A good spanko friend [name withheld] has kindly contributed the following piece by her husband who used to post as 'Sultan of Swat' which was posted to newsgroups some time back. It's an informative piece with some interesting advice on which any comments are welcomed.
"Yes, it is true that you can bring someone to orgasm thru spanking. You DO NOT have to touch the sub sexually for her to achieve a climax while being spanked. In fact, consciously trying to have an orgasm GUARANTEES that she will not have one.
I have brought my sub to orgasm, just through spanking, many times. Within the last few years I have also spanked 15-20 other submissives who have also been able to achieve orgasm just through spanking.
First of all, the spanking is devoted entirely to the submissive's pleasure. It is the Dominant that is going to be the "cruise director" on this little pleasure trip. He is going to take the submissive to a very special place, called subspace.
The Dominant must help the submissive to feel completely calm, trusting, with a relaxed state of mind, void of any distraction. It is best to do this kind of spanking alone (just the two of you). You need quiet and no distractions for about 1 to 1-1/2 hours as this type of spanking can take that long.
Start with soft lighting, incense, and soothing background music. Have the sub get comfortable (clothing optional) and lie across the Dom's lap. Rather than use the standard OTK position, have the sub stretch out across your lap while you sit on a couch or sofa. That way she can support her body comfortably and not put pressure on her diaphragm. I usually like to blindfold the sub, as it heightens her senses and eliminates any distractions.
With the sub comfortably over the Dom's lap, DO NOT START SPANKING! Light, non-sexual touching, massaging the neck and shoulder muscles, and slow soothing talk comes first. I always tell the sub that I will NEVER strike her when she's not expecting it, not will she be touched sexually. Also, I NEVER push her beyond her limits. The reason for this talk (actually a whisper) is to put the sub completely at ease. The spanking is TOTALLY for her enjoyment. My satisfaction comes from her pleasure, the greatest reward of all!
The Dom needs to start S-L-O-W-L-Y. That's slow -- as in paint-dries-faster, type of slow. Starting with light spanks, moving the spanks around, not striking all in the same spot, is a good way to warm up her skin. It is important that the Dom not get ahead of the sub. I usually tell a new sub that if I get ahead of her, and I'm spanking too hard too fast, she should say "yellow" which means "don't stop, just back off the intensity and let me catch up." Try not to hit what some people call the "sweet spot" (where the thigh meets the butt). That's a good spot to inflict punishment, not a pleasure spanking.
The entire spanking is actually 8 to 10 "mini spankings" with rest stops after each one. This lets the sub catch her breath. During the breaks, I stop and rub & massage her neck and shoulders. I tell the sub to relax.
Each "mini spanking" starts out light, and slowly builds up in both intensity and speed. With each successive "mini spanking" the spanks get harder and the intensity gets stronger than the "mini spanking" before it.
After about the 6th of 7th "mini spanking" the warm-ups are over By this time, both the sub's butt and the Dom's hand are warmed up. The sub is usually flying on endorphins by this time and in all probability, her back is arched forcing her butt up in the air, as if asking for more and harder spanks.
(Note: at this point, any noise or misplaced spanks will bring the sub out of subspace. Spanks that didn't hurt before will hurt like hell now. If this happens, back down the intensity of the spanks and start over.)
For the final 3 or 4 "mini spankings" continue building up the speed and intensity of the spanks, to higher and higher levels. How do you know when you've reach her limit (the highest level)? The sub's body will show some sign that she's about to say "mercy" or "stop". She may unconsciously curl her toes, cross her legs, tense her hands & fingers, etc. Every submissive is different but each gives a distinct nonverbal cue that she is at her peak.
At this point, back off the intensity of the spanks (just barely) but continue spanking and then hold that intensity for about 10 to 15 seconds. This level of spanking is at it's highest intensity and the sub is at her peak. By holding the spanking at this level for even a brief period of time, will push the sub over the edge to a climax. Her endorphins are at their peak. It is the combination of the endorphins and the intensity of the final "mini spanking" that pushes the sub over the edge to her climax.
Of course, not every spanking like this end in a climax for the sub. Other times, it ends with the sub crying, which is an emotional and physical release. The spanking can end either way and it's been my experience that neither the Dom nor the sub knows which way the spanking will end on any given night.
One last thought, after the sub climaxes (or cries) she needs to be held tight. I encourage her to put her arms around me and hold on to me. This gives her a lifeline and helps her come back down slowly. I give the sub lots of time. I don't let her stand up for a while, until she's back down to earth.
Hard, hand spankings like this, can be an exciting addition to S&M play."
So it seems that it's possible. Good to know.
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