Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for January 22

This week we discussed spanking when you and your partner are apart.

Bonnie: We've had brief intervals when we were apart, but we didn't do anything special other than talk on the phone and miss one another. A more consequential separation of sorts, though not physical, occurred when I was pregnant with our daughter. Randy refused to spank me for concern about harming the small life growing inside me. I didn't like this break at all and I doubt I ever needed a long session with the paddle more than during all those months. But it all worked out. We had a healthy daughter (now a mom herself) and I eventually received some truly spectacular bruises on my long neglected bottom. The photo he took afterward remains one of our favorites.

Roz: We too have had the occasions we have been apart. On some of those occasions Rick still found ways to dominate, issuing instructions via phone/text etc.

Our spanking life has very much been an on/off thing over the years for various reasons so we got used to long spells without spanking. 

Barrel: We have been apart and I have been asked to report on the status of the welts, weals and bruises from a recent spanking. Nothing more than being told to wear the panties she stuck in my bag and show them off upon my return home. Often times when we have a session planned, we talk and text about it while I was on the road. In retirement, we are not apart much anymore which is delightful. It also makes the opportunities for spanking much more available.

Jean Marie: I have been in my current relationship for about three-quarters of a year. During that time, he has been away from me twice, once for over a week and once for just under a week. I was miserable the whole time we were separated. We did not try to have a long-distance role-play session over the phone or anything like that. I think the reality of how wonderful it is when we are together made anything less than that pale by comparison. I just missed him and ached and longed for his return. I can honestly say that I hope we are never apart again!

Sore is more: Hermione, thank you for the prompt!!
A little snippet for all the LDRs out there, even temporary. I just posted the full story, Count Me Down.

That soft weary voice on the phone, so endearing and irresistible in his begging, and yet she can't resist the urge to drag on and play him because that's what he wants, that's what she wants, whether she admits it to herself or not.

“Izzie? Are you in bed? I can't see.”

She moves the phone camera around, she’s indeed sitting on the bed. “Izzie who?”

“My morning star,” he responds like it’s the only possible answer.

“Good god, what do you need so badly?”

“Can you count me down? Please?”

Who can say no, when he is pleading like that, looking like the original sin, all bundled up in a white hotel robe, propped on one elbow, the other hand combing through the wet hair, trying to look better for her? Is it even humanly possible to look better than that? “You know, there are phone lines with professionals for that.” 

Now, on a serious note, I have a question I've been longing to ask for a while. It's about spanking during pregnancy. I did read Bonnie's post and read about it on her blog that it was a big no for them. But, my question is, how frowned upon is it in the spanko community? Internet research showed that even OB GYNs say that if done safely, there is no harm to the baby. Visits to the doctors with marks, that's another story.

As a part of my storyline in the book, a pregnant woman begs, pleads, and finally gets what she wants from her very reluctant partner. Is it too much?? Yay or nay?

Anon: Sore is more, I've read that it can be safe during pregnancy. We haven't taken a nine month hiatus during pregnancy but it's easier in the earlier months (can't put weight on the belly) and we have to make sure it's a least a week before a doctor appointment. I'm the spanko. He uses it more for foreplay than punishment. So no major sessions. Just never know if I will bruise or not.

We've been apart. Nothing spanking/domination related on those rare nights. 

Rosco: When we’re apart we just tease each other on the phone.

Responding to the pregnancy question, we never held back much in terms of passion - though she does all the spanking anyway. But we were very active camping etc. never worried and everything was fine.

In the last few years, however, two women close to us have had premature births - around 25 weeks. So erring on the side of caution may be prudent.

Prefectdt: I have never had a long term spanking partner. So I will sit this one out and enjoy other people's answers.

Hermione: I used to have to travel for work, and we would talk on the phone every night. Then I would enjoy my vibrator and a brand-new spanko novel from my favourite big-city bookstore. 

Wendy: My (now) husband and I have done the long distance thing a couple of times. Mostly, there is nothing spanking-related while we are apart. However, early on, he did write me six chapters of a spanking/BDSM story. That was fun until it went in an uncomfortable direction. I think that was the first sign that our interests didn’t line up as perfectly as I had assumed. (We still do pretty well as a spanking couple.)

KDPierre: A long time ago with my first wife we had such a situation where we wanted to do a spanking and were not together due to a business trip of hers. It resulted in a self-spanking video along with an outdoor nighttime 'streak' with clips. And this was in the days of clunky VHS cameras but thankfully BEFORE security cameras being practically everywhere!

Stay close to one another and stay safe.

Glory to Ukraine