once I have a gauge on how serious the relationship is.
Jack: It was brought up by my girlfriend now my wife when I was caught looking at spanking pictures and playing with myself. She said she loved me and that I would be spanked, to know how it feels, and to know that I will be spanked when I act like a naughty little boy and naughty little boys look at such pictures.
Prefectdt: I think as soon as possible, just to get it out of the way. But this has never worked well for me, relationship wise.
Bonnie: I think you
could start with a subtle hint that could be easily explained away if
the response is negative. If the response is positive or neutral, a
less subtle hint could be advanced to confirm your original impression.
I
think it's much easier for a bottom to drop these hints. A male top
who expresses interest in hurting a female bottom is scary, even if
you're both kinky. Consent and mutual understanding throughout the
conversation is essential.
Wendel: Do not wait too long to bring it up. I gave the Misses an occasional swat on her fanny when we were dating. This led to the discussion where I learned she liked it.
KDPierre: I am a firm believer in not only bringing this up formally early on in the dating process, but also even before asking a person out by means of observation, hunch, and innuendo. I have never been one to "just ask someone out" and have usually "known' a person to some degree before even being interested enough to ask them out. If someone didn't send off a certain vibe in this regard, they would not be someone I'd ask out in the first place.
Hermione: It's been a long time since I was looking for a date, but it seems that today, much of seeking a partner is done online. So adding a hint about spanking to your online profile might generate interest from those similarly inclined, and the subsequent conversations would be easier.
If we are talking about the old-fashioned way, then I would wait until I felt the relationship was serious before dropping a hint or two.
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This is a repost of a brunch we had exactly ten years ago. I thought you'd enjoy revisiting it.
Welcome one and all to our regular weekend discussion. Today I'd like to
share a question I received in an email. The writer is currently
unattached, but is looking for a permanent relationship with a person
also interested in spanking.
When is it appropriate to bring up
the subject of spanking? Should you wait, or introduce it early in the
dating period? How do you suggest this be done?
Leave your reply as a comment and I will publish your suggestions once everyone has had an opportunity to speak.
I hope the writer of that email has finally found someone who shares their interest in spanking, but we may never know.
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