Sunday, August 21, 2016

Spanko Brunch 2.0 #139

Welcome back to another spanko brunch. In keeping with the spirit of the Rio  Olympics I have selected a variety of Brazilian cheeses for you to enjoy. There's variety in our spanking activities too, and in our reasons for spanking. If you take a look at Bonnie's Kindred Spirits blogroll, you will see that a large number of blog titles are pink, the colour that identifies the blog as one devoted to Domestic Discipline. According to Wikipedia, "Domestic discipline most commonly refers to the practice of fully consensual corporal discipline between two competent adult partners in a relationship."

Do you and your partner have a Domestic Discipline relationship? If you do, how does it work for you? Would you recommend it to others? If you don't, is it something you would like to try? Do you have any objections to it?

Leave your reply as a comment, and once everyone has had a chance to weigh in, I will publish a summary of our discussion.
From Hermione's Heart


Dan - A Disciplined Hubby said...

Hi Hermione. We are in a domestic discipline relationship, of the F/m variety. We have been doing it for over 10 years, and it works well for us. We don't do erotic spankings at all. Ours are all for disciplinary purposes. We feel like it empowers her and gives he a way to voice her displeasure with bad husband behavior in a very concrete way. For me, it satisfies a need for boundaries and to subject to some rules apart from my own. I think of it is as part of a quest for balance. I have a fairly domineering personality, and DD gives her a means of putting me in my place when I need it. It also helps her develop her own sense of power and leadership. So, while not for everyone, it works for us.

willie said...

I could write a very similar post to Dan but with reverse roles. We started out with Dd 4 years ago, give or take. As time has gone on we have ventured more into the D/s realm as well. Though I do now understand that Dd is a form of D/s. We do occasionally 'play' if you will in a BDSM form. This tends to be more of a reestablishing or augmentation of our roles.

Would I recommend Dd? It works for us, though the more D/s version works better ( seeing how I am such an angel). I will add however that Dd doesn't always 'fix' things. In fact there can be a whole lot of messiness associated with it at times. Any problems that may have been present before Dd don't just magically disappear with it. It takes a lot of time, energy, effort and determination with both parties to maintain it. Coasting really isn't an option. ( Of course one could argue it isn't an option in a vanilla relationship just seems to be more obvious in a Dd one for some reason). The highs are very high, and sometimes the lows can be very low,that is until a balance is achieved...then you grow and change and start all over again! LOL.

Roz said...

We started with spanking for erotic fun and as part of D/s play then decided we wanted to expand it from the bedroom and introduced Dd to our relationship and continued to spank for play also. Dd is no longer part of our dynamic, although there are moments that our roles re-surface.

Dd brought many benefits such as a greater intimacy and communication and some of those benefits remain. While it worked well for us, it isn't for every couple.

Eric51Amy49 said...

Good Morning! We started out exploring and questioning if DD was for us; both intrigued but the idea of the whole thing. We ended up with a 51%49% relationship that includes spanking for erotic play, resetting me when life get overwhelming and once in awhile, as punishment. In all cases, our communication with each other has grown leaps and bounds. If the interest is there, for both partners, explore it. Keep what works and move away from what doesn't. Amy