Our good friend Rosco sent me some pictures of a local women-run sex shop. He says, "We’ve been going there for years, less so recently because we have everything." I know the feeling!
Aren't they lovely? But wait. Let's have a closer look at the sign.
Rosco doesn't remember seeing such a sign in the past so perhaps there was some recent activity that prompted its posting. Some people just can't wait!
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What are your thoughts on submission?
Jack: I don't know if submission is the right word. My wife/mommy knows what is best, I accept, the marriage has been great, the sex life can't complain, but the spankings and sex do not go together. I know I can't help myself at times, and I know that a spanking is coming, and I can complain, beg, plead, to no avail. I accept the spankings but not how much my bare bottom is stinging and sore afterwards. So for me, having a wife/mommy is very good even tho the spankings hurt and the bathbrush insures that.
Rosco: Submission is important to me and Irene. A spanking without a lecture is a bit empty. The physical sensation is delicious, but for me the turn on is dependent also on the reprimand for my disputatious, obstreperous, recalcitrant ways. Irene has quite the vocabulary.
Roz: Our dynamic has gone through many changes over the years. Submission and permission used to play an important part at various times, depending on the nature of the dynamic at the time. Spanking nowadays is purely for fun.
Prefectdt: I think that submission is very important in play, for me, but mostly revolves around physical submission. Play always seems enhanced when I am made an automaton of the other person in the play session. This is most illustrated when the other participant is an inexperienced player and, from necessity, I am topping from the bottom. If, for example, I think that the spanker might get a better target if I am in another position, I will ask to be told to move to another position, rather than moving by my own command. Giving physical control of my body to someone else gives a high sense of submission and helps bring on the "Dancing with the Fairies" high.
Mija: Submission is important, but not automatic. I can play without it, but then the play is much more about the physical sensation, maybe even the playfulness, of being spanked. I like the sense of submission, my physical and emotional submission, being valued, maybe even insisted on by person topping. Maybe because when I'm submissive I'm feeling vulnerable and so it would hurt me to have those submissive feelings not matter, not be valued. If they've insisted I submit then I feel like that submission has been seen and that it matters.
KDPierre: Regardless
of the reason, spanking is an inherent power imbalance that requires one
party to submit to the other. In this exchange, pain is being given by
one party to the other who accepts that pain for whatever motives move
them. I'm not sure how any spanking can even happen without 'submission'
taking place, even if that submission does not extend past the spanking
itself. I have noticed that some people fairly bristle at the notion of
submission being involved and therefore kind of redefine the term so
that they can say it is not happening. But that's just the modern world
we live in and that trend is not in any way limited to spanking and
submission.
Perhaps if someone dictates precisely what they want,
control it utterly and sort of use the spanker as almost a service
employee, I suppose you could say they aren't submitting but just
consenting to receive pain, but even then.....the spanker is still kind
of in the dominant position.
Books and essays have been written about this topic, so I'm not sure if a post reply can do it justice.
A.J.: "Sense" of submission? Sure.
An actual full-time submissive in all things? No thanks.
Hermione: I am definitely a submissive, and Ron is a natural dominant, so we complement each other. I usually ask his permission to do things like going shopping or making major changes around the house. He does not normally say no, but prefers that I ask rather than just go ahead on my own. Spanking naturally requires submission on my part, even though I crave it.
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Welcome back to another weekend spanko brunch. As you can see, this is brunch number 599, so next week will be a major milestone. I'd like it to be really special, so I'm throwing the floor open to suggestions. What topic would make next week's discussion memorable?
Now on to today's discussion.
What are your thoughts on submission?
Is it an important part of your spanking relationship? Is it necessary
to hand over control to the spanker in order for a spanking to work? Is
asking for permission a part of your dynamic?
Leave your thoughts as a comment and once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish a summary of our discussion.
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Two years ago I published this post about a mystery plant that was supposed to be the herb rosemary but certainly wasn't. The following spring I forgot where I put them misplaced the remaining seeds so they remained a mystery for another year. This spring I finally came across them, so I planted them along with my other spring crops and waited. Last week the first blossom opened, and guess what they are?
Cosmos! A lovely flower, and easy to grow. Ron had guessed that's what they were, because we had some growing in the garden that year. The bees and butterflies will love them, and there are enough seeds left for next year. So all's well that ends well.
Oh, and our potted rosemary is still thriving.
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Some ads from the past that wouldn't work today.
Yikes!
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Any exercise enthusiasts out there?
Wendel: We do walking and hiking for cardio. A little bit of weight training for strength when swing the paddle and of course, a lot of spanking.
Roz: That's a great question but I'm afraid my answer is a boring one. No specific exercises to keep in shape for spanking. Exercise is by doing 😊
Prefectdt: I am constantly trying to keep my "Dad" belly (even though I have never been a father) under control. So dieting is a frequent element of my life, as the smaller I can keep the gut bump, the more comfortable it is to spend extended periods of time bent over laps/desks/benches etc. I used to do a lot of walking to keep fit, but on doctors' advice, I switched to regular cycling at the weekends. If I am going long periods between real spankings, I self spank, not for fun but just to keep the pain tolerance levels up. Other than that, I moisturise my buttocks and upper thighs on a daily basis, even if no spanking has happened for a while.
Rosco: Well, I try to keep in shape for cardiovascular health and flexibility in general - an ongoing challenge in both areas.
As for spanking, I’ve noticed whenever I’ve lost a few pounds the initial sting is a bit more profound.
Ronnie: We don’t do any specific exercises for spanking. We both like to keep as fit as possible and we do tend to walk a lot.
Jack: Never crossed my mind or my wife/mommy. Interesting question. Off hand is there a need and what is the advantage?
S: In general, I try to do full body workouts, but I have to admit, I do like doing bicep curls right before giving someone a spanking.
Bonnie: My natural spanking shape is a pear, so there's not that much maintenance required. I do work out and walk when I can for general health. Randy builds his right arm strength by repetitively swinging flat wooden objects.
Hermione: By sitting and playing video games, I keep my tush nice and big as an available target. Ron does yard work to keep his arms in condition.
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Do you or your partner do anything specific, like exercise, to keep in spanking shape?
Please leave your response as a comment, and I will publish a summary of our discussion on Monday.
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