From the Top Shelf - Voices

A few posts ago I talked about the verbal responses I give while Ron is spanking me. I later came across an enlightening passage on that subject in Consensual Spanking by Jules Markham.

A spankee can also add to the quality of a session and enhance the enjoyment of the spanker. As well as complying with the spanker's demands and having the correct demeanour, the spanker can add value by adopting spanking postures without being told... They can also ask the spanker if their bottom is presented properly, would they like it to stick out more, for example...

Another option for the spankee is to give greater feedback during the spanking. Reward the spanker by giving a verbal response. When the spanks are sufficiently hard, you probably won't need to play act, but learning to gasp, shriek or even pleading a little can be a big turn-on. It doesn't take much, a flirty little squeal for the odd heavier spank, or a repertoire of variations on "ow", "ouch", or "yeow", can work wonders... A bit of bratty type backchat can also stir things up a bit...

Good advice! It sounds very familiar, so I guess I've been doing it right.

The spanker also has a role to play in the verbalizing:

The spanker can pile on the embarrassment factor by finding key words and phrases that get the spankee turned on or more into their headspace. Most spankees have some trigger word or phrase that gets their fantasy going. For example, referring to the subject as "young lady", "Missy", "naughty boy/girl", "young man" and so on, can make a spankee crimson with embarrassment. A firm or matter-of-fact tone with verbal commands is similarly effective. For instance, "bend over my knee", "adjust your dress and bend over", or "panties/knickers down, please" completing the sentence with one of the terms of endearment above.

Demanding that the spankee address you as Sir/husband, or Miss/Ma'am/Madam as appropriate is also an effective control... Soothing words while stroking a warm cheek... Sounding a little concerned can also work - for example, "That's going to be sore in the morning", or "Oh dear, that does look angry. It must sting terribly", or "That's what I like to see - red cheeks", or "My, that feels really hot."

That last part sounds familiar too.

The First Cut

The first cut is the deepest. That's the title of a well-known song, but it's also how I feel about spankings.

I look forward to being spanked and I always settle in eventually and enjoy the experience, but it's so hard to get through the first strokes.

Take last weekend, for example. Ron usually chooses the implements, but on this occasion he had the toy box open and gestured toward it.

"You choose," he offered magnanimously.

I thought a bit, then decided to go with all leather, and selected the dogging bat, the belt and the thick paddle. I lined them up on the bed and waited for Ron's reaction. He either didn't think I had chosen enough or wanted some wood in the mix, because he reached into the box and added a wooden paddle to the lineup.

He started with the belt, and because it's flexible he usually goes a little slower with it. This time, it wasn't slow enough. Each stroke seared my exposed cheeks. "Ow, ow, ow!"

The paddles were even worse; they came down harder and faster. As I chanted my mantra -  "Ow, Ow, Owowowowowow!" - a hundred thoughts ran through my head: Stop, stop. Slow down. Lighter. Take it easy. Take it back to the store. That's enough for today. I changed my mind. I don't want to do this.

I didn't say any of it out loud, of course. All I could do was repeat the magic syllable. If I yelled it loud enough he would...what? Stop? Ease up? Make me laugh?

What he did do was ask me, "What did you say?"

"Ow. Ow. Ow ow ow owowow!"

"That's getting monotonous."

"So what do you want me to say? Should I - ouch! - expand my vocabulary? Yikes! Woo hoo! Eek! Tabernac! There, is that better?"

"Much better," Ron laughed, never missing a beat.

And, as always, the fierce enemies turned into friends. The harsh attacks changed to sharp caresses as the magic took hold and I became silent, absorbing and savouring each sensation.

But maybe you can help me think of something new to say while I'm protesting. I wouldn't want to bore my spanker with the same old syllable.