Recap: Important Update and Spanko Brunch 2.0 for October 29

Breaking news: Our beloved Bonnie has reopened My Bottom Smarts and is ready to start blogging again. Do drop by and say hello. Now back to regularly scheduled programming.

Will you be having any Hallowe'en spanking activities?

Bonnie: That's a great question. We've been so busy this week, we haven't even discussed our next holiday celebration. Unless I get a better idea, I will probably be a ghost with a white tee and white yoga pants. It's not very inventive, I admit, but I am confident it will impress my audience of one.

Roz: My answer is a very boring one I'm afraid. We're not big on Halloween so no special plans or costumes.

Wendel: We do love dressing up in costumes. The Misses is going to be a pirate queen and myself the pirate captain. Each time the queen misbehaves she will get the strap across her bottom. For some reason she seems to misbehave a lot when wearing it. 

Norse Cavalier: My local BDSM club will be holding a Halloween party next Saturday, which will provide opportunities to take a few willing women over my knee. I'm wearing a simple pirate costume - provided, of course, I can get rid of the cold that's been plaguing me for over three weeks.

Rosco: We’ll be celebrating Halloween with small children, so no.

But one thing I love about Halloween is women who take the opportunity to dress provocatively - the sexy nurse, the sexy nun, the French maid, whatever. I probably deserve a spanking for ogling at Halloween parties. I’ll ask Irene the question.

Let me add a fantasy based on a real life party.

Irene and I went to a Halloween party hosted by two of my female coworkers. The sister of one was dressed provocatively as a French maid. We were among the last to leave, when the sister walked by having changed - a bit relieved she was no longer the object of so much attention.

At some point, I created the following fantasy and have relived it many times.

I’m sorry you’ve taken off your maid’s outfit, I said, I thought maybe you’d serve be serving tea.

I took it off so you could wear it, she replied, and YOU could serve tea.

Sorry but I don’t think it would fit, I said.

It’s one size fits all, she said. It might be a little short on you but that’s ok.

Go ahead, put it on, Irene ordered. So I did, blushing mightily.

As you might guess I spilled the tea when I was serving it. Irene scolded me and told the girls the maid needed a spanking. Would that be ok?

After that, Irene sent me back to their apartment for maid training from time to time.

Jack: It has been a couple of years, but a few friends of my wife from work were having a pre-party and we were invited. My wife/mommy dressed as a mother from the 1950's, pearls, the whole works, I had to wear my little boy jammies, thankful I had shorts on underneath. I got a lot of "you look so cute" comments. I did not sit, I was given a very sound spanking a day before, so sitting was not comfortable. When we got home my wife/mommy said I was a very good little boy and they like the costume I was wearing, I look so cute as a little boy. She then told me a few were told that was not a costume but what I sometimes wear after being a naughty little boy and had gotten a spanking. 

Ronnie: We don't do Halloween so no special spanking plans or costumes.

A.J.: Halloween is so, so...August.

Christmas trees were up and for sale at Costco in early Sept.
YESTERDAY - I saw my first TV commercial and heard my first Christmas Carole.

Yesterday!

To answer the question - not doing anything. 

Prefectdt: I had no plans for Halloween. Although I might use it as an excuse to get undressed early and mount my new butt plug tail. Not for any better excuse than I really like it, can't see when I would have a genuine use for it and it is the only thing that I own, right now, that could count as a Halloween costume. Perhaps I will go to sleep in it and see if it is still there in the morning :)

Hermione: We usually draw the drapes, turn off the porch light to deter trick or treaters, snack on treat-size chocolate bars, and then anything goes!

KDPierre: I love Halloween and go over the top in decorating and celebrating ......with themed dinner parties each weekend in October. (Yesterday was our last and it was great.) We don't go in for cute Halloween, so sexy costumes are not a thing with us. However, we have a well-populated "Lemax" village that has been heavily modified and customized to include quite a lot of little kinky scenes within it. Lots of spankings going on too, along with several other kinks that can be found if one looks past the vampires and zombies.

Stay safe!

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #511

 

 

Welcome one and all to our regular weekend brunch. One of the casualties of my hardware crash was an updated list of all our brunch topics plus suggestions from you, dear readers, that I have yet to use. In the meantime, let's discuss an oldie but a goodie.

Hallowe'en is just around the corner. Do you have any special spanking-related plans to celebrate the day? Do you have a special costume in mind?

Please leave your response as a comment below. Once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish an edited summary of our conversation.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Greased Lightning

The past few says have not been very conducive to blogging. The hard drive on our computer gave up completely, so the PC has been in the shop, having a new, bigger and faster hard drive installed. The difference is amazing. I used to dread opening Firefox. How long would it take this time? Would the mouse pointer disappear? Creating a new post took about ten minutes, with long waits for just adding one image.  

We lost all our bookmarks, so those are slowly being added as needed. Google Drive, which was supposed to back up all my documents and pictures, stopped doing so a year ago, so a lot was lost. Oh well, it could have been worse. Since the hard drive was no longer readable, the technician who fixed the machine couldn't tell that I'm a spanking blogger. 

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for October 22

When has a spanking just not been enough?

Norse Cavalier: I was spanking a woman who enjoys being verbally teased and humiliated, so she wants me to ask how wet she is getting and tell her she is a dirty girl. At one point I said "You're enjoying this, you dirty girl," and she whipped her head around and replied, "You're enjoying it too, you dirty BOY!" I don't tolerate back-talk, so I gave her two dozen smacks with the wooden spoon, before continuing the hand-spanking.

A day or two later, she sent me a message telling me that she didn't feel she'd been sufficiently punished for her cheek. I offered to give her a one-minute smacking with my clothes brush, hard and fast, followed by five minutes in the corner, and she agreed. By the time she left the corner, she was sufficiently meek and chastened, and never did it again.]

Roz: There have been occasions over the years where I have either felt a spanking didn't quite make the mark or the spanking has been more than I expected. My reaction depended on the situation, how strongly I felt etc. Sometimes I told Rick straight away and occasionally it resulted in a do-over but most often discussion.

Jack: That does not happen in this home, my wife/mommy insures the spanking brings the results she wants. My spankings are for being a naughty little boy and that is when my wife becomes my mommy and trust me mommy knows how to give a sound spanking and insures you remember it sometime afterwards.

KDPierre: We see spanking as a means to some end, though that goal can be very different depending on a myriad of circumstances. However, because we know who we are and what we are each looking for, we have a standing agreement that either party can add to or amend a proscribed spanking so that no one walks away from one feeling it wasn't enough. Sometimes it's her telling me she isn't feeling resolved and so more is to come, or at times I've confessed that I felt I got off too lightly for something I still felt guilty over and Rosa would listen to my request and reasons for it and nearly always give me a good bit of extra.

The thing is, when I do make my case for more, she always takes me seriously and makes sure the second round is quite intense. I go from having felt 'it wasn't enough', to 'OK, now I feel like I paid an appropriate price' and then, she just keeps going until I'm thinking, 'OK, this is more than I would have added. When is this add-on going to end?'. This is good for me since it takes away any feeling that I am in control. I may contribute input, but I'm not in control. 

Preectdt: It was a long time ago, back in the 1990s, when I was living in The Netherlands. Playing with a fellow, amateur enthusiast, we had been going at it, on and off, for most of an afternoon, I think somewhere around 3 hours. I was well away with the fairies and wanted that play to go on forever. Then she stopped and refused to hurt me any more. I have to admit that I was not happy about this and got a bit pleading and whinny about things, until she made me stand and inspect the state of my backside in a full length mirror. It turns out that she had made the right call. And I still feel thankful for her responsible attitude.

Wendel: Over the years the Misses has made a few remarks about getting a weak spankings. Usually I hear: “That is the best you can do?” Most times it is followed by an immediate and harder spanking. Once in a while I will make her sweat it out wondering if she will get another. It is fun to watch the expression on her face as we pass in the house as she waits. I did wake her up in the middle of the night a few times to administer a “better” spanking. Again, it is fun to watch her struggle, half asleep. After the first whack she does wake up.
We do not do verbal punishments. About the only thing is the occasional bad girl, bad boy comment but nothing more. 

Graham: Sure, occasionally I come away feeling that it was too light. But it doesn't happen that often and doesn't rise to a significant problem. I've had a couple instances where I asked for more, and I can assure you that request was dealt with very seriously! :-)

Bonnie: Yes, that definitely happens. Two people can't always be on the same page, even when we have decades of experience together. There are times when I anticipate real punishment, but Randy delivers a more playful spanking. I try to be patient and allow him to lead, but I need what I need.

At that point, I tell him. Whether it's a polite request like, "May I have more, sir?" or an insistent demand such as, "Are you going to spank me or what?", Randy's response is exactly the same. He stops the session and fetches a serious wooden implement, typically a heavy paddle or a solid brush.

Before I even make such a request, I know from experience what to expect. It's as if his manhood has been challenged. He is determined to whack my bare bottom until it's very red and very sore for a long time. He tells me that I am a naughty girl and punishes me accordingly. I may scream and wiggle and whimper, but these are moments I will later recall fondly, every time I sit down.

If the miscommunication is the other way around, that is, my spanking is harder than I expected, I typically tell myself I probably deserve it for something and hang on. If my man wants to give, then I want to accept. I stick out my bottom and trust him to do the rest. Spankings are supposed to hurt.

Barrel: Yes, of course. When I have wanted more, I just remind myself that I got what she wanted to deliver and be grateful. Most often, she will ask how I am doing, giving me the opportunity to signal I want more or harder. But I am usually thankful for what she felt like she wanted to administer.

Hermione: It depends on which implement Ron is using. If it's the dogging bat or similar flexible leather paddle, I want it to go on forever. If it's the stingy shoehorn or lexan carpet beater, a little is too much. 

Henry: For us, the intensity of the spanking we want this week may be different from what we wanted last week. We have no compunction about asking for more or less.

That's all, folks!

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #510

A big welcome to all my friends. If you are new here, you are encouraged to join in the discussion. To choose a topic for today, I decided to try something different. I went to My Bottom Smarts and found the brunch topic from ten years ago at around the same date. Thanks, Bonnie!

Have you experienced a situation where the spankee felt that a spanking was in some way insufficient? If so, did the spankee verbally or non-verbally request more? How was the request made? How did the spanker respond? Was the issue resolved?

Please leave your response as a comment below. Once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish an edited summary of our conversation.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

The Highlight of my Week

Last Friday morning Ron said to me, "Tomorrow is going to be the highlight of my week."

I was a bit surprised, but pleased. Our regular spanking date is on Saturday, and we'd missed the last two because of family for Thanksgiving and medical concerns. I assumed that was what he meant, but innocently asked, "Why is that?"

"Today's the day we water the air plants!" We both had a good laugh at this, so let me explain.

As a thank-you gift for taking in the mail for our neighbours while they were away, we were given a small ceramic bird with a magnet on the back. The note from our neighbour explained that it was an air plant holder, and that they had had good luck with their plant by soaking it once a week for 20 minutes.

I had never owned an air plant (Tillandsia) but was willing to give it a go. So I went to Etsy and ordered a bunch.

Since the cost of shipping was the same whether I ordered three, six or nine, the more the merrier!

In the meantime, while putting away the gift bag and folding the tissue paper, I discovered an air plant among the wrappings. How thoughtful! I popped the plant into the holder and attached it to the refrigerator door. Very pretty, but what was I going to do with the batch of plants I ordered?

Ron had the idea of putting them in our egg coddlers. 

 

At one time I started a collection of them, in two different sizes. Since we only use two at a time, the rest sit in the cupboard, so why not put them to good use, minus the lids, of course. So now we have a nursery garden of air plants, and together each Saturday we water them together, then enjoy some playtime (wink, wink, nudge, nudge).

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for October 15

Have you ever lost your spanking mojo?

Bonnie: There have been times when I felt tired or sick or busy or injured or distracted or worried about something else. When situations change and opportunity knocks, the urge inevitably returns. My spanko nature is baked in.

Rob Allen: No, it never went away; the attraction and arousal were always there. But I did have an issue that hindered me from joining the spanko subculture - I had a visceral aversion to disciplinary-style play. The more realistic it was as corporal punishment, the less I could stand to be around it. A couple of years ago I did two things simultaneously that helped. One was EMDR psychotherapy, which helped me process the trauma of an early childhood punishment. The other was watching every one of Jillian Keenan's videos, which helped me see where the fun could be in a disciplinary scenario. I can finally feel at home in the spanko world now.

Welcome, Rob! You can always feel at home here with us.

Wendel: Nope, it is always present. 

Rosco: I brought spanking into our relationship in 1980. Irene said she had no interest in being spanked but she’d be happy to spank me. It’s worked great for us.

Around 2008 when the youngest went off to college we stepped up our game gradually but steadily. More toys, more role play, harder and longer spankings - more discipline. At some point, spanking seemed to become more important to Irene. She likes to make it hurt, and whips my thighs and balls as well as my bottom.

There have been a few times when I’ve thought about asking if we could skip the spanking etc and just engage in sex. But even then getting punished always turns me on. It’s amazing that she can whack my balls with a riding crop causing intense pain but also making me hard. Go figure.

Roz: Definitely yes, there have been times over the years the spanking mojo has diminished for one or both of us for various reasons. It's usually a question of waiting it out...it usually returns :)

Ronnie: Yes there have been times for one reason or another, but never lasted long.

Prefectdt: Very occasionally, usually due to prolonged periods of tiredness or stress. Never lasts long though, two or three days at most. It typically returns as my mood brightens.

sub hub: Yes, it happens. From my perspective, how I feel about participating in a spanking has nothing to do with whether it will happen or not, of course. If Mistress K. has decided that a spanking will happen, it's going to happen whenever and however severe she has decided it will be.

Jack: My wife/mommy knows I at times like to be a naughty little boy, and she knows naughty little boys need a sound spanking from Mommy, so it does not matter what I want, my wife/mommy is such a woman that being a wife and a mommy is her role in life.

Dan: It ebbs and flows, but only once has it completely disappeared. I had surgery, and something about it, perhaps the anesthetic, completely dismantled my urges related to spanking and discipline. It didn't come back for a couple of months.

Barrel: Yep. Radical prostatectomy and resulting ED has a strangulating effect. We are working through it with the knowledge, “I don’t have cancer”. We remain hopeful.

Dear friend, I wish you well. I too am thankful it isn't cancer.

Hermione: For me, the desire isn't as strong as it was in the early days of discovering spanking blogs, when I wanted to try everything, but the need is still there. From time to time life interferes and I become less interested, but spanking is still the only thing that turns me on. I am hard-wired.

Slava Ukraini
Glory to Ukraine