Monday, August 5, 2019

Recap: Spanko Brunch 2.0 for August 4

Have you become more comfortable about revealing your enjoyment of spanking to others as a result of discussing it on blogs like this one?

Jack: Knowing others are spanked, especially males, does make it easier. A neighbor down the street I did not know was spanked, only found out when he asked if I had trouble sitting and told him. He then opened up. It seems the women know more than the men, found this from church, worked hard not to squirm, and after church some women will smile at me, or some will tell my wife, wish I could.  So yes it is easier to an extent to talk about it.

Wendel: Not really. It is between the Misses and myself.

Roz: This is a great question. Spanking has always been just between us. I don't know I would ever really be comfortable sharing with others.

Yorkie: Maybe a tiny bit but I doubt we'll ever out ourselves intentionally.

Simon: Having had bad experiences in the past I'm very careful who I Tell about my passion for spanking and being spanked. That is why I enjoy blogs and Twitter because it enables me to join in with other likeminded people. I know I'm very unlikely to met most of them although I have met a couple of bloggers and Twitter users and been delighted to find that they are just as pleasant in real life as I imagined from reading their stuff.

Prefectdt: I have to admit that this question freaked me out a bit, when I read it, as it was closely related to a phone call, that I made only last week. I discovered that someone that use to be my uncle (until he and my auntie divorced) had died. I then phoned my cousin, to express my condolences. My cousin and I were both born in the same year and spent much time together as children, even going on holiday together and we used to be very good friends. I came out, as a spanko, to my family, friends and work colleagues in 2014 but still find that I have to keep coming out as I meet people who do not know about me. My cousin turned out to be one of these people. As we chatted (for the first time in years) the conversation turned to relationships and it went something like this.

Me- I am a spanko, you know
Him- No what's that
Me- A corporal punishment role player
Him- Still no idea
Me- Well you know what BDSM is
Him- Not a clue
Me- You're kidding me!

At this point I realised that I could not explain it to him over the phone. I then told him the name of my blog and asked him to Google it and have a look at that, in hopes that that would help him understand what kind of life I lead. He did Whatsapp me back later and said that the blog looks fun.
In this way the blog has helped me to come out a bit more than I was before. I hope that my cousin is OK with it all. His opinion matters to me.

KDPierre: Rosa and I are nearly totally open, but the decision was made due to our life philosophies and had nothing to do with having or reading a blog. It's actually the reverse; being open in real life led to revealing things in my blog, not the other way around.

And ironically, after having been 'open' with my blog for years, I am now going to make the blog private. We'll still be open in real life though!

Red: I am very open to meeting other spanking couples socially. It is irrelevant whether the man is spanked or the woman, or both.

With TTWD bloggers, you can tell quite a bit about how nice and friendly people are by what they write, and comments they leave around the TTWD blog world.

Meeting would not involve spanking, simply a comfort level that you can talk (including talking about spanking) and share good times, avoiding all politics and religion.

I am a dreamer, so I still hope to meet Hermione and Ron someday in the future, besides other couples.

One last point is that many of us somewhat exaggerate the level of a spanking given, and that might be offputting for some. However, bottoms toughen by being spanked, so what a strong spanking was fifteen years ago, is inconsequential now. (That has been my experience).

Hmmm, that sounds like a great brunch topic. Thanks, Red!

Hank: The big reveal came last holiday season when my son (24) shared with me that his wife was spanking him. He then asked did mom spank me. We both laughed and the ice was broken.

Hermione: Since I retired from a nine to five office job I am less worried about what people might think if they read my blog or knew about our spanking habits. In the case of the firemen, I wasn't too concerned since it was an emergency and they were professionals as well as strangers I would probably never see again. But  Istill wouldn't confess to a friend or acquaintance unless there was a good reason to.

Thank you all for a great discussion!
From Hermione's Heart

1 comment:

ronnie said...

I'm late again. It doesn't worry me much these days, but still wouldn't want a couple of family knowing. I have told a friend I have a blog and sell canes.