It's the weekend, and that means it's time for another spanko brunch. So get comfortable (if you can) and we'll start.
What is the most expensive item used for spanking that you have ever purchased? It might be an implement, an article of clothing, a piece of furniture, or something else. What prompted the purchase?
Please leave your response as a comment. Once everyone has had a chance to join in, I will publish an edited summary of our discussion.
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Signs, signs, everywhere a sign. If you're old enough to remember that song by the Five Man Electrical Band--or even if you're not--you'll enjoy these signs.
Happy hump day!
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What are your thoughts on going au natural for spankings, or in daily life?
Wendel: All of our spankings are on the bare bottom. It is about even for pants down or naked spankings. Almost always if the Misses sends me to the bedroom I will have to strip and await the spanking. When the Misses has a girl's night out evening, she will give me a paddling to ensure I stay out of trouble while she is out. I have to wait naked in the bedroom while she showers. When she comes out she will drop her towel and paddle my bottom until it glows in the dark. I do love a naked Misses going across my lap and then paddling her while she squirms.
Rosco: I’m the spankee, and often naked. Sometimes Irene will put me in girly
panties or make me take a nap in a pink nightie between spanking.
I would never wear socks. Never.
Irene
is normally dressed, and will sometimes change clothes a few times
during on of our “dates”. She’ll wear skirts and dresses that you might
see on the street or at a casual party or maybe costume stuff like a
dirndl or tennis player or a Mexican thing. If she’s wearing panties,
they’ll come off for cunnilingus followed by intercourse but almost
always she’ll leave the skirt or dress on.
Rich Person: We've been to a number of clothing-optional events over the years. Many
of them were either spanking parties or regular (public) dungeons. We
are pretty casual about nakedness.
We've also been to
clothing-optional places (like Lupin), and we went to the nude beach
cleanup once or twice. We've also been to nude beaches. And we went to Lifestyles, which is pretty clothing optional, of course.
Roz: Nudity has played a part in spanking for us over the years to varying
degrees. Semi to full nudity. At one point we used maintenance spankings
which included naked kneeling beforehand.
I have never been that
comfortable being naked so hated the naked kneeling. I have got a lot
more comfortable over the years though.
Prefectdt: I have no problem with getting nude in a private situation. Which is
lucky, as in Belgium, mainstream BDSM is far more common than Spanko
culture and a lot of women that I play with, both professionals and
fellow amateurs, seem to like the CFNM (Clothed Female, Naked Male)
power dynamic. I don't think that this has anything to do with a desire
to see me naked, as I ain't young and pretty no more :) If nudity is
required of me, as part of a fantasy play scene, again I have no problem
with that, in private.
As for the Top getting naked with me,
this has happened. With some professionals, it was sometimes a practical
thing. Not wanting to get clothes sweaty on a hot day. I did use to have
one amateur play partner who liked to get naked to spank me, I never
worked out why, as no sexual interaction was ever asked for or offered
by either of us. She just seemed more comfortable about playing that way
and it never bothered me, as long as she was happy with the situation.
I do like to wear a man thong, when allowed to, but have no problem doing without this, if ordered to be totally Au Natural.
Bonnie: At our house, spankings are delivered on my bare bottom. It may start
over clothes sometimes, but those are shed along the way. We also enjoy
nude spankings (just me far more often than both of us). Being deprived of
clothing changes the punishment dynamic.
I don't mind being nude around Randy, especially for the purpose of spanking/lovemaking but that's as far as it goes.
Fondles: I don't mind being naked if not for feeling cold all the time. But I've
always had a problem with standing up naked and being looked over. That
just feels terrible to me. Being naked for anything else is fine.
(Also,
I'm adding a small note to say that I've unpublished my blog for a few
days until Blogger can calm the F down, cos it's flagging all my old
posts one by one and I'm getting email spam for adult content. I've put
up the sensitive content warning but it's still going on... so I'll pop
back online in about a week maybe. Sorry for hijacking this comment
thread.)
I'm sorry you are having such problems with Blogger. Looking forward to having you back online soon.
A.J.: "What role does nudity play...in your day to day activities?"
Day to day nudity? Why, Hermione! What ever do you mean?
As for the Q:
If I'm spanking her, it is her bra and panties then nude.
If she is spanking me, I am in boxers while wearing a t-shirt, quickly leading to bare bottom.
The t-shirt is because the room is too hot, or it's more comfortable. If she wants the 'full Monty," fine with me. What is she wearing when spanking me? Her choice; as long as a SHORT skirt is involved.
One more! Roscoe's comment: "I would never wear socks. Never."
That made me laugh!
Some
years ago I found the British comedy "Coupling." (Think: a British
version of "Friends," with a lot more.) In one of the episodes Jeff,
who sees the male-female relationship with remarkable insight, tells the
the two other male leads about the danger of "The Sock Gap!" during
foreplay.
Jeff: "I mean, where exactly do you take your socks
off? My advice is to take them off right after your shoes, and before
your trousers. That's the sock gap. Miss it, and suddenly you're a
naked man in socks. No self-respecting woman will ever let a naked man in socks do the squelchy with her."
My then GF, watching the show with me and hearing that line, exploded in laughter! And said, "That's so true!"
Barrel: Nudity from my spanker never happens. She is almost always in a full
corset and stockings. Me, it depends on what she wants. But that
ranges from pantyhose, thigh high’s to panties to nada. She usually
likes my behind clear of any obstruction, not that pantyhose does much.
With the addition of her new single-tail whip, I am looking for a
padded male thong for protection. Any suggestions?
I enjoy
nudity…think “Failure To Launch” with Terry Bradshaw’s naked room.
While on vacation, I will sit naked on the balcony or terrace enjoying
an adult beverage. My wife tolerates that but won’t go that far with
me.
Loved this week’s topic. Thanks
JJ Rose: For myself, I'm not super-comfortable with my own nudity unless I'm in a
romantic/sexual relationship with someone. I will, however, take my
pants down to receive a spanking.
For bottoms I spank, I always
like spanking on the bare bottom, but the bottom can negotiate how much
they want to wear in terms of clothing and I will always respect that.
With my romantic partners it's almost always bare bottom when we're in
private.
Hermione: For spankings, a bare bottom is essential, but I prefer to leave everything on above the waist. Socks? I leave them on because mine are all beautifully patterned and colourful, which Ron pretends to hate, so they give him an incentive to spank harder.
For intimate activities we are both nude, but other than that I am not comfortable going without clothing. There are too many saggy bits that should not be put on display.
Thanks, everyone, for baring your souls today.
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Welcome back, everyone. I see we have some newcomers with us today. Please don't hesitate to join in the conversation, although today's topic might be a bit "revealing".
What role does nudity play in your spanking relationship, or in your day to day activities? Is nudity something you are very, sometimes, seldom, or never comfortable with?
Please leave your response as a comment. Once everyone has voiced their opinion, I will publish an edited summary of our discussion.
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Let's travel to Montreal, Quebec and enjoy a butt-related gag on some unsuspecting passers-by.
Happy Friday!
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There used to be a website called Mondegreen; a repository of misheard song lyrics. It was named for the misunderstood line in a folk song, "And laid him on the green." The author misinterpreted this line as "And Lady Mondegreen." Nowadays, the lyrics of any song can be Googled in an instant, but that wasn't always the case.
My mother once had a notebook filled with the carefully written lyrics of all her favourite 50's songs. One song was "That's Amore", and the line that puzzled me appeared in the notebook as "When the stars make you drool just like parsnip arool". What the heck was parsnip arool? Not a dish she had ever cooked. It wasn't until years later that I listened carefully and realized it was her interpretation of "pasta fazool". Fair enough. Italian food was not something anyone in my childhood home had ever heard of, let alone eaten.
The last line of the jingle announcing a popular 60's comedy "Car 54, Where Are You", about cops in New York City, had me stumped. For as long as the show ran, I heard, "Khrushchev's due at Idlewild" as "Khrushchev's due and I go wild". The penny finally dropped when I found out what and where Idlewild airport was.
So now there's a subreddit called r/boneappletea (bon appetit) for common words and phrases that some folks get wrong. Here are just a few:
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What is your advice for a first-time spankee?
Bonnie: Many thoughts come to mind for this question:
You want this spanking, so just let it happen
Take your place willingly and eagerly
Forget about being in charge
Remember to breathe
Praise and reward your spanker
Demonstrate your gratitude afterward
Embrace the moment and remember how this feels
Try to hold still and not shriek
But a cute wiggle will earn you more
Open yourself to the full experience
Try not to tense or clench
Resolve to make this the first of many
Bob: I am a spanker, but second Bonnie' comments. I'd add communicate in
detail first. It's important not to assume anything. I am always willing
to answer questions regarding typical quantity, implements, etc, and
would expect any spanker you meet to be forthright about it also. Make
sure to go through all the rules your spanker will be implementing, to
make sure you are comfortable with them. This should include the level
of disrobing to be done.
The more you know about each other before your first trip over their knee, the better off both of you will be.
It's like any other relationship. Trust should be given, and earned also, by the behavior of each party.
Wendel: My recommendation is that the first spanking is firm but not severe. Be sure to enjoy the first and the build from there. Also, talk to each other before and after.
Roz: Some great advice above. I would add try to relax and don't have too many expectations for a first spanking. It more than likely won't be as you imagine it will be. Even with an experienced spanker it can take time to gel, to learn each other's likes/dislikes etc. Also lots of communication both before and after.
Prefectdt: The first thing that I have to say about this is, be prepared to be in
for a bit of a shock. Most new spankees, these days, will, hopefully,
have never been spanked growing up. When you get your first genuine
spanking (that is, excluding introductory pity pat spankings), you will
find that it is far more painful than you imagined and totally different
from any attempts at self spanking, that you may have tried. Do not be
put off by this. If you are a true spanko, the rewards that you will get
from enduring the pain will far outweigh the discomfort.
Secondly,
I agree with Bonnie, concentrate on your breathing. The strikes and
strokes will interfere with your breathing pattern, but try and get over
that, as much as possible, and try to inhale and exhale deeply and
slowly. You will find that once you have reached the right headspace,
this is how you will be breathing naturally anyway. I find that trying
to breathe like this from the start both helps me get to that headspace
quicker and helps me get through the "O my God that hurts. Why do I do
this?" phase of the spanking, by giving me something to divert my
attention, a little, from the pain.
And finally, although many
people might not like the idea of this, I would recommend finding a
good, well known, professional disciplinarian, with an established
reputation, for your first time. This will not be cheap, but will be
worth the expense. I wish that this option had been available for me,
when I started out. I got lucky with my first spanking experiences, but
found out later in life that I could have just so easily have been
unlucky and I think that would have been psychologically damaging, if
that had occurred. Try to save up for a longer session, as well. You
need at least an hour, for your very first spanking, if you can afford
it try to get a one and a half or even a two-hour session. And be honest
from the start, with the disciplinarian. Tell them that it is your
first time, that you have no idea what your pain tolerance is, and be
open to ideas and suggestions from them. Like any adult instructor, in
any field, from work training to learning how to sail, a good
professional will be able to walk you through how things work and give
you a positive introduction, into the world of real adult spanking,
while building your confidence.
Jack: In my case, I opened up about my desire, as a male, as mentioned before was a turn off to many I dated. When it was accepted the woman I was seeing had only one rule, her way. To want such a spanking, one must experience it fully and with her it must be for a reason, not just to do it. So to those first timers, let yourself go, if you wish a truly punishment spanking do something that would prompt such a spanking. You will not know until you do it.
Rosco: Enjoy it. Don’t expect perfection.
Communicate, before and after, during if necessary.
Protect your far hipbone with some implements and your balls if you’re a man.
Try it with a little bondage blindfolds and a stern lecture.
Irene and I do 100% roleplay. If and when I protest, it means I want
and need more. If I ask if she can can spank me later, it means now
isn’t the best time.
All this advice is thoughtful and sound. Irene has been spanking me
almost 45 years. We talk from time to time about it but during the
sessions it’s all roleplay.
Before Irene and when I thought I
might be a top at least part of the time, I initiated two impromptu
spankings. For the second of these, I simply pulled Tammy across my lap,
lifted her skirt and gave her several sharp slaps. Then I paused. “I
don’t think I like that” she said.
The first was mor successful.
We were thirteen, playfully wrestling on the beach at night when Martha
kicked me between the legs. I spanked her, she kicked again, I spanked
her again etc. Then we settled down for some passionate making out - my
first such experience and, I suspect, hers as well. Vacation was over
the next day and I never saw her again.
Barrel: Wow. All wonderful insight here. So much so that I can’t add much. I
agree that breathing is super important. Steady, deep even breaths as
the spanking develops. As previously shared, that gets me into the
right headspace so I can let the pain in.
In 35 years of being
spanked, I do not think I have ever had one that perfectly met what I
was envisioning, so be prepared to manage your expectations. But
practising can be fun too.
Bob: Perfectdt, great points. My longest term gf/spankee had been with
4 spankers who thought she wanted pretend otk. She had told me she
could handle anything with ease. When I provided the real thing on day
one, she was taken aback by her own reactions, including temporary
losses of composure plus the usual wild squirming. I paused off and on
day one, first trip otk with me, recognizing this was indeed her first
true spanking.
She did well during it, but I slowed the pace of
it down the first time, to let her soak it in in her own timeframe. And
yes, I admired my handiwork during the pauses.
A.J.: Rule 1: Expect to be disappointed.
It may be what you always thought it would be, but then again it may also may not.
And that's OK!
Rule 2: It's OK to NOT like it. Maybe you won't. And maybe you'll love it.
So find out. Get spanked, communicate afterwards.
Wait a couple of weeks, then come back and go otk one more time.
(I
say this because I remember a woman who desperately wanted to go otk of
another woman and found a caring woman who would spank her. Started
easy over skirt, leading to a bit harder and then on her bare bottom.
"STOP!!" It stopped. She didn't like it at all and had a bit of a red
and tingling bottom. She got her clothes back in order and TALKED with
her spanker who let her know it's all right. It happens; it's not for
everyone. After 15 minutes and with her bottom having a bit of tingle,
she went to the door to leave. Door opened, she paused, turned back to
her spanker, "Could... uh... would it be all right...to try it again?"
Sure. Back otk she went for a bit more. And this time it was
different. Those 15 minutes after first going otk, and talking with her
spanker - something happened to her!! That "tingle" was nice. She felt
comforted. Maybe she should try it again. I don't know if she ever came
back for more in the days/weeks after, but I'm guessing she did.)
Rule 3: It's YOUR spanking!! YOU can stop it at any time.
Rule
4: After, when you are alone, maybe in your car and heading home,
feeling the tingle on your tush - laugh. Imagine what you looked like
otk and getting spanked. And laugh.
Rule 5: "Pick me!!! Pick me to spank you!!!"
Really good comments on this post! Enjoyed reading all of them.
What was in common - the care for the spankee.
Hermione: I was always afraid it would hurt, and I would be embarrassed. When it finally happened, it was just what I always wished for. Sure it hurt, but in a very good way. I was surprised, but just relaxed and let it happen.
appleTom: Hmm, I never had a relationship with a spanker that went beyond a
"sampling stage" and turned from "funishment" into a long term "you'll
get it whenever you need it, or even if I just feel like giving it to
you" type of women. I always kind of wanted to try that sort of thing.
Not
that I didn't get some intense spankings on occasions at spanko
gatherings, a couple of SCONY weekends, some action at the local
dungeon, (BDSM isn't really what I was looking for), but because of the
infrequency, I was just riding on the high of scratching my itch. So I
was in a space where the pain was either held at bay by the sheer
novelty of the situation, (still remember a encounter with a razor strop
from a pro that gave me white stars in my visual field, literally!), or
an encounter with a leather covered Lexan paddle that was very intense
but led me to a technique of just accepting and giving space to the
pain that got me though it. But the later was just among a collection
of spanko friends, and wasn't delivered more than a few minutes, and not
by someone who had the real intent to to deliver a long and severe
punishment.
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