A big welcome to all my friends. If you are new here, you are encouraged to join in the discussion. To choose a topic for today, I decided to try something different. I went to My Bottom Smarts and found the brunch topic from ten years ago at around the same date. Thanks, Bonnie!
Have you experienced a situation where the spankee felt that a spanking was in some way insufficient? If so, did the spankee verbally or non-verbally request more? How was the request made? How did the spanker respond? Was the issue resolved?
Please leave your response as a comment below. Once everyone has had a chance to speak, I will publish an edited summary of our conversation.
Slava Ukraini
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I was spanking a woman who enjoys being verbally teased and humiliated, so she wants me to ask how wet she is getting and tell her she is a dirty girl. At one point I said "You're enjoying this, you dirty girl," and she whipped her head around and replied, "You're enjoying it too, you dirty BOY!" I don't tolerate back-talk, so I gave her two dozen smacks with the wooden spoon, before continuing the hand-spanking.
A day or two later, she sent me a message telling me that she didn't feel she'd been sufficiently punished for her cheek. I offered to give her a one-minute smacking with my clothes brush, hard and fast, followed by five minutes in the corner, and she agreed. By the time she left the corner, she was sufficiently meek and chastened, and never did it again.
There have been occasions over the years where I have either felt a spanking didn't quite make the mark or the spanking has been more than I expected. My reaction depended on the situation, how strongly I felt etc. Sometimes I told Rick straight away and occasionally it resulted in a do-over but most often discussion.
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Roz
That does not happen in this home, my wife/mommy insures the spanking brings the results she wants. My spankings are for being a naughty little boy and that is when my wife becomes my mommy and trust me mommy knows how to give a sound spanking and insures you remember it sometime afterwards. Jack
We see spanking as a means to some end, though that goal can be very different depending on a myriad of circumstances. However, because we know who we are and what we are each looking for, we have a standing agreement that either party can add to or amend a proscribed spanking so that no one walks away from one feeling it wasn't enough. Sometimes it's her telling me she isn't feeling resolved and so more is to come, or at times I've confessed that I felt I got off too lightly for something I still felt guilty over and Rosa would listen to my request and reasons for it and nearly always give me a good bit of extra.
The thing is, when I do make my case for more, she always takes me seriously and makes sure the second round is quite intense. I go from having felt 'it wasn't enough', to 'OK, now I feel like I paid an appropriate price' and then, she just keeps going until I'm thinking, 'OK, this is more than I would have added. When is this add-on going to end?'. This is good for me since it takes away any feeling that I am in control. I may contribute input........but I'm not in control.
It was a long time ago, back in the 1990s, when I was living in The Netherlands. Playing with a fellow, amateur enthusiast, we had been going at it, on and off, for most of an afternoon, I think somewhere around 3 hours. I was well away with the fairies and wanted that play to go on forever. Then she stopped and refused to hurt me any more. I have to admit that I was not happy about this and got a bit pleading and whinny about things, until she made me stand and inspect the state of my backside in a full length mirror. It turns out that she had made the right call. And I still feel thankful for her responsible attitude.
Prefectdt
Over the years the Misses has made a few remarks about getting a weak spankings. Usually I hear: “That is the best you can do?” Most times it is followed by an immediate and harder spanking. Once in a while I will make her sweat it out wondering if she will get another. It is fun to watch the expression on her face as we pass in the house as she waits. I did wake her up in the middle of the night a few times to administer a “better” spanking. Again, it is fun to watch her struggle, half asleep. After the first whack she does wake up.
We do not do verbal punishments. About the only thing is the occasional bad girl, bad boy comment but nothing more.
Sure, occasionally I come away feeling that it was too light. But it doesn't happen that often and doesn't rise to a significant problem. I've had a couple instances where I asked for more, and I can assure you that request was dealt with very seriously! :-) Graham
Yes, that definitely happens. Two people can't always be on the same page, even when we have decades of experience together. There are times when I anticipate real punishment, but Randy delivers a more playful spanking. I try to be patient and allow him to lead, but I need what I need.
At that point, I tell him. Whether it's a polite request like, "May I have more, sir?" or an insistent demand such as, "Are you going to spank me or what?", Randy's response is exactly the same. He stops the session and fetches a serious wooden implement, typically a heavy paddle or a solid brush.
Before I even make such a request, I know from experience what to expect. It's as if his manhood has been challenged. He is determined to whack my bare bottom until it's very red and very sore for a long time. He tells me that I am a naughty girl and punishes me accordingly. I may scream and wiggle and whimper, but these are moments I will later recall fondly, every time I sit down.
If the miscommunication is the other way around, that is, my spanking is harder than I expected, I typically tell myself I probably deserve it for something and hang on. If my man wants to give, then I want to accept. I stick out my bottom and trust him to do the rest. Spankings are supposed to hurt.
Yes, of course. When I have wanted more, I just remind myself that I got what she wanted to deliver and be grateful. Most often, she will ask how I am doing, giving me the opportunity to signal I want more or harder. But I am usually thankful for what she felt like she wanted to administer.
This may not pretain, but in this household I have been spanked in front of my mother-in-law a few times. I recall one of the first times, I had pleaded and beg to be taken to the bedroom, my wife would not listen, I was over her lap, thankful at that time my underpants were left on. My mother-in-law watched, when her daughter stopped her mother said, let me show you dear, and before I knew it I was over my mother-in-law lap, she pulled my underpants down and off and when I got off her lap, I was rubbing, dancing, then told to stand facing the wall. She told her daughter that is how you give a spanking, always on the bare bottom, and hairbrush, or anything you wish to insure he learns his lesson. Today it is the bath brush, bare bottom, and spanked where and when it is needed. Jack
For us, the intensity of the spanking we want this week may be different from what we wanted last week. We have no compunction about asking for more or less.
Henry
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